How to Be Unforgettable on a Date | Matthew Hussey

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When you’re dating in 2022, you can almost be sure that the person in front of you on that first date is dating multiple people at the same time. This omnipresent truth can make you nervous as you so desperately want to stand out from the crowd.
The truth is, we all want so badly to be unforgettable on a date . . . but actually making that happen can feel tricky.
In the pursuit of “making someone like us,” we may give in to the knee-jerk reaction of trying to impress them, or worse . . . people please.
Even though we told ourselves we’d be chill and genuine, we suddenly find ourselves working our most spectacular moments into conversation, hoping they’ll see us for the treasure we are.
Or we get so nervous that our walls go up and we lose all warmth and become sarcastic and cutting instead.
These performances will often have us showcasing the more insecure sides of ourselves, taking the focus away from the purpose of being on that date in the first place: connection.
But luckily, truly connecting-and making yourself memorable-is much simpler than that.
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[@ryushizu17]

2:17 1) 'Start on The Ground': Instead of broad questions, share recent things from your life and how you felt about it 4:31 2) 'Connect, Don't Coach': Instead of 'coaching' someone, empathize and connect instead 7:47 3) 'Listen and Capture': Instead of passively, listen actively and show that you understand what the person said

[@julieb5122]

Thanks!

[@sylviacooper2364]

You @matthew hussey is so full of it, I listen to all your videos more then once and I found my person but he left. How did I ever fall for your advice. You will never know the damage you did to my internal person

[@simontmn]

@@sylviacooper2364 There is no one "my person", a point Hussey makes often. (a) You need to do the work to be your best self. (b) If he left, there are plenty more good men out there. Depending on why he left, he may not have been such a great guy anyway. But life is hard and there are no guarantees. In any case, no dating coach is responsible for your love life, only you are.

[@DeadNetCord]

thank yoou

[@anndillard8681]

@@sylviacooper2364 Get to know yourself and be yourself.. read DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help - FEAST OF MEN & REFLECTIONS OF THE CURSE....

[@jjc2323]

So basically be open, show vulnerability and be an active listener without giving much advice (unless asked)? Done.

[@dejasarafian531]

Hi, you single?

[@kevingibbs1256]

​@@dejasarafian531hahahahahahahahahahahhaahaha How not to do it 101

[@mariGentle]

I do it all the time, do they do it return? No

[@marleefreyre732]

​@@dejasarafian531hi

[@Eric-vj4by]

Thank you for the summary, I didn't want to watch 16 minutes

[@xuxagirl87]

One of the beautiful things my partner does for me is asking me if I want her to try to fix it, or just to listen. It’s so nice to have someone understand the difference.

[@CountingDown2HellFire]

Beautiful 🥹

[@kristenlobstein8634]

I love how your advice goes so much deeper than just being on a date. The first date is important but first impressions last a lifetime. Being a decent human by listening and understanding the people you’re with makes you unforgettable.

[@ramparkash2318]

Kristen Lobstein. You are saying ture. I'm agree with your words.

[@sue-annthandy5387]

Agree,Awesome, sooo true

[@dejasarafian531]

And you single? Because it looks like your in a good relationship .

[@MrYoko101]

11:00 My counselor always used to say, “Being heard is so close to being loved that most people don’t know the difference”

[@mundea]

I know that Matthew's content is tailored towards women, but I like hearing his insights to see topics like this from an alternative view-point

[@Musiyca]

It's not just for women. He mostly talks about comfidence, self-esteem and capturing others on first meeting. Everyone benefits from that

[@racqui100]

I wonder what content are the men getting and from whom… which dating advice forum/ platform, guru guide are does it come from

[@jcman-lp6lg]

@@racqui100 the info we get pretty much makes it seem like women are mind readers. They tell us not to put women on pedestals but then they talk about them as if they are literally impossible to talk to. I am a pretty confident person but the level of confidence they want you to have is absurd.

[@itsgokublack420]

Facts he be spitting game to men too it’s just coded us guys gotta decipher the encryption to get the info he’s giving to us as well

[@peterj.fallon4327]

@@racqui100 Wing Girl Marni’s pretty much only good one from female POV. ‘Guru’ guys advice borders contempt for women. Sad

[@Baybiedoll35]

My toxic trait is being a fixer so I totally offer advice and perspective when someone confides a particular issue or problem they're having. Ugh. I definitely try to work on it. But it's a habit that's so hard to break.

[@hannahhardy7557]

I hear you Matthew. It means I don't have to give free advice for a $4 cup of coffee. 🤦 Stupid me.

[@czylichilli]

I totally get you. I do the same thing. I'm learning to accept and remeber that if someone shares their story or issues with us. It not always mean that they want to hear our opinion. I ask: if the person wants to hear my view on it, then I follow up with question what they are planning to do about the issue and last if they want my help or advice. It changed alot since I started to do it.

[@jjc2323]

Same!

[@raen3049]

Please do. Mostly everyone wants a listener more than someone who gives unsolicited advise.

[@pichichipichi]

Thank you for sharing and being so aware about this issue. For me is a lack of respect to receive non asked adviced because I feel my "issue" goes behind the other person´s ego to make them feel better so I´m not the center anymore of my own story. Cheers! 🙏🏻

[@sadiaali9198]

Indeed. Being a great conversationalist is about two things: creating intrigue and interest, and creating emotional connection.

[@dejasarafian531]

Hy, hope your having a good day ?

[@masterjanglez]

This is such a great video. Not just for dating but for connecting with people. Thanks Matthew for all your kind words of wisdom.

[@user-vq5ff6mv4n]

yes

[@rihannagirl556]

Forget first dates! You've beautifully captured what it means to have a great conversation with anyone-That's incredible. Thank you Matthew.

[@riddlen71]

“Capturing the essence of what someone else has expressed to us…because we really listened…because we built intimacy.”

[@priscillaandraos4691]

THIS MAN IS GENIUS ! HE KNOWS OUR HUMAN NATURE AND HIS WORDS CAN BE USEFUL FOR EVERYTHING IN LIFE BEYOND DATING. I HAVE LOYALLY WATCHED HIS VIDEOS AND HE NEVER FAILS TO MAKE EXCELLENT APPLICABLE POINTS. PEOPLE SEEK TO BE UNDERSTOOD AND HEARD.

[@freyjastravelchariot3343]

I always started with, "Hey! Do you hug?" and that helped set the mood. It leads to different conversations than "How are you?" Also, my love language is physical touch... if you don't hug... it tells me a lot about the likelihood of our success. Nothing against that person that isn't a hugger, I just know *I* need that.

[@tedtalksrock]

2020/2021 must have been especially difficult then…

[@Joy-mm3cz]

Definitely date someone who’s love laughing, both primary and secondary, are the same. Physical touch is last for me even though I am a hugger. Lol

[@radiantbird]

Very nice…

[@cherrylane79]

Not everyone are ready to let a stranger close to them, especially when traumatized. So you don't really know about the success with asking for a hug straight away. It might be okay later.

[@sunnienciso9582]

Good one. I too am a hugger, and also a dog lover. I will remember to ask if you hug or if you like dogs. lol

[@dariennechouinard8369]

One breakthrough I've had in my communication skills and overall orientation to other people (romantic or not) is realizing that asking "What does that mean to you?" is what I really care about discovering, and it has a profound effect. Some people don't "get it" when I ask them this, and instead stay on the surface of who/what/where/when. It helps me weed out the ones I don't feel compelled to invest connection with.

[@deanhimmelman1209]

I don't know how long you have been at this but if your delivery comes naturally you have a real gift!! I found the 18-minute youtube seemed to go by in 4 minutes, that is a great delivery. Thanks

[@lizzysalway6844]

Something I have noticed in your videos is that you are also learning and developing and your energy is growing accordingly. Thanks so much for the reminder that it’s not an exam, because whilst I want to keep learning and developing, I can think I need to be perfect. Thanks for demonstrating what you are advising. We appreciate you!

[@violetmartha916]

I certainly made an impact on a first date after watching a video that told me to " Start on the ground" ... He walked into the restaurant and there I was, waiting for him, laying on the floor 😁

[@RR-et6zp]

HE IS LYING. We look for chaste, fit , feminine, friendly, not half naked online, agreeable

[@emilybaxter3058]

I’ve watched most of Mathews videos. I’ve pretty much applied everything he’s ever said and I’m still single and can’t get a decent date.. so the way I see it is, if a guy isn’t into you, there’s absolutely nothing you can say or do that’ll change that.

[@tmbrad1288]

Exactly.

[@jjc2323]

This is true as well

[@mattkath2332]

This is GOLD! If he is really into you, you don’t need to do all these efforts. It will flow naturally

[@JaZmine147]

Maybe because it's not authentic to you and people can sense that?

[@RR-et6zp]

chaste, fit , feminine, friendly, not half naked online, agreeable

[@NathalieLazo]

This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat

[@dejasarafian531]

Wow!!! 😳 Come on tell me what's behind all the write-ups You had a bad day?

[@arescue]

Brilliant

[@christinaregan-ardito4559]

This was so helpful, I do believe I made a few mistakes in dating from your examples and I will be more self aware on the next date to really think before I speak.

[@cleverg1555]

I feel so good on every first date and i can conect pretty good with girls on the first date but keeping the connection once the first date it's over and getting a second date it's where i struggle THE MOST

[@smoke8326]

Will exercise this advice on my date in 2 hours. I’m going to follow up and let you know how it goes. Wish me 🍀

[@steventoms7940]

How did it go ?

[@alexiepfeiffer145]

Update us!!

[@hetvikhetia4354]

What happened OMG?!🙂

[@Alixvero]

Ok... I'm intrigued. Now we need to know how this soap opera ends.

[@Redwineeeee]

Someone tag me when she comes with an update 😋

[@sarahhalawa5926]

I love how you analyze things and human emotions, literally a genius

[@siuzannavyshneva6312]

I love Matthew's Sunday preachings! And he touched on writing!! Standing ovation!! 👏👏👏✨

[@Monkeygus1794]

Thank you i used this today and it was amazing . I was just myself and he said he really had a great time . And I had fun too so we will have a second date next week .... thanks!!!!

[@marinjayden]

First date or not this video is gold for connecting with anyone!

[@erickgutierrez6743]

He's talking about reflective listening. Let the person talk, listen, then repeat what they told you (in your own words). You can do a simple reflection, reflection of feeling or a double sided reflection. Conversation is truly an art that requires practice and skill.

[@ilonapsiuk1078]

Can't agree more, however I still have one doubt. Being a good listener is my curse, everyone's been always treating me as free therapist. In the relationship context I feel it's pushing me towards the so called friendzone.

[@bigqueeenergy]

But on the bright side, your curse is also a blessing because it’s a incredible quality for people to feel safe and comfortable to be vulnerable with you! I think Matthew’s point is mainly is because we want to show that we are interested in them (which includes listening to them cuz that’s the best we can do on a first date lol)

[@sunnienciso9582]

I hear you on the therapist part. I am a great listener. When I talk though after listening to them, they give me anbout 30 seconds until it is all about them again. Drives me crazy.

[@bigqueeenergy]

@@sunnienciso9582 But that shouldn't be on you, it is on them that they're all about themselves. Plus you've dodged a bullet by them showing you who they really are in the early stages ((:

[@sunnienciso9582]

@@bigqueeenergy Amen sweet pea. Woman run this fucking world right now. We don't need a man.

[@gigibtsurvivor3348]

Same here. Most dates really enjoy talking to me because they find my listening skills and support of bids for connection and vulnerability attractive. I’m often treated as their therapist. I try to put listening and talking boundaries in place to short circuit that.

[@theprousteffect9717]

You give brilliant advice that's applicable to many people and situations. Thank you for all the work you do.

[@dearformerself]

I legit have a date later today and was very nervous. Could not have been uploaded at a better time! I'll do my best not to overthink it. Thank you so much for everything you do!❤️❤️

[@susannah-carolla9587]

Have a great date! Come back and tell us how it went!!

[@dearformerself]

@@susannah-carolla9587 Just got back from the date! I bought her a dozen roses and made sure to open her door for her and everything. She hugged me at the end and said she had a wonderful time. I'm seeing her again next Thursday!!🥳🥳

[@susannah-carolla9587]

@@dearformerself Yay!! Here’s to date number 2!! 💜💜

[@dearformerself]

@@susannah-carolla9587 💜💜

[@RR-et6zp]

chaste, fit , feminine, friendly, not half naked online, agreeable

[@capricris7672]

I'm in a real dilemma whether to give him my number 🙄. I'm 57 and so nervous. I've been single for nearly 5 years and am scared witless😳. This has helped.

[@michellejennings1115]

I’ve been very discouraged with the lack of interest from decent guys. But In the meantime I appreciate your wisdom and advice. Maybe there are reasons why I’m single so I can always improve my own issues that need addressed.

[@RR-et6zp]

HE IS LYING. We look for chaste, fit , feminine, friendly, not half naked online, agreeable

[@sunnienciso9582]

I too am very discouraged with finding a gentleman. I have had a few male freinds, that played games, and instead of playing victim, I shout to the top of my lungs, THANK YOU GOD!!!!! Thank you for letting me know what I DON'T want in a man.

[@rizapace1907]

Matthew, just want to let you know that I really I appreciate the work you do, thank you so much. You helped me a lot with my self-development journey. Thank you again.

[@tendersoulsretreat5863]

I loved the way you paralleled photography with active listening. That was so visual and relatable that it will stick with me rather deeply.

[@AlanaChuong]

I'm relatively new to your work. I've been doing inner work for a very long time. And it's from that perspective that I found your work: I'm interested in the intersection(s) between our own sense of who we are, how we navigate and inhibit our immediate worlds and how we are perceived and received in that world, from our immediate families and beyond. It seems to me that you're doing something very similar with the work that you present to the world. I think it's a blessing on humanity. Towards that end, if you're comfortable, I'd love to hear what your personal practice looks like. What grounds you, what supports you, what gives you inspiration and structure to do what you do. Clearly, your family, your brother, are a big part of it. But I wonder about what, if anything else, there is. Grateful for your share, in all ways. Oh, as with your other videos, I LOVE this one. Your ability to take break down and identify the parts and nuances of humanity is notable and a gift for all. If not illuminating, it's at least affirming, which can be just as important/helpful. Thank you.

[@robymtzt]

Love the advice of not looking for something eventful to happen to us. We can talk about our day to day because that's what you will look for in a partner , someone to connect with on just basic topics .

[@elainegeber4604]

What you share in your work is teaching me to be a better human. I know I have not always been a good listener, so I need to focus on that skill, and really be in the moment, be present, be focused not distracted and ready to jump in, allow you to fully have my attention.

[@michaelnguyen6891]

After watching this video, I realize that I’m not really connect with anyone I’m attracted to recently. Once we tried so much to attract, we forget to connect :(

[@patienceankunda6185]

What I like Mr .Hussey is that he tells you mostly to be who you are 🙏🏾

[@stephwart]

This couldn’t come at the most appropriate time! Thank you Matthew!

[@coleniyo2719]

Thank you, Matthew! This video is so full of gold nuggets for all aspects of relationships in life…not just dating. I’m learning so much!

[@Milica7299]

Need to read a large book on "connect, don't coach"... Not a superiority moment, but the only thing I think I need to do is help (which gets to solving the problem). Good video, thank you, Matthew!

[@anabertoluzzi8055]

You are incredible!!!…so much wisdom, so compassionate and kind… a natural teacher and so wise…. and so handsome… !! How did you get so wise so young.?!!!

[@Lady_Ima2]

Nervous before upcoming date. 50% is You!!! Thank you for this gem 💎🙏

[@Artbynbru]

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” is a good book, same advice.

[@eduardoatjian2969]

Minute 9:45 is a golden nugget of advice for sales, account management, client relations, relationships.

[@jcman-lp6lg]

I am glad to read the comments in the comments section these male dating coaches tell you not to put girls on a pedestal and then proceeds to put women on the pedestal by making it seem like women are extremely complex but from the looks of it, it looks like women are just as confused as us men.

[@Sbannmarie]

Silly goose- oh course that marketing team was 1. Listening and 2. Echoing back to you what you shared. That’s marketing!

[@EMarie85]

OMG your #1 thing is something I learned to do with colleagues because I'm such an introvert and never knew how to "small talk" before getting into the point of a meeting / conversation! Especially over zoom, my go-to is the most interesting, usually funny and unfortunate thing that happened to me recently and they're like omg that's so crazy! And then they tell a similar story and we've connected and then move to work stuff. I do it without even thinking about it now, it's just automatic.

[@gigibtsurvivor3348]

These are great suggestions. Just be careful as this healthy type of communicating and interacting is exactly what problematic people use to artificially bond at an accelerated pace. Be wary of the overly enthusiastic questioner/listener. Don’t offer all of your information or show too much vulnerability, as it will be weaponized later. Let the other person make statements without you saying, “oh, me, too!” to every comment. Be wary if the other person is lock step with you. Just take your time. To borrow from your metaphor, Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither will a relationship.

[@marilynoverton8142]

Matthew, this information is so very valuable, in any number of situations. Thank you!

[@liz_lemon421]

I'm impressed by the self reflection in the beginning! It makes you and what you do a lot more authentic. This is a good example for all of those "Do these 3 things and I guarantee you'll get married in 6 months" so-called coaches.

[@annysvinti8331]

Hey Matt, can we please get more content on breakups and perhaps a series on how to prepare, execute and overcome please?

[@thebettybassettproduction2458]

I wrote something because of your love of Anthony bordaine. He wasn't on my radar but you said that you loved him... I'm sort of learning how to film myself. The way this guy discusses is mind-blowing. I mean he just makes it so simple. I love the sound, flow and rhythm of his voice. He's quite masterful at angles I think. I'm more of a photographer just breaking into the film genre but it's fascinating. There's so much to learn. The world is such a beautiful place because there are things that are just fascinating. I think filmmaking is like an artistic expression so it's just really fun because I don't know anything about it. Like I love Anthony Bourdain. He was a masterful storytelling that touched the core of American values with swear words, Rock and roll, a sweetness in relating to an experience. He draws in, makes us feel the importance of the moment, the sacredness of be being a part of his journey, listening to the deep intonations of his voice, seeing the times that he breaks into laughter or shares an audacious joke. Also seeing the times of tenderness and vulnerability. I think that comes across in his enjoyment of being in good company with his friends and crew and when he's taking in the sights and sounds of a new environment. Surely it's new, like adventurous as you lose ground and have to acclimate to a new set of rules in a foreign land. It's sort of like visiting alien planet. That's what love most about the story of Lewis and Clark when Jefferson gave them leave to explore the continent to find a river passage that connected from east to west. Like who knows what creatures may reside in an undiscovered land? Umm dinosaurs? Hungry cannibals? Yeah, terrifying if you let your imagination take hold, but for Anthony Bourdain, he took us on an expedition of love. He related human commonalities. He opened our hearts to the things that we had in common. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qGHHdWVqib1mj8U

[@Chahlie]

I think many of us have gotten out of the skill of 'conversation', especially with world wide events. It can be hard to just keep it light and just talk about random pleasant things.

[@damienropars479]

good advice on not giving advice. I've been a manager for so long that I've made it my core response. Since I got a daughter I kind of changed but your words made a difference in understanding what I'm doing wrong. thanks

[@antontreeofwisdom]

You are a beautiful human being, and this is gold for both man and women to understand.

[@guy8646]

This is good guidance for general human interaction. I’m estranged from a former best friend who was constantly giving bad unsolicited advice as if she was Oprah and not someone whose own life had a million problems for her to focus on instead. The condescension of such behavior is suffocating.

[@siratuzrashaik]

Thank you Mattew, highly informative and insightful. I'm a life coach and this was a great video and could relate to all of the points. Amazing, This how an have a high-impact conversation with anyone and everyone. Kudos.

[@dejasarafian531]

A life coach in which country you typing from ?

[@3LWSTAN]

I feel so seen. i’ve been through this so many times regarding “mansplaining” is what I call it. they share a story and then turn it into a lesson for me as if I don’t have my own experiences? it’s so degrading and frustrating. i speak up about it and they usually apologize but continue to do it.

[@gillpendleton1197]

This video makes me realise why I fell in love with a man on the first date. I've been working on myself, including taking Matthew's advice and I think it might just have paid off.

[@qazedc3]

Did it go anywhere?

[@gillpendleton1197]

@@qazedc3 lasted 7 weeks and then he fell off the face of the planet. Was great while it lasted.

[@alexone8338]

You uploaded this just before I go on a highly anticipated first date haha. Thanks Matt

[@zoeydeu2261]

I politely disagree with point #2 connect don't coach. When I talk about an issue, sometimes *I do want advice.* It's worth asking if they mind you giving advice, or if they just want to be listened to. The first date with my bf (he's in finance) he gave me advice that prevented me from losing $100K! He gave me advice because he cared. We still connected, and he actively listened. Then we ended up together not long after. You don't have to give advice in a condescending manner, it can be given in a loving way, sometimes it helps people see things in a different perspective - which helps them cope better.

[@heatherduke7703]

I’ve had people who just don’t get it when I share some of my struggles with ADHD. They don’t understand how it can even be a problem at all and say obtuse things about how they would operate in such a situation. It just means that I’ll realize what a mistake it was to be vulnerable with them and avoid sharing in the future.

[@mantra1182]

I really appreciate the content in your videos. Your points aren’t cookie cut or basic but really helpful, insightful, unique and informative. Great points. Thank you 🙏

[@joeljohnson4465]

This is so helpful. I try to remember this through trying to relate emotionally vs assess or fix what they’re saying.

[@life-is-here]

This video provides an interesting introduction to making a great impression on a date, with a free gift at the end! Definitely worth watching.

[@ChristineCho91]

Unrelated to this video, but I finally bought your book on Audible. I have not stopped laughing while learning the past hour. Thank you Matthew.

[@karenbianco1084]

This is an important and positive way to engage with anyone in life, love, family, friendship or business! Great reminder!

[@bartdegryse9345]

from watching corey wayne vids, just ask questions, good positive questions.But don't be afraid to be naughty/goofy at times. be playful. make her smile. show that ur genuine interested in what he/she does/learns, etc. But be a mystery urself, don't be an open book from the start. make eyecontact, leave a tip for the people who order you, be friendly to them. if she asks about previous exes. talk postive about it, that it didn't work out, you grew apart. tell in a positive manner you learned alot from the relationship, and hope for the best if she meets someone new that can make her happy. if you talk trash about ur exes, she's gonna expect it wil be the same thing if she continued to date you ... more advice from urself is welcome to, to fill up.

[@jessikalacroix5993]

Thank you su much Mattew! I love you videos because you don't give advice that we are just going to act out, your advices are about how to create a connection and be vulnérable with someone we are interested in. Really useful

[@natalieclampit9725]

That couch looks super comfy

[@rosannewilhite3922]

Can you do a video for women who haven’t had a date in years? I do not want to get stuck in online hell ever again, and I really need some tips on how to be safe too.

[@JaZmine147]

Meet in a restaurant at a decent time and don't go back to his place? What else for being safe? Don't go into the wilderness hunting on the first date. Duh?

[@kimgordon3695]

Go to community events that offer a venue that You enjoy. ie. Music in the Park. Food truck & sports. Local theater group & fund raiser. etc. Go with a group of friends. Meet like minded people. I met my Man at a study group. We all went for dinner

[@lucasgabrielcordeirosantan9851]

You speak so well! It’s exciting to watch your videos!

[@Tunne0]

Wow, the photography analogy is all by itself a point worth noting down! Great advice on dating here 👌🏽

[@hannahkeating97]

My problem is that I’m a really good listener and I ask follow up questions to let them know I’m listening and interested, but I’m bad when it comes to talking about myself and letting someone really see me and know me. I feel like I always know more about the guys I’m talking to than they know about me.

[@ornela9336]

Same

[@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole]

There are a few things that guy likes more than having a woman intently listen to him talk about himself 😂 most times he will forget to ask anything about me at all

[@nadineday6814]

So your advice about not offering advice was such a huge breakthrough for me...however I thought I was being compassionate and helpful, because if a person mentions a problem especially a possible painful one..My mind goes right to How can I help and then to what I may have experienced similar that that can be helpful. My motive was always to help . . Now I see how I've been annoying instead if compassionate

[@wentinggao3064]

I prefer your solo videos than podcast episodes :)

[@faithandmadnessministries6419]

Lovely work you doing there and for sharing such rich messages 🙏 keep up the good work. My inspiration

[@WhiteAngelLovesEarth]

I make bad impressions without wanting so...this works for normal people. We're not all normal

[@Sara-ig5ep]

EXCELLENT video. Please make more like these on conversation and listening skills!

[@RR-et6zp]

HE IS LYING. We look for chaste, fit , feminine, friendly, not half naked online, agreeable

[@Dallas.Speicher-Ramirez2025]

1) Start on the Ground 2) Connect, Don't Coach 3) Listen and Capture

[@coraliemangin1175]

Thank you for these advices. I have noticed that when the person you date really is compatible with you (does not mean it'll last), all of this is super easy to apply. I did not realize I was applying these advices! I almost coached him but then I told him to never let me do that. It's my job and I can have some reflexes but I notice it makes me find the person super small... And I don't want that.

[@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559]

Not sure I agree with the 'don't give advice on a date' tip. One way of looking at it is that it's 'annoying', but another is that it's generous. It depends on how it's done, as it can be patronising, but when someone talks about a problem they're encountering, it can be helpful for someone to suggest advice, or a source of advice to the other person, as in 'you're struggling with getting your ideas onto paper? I actually know a person/tool that might help with that'.

[@JaZmine147]

First date and he's talking he got no plumber? 😂

[@RR-et6zp]

HE IS LYING. We look for chaste, fit , feminine, friendly, not half naked online, agreeable

[@kareta24]

Ahhhh #2 is great! WOWOWOWOWOW & so is the reference to “story trumping” 🙌 thank you.

[@xXKyon12Xx]

Ah, to capture the essence, the beingness to absorb it and to reflect it back and show acknowledgement, empathy. I understand now thank you, it makes me click and regardless of what happen, I am a better version of myself regardless the field in which I unfold, thank you. :D

[@jasminetate614]

Love these videos. I think my friend told me about your videos years ago and I’ve been taking a few bits and pieces from the videos and have been super successful so far!

[@nancyeric6865]

Simple but effective!

[@catherine412-paris2]

That advice samuraï sword cracked me up ! XD

[@Lightflames85]

I find that asking quistions should not be your go to when trying to get a connection with someone. Its way better to make statements like you do with your friends. You can if you think about reword everything in a quistion into a statement or assumption and it creates a completely different vibe from the interview style quistions. Its also way less pressure for you and the person your with. The only time social pressure should be used is if it helps you move things along. But if you did the statement thing right its often not needed. A normal conversation is like this: statement , statement, reflection, statement statement maybe a quistion and then back to statement statement statement respeat -. You can do this forever and its so easy.

[@lukepodolski8818]

Excellent explanation and advice. Can't wait to learn more.

[@life_asweknowit888]

Nice tips. And you're right! Most of people that want something genuine and that will last in the long term, want to be understood & vice-versa. It's seeing our souls & the depths of a being. Without masks of fear of being vulnerable eventually. Many other people have different motives of "why" they think they want to get into a relationship and like you said overlap by turning kind of like a completion etc. So looking into the true essence of someone changes the prospective of someone or something that can (actually) turn into something else or deeper. 👍🏻 Ps: because a person has learned or have become skilled at speaking "human", if that makes sense.

[@KaraleeEvans-f8m]

Always good advice from you!!!

[@lisadaisy4431]

When is it okay to give advice?

[@aubreydavis8519]

LOVE watching your videos!! Thank you so much for the content you provide❤️

[@RR-et6zp]

HE IS LYING. We look for chaste, fit , feminine, friendly, not half naked online, agreeable

[@carmen-mnt-manta4343]

You are so gifted! I think you are really doing your mission! 🙏🏼

[@DD-ic1bd]

another great video Matthew! also, love your setting.. couch, pillows, windows, green, bamboo?, plants behind you.. very visually nice and soothing, lol;)

[@Nunyubeez]

Yeah……gotta get a date first but then I’ll be unstoppable.

[@tianiemitchell5692]

I get what you mean. Speaking of vulnerabilities, I'm a widower. Whenever I have to face doing taxes or anything that normally my husband would have done and I don't have a lot of experience, I procrastinate. I get flustered at the fact that I need to do I feel I have no choice and I prefer to have choices and because of this again I procrastinate. I really dislike this about myself but I know that once I get familiar with this sort of thing, I will be able to take care of it ASAP as I do almost any other tasks and I have to accomplish because I hate putting things off.

[@rosemariecalumpangtapis6296]

Thank you so much sir Matthew efforting a little or manifesting anything in the core sign Joel for no love and Joel creating fortune love is a scam. I'm very grateful sir some guidance to listen to you to determine the situation in a rightful manner. Thanks again and God bless to us!