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HOW YOUR CHILDHOOD EFFECTS YOUR ADULT RELATIONSHIPS
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[@ItsKimmyAlexandra]

“What happened in your past is not your fault. It had nothing to do with you.” Now I’m crying.

[@sarakandeh3808]

Dear Alexa that part hit me hard !

[@1love847]

Check out the 4 Agreements Book. Its a game changer. There are 4 of them. Its a simple way to remember never take anything personally.

[@ReadingActivist]

@@1love847 please send a link, is that a book? Sounds interesting

[@mariyaberezhnova9871]

Christinah Blaai 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

[@Princesssestrela]

that book is amazing

[@ellasarol2353]

"Do not accept lower because your parents set the bar that low" ❤️

[@Lyftwithmee]

Ella Sarol DEEP

[@ChocolateBabe_]

Whew girl I needed this. Forgiveness is so tough.

[@jamesinman7364]

I'm James Inman and I approve this comment 👍

[@DIYQueendom]

Re-parenting yourself is gold! What I’ve been doing is looking at myself in the mirror and seeing my inner child then I talk to her by looking at myself in the mirror. I am the grown up and I speak to my inner child in the mirror by calling out my childhood name and saying all the things I wish I heard as a child. ❣️

[@sharonokeyo195]

Lovely

[@SkyAree]

I do that daily..... I thought it was a mental condition...

[@conservativelatinausa9005]

😢😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤that is truly beautiful!!

[@traceylennon1204]

Oh wow...that just might work!!!

[@CadiaIsatu]

I’m starting this.

[@suzanned9680]

Stable people do not always come from stable homes.

[@BreenyLee]

Suzanne Doke that’s why I made sure to state “with exceptions”

[@quieteyes307]

I did not hear it like that. There are exceptions and she mentions that. But the majority of stable people, yes they do come from stable homes. Most people in unstable homes do not take the more narrow path of becoming better. Don’t live your life in offense. She even gave you her story of her home life which was anything but stable, now look at this woman. She has changed MY life through her growth. This woman is fulfilling her purpose in this life and will be at the right hand of God. Will you?

[@RosequartzDivination]

Unstable people come from unstable homes. And the other way around is generally true too but there are exeptions ofcourse.

[@lydialaggstudent1209]

She said there are exceptions

[@missovercomer2488]

That's why she said with exceptions.

[@lorrainezingwena]

A cheating man is not my portion . Speaking this into existence

[@saraiayemperoumal]

Absolutely love this

[@gracelewis6071]

The brain works in positives. May I suggest "Healthy, wise, kind men are my portion." Or whatever you do want to speak life into :)

[@starryeyed777]

Grace Lewis I was just about to comment this too! Peace and love my sisters ✌🏼

[@nicksmith-cx1fx]

@@gracelewis6071 spot on, totally agree on this. We create our own perception and perception is reality

[@priscillaxsafi]

Lorraine Natasha LOUD AND CLEAR

[@ebonyselman2886]

“no man is going to come and make me whole” amen! I can listen to you talk all day

[@VenusVanessa06]

You say you"re "sexually Liberated" but YOU'RE HURT... That touched me so deep down inside, I used to be that very same girl.

[@lilladycn]

Venus Chappie right?? damn.

[@warriorhippie]

Yes me too. Until I had a child with a highly narcissistic individual. Now I’m so done with people.

[@smartymcfly7972]

Abena C don’t stop your shine for ANYONE! Narcs can’t be helped unless they want to be. We will be the best we can be for our babies! ✌🏾❤️

[@simonembatha7707]

I felt that !!!!

[@creamy6680]

“Your type is dysfunctional” well damn Breeny, I wasnt prepared to be exposed like that 🙃

[@yolir.u9452]

4_10October same🤣😭😭😭

[@coenplat2732]

“Self love is the foundation and love is the icing on the cake” is one of the most beautiful and true things ive ever heard!

[@danilorojas-velasquez8892]

¿Qué parte del remix de "Don Don" te gusto más? 🤔 ➡️ What part of the "Don Don" remix did you like most?

[@muralmica]

this title alone is coming for my NECK

[@nicksmith-cx1fx]

sorry I don't understand what this means?

[@sarakandeh3808]

nick smith 😂😂😂

[@muralmica]

nick smith lol basically I feel attacked because it’s a direct message to my life... lol hope that helps

[@nicksmith-cx1fx]

@@muralmica aah ok got you, I understand now it directly resonates with your life

[@Iamclerichena]

i just cried laughing at this!

[@idaradairies]

Can’t wait to heal my inner child and be a better adult

[@paixducoeur5773]

Omg you had me in tears. When you said "Forgive your parents" 😭😭😭😭 I’ve been soo angry with my mom for so many years because of the choices she made that has affected my life in the most destructive way... thank you for this video.

[@ko_2232]

Forgive her! And if you are religious, pray for her. I am in the same situation and I can guarantee she needs it as much as you do. I hope you and your mom can one day come together in love, peace, and kindness. 🙏❤️

[@Philosophyoftruth_]

Dysfunctional parents breed broken kids. Turn your pain into passion and your wounds into wisdom. I have a father , but he isn’t my dad. I live with my dads ex wife - my caretaker not really a mum.

[@Belihoney]

She's your mum. She may not be your "Mother" but if she takes care of you and actually cares for you, that can be a better situation than being with the mother. It's how your treated rather than the title that is important

[@Philosophyoftruth_]

@@Belihoney I don't think she cares. There's more to this story, in the same way, there are two sides to the coin. It's larger than a "simple" divorce. Just because someone is family, doesn't mean they have the "best" intentions for you. The statement "actually cares for you", yes she does fulfill her parenting duties, but her dharma (the eternal and inherent nature of reality, regarded in Hinduism as a cosmic law underlying right behavior and social order) duties ... never did. Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.

[@moments22]

You’re speaking my life ....... alone, isolated, introverted , followed by being severely bullied, sexually abused. These things did attracted the wrong kinds of friends , narcs, sociopaths etc , and behaviours that didn’t serve me . I recently came back to my faith ,. Crying watching this. Because I’ve reached a certain age now . No husband for me by now , looks like a life of celibacy, which is fine. Yes our happiness is an inside job . All of us who have been through these things , and don’t see our own value , we are still here . Love your channel 💓💓💓💓

[@nosipho4899]

Sending love and blessings your way💜

[@mybeautifuljourney7540]

You probably need the alone time, to focus on yourself and heal to avoid repetition. If you need a husband he ll show up at the right time. Goodluck healing Sis....

[@221rabiyat00]

Me too. I am about to accept that living single and alone is my destiny

[@krabhadie9986]

I wish you greatness, you are loved, God is always there for you 🖤

[@traceylennon1204]

I can totally relate to what you experienced in life..God Bless and keep you!! 😌🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@YourGirlSudanny]

Your self awareness & the lessons you've learnt over the years & are now passing on is genuinely so beautiful & admirable. Thank you for sharing girl x

[@BreenyLee]

YourGirlSudanny - Thank you ♥️

[@RachelNicole]

We all have daddy issues in some way shape or form 😕

[@ItsKimmyAlexandra]

Rachel Nicole I have Mommy issues and I feel like that hits harder.

[@danai3630]

@@ItsKimmyAlexandra same

[@nongrada6004]

Dear Alexa what is Dady iseus / mommy iseus ?

[@blank1505]

All kinds of damn issues, who else? Say IIII

[@amasion2882]

It’s weird but a good dad can make dealing with men as a romantic prospect tricky. I had a wonderful father figure but he passed away in my late teens. We were family and he took good care of me, but he was also just a wonderful gentleman. Very smart, kind, funny, well-mannered and debonair...all my girlfriends from school adored him. We also shared intellectual compatibility and enjoyed each other’s company. We were best friends. I think after his passing I assumed it was IMPOSSIBLE to meet a boyfriend or husband with all or some of his great qualities. So I really lowered the bar in who I dated. I married an unsuitable man and the marriage failed for obvious reasons. I get it now. If you are accustomed to being treated lovingly and respectfully, provided with a stable peaceful home, and enjoying good rapport... it’s NOT spoiled or unrealistic to require similar treatment from a life partner. I don’t expect a second dad, but I can’t accept inconsistency or abusive treatment from my husband.

[@sanyaantic9392]

“We come into this world alone and we come out of this world alone” This changed my life and perspective. It hit me like a tonne of bricks in one of your other videos and also relieved me. Thank you Breeny you are a blessing to this generation I look forward to your future videos.

[@jonettaross6030]

Thats why women we all need to Love and understand each other. We can help one another

[@vanessakasongo4245]

"We have to be people that overcome , rise and go above and beyond what our parents did." Say it louder for the people in the back!!!

[@jey7169]

"You're type is dysfunctional" Sadly, this is big facts.

[@teewalkaa]

“Reject you before you reject me”-me af🤯

[@SandrineJamaica]

For some women who have suffered through rape or violation from an older person who you trusted it can really distort future relationships. I pray we all get healing. I need it.

[@richauntie316]

Amen sis,u ain't alone

[@saintzya7839]

Thank you for this! I didn’t realize how many things I was doing out of spite of childhood trauma until this past year. I’m still trying to break some of those bad habits and generational curses. I suggest every young woman, especially us black women to dig into your childhood and find out what bad habits you’re carrying from it! ♥️

[@moneshamcdaniel8604]

"forgive your parents" that broke meeeee they really didnt know any better... i am crying.. but i do appreciate the release.

[@ebonyr.b.1216]

This is a year of rebirth for me. After my mom passed away 6 months ago, I was thrown into a whole new level of maturity. I'm 34 and realizing how blind I was throughout my 20s. It's refreshing to hear a story that I can relate to. :-)

[@BreenyLee]

Ebony R. B. - sending love ♥️

[@emilyd871]

“What happened in your past was not your fault” thank you!

[@RachelNicole]

14:28 is definitely facts. Once you start to heal yourself and acknowledge God in all your ways he will not only direct your path, but bless you and show you the truth as to why life happened the way it did. I literally just recorded how my life has improved without no social media (besides youtube) for over two years because I want to help others heal and share the benefits

[@wonderfulrainyday]

Breeny. Sometimes I get sucked into old patterns and I immediately play your videos and voila- I’m back. Thank you. ✨

[@jenniekiki5583]

Oh yeah me too

[@liberty_rimmer]

Totally agree thank you Breeny

[@elishadomingos5082]

I really felt that part on reinforcement and how the lack of love and affection at home can lead to deeper issues. I feel like this is the reason why I tend to be emotionally unavailable. Breeny please do a video on emotional unavailable people😭

[@zurireynolds3512]

Thank you Breeny Love, Every emotionally damaged QUEEN

[@mybeautifuljourney7540]

Zuri Reynolds Thanks for this

[@SaadetOZTRK]

Next vid suggestion: How to find our passion in life

[@Sara-vh6sq]

I really needed to hear this. Never knew how my childhood effected my adulthood. Makes a lot of sense and breaks my heart. 💔😭 I don't even know where to start to heal.

[@BreenyLee]

Yaya B - Start with acceptance. Sending virtual hugs 🤗

[@Sara-vh6sq]

@@BreenyLee Thank you sis! I appreciate you and the videos you make.

[@badvibevs4052]

13:00 “what happened to you in your past was not your fault. It had nothing to do with you”...thank you❤️

[@steffikreis2030]

i relate to insecure coming from lack of affirmation and so many people don‘t understand how much it impacted me because they always say „oh but you weren‘t abused you should be fine.“

[@lamissea7289]

are you a psychic? like seriously every video comes at a time where i need to hear your exact words..you’re magical Breeny. ps : yes i cried.

[@blank1505]

Did someone say self sabotage...? 😰 currently, I am in a loving, healthy, secure relationship. However, I am my own enemy. I was doing great with my partner for almost a year and now I feel like I am crashing and slowly burning... I have plenty of childhood trauma in different areas which I’ve been learning to heal from. These hinder me in my relationship. It’s a bit easier to deal with it on my own but now I have a beautiful partner who is INCREDIBLY understanding and patient with me, which makes me feel even worse. 😖 You see what I mean here? Anybody else?! Thank you for providing this wonderful content and keeping it 💯 with us. Sending love and light.

[@shaneroque_]

"Forgive your parents, because they didnt know better, if they could they would. They didnt know how" . Thank you so much for sharing this, I love this and really needed to hear this. For years I blamed myself and my parents, but now I know there is no one to blame.

[@km7890km]

Hoping you get a podcast🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@annishakanyepa9303]

I had a childhood that shaped me for adulthood before I was even one 😑 finally embraced it so that I can move another step in life without thinking of how much I've been through 😐it's all thanks to God😇🙏

[@jazzlynnleday6921]

that’s right😇😇😇😇🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@d4i1ynn]

Sometimes I click on your videos thinking it may have nothing to do with me, then I watch it and it has everything to do with me. God brought me here, thank you so much!

[@ladylorp5436]

It’s sad but it’s the truth, I’m filled with so much anger I cry when I speak about it but this therapy is gonna give me the help n closure I need I’m hopeful

[@pardisarjmandi8889]

I’ve known my childhood has affected my adult life now for a few years. The thing that is most difficult for me is using my knowledge from books and videos and actually changing. I still haven’t been able to fully heal from it but it gets better over time ❤️ don’t lose hope people

[@4uThereAlways]

Haven't seen my dad since I was 14, and now at 20 I still find myself attracted to guys who end up leaving me out of nowhere. Working on loving myself and living for my inner child

[@tiadillon]

Wow, literally feel like we lived the same life

[@loveyvo]

Dealing with loneliness in winter while overcoming negative patterns :P

[@authenticmars6682]

This is really hard to take in . I admire you for having so much courage to talk about childhood trauma. I don’t know you personally , but I can resonate with everything. Much love from 📍 San Francisco , CA

[@musicloverkeke3314]

You are speaking the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

[@missfi8684]

I didn't know how deep I had buried my past until this video. I've cried my eyes out 😭😢... Thank you so much Breeny for being our big sister and wanting us to be the best us we could be. I love you

[@melinoesedah9762]

Thank you for your encouraging words. It took me years to acknowledge, accept, and overcome my childhood/teenage trauma. In my mid 20s I realized that I had a choice between being bitter about the past or forgive. I've seen what years of resentment and bitterness can do to people and I don't want to be like that. I forgive but won't forget the ugliness in certain people's hearts.

[@juliaj3403]

Breeny, you are a real life angel! Thank you for sharing your old soul wisdom with the world. Lets all heal and grow together :)

[@BreenyLee]

Julia J 💋♥️

[@tamarathomas4199]

Nothing else excites me like your update!!!!

[@hollyrichmond5213]

I’ve had a similar childhood my mother was so busy looking after my disabled brother and my dad was abusive wasn’t there much think this is why I seek male attention and lower my standards. Thank you Breeny for your kind words💞

[@ladylorp5436]

I’m in therapy right now for this topic, my childhood has affected n is still affecting my adulthood and I’m currently in therapy and reading Breaking the spirit of Rejection recommended by my therapist, it’s sad but it’s true

[@lalasings21]

I believe she’s a goddess

[@KAY-sk6tk]

I literally argued with grown ass women (late 40s early 50s) about how your upbringing affects your dating decision in adulthood. Ppl seriously underestimate the affect your childhood has throughout your lifespan.

[@h.k.ih.k.i2777]

Wow wow wow wow! This girl is what I call reflective and outspoken. Breeny you’re literally my life coach. May god bless and protect you and yours. Thank you really. I’m gonna forgive my dad and re-parent myself!

[@TheCristibsb]

Happiness is an inside job, people can only add to what you already have and feel. Teach us queen ♥️

[@larasmith2931]

🦋Patience is hard but you have to trust Gods timetable

[@evrydaykris]

you are really anointed. I don't even know if you know that but you are.

[@Aphrodisiac000]

I was sexually abused by 6 men in my life I’m 21 now. I’m still trying to heal for it. It happened when I was just a 6 year old to my teenage. I’m glad that I had my spiritual awakening and I can see things on a different perspective but still it’s disturbing when I get this thoughts

[@larasmith2931]

🦋so true, you never know what a person has been through until you walk a mile in their shoes

[@zuzanna4380]

"that's not who you are anymore" I'm not gonna lie, so many things changed since then but I stull used to feel like that's me, but it's not. Thank you ❤️

[@mariannimoh5276]

Who are the 4 haters who disliked this video?!

[@missharris1880]

That's exactly who they are "Haters"!!

[@sweetandsour46]

Your wisdom is memorizing

[@Alessaria]

Love your videos. You feel like my big sister giving me her wisedom when I need it. Love 💕

[@Sageambitions]

I have such a similar story as you and probably many other women. I pray we all get through our childhood trauma. The wounds and the trauma wasn’t our fault but the healing is OUR responsibility. Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏾 Love & Light ✨

[@cheriemadame933]

Thank you Breeny! This video is exactly what I needed in order to realise that things what happened in the past are not my fault and neither from anyone else. I spent a lot of time in the hospital in my childhood and my parents took good care of me, but I realise now that I needed their support by telling me that I am strong enough and responsible of my life and that everything will be fine. The trauma of the hospital is still affecting me as a grown up woman but I realise that no matter how hard the situation is, God is here to protect and that everything is going to be fine:)

[@smartymcfly7972]

Breeny out here saving lives!!! ✨💆🏾‍♀️✨

[@hotgirljanet]

I’m so thankful I found your channel about a year ago because you’re words have helped me in my healing and growth process SO MUCH. Please keep doing what you’re doing because you’re such an empowering figure, it’s so crazy all you’re videos are divine timing for me bc this is exactly what I needed to hear❤️ thank you.

[@fayalyunania]

Your speech is literally healing! Thank you for this video

[@Iamclerichena]

There's so much healing that happens when we share stories like these, Thank you so much for sharing this. The world needs it!

[@Mizzbadbihhcentral]

No lie Breeny this hit my heart like my core. Thank you loved this

[@KiannaSuber]

Thank you for being vulnerable to share your story queen 👑

[@13MissSammy]

The forgiveness part is what I struggle with, letting go of the anger for all the issues I have because of them.

[@erviem.5056]

My gosh, you spoke to me sis. My friend recommended this video a moment ago and I am glad she did! You are amazing and beautiful. Please keep making videos. You are helping so much from your knowledge and experiences and uses it as an example and it truly does hit every situation. Thank you 🙏 I have the power to change my course of life. You are such a positive influence. You are so amazing and I can’t stress that enough! TY ❤️

[@amyesmae9692]

I actually love you breeny, your advice and guidance is helping so many people. Mad to think the changes I've made in my life since watching you only 2 weeks ago. Small changes, baby steps but the happiness shines through. God bless xxx

[@tacos6977]

I can't thank you enough for this. I'm a student and to be completely honest I'm really self insecure and my self esteem is so low, that sometimes I can't even study because I know I'll fail every test. But I'll try I guess. Thank you breeny, you make me feel like I have someone who believes in me💜

[@zojaliliszalai1652]

I've been searching for this kind of video for a very long time. Finally, i found this and wow you speak the heavy TRUTH girl. Thank you for this video and good healing to everyone✨

[@gehrilin2210]

Your words are so comforting. Thank you so much Breeny. Much love!

[@maddieziari6974]

This video was literally what I needed. I cried so much lol. Thank you so much queen for all the wisdom and love you bless me and your other viewers with 😭 I’m so thankful I discovered your videos, they’ve changed my life in such a huge way.. you’re such a big influence 💛 praying for you and for your beautiful relationship! God got y’all 💛

[@nurulfajriaulia3848]

Love, you don't know how much you've helped me to grow as a person by doing these videos. I'm subscribing right away! xx

[@priscillaxsafi]

This is why i fell for you and your channel, relatable, true, real and wisdom

[@cynthiakipkemoi4408]

am all tears . Thanks Breeny for these wonderful session

[@KaylinJanae2011]

I’ve decided I may only be able to do one of your videos a night. I adore this nightly self discovery though, thank you for you!

[@AdeleDaisyx3]

i love the way you look at things and explain things, it truly speaks to me and i feel injected with insight and will to improve myself for myself

[@Clawdea11]

Breeny!! I want to thank you sooo much for making these videos. I found you 3 weeks ago and I've been listening to your past videos everyday. You've helped me remember how to be confident and how to love myself again. I was with a narcissist for 4 years and I lost myself. I love you Breeny! You changed my life! ❤❤❤❤

[@rwansays]

You deserve all the love and success in the world.. you give so much insights and genuine help and guidance. Love you lots

[@cobress5325]

Whewwwww the title and then your beginning stages of life sounds very similar to my own. I’m also the youngest! This is crazy. I needed this and I appreciate your transparency so much. Much love and healing 💕!! You’re doing amazing things. I am so proud of you!

[@Ashleyunfiltered]

Seriously you are like my big sister , God Bless you ❤️ I didn’t even know you were a believer ... makes it that much sweeter 🙏🏾😩

[@mahajahthermo]

This video is exactly what I needed. My dad grew up with no one telling him he is loved and cared for or praising him for being good so naturally he raised my siblings and I like that. On the other hand my mom grew up with her parents always telling her she is loved and actively showing interest in her. This video brought tears to my eyes especially when you said that genuine love can melt a cold heart and that's exactly what happened with my dad over time. He never told us he loved us or genuinely took interest in us but we still did. All my siblings and I ever wanted from him is for him to show he cared or say that he cared and take interest in us and he has been doing that although now we're older (im 19) he now says he cares about us and loves us and wants to get to know us. I love your videos and I will definitely be watching more of them.

[@micaelalottering6922]

Preach sis! lack of affirmation and validation in childhood really makes you feel unseen or unheard! i couldnt agree more with this entire video... it all starts within ourselves, we have got to listen to our inner child and heal from there! peace and love Breeny

[@deezyhbic5218]

Breeny girl, Im a new subscriber, maybe two weeks now! Can i say as soon as i got on youtube today, i saw your vid on my home screen and i wanted to cry. I’ve been practicing self awareness and Ive been analyzing my childhood or lack there of because i too also blocked off so many things like i dont remember shiiiit and im introverted i dont talk my feelings(youngest of 5) i tried my best ro stay out the way in my household anyways before i watch i just want to say thank you so much for being such a wonderful, positive, wise, strong and caring woman! A helpful and open woman Breeny. I feel like youve helped me so much in such a short time and you are just wonderful Breeny! I know this video is going to make me go through the motions. Thank you for opening up on this subject! Truely truely god sent!

[@Justin-TimeForDaShitz]

This was beautiful...I’m 43 years old and I finally have the time to work on myself. I’m a mother of 3 so I was always busy and didn’t have the time to heal my past wounds and childhood trauma. Thank you for sharing your story and giving us this valuable information to start the healing process.

[@saraiayemperoumal]

Breeny you radiate inside and out, thank you for using your platform to teach us women to love ourselves and to get through things. Very inspirational I always feel so motivated after I watch your videos! God Bless You!

[@brianasanchez8039]

Breeny, I am so grateful for you! 💛

[@sendinglovesupport]

This is such a powerful video... And I'm sure you're such a powerful woman. Than you, than you, and thank you... This looked like a professional therapy session! I've watched few other videos of yours, too, and I found them amazing. Oh, you're helping so many people out there! Thank you so so much, and lots of love ❤

[@casshagerty]

I can seriously listen to you talk all day. You are extremely wise 🙏🏼

[@bryannaweigel9581]

“I am already whole” is such a powerful statement/affirmation. Thank you for emphasizing this.

[@RashmiSingh-my6lh]

Oh my god, I am so hooked to your videos. You have no idea how much impact you are making in my life. Im 34 & was miserable till I found you. I am getting to know myself now! I am so grateful to have found you to find myself ❤

[@marta.l9883]

Thank you for this video! Love it, I feel much better. Youre the best teacher that I've never had