How to Make Small Talk With Strangers | The Art of Manliness

[@GustavoMaciel]

sorry, but it didn't work for me. the girl I tried to talk to yesterday didn't even know who dr. landis was

[@TheToneBender]

ha! brilliant

[@Maxxplayne]

lmao

[@jgonsalk]

+Gustavo Maciel Hahahah! That got a belly laugh.

[@HenningColin]

+Gustavo Maciel Proper laughing at that! Excellent, sir

[@maurowws]

+Gustavo Maciel huahuahuaaaa.. you rock man

[@dbpooper7512]

"I noticed you're wearing a wedding ring. See ya."

[@elianjaku9523]

Best one so far

[@megaman247]

lmao

[@vzgsxr]

😂😂

[@JustinHatsu]

Wow lol

[@buildmotosykletist1987]

I prefer married women they don't sleep over or call at home.

[@TheMoaDude]

"Hey, I noticed your shirt was blue. Do you think George Bush did 9/11?"

[@Bushdid-rm4uu]

Mor Dvir hell yeah he did

[@lizziedanger4271]

me

[@Vlada605]

crying

[@MrKnockout_]

LMAOOOO

[@Mark-xw5yt]

Dead...

[@aaron-4062]

I always keep these handy topics at hand for awkward silences: R - religion A - abortion P - politics E - environmental pollution Perfect to strike up conversation, plus it has a handy acronym.

[@oscarma15]

you killed me 😂😂😂

[@Chris-hn2md]

LMFAO!!!! I CANT FUCKING BREATHE! THIS COMMENT DESERVES WAAAAAAAAY MORE LIKES. SO UNDERATED!

[@thinkboutit]

Aaron - epic

[@MelodyLiuJade]

How did you come up with this omfg I can’t stop laughing

[@TheTsugnawmi2010]

RAPE. A handy dandy rule of thumb

[@PeterBlack]

Today I talked to a girl and said 'Hi, how was your day?' She said, 'Just make my coffee, please.'

[@Caesar0031]

Ask her to make you a sandwich first.

[@onlyhuman3]

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

[@rackt09]

onlyhuman3 No. Making or missing a shot requires the attempt at the shot. As far as analogies go...

[@ninjanerdstudent6937]

You should talk about the origin of how the coffee beans were harvested. It's a dirty job, but somebody has to do it.

[@lizziedanger4271]

Trading Card Noob well, just make her coffee you bird. no one owes you a conversation. newsflash, some people just don't want to talk

[@wubwubwubwubwubwubwubwub5014]

"I noticed there's no grilling meats at this party, are you vegetarian?" 10/10 great question.

[@vkd96]

+wubwubwubwubwubwubwubwub I rate it 5/7

[@jabeztomer]

+wubwubwubwubwubwubwubwub "I noticed there's no grilling meats at this party, are you a cheapskate?"

[@GogogoFolowMe]

+wubwubwubwubwubwubwubwub I rate it bacon/beef

[@intothelean2930]

+wubwubwubwubwubwubwubwub LOL a vegetarian a fighter pilot and a lesbian walked into a bar - how did I know ? they told everyone :P

[@kevinikeonu3844]

wubwubwubwubwubwubwubwub hahha. some of those questions were corny Af

[@RossKempOnYourMum01]

"...so what's it like being black?"

[@randomuser1105]

+RossKempOnYourMum01 Meh. It's okay I guess.

[@dunnowy123]

I noticed you are of African descent. Are you from Zimbabwe?

[@bobrew461]

+JiminyCriket ;-)

[@Fromzer]

lol, funny. but I'd say that guy is brown. Its kinda weird to call Indians black. Its not about racism, I mean I'm lighter than that guy but I'm definitely black.

[@dunnowy123]

+DMool Nahhh that guy's black. Although I can see why you'd think that, he looks kinda Tamil.

[@PavchBavin]

This is like an instructional guide for non humans. Much appreciated.

[@Macabresque]

Found the alien

[@DESTRAKON]

_Love the subhuman self_

[@nightmaya8530]

I noticed you're running away, are you an athlete?

[@EugPopulistVlogs]

Nightmaya I noticed you are reaching for pepper spray. Are you a cop?

[@forman208]

LMAO

[@RinGoGuntheR]

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAA

[@jmdeking]

Nightmaya lol

[@mechanicalhibernation2690]

Gold!

[@angeljohn3724]

"I noticed you are wearing a blue dress, do you have something against the bloods?"

[@arshad_nazran]

"Hey, I noticed your breasts are sagging, don't you wear a bra?

[@MagusKali]

One way that I was able to learn how to talk to people, back when I was very shy and anti social, was to help them feel comfortable and relaxed while we were talking, as if I had known them for many years. People, especially women, are very perceptive with regards to how confident or nervous you are due to subtle non verbal cues; but if you look at them as if they are a normal part of your life, that nervousness tends to not be so strong. Plus, it doesn't hurt to be authentically interested in them, as a person. Just my two cents.

[@yassinghareeb5761]

That is a great advice.

[@MrKB_SSJ2]

These aren't 2 cents. These are 200 billion cents

[@thisisthebestid]

1. Anchor, Reveal, Encourage 2. Observe and Listen 3. Compliment + Question 4. Family, Occupation, Recreation, Motivation. Got it, Thanks!

[@chantalx388]

I go for motivation, because peoples life passion and dreams are inherently interesting and reflect the type of person they are

[@samiknotes]

SV❤

[@fernando18455]

"walks up to girl" " I noticed you have big hands, do you have cancer?"

[@topgun370]

Winning! My mom died of cancer last year and she would have, like I just did, cracked up laughing at this one. Hi mom!

[@fidahaq9729]

lol

[@rayaan3395]

James Wow, that shows how much of morrons your family is.

[@emaadawazem6971]

😂😂

[@thenamesnate7096]

@@rayaan3395 How so

[@MrMagJon]

"I noticed you're not wearing black shoes, are you racist?"

[@supraman34]

lmao i have to give you a w

[@greatguy423]

MrMagJon 200th like!

[@awesome1ru]

MrMagJon lol who says that

[@wickedliquid1177]

I noticed the shoe laces are white, does that mean you put white on top of every other color.???..... Like I do..😉😀😂

[@GworlsShouldntPlayGames]

Haha

[@FortuneSeek3rz]

"I noticed you were married, have you ever thought about divorce?"

[@Boccaccio1811]

Lol this is the best one

[@FreethemGuyz]

😢😢😢a lot of ppl love the race jokes... but this is the best one...good luck on you guys divorce,, its coming😢😢😢

[@Elk0990]

I noticed that you don't have a wedding ring, is your husband dead?

[@PankajKumar6493]

lmao

[@FlowJoYaKnow]

Pankaj Kumar Sandstone Trail...

[@kennyrulez-thatswhatshezed1928]

probably one of the worst pick-up lines i've read on the internet so far

[@TheJoeyNinja]

I noticed you have blonde hair, do you always use peroxide?

[@kennyrulez-thatswhatshezed1928]

Joey ololol

[@xRawrBawr]

I love this advice. Everyone else online that tries to help with this always says the same dribble; be yourself, remember that they are just as scared, don't ask to many questions, get the other person to talk about themselves, eye contact and facial expressions, blah blah blah. It's about as useful as saying "the best way to bake a potato is to use heat and then add stuff to make it interesting"; we know, and it doesn't help us to actually do it. But this advice hits the nail on the head; simple, computer-like instructions to start the ball moving. I've been trying this for a few days (both in person and texting) and I can see a good increase in my ability to keep a conversation from turning awkward, not to mention my social interactions are much more pleasant. Thank you.

[@CyanideShock]

"I noticed you have an iphone, was their a reason why you chose that over an android?" this question made me LMFAO, the way he said it did not sound authentic or interested at all.

[@stevencarter3254]

***** Exactly. There is no educated reason to get the iPhone in the first place. Just, "It's Shiny!"

[@PankajKumar6493]

Steven Carter lol

[@greg77389]

Sounds like something a snarky nerd would say when he's looking for an argument...

[@a_ndy2837]

hey you talk like an android yourself, buddy.

[@alannaclay4084]

"I noticed you have blonde hair. Are you from Swedish decent?" HAHAHA , THE FUCK?! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Sesquipedaliofobia]

XD

[@AlekssKingoftrollsxIskanderovs]

Oh same,I was watching the video and laughed at that part, I've been trying to improve my small talk from this video, what brings you to this video?

[@alannaclay4084]

+KingofTrollsx Are you really trying to make small talk over comment after watching a KZbin video on how to make small talk ?? 😂💀😂💀😂

[@AlekssKingoftrollsxIskanderovs]

*SHIT MY COVER IS BLOWN*

[@alannaclay4084]

+KingofTrollsx I noticed sir that your profile picture is consistent of 4 equal colors in captured in a perfect circle , is that because you love the game of Simon ?

[@ChinchillupaGuy]

"I noticed you're an amputee, do you work at ihop?" * ice broken *

[@benjamincox4211]

Chinchillupa Guy done

[@matthew8153]

Chinchillupa Guy I noticed you work at Fingerhut, are you a lesbian?

[@QUIETCUBE222]

Timeless comment LMAO

[@TrueGamer181]

As an introvert, small talk is painful and boring, but I see the value in it.

[@ps-uj5dm]

TrueGamer181 ya true that bro.its hard but worth it

[@patrickhodson8715]

TrueGamer181 Hey I noticed you're an introvert. Do you have any creative hobbies, or do you prefer books and movies?

[@katiewaity3413]

I don’t find it boring at all! I find lots of people very interesting and charming I just never know what to say lol

[@TF80s]

@@patrickhodson8715 "No, I don't have any hobbies and hate reading books and watching movies"...next question?

[@shorx9199]

@@TF80s Nobody seems to have the answer... Ever!

[@the_a_destoyervlogs6980]

I noticed you have eyes can you see

[@philochristos]

Or, "I noticed you have two eyes. Are they both real?" It's a legitimate question. I dated a girl who had a glass eye.

[@TartarianTopG]

The_a_destoyer Vlogs hahahahaha I’m dead

[@Blinkster93]

Omg lol, that was good XD

[@davidborg5479]

The power of the stache

[@artofmanliness]

David Borg It is all powerful.

[@tsohgallik]

None of those men had "stache"

[@xxuncexx]

***** that's why they were being guided by he who has stache

[@elvisgjoka3678]

xxuncexx lol

[@panzach]

"I noticed we're talking to each other for the past 10 minutes now. Do you mind if I go to the toilet because I have nothing else to say to you?"

[@ProudSF]

I hate small talk but it's one of those things you have to learn

[@UTUBESUCK666]

Peter Zhao Same here. Lets talk about the meaning of life, shall we?

[@gamer6965]

In peace and

[@ProudSF]

Stelio Kontos Are you a hot girl?

[@refatenglish3148]

Peter Zhao Are you a girl or a boy?

[@ProudSF]

refat english dOES IT MATTER?

[@14s0cc3r14]

Is it just me or did the "observe" questions seem super awkward and kind of creepy?

[@NikhilWolf]

It's the white guy lol. He was super awkward.

[@ArnaudFTW]

"are you from swedish descent?" what the fuck.

[@derkhaslol]

Yeah and a question about the phone operating system haha

[@200ThingsILove]

@Fark I honestly thought he was going to ask her if that was her natural color.

[@DesperateSol]

I think it seemed more awkward because he asked so many in quick secession, in a real conversation you would only ask one at a time.

[@artofmanliness]

How to Make Small Talk With Strangers [VIDEO] bit.ly/PCNpC6 Directed by Jordan Crowder

[@the1lordawesomness]

This was actually really helpful :D

[@chesterlohman]

Everyone needs to develop thus skill. Meeting new people is awesome and you should never miss an opportunity!

[@chesterlohman]

Love these comments glad everyone liked the article. Brett does a great job with his site and if your not following him, yet you should start.

[@chesterlohman]

Levi Rawls Check your local Chamber of commerce or Google networking events in your area. Good luck!

[@CleverDjembe]

the1lordawesomness Your use of the word "actually" leads me to believe you expected it to not be helpful. Is that right?

[@DorangoBread]

I noticed you're wearing clothes... Do you uhhh always wear clothes?

[@lucasvilleza1188]

"I noticed you have arms, are you a dolphin"?

[@apexpredator9489]

Lucas Villeza 😂holy f

[@Archangeldawn]

i need to try this one day, just to get a reaction :D

[@matthewirvin6505]

Lucas Villeza lol

[@davethebarber62920]

I see you're blonde, does the carpet match the drapes?

[@dreamvillain8815]

💀

[@mattesses70]

David Childers sadly no

[@greg77389]

+Matt Esses The f*ck do you know?

[@mattesses70]

greg77389 I'm blonde sweetie

[@greg77389]

Matt Esses Doesn't mean it's true for other blondes... And are you even a woman? You have a male name...

[@Jamesucht]

I'm an introvert. This shit is like Kryptonite.

[@JonConstruct]

i feel you

[@AKrieger94]

lol me too

[@A_Final_Hit]

StuffandThings85 My brother from another mother.

[@christopheryoeurng3722]

I feel you!

[@camokazi1313]

StuffandThings85 Who you tellin'? 😂

[@otayo.g8466]

Saying "Hey nice bewbs!" is less creepy than asking "I noticed you have blonde hair, do you come from Swedish descent?"

[@jijst5]

"Have you ever heard about Adolf's Lebensborn?"

[@KGS922]

OTAY O.G If she's actually of Swedish descent, I fail to see how asking that is more creepy

[@chantalx388]

@@KGS922 I'm with KG here, this is the type of question I would ask out of curiosity for finding patterns of genetics in my environment. With time, ones intuitions should hypothetically become more accurate and more impressive.

[@yjmay1304]

You are so stupid, how is being a creepy pervert, less creepy then asking if she is from Swedish descents.

[@notsky8985]

Im DEAD, glad I wasn't the only one thinking that was weird as fuck

[@RandolphCrane]

This comment section is pure gold.

[@pepinyostep3592]

"Ive noticed you look overweight are you pregnant?"

[@kayzak5785]

ahahahaha, Someone asked me if I was pregnant and I was like, shiiiiit, hope not.

[@joographics]

I noticed you look pregnant... are you overweight??

[@IIIISai]

@@joographics Bruh LMAOOO

[@TheBcoolGuy]

Yes I am. I'm a man and a virgin, but I'm pregnant by means of immaculate conception.

[@lobsterworldwide]

I notice you look pregnant, are you overweight?

[@TRUMP-lw1rq]

This did not work for me at all. The girl I tried talking to didnt even know who Dr. Landis was.

[@rudyroman5192]

+Kanishka Kreaper dude that's the way to do it

[@WWEMasterLucky1994]

Lool

[@PumpkinPails]

She's heeLARious.

[@blastomanto5687]

I laughed too hard at this

[@oliviaprzeszlo4204]

Dylan Gill I

[@shybzrk2291]

"I noticed you're not a Jew, are you a fan of Hitler's?"

[@forman208]

Now THAT's an interesting comment

[@wisemantellsyousomething1134]

+Curry You made my day. XDDDDDDD (and I know, you're serious)

[@kevinikeonu3844]

Shypl these comments are killing me 😂

[@yakub2659]

Well.. thats hard to tell on jewish women :D And only targets are fans of Hitla

[@ReasonAboveEverything]

Account no longer active! Name even one.

[@0ion]

Hmm.. instructions unclear, I can't talk to someone with out the dialogue wheel from the elder scrolls: IV Oblivion.

[@chantalx388]

The most interesting conversations are the unscripted ones that require some element of spontaneity/abstract thought.

[@dothedeed]

I usually feel seriously uncomfortable when people ask me a ton of questions back to back and it DOES feel like an interrogation. I usually try to get them to pause and let me know something about themselves too. I don't know if Im overly guarded but I really don't like giving out a ton of personal info when just meeting a stranger. At the same time I don't want want to appear cold or disinterested. I really like this "friendly noises" phrase.

[@vetokov]

"I noticed you have wooden earrings... Do you feel like you're an earthly creature?" Made me laugh really hard, great video!

[@4867503]

Wait a sec here...was 4:39 supposed to be an example of GOOD conversation starters? Cause that was one incredibly awful, unnatural and awkward line of questions. And the dude's delivery was straight up creepy.

[@mrwayofwarrior7853]

if you are hot its not creepy

[@bumbozambumbazebulon6738]

"I've noticed you've a wedding ring, are you accident prone ? have you heard about avulsions? Do you know what "degloving" means?" "I've noticed your ears are pierced, did you know the front nub * *grabs* * of your outer ear is called TRAGUS ? It's the Greek word for "he-goat" because of Satyrs, those half men half goat beings * *whispers closely* * that.just.couldn't.stop.F_CKING?" "I've noticed you pretend to be a blonde. If I challenged you to splash a bit of cider vinegar it wouldn't become a peracetic acid would it ? * *chasing and screaming* * You've nothing to fear if it's not peroxide! " "I've noticed you've got an iPhone. Save a photo from a Messages conversation to your Camera Roll, check to see that it has been saved. Now delete the Messages conversation the photo came from. The photo will still be in your ‌iCloud Photo Library‌. But when you do an ‌iCloud‌ Backup, the photo will be GONE. You think that is bad? Let's chat about Zero-Day Security Vulnerabilities never addressed. Or Pegasus. But first we must place these phones inside a cocktail shaker. YES THEY ARE ALWAYS LISTENING IT'S THE ONLY WAY TO BE SURE"

[@QUIETCUBE222]

warrior lesson 343: be wary of pick up lines unless you're a sexy beast

[@Tqle0]

"Hey! I saw a video about small talk, am i doing ok?"

[@Jamil1989]

That's actualy pretty good, dude. You should try on a girl.

[@RikSanchezMusic]

Great video! Social media has crippled real life interactions to say the least, so I understand why some people might find it hard to strike small talk. Awkwardness is avoided like the plague, so sometimes interaction is too big of a risk, being that there is no time cushion to think up a witty resonse as there is when replying to something online. Practice small talk guys!

[@sh0werp0wer]

That is so true, man. I was chatting with this girl for weeks, we actually had a lot in common, but when we finally met in real life it was very awkward seeing as none of us knew how to small talk, but that wasn't noticable when we chatted and had time to come up with responses without it being awkward.

[@RikSanchezMusic]

Just goes to show how valuable an asset small-talk can be. Takes work at first, but just jump into it, good luck man!

[@garylebon6458]

If only you knew how right you were...😒

[@VinceLA91]

"I noticed you're in a wheelchair. How did you fuck up your legs?"

[@aaronmt14]

as embarrassing as it is for me to admit, this video is quite helpful. As an introvert (not anti-social) it's hard for me to engage in conversation with strangers about things that we both care nothing about, but the main thing i think I found helpful was that it pointed out that small talk is the only way to get the ball rolling on to more meaningful conversation, which, obviously i knew, but i guess i just needed to hear someone say it to realize just how true it is

[@dduelm]

Thank you thank you thank you. This is one of my greatest struggles and my wife is so frustrated at my fear of social settings. She can't believe that someone can be so awkward like I am. She seems to think I am intentionally antisocial but it is not true. What helped me the most is that "friendly noises" concept. I don't want to sound fake with new people but since there is very little connecting me with the new person, the initial exchanges are necessarily going to be pretty superficial. Thanks again! SUBSCRIBED!!

[@Vpopov81]

that mustache tho...

[@artofmanliness]

Victor Popov Thanks

[@valerydanielablanconunez5334]

Xaxx

[@jayjo448]

Art of Manliness It doesn't seem to suit you..yet. When you're older, bit more wrinkled and maybe some salt and pepper, that thing will look badass

[@bobdabuilder4075]

+Victor Popov is this not the art of manliness channel

[@Corranhorn122]

+Jay Jo I think it just needs to be trimmed a bit.

[@zeliph]

This is pretty good when it comes to those networking events that my school hosts every semester. I'll keep in mind of the advice you've shared in this video. Maybe I can land into a job sometime from those events!

[@artofmanliness]

Best of luck with the job hunt!

[@AqilDaiyan]

Dude people just reply "yeah" or "no" and the convo ends there

[@davidbergaragonzalez5653]

He said ask open ended questions. If they answer yes or no to an open ended question, find someone else to talk to.

[@grnd_ctrl8387]

+David Bergara - Gonzalez "What do you like about that?" Them: "Yes."

[@QuackersMcCrackers]

Lmfao

[@mattislarsson1831]

In a few years you would ask: I notice you look arabic do come from Swedish descent?

[@The2701666]

+Mattis Larsson that's very funny lol

[@killj0y58]

Very clever lmao

[@killj0y58]

+Wojciech Bochenek there are blonde arab people bro. Syrians can be blonde. Afghans are ethnically Greek and can definitely be blonde with green eyes.

[@KatariaGujjar]

@@killj0y58 Afghans are not Arabs

[@olivers.3144]

Mattis Larsson I noticed you make jokes about immigration, do you hate immigrants?

[@cesarvaliopando4626]

I noticed that comment section is the best thing in any video

[@n3rdbear]

"do you have something against the bloods?" I lol'd hard.

[@Ratchet2022]

Wow, I watched this video a while ago and thought to myself that I’m already good at holding a conversation. This morning I went to a new church, and I was the awkward single guy that just stood there listening to others. I’ve got to practice these things. It’s hard at first, but I know once I’m successfully able to execute these tips, they’ll stick in my mind. Wow, unless you work at something, you don’t usually just have it naturally.

[@carlcapture]

Use it or lose it

[@Mike.Cebert]

These are brilliant instructional videos on this channel - very informative, logical, precise and direct. I think the video demos are what make it great rather than just hearing someone lecture you

[@SSKMusicBeats]

yooo I love everyone in this comments section man, we all have the same sense of humor lmao lololol

[@alanmarques3910]

Exactly

[@jjsan27]

Of course. We're all introverts. Introverts destroy extroverts at comedy lol.

[@MultiAntedeguemon]

Dude, thanks for the video. As an introvert, it changed the way I look at small talk!

[@XxAmiIzunexX]

For people who are struggling with small talk, I have your perfect solution! Go up to people and ask those weird questions, like what's the bloody meaning of life. The people who respond and play along are worth your time and the people who don't, well leave em alone. They can go engage in boring, time wasting small talk.

[@TheWolfePit]

Great video!!

[@artofmanliness]

Gracias.

[@xace7636]

2years ago wolfe?

[@tranzitosu4478]

WTF THE WOLFE PIT?

[@patrickbcurke]

Tip 1: Alcohol

[@matthew8153]

Patrick Burke Clason Tip 2: Old pickup truck

[@bdflatlander]

Even better: marijuana. When I was working I used to hate going to office functions, especially holiday parties. One year I discovered a way to cope with them: I would arrive at the venue, smoke some MJ in my car and by the time I arrived at the party I was flying pretty high. Instead of being socially awkward I became Mr. Friendly and could talk to anyone about anything under the sun. When I felt the buzz start to wear off I would go back to my car and top it off. Worked great for me. Hey, some people drink alcohol (many times to excess) - I preferred Mary Jane.

[@SevenFootPelican]

This one is HUGELY important for me. I will be taking extra notes on this one.

[@tylercunningham3275]

Most of the questions sounded like a job/news interview and seemed very forced.

[@artofmanliness]

Then offer some suggestions on questions you think people should ask.

[@artofmanliness]

***** I know, right?

[@Afterword.]

"So, have you ever committed a crime?" "Do you enjoy music or are you deaf?" "Yo, yo, yo, whatchya doin' in mah hood?" "Please, tell me a story, Mom. Oh, you're not my mom. Awkward..." "Kirk or Picard?" "Is the Art of Manliness evil?"

[@kajocina]

The pineapple-shaped cup question was great, admit that...

[@lakethompson3522]

They sound rehearsed because this is a youtube video, and all their responses were rehearsed. *gasp*

[@zmdeadelius]

As an introvert (who obviously is better at understanding neural networks rather than small talk) I gotta say this is the only small talk video that I actually understood. Great presentation.

[@BreadCatMarcus]

THAT'S NOT HOW YOU FILM AN OTS SHOT REVERSE SHOT. But seriously, these comments are better than most comedies. Keep it up everyone.

[@gorefieldluvr6921]

I have a lot of social anxiety, like, i can barely smalltalk without it getting awkward after literally five seconds This really helped.. Thanks

[@KillaCommieFerMommie]

This channel is freaken awesome... The last 4 questions were great!

[@Jrjejfjebdcee]

I've watched a couple of videos about making small talk, but none within the context of a man. A great video, tips on an essential skill for ANY man. Thanks Brett!

[@TheActualJoe]

Hey AOM! I just wanted to say how much I live your videos. They are always very helpful, and well made. I can see you put lots of effort into these. Thank you very much and keep up the good work :)

[@artofmanliness]

Thanks for the kind words, TheActualJoe

[@artofmanliness]

***** It's the real deal, baby.

[@mhcmhco]

The relief as a mild autist when I get genuinely good and applicable advice on these things is absolutely invaluable.

[@crossrodde]

I don't get it, I ask dozens of strangers everyday if they will be my friend and its always really awkward. What am I doing wrong

[@TazPessle]

OMG in my head, your comment was acted out by Peter Griffin XD

[@MikeyJMJ]

@Luke Brown That was hilarious

[@mattyallred]

wow cant believe there are videos of how to make small talk on here. I cant believe how shy some people are. All you have to remember is no matter there achievement in life or how hot they are they are all flesh and bone just like you, and anyone who doesn't give you the time of day because they think your better then them just means there not worth the effort. Its a shame there are people that make others feel less or insecure. But if these videos help others then all for that, but really no one needs a video they just gotta know who they are. Once you define yourself as a human/ Male or female, Then its very hard for others to change that, its damn near impossible. Ive been shy for many years but what helped me is the fact I had many years of hell I had to go through alone, Not gonna discuss the details on here but it really made me look at myself differently. I know realise there is no point to being shy, there is no one I wouldn't talk to, there is not much I wouldn't do to get a laugh, Hell I wore a tiggar suit ( from pooh bear lol ) through a shopping mall just to get a few laughs. years before when I was shy I didn't like talking in public much. You can watch all the videos you want and slowly build courage sure, or u can just jump in the deep end and learn it quick. what is the worst that will happen is they say go away or no, is that really worse then being lonely? if your truly lonely then u realise that is something you don't want to live with, and other peoples opinions just don't matter. Not saying its easy its very hard, but its still harder to hate yourself or doubt yourself.

[@mattyallred]

Yeah it sucks but its my burden to bare, to achieve is for some to smell like a tennis players foot after a comp is for me.

[@navidsgs1926]

Very nice English 10/10

[@mattyallred]

I always trieded my bestest :)

[@randomuser1105]

+Matt David I'm sorry that not everyone is as perfect as you. :(

[@mattyallred]

randomuser1105 Perfect? haha not sure where you got that out of the comments, Im just trying to help others out there, I said that if these videos help I am all for it, I also said that no one needs them they just need to trust themselves and trust that it will get easier. Im so far from perfect but am working on that. We all got our battles and im only trying to be a helpful voice in a dark room, Going through things alone sucks and is scary. Why not offer a helping hand if I can?

[@555Gear]

One master of small talk from the movies is No Country for Old Men's Anton Chigurh. What a chatty Cathy.

[@Sesquipedaliofobia]

4:38 I'm sorry but these are cringy questions

[@siddhantjain9596]

Sesquipedaliofobia so true. I would rather ask the meaning of life

[@acidwavves]

It's more the delivery that's cringeworthy.

[@canererbay8842]

Well, I genuinely took that part as a joke.

[@happyguy963]

My biggest problem is stopping small talk WITHOUT an awkward, "soo... bye". How would a man end small talk?

[@RJBeee91]

Step 1: "So hey! It was awesome to (meet you, talk to you, catch up with you)." Step 2 depends on the occasion. If you're bumping into someone on your lunch break or on your way to class- "...but I've gotta run to (class, work)." If you're at a party, time your exit with the opportunity to go and talk to someone else you know or with the opportunity for the person you're talking to to talk to someone they know. Works in party settings and doesn't leave anyone standing by themselves awkwardly. Also, if you'd like to talk to the person more, ask for their number. If I'm on the way to class and I bump into a girl who's a friend of a friend and we have small talk- "So it was cool talking to you, but I've gotta run to class. Are you going to (social event with mutual friends or mutual interests)?" or "What're you doing after class?" etc. It ultimately all comes down to how you carry yourself man. Dress nicely, carry yourself confidently and you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

[@shalvius]

The key is to be sincere and say honest reason why are you leaving. That puts the focus directly on you, so you take the burden off your conversation partner. Here are some exit lines that can be applied at networking events: I need to go see the exhibits. • I want to go talk to the speaker. • I’m going to circulate and meet some of the new members. • I want to see if there are any other people from my industry here today. • I must speak with the membership chairperson before she leaves. • I promised myself that I’d meet three new people before I leave this evening. • I want to meet some other potential clients this morning. • I want to get around and say hello to everyone at this meeting/party. Don't try to make any excuses when leaving, It’s important to retain your poise and state your reason for departing courteously. Source: "The Fine Art of Small Talk" by Debra Fine

[@sebasapereira]

you can stop small talk by letting the person finish what they are saying then saying something like "wow thats very interesting, but anyway i have to get back to my friends so i hope you enjoy the rest of your night" or something like that based on the situation you are in.

[@diaglooploop3574]

i would have said "fuck this shit im done" then walk away doing a back flip at the end.

[@bloodynachos]

Just leave them in mid sentence. Dont say a word and just walk off. Own it

[@smehskeh]

Most of this stuff is pretty intuitive. It's really just a matter of finding a way to be exposed to strangers often enough to build up these skills.

[@VanBurenOfficial]

how about: Who's your favorite Austrian Emperor? or What's your opinion on Flag change referendums?

[@dunnowy123]

+Bogmire777 What is your opinion on the Crimean War?

[@VanBurenOfficial]

dunnowy123 That it had less to do with Religious rights and more to do with the great power chess-match. I think that's a pretty common interpretation though. what about you? See now were having a conversation.

[@dunnowy123]

Bogmire777 LOL Completely agree. Religious rights and the Christian-Muslim rivalry may have been a part of it, but personally I see the decline of the Ottoman Empire and an emergent Russia as the primary impetus.

[@usArrr3]

+Bogmire777 Mine's Maximilian I, what is your opinion on Habsburg descendants being in modern day policital parties? ;)

[@VanBurenOfficial]

I think its really odd. I'm kinda into it, but I'm not sure. I think Franz Joseph gets a bad rep.

[@Stormcrow41]

This is the most helpful and logically sound bit of small talk advice I've heard in a while. Thanks.

[@franklesterado8101]

"I noticed you have blonde hair... Do you come from Swedish decent" this made me laugh

[@ZeroSumJ1]

Man. I'm so grateful that I found this channel. Thank you for existing. Totally binge watched so many of your videos.

[@Jokestur]

One of those videos I'll watch and pretend to learn from, but never actually used any of the information to my advantage.

[@eirikmurito]

what kind of psychopath arranges a meatless bbq!

[@DAPTXDC4869]

XD

[@Gurianthe]

why didn't you tell me this when I was in high school?

[@artofmanliness]

Sorry, dude.

[@Stromedy]

lawra Weltreich good thing you didn't know about these questions in high school

[@shantanu3231]

No matter how many videos you watch you will only get better when you will practice and the best way to do it, is to face fear and anxiety head on of course, you will commit mistakes, there will be situations where you will choke or go awkward But by doing it regularly, you will come out as an ACE. So do it and never, I repeat never care what others say.

[@butter_nut1817]

You have to be at least 30 to use these

[@yohlahGo]

Middle schoolers can't take these conversations seriously. highschoolers, they are getting there. Some are mature. I've met a group of middle schoolers in my grade I want to talk to because they are mature. But I just cant

[@shorx9199]

@@yohlahGo so what conversations do middle schoolers do?

[@propane_salesman]

@@shorx9199 video games, sex, and racism

[@roundduck7005]

@@propane_salesman Based

[@livedeliciously]

Having a genuine interest in actually wanting to talk to the person will go a big way.

[@88riddlemethis]

Conversations with people you dont know is just way too exhausting.

[@88riddlemethis]

Other kids would come bug me and forced themselves upon me.

[@88riddlemethis]

I was just shy as a kid. Life has changed dramatically since. I enjoy talking to new people.

[@MrBryan-hr1rp]

+88riddlemethis Wait, other kids FORCED THEMSELVES on you? Shit, dude, you may have been sexually abused as a child

[@Randomdudefromtheinternet]

As an introvert with little to none social abilities, I appreciate this

[@platinumrubies85]

This was very helpful for shy non social critter like myself. Cant wait to use it.

[@makkaramies2000]

Did it work?

[@platinumrubies85]

it did! I'm a few notches up from where I was before which isnt a bad place to be. :)

[@makkaramies2000]

Great!

[@platinumrubies85]

thanx!

[@dustind5557]

Java Bain This really was well done. I've come across quit a few videos hitting this same topic but too many use general concepts without any solid guidelines to follow. I remember when I would just go blank, having something as simple as form would have been great. I'm sure I can use it now still.

[@hereisyoursign6750]

WHERE HAS THIS CHANNEL BEEN ALL MY LIFE

[@VituMV]

Nice clothes! Mind talking about that jacket?

[@artofmanliness]

Vitu It's a seersucker type jacket. Super light and breathable. I wear it during the summer.

[@VituMV]

Perfect, thanks! I'm new to your blog, is there a video you talk more about summer clothing styles? I live in the tropics in Brazil, and as you can imagine the heat gets pretty intense for a man who needs to be dressed in business-like clothing.

[@artofmanliness]

Vitu Here you go: www.artofmanliness.com/2009/07/23/mans-guide-to-summer-dress-part-1/

[@panzach]

+Art of Manliness What was that, an example of small-talking?

[@sgim43]

man there's some god awful examples in here... this video is like half self help and half a parody of self help videos...

[@1xXitachiXx1]

This is great! As an ISTJ, I'm just straight to point right away, preferring to discussing the deep stuff. The whole 'spontaneity' of small talk and jokes is just foreign!

[@chri11203]

How am I now finding this channel.

[@SethParadine]

4 Days before I did! haha

[@aspebb]

Chris Turnier Because KZbin doesn't make it easy to find a new channel.

[@Ind3r98H]

Chris Turnier you're the guy from the video Right?

[@MasterNoxob]

Those "I noticed" questions made my day.

[@ItzBerg]

Good luck trying these tips with social anxiety like myself. 👍🏼😄🔫

[@handleOfThy]

dude, nothing like a good 40% drink to free your mind

[@fardinrahmankhan6747]

I also have social anxiety like you i would say Just don't think about what you said spit it out it worked for me.and also say positive things in your mind about the things you said to a person. Like when you start a conversation say(in your mind ) well that's great I actually started a conversation I'm improving

[@TF80s]

@@fardinrahmankhan6747 When I spit things out without thinking I seem to offend people..even if I take my time to think about what to say I seem to offend people..I'm doomed either way :( also once you say something weird and offend people it's impossible to recover.

[@research1982]

this is great. I have actually stumbled upon these occasionally when I wasn't painfully aware of my awkwardness

[@reubenelijah1258]

I noticed you have fingerprints. How'd you get such a unique pattern?

[@sophiademure]

Hahaha!

[@crankcuffin1948]

Adam Kain funny

[@TheFunDistraction]

I'm not a very shy person and I trust people immediately (which can be a bad thing) but I still found this very knowledgeable to know.

[@ReplayKCF]

Are you........vegetarian??

[@Cyberslashy]

Naw bitch it's 2014 I'm a vegan! Up yo game son!

[@Darius_Marx]

Joey Bartholomew Talk like that will get you nowhere my friend.

[@Cyberslashy]

It got you to respond thus you're wrong.

[@Darius_Marx]

Ok.

[@tsohgallik]

The host looks Indian, so he probably is.

[@tomtom-ec6tb]

I prefer this for getting a quiet group into a lively debate: P - Politics (national) or Porn O - Office Politics R - Rewards (how much everyone is making) N - No BS (Anyone doing something you do not like then tell them straight and hopefully they will change - life is too short to fu*k around)

[@Supersonicboom7]

I love people who bypass the small talk, and I can't stand people that never get past small talk!

[@shorx9199]

Bypass small talk onto what talk?

[@Blink0Hawkins]

This and the Brad Pitt Rule are the reason i subscribed, and i still come back to those Videos now and then. This channel is just soo good :)

[@ChefMarkyMarkz]

I tried these tips on my starbucks coffee maker... She told me to ''Fuck off,Mark'' she knows my name! ty +art of manliness