How To Start Living, Your Children Deserve it

In this video, I cover ways to start living your life. Your children are missing out on you because of your multitasking, mind wandering, and mind chatter. The mindfulness that you are lacking is causing you anxiety and depression. How do you get rid of your anxiety and depression? Anxiety comes from the future and depression comes from the past… You need to start living in the present.
How can you live in the present? Use your senses and be alive right now. Every second you are not living in the moment you are in, you were wasting. You are living in an invisible land. Your Children deserve to be loved. And you cannot fully love them unless you are fully here. 
May you seek God, consume His Word, live a life full of prayer and presence, and may you have peace. 

[@lorimiller7261]

I think you have started a beautiful ministry and you are helping mothers more than you know. I needed to hear this, I feel like I’m running on a hamster wheel everyday and just getting through the day with the kids ! I’m going to change that, thank you ❤

[@Youmayhavepeace]

I appreciate your very kind words, thank you ❤️

[@xoxojen6021]

Yes! Yes! Yes!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I have gained so much by being present! Many people say “triplets?! I could never!” And I cannot tell you how much I have enjoyed every single moment of them. From pregnancy, to NICU, to having them home for now 18 months. I have 100% enjoyed every single moment of all three of them! And I have been able to enjoy my older two and my husband and my home so much more, by just focusing on the present. Giving the future to God, knowing that the past cannot be changed and focusing on the now. Focus on what you have in front of your very eyes. ❤️

[@xoxojen6021]

I will also say that focusing on gratitude was a huge help in staying in the present. “Lord thank you for thins bread that will nourish my children. For allowing us to have this safe home for our children to grow up in…” etc. being eternally grateful for all that we have because He is the reason it is possible at all.

[@leannegovender4110]

This was beautiful. Absolutely life changing. Your message has changed me and saved me in so many ways. God bless you, keep going. You are making a difference.

[@joshwagler1295]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@jinaschilling5441]

I am a living testimony of everything you just said…6 years of sorrow after the loss of my first husband and God has just completely healed me! Prayer and seeking God throughout those years was vital to my survival. God is my Rock! As well as just recently learning about staying present through therapy. It too shall pass! Seasons are meant to mold and shape us, teach us, and give us testimonies to help encourage others…just as you are doing and I thank you! And I thank God for your healing and I pray He continues to guide you and uplift you and reveal His word to you! God bless you and your family🙏🏼💗

[@Youmayhavepeace]

That is quite heavy. I could not imagine 😔 Seasons are meant to shape us, I like that. Thank you for your prayers. I will do the same for you. I am actually quite speechless having read what you’ve gone through. -Andrea

[@zer.o]

You are brilliant. I could listen to you all day

[@Youmayhavepeace]

That is very kind of you to say 😭❤️

[@tamthompson5]

You are such a faithful woman of God, it shows through you in your messages. I love that you are following the Holy Spirits prompting to impart wisdom to us mama’s. I needed to hear this today & im so thankful to God for your wisdom. 🤗

[@Youmayhavepeace]

Thank you for taking the time to comment. Glory be to God, I appreciate you. 🙏🏼

[@johnnycanales9569]

In tears. God brought this video to me because I needed to hear it. I’ve been struggling with full peace and contentment, even though my life is blessed. I live in my head waaaay too much and it’s sabotaging my relationships. Thank you for the straight talk . ✝️❤️

[@Youmayhavepeace]

I think most people relate to this completely. I lived it for years. Took a lot of practice and I still notice I slip. The key is trying again and again to retrain your mind. It’s a lot easier now than it was years ago. I hope you don’t give up practicing!

[@3angels.Rev.14]

New age mindfulness is diabolical

[@gardenmumma]

This is amazing…thank you for sharing your story. You have a gift for speaking the truth. Stay bold.

[@Youmayhavepeace]

Thank you so much 😭🙏🏼

[@cariwebb8575]

AMEN!!! I can remember having to remind myself to be present all the time when my son was young. It was not an easy task for sure. Now that he’s grown and moved out, I miss those moments so much. Side note: Something else that helps me not waste my energy (at least on being annoyed or frustrated with loved ones) is to consider how I would react to memories of those moments if I were to lose that loved one. Ex: my husband likes to hang the kitchen towel inside out with the tag exposed, front and center. I am a bit OCD, so it used to drive me crazy. But, if I were to lose him (God forbid), I know that as soon as I walked back into the kitchen and saw that towel hanging there, tag out, I’d be a mess. A little change in perspective can bring on a big change in your heart. Great job on this video girl! Your testimony and advice always touch my heart. ❤ P.S. That last statement, ooooh girl!! Yes!

[@Youmayhavepeace]

Very helpful, I will adopt this mindset as well, thank you!

[@eliagarcia8062]

Wow this video was god sent to me at this exact moment . It was meant for me to watch .

[@creationoflove84]

You are such a treasure. I cannot wait til we’re in glory I can tell you all about how you have ministered to me. Thank you for planting seeds of increase 🥰🥰🥰

[@Youmayhavepeace]

All the glory to God, my friend, thank you for your kindness!

[@CarolynnMarkey]

thank you.

[@MaritsaElena]

This!!! Yesss!!! 🙏🏼💛

[@MoniqueAduSustainableLiving]

Thank you so much. Your message again, was so very helpful to me, as was your previous video, on the best curriculum for our children. I agree, as you said that most of us are wasting so much of our lives and time, seeking to find things in the "future", trying to make ourselves happy with the fleeting things of this life, that have truly no substance in eternity. Or we keep revisiting the places of the past, rewinding things, that no longer have a place in our walk. Not knowing that each day, we do this, we are losing time we can' t get back. Especially if we are mom's. What are we planting in our children? Are we planting a "media addicted" adult always grasping for more? Are we showing our children the importance of growth? Are we complacent, and never seeking to improve, or study, to learn skills that can be a blessing for others? Are we always living in a place of discontent and worry? I thank you especially for being able to express a very challenging time you faced with the passing of your sister. I know personally how difficult it is to lose someone you love so dearly, and having to go through that long deep valley of sadness. However, as you said and can guarantee, the Father of Peace, has the power to lift us up out of those tough places. Giving us the strength to grow from the experience, so that we may be able to comfort others, and to really "live" in the now of our own lives. We truly have to remember, this life is our mission ground prior to our entrance into eternity. What matters the most are the fruits we are building in ourselves, and in others, until we face the next aspect of our eternal lives. Will our fruit multiply, and produce sweet peace, and light? Or will it crumble? I pray that mom's all over will begin to have a deep understanding of the importance of their mission in their children's lives, just as you have. Thank you so much again for being bold to speak out on these impactful and life changing truths.

[@Youmayhavepeace]

Our mission ground prior to entrance into eternity. I love that! Thank you for your words. You are thoughtful and kind.

[@MoniqueAduSustainableLiving]

@@Youmayhavepeace Your so welcome. Thank you!

[@mariannac8747]

My gosh. Such an eye opener. Thank you ❤

[@SandyzSerious]

Excellent.

[@tleek07]

This message was what I needed today

[@themousehouse.]

I’ve never needed these words more than right now. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@sharaleegordon7158]

thank u❤

[@morethantheravens1593]

Oh how I needed this.

[@Emily_Rudolph]

So so good!!

[@3angels.Rev.14]

God bless you

[@nickiisar]

This was a blessing for me!!🙏✝️😭❤

[@amyr7784]

You have put into words what I want for myself in mind and motherhood. Thank you for making this video. :)

[@Youmayhavepeace]

My pleasure!

[@brittlaureen]

This was wonderful... thank you for sharing. ♡

[@ezekielfenjavandehei3189]

Thank you❤ that's really all I can say.

[@ginalustre1491]

What a wonderful reality check ❤

[@user-ri8vo1ke5k]

Thank you

[@deyaeliza]

Thank you so much! All of us mommas need this. May God continue to bless you.

[@sierrala9903]

I am the family worry wart. I had anxiety so bad in my teenage years that it would cause panic attacks (stroke symptoms). Now I don't get those anymore but I'm trying to get past social anxiety. I will definitely try to be in the present more because thinking about the future in those moments is what effects me. God has shown me that I have been fearing man, not Him. Pressing into God has been the only thing that has helped me and understanding when the enemy is at work. We have complete victory through Jesus Christ ❤️

[@Youmayhavepeace]

“Fearing man, not Him” That is deep! Thank you for blessing this comment section with that biblical wisdom!

[@sierrala9903]

@@Youmayhavepeace I always try to glorify Him 😊 A few weeks ago, I literally cried out to Him about my social anxiety and He told me Psalm 118. Psalm 118:5-8 was spot on! Then He brought me to Proverbs 29:25 of how fear of man brings a snare. I just love how He knows our hearts and when I was finally honest with Him, He came to my rescue and showed me how I ought to be living in Him 💕

[@Just.a.girl.doing.her.dharma]

Yep it was crushing. The doing mind. It’s crazy. Thank you dear beautiful soul. I do appreciate your videos.

[@MysteryExodus]

This video was excellent. I need this reminder constantly.

[@daniipfeifer]

Oh wow … you are so incredibly talented at this!!!! Thank you so much !!!! ❤

[@Youmayhavepeace]

You are far too kind. I long to be talented at something 😅😆 Thank you for your positivity ❤️

[@amylouise6387]

This is such a wonderful video, and something I've been praying into recently. I can be prone to rushing when I really don't need to be, and the Lord is teaching me to physically slow down my body, then my mind can slow down too. I have also been noticing the birds a lot lately, and how free they are. 19 months ago I gave up my smartphone, and went back to using a very basic phone again. Most people thought/think it's very weird, but as a mother it was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I think people use their phone as a "pacifier" to distract them from difficult emotions, rather than just sitting in those emotions and taking them to God. I don't want to look back and regret how I spent my life. Thank you again.

[@Youmayhavepeace]

I’ve been considering ditching the phone! We like bird watching, too. Thank you for your kindness!

[@mom2blayne]

I gave up my smartphone also! It’s been sooo freeing. I will never go back.

[@Mamato3]

I'm considering ditching my phone, but I'm so sad about the thought of not taking a lot of pictures anymore. Have you struggled with that? And did you find a solution, or perhaps peace in not taking as many?

[@amylouise6387]

@@Mamato3 this has probably been the thing I've found the hardest. Generally, I have enjoyed taking less photos. It was hard at first, but I find I'm a lot more present and in the moment than I used to be. I do still enjoy taking photos though, so will either use my husband's smartphone when he's around, or a camera when he's at work. My mum and mother-in-law enjoy receiving photos, so I usually send them via my husband's WhatsApp to them. So I definitely do rely on my husband's smartphone sometimes!

[@Youmayhavepeace]

@@Mamato3 I use my phone for so many things, ditching it is just not something I’ve decided on. I keep considering it because I keep seeing other moms do it But the pictures I take, the ID apps we use on nature walks, the grocery lists, the GPS I think ditching it is a drastic choice for people that don’t have the self-discipline to stay off of it. I don’t mean that in a snarky way 😅😅😅 Like for those that truly catch themselves getting distracted I’d say it’s much more reasonable to delete the apps that are distracting you than to delete the entire phone But we all have different ideas and opinions so who knows I worked on not being on my phone so much and I’ve succeeded without having to ditch my phone And I do still use it all the time; like for the above-mentioned reasons Like music in the car or outside with our blue-tooth speaker To avoid technology isn’t the answer IMO. Technology is only growing more advanced. It’s about using technology wisely. ❤️❤️❤️

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

sometimes we just want to not have to think AT ALL. Like, can our mind just stop altogether? We need those moments too. We also need to balance this with just having breaks from everything, kids included. Another thing that's hard with motherhood is that you don't want to have to be sad or down, etc around your kids. You feel like you have to be in a good mood, doing well, being happy, excited, etc for them and never down. But I think that's a lit too because what are we teaching our kids about life if we act happy ALL THE TIME. That's not reality. Now there is a difference between feeling a certain way and acting a certain way. I think THAT is the difference.

[@Youmayhavepeace]

I agree. I don’t think it’s healthy for kids to think we ought to be happy all the time. I wonder if I gave that impression here? I am very much sad, tired, frustrated, disappointed, depressed even at times - all in front of my kids. I describe the feeling in my body when I feel different emotions and I talk through these things with the kids so they can recognize these feelings in themselves. The Bible nowhere says that happiness is a baseline, so that’s how we live around here.

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

Thank you so much for your response. I love it! I love that attitude. Especially where you said that nowhere in the Bible does it say that happiness is a baseline. So true! And if we try to be strong through our tough emotions, or try to hide them, that’s not be truthful to them or ourselves. Thank you so much for doing these videos and making me realize that it’s okay for our kids to see our struggles, so long as we handle it in the right way. And even if we don’t (because we are human), we apologize and explain that we were wrong- there’s a lesson in that too. God is so good to take care of us this way. Thank you Jesus!

[@kathrynrachael]

You are such a blessing. ❤

[@Youmayhavepeace]

That’s a very kind thing to say, thank you ❤

[@olgasrusticrental1770]

I had a good laugh about coffee, yesterday I realized I’m not living in the moment when I make coffee and today I found your KZbin

[@jillianmay5514]

These videos are so helpful for me. I have a lot of catching up to do and I know I will be blessed. Thank you for giving your time and sharing your insights.

[@Sheseekshim_]

Thank you so much 🙏 what a blessing this was to me. Super encouraged by this video, so much so that I paused halfway and shared it with my mother! So much truth, cant wait to hear more of your videos!

[@oursweetiebirdshome]

This was so beautifully said. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom and encouragement. ❤

[@Youmayhavepeace]

Thank you for your kindness always 🙏🏼

[@lightoftheworld77]

This was so so good and needed thank you!

[@dreahart89]

Best video I've ever watched. Thank you. 💓

[@Youmayhavepeace]

That means a lot ❤️🙏🏼

[@EternalGamer202]

Good know this is exactly what I needed to here. I’m thankful you and and this message. New subbie 😊

[@itsrubyrenee8394]

You are such a beautiful human, I have watched you for years and I am so happy that you have grown so much in your faith. If only I could be half the mother you are. Striving to live out the fruits of the spirt with my children and my husband every day. God bless you and your family! ❤☦

[@Youmayhavepeace]

I guarantee you’re a better mom to your kids than I’d ever be. Good moms are aware of their weaknesses. It’s when moms think they’ve got all the answers that becomes a warning sign. It reminds me of what CS Lewis wrote about good people and bad people, “ When a man is getting better he understands more and more clearly the evil that is still left in him. When a man is getting worse he understands his own badness less and less. A moderately bad man knows he is not very good: a thoroughly bad man thinks he is all right.”

[@brianandmelanieskelton3169]

❤

[@Heather1Renee]

Love love love it 💕 Been trying to verbalize ways to explain this to some people in my life; I want them to feel this the way I do, too! ❤ You’re a much better speaker than I am 😅

[@Youmayhavepeace]

Oh I’m definitely not. I have the power of an editing tool on my side 😆😆 In real life I’m very much jumbled and scrambled I bet you’re better at conversing than you realize ❤️

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

Here is a very honest question. What if, when I am with my kids, I think a lot about where else I could be and what else I could be doing. I definitely have times when I am present and with them and enjoy it, and I want to be in that moment. But there are lots of times when I am with them, but I cant focus on them because my mind is somewhere else, wanting to be somewhere else. Motherhood is hard because we have so much to do all the time and its hard to shut those thoughts off!

[@Youmayhavepeace]

What an excellent question. And a valid concern. We are responsible for a lot of household chores and have a desire to do things we like. Right now, however, being a mother is our priority. Even if we don’t get a lot of “me time”. Focusing on what we don’t get to do will magnify it. Focusing on what God does and is doing will put things into perspective. I find any time I’m unhappy or restless, it’s because im focusing on me more than I am focusing on God. Who are we keeping the house clean for and for whom are we cooking? The entire reason we are running the household is for our children. They are not interfering with our work, they are included in it. I found that one of my hardest seasons was when they were all so very small. They’re still mostly small and I’m only just now seeing the fruits of such a demanding season. But when I realized that God gave me this role, it is because it is my most important one right now. So I had to pray for a mind shift. Instead of thinking about the children as burdensome or interrupting my duties- I accepted that God was growing me in those times. Growing my patience? Teaching me to serve without resentment? Teaching me to die to myself? So many things. Some mothers play endlessly with their kids. I don’t like to. I play sometimes. But I spend quality time with them in other ways. I found most of my success in maintaining the attitude that I’m doing it FOR them and not doing it AROUND them Was INCLUDING them. So instead of playing cars I would ask if they wanted to play dishes. I’d make an assembly line and we’d slowly unload the dishwasher. Unloading the dishwasher took a lot longer because of that but I was able to spend time with them and complete a chore Teaching them to help, accepting their offers in helping, and training them to do things on their own made that season easier. I made a video about training habits and that has lightened my load quite a lot. Maybe you can see if anything in that video benefits you. It is challenging to give your entire life to others. Especially in times when you don’t feel acknowledged or thanked. Many moms end up feeling drained. I set my own interests aside for more than 2 years. I didn’t buy into the whole, “you need to fill YOUR cup!” Thing Because in that very demanding time, I was left feeling that it was just one more thing on my plate to do. When I accepted that this season wasn’t about me, it became easier. It even became fulfilling by after prayer and clarity as to what my time was for; and it wasn’t for me.

[@krazykidz9581]

WOW! really just WOW! I really needed this. I have 6 children 22,18,16, 14,6 & 2 and I just said today that I feel as though I have missed my big kids lives. The years have just passed so quickly. Thank you so much for sharing this video. Do you think it would help stop my brain wondering if I had a note book just there to brain dump. My brain is constantly busy I feel as though it never shuts off. I'm really going to practise hard being in the present. Thank you so much ❤️

[@Youmayhavepeace]

Journaling 100% has helped me! I usually brain dump right before I need to focus on a task (studying or something) Journaling also helps with emotional hang ups. It’s hard to relax and be present when you’re worried about something The key is just practice practice practice

[@sarahm5251]

What was your other KZbin channel. I’d like to see if you were running around the way I am.🙃

[@Youmayhavepeace]

😂 PlasmaSpeedos

[@sarahm5251]

@@Youmayhavepeace I checked it out we all start somewhere. I like your content so far. I just found you. I’m debating on whether or not to ditch the charter school.

[@SunshineAdventure1111]

where u at? make new videos :)

[@Youmayhavepeace]

😂❤️❤️ I need to!!!

[@Dreblueskies]

How do you never think about anything except the current moment? I mean is this even possible? Sounds amazing but my goodness I don’t even know how to focus my thoughts that much. 😬 Ok got to the end😂 read what part of the Bible?

[@Youmayhavepeace]

Of course, yes. Hopefully some of these insights will help. I’m not sure what the last part is asking. 🙏🏼

[@Dreblueskies]

@@Youmayhavepeace Any particular book of the Bible one should focus on to be in the present specifically?

[@Youmayhavepeace]

@@Dreblueskies the entire bible, really. Praying and reading the word. I know that may sound dismissive but I mean it most sincerely!

[@Dreblueskies]

@@Youmayhavepeace Not dismissive at all, I appreciate your advice. Thank you! Gosh bless you.

[@milaknowslight6307]

Sister, at 6:52 I had to pause for a quick praise break. It is SO beautiful to see the work Father is doing in you and through you. Thank you, thank you, for your commitment🙏🏾 HalleluYAH 😇🥹 Been here since navy days! I wasnt even saved back then. How amazing. 2020 was a big year for me as well❤🙏🏾

[@Youmayhavepeace]

It’s wild what happens in just part of a lifetime ❤️