how to rebuild self-trust | rebuilding your relationship with you | @tiffanylaibhen

🤎 pre-order your self-love journal prompts here: www.tiffanylaibhen.com/shop - limited amount arriving before Christmas + New Year 🤎
first, I’m so happy to be back after an unexpected 2-week hiatus! I had another version of this filmed about a month ago so you can imagine how excited I was to get it up.
self-trust is a crucial part of self-actualizing + achieving the most aligned versions of ourselves. without it, there will always be a little subconscious voice convincing you that it won’t work. as with any other relationship, + more importantly than any other relationship, showing ourselves consistency + that we can in fact trust ourselves takes time to earn back. it will take time to stop hearing that voice… it will take repetitiveness + eventually, the results you’ve been waiting for. you can absolutely fix this relationship with yourself ….+ today, we’re going over some ways to get you started. grab your bevvy + lets get into it!
links + other ways to journey with me:
linktr.ee/tiff...

[@TiffanyTV]

ready to learn more about yourself? purchase your self-love deck here: www.tiffanylaibhen.com/shop/decks … happy healing! 😌🤎

[@reeree8760]

I literally struggle with this so much for years. I feel like I lack holding my self accountable and I let myself down all the time so I'm just sharing this here as a start. I really need to try this an let perfectionism and procrastination go, I know I need to😭 !! Y'all please comment back in a few days and check in on me....

[@TiffanyTV]

we got you! pinning this comment 🤎🤎

[@reeree8760]

thank you sooooo much 💖💖@@TiffanyTV

[@niengneang]

i’m so happy you found yourself

[@NeloOjepa]

Sis! this is so me right now. I can really relate to your comment.

[@TiffanyTV]

we’re checking in on you girl! how’s it going?

[@dejadash]

keeping your promises to yourself is peak self care! Disciplining ourselves to be consistent is so crucial!! so glad to see more people speak on this

[@TiffanyTV]

yes yes yes 🎯

[@flowkaylabella]

This was such a powerful conversation and it was beautifully put. Everything we desire is just waiting for us to leap into it. Once we trust that we encompass what we need to not only create it, but sustain it, it just flows right in to our reality. Our relationship with trust flows through everything we do and experience. Thank you for these reminders and for your delivery🤍

[@TiffanyTV]

whew. a word sis 🙌🏾

[@okklkk9694]

Right!? I’m so inspired, God bless you. This is good KZbin 😊

[@msbantsi1279]

6:24

[@Osepeaceodion7628]

Seeing this at a point in my new relationship where I feel I'm not getting enough attention from my partner and it all dawned on me I haven't nourished myself with the attention I crave from someone else, if I gave myself half the time I used in worrying over what I was lacking from someone,I would actually feel less pain or fear of abandonment

[@TiffanyTV]

oof!! this. I realllly wish I learned this in the beginning of my relationships. strengthening your relationship with yourself will help you determine where your insecurities are + where people are actually falling short. it’s so clear for me now. I pray that for you as well love 🙏🏾🤎

[@KaylaCoils]

😢 self love is important especially in relationships

[@zariahsmith3606]

Mmmmm! Yes ma’am. And to add to your point, I used to be so anxious when it came to even not getting a response back - until I listened to a podcast and they said “if you are worrying about text back, ask yourself what could be doing right now? and nine times out of 10 there is something that you probably need to get done but instead you more focused on not getting a response. I say that to say, you stress less when you pour into yourself. So I loved that you made this comment.

[@Celery459]

​@zariahsmith3606 Thank you for sharing this tip. I will definitely be trying this. Also would you mind sharing the podcast? It sounds great 👍

[@iamdamya3944]

as a perfectionist this was everything i needed to hear. The fear of it not turning out exactly how I want sets me back way more than I’m proud to admit

[@TiffanyTV]

I completely relate

[@alinamashi]

same here!!!😢

[@EatMyTweets13]

This came at the right time just turned 24 this year and I’ve been ALL OVER since 18 and I’ve had the idea of why but never put the pieces together. I just wanna become the person I’ve been dreaming of the last 3 years.

[@KhadijaMaxamed-dn3on]

We're same age nd same ambition but this year I try my best to commit at least one habit I wish us to be better before the end. Of the year

[@sophtheghost]

same exact thing here. except i’ll be 25 in october ❤ we got this

[@yurihime9739]

Just turned 23 a few days ago, going through the same thing!! Wishing all of y'all the best fr

[@TiffanyTV]

can I just tell y’all how proud I am to see each of you at this age working on yourselves in this way?? I started my journey around that age + looking back, I wish I had given myself more love. So while you grow + learn, be sure to truly love yourself. love yourself the way you want others to love you. listen to your inner voice … I spent years trying to get back to myself. sending all of you love + the biggest hugs. you got this 🤎

[@EatMyTweets13]

@@TiffanyTV Yes the process is so hard in the beginning, giving yourself grace for the things we’ve been through that holds us back. Ive been learning that loving myself is definitely forgiving myself for just being young and not knowing unlearning, re-learning, & re-mothering myself. The process is very difficult however all journeys are rewarding in the long run. So thank you for the videos you’ve put here these will continue to help me along the way.

[@chalyndajackson9384]

I have wanted to learn Spanish since I was a teenager. I AM 32 NOW. I have (off and on) been "learning" Spanish for over a decade now and I have missed out on opportunities because of it. Thank you for this video! I'm going to try my best and be consistent for a month and see how far I go!

[@amyp2130]

Suerte Chalynda 🧡😉

[@SmellMyKnee15]

Espero que tengas todas las cosas que quieres y que tengas mucha alegría y amor en tu vida. Buena suerte. ❤

[@blackheartcardigan]

Are you me? Estudiaba español casi tres años, pero nunco lo logré. Espero que lo he dominado. Viviría en otro pais a este punto en la vida. Échale ganas!

[@JaDaisaRenee]

11:33 THISSSSSSSSSSS EF THEM right now, forget what they’re doing not doing could’ve done.. it doesn’t matter as long as I’m filling my cup/fueling my tank and reassuring myself LITERALLY NOBODY OR NOTHING ELSE MATTERSSSS , I redirect that energy towards them and gracefully into myself!!!

[@shatings5605]

Thank you. I grew up the same way, lack of discipline and tones of criticism and have had shitty trust in my self. Its like squeezing water out of a rock for me to get things done sometimes. I appreciate your honesty.

[@TiffanyTV]

those are just habits love. + habits learned + unlearned. I believe in you 😌🤎

[@toyah231]

Learning to set boundaries is the hardest thing in my life and this is making sense. I lost trust and letting others come 1st. I'm in my 40s and I'm still learning new things about myself 😢

[@TiffanyTV]

one thing I’m learning… the learning + growing never stops. the longer we’ve had a habit, the tougher it is to break, but it’s possible. sending you love 🤎🤎

[@selahsimpson8911]

Thank you for this video! I’m 16 years old and as a young girl i’ve been through a lot in the last 4 years back to back. I have lost myself, fallen in to bad habits, and gained unhealthy detachment issues. I would start things, then quit. I would get mad at people easily and cut them off easily.But, this past two years I’ve really been focusing on myself and learning more about me, and I am now in the process of learning that nothing exists outside of yourself. This video helped me to realize that I need to learn discipline when it come to my goals and to stop self doubting. Thank you!

[@destinymiller6122]

I was just like you. Keep going baby keep your head held high !!!

[@MrSexydivas]

Keep going, young one. It will not be a straight line but keep going. I know it's easier said that done. But trust me. I've been there. You got this

[@Little45light._]

❤

[@TiffanyTV]

the fact that you’re thinking this way at 16 !!! 🤯 baby girl, you are years ahead of your time. I literally am so proud + I don’t even know you! sending you all the love. you’re special 🫂🤎

[@Melle_Tanya_]

I needed this! I pray to reestablish my relationship with myself. I’ve been trying and giving up this year and it has affected my confidence and believing in myself. It’s been self sabotaging, not showing myself grace or love. It’s been so heartbreaking and deep down within my soul I want the relationship back with myself ❤❤❤ p

[@Divigne]

Woke up at 4am to get my day started after not waking up on time for the past two weeks. Subconciously clicked on this video to listen to as I got some work done around the house, and had no idea that this would be the message that I needed to the core of me. Thank you! ❤️

[@TiffanyTV]

whew. this really warmed my heart. it was meant to be. sending you love sis 🤎

[@jccn1728]

I appreciate this so much. As a 56 yr old wife and mom of 4 I’ve depended on others to let me know how I’m doing. I was always afraid to invest in my wardrobe and my self care but noticed it was me stopping me noone else

[@LittleBird888]

Needed this. Thank you! Trying to break free from distrusting myself and my intuition after healing from lots of narcissistic abuse and sabotage from MANY envious people.

[@AvaLynn85]

WHAAT!? GIRL..This is the absolute truth. Especially keeping word to self😢 This is an on time message for me. Thank you 💞

[@TiffanyTV]

you’re so soo welcome love 😌🤎🤎

[@seektruth5750]

Figuring it all out, starting over, having prospects is a blessing, ultimately working towards being the best version of myself, I want to meet her soooo bad 😊❤

[@TiffanyTV]

she is right there waiting for you!! keep going love, especially in the hard moments. if you can persevere through those, that’s where the magic happens

[@kdogg1372]

Im in this phase of my life. I have become very assertive as I've gotten older. Setting boundaries and trusting myself to honor them before expecting others to.

[@carmencatalina9086]

I felt this video. I started and stopped when it comes weight loss but finally sticking with it and mistakes happen but got to stick it through and put in work and I’m work on waking up at 7 am or 8 am and workout and get dressed early. And bedtime early. I’m feeling so good. This video was helpful ❤

[@TiffanyTV]

yessss girl!! not easy at all! but you’re doing it 🤎🤎

[@NanditaDa]

I have the opposite issue. I pushed myself so often so much to be really disciplined. And right now, everything in me rebels at trying even the slightest bit of control whether from myself or others.

[@alyshadomize7859]

This video was everything I needed to hear as I’m on this journey of finding myself again. I have a habit of starting and not finishing things. I will find something to commit to for 30 days to rebuild trust with myself. Thank you ❤

[@TiffanyTV]

I’ve been there so many times girl. this might be the first time I’ve really seen it through + it’s the most peaceful I’ve been… stick it out, you deservveeee. sending you love on your journey mamas 🤎

[@tondrablakemore817]

Whew chile!! This video hit home and stung a little bit!! This has been revealed to me during self-reflecting and self-realization. Trusting myself. Trust is the foundation of ANY healthy relationship, and the most important relationship anyone can have, outside of the one with their God/Creator of all things, is the one you have with yourself. If you don't trust yourself, it will affect every relationship you have, business and personal. Trusting yourself means you also have to forgive yourself for past mistakes and bad decisions. You have to accept that the mistake and/or bad decision is what you did, NOT who you are. You get to learn from those bad decisions and make another choice in the future. This is something that has taken me a long time to learn, and coupled with being a perfectionist, it can make you turn on yourself really quickly. It's important to do a self-assessment and note what was done, why it was done, how it made you feel, and how you responded so you can recognize your patterns and make changes conducive to the life you want for yourself and the person you want to be. Great conversation!!❤

[@yurihime9739]

Wow 12:35... What you said about giving yourself back that power and looking within... Wowwww that was very insightful

[@quiteliterallyeverything]

This is what 2023 helped me come to terms with and therefore embody this finally.

[@mikobarbi]

So true what you said about when you take good care of yourself you don't look outside

[@kimberlylopez6417]

Finally found someone who is real ❤

[@taleahjanae]

love the treat yourself the way you expect others to treat you method!

[@novaastv]

Yesss it’s your job to love you and be there for uu. Ain’t nobody gonna love you like how you love you, unconditional love 🥰💯

[@TiffanyTV]

🎯🎯

[@melaninatedstardust4081]

OMG!!! The first 45 seconds of this video hit home hard. I do give up on me quick but will be there for others. I just told myself yesterday that I need to get me a chance the same way I do for others. Thank you for this Tiffany

[@SoftwareDownloadSuccessful]

The best self trust video Ive seen yet and I agree, self love and self trust go hand in hand. I realize that I'm lacking in both.

[@winnie_wanja]

Firstly you're gorgeous and have such an internal glow. Thank you for sharing this important message so gracefully and authentically.

[@TiffanyTV]

thank you so much love 🙏🏾🤎

[@burnyell]

I've been struggling with these stuff for years. I keep letting myself down and keep on going back to square one. I'm glad I found your video! This came at the right time. I'll try to work on committing to myself for 30 days and I'll see where it goes.

[@iMizuJay]

This is exactly how I felt for the past two years. I feel like my relationships with people became trash and I didn’t know how to explain to my close friend on what I was going through. I didn’t even understand what was going on

[@MsGetEmGrl]

Understand that EVERYTHING is fleeting 💯

[@TiffanyTV]

‼️🙌🏾

[@LadyAbstract]

For me im working 2 jobs currently so by the time im finally off both jobs theres a small window that i try to squeeze as much productivity as possible. Sleep is what i sacrifice most and i tell myself that these 2 jobs are temporary as i use this money im saving to invest in a more fulfilling business and life.

[@amberfitzpatrick-r7u]

This video was awesome !! Even at this age(that I won't mention lol) I have been struggling to "get back to me" for the last two years. Everything you said is very true. It all starts with us, and when show up for ourselves everything else flows!

[@acol23]

Beautiful message. I also did not grow up with discipline or routine and I always say I want to go with the flow. This made me realize that going with the flow isn’t working. I’m going to challenge myself to commit to a morning routine for the next 30 days. Hopefully I will see some changes in my life.

[@swoonthemoon]

Sometimes the algorithm knows me better than I know myself. I've never seen your videos before, but this showed up and ON TIME. Thank you for this.

[@TiffanyTV]

algorithm… universe. something is at work 😌 you’re so welcome love 🤎

[@kylieking8163]

She's so beautiful. I can't

[@TiffanyTV]

aww thank you love! 🤎

[@yen1159]

Every single thing you said wow, it’s so me. The wanting to wake up early in the morning, be more organized, show myself love, do my hair, nails, dress up. I literally told my therapist this morning that I was my worst enemy and slowly working on embracing who I want to be and forgiving the person I was and no longer speak to that version of myself with resentment. I understand that I had postpartum depression, covid happened, the first death I experienced of a close relative, almost divorcing. These past three years have been hectic and I love the fact that I can understand more and surround myself with people and content that aligns with who I am becoming ❤

[@moveflowstudio]

im 3 minutes and this is precisely what I needed to hear, wanting to hold on to being undisciplined and going with the flow but still having the things I can relate to so much!

[@Trisha-Joelle]

this is the story of my life. jumping into something new when the one things didn't work.

[@TiffanyTV]

‼️

[@introretro]

I was recently asking myself, why can't I get on and do these things I know need finished, especially when it's so painful this feeling of being triggered, overwhelmed, like a failure in some way. I've known discipline is important, but I didn't realize trust in myself or lack of it was part of why I struggled with discipline. Thank you very much for this video, it's exactly what I needed to hear and understand about myself.

[@rayC1301]

The opening statement alone 🥹🥹

[@Neha165616Zouis]

This is my first time on your channel, and I'm so taken with how eloquent and elegant you are. I loved watching you speak. That was just the cherry on top of all the sensible points you were putting across. Keep up the great work!

[@athenacummings]

I watched some of this, had therapy and she said that I don't trust myself. I came back, finished and subscribed.

[@TiffanyTV]

I'm glad you're here love 🤎

[@Katice634]

I’m so happy I found your channel. I’ve been struggling with staying true to myself every since a traumatic event. I’m slowly starting to trust myself again. It feels good to take my power back.

[@jasmineshelton759]

Setting boundaries with the ones close to is that we love dearly is because we wish to keep them in our lives. I say this to myself as I've had some self doubts in the beginning of my boundary Setting journey. I'm still very much in the midst of unlearning so much... and then I find your content💓

[@TiffanyTV]

🥹🫂

[@babyface042889]

This is literally me right now and I just keep trying to stick to something I have been waking up at 4am everyday and I’m going to add on another habit

[@sincerelylatoshamonique8781]

This video is the Gospal. I can have a passion for something, but easily get discouraged because I don't trust that I can succeed. I sometimes don't believe in myself, and then psych my mind into thinking that others won't believe in me too. I've accomplished so much already back when my motivating was at an all time high. Then I stop trusting me with my own endeavors, but provided so much support and trust directed at what others had going on for themselves. Thank you for these Golden Gems. #NewSubscriber⚘️

[@TiffanyTV]

whew! beyond relatable… every word you said. that was me for years but I promise, getting clear + seeing it through… making it past the point where you usually give up is where the magic happens. you got this love 🤎

[@Mampleasewhat]

Omg ur literally speaking my exact situation, thw timing of seeing this video is so beneficial.

[@alissamiche]

I've heard this message communicated in different ways but this resonated in a completely different way, really thankful I found this channel

[@Perfectpeace19]

You describe it how I felt. Like I heard it before, but it was different this time. Very motivating!

[@thendoronnyramashia749]

My wife sent me this video and after listening to this, I get why she sent me this. She knows how I tend to struggle with trusting myself and being confident in myself. This message just gave me those steps required to assert that self-trust back into myself once more!

[@simateimourianmotlagh2023]

You are so beautiful. I like following powerful women who try to have meaningful life🌱

[@Chasing_Destiny]

This video captivated me for some reason. I haven’t even watched it yet and the cover photo just snatched my attention !

[@TiffanyTV]

oof. that feels like something calling you to it 🤌🏾

[@emmanjoki2449]

Powerful..this was me...I have learnt soo much and will keep keeping on. Co dependency robs you much .

[@TiffanyTV]

oof thisss 🎯

[@SimplyKeeSamone]

This is such a powerful message...this is exactly what I needed to hear today. 🥺 Thank you so much Tiffany!

[@TiffanyTV]

you are so welcome, love🤎

[@heal801]

BEST video on KZbin about building self trust ❤.

[@TiffanyTV]

I really appreciate that 🙏🏾

[@aminaram9478]

This has been the video I’ve watched that will probably help me the most of all the other self development videos! Amazing!

[@DivinitytheGenie]

i know i’ve rewatched this 10 times.

[@TiffanyTV]

🥹🫂

[@queenshanalee]

I'm still working on my self-reliance, I'm not all the way quite where I want to be but I'm so thankful to God that I'm not where I used to be.

[@odugwujuliet1399]

I want to leave this comment here as a reminder or will I say to rem my starting point ,cause I have left my self all this years and usually don’t have that self discipline,I find myself doing things I said I will never do again and doesn’t do the necessary things am needed to do but right now am ready to build myself to that strong ,wonderful,successful woman that I am .23now but will be right with my life soon

[@shimmershawls3049]

Wow wow wow!! The timing of this video to show up on my feed in a miracle ❤

[@eminamemic636]

you are so zen when you speak i love it

[@tiffanymcalphin6897]

Thank you sooo much for this! This is one of the best "self help" videos I've seen. I got more out of this than multiple high dollar therapy sessions 😂. This really hit me hard..step 1: identify the problem...this honest, gem-filled video helped me do just that. Definitely gonna watch this a few more times to let it soak into my subliminal...someone should do a 30 day early wake up/routine challenge so we can support one another. Ive been trying for YEARS just as you mentioned. ❤

[@alynarae3469]

Very well spoken, it’s thought I have myself but maybe without the clarity and Strength that came from hearing it in the way you have expressed it. Great video thank you!

[@foodmadewithlove324]

Oh my God this is so me😢.But recently I started to keep my word since Monday.I catch myself yesterday almost give up, but I remember that if I abandon myself it will be more difficult to have myself back.

[@steffdahippie8595]

OoOf! The intro! I felt that to my core!

[@niqq19]

This is exactly what I did and stuffed. Staying true to my word starts with discipline.. So glad I found your channel

[@TiffanyTV]

discipline 🙌🏾 welcome to the family love 🤎

[@beniology101]

"Treat yourself the way you expect others to treat you."💖

[@Foreverdifferntxx]

Thank you - came at the right time at the right place

[@_JoshGordy2x]

Amazing video! Self-love is what we must have initially before looking to gain/give it elsewhere. Discipline is the root of all success. You hit MAJOR points!

[@TheKariuki89]

Keeping promises to yourself is so important.

[@TiffanyTV]

yess ‼️

[@bianncajones]

I just came across your channel and I really appreciate all the gems you just dropped. You've got a new subscriber for sure.

[@sophtheghost]

ah these are the thoughts i’ve been avoiding and i knew i needed to sit and listen 😂

[@lilyineden]

🌷 listen, I just came across of your video and want to take this timeout to thank you. it's so on point. Thank you much for sharing your wisdom. I relate to your experience, havent got ahold of the discipline part. And that's the most important thing. Thank you again you here.

[@msjones_underrated]

Ooohh may t you forever experience greatness. This was an amazing reassurance video for me. Thank you for sharing 🤎

[@tragedygoddess]

Damn, this was a SERMON.

[@TiffanyTV]

just dropped some self-love, self-awareness prompts + convo starters that I think will really help you guys through these moments 🙏🏾 : www.tiffanylaibhen.com/shop

[@Zeebeezeezoo]

This was an amazing watch - thank you so much for sharing! 💕

[@TiffanyTV]

thank you mama 🙏🏾🤎

[@djxn_]

I’m also a perfectionist with severe black & white thinking. The first step is knowing this now & working on being okay with things going wrong (that will always happen) & it doesn’t mean you should abort something just because 1/2 things went wrong

[@TiffanyTV]

🎯 bingo!

[@OliviaVik_]

okay i LOVE your vibes, you are radiant

[@octoberstorm3333]

I struggle with self discipline and a strong routine of self care maybe stimming from adhd. I dislike it a lot! Watching in hopes of some needed motivation and determination ❤

[@daphne7299]

The first few minutes reeld me in so quick about discipline omg !

[@TiffanyTV]

it got us all together... me included 😅

[@anthea01]

I have such deep admiration for you and your mind like damn girl thanks a lot

[@bigpurksonality2355]

First 3 minutes are speaking to me soo much subscribing immediately!!

[@TiffanyTV]

welcome to the family love 🤎🤎

[@cieraparker4269]

Omg this is me!!! I love your videos it really helps ❤ I’ve listened to this video this morning twice

[@TiffanyTV]

that makes my day love 😌🤎

[@ElvieTheCEO]

You said some truth right there and this is a wake up call for myself.

[@TiffanyTV]

that warms my heart 🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@Little45light._]

Thank you I’m currently trying to learn discipline honestly it was nice to hear a description of the situation I am in. And how to approach having more discipline❤

[@TiffanyTV]

doesn’t it feel good to know you’re not alone? 🙌🏾 you’re so welcome love

[@khgnax]

I feel so seen. Perfectionnism stopped me from doing so much in my life because it wasn't perfect the first time around. When I journaled this week, I wrote this "I can’t keep promises with myself. I will keep promises with everyone one else but not me. I don’t value myself enough to keep the promises i do to myself. " I put everyone else before me, because I feel they're more important than me, always. I don't have healthy boundaries. The "treat yourse;d the wau you expect others to treat you" is a great start to this journey of self thrust. Thank you for this video, I needed to hear those words.

[@TiffanyTV]

listen as many times as you need to mamas. it’s not an easy habit to break + build back up, but it’s possible. send you love on this part of your journey 🫂🤎 you are not alone

[@sarahfox7743]

I‘ve watched a lot of selfimprovemenr videos over the Last weeks because ive been lacking discipline. This was the first video i absolutely loved and helped me realise 😊

[@TiffanyTV]

🥹 I’m so sooo happy to hear that

[@BetterDays2004]

I’m so happy that this video was in my recommended, this was a much needed wake up call for me!! Thank you!!❤

[@keshannajacobs6167]

So many broken promises to myself. I’m happy I came across this video because this is something I genuinely want to work on! Thank you 🙏🏾

[@DolceDaharis]

this really hit something in me. in tears. thank you

[@TiffanyTV]

😭🫂

[@KhweziZeeFul996]

I am so grateful for finding your channel, I am a stay at home mom and I've been struggling with putting a pause on my dreams and ambitions and it made it harder watching my husband thrive in his career and being able to follow what he needs... I feel like I've needed to trust in what I feel is going to make me feel fulfilled... Please continue making this type of content, it has truly helped me so much in just one video, so thank you❤

[@victoriamunoz4144]

Needed this so bad rn the realizations are so real rn lol

[@TiffanyTV]

🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@pramilathapa3397]

Thank you very much for your beautiful words

[@Jaylynnnevaeh_]

So happy I came across this. This is exactly what I couldn’t understand that I was going through

[@influentialchels3994]

Wow wow wow! 😢 thank you for this video🤍 Thank you for being open honest and vulnerable it’s truly appreciated!

[@TiffanyTV]

of course mamas! thank you 🤎🤎