How to Stop Being Taken Advantage of | Stop People From Taking Advantage of You at Work

[@LindaRaynier]

Have you ever felt taken advantage of either at work or outside of work? Let me know in the comments what you did about it and your thoughts on the tips I have below! :)

[@hueichan815]

Yes, she didn't acted very obvious but I always have fear to say No to her and now I'm drawing a line and build a barrier from those who trying to step on me and take advantage on me :)

[@MichelleEllsworth1]

I discovered about 2 years ago I was a wild people pleaser and highly manipulatable which lead me to being taken advantage of my entire life. People pleasing is massively toxic and will lead you to a life of silent resentment. I found myself in this position over and over and get to a point of not feeling guilty for not making people happy.

[@rorycalhoun6484]

Could you get me a cup of coffee? And if you could get into the office this weekend to catch up on some work, that'd be great! 😉

[@tswgooden]

I'm a manager and my coworkers take advantage of me. I trying to be fair with everyone but it seems like they think I have to let them leave work or accommodated them with thing like they need to take lunch everyday to get there spouse to work. When I tell them I will work with them and I'm not obligated to accommodate them with outside issue not pertaining to the job then I'm being unprofessional

[@stephaniepiazzese2602]

So well said. You are a very articulate person, and I thank you for your comment, as it resonates with me exactly. A lifetime of resentment. And unanswered questions in me, “ why me?” Why do ppl treat me this way?? I’m working on this. 😢

[@sherryidibo2304]

I needed to listen to this.. the key is to stand for yourself always with full of confidence...thanks Linda.

[@eileendonahoe8618]

Dr. Brene Brown says this. “Choose discomfort over resentment. “ She has distilled some wisdom into this phrase.

[@jenn-ne-sais-quoi]

With respect to the third suggestions, when saying "no" to someone, how do you manage potential backlash? For example, what if the asker starts saying negative things about you to your boss or spreading rumors?

[@doreenlane2370]

They're going to do that anyway

[@naninhastudios]

Great video! Boundaries are so important in life, personally and professionally. Sometimes we let our kindness speak and we end up overwhelmed... stressed 😫 great lesson! thanks 🙏🏻

[@emanuelmacias7829]

No u need to do what the boys say

[@iqhbaldelsal3158]

Wow! This is really an eye opening video for me. Thank you so much Linda!

[@makella3149]

Thanks for this important advice. I let my coworkers take advantage of me at work. I am a nurse. I am currently thinking on strategy to reverse this issue. Thanks for your tips.

[@karakol86]

I tell my immediate supervisor no all the time. They are the person who is always taking advantage of me. I had a boss who would make excuses to call me into her office just to talk trash about my coworkers. My boss would have me do their work because they were incompetent.

[@ebonyeyed08ti]

Exactly, I don't let them take advantage of me

[@JS-po9gg]

Thank you my work load increased because I was a nice guy and now I feel like i really was taking advantage of. A coworker now has nothing to do. I really don't know how it happened but that same coworker won't lift a finger to help me out. Becareful of who you want to be friends with, don't trust just anyone try to make them earn trust . I am definitely sad about it but please learn as much on how you can prevent this from happening to you. Good luck and stay strong.

[@alanbourbeau24]

I’ve often times been taken advantage of couple of times by several people. Like one time my ex-girlfriend was taking me for granted financially and took advantage of me as well. Every now and then she would have me buy her a few things and at first I thought it was no big deal but she did it again and again and some point, I had to firmly put my foot down and say no to her and eventually she understood what I was saying and she never asked me again. But she found different ways to make my life miserable and that was manipulating me. And after that, I decided to break up with her and never speak to her again.

[@janr.1077]

Thankyou so much, Linda! I'm still learning how to say NO! I think I am learning.

[@kevinjang8209]

Tip: anytime if someone asks for help, only help them if they tried 2+ options.

[@Pompomeranian7]

This same advice i actually applied to my home life. My roommates live like savages and manipulate me through noncompliance into cleaning their nasty messes cause i have really bad OCD. I now only clean the messes i make and the house has descended into sticky, rotten hoarder chaos. It's gross and anxiety inducing living like this but i am happier not fufilling their desired role for me as their domestic slave. I am plotting my eventual escape to solo living.

[@Anony584]

This is why I can’t live with other people. I’d pay premium just to avoid this

[@jenniferg4297]

Hi, Linda , I always felt being the Dept door mat, you nail every issues I am confronting. My boss transferring me to a Dept that is not that busy, now I get afraid that they will Pass all random job to me, getting sleepless night already .

[@Emilyghe]

Most of those tasks are not helping employees’ career growth from what I see... and some don’t even count in their evaluation

[@lulacamara1602]

When I speak up my coworker who is asking for the help says well, it's team work.

[@seshlauren]

I can never say no ugh. Coworkers ask me to do things for them when I’m not the one that’s supposed to. But I’m always put on the spot

[@alexanderagoylo4655]

Ok, am willing to listen til the end of this video.

[@jingyuchou6961]

The three tips are great and come in a good order as well. We can always resort to the last tip of simply saying no t others at the end the day.

[@DEAN_23]

I've had a few occasions when I ended up going to lunch later than I was supposed to, even though I had started before most others in my department. There was also a situation when I left work later than scheduled, because a couple of my colleagues decided to doss in the staffroom, and left me overrun at my position. I didn't know how to handle those situations, because I didn't want to be considered a diva, a drama queen, or a crybaby, even....

[@sunnysmiles8211]

How you are treated is a sign of how others are either valuing you, or not valuing you. If they are not valuing your contributions, give them the gift of missing you. Don’t be as available or saying yes that often. Let them see how things are without you being reliable/available all the time. It will either work or it won’t.

[@alexbeum7403]

I am 240 lb 35 year old man and a maintenance director for a Skilled Nursing Facility. This woman sure has some great videos even for me.

[@wesleyfan265]

Hi Linda, thank you for sharing your tips. I have been following you since early 2018 and your tips gave me great helps to be where I am right now. Thank you.

[@SB-ms5wd]

Thank you I have been fillowing up ur videos that are very helpful. But my case here is that when I kindly spoke up the truth and find people's mistake Managers didn't like it. And that back me off from moving forward in my career.

[@racheltan2295]

Thank you, Linda!

[@houthat]

i needed to hear this ....

[@senthilcaesar]

I can relate to this video content. Thank you Linda

[@teagang6492]

I’ve been followed when my limits have been overstepped

[@commonsenseking6386]

Yes, doing more work at your place of employment does not help you advance, as you get older people do not appreciate your sacrifices, your boss or co-workers will think you are a workhorse wth no life. People who have boundaries are respected more.

[@carloscorona2461]

Dear linda evrybody wants to take advantage in this world congratulations for your video keep doing more videos

[@SeanHollingsworth]

There is a fundamental difference between being taken advantage of, versus being expoited.

[@silviadiassplace]

Has happened to me. Not anymore. Linda I love your shirt, soo beautiful 💗

[@zimbinifaniso9265]

I am so happy to be here every video is eye opening.

[@kingsman5708]

Nice and good video thanks what u said is correct I needs to stop those peoples who are taking over advantage on me

[@kabirkhan3685]

Your tips are upto the mark & absolutely righto Linda.. 1 & 2 tips were OK to go with anytime, which is really helpful for the management also. but, the final one 3 "SAY NO" is very difficult & even it's not benefit for us..still might creat the chances of some negative image in the team or organisation..

[@aliezahjuarez1212]

Or maybe you just never bothered trying

[@aimelaureles6366]

Another informative video. Thank you very much. I will definitely follow all your tips especially tip#2.

[@Martina_E]

Wow - great tips!

[@jamesshaw3850]

Thank you for posting

[@rolansanchez7046]

What if the one who is taking advantage of you is your supervisor, who will be the who will recommend and sign for your promotion? What should I do he let me do the job he is supposed to do even weekends and beyond office hours? The specific task that he wants me to do are his personal stuff like his report, his thesis and personal assignment.

[@nicknguyen1632]

Hi Linda. First and foremost, I wholeheartedly enjoy your videos for the past few months and find them intriguing. I’m also in the process of finding a full-time job as a school counselor. Also, thank you for this video, and it was very eye-opening to me and can fully relate to this. Bare with me because it is quite a long story for me. Last year, I started working at a school as a substitute teacher as I was then a Master’s student and doing internship at another school. Side note: my friend is the full-time counselor there. As a sub, it was fine doing the work as my intentions was being reliable and helpful whenever my school needs an extra hand, and it got to the point where not only was I subbing for classes, but also subbing on other tasks in the school. Fast-forward in a few months, my principal offered me a potential part-time counselor job for the upcoming year depending whether the school gets a grant, and she feels that my counselor friend needs an extra hand. It got my hopes up thinking that there was a chance for me to work there and the staff were kind and the students are very sweet to me as if I mattered to this community. A month later, I received bad news that the school didn’t receive that grant to put me in for the following year as I felt disappointed. On top of that, the principal needed people to work for the school’s summer camp as the majority of the main staff did not want to do it. As for myself, I told her that I wanted to do it because I wanted her to see that I am reliable and helpful to the school, but at that point, I should’ve been more aware of myself that I was too focus on putting my boss’s impression of me rather than myself. Once the summer ended, I noticed that she hired 2 new assistant principals and 10 new teachers for the school. And I thought to myself, “If she can hire all these new people, how come there wasn’t room for me to be a part-time counselor?” For me, it’s not asking much, but I wanted to put my foot in the door. As the school started, I’m still employed as a sub, and I still told my boss that I’m still interested in the part-time position and I still want to sub for the school. And all she replied was, “Ok”. From then, I lost that sense of value and importance to the community as I felt that I’m just a second thought and all that task of helping out for the school also felt meaningless. To this day since last August, I have yet to get a substitute call, and I only show up to the school on special events mainly for the students. Without bragging, I have noticed that the students get truly excited when I step into the school because they said to me that I was a chill and fun sub, and they miss me. I say this because deep down I realized how much of an impact that I made for these students despite just being a sub there, and part of me wish that my boss can see that. Today, I’m just working part-time as a counselor in a private practice, and I’m still waiting for my time for the full-time at a school. If you are reading this Linda, I want to personally thank you for your time and again your videos are inspiring to me as a future school counselor. Although we never interacted with each other, I want to show my appreciation because you make me feel valued and have high potential as a person. Keep up with the good work, and I hope to reach out to you from your tips and strategies. May you continue to be the inspiration for all of us!

[@aparecidoferreiravais321]

Hi Linda I love e Voice You're amazing teacher and I appreciate your way to teach Thank you so much Have a great Friday my beautiful teacher 😉🇧🇷

[@sharonegerie7181]

Thank you for making this video. It’s very helpful 👍🏾

[@cozylifeandkitty5748]

Hi Linda. Please make a video about how to deal with an incompetent boss. Should one look for a new job if their work style constantly frustrates you?

[@muhammadsalman7714]

I do additional work and also dont let them get advantage of me. In short, I gain more experience and become outstander and then can find another higher level job.. I agree it, i just dont do it. I show them...

[@user-oq9kb5oi5f]

Thank you

[@raechaud7763]

Hi Linda, I started a new job recently but the colleague who’s training me is giving me a hard time, he gave a lot of extra work that he’s supposed to do himself and passive aggressively told me I’ll be in trouble if I don’t do it. I relay on his training, and whenever he’s moody he pressured me... how can I bring it up to my manager?

[@Emilyghe]

This comes in handy! I’ve been my manager dumping ad-hoc work to me mostly because I’m a junior member (and also a new hire). Not doing those work by stating my priorities is the way to go, but it will still impact my relationship with my manger though because my manager is a type of person who avoids priority question. Eventually I avoid that manager and always go to his boss for priorities.

[@chineduokabechinedu9126]

You are being created differently. Excellent at what you do. Whiz lady. If I have wings I will fly to Canada to have tutorial classes with you. Am Business management degree holder (B.Sc).

[@captainweed2306]

You wonderful my Lady thank you for the information..🥰

[@karljay7473]

This works IF they are reasonable people. I worked for a few years in a very, very hostile work environment. What I did was to do all the work, gain all the knowledge that I needed to find a new job and then quit for a better job. When I quit, 100% of all the software inside that company was written by me and nobody there had a clue how to do the work I did. When someone pushes work onto you, they are doing that because they are lazy. Lazy body, lazy mind, they can't compete when they need to because they are too lazy... They are, in fact, their own enemy. They think they are hurting you, when in fact, they are making you stronger. Imagine that the work was pure or mostly physical labor, they push that work onto you, you win. I had this happen. Someone pushed all the physical labor onto me... he was some 10 years younger and had a stroke because he was too lazy to do physical work or any exercise. Now over 10 years later and I'm still in great health and he's dead. Nature has a plan for these people... lazy mind, lazy body, lazy life.

[@Chappelroanfan]

still, dont wish on someone that they pass away please

[@karljay7473]

@@Chappelroanfan Everyone passes away, it's an important part of life. Not wishing it is to wish that life would be different, and that wouldn't be life as it truly is.

[@MandyGood]

I feel like I was like this my whole life.

[@joymorris3004]

I work in a lunchroom at an elementary school and I feel like I’m being taken advantage of but I haven’t addressed it bc I don’t want to come across as complaining about my job. So for the past 5 yrs I have been assigned to the dish room every morning. I serve breakfast ( which just started bc someone quit) and then after serving breakfast for 30 minutes after serving breakfast. No one else has had to do the breakfast dishes except me and I don’t like to feel like I’m being taken advantage of. What should I do?

[@mardaya]

is it possible to ask for a rotation with other people? I think the manager should try to implement fairness for everyone in the team has similar duties without creating resentments. The manager can ask the team to participate how they want to be more collaborative and have everyone help each other out. In my view your manager is failing you and pleasing other people.

[@Beautifulblessings88]

I been disrespect by my coworker. I give her a ride to work and drop her home cause we work at the same place. I even took her to her bank cause she doesn't have a debit card. I even took her to her second job. She gives me attitude some days or get smart with me. I was ready to tell her off and let her know I won't tolerate how she treats me especially when I'm helping her out. I was about to tell her she needs to find her own way to work and etc I am no longer her uber driver. What should I say to her?

[@misslibertyangel]

thanks linda!!! this is golden and so helpful!!!!!

[@peterdionisio864]

Way to go Linda!

[@dariodasilvajunior7168]

More once time, Thank Very Much!

[@goharabrar2471]

Mam Nice Talk Kind of you Grateful

[@josefloriano4016]

Great video thank you!

[@GamerGrade]

Quick Fix: Don't have a boss! Joking aside, great tips ive shown my wife :)

[@Chappelroanfan]

the thing is idk how to teach my classmate how to draw

[@darleyguti1035]

Excellent thank you sweetie

[@animix720]

This help me a lot thank u so much.

[@yung_Latios]

Tired of working for losers and working with bums slaving away my dignity. I wish I could do my own thing and not worry about being laid off or homeless

[@ETSUI-zk7hy]

thanks for the video, i find it very useful!:)

[@nikolaradakovic5050]

why do you give such a nice advises for free? :) I am taking advantage of you

[@orientalmagitheartofninku7888]

I love you

[@sophie12345634]

Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@MohamedAAhmed-xi2rr]

Very good video thanks linda

[@AshEnglish]

Sounds great

[@shanb8543]

Hey I have a supervisor that likes to have her subordinates like a caddy. If they want breakfast they ask their subordinates to get it. How to address this respectfully without affecting your job or working relationship

[@prabakaranr8033]

Very useful 👌

[@ginatoma7691]

Hi, I have been in this situation and I have accepted to teach my supevisor what to do when she started. I was hopping for a promotion after a wile but it never came. My Manager has left now and a new one came in and guess what, he has started to ask questions on how to deal with different situations. I am now starting to learn how to say 'I don't know' even if I know or not because I have already teached my supervisor in this company and never received the same respect that I had for others. How should I speak with my new Manager about this or how should I approach this situation now? This company does't appreciate the people and most probably I should approach the MD or FD regarding this matter. Thank you very much!

[@kingsagenda]

Excellent

[@anusha418]

Linda, Thanks for helping us in all aspects. Is it appropriate to reach out to boss and propose a promotional role include business case to to ask for additional responsibilities?

[@brendafuller1806]

Right now I’m in the middle of negotiating with management and my coworker taking vacation at the same time. We are the only 2 people on our shift, my coworker knew I submitted Three weeks of vacation and the 2 months later she submitted Two weeks during the same time I’m off. Well, management is asking me to change my request. What’s your take in this???

[@brightinspirationallifetim8347]

Huge issue you need to address and stop Pray to God LORD JESUS CHRIST HELP You do what your dont let others take advantage on you and make fon of you Show them how to do it than do it yourself Don't let the enemy make u slient with alot of people against you stand up for yourself Speak up fight against enemy Pray to God do it all for GOD LORD JESUS CHRIST SPEAK UP instead, Confident to communicate Simply say NO DONT SAY YES WHEN PEOPLE say that

[@Chappelroanfan]

no thank you

[@doreenlane2370]

They know how to do it but they rather not

[@Persona3Yukari]

Nice video :) .

[@ste_channel3591]

Wow

[@runawayushould]

Tip 1... Tell your boss to go to hell and quit.

[@nadine7327]

Who does the editing of your videos?

[@runawayushould]

All kidding aside, in this day and age companies are no longer giving raises. They are sneaky, the "boss" will tell you to do something a "new task" and there it is. It's all bullshit... You don't like, leave.,

[@sssttt2211]

Show them how to do rather than doing yourself. Right but who is they here? Your boss? If you are given resource then it makes sense but if not whom are you going to teach? Boss?

[@BeOutstanding]

Great Content Thank You Linda Teac instead of hel, show them how to do instead of doing for them It will conflict with my other duties Simply say no

[@zeehaidary9927]

You the best!

[@GudnewzUche]

First to comment❤❤

[@roseault6335]

I'm too distracted by your gorgeous clothes xx thanks for this :)

[@bhaatkhamhami3144]

Guyss ik it’s nth about this video but I really need advice from you guys idk what to do So back in 2016(I was only 10)my sis and mom went to nepal(my country) and I was left alone with my dad and that time he took advantage of me and he said he beat me up so badly if I told anyone and I didn’t say anything becuz my mom is actually very toxic as well she always calls me a hoe and slut and stuffs she actually hates me and I mean it and my sis was only 5 at the time. It has been 4years and he still takes advantage of me he touches me in place and gets mad when I don’t go to him or say Smth when he touch me and stuff he will leave home and not talk with anyone including my mom. But I can’t speak up I tried but he only got mad and did many stupif things I feel like my dad might like me cuz I get so many signals and it’s so obviously I really dk what to do I can’t just move out since I’m only 14 and I can’t tell my mom becuz she would actually shout at me and hate me forever I’m not joking I’ve actually gotten harrassed by some middle aged guys in public and when I told my mom about it she only shouted at me said I was useless and called me slut. And this point it’s too late to do anything I really need advice plss but I can’t ask anyone else for help. I wish I just died

[@mahaimtiaz947]

Get a small part time job and move to another country. Whether people respect your boundaries or not is highly dependent on culture. As a Pakistani it's very common for men to objectify and harass women in Pakistan. But now that I am in Dubai I am extremely well respected and not stared at half as much except for the occasional maintenance worker (mostly from Pakistan). My advice is to grow independent and do a lower cost degree like the acca our aat. Trust me your life can be very different and much more fulfilling especially if you find the courage to walk away from these people. I know it can be scary to be alone but trust me loneliness kills you slower than toxicity.

[@mahaimtiaz947]

Also if you can't get a degree just be a MacDonald's worker our some other low skill worker such as waitress the men are going to harass you anyways might as well not let it affect your life in the short term and work towards building a better future. Then save up for aat or acca (fairly affordable) and get a proper well paid job with decent middle class income.

[@teagang6492]

These types are liars manipulators and sneaky artist ....

[@HomeFrendsten]

Evil people take advantage of empaths

[@brightinspirationallifetim8347]

Believe in Jesus as Lord and God raise him from death and you shall be savedi love lord Jesus JesusMatthew 28:19 ESV / 113 helpful votes Thank you for your vote. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit Amen

[@positivemusic1531]

Great tips but none of them worked. Better off finding another job with a team that at least shares some of the same professional values. Just because you've done X, Y and Z does not mean people will respect you. I would expect that any decent person would but not all people are, unfortunately.

[@bobbiworkman8175]

Must be nice to be able to set boundaries but when you have no choice because you can't find another job in the area your pretty stuck. Especially if you have a family to support. Your employers, especially personally owned businesses, (because they run by different rules than the supposed real work world) feel they can make basically anything they want your job and you have to swallow that bs with a smile and can't prove any claims unless you were a body cam where do you stand then my friend?