How to stop being needy and getting attached too quickly

[@arneallemeersch]

I try so hard not to get attached too soon but it somehow keeps happening and then when they decide to remove themselves out of my life all of the sudden, without telling me, I feel so lost and depressed. I'n trying my best to work on it but nothing seems to help to not get too attached too quickly. I don't like being needy and sensitive but I can't seem to change it.

[@merrieromelie]

Same🥺

[@kazuto4987]

@Ayyaanns i had it too . After getting betrayed by one of my friend it came a like a truck on my face and eventually stopped attaching myself emotionally with anyone

[@BriinNfisk]

@@kazuto4987 Based

[@rhydianwilliams9161]

I'm going thru this right now and it sucks so much I just wanna cry every night

[@learnitnow6265]

I don't believe people are too needy or sensitive. I'm sick of these labels and people being put on the defensive for having and showing human emotions. You just need the right partner that wants you as much as you do them and that won't suddenly disappear on you. I'm in the same boat. I don't understand why a partner who pulls away is something we've come to expect and now normalized as a reaction to the other partner expressing natural human needs.

[@tanya_the_hat_girl3948]

Hmm... I don't have parents anymore. So... Nobody can love me that much. I think that's why i get so attached to... Almost everyone.

[@ashishsharmahamenthhashrid1367]

Same story but don't worry we got our blessings

[@tanya_the_hat_girl3948]

@@ashishsharmahamenthhashrid1367 well... I sure hope so...

[@donaldzeven]

I feel you buddy

[@elizabethb9667]

Same way here

[@misa_carolyne]

Exactly the same for me... that's a big issue

[@sushobhanghosh4271]

Pretty true Ma'am.Actually,we should not be addicted to anything and what's more important is we shouldn't devote much time to activities which doesn't brings value to our life.

[@mgtow6092]

Thank you Francesca. You can say so much in so few minutes.

[@sundance222]

WOW! All the money I spent on therapists, only to discover during a tough phase currently, that someone explains this so I can understand it. As well as a solution. Thanks, dear.🥰

[@MrBurkistan]

It's easy to SAY these things, like going into a relationship being full instead of needing someone, but lonliness is at an all time high and it's difficult not to manifest an overly attached personality around a partner, if people who seem interested in you seem like a scarce resource and you're someone who's used to being alone.

[@sweetea6550]

i feel you

[@marcvincentvillapa6463]

I realized I was abandoned, not really but it was the kind of feeling I get when I was younger, now I will give lots of attention to myself

[@lolitabb88]

Well, I pamper myself all the time and give myself good times, but I still crave love from another person.. It's just not something you can give to yourself.

[@CC-ue5up]

I love Maslow’s Theory❤❤❤

[@lavatr8322]

Actually I won't kill my inner child because and as a Guy we basically are children, we just have to act strong because of the society... Also hitting the gym really helps me ....I love and appreciate myself more instead of looking for validation.

[@PutYourselfInLace]

Here’s my issue though, I feel like necessity and desire bring similar feelings. I feel like when you’re starving it’s because of the necessity to eat. But I feel when you desire something it can feel similar to starving without it. So even if I go into a relationship “full”, the second desire kicks in, I’m doomed anyways because I feel that same hunger.

[@Fdan36]

Really enjoyed thinking about your perspective. heres what I think: I guess both are emotional states that engage us to "get" what is needed or desired, and that's what you observed in terms of the similar feelings you spoke of. Also, Being "full" is a euphemism I'm guessing cause we just realise our individuality and not become ideal people. Desire just becomes an emotional state to manage like anger.

[@theprinceofcrows8691]

I know the feeling. I rarely meet someone that is even worth considering as a serious romantic partner like that. So when I finally do find someone where everything clicks it makes it hard not to go all in for me. If it isn't there for me then I am fine and no issues and that drives a lot of girls crazy that I don't get that way with them but that is just how I am. I do think it is natural and part of a reinforced reproductive strategy that is biochemical in nature. I have only found that level of intensity 5 times or so. I normally know pretty quick if the chemistry is there but I have only found it a handful of times despite being a good looking guy that girls like. I guess that is the curse of being in love versus being simply attracted to someone but we all want that feeling the most because of the rarity of it and the intensity. That is the addiction and what makes me a slave to my emotion and if you are used to being in control all of the time it is hard to resist that drive that comes with it. You cannot help but be moved and shaken to the core by it. We both love it and hate it because it drives us crazy but what else is there in life that moves you like that? 😂😂😉

[@jasmin1773]

Very enlightening that being needy comes from not getting your needs met. That sound much less judging! 😊

[@prateekshyadewasi1579]

Ever experienced having the least or no love of your own parents since childhood? Ig nothing will make you crave for love and attachments more than that!

[@erickt6373]

God bless this gro, you the light 💡 of this world 🌎😎👍

[@blackrook29]

everything in life is easier said than done. all takes practice. im a bit clingy i get attached quickly. i guess its my up bringing of having things done for me too much.

[@Oneorangejuice]

I agree with you. I do that. We generally want, yet thats semantics we want someone to meet what we are and obviously what we also need, and say the reverse it's unreal. To want is to manifest a will, that comes from a decision yet the base its not always rational, its an animal ( and that's the more genuine ) not an idilical ultra rational projection of what others expect or want us to be or feel more confortable with, and all that is very subjective as out of nomenclatures. What is to need ? What is a inner child ?

[@rickysuave89]

self love is important ❤

[@ReginaldJamalPettway3]

God will Bless you all with the right Partner be patient.

[@surrealstr]

Can u please do a video about why although sometimes we don't get treated with respect we still want to be with that a person and even tho deep down we know its wrong our desire to have them makes it hard to move on

[@Hayles_mm]

sometimes I feel like it's soul ties

[@xxChacaronXX]

Our brains are so powerful that we can imagine the image of an orange in our head and it pops up.. we can imagine the taste and sent of it too.. Get yourself a pillow and imagine you’re hugging someone! It works! Imagination can be used in our favour or against us! :)

[@SaintLawrenceTVC]

what a wise woman!!

[@Claireeesposito8]

Thanks!

[@tommo9087]

Ur theories are sooo dayum good. Help me identity toxic friendships please!???

[@1234567rek]

Beautifully explained thank u so much

[@anonymousgara8415]

Thank you, may God bless you and everyone. ❤

[@amirhj200]

Your words changed me i wish best for you becuase you deserve it isnhallah you will be always happy .

[@yassinmohd4049]

Man why they don't teach these things in school that's would helped a lot thankyou again I would add meditation and walking helped me🙏

[@Him.anshu_sangwan]

I was feeling very low and I get in contact with my toxic ex ..we met I was happy for a moment but not I am in much more bad State. I am feeling low but don't want to go to him ... but I don't have anyone either. Thankyou for being a saviour I'll try thissßsssssss

[@Viv8ldi]

This is really good I didnt expect that

[@somaそうま]

Thank you for always sharing effective tips! You must have worked so much to get this knowledge, and you are giving us for free. I wish you lots of happiness in your life!

[@pritiv1422]

Thank you, needed this reminder!

[@LinguaLifters]

Helped a lot💜🤟🏻...

[@sigmamale3935]

How innocent and sweet heart she have.

[@ladii3d46]

❤❤❤ 💯 makes so much sense. Thank you for this video Queen❤❤❤

[@marneu7927]

how simple and effective is that? you opened my eyes. finished with my women. from now on only love yourself and 4$EOY.

[@rishu4013]

Wow this analogy is amazing

[@_thatdaisygirl]

Thank you so much for sharing this. It was needed ❤

[@K1RTB]

Here’s a question: If I take care of my own needs and if I am content by myself then why would I want (vs. need) someone else and all their problems in my life?

[@nineangels7572]

Women: Go to the SPCA & adopt a cat or dog. Then, use a hand held shower head or a plug in for your "personal" tension. That's it. Your safe & all is taken care of.

[@vaibhavraut178]

Thanks for sharing this video 😊😊😊

[@Igneous01]

I grew up with Reactive Attachment Disorder. It took decades just to be comfortable with touch and hugging. I may have a better self image than I did then, but that doesn't stop my unconscious mind going into self destructive episodes.

[@hetvin9453]

Hello. Please make a detailed video on attachment styles.

[@Rameshsharma-pm9fe]

Start loving each vedio of your Becoming big fan

[@exosbutterfly8103]

I needed this rn , thanks for this!! 💞

[@jan1cem]

Thank you for this. ❤

[@jackalope2302]

I don't think my inner child likes my outer adult. No matter what I do to get the little joker to love me, he won't. And when it gets quiet I hear him weeping in the back of my head again until he notices me noticing him.

[@encouraginglyauthentic43]

Meditate and accept the weeping sounds. The inner child just wants acceptance.

[@jackalope2302]

@@encouraginglyauthentic43 wish he'd hurry up back there. We got better things to do.

[@mohanapriya1601]

Thank you so much for this video ❤

[@yourfriendlyneighbourhoodl6206]

She’s like Avatar Roku, wise as fnck!

[@misa_carolyne]

Girl what do we do if we have no family and we are needy to find a man to take care of us like a father?

[@ohf17493]

Thank you

[@ezio_3602]

But how to be in a relationship when you dont need anybody, you go there when you want to, need to. It doesn’t make any sense to me

[@sillygirl1139]

Wow 🤯

[@Aven-Sharma1991]

There’s nothing wrong with wanting the baby love treatment from your partner. It’s because you love them that you become like a baby for them to communicate your softness and love to them. That doesn’t mean you’re a baby who all of a sudden needs to be bottle def and needs his diaper changed, what? You expect him to a be an emotionless machine with no emotion? Then you’ll complain about that, that he’s not lively enough

[@encouraginglyauthentic43]

Your not a baby, he isn't your father.

[@andrewFJ]

Might it interject that an exceedingly gorgeous woman. ☺️

[@noserialkiller3596]

I act like I'm totally okay, but I have a crush on a woman. I wish I could die in her loving arms, but I don’t have the guts to tell her. She's married too. I will die alone, which I'm okay with most of the time. No Serial Killer.

[@Socoolral]

Are you saying to jump from what I deem nontoxic relationship to another before I feel it gets boring or toxic so I can be full??

[@cryptocoffee1524]

i love this

[@deejayrelapz6903]

starts with self

[@loveroflife1438]

The problem is never getting attention Not anything about what they do it’s just give me your time. How to fix this problem is the question.

[@lillyfahey1921]

Gold 🙌🏻

[@me-tasha9231]

U r amazing. 😇

[@anviandayan2016]

Helped alot

[@kennethlopez6334]

Francesa you are so gorgeous 😍

[@fruit_lo0pzz]

song?

[@mynamejeff9274]

Like lil baby

[@flavio888]

How to be bold and have social freedom?

[@Arya72899]

It's only 1 month and I got attached 😢 I am scared from myself

[@sumitgupta6279]

Your are marvelous

[@mihaelaandoni9380]

❤️

[@inker1972]

I feel this way towards women i like that give me a little attention.

[@hotgirlsecrets]

I love your hair n black nails 🤍

[@dad-ms8mz]

I have one problem. When someone rejects me ..I am completely fine and good. When Someone talks to me not so good I don't feel depressed. But I get treated nicely by someone I get attached to them what can be the reason?

[@ciprianvalentincipherctv9742]

That's a nice one

[@Artsu1993]

Thank you so much

[@Artsu1993]

I'm a baby

[@26zm98]

Or you can use your will power to stop being attached but it hurts

[@josephhudson7378]

Absolutely

[@Itfeelsmoist]

So how do I comfort the inner child that I murdered long ago?

[@lifereceiver3661]

simply do something great while waiting. example accept Jesus as your forever Savior and Provider

[@umangdwivedi4368]

what traingle did she mentioned?!?!

[@JazzGaming26]

This describes my ex to a T.

[@ameliel8792]

Yes!!!

[@veronikazemiseva250]

I do all these things and it doesn't help

[@alejandro4300]

💪♥️

[@mishasircar26]

How do I find the first 3 parts to this ?

[@EricTheOvercomer4]

Where is part 1

[@paige8361]

♥♥♥

[@inherent777]

Do you feel the calling?😊😁🥰😍😘

[@joshuavanderberg2619]

%100!!!

[@nayansirvaiya8480]

💕😸✨

[@instanta2693]

Love love love Francesca. I used to become that adult baby and now all you mentioned is what is part of my self-care. Took over 4 decades but I’m there. It’s beautiful. So beautiful.

[@joshuavanderberg2619]

Why is THIS not taught?!

[@PankhudiPatel]

She looks like Kiara advani 👀🤩

[@Idr1zzzi]

Put a mic filter cuz that sssssssssssssssssss is so annoying

[@gamersparadise6356]

I dont have any social life now what can i do ????

[@vedantbandagale5984]

I love this