How To Overcome Childhood Emotional Neglect

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Kenny Weiss

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@TheRugghead 3 ай бұрын

Yo! When your existence triggers all the insecurities of your parents..

@konsyjes 3 ай бұрын

I don't think my parent ingored me, exactly. Rather, she offered attention but it was in fact a way for her to get attention and validation, and use me to service her emotional needs. WHen she offered to listen, what she would do is shift very quickly to giving me her appraisal and "advice" (instructions) and then I would be the one who had to listen for a long time. No boundaries were reconed. My impulsivity and constant failures were commonly cited as proof that I should submit to her control. Any decision for which I did not consult with her woud be greeted with panic when revealed. Now I am very ashamed of my failures in life, but at the core I feel no desire to engage with it. When I was a child I just played in my room, just escaping contact with parents. Now I escape contact with the world. I present a positive and empathic persona to my friends and relationships but it is exhausting and unfuilfilling. I have sabotaged every enterprise I took up. Honestly, things are not looking too great. Writing youtube comments on self-help videos at 6 AM in the morning.

@critter_paws 3 ай бұрын

I'm with you. A few steps further down the distruction path now anyway, totally isolated other than painful occasional interactions with the FOO which is worse than full isolation. I messed up and didn't measure safety accurately when I started down the path unraveling and healing from the past. Wounds wide open and re wounded. Don't make that mistake. Find true easy,peaceful safety before ripping off the bandaids. (That wasn't meant to be a 1up, hope it didn't come off that way. I was in the spot you're describing about a year ago and turned the wrong way at a fork in the road) I made a post describing this dynamic on a CPTSD subreddit and there were some helpful/validating comments. If interested, I will look it up and link

@konsyjes 3 ай бұрын

@@critter_paws What do you mean by "fork in the road?"

@Skeijeindi 3 ай бұрын

They both never asked me how I was. My father was unavailable and angry and violent, my mother was so depressed she repeated every day she wanted to die, I was a child. I was terrified of death or hurt as a child, by my father, but my mother never helped