How to make a first date exciting, based on psychology

[@naanbread502]

lmao my girlfriend used this tip on me!! I AM SMITTEN LIKE YOUR KITTEN

[@AnaPsychology]

Naan Bread hahaha she knew

[@ayashi0chan]

What did she do?

[@soulsearcher7077]

Yeah, what did she do???

[@carmellawillson9618]

Why not send a message to the powerful man who used his power to help me get my ex back? 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇

[@an6350]

@@carmellawillson9618 tf

[@williamhrbacek1486]

This is why I've always gone with the tried and true simulated hostage scenario for the first date

[@agmsmith4079]

Like in the movie speed. Get’s ‘em every time!

[@dianahowell3423]

Stockholm Syndrome helps, too, if you can manage it.

[@gleds92]

This made me spit out a little bit of coffee.

[@GeeTrieste]

How about one of those escape room challenges?

[@maxjohnson1758]

Bwaaaaaa!

[@Stizy]

straight and to the point. surprised you didn't make this into a 10-15 minute video like most would

[@DrDemolition]

these type of gems are rare to find

[@alecfoster5542]

We are grateful.

[@froufou100]

she should make them longer and put an ad - she pays for all this research so I would be happy to pay her my ad watch time. People are missing that point.

[@MicahPotts]

@@froufou100 get out of here

[@TheRocknrollmaniac]

I think that "bite-sized" information and very short "to the point" videos or any kind of content is the degradation of knowledge. It's a consumption of knowledge and not acquisition.

[@tyreekmurillo4524]

the bridge experiment almost sounds like trauma bonding

[@AnaPsychology]

Really good point!

[@Fingerscrossedout]

Holy shit...

[@carmellawillson9618]

Why not send a message to the powerful man who used his power to help me get my ex back? 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇

[@trapstationagain4508]

@@carmellawillson9618 huh?

[@user-kb8qw7dy4t]

Well, the point is you need to inspire _some_ kind of emotion - preferably positive rather than negative - but literally anything is better than boredom. Basically, you want to make an impression, which means don't try to "play it safe" with a predictable plan for a first date; try to stand out from every other one they've ever been on.

[@gurnoorreh1401]

I love how you get straight to the point and keep it straight forward/ short

[@zeffery101]

a couple years ago, my roomates and I watched soapy romantic movies for fun and I noticed a trend. Whenever a guy and a girl did something dangerous and/or illegal together, they fell in love. No movie or show breaks this rule

[@kamrynw]

that’s so true ! that makes me think of 10 things i hate about you

[@tonymathieu7449]

Glass shattering sound

[@kayligo]

Crime is what brings the heart together 😂

[@mtrebtreboschi5722]

If you were watching romantic movies, didnt the guy and girl get together every time anyway, regardless of if they did something dangerous/illegal

[@christopherarias7659]

When they eat at a restaurant and leave without paying the bill 😂.

[@Airvian]

I heard about the theory a long time ago and then I realized this is what they do basically every planned date on the Bachelor. There’s always a concert, a fast car, helicopter ride, horse riding, zip lining, skydiving etc. It seems only near the end that the dates start to get more normal but even then they’re on vacation somewhere so it’s still exciting. That’s probably part of the reason the couples don’t last a lot of the time.

[@uriel.campos]

100% exactly right on every point. lol.

[@alanguages]

It is not sustainable. It is like setting up an extravagant first dinner date, then everything after that will be compared to how she felt that first time. Going out for coffee or for a walk will be seen as a demotion.

[@mysteriumcontentetv7064]

Tial nur bela vizaĝo povas daŭrigi amrilaton.

[@Airvian]

@@mysteriumcontentetv7064 Nu, ankaŭ belaj vizaĝoj ne daŭros.

[@saladass9739]

@@alanguages it needs to be balanced, you can get mad tired from exciting dates just as much as getting bored with tame dates

[@medialunasx]

Thats so interesting. My boyfriend always can pin point the day he realized he was really into me, and it was like our third date, we met up to play tennis (which I’m thankfully really good at). I was into him way before this, and that date was nothing out of the ordinary in my perspective, but for him, it caused him to realize he really liked me.

[@yoyo9winner]

nice I might use that as an idea for another date. I've been meaning to play tennis after so long!

[@robotone2812]

A cute tennis outfit doesn’t hurt either ;)

[@xybersurfer]

@InSomnia DrEvil "already your third date". you make it sound like it's someone you have known for a long time. i'm thinking the opposite. it's just the third date. lot's of opportunity still...

[@jaygold7317]

how would a tennis date work as 3rd date? what do u do afterwards? go shower together?

[@Matty002]

@@jaygold7317 you know tennis isnt just played hardcore outside during the middle of the day right? casual tennis at night or indoors with AC wont need you to shower afterwards, maybe just need a towel for your head

[@ishaajain]

This is why they say, watching a horror movie on thr 1st date is thr best date idea heheehehe

[@AnaPsychology]

Wait yes idk why I didn't use that as an example

[@ishaajain]

your welcome😘

[@8iaventri999]

Does this work with any other emotion? That is, would other misattribution of attraction be elicited by other emotional experiences? Also, could misattribution be used to achieve other ends other than attraction? Could there be a relationship between this and, for example, the foot-in-the-door technique?

[@ConsensusX]

Maybe after dinner/drinks... but it shouldn't be the first thing you do. I think you should escalate (break physical barrier) beforehand. That way, she will feel more comfortable clutching onto you in the dark because you've already bonded in the light.

[@lilac.mascara]

The Brad Mondo of psychology.

[@AnaPsychology]

Taylor Black omggg that is the biggest compliment!! I was literally watching his tutorial and cutting my own hair when you sent this😂

[@TheGracefacekiller]

Yes!!!!!

[@marlenegonzalez6445]

I usually wear a sexy professional outfit to dates and get the same response that they are more nervous then they thought they would be, I believe this is due to giving off interview vibes which most get nervous going into interviews but, it’s all a mental illusion stimulated by an outfit

[@Yollabue]

I don‘t know why but this made me giggle 😄

[@marlenegonzalez6445]

Yollabue just try it and you’ll be giggling more :p

[@AnaPsychology]

That's smart lolll

[@keyorempi]

*laughs in HR*

[@marianna380]

Genius!

[@udontknowme3920]

This video taught me what not to do on a first date lol Keep the first 2 dates boring. Don't be boring, just the date. Nothing too stimulating, even alcohol. Run an errand together, or just take a walk. Just pure conversation and getting to know each other. Avoid anything that can your cloud your judgement, and form an honest opinion of the person. If you like them after 2 dates, the third date is when you bring the game on ;)

[@dumb_as_rocks]

how's single life treating you?

[@casualtake1497]

@@dumb_as_rocks lmao

@@dumb_as_rocks better to be single and 100% honest and upfront than to play mind games like this. I'll take single any day of the week. If you want to play with people, install the Sims.

[@ManicMercurianAstrology]

I was thinking this too... Would being attracted to someone under the circumstances she described result in more short-term relationships ?

[@dumb_as_rocks]

you don't fall in love by "being logical" and having boring dates you absolute geeks. you need to get out there and have fun and somewhere along the way you will find out what your ideal match is. they'll be quite different to what you've convinced yourself they are.

[@Miss.Elaineous]

I once went on a date with a guy I wasn’t super attracted to. He was a great guy, and he was decent looking so I wasn’t necessarily not attracted to him either. We went to an arcade on our first date and I found myself far more attracted to him afterward. I always assumed it was because I got to know him better, but this makes a lot more sense! We ended up dating for a while, but it just didn’t work out in the long run.

[@emanuel_soundtrack]

did you go to date just for solidarity then?

[@Miss.Elaineous]

@@emanuel_soundtrack I went on the date because he was a genuinely nice guy and he had recently helped me out. I decided to give it a shot and if we didn’t hit it off it was okay but if we did then great.

[@HakumeiTenshi]

Wow, it's like the whole purpose of a date is to get to know someone

[@uziasmorales294]

@@Miss.Elaineous nice guys finish last… he tried playing the friend card and helping you out, sneak his way into dating you. Ended up being a beta

[@Miss.Elaineous]

@@uziasmorales294 actually he didn’t really have a choice but to help me and was upfront about his intentions from the get go

[@heathmcdougall2039]

It’s true. In fact, anything that excites the body and mind, be it something thrilling as a rollercoaster ride, or something simpler like walking in the rain, or something even simpler like throwing french fries playfully to the person’s face on a supposedly boring dinner. Works every time folks.

[@Lameducks]

I will now be initiating food fights on all first dates.

[@johndoe-vc1we]

Very sweet😀

[@subman23]

I don't know which aspect I love more: that this was not a 15-minute video, or that she left us with the warning don't forget, you're also going to spend time with this person when they're not adrenalinated, so that might be an issue. Well done

[@MegaFIare]

This is why you have multiple dates to feel out other people

[@savannahharold3262]

I just started watching your videos and I'm hooked. They're so interesting and you have a very calming, healing aura.

[@AnaPsychology]

Savannah Harold I’m so glad❤️ that means a lot!

[@carmellawillson9618]

Why not send a message to the powerful man who used his power to help me get my ex back? 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇

[@carmellawillson9618]

Why not send a message to the powerful man who used his power to help me get my ex back? 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇

[@Chelseaaaa333]

So basically I’d be physically attracted to a bear moments before it kills me..nice

[@AnaPsychology]

Ahah no, not unless there's also a physically attractive person there 😂

[@strawhatluffy1880]

You know what's really scary? Sea bears.

[@marias2656]

Lmao

[@ib7565]

@@strawhatluffy1880 flashback to that one spongebob episode 🤔

[@fftere]

@@AnaPsychology Got it. It's super arousing to see my gf getting mauled by a bear, I'll keep that in mind

[@65scatter]

I never thought about this before but so interesting. Intuitively I took my GF ice skating (she had never skated before). We laughed and had so much fun. It definitely helped build a strong bond.

[@goshdag8932]

queen of consistent, quality uploads

[@AnaPsychology]

Aw thanks so much!

[@iliketositandeat4718]

Next date I’ll hire some big guys to kidnap us 🥰🥰

[@bigeddiespaghetti5618]

Jessie Smollett approved

[@professionalcheekclapper7608]

DO IT!

[@StarsAbove24]

😂😂

[@ReasonAboveEverything]

Plot twist: She has an underlying heart condition and she dies immediately.

[@broidkanymore-zc4lt]

i think the girl would fall for the big guys instead 💀💀

[@sugarbum9615]

Great clarification of the theories of emotion! My psych teacher had mentioned that an amusement park or fair would be a great place for first date, similar to the points you made in the vid. Thanks for your detailed explanations!

[@AnaPsychology]

Haha your professor was thinking along the same lines :)

[@HonJazzz]

Straight to the point and laid back at the same time. Nice video!

[@caoimhemouse4933]

1 minute in. All I am hearing is "scare the shit out of men". Perfect.

[@Morphenius]

I love what you're doing with this channel. Thank you. A point of logic: It seems to me that misattribution of arousal is a reason to AVOID intense situations on a first date. Otherwise you might end up thinking you're attracted to someone and later realizing that no, it was just the rollercoaster. That or adding the exciting situation makes it harder for you two to notice that you're NATURALLY excited about each other. …which I suppose implies that KNOWING about misattribution of arousal can result in more boring dates! 😆

[@reinbeers5322]

It's gonna help on getting that initial push to know each other better

[@fnorgen]

@InSomnia DrEvil I'm pretty sure that's the point. At least if you don't intend to abuse the system. It works great with friends too. You bond with people much faster if do something strenuous or uncomfortable together. I remember back when I did my conscript service that the barracks was dominated by this awkward silence for the first week, until we were suddenly woken up early on Friday morning to the sound of angry officers and blaring aggressive techno music, Thoroughly confused we were lead out on an early dawn run to to the beach where we took some arm-linked sit ups in the cold ocean. After this semi traumatic experience we all suddenly had very lose tongues and rapidly became good friends. The sudden shift in mood was striking!

[@vytas5584]

Yes mate. I was in a long distance relo for five months because we met during an adventure. She came to visit me one time and it was awkward and like fitting two puzzle pieces that didn't fit. It fizzled out because we aren't compatible.

[@JackHagar]

Tbh this is why I actually prefer more chill activities on the first date; you know that if the girl is having a good time, it's because of you and not just due to what you're both doing together. Obviously, this doesn't mean go for boring first date ideas, but pick something that isn't too crazy where you can both focus on each other to talk and screen to see if you both truly like each other. After that, it's time for the crazy dates B)

[@rudy_4ier]

Instructions clear. Will take my next first date on a drive on the wrong side of the highway. Thank you Dr Ana.

[@clear21light87]

My first date ever as a totally shy young teenager was to take my friend's cousin out. I took her to a museum!! I can still remember us standing around in silence looking at the exhibits and not knowing what to say. That was my only date with her! ;-D

[@GR-uc1gq]

I can already feel the awkward silence

[@marina816]

It really depends on the person tho! I would love a museum date

[@tomgreene7942]

Funny, I was out of town once and went to Carls Jr. A young couple was there looking bored and looking at their phones. I asked them "excuse me, are you two on a date?" they sheepishly nodded their heads. Then I raised my voice at them, "then turn off those phones and start talking to each other, go ahead, do it now" They did and slowly started talking, then started having fun...

[@clear21light87]

@@marina816 good comment

[@Zarzar22]

The fact that this is only 3 minutes is astounding. Such premium content for literally free. Maybe I should kick my habit of having a chill cafe first date from now on XD

[@f_r_e_d]

I remember when she fell in love with me. We linked up for a blind date and the moment she saw me she ran. I chased her down and when she tripped I stood over her exhausted body and said “where do you think you’re going?” She immediately said “your place”. Isn’t love beautiful? 🥰

[@nyfbby10]

Written in the stars 😂😂

[@calestelken4645]

Love it. 😂

[@lijh]

Likely! Lol Keep up the writing

[@roseshayer4608]

Amazing. Much more tasteful than the murder - jokes

[@papabearsings893]

I would actually recommend the opposite for a first date. If your date becomes aroused because of the perceived potential danger, they're not sized by you. And even if they link the arousal to you initially, it will not last. Best approach is to be your authentic self. If they don't like it aren't attracted to you authentic self, the relationship won't last anyway.

[@larajin9531]

I agree, it’s good to get to know someone properly without the distraction of adrenaline on some crazy date, I’d leave that to the 2nd or 3rd date!

[@KamilosanW]

I agreed. Simple date also good for me.

[@mrevilducky]

Wrong. Authentic self can come second. The initial spark is truly important

[@randomcommenter420]

yeah that’s what i was thinking

[@Sercer25]

I prefer a hardcore romp

[@theboombody]

I definitely felt physiological arousal on my first date with my wife, just by seeing her sitting at a table at Starbucks. Been married 10 years now. I want her to be the last person I ever have a first date with,

[@hyemster2274]

aw that's so cute

[@dietrichrosiers8184]

How did you get to know each other? Did you just approach her and speak to her, what did you do? :)

[@wronglayerbutok]

So because I have anxiety i’m attracted to everyone all the time? Damn.

[@starlightwhispers6781]

This puts things into perspective...

[@counterleo]

damn that's why!!

[@gargantuangouda605]

2:38

[@wronglayerbutok]

@@gargantuangouda605 but it can be falsely attributed as attraction due to being «aroused» at occasions that aren’t a roller coaster, no? Although I would say that anxiety and excitement are two very different sides of the same coin, you’d think that the nervous feeling you’re «supposed» to feel with someone you like could be mixed up with just straight up being anxious.

[@chocolateking1143]

I have anxiety too and have the same problem. We’re both screwed long term.

[@ermweezer]

I remember learning about misattribution of arousal in my ap psych class 2 years ago, but i’ve never put too much thought about it, ive never dated anyone but now I know what to do on my first date LMAO

[@AnaPsychology]

Hahah yess, I also found the theories of emotion somewhat meh but it's better when you can apply something to your own life

[@gautamig1546]

I’m doing my MSc in psychology currently, sometimes I forget I can use psychology to help my dating life too haha.

[@PriyanshiSharma0308]

Yes, From India

[@joe-mf8sd]

Went to the beach for a 2nd date in pouring heay rain, we had fun but she broke up with me 2 days later. So what i learned from this video is In the end it depends on the girl, and how she feels. nothing is a permanent solution

[@StarsAbove24]

Oh, good to know :)

[@yeggix7921]

omg i did donuts on the freeway on accident on my first date w this guy and it scared the shit out of the both of us but were still going strong lolll.

[@AnaPsychology]

Hahaha amazing

[@carmellawillson9618]

Why not send a message to the powerful man who used his power to help me get my ex back? 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇

[@xFersureMatt]

how does that even happen on accident?

[@reinbeers5322]

How do you accidentally do donuts on the freeway? Genuine question.

[@v1sheshagrawal]

@@reinbeers5322 probably wasnt on accident but car could have slipped, swerved. And shes just saying "donuts"

[@BADDEC101]

My parents taught me this. Their parents taught them. It's one of the things I advise people to do. Simply put, go out and do something new. It is the novelty of experience that bounds people who share it.

[@HeavySig]

You were raised well. Pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

[@BADDEC101]

@@HeavySig gotta push the envelope!

[@chairmanmeow3693]

I love that you take the time to comment on many of the viewer's comments

[@jubeikibagamai5323]

I like to think of the first date as an occasion for which a person I like happens to accompany me. I want to focus on the activity more and having fun instead of trying to have “deep” convos with my date and being all over them. If we have a good time, the positive feelings will be associated with that person, no need to impress them.

[@TheRocknrollmaniac]

Exactly. It seems that a lot of people jumped onto this dating advice bandvagon, with "schools of dating" as the paroxysm of this trend. These sort of suggestions and advice are probably the most interesting to people who are more anxious and who tend to overthink things. Instead of helping them overcome their issues, studies like these only increase the cognitive load and will ultimately make for an unpleasant date. Instead of just relaxing and having some fun, do I really want to think about adrenalin, manipulation, sympathetic nervous system?

[@gabby-ue8sh]

@@TheRocknrollmaniacfor real, unless its an online date they probably already liked you in person so why not act like your usual self

[@wabbit2099]

I saw a bear, I felt fear because of bear, and I misattributed that fear as arousal. Now, I am in a secure and loving relationship with the bear.

[@hookmachinemusic]

I’m going to bring my date to a coffee shop and tell her that I ordered us coffee that is extra hot....because I love to live dangerously...

[@AnaPsychology]

Hahaha omg😂

[@lydialorincova7628]

I'm cryjng😂😂😂😂

[@starlightwhispers6781]

Ooh yess..

[@anass9487]

AHHAHAHAHAHHA actual good one

[@mtrebtreboschi5722]

It occurs to me that the caffeine could provide the physiological arousal for this, so its not a bad idea

[@mike8147]

I took a girl on a pretty fast paced motorcycle date/ trip as our second date to a pretty cool restaurant. Loads of fun for both of us as it seemed and had a good time. Two days later, ghosted. I understand this is just a study but humans are complex as shit with baggage/values/ motives. If those are not in accordance I feel as if the relationship will not last. And if it does, it will not last long or will be forced. My perspective and my experience.. Ciao

[@АлексейДудка-ж3я]

Glad you said that bud

[@mushroomzulu]

Most psychology beyond Neville Goddard is bs.

[@lilyofthevalley9853]

humans do be complex as shit doe

[@AzaresAscending]

We’re more complex than we can fathom yet more simple than we would admit.

[@mazvitaselemani]

She did give a disclaimer in the video though

[@STBill]

Maybe if my crush is in a situation were a bear is about to attack her and I knock it out with a dropkick she will finally notice me! 🤔

[@AlbinosaurusR3X]

Solid plan. Just need to get her near a bear, but how... ?

[@ktefccre]

Ohhh why didn't I think of this?!

[@TheStraightestWhitest]

Excellent plan. I respect it.

[@bruceklein9917]

If this is your situation you've probably let her friend zone you and you should walk away and go no-contact. Otherwise grow some balls, be a man and ask her out.

[@theboombody]

Man, that better be a Kazuchika Okada level dropkick if you want to take out a bear.

[@neginnasiri3198]

I have read about these researches I think you have to include in your video that arousal only intensifies the feelings we already have (this is why we get worse at things we are already bad at if we are doing them infront of an audience, but we perform better what we are already good at). If the person does not like their date the bad feeling will be intensified but if they are attracted to the date the attraction increases :))

[@ssing7113]

Sure but every first date is based off of looks. U literally have nothing to go on. So that would mean already there is the excitement to dive in deeper to start building this connection if there is one as the first stage has been met is you already agreed to meet based on looks and you’re preconceived notion that they are a good person / match Hence the video says to do something “exciting” to be more “attractive”

[@ccsilva6110]

Trust your gut believe it or not if you don't feel comfortable with someone dismiss yourself because you don't want your energy around the person or something and if you been with same person for over 20 years or more trust more their advice than those who divorce the following year of not even being 6 to12moths out of relationship never confuse lust with love or passing through attention seeker that's why know yourself first and be truthful to who you date.

[@kyletremblay5295]

This study was done at the University of British Columbia 🇨🇦 on the Capilano suspension bridge!! My school did a cool thing!!

[@annoelnicolaas4932]

Can you do a video on Social Anxiety? Thank you. And I love your channel.

[@AnaPsychology]

Is there anything specific you're interested in regarding social anxiety? :)

[@annoelnicolaas4932]

@@AnaPsychology Yes. I would like to know how to distinguish if I am just a shy person with a few anxious moments or if I have actual anxiety. Because I have noticed some symptoms but still am not sure. Moreover I would like to know how to deal with it and listen to some of your advice.

[@AnaPsychology]

lunarsnow I’ll definitely note that for a future video! :)

[@annoelnicolaas4932]

@@AnaPsychology Thank you so much!

[@TheTruthKiwi]

Yeah, I've heard about this before and it makes sense. It's most effective when they feel fear so go on a rollercoaster, skydiving, zip line or just a scary movie is a good start.

[@Asmrkiwiii]

I feel this also applies to abusive relationships or some type of toxic situation where the person caused you anxiety or nervousness and you think you’re attracted to them.

[@Drewzdev]

stockholm syndrome?

[@अपूर्वाउनियाल]

Trauma bonding

[@ssing7113]

Yeah. That’s called love bombing to devaluation. Intermittent reinforcement. and trauma bonding 😂 They usually are fast and furious with the drug like high and lows thus high jacking the nervous system creating a trauma bond. Been there. Done that. Got my souvenir of battle-scared heart. Never want to ride that ride again If you did seem to experience this first hand you need therapy for codependency and childhood sounding which made you prey to a toxic person in the first place..

[@ccar1332]

Thank you for a great vid! So refreshing that you got straight to the point... unlike most other KZbinrs. I definitely will be watching you more than the others because of this.

[@PsychoSocialCreation]

Attraction, do something that get them physically aroused beautiful tip! ❤️

[@AnaPsychology]

PsychoSocialCreation thank you!!

[@mygoi715]

Just found this video and it now strikes me as an evidence. How can this video only generate 635k views ? It should be taught at school ! Thanks a lot for sharing :)

[@gloriouschaos3579]

your kitten is so adorable, and so are you! your videos are very interesting, keep up the good work!

[@AnaPsychology]

Thanks so much! I agree that she's a cutie :)

[@carmellawillson9618]

Why not send a message to the powerful man who used his power to help me get my ex back? 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇

[@WylliamJudd]

That's so crazy! I was recently thinking about how I sometimes feel cold and nervous at the same time and have been wondering if I felt nervous simply because I was starting to have a physiological response to being cold. This seems to validate that theory!

[@gealdbrisoce649]

I've been hearing about these techniques myself I liked that you put the disclaimer at the end to not think if that works that that way of going about can keep a relationship going at best it'll only work for about a few dates but good idea though and interesting experiment tho

[@Gerardomartinez-ll7it]

I turned 20 & got a motorcycle. I was broke in college, so every first date was on my motorcycle. This explains so much. Took my current girlfriend out on a bike and we’ve been together for 4 years. Definitely started the spark but took a lot of growing for both of us to develop that relationship. So it’ll work for the start but you better be responsible w it!

[@vidushikhandelwal4961]

I am so glad I found your channel, love your content!!

[@AnaPsychology]

Vidushi Khandelwal thanks so much!!💕

[@joanofarcxxi]

This is true. Try also working out together. Cardio is best. It may seem weird on the first date, but has the same effect.

[@rafaelalodio5116]

The problem with this strategy is that you first need to convince the girl to go out with you for any of those to work.

[@alancantu2557]

Just grow a pair and start talking to any girl you find attractive. Anyone can get a date with a little effort.

[@rafaelalodio5116]

@@alancantu2557 None that you said excludes what I said in the first place. Besides, talk what? Talking for the sake of talking is something I never learned

[@medoma1000]

Actually I can 100% approve this. I had a date with a girl and we went to a lake by bike and we swim in the lake. I still remember EVERYTHING from that date and I had A LOT of Dates and it is years ago. She got a job offer and moved to another town, and I still had to study and after one date we did not intend to do a longdistance relationship, so we stopped dating. But that is the explantation why i remember it so well.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

She had other dudes on the line.

[@dustinwongphotos]

This sounds like excitation transfer, and specifically applied to arousal/attraction. I've never thought to connect those things! This also means that one should try to avoid having heated arguments under environmentally stimulating situations (like while driving). I do think that this is borderline manipulative. But who am I to judge.

[@ChronicTHX]

Then pretty much everything is manipulation

[@Felix-yk4ln]

Everything is manipulative bro

[@elektrotehnik94]

We can only manipulate which signals their body sends them, by influencing their environmental conditions (for example, let's say the bridge experiment). If they do the interpretation of those signals unconsciously/badly, not correctly linking their body signals with environmental factors, then they might be manipulated/ influenced in that way. But if they consciously/wisely see that the environmental conditions make their reading of their body signals not clear, they can wait & see if they will still feel the same body signals about that person when the environmental conditions are not a stimulating factor anymore (on a second date, for example ^^)

[@TheRocknrollmaniac]

It may seem manipulative but experiments like these, and numerous other in psychology, are really discovering hot water over and over. I mean, yeah there will be some connection if you do some exciting things together. Yes, a date will be more memorable if you do crazy shit and not simply sit in a restaurant checking your phones. Common sense, which now has an experimental proof. Good for us!

[@Metalblowing]

Met my girl on Tinder. We went on a date. Started in my favorite pub, got some Guiness in us and chatted about some random stuff. Once I understood that she's good company (she probably had similar ideas), we went on a stroll around the city. I took her to one of central parks that we have, park is badly lit, it was dark (Winter time), and we got lost. Literally. Then I was able to understand where we are + I had a flashlight and I showed her an "emergency" bunker from WW1 that is now used for storing old, expensive books. Then we got lost again and had to move through some hilly, bushy area so she got her fancy shoes messed-up. Then we got a taxi to my place, I baked chocolate lava cakes, made us some gin tonics and we watched some black/white movies from 50s (probably some noir detective). I mean, dates are easy. Walk around and do some stuff. Just do something. If she/he is a normal person, you'll manage. If they think you're boring, don't waste your time. From getting drunk, lost in the forest, and watching b/w movies to living 3 years straight together.

[@crownedone8837]

I started liking this chick more when I rode in her car and she drove crazy😂

[@chrisroode]

You use that term ‘miss-attribute’ so well and accurately, but in the context of a first date, it sounds so sleazy…but in all seriousness, very cool stuff! Never thought of it this way. Oh, and your cat was definitely distracting me with its tail.

[@OriMoscovitz]

That's the reason I never do boring first dates, one was at the park (like Disney world), other in karting, field ride, escaep room, it's always fun and exciting and less awkward than just sitting and looking at each other... 🙃

[@alancantu2557]

A great suggestion for first dates is a petting zoo. As silly as it sounds, it’s an original setting that accomplishes what this video is revealing. Not only will you both be stimulated by the cute animals, she’ll remember you simply because of how unique the idea was.

[@randompenguiness4616]

Aight cool so I just gotta bring my nonexistent date to the gym

[@AnaPsychology]

Random Penguiness 😂

[@ainzNemesis]

Recently hung out with a girl at her place. Got high and watched the walking dead. Needless to say the vibes that night were immaculate with the episode we were on and us discussing the shows elements and us playing around. I think the show really set a nice mood where we could make jokes but also have real conversation about the depth of the show.

[@elisabettadiac8641]

Basically trick your man with science :))))

[@ceejay1364]

All I heard was, “to get a prick to like you, get them excited” Great videos by the way.

[@DBLDREW]

This one girl I was really into she told me she was an adventurous girl. So I took her to the top of a parking garage and pulled out a few climbing harnesses attached a rope to the truck and threw it over the side and we both repelled down the side a bunch of times. (I was really into rock climbing back then) been married for 21 years now and have 3 kids with her..

[@xkagutaba]

"every date on a shaky bridge is lost before it is ever begun." - the art of gall

[@ronmobley2819]

I've tried this a couple of times by speeding, tailgating, and weaving in and out of traffic on first dates. They get physiologically aroused but there's no bonding, and they refuse to go out with me again. I don't know why...

[@nicholasn.2883]

Just go out for a dinner date and drop a "We have 3 minutes to diffuse the bomb."

[@coolpeopleit]

Is there no philosophical consequence to using fear to initiate arousal? If all the partners you ever had met you during a terrifying event, did any of them actually find you attractive or did they all fool themselves into thinking their fear was love? If the resulting relationships work, does that mean you could have had a successful relationship with almost anyone so long as you met them on the equivalent of a narrow suspension bridge. These are very similar questions I would ask of a pickup artist, if you have to use tricks to get someone's love then is it even real?

[@piousminion7822]

Your videos cause me physical pain. The videos themselves are just fine, but you are just too absolutely gorgeous for my lonely heart to handle.

[@wren_4444]

Hey, how are you liking school? I know the way to becoming a psychologist is very long. Has it been worth it? What were your number one struggles? I want to become a psychologist as well and I’m just curious about the journey.

[@AnaPsychology]

I like school! My biggest struggle has been getting into practicum every year, which I go into a bit more detail in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jZOkimSQd7-phq8 Let me know if you have any other specific questions :)

[@timmortimer6267]

What would we do without this insight . We are so lucky to have you tell us.

[@BlakRainbow39]

I’ve always though taking a girl to a gun range would be an exciting idea. I’m not really a gun type of guy though so I don’t think I can use my own advice.

[@TomReichner]

I just found you here on KZbin and I enjoyed your video and learned something from it. Thanks! I also appreciate that the video was only 3 minutes long. I specifically search for videos that are less than 5 minutes.

[@josiecamilo7098]

I'm super chill and don't like drama and like being myself too much for this. I saw this on the bachelorette this girl did all these crazy things like bungee jumps that's too much work lol take me as I am and come as you are.

[@hypeaf2179]

Actually a sensible concise intelligent video with facts instead of opinion. Awesome work.

[@kelseycoca]

scare my dates, got it. thanks! 💕

[@trevorlambert4226]

This seems like a good way to not only trick your date but also yourself.

[@anita-7540]

loving your content! obsessed

[@AnaPsychology]

Anita \ thanks so much! :)

[@nickfunkhouser7096]

This is useful, now comes to hardest part: getting a date.

[@stephanier6783]

This is the kind of manipulation the Bachelor franchise uses. I find it disingenuous. Be boring. If someone is attracted to you when you're boring, they might be a keeper.

[@obinnachikwendu8193]

I agree with you. It's better to focus on character building than trickery. When the trick wears off, the dislike is ten fold.

[@marina816]

honestly yesss!! The comment I was looking for

[@nerychristian]

@InSomnia DrEvil Everyone has a different idea about what is exciting or enjoyable. Some people might enjoy a rock concert, some people get anxious or shy in large public gatherings.

[@viniciomonge3960]

Loved how concise you were, I'm subscribing

[@migueruta]

This is true! When people share experiences of this kind of arousal with others, that will inevitably establish bonds between people. That's what happens in the Military and team sports, for instance. Does this make sense?

[@RedDenim]

I can't believe this was your first vid, I was scrolling through your feed telling myself to binge from where I was up to. My first vid of yours ended up being your first vid 💀 also if you're ever in NYC let me take you out 😶‍🌫🤙

[@milacruz3970]

Is this why some people are like "addicted" to cheating? Because every date with the other one is an adrenaline rush?

[@Piotr_Szyba]

Yes. Risk = arrousal. It's all because of PEA (Phenyletylamine) which is a hormone connecting danger and sexual arrousal.

[@AndrewTheFrank]

I mean it kind of makes sense because general advice for dating is to go places that are likely to increase one's heart rate such as places with activities, scary movies and the like.

[@everythingaboutherwords]

This explains alot when I met this one guy, and he isnt that predictable he wants me not to know where should we hang and the next time I knew it we were being interrogated by the Police because we parked in the wrong area. And after that we always followed by adrenaline rush. Maybe that's the reason why I am attracted to him lmao. But the fact that he is a unique person who understands me pretty well even I don't speak whats on my mind. Makes me fell for him even more.

[@likeyou3317]

And a physical activity is a nice conversation filler. If you have nothing to say you can just focus on the activity without the burden of the awkward silence. Pretty usefull for not so talkative ones.

[@EBMproductions1]

This is why making out etc. At a club is so appealing or that new years kiss or playing a game you both are mentally invested in cause the persn you are with attaches the energy to you and it compounds cause at first were here now were talking now were drinking now dancing now kissing and escalates and escalates and you end up never ever forhetting that night cause of the craziness etc.

[@dagobertodominguez4624]

What a tutorial to set yourself for failure on the second date, very useful !

[@CleverCheetah]

I can personally relate. I kidnapped her on our first date so she quickly fell in love with me.

[@Benjaminrcd]

My ex used to go hiking with his guy friend, little did I know that they were actually hooking up before. Thanks for letting me know about these red flags.

[@untakencareofdeath_4117]

1. Get a friend 2. Make them pretend to rob you and your date as a thief 3. Kick their ass then save the day 4. Thank your friend 5. "Don't worry bro I got your back"

[@spontaneousbootay]

Me turning down every alley while walking on a date thinking "i hope shes scared"