How to Outsmart Your Kids with Child Psychology

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Are your children running the household? Take back control with these sneaky strategies from parenting experts.
Step 1: Rephrase negatives into positives
Instead of telling your child what not to do, tell them what they should do; this plants the correct action in their head. For example, saying, "Look both ways before you cross the street!" is more effective than saying, "Don't run into the street without looking!"
Step 2: Limit their choices
When you want your child to do something they may not want to do, provide a few choices. Children - like adults - tend to be more cooperative if they feel they have some control. Plus, it removes the option of refusal because you haven't asked something that can be answered with "yes" or "no."
Step 3: Use reverse psychology
Use reverse psychology by forbidding them to do something you want them to do.
Tip
Reverse psychology works best on children under age seven.
Step 4: Challenge them
Turn commands into challenges, as in, "I bet you can't eat all that broccoli."
Step 5: Add a silly element
Add a silly element to a request, like, "Hey, why don't you hop around and whistle while you put away your toys?" They'll likely be so busy focusing on the nonsense part they'll forget to give you a hard time.
Step 6: Break their bad habit
Break their bad habit. Put money in a jar, telling them you will remove a certain amount each time they engage in the offensive conduct. After four weeks - the amount of time psychologists say it takes to break a habit - they may keep whatever is in the jar. It gives them incentive to break the habit, and teaches them that actions have consequences.
Tip
Never use a bribe jar to get a child to eat something; it will send the message that there are "good" and "bad" foods.
Step 7: Stay calm
Remain calm when your child acts up - especially if you usually get emotional. A cool demeanor can be more effective than yelling and screaming, which many children - especially teenagers - tend to tune out.
Did You Know?
The percentage of parents who believe in spanking dropped from 94 percent in 1968 to 61 percent in 2004, according to one study.

[@00.RAFA.00]

I dont have a child why am i here

[@astroboycum3982]

shrek I am a child

[@anderswick3754]

Same

[@hollyvv3]

I’m a child

[@icecreamjunkie6790]

Old Howcast videos are so much fun to binge.

[@jorahmormont5589]

walks8Mom: Whatever you do, don't eat your carrots! Child: Ok. (walks off)

[@JackieJDawg]

This was surprisingly effective in the office. Thanks!

[@dennisvisserchannel]

I don't agree with some of the steps in this video. Step 1 and 2: Very good advise. Step 3: Use reverse psychology: This is simply stuppid. So you'll let a child get away with doing what he or she is 'not suppose to do'. In the example of thooth brushing it's better to explain why it is important to do. If the child is not able to understand it, do the brushing yourself, or make a game out of it, or do it together... there are a lot of better options to choose from. Using step 2 to let them pick their own brush and tooth paste can also help. Step 4: Somewhat good advise. There are better ways. Step 5: Very good advise. Step 6: Using money to stimulate good behaviour is a bad thing. Also, the insentive is too far in time to learn from by little children. Children shouldn't need to be confronted with a bad behaviour weeks after it happened. Talking about the matter is a better option. In this example, use step 1. Teach them ways how to deal with a situation. Keep an eye out to compliment the good behaviour directly. So dispite what the video says, a 'bribe jar' should never be an option. Step 7: Very important.

[@mustanaamiotto3812]

Money is not bad.

[@XandiXDs]

Mustanaamiotto in this case it is..

[@xluiii]

Why am I watching this I dont even have a kid.

[@alexandra.willitts6988]

I was trying to discipline my daughter to "eat her dinner before she eats her dessert" once when she was about 8 years old. She was saying to me that she "didn't want to eat dinner". I asked the question "You don't want to eat dinner"? She said in a loud somewhat barking manner "No, I don't". I said "OK, then you won't eat dinner" and I took her plate of food away from her for the rest of the night. (I had made sure that she has eaten something a little earlier in the evening because I knew that I was going to be doing this to her. I wanted to guarantee that she wouldn't wake up TOO hungry the next morning, so a few hours before dinner I gave her enough to get her through the night.) As she sat there and realized that she wasn't going to be getting any dinner (or dessert) that night she just sat there and cried while the rest of the family ate their dinner first and their dessert last. She never ate her dessert before her dinner after that night. The funny thing about that night was that her older sister and brother realized that I had asked a question knowing what the answer was going to be and realized that I might someday use that trick on them. Actually I had come up with ways of getting my other kids to do what I needed them to do by tricking them as well with other things. One day I had told my other daughter that she had to clean up all of her dirty clothes so that I could wash them. She didn't do that, so the next day she didn't have any clean clothes. She wanted to go out and play with her friends but for at least 2 hours she couldn't do that because she didn't have any clean clothes to wear. Actually I punished her a bit by making her give me everything she had except for her underwear and training bra. Since she couldn't go out in her underwear she had to sit indoors until enough of her clothes were clean enough for about 4 days worth of wear. ONLY THEN did I let her go outside to play with her friends.

[@nelabellovoda]

Everybody here believes that children are little monsters because the rate of spanking has lowered, but in fact, a spoiled brat is most of the time the child who gets beaten a lot because of parents who are too lazy to get information about parenting. Nobody becomes a parent just because they have a child, parenting is of course difficult, unless you don't care about the child, that is.

[@mustanaamiotto3812]

Here in finland beating your child is illegal.

[@davidbergaragonzalez5653]

Reverse psychology seems kind of counter productive. If you forbid them to do something and they don't do it, you can't really punish them or they will get confused.

[@peacegirl164]

Thanks for putting the kids one step ahead.....

[@lacigreen]

61% still believe in spanking?! that's unbelievable. i thought most people knew corporal punishment is extremely harmful...guess not.

[@nelabellovoda]

So every child that is beaten will become a decent adult, that's what you think? Why do you think kids wanna kill their parents??? Just think of a reason, can you do that? I'm not suggesting spoiling as an alternative, of course children need authority in their lives to understand the rules, but that doesn't mean you need to spank them. Remember that children are not animals so they don't need you to hit them and yes they're a lot more intelligent than what you think they are.

[@gerafinali4384]

Great tips! They works wonder with my husband!

[@jesus18288]

reverse psychology Mom: DON'T BRUSH YOUR teeth ME: ok later!

[@warpromo6636]

Thanks, now I can outsmart my parents as they try outsmarting me :)

[@KovuJenkai]

This job is NOT getting easier...As a parent of one, I am always trying to find ways to get my boy to do what he needs to do...I know there's a way for me to do it without freaking out...Knowing that I was exactly like him when I was 3...But...This is one of those videos that were no help to me...Maybe there are people out there that can do these tasks easily, but I'm just not one of them...In saying this, I would like to thank you for the informative video and would like to see more Jax Asant.

[@verynoname]

Now, we must forward this video to every child with access to the internet so they are aware of the trickery developed by adultery.

[@icceeQueen]

Absolutely brilliant

[@brokentombot]

I just use Chris Voss negotiation tactics and it is super easy.

[@1914green]

this is great... now I know how to outsmart my parents with REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY!

[@200Brittany]

i'm 13 and my younger brothers and sisters all have autism. my mum and dad are doing well, but i act like a second mum. i help them lean and behave.

[@partymidnight]

It actually does, you just might not notice. For instance, your parent acts like your not responsible enough to do things for them, so you want to prove to them you can so they get what they want. Or they tell you your not smart enough, or your not experienced enough to do it and yet you try to prove to them that you are. The younger you are, the better it works. It just works sometimes in a silent matter.

[@SnoozersDog]

what i'm getting from the bribe jar is that they get money for doing bad things...can someone please explain this to me if i'm wrong!

[@SkylorKatiman]

my mom just busts out the chancla and everybody does what they’re supposed to do

[@meowmeowington2579]

True in fact very true!But im using this for future reference if i become a mother im using these parenting videos so i have info in the feature!

[@blueberryboi9426]

I get out of hard work by looking exasperated and pretending to cry. Works every time XD

[@fathericravecheddar7835]

Good job

[@rockywspd]

"I bet yo can't eat all that broccoli." You're right, I probably can't.

[@sweetcattv]

This is good warning for kids

[@BlueLion6789]

@HarryPotter4life0786 HOW DO YOU PEOPLE KNOW WHAT AGE AND GENDER VIDEOS ARE MOST POPULAR WITH??

[@MrJustinMcdonald]

I'm a kid, I'm watching this to fight back

[@luckynumber58]

lol im listening to this with headphones and my mom and brother are yelling back and forth in the background

[@luis2626]

What you'll need: *a belt *a backbone Optional: *ignoring hippie trolls

[@girlf4g]

Mom: I bet u cant eat all that broccoli? Me: No i cant eat all that broccoli.

[@cherryblossomsakusas]

i DO tune out my parents but i yell back and say they are yelling because i can tell by their facial expressions

[@wormswithteeth]

Hello Howcast. How are you old friend?

[@thelincolns]

@Bebe313ily thats not always true i have 6 kids and i dont spare the hand when they need it and they are not violent and they are well bahaved

[@Ajindo76]

This works on most adults too

[@embreebane]

I am, at this point in my life, questioning the way I raised my two now adult children. I have great kids, though they are lazy and usless. I must have failed them, somehow, I wrack my memories trying to figure out what buttons I pushed that were the 'wrong' buttons. I could have used some tips to at least try... I hope it's never too late... reverse psycology... on an 18 year old??? I wonder...

[@vidmaster782]

im 9 and i tune out EVERYTHING my parents say

[@MrToken510]

To get your kids to listen to you, you will need: a belt, force Step: apply pressure to bottom with force Ste 2: enjoy obedience

[@thegoldenblob69]

What's a "bribe jar"?

[@snivylovescake]

What my mom does is when i tell i don't want to and she says fine then i do it.

[@mujerazteca18]

Hitting kids is for parents who care and for parents that don't let their kids run over them, hitting them hard is wrong though. My parents did it and I turned out right.

[@macho3168]

The fact at the end is true because parents don't want to get arrested

[@Tattas999]

Yes because it is so hard for parents to outsmart their young children...

[@silverponylover999]

I agree, but only if they do something bad.

[@cresleyb]

im 54 and it works on me

[@berner]

I remember what happened the last time I told a child not to run into the street without looking. Luckily it wasn't my child, phew.

[@tara37830]

Ok My issue with this video, one this will not work. two by bribing kids to stop doing stuff it does not show them anything but if i want money i have to act out and then stop doing whatever, its like paying your kids for good grades, it does not work. I had chores, if i did not do them, i lost like my tv or phone, if i did, i got to keep the things i already had. But i did get money when i wanted, i turned out find. also my parents spanked me and my brother. the corner thing never worked.

[@benjaminvang6223]

Me when I have kids is gonna be like I bet you can't eat all that broccoli than saying that it was a trick and they should be smarter

[@runway34r]

0:48 "Plus, it removes the option of refusal, because you havent asked something that can be answered with yes or no". "Do you want this one or that one?" "Neither"

[@pakrat8000]

step 1: ask what you want them to stop step 2: they'll say no step 3: ask "were you listening" step 4: they"ll say yes ask "what did i say" exaple: Will i stop running? say yes you will

[@shawn.spencer]

I'm surprised the percentage is still that high.

[@UpdogBop]

reverse phycology. jimmy run across the street without looking first ok! *runs* crash lol

[@MrBloodmoneyinc]

@Bebe313ily I was spanked as a child and i've never committed a violent crime, been to jail, juvenile hall, or prison. It didn't make me believe that violence and hurting people can be justified either. iono but i do have a strange obsession with BDSM now!!!

[@shiamhasin3659]

Instead of a spanking I get hit with a bat,pole,hand,etc basically anything that will make a mark

[@avalasialove]

Shiam Hasin I'm pretty sure that borders on abuse. Spanking should only be performed with an open hand and should not leave a mark.

[@RosieIsNosie56]

@AligatormonkeyYAY , actually it worked for everyone i know that has had kids.

[@heyd-slice9418]

Eh .. I always got hit and kicked as a kid. My mom never cared about me she would always tell me to not talk to her while her boyfriends were in the house *cough* most of the time *cough*

[@LucysLifeInTheBabyAliveWorld]

That was not punishment, that was abuse.... Is she out of your life now?😟

[@fuckMEturtles]

Mom: i bet you can eat all that broccoli Me: i bet YOU cant eat all that broccoli Mom; OMOMOMOMOMOMOm FINISHED now eat yours Me: if you can eat all that broccoli do you want mine? Mom: FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

[@waterbender19]

Haha I'm a kid :) actually a teen. Wish my mom used the bribe jar technique!!!

[@Jemima1377]

61%?! That's still a lot! O.O Really?

[@Natenator77]

Challenges? Pfft... Parent: "I bet you can't eat all that broccoli!" Me: "Yeah, for once, you're right..." Parent: o.O Me: trollface.jpg

[@MistressSerenity]

@SnoozersDog No, the mother puts a money in a jar and each time the child does something bad, she takes money out of the jar. After 4 weeks, whatever money is left in the jar, the child can keep.

[@missiwonderwhy]

@AligatormonkeyYAY i know right,my mum once said that and i said right how much do you want?

[@ComedyLoverGirl]

Uh, you forgot step 3. Enjoy hatred and avoidance and eventually retaliation. Violence never solves the problem.

[@shadowstorm3999]

I'm 14...why am I here?

[@maybelikealittlebit]

i think it depends on how hard you hit the kid, i was spanked when i did something completely horrid (not hard enough to bruise or even leave a dark red mark, but hard enough that i knew to stop) and i believe that if i wasn't i would probably be worse than i am now. many people are completely against hitting or spanking or really any form of decent punishment, but there's a fine line between abuse and punishment, and for me as long as you don't cross that line you're fine.

[@MrShaun42088]

wait a minute... you can't just tell the kid to "look both ways before crossing the street". he needs to know why he's looking and what he's looking for.

[@marktsheppard]

...and you do NOT have to iron your clothes... because I am ONLY talking about the metal of iron... and it would also be a good idea to hold a piece of metal... or an iron nail or anything that gets rusty... or even a small peace of rusty metal will get absorbed through your skin... and so when your hands sweat... then you will absorb the element of iron... and the more iron in your blood... the smarter you will be... and the iron will travel to your brain... and make you smarter and I am proof

[@aguilarkevin41]

A bribe jar?!?! XD

[@mooimapirate95]

I don't have to use that trick to get my 4 year old to eat broccoli, she'd rather have broccoli than anything else on her plate!

[@amandagaskarthx]

If my mom was like nice when i didn't do something.. i wouldn't do it.

[@silverponylover999]

I don't think so, I was spanked as a child but only when I did something bad. Look at kids now days parents who don't punish their children have the child running the household. (I should know my cousin is a excelent example and she is only 9)

[@bltsdsubbie]

I'm gifted (not trying to brag), so I outsmarted my parents when I was 8 :)

[@rnh2760]

Rose Jean Granger Weasley.💗 My beautiful daughter and of course Hugo Jean Granger Weasley my handsome son.💟

[@cherryblossomsakusas]

@brian9827 or..."i could...but i don't want to right now...maybe later"

[@BISlover544]

This is more of a guide to "how to avoid parent mindgames"

[@readingislife]

parents need to learn how to relax. but yes, corporal punishment needs to be used at young ages. but parents still need to let go of the reins around 13-16

[@sparkytrick]

"I bet you can't brush your teeth!" "I bet you can fuck off! I'm not a slob I'll brush my goddamn teeth when I'm fucking ready god dammit." My mother has had a hard fifteen years.

[@hotdogsinspace]

this works on kids under 5

[@SzaxGaming]

How to get the money out of the jar without breaking a habit Step 1: Get the jar when your parents aren't around Step 2: Throw it at a wall Did you know Peanut Butter is made of peanuts?

[@Deeskeez57]

"According to one study"

[@KitaDyer]

Spanking works... but some people get over-aggressive with it. Then the children feel threatened and grow up messed up...

[@ErinNote]

Same. Now I know all my dads tricks. He challanges me to brush my hair without any tangles left. Of course i say i'll do it for 5 bucks. You know here is the conversation that goes on every morning. Dad: I bet you cant brush your hair PERFECTLY Me: I bet I can for 5 bucks. Dad. I Bet You can for 3. Me: I Bet I can for 10 Dad: Deal.. Wait Me: Sorry no backsies. XD

[@H4V0K1407]

@Bebe313ily I reckon kids who get spanked tend to be less brats when they reach their teenage years. I've known some really spoiled kids who walk all over their parents.

[@TiffarrineHwang]

I still believe that spanking is a way to discipline children. My parents would spank us and you get a mommy-talk if we do something bad. Growing up to that made me think that I have honor my mother and father and if I don't I end up getting myself hurt. It's like they do it not because they want to but because it's something I did to myself then I make sure I don't do it again. Never did they spank me without explanation. And I love how my parents don't pressure me at school even when I am Asian (lol) and that I just have be kind or do good things. But spanking is not for every family I think and it takes a lot of control.

[@mustanaamiotto3812]

You have horrible parents.

[@TiffarrineHwang]

Mustanaamiotto Wow. Just because my parents use spanking as a discipline they are horrible. Say that to every Asian family. Your parents cannot handle spanking. Accept it. Growing up you see them as an equal and if you think about, you have disrespected them multiple times. They deserve more respect than that raising you up.

[@mustanaamiotto3812]

Cyrinne Tomlinson it is not they cannot handle spanking. it is that it is ILLEGAL in finland. And i do not think something illegal is good.

[@TiffarrineHwang]

Mustanaamiotto Then that's your argument. You should have said it was illegal before judging my parents. By doing so, it made your parents more horrible than mine. I may not have the perfect parents, but I can say I have the best. They taught me to be kind and society has also taught me to express myself well. Ay kog labda, last nalang ka.

[@mustanaamiotto3812]

Cyrinne Tomlinson okay.

[@TheRandomguy06]

I wish my parents use reverse psychology cuz then they will forbid me to do my hw

[@1000dumplings]

my mom watched this so now if she tells me to do this i will just laugh at her....

[@sharksrock1000]

@bltsdsubbie same here! glad im not the only one- most of the people who comment sound a little off in the head, just saying.

[@IamInsperational]

@GAMINGDRPEEPERGUY174 LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL you made my day.

[@wiirocksgh]

@MrJustinMcdonald Me too

[@HarryPotter4life0786]

This video is most popular with: Female 13-17 Male 13-17 Female 18-24 Is it just me, or are the kids outsmarting their parents....with the moms :P

[@Antiquechainsaw]

Haha. I'm watching this so I know when she does this.

[@loonfeet]

wow......

[@NekoYuki]

So did poverty with rich people manipulating the system. I'm just saying.

[@MRKnowitallaboutRFOM]

Hop around whilst putting away lego...

[@BubbleGlitter98]

I knew 2 kids, 1 didn't get spanked and turned out to be a horrible brat with no life, the other one learned discipline and was successful, weird isn't it? -.-

[@jeffsedtal]

I am nine and I only watched this to know my parents tricks and my parents don't even give me 3 bucks if I clean my room.I already know their tricks. Mom:I bet you can't eat all this brocolli. Me:Yeah right. Mom:I bet you 10 bucks. Me:Deal.But only is you cook this stuff. NMom:UUUUUGGGGHHHH!!!!!I HATE YOU! Me:No.I won't brush my teeth. Mom:I forbid you to brush you teeth! Me:Ok!Works for me. Mom:UUUUUUGGGHH

[@EggVillain]

1 study??? Only up until 2004??? So what is it now?

[@HKLesterol]

"How to outsmart your *KIDS*" - fail!

[@PRGME7]

HKLesterol I don't get it