How to Look Fearless When

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

I can't wait to see you there!

[@felixgentil8797]

Does this apply for no contact?

[@felixgentil8797]

And can I hire you for a family court case in Florida?

[@nikkiarmstrong8280]

The link is not working from my iPhone. It will not open.

[@AnthonyManzio]

What happened to hopscotch? All girls are on social media not playing outside anymore.

[@childofgod1840]

When someone shows you their true colors, believe them. 💚💚💚💚

[@crencottrell7849]

Just remembering...the way others treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves...I feel better already 😁

[@ekatarina4090]

It is called projection.

[@gerrychidiac1625]

With some narcissists it’s better to say nothing. “Anything you say will be used against you in the court of a narcissist. “.

[@lucysmith8326]

Love the pun!

[@michellew3441]

I love this comment so much!

[@dancindebs1]

Integrity. Honesty. Calm.

[@faidawa4728]

My power word is I know your true self, and I do know who I am, I will never lower my vibration for you.

[@deniluhoffman]

Thank you so much! This is my "boot camp" towards preparing for my meditation for my divorce on October 29! My power mantra will be "not today Satan, not today"!

[@40ogre]

Life is like a mirror, smile and it smiles back, look at it angrily and it reflects your frown🙏

[@mihaelaclaudiap..2]

Never wait for a miracle to happen in your narcissistic relationship rather give your best possible effort on your relationship to work and if it didn't work then rescue yourself from an emotional vampire instantly for your personal well being.

[@debraoneal7917]

This is Exactly where I am Right now. He's very Mean and Evil when it suits him. Tries to trigger me!! Yell, says really mean and evil things then acts as if nothing happened!!!

[@tlove6932]

Just figured this out. Amen🔥Amen🔥Amen

[@godsword5826]

Amen

[@shaniecegullison]

Same with my situation too He’s so evil

[@InvictumLupus]

Short update. Yesterday my narc's attorney deposed me. My narc was present, laughing at my answers and my forgetful answers. After close to two hours of answering questions it was my lawyer's turn to ask me questions. He asked 5 questions. I answered quickly while staring at my ex in the eye. We killed it. And then it was my turn to laugh because my ex got flustered. Thank you because these videos helped me.

[@lauralei6963]

Good on You💯

[@PrettyToez07]

Can't wait until the narc is deposed so I can watch his mouth fall open. His mouth being open is confirmation that he's been triggered. I love triggering.

[@Missy_561]

I need that laugh 😂😂

[@dankalishus5339]

EMOTIONAL “GROWTH” is my power word ❤. Thank you for waking my butt up to a NEW life!!!!

[@goldilocks3593]

It takes a lot of practice but you HAVE to master your poker face which needs to be accompanied by body language which is TOTAL non-reactiveness. If you have to say anything (not preferred) stay as vague and neutral as possible (really?, oh, ok, hmmm, etc.). Mirror whatever they say or do back to them. Yes, if you have to communicate at all, do so as an observer. Physically remove yourself as soon as humanly possible. Don’t emotionally engage 🙌

[@detjaggillar8081]

Very good advice!

[@PrettyToez07]

Agree. It takes lots of practice though as you stated!!

[@mikeysmoooth5322]

You can’t do anything with these people. Just trust your gut and move on. They’re definitely not shy of making you feel like you’re nothing at all, like you don’t even exist. Things that could’ve been easily resolved in a 5 min convo like mature adults, DOES. NOT. HAPPEN. Everything is about them and their needs. Them, them, them, them. One sided as hell.

[@claudiabottom4086]

no there is not much you can do with them.

[@debraoneal7917]

Exactly!!!

[@tatie7604]

Absolutely correct.

[@faidawa4728]

Really they don't exist for me, while working with them.

[@yannie794]

My word is warrior, he can't do anything to me.

[@claudiabottom4086]

I like that word, yes you are in a war.

[@victoria2621]

My power phrase is Easy Breezy Light and Easy ❤

[@Dawnsdelightsart]

Dodge ball taught me how to avoid a punch. Saved me a lot with my xnarc.

[@JRO-zz9lv]

My words: God created me (us) and sustain me (us). They are an open door to a peace land around me when i am terrified about all that IS going around us. I almost feel beyond. And that is the goal, the world can end but God Will still suport for your soul. Hope that this can help someone 🕊️

[@gretaalave7726]

"IGNORE!"

[@silverliningsoap]

GROUNDED!! Stay grounded don't let people trip you up don't falter stand your ground don't allow anybody to make you change your mind and guilt you just have your feet planted like a tree roots and don't move in your negotiation or whatever it is you are involved in. Decisions, conversations, feelings about the wrong they did to you etc. Also double meaning, ground THE NARC like the child they are. Metaphorically send then to their room, put them in a time out.

[@ladyfreedomsrawnarratives]

Thank you for writing this. Really resonates with me and my situation.

[@sofiagoudaropoulou2392]

Being silent and calm,certainly observing their behaviour,their looking and being indifferent Mrs.Zung!!the last one is a great power from my experience!!🌟🌟👍

[@heatherschaeffer4579]

Grace, is my power word. I was out w a nars and she tried to humilate me. I got up and said, " I need to take this bussiness call, take y time and I will help y into y car when y done eatting. I said, good bye to all the other ladies. I smiled and gave her a quick look. I kept cool untill we got into the car. I drove us to a quite place and let her have it by saying," no, more audance why did y say what y said? I told her her behavior was unacceptable and if she did not appoligize to me she would have to calll a cab. Anytime. She wants to go out w me to lunch, shopping, ect I am busy everytime. In addition, when I was in court w my 1st husband he was very narristic controling. I told the judge I felt theatened. She, removed him from the court room and granted my requests.

[@reneemarieandersonglenn1013]

Power word is TRUTH

[@suzannedawson4120]

LOVE the idea of simply watching the words fly on past you. Thanks again for a great video❤️

[@alcudiababe1]

I would say when they are triggering you try breathing! Because whether you realise it or not some of us hold our breath - they said what? And we hold on to it and onto it trying to ignore until they say that one remark too far and then you explode. So I'd like to add, breathe, be aware of when your doing it when your holding your breath in because if you just let it go, doesn't have to be a heavy breath, but something like, oh here we go again and sigh, that breath which you've just done calms the flight or fight response and in intense situations you have to remember to keep breathing when they're saying a shit storm of things to trigger you because my heart would go back to thumping and I might not control myself a second time, keep the oxygen flowing around your body. In pregnant women they say breathe through the pain, slow your breathing down so breathe, breathe though the discomfort but your less likely to give them supply by reacting!

[@deniluhoffman]

I hated dodge ball too! At 62 I feel it was the perfect game for narcissists and sadistic people!

[@stardustsparkles22]

I am a badass,I survived several murder attempts and I am strong. That's the truth.

[@jasonweaver6714]

My power word is ‘Justice’…

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤

[@Cory-hd8hx]

Self Worth (profess, confess, and claim the rest)!

[@Dansyoung]

Currently in the stage of being discarded by a narcissist…. Oh well it’s going to be for the best! Amazing how trapped you can feel around these people!

[@kayholdstock1573]

When he tried to hoover… just ignore and never reply again. That is real strength. Block, delete and be done. You don’t need closure- you know what you are dealing with.

[@deborahdtw]

“Ic” is my ….I see myself. I see my reality unfolding. This moment is the chill and observations, and where my options are.

[@bananabread2833]

My power word is REFLECT! I reflect any negative energy back to itself.

[@jujujulio85]

Well this explains so much! 54 yrs old now! For approximately 52yrs. My “bad ass” self caught and returned every dodge ball no matter how hard it was thrown. I have 1 letter and 1 word.

[@shaniecegullison]

Watching these videos makes me feel not alone when I mostly feel alone once this a lot of the time

[@lovesings2us]

Badass. That's my word. Thank you so much, Rebecca! It's a privilege for me to learn from your chutzpah, know-how and sense of humor.

[@richardlenz2655]

My power word and mantra is „I am who I am …and that is enough“. This means I am safe, and can handle are narcissistic situations, although sometimes even challenging for me 🤭.

[@ekatarina4090]

"Aphra and Omega" - two words one meaning - God

[@tlove6932]

Absolutely LOVE this 👍🏼🔥🔥 Strength, Resilience, Worth❤️ Bless you Rebecca 💞💞💞

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you! ❤

[@oliver1224]

They're cowards at heart or those who're targeting me are. They can only attack me in a indirect fashion & never to my face & always in a group. To my face they're seemingly nice & caring so extremely two faced. They can be very easily wounded & when I look into their eyes I can see fear when they're alone.

[@kathyray9748]

Power word? I would have to say Warrior. I beat breast cancer, I can beat the narcissist!

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

My mantras: 1. No amount of their lies will change my truth (my power word: CHANGE). 2. Their volume doesn't silence my truth (my power word: VOLUME)

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Proud of you! You got this ❤

[@pinkposey8134]

Thank you Rebecca. This totally justifies no contact is oh so sweet! Namaste!

[@shantemoore6265]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@carolynlunel9382]

BADASS is my word! This is SO helpful even if it's not a divorce situation these people are everywhere and what you're teaching is helping us empaths. Thanks Rebecca!

[@speakingout9740]

I appreciate you so much Rebecca. Thank you for helping us help are self to slay the narcissist.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Glad I could help. You got this! ❤

[@kirofortes9309]

Calm..... strength........ fearless

[@detjaggillar8081]

My power word is ... BITCH B = Believe = I believe in myself that I am a normal person and NOT crazy I = Intelligent = I am intelligent enough to see and understand what this narc is doing right now to me T = Trust = I gave myself the trust that I could manage the attach from the narc and observe the situation C = Cool = I am cool and a good person and no-one could manipulate me, I use smart behavior and tools in a smart way H = Harassing = No-one had the right or could harassing me - - - So the letters in the end went to a one word = BITCH. That's me in a nutshell if a narc attach me nowadays!

[@AilsiePath444]

Love this power word 😁

[@gabrielleg8794]

My word is : "I am not your putsching bag." Or " I am not you beast of burden. " Or " Don't expect you will feel better by putting people down."

[@suzannedawson4120]

I'm STRONG. That's two words but I like it.

[@Kelekuke]

❤thank you! My big take away - observe myself observe the whole situation as an outsider ❤️ genius ❤️ They are such disorienting people. This education and research being done is so pivotal.

[@jimtewarie7427]

Focused

[@christianmcclellan8471]

Love,compassion,integrity,and power. These are traits I have naturally I need to remember who I am during this process of disarming these narcs,spotting em' knowing what to say to em' and how to look at it and move on from it without me being hurt by the relationship,situation or person. It's been years I've lived with 6 narcissists they are literally crazy people that think they can get away with illegal stuff but they can't because spirit catches em' then they have bad karma for it and the same cycle repeats

[@jalisky]

Great advice about dealing with narcissists make more about this please. It sounds like you know what people are really dealing with

[@damienwelch9067]

I am powerful resilience in Yahuah who gives me strength 💪 calmness to fight 💪 my enemies who come up against me to devour my flesh but they died out like 🐝 bees 🐝

[@beornthebear.8220]

In my High School, Dodgeball was called "Murder Ball?'

[@kristenrobinson6518]

🏃🏾✨️

[@kirofortes9309]

My ex is... I asked her simple question? She replied... very smart... triggered me immediately....... Calm..... observed....... explain. Remember... dodge ball...... Power, strong, strength..

[@richardlenz2655]

If you have not experienced it yourself you might even not understand what you say, although it is down to the point. When I met my narcissistic wife first time, I was confused as she had a different look than the other girls. I was thinking she is just different. Might be interesting. And I was not aware of meeting the dark side of it. I am now sure, they even do not know what they are doing themselves. As self destruction is also part of their life. In the end easy to understand, but in the beginning very confusing. Thanks for teaching us 🥰

[@stevec5657]

Growing up in a family overrun by narcissists, my observations over the decades suggests that most everything they do or say, is simply in pursuit of the feeling of control. "Does this action or statement possibly bring about even a miniscule feeling of control for this person?" If you apply that question to every peculiar thing they do or say, you might be surprised at the answers you get.

[@galacticloveteam8813]

I love this reflective statement- it's very helpful with a situation I'm going through ~thank you 🙏🏼

[@PrettyToez07]

Interesting

[@CurlyHostile]

My power word is honest! Stay honest, stay humble :)

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Totally agree!

[@perlgirl534]

Dignity

[@stoneyvowell1239]

I like it! C.O.O.L. power words.

[@claudialimerick3570]

Roar! It’s letting my voice be heard.

[@ogenevieve]

Hi Rebecca, it's Genevieve. I've been going all in with my total separation from him. I flat out told him that I'm done and that I deserve someone who treats me the way that I treat them and he blew my entire life apart. This is the reason I haven't been around, and I 100% know that he is a clinical narc. He admits it! I've said b4 that getting away from him is like untangling Xmas lights, and bcuz he realized that I was gaining my independence, I'm at the point where I absolutely need help. Plmk how I can get back in touch w/you bcuz it's gone beyond what I can handle alone. Sincerely, G

[@mgkos]

Utterly grounded & unf*^kwithable

[@deztherrien8700]

my mantra.im rubber, your glue.

[@cherylblackwell9217]

Divinely Blessed

[@innafurman3732]

Thank you , Rebeca, for all you do!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Glad I could help. You got this! ❤

[@staciesabatino3817]

courage no matter what

[@jcarter7634]

Grounded and secure

[@shaniecegullison]

I miss my freedom Wish I didn’t have abandonment wounds This and the trauma bond is the only thing that keeps me from moving on

[@jasonroman3639]

*Impervious "that's my power word!

[@faymoosa5064]

POWER.... STRENGTH

[@j.ahlberg2058]

I run a company, It's draining just trying to please everybody. It seems to be getting worse through the years.

[@OphraRoley-bw3tg]

They became Crazy but I had Studied their moves and MIRRORED THEM resulting in Them Screaming Like Punks !!!

[@janetlis2613]

Leverage confidence

[@lifeneverends7068]

I retaliate. I headbut, punch to face, liver, knees, kicks but than she calls the cops on me and press charges but I attack even more viciously after that!

[@jamescreek1319]

Destroy the narcissist by mirroring their behavior back at them remember to add plenty of disparaging remarks and impugn their mothers virtue lol just kidding get out as soon as you can you can’t win with a narcissistic person just break even if you are lucky. Stand back from a distance and watch them destroy them selves.

[@PrettyToez07]

I asked that question before. Would mirroring the narcissist the way they do others effect anything?? Would it cause them an injury or would they play the game in some way?

[@neethasunil6607]

It can cause a lot of damage to ourselves. I mirrored my narc mom and it cause memory loss in me. Leave the narcissist is the best way.

[@neethasunil6607]

Mirroring trigger them and if they can't control you, they control the way others see you. They will destroy your reputation by fabricated and twisted stories.

[@neethasunil6607]

By the time you win the narsissist you might loss everything. It's better to not engage with them

[@andreabobenic7641]

One Year and half ago, I had no clue what narcissism was until I hit the rock bottom and luckily found therapist who navigated me to understand myself first, and then about this insane manipulative behaviour. I was refusing to accept the fact that these type of human species actually exists! I still struggle! When it comes to mirroring, once in a while when I got frustrated with them, I used mirroring to get on their level in my defence. It became hell on earth! They WANT you to mirror them! And when you do - KABOOM! RUN! They loose their minds and do horrible things, or become TODDLERS following with rage and tantrums! For my own safety I don’t mirror!! No matter what title they have, no matter how high is their position in their career - they’re broken human beings who were raised in a very distorted mentality! Knowledge IS POWER and looking back all this insanity makes sense today. My power words are A -ASSERTIVE C - COURAGE Thank you Rebecca for helping us to get clarity, and the courage to move on to n life. Love to all❤

[@danbride7221]

Yes power words are good and to remember them

[@casswilliams5588]

My power word is unstoppable

[@christianachrist.6663]

My power words: ACCEPTANCE & SELF-WORTH Thank you so much!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻♥️♥️♥️

[@NhatTim]

Thank you!

[@mariam_20247]

Best power words: from God, Bible verses. By the way, how is it possible, that there is no law against this abuse. I mean seriously. I mean when you say a swear word to someone, which is rather in comparison to that a complete joke, you can get a find. But if someone is brainwashing and abusing you mentally, it's just ok and you can get away with it, it's even accepted in society. Thank you Rebecca, you are a strong woman and you fight for the good.

[@faymoosa5064]

COOL WORDS

[@dianezielinski462]

PROTECT. KEEP SAFE.

[@kateruterbories2692]

NO!

[@speakingout9740]

SURVIVOR!!!

[@cdorothy444]

Courage and radical acceptance

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Proud of you! You got this ❤

[@daytrading5456]

My power word... "Grounded"

[@daktari3055]

Rebecca!!! I love dodge ball! We’re not throwing it hard. We’re throwing it fast.

[@sheryllmoyer1194]

Thank you Rebecca Zung🌹

[@ryguy832]

Great words on you rebecca. I will be using all these tools when needed in the near future.... And thats no bull, so thankyou very much

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Proud of you! You got this ❤

[@debramarshall4293]

I don't say anything to them. I just ignore them because trying to talk to them is like talking to a brick wall. Some of them are not going to be listening to you anyway and will go into a rage if you do try to talk to them. Also. No matter what you say to them they are going to think what they think is right in there head so to me it is useless trying to talk to them. You may end up in a fight with them or a nervous wreck after trying to talk to them so I remain silent.

[@katyflores8508]

I am pure love, I am health I am wealth.

[@theravenscatalyst]

Fearless

[@madelineconner6581]

Perseverance 5/11/23 10:53 P.M.

[@PrettyToez07]

What happens when you mirror or mock the narcissist? When you flip it on them, how does this effect things?? If I acted just like the narc in every aspect, would this be injurious to them?? 🤔

[@lw4294]

No they’d use that against you

[@alonsogonzalez1579]

"Cool words.." stay chill. Thank you!

[@michellemitchell5005]

Confirming confidence

[@RoB-tt6fd]

Thank you. Resilience.

[@jasmineflower9879]

Indifference ! Ecstasy ! `When you have both of these, narcs just have no power !

[@GhostOfMrPickles]

words, really. 'you are nothing to me.'

[@Flora_Paris]

I don’t have a power word, rather this sign 🤙🏻