How To Respond To Criticism

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Barbara Heffernan

Күн бұрын

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@gosiak3267 5 ай бұрын

Yes, please do response videos. It's most difficult to determine what to do even if we understand the what and why.

@vgd0 4 ай бұрын

Yes please, more on how to face and respond to destructive criticism. Unfortunately, I imagine we more often receive destructive than constructive criticism...

@laurie8868 Күн бұрын

This was so good! Thank you, I recently changed jobs after many years and am kinda proud of the way I handled it. When my supervisor said things about me that I knew were lies, I reminded myself that I was leaving anyway and that this was not an argument that I needed to 'win'.

@TamaraReneeSpeaks 5 ай бұрын

Barbara, I appreciate the amount of depth and insight you provide in your videos. You have an excellent way of breaking down complex concepts in ways that make them accessible and easy to apply. You always drop so many gems, but this video in particular was a game changer. Because of my history of trauma, it NEVER occurred to me that I don’t have to validate the feedback that others give, and that it’s up to me to decide whether or not what someone is saying is valid. Your video allowed me to give myself permission to think critically about the criticism I’m receiving, and decide for myself if and how I will plan to use it. Thank you so much! 🙏🏽

@YanaHarvey-ph3wh 4 ай бұрын

Brilliant video, thank you so much Barbara!❤ from UK

@lindalapetino8727 5 ай бұрын

Barbara, thank you so much for your excellent topical videos. As a therapist, I appreciate your consolidating the most important points of an issue, outlining the most important steps......

@JayNova10 5 ай бұрын

Barbara, you are hitting on so many awesome points. Everything you said is so transformative and such an amazing way to understand and approach criticism!

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for taking the time to send your kind feedback! I am thrilled it is helpful for you.

@zoeathomson4305 5 ай бұрын

This is something I'm working on with my supervisor at work, I get I need to learn from my mistakes but he gets snappy at me and annoyed about 1 thing whereas others that do less work and more mistakes have been there longer. Don't it's quickly shrugged off. I don't talk to him anymore about my personal life. As he tells everyone about your business. And they make fun off me. Just a joke on a daily basis. He makes more mistakes than anyone and says I have to rework it I've tried to tell the other supervisor but he's good at lieing. He doesn't clear up after his work he just expects the other team leader in the room to clear up after him. And he dose. He deliberately does these things all the time. I'm thinking it's good practice I'm learning to control myself a lot more still working on it still getting counciling support ❤

@Isabelmaryj 5 ай бұрын

So helpful thanks

@zoeathomson4305 5 ай бұрын

Saved and soaking it in thank you 💕

@BarbaraHeffernan 5 ай бұрын

You are welcome!

@Mirabella-t4k 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for valuable information.

@BarbaraHeffernan 5 ай бұрын

You are welcome! I truly hope it is useful!

@fiorenzagilioli619 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this helpful video . I would like to know something more about destructive criticism and how to manage with it , expecially on the spot.

@inkihans97 5 ай бұрын

I really like this video and agree that more videos about how to respond to descructive criticims would be great. I personally have found that if a person's pattern of delivering is a chronic pattern instead of a bad moment, and when you share tha it s unpleasant , you get fedeback like : Well cannot take any criticism" it may be a reation ship that mist be left behind. Then grief of lost hope for a relationship sets in , and we need extra support. I stayed with toxic loved ones to long , and what was not helpful were people who were not with us when the attack swent on . Toxic people are "nice" in front of others, and reserve their tantrums for "in the home".

@Poppy-yx8js 5 ай бұрын

It would be nice to know how to get answers about how I’m being criticized so I could respond to it considering it has gone on behind my back for many years. One should have the opportunity to respond before it turns into something really tragic .

@Poppy-yx8js 5 ай бұрын

Sometimes criticism is defamatory.

@21cormorants 5 ай бұрын

Do you have advice surrounding receiving criticism that is given as justification for treating you badly… but the criticism is stuff that the person giving the critique does even more than you? I have no idea how to respond to this without sounding defensive, but being told “you never call me” when you call regularly every month, for example, but they haven’t called you in at least 6 months. Or they say your texts “don’t count” because “they could be dishonest,” when you know you’ve been straightforward, but you can see where they have been deceptive in messages to you. I don’t really feel like I need to call them out, but at the same time, I feel like I’m simply acting as someone else’s emotional punching bag to put all their bad behaviour onto, and I don’t know how to respond other than to just take it. Especially if they are demanding loyalty and love, and my emotions are just exhausted.