How to Stop Feeling Stuck

[@sgsax]

That's the big secret about being an adult: we're all just making it up as we go along. A couple of years ago, I got in the habit of every night, as I go to sleep, thinking "today was a good day", and then thinking of one good thing that happened. Some days are easier than others to think of one good thing, but I can almost always find something. I do like the idea of conscious observation. I don't do a good enough job of sitting quietly with my own thoughts. I'll have to give this a try. Thanks for sharing.

[@glkification]

I love this. I heard on the radio once someone said their mother always tucked them into bed with the phrase "another lovely day tomorrow, darling" (on BBC Radio4's Desert Island Discs with Gyles Brandreth, quite randomly). This phrase not only made him reflect on what was lovely in the day that just happened, but look forward in expectation to the following day. I sometimes says this to myself as I go to sleep, it can really foster a happy mindset.

[@jm62483]

Strip everything down and discover who you truly are, outside of social media, the news, all of it. Sit in silence every day. Know yourself outside the noise and persuasion of the outside world. Too often in life we allow ourselves to become a conglomerate of other people's stories, especially through social media and highly curated algorithms...and we then become confused in our purpose, because we think other's people's timelines and purposes should be our own.

[@heathenhorn2925]

Beautifully worded ❤

[@lookingforgg]

yes, definitely. knowing yourself and what you truthfully love to do is the key. focus your life around that "character", that side of you.

[@JJG369]

This! Ive been stripping away everything those past 3 years. Any sources of validation, any pressure from people, even those subconscious ones. Made my life as little and as simple as possible, focused on needs, stability and what i want, what comes out. We do so much shit we dont even want to do.

[@Snoozebotz]

I determined that the true meaning of life for me, others as well I hope, is to make life better for those that need their life to be improved, ideally to make the world a better place for those that come after us. Helping others is all that matters, whether it’s your family or friends or strangers or animals, there is nothing more fulfilling than being of service to the life on this planet. That’s what works for me and gets me out of bed happily every day.

[@Charrbonic]

Agreed. It makes me very happy to see others with this mindset. When I was younger, I asked my dad what the single most important thing in life is. He answered, "Reproduction." I am infertile, and he knew that then. He is still a good person, but many cultures have instilled in some people and groups that joy, service, guardianship, and fulfillment are found best in a family line, or at the very least in a single or simple process. Craig has brought together people who, especially with his advice, will make the world a happier and more sophisticated place.

[@alexandrahhh789]

finding magic in the mundane! ✨so important yet so under appreciated also the whole video i was reminded of this quote: “instructions for living a life: pay attention, be astonished, tell about it” - mary oliver just want to say even though i may not watch every video, whenever i do i find that your videos are consistently informative or inspirational, and combined with your sense of humor, there’s always something positive to gain! i’ve been a fan since at least 2010, and i’m always in a better mood after watching a wheezywaiter video, which i really appreciate! thanks for what you do :)

[@betsycosmos2054]

Warning: I'm going to preach a bit. I walked away from the Christian church when I was 13 because the "answers" didn't satisfy my restless soul. I spent 8 years searching for what actually works. When I was taught how to read the Bible and what it actually is communicating--not what religion teaches--I started to get grounded. The big takeaway? Look for ways you can improve the lives of others--whether they are family, coworkers, friends, enemies, strangers--we can brighten anyone's day ,sometimes with something as simple as a smile. Extending kindness and a listening ear, these are fulfilling "purposes." As far as detailed tasks we do, these change through the seasons of life. But I've been doing this Christian walk thing for 48 years and it works!

[@piggnant]

YES --> ".. it's not teaching you to find the grand meaning in your entire life, it's teaching you to find meaning in literally everything..."

[@lfleia]

One of the big things that's been motivating me was values work. By digging down into what it is that I actually value, the goal becomes living a life according to my values. In terms of having too many options, this actually cuts out the stuff you really don't want to do or only think you should be doing.

[@theallmightyal]

The “why” question is the one I knowingly avoided, cause everything I do is either because I have to/people usually do it/I enjoy the process. I’ve never known what do I want in the end, what’s my big or even average-sized goal. I just did whatever. Thanks for the video, man, will be observing.

[@DaisyAGunBarrel]

Thank you for this. Two days ago, I described myself as being “stuck” in a conversation which has lead to the darkest point of my 31 years. I have been suck, paralyzed by fear, for over a year since a breakup and uprooting my life. But then, between the pain, I have also been experiencing what seem like miracles of the beauty of life (mostly Sarah Bareilles’ music and lyrics). Now, I am trying to just move…forward, preferably, and this video just happed to be waiting for me and everyone else who felt the same watching this. Thank you for being part of my story, Wheezy.

[@nickdeathpool9529]

10:50 I had an epiphany about this recently. My dad is all I got and realized he is getting older and that one day he won't be here. He won't be here to help when I ask for it. To get advice from him when i need it most. Or to just have a conversation. I have not been the easiest to work with, always quick to argue, and overall, just be a turd. When all he is trying to do is help and prepare me to be a better human being and productive member of society, instead of a turd. Thinking about how much time he has here really puts things in a different perspective. I never thought about His time.

[@dennisni5600]

Never more than right now, at this very moment, have I needed a video like this. Thank you so much.

[@nicholaspaz]

I really like your concern for the wellbeing of others. Great contribution! Great reminder to stay curious!

[@lookingforgg]

well, this video honestly made everything click for me now. the part on the meaning of life being a "story" you make up, a character, if you will. And also how it doesn't need to be that deep, that really made reflect about everything I've been doing with my life. I'm 23 now, and I've known ever since I was 15/16 that I wanted to be a singer. I know for a fact that's the thing I most love in life, and I've done some things in that regard, I've learned to sing, I've recorded many many covers over these years, that helped me learned too. I've released my first song a few months ago. but honestly ever since that I sort of gave up on anything related to music (I don't just sing, I play a few instruments and record/produce/edit everything I make by myself), I sort of felt more and more into the narrative the "normal" world wants me to do, which is just work and work, and it made me see the music side of me as silly child thing to want to be a singer, and that someone of my age shouldn't be thinking of or whatever and that I should not put much effort into that and focus more on "real" work. But sure, it is what I love, and I'll keep doing it, even if just covers. I really love just recording and producing stuff, and I guess that's the point, spend your time doing something you love, and if gets somewhere, that's a bonus.

[@lookingforgg]

wow that was the longest comment I've ever written im sorry :')

[@mttbrnby]

Possibly the most relevant and timely my video for me right now. Thanks. Been a fan for years but this, is really hit.

[@jaredt.murphy8257]

I really needed this right now. Thanks Craig I'm thankful for you, Craaaaig.

[@nikkireigns]

Yes, thanks Craaaaaaaaaaig

[@ICharlyl]

I started visiting a psychologist recently and she asked me: how do you feel physically when you're angry?. I couldn't to save my life answer that question, I had no idea how my body felt in any state. Then she explained to me how sentiments come from the physical state. With that in mind, I've started to realize not only how I think but how my body feels. I used to get stressed out while driving, my muscles would tense, I would lean forward and twitch something in my body and drive fast and aggressively. Now I just don't. If emotions come from how my body feels, I just don't drive fast. That's what gets me angry, and now in much happier overall in life (of course that was just an example and not my only problem, but closing your eyes just to see how your body feel can literally change your outlook in life)

[@SherryAnnOfTheWest]

I' 66 and I don't really spend much time thinking about my "Why," but I have a lovely family who loves me, I do a lot of things I love to do and I try to help others when I can. I think that's ok and, I think, pretty lucky.

[@TowerJunkie]

I sorely needed THIS! Thx 🙏🏻

[@pkoch]

This was one of the best of videos I ever saw from Craig. ❤️

[@JoanneWhitlock]

I started drawing cartoons and created a body of work. Themes keep coming up, fascinations, worries etc. it’s been super useful to see my inner dialogue on the page even if it’s just a few highlights. Five hundred plus later I still love it! I’m still learning what worries and what attracts me and as a bonus I make me laugh sometimes too, which kind of took me by surprise.

[@ZeeJohansen]

This reminded me of the book, 'How to Be an Explorer of the World' by Keri Smith. It's filled with small exercises to change your perspective and open your mind to observations. Example of the #1 observation - Right where you are sitting, "Write 10 things about where you are sitting right now that you haven't noticed when you sat down. Use your senses. Do it quickly. Do not censor. Okay, begin." The book has 59 exercises, including this one and one about noticing new things on a walk you have done a million times before.

[@tifKh]

Going to check this out- thanks for writing this comment with the example, I appreciate it so much

[@ZeeJohansen]

@@tifKh happy to be able to recommend it ^^

[@aluridscarrdhart4990]

Commenting again to thank you again. This video is amazing. Hope youre doing well, Wheezy and I am glad I found your channel!

[@aluridscarrdhart4990]

I'm in the process of writing a book and was working on it today (struggling to) and this feels like a sign. Thank you, Wheezy.

[@nikkireigns]

Best of luck! Keep going! 💞

[@aluridscarrdhart4990]

@nikkireigns thank you!

[@karenswan11]

Love this video! Thank you 😊

[@curtismmichaels]

I have a therapist who is really helping me to find peace living with CPTSD. One of the tools she gave me was observation. It amazes me how much that simple thing, observing a thing without judging, only observing. I'm going to try the three storyworthy things tonight. I love stories, I can't imagine anybody doesn't, so this'll be fun. Thank you!

[@gennc7293]

Been a fan since day 1. I have loved growing with you and your family and every video you upload helps me in some way learn a new mindset, skill or just laugh at the ridiculousness of life. Thanks Craig

[@lukaz2040]

WheezyWaiter, I want you to know that I have you in my list of role models. I love this message, the way you delivered it and it came at the best time.

[@Zelgeist]

The whole bit about finding stories from our everyday, seemingly insignificant, daily events is an interestin point of view, worth considering at the very least.

[@katiem4850]

Love your topics and practical advice. Often seems sincere and well meaning

[@jessicaganzert7130]

This really helped. Been feeling the need to find some meaning and it’s really hard but observing and creating little stories about mundane things seems genius. Probably does help appreciate stuff you wouldn’t otherwise. Thank you!!!

[@glkification]

Love the mentality of looking for a story to find purpose, nice reflection!

[@sphinx1017]

This is your best video ever. I'm shook, as the young folk say.

[@Dyrnwyn]

I’m in the mood for some Wheezy Wisdom

[@alberamirgivol1600]

Thank you Craig. You video made me realize I'm torn between my quiet preference of living in the present (without care for meaning or stories) and a deep desire to collect impressive personal stories. Still not sure if and what I'll do with this insight, but I will attempt to read the book, or at least watch the TedTalk.

[@nataliasouza6444]

I notice yesterday that the games I liked the most when I was a kid was games where you didn't necessarily need to follow a specific path, you could do whatever, Minecraft , The Sims, Gta. This made me thinking that life is more similar to this type of games, it's not made to win or loose, it's made to play.

[@nikkireigns]

Love this! I can relate

[@debrallewis]

Storyworthy…we are all creators though most of us don’t realize. Thanks for sharing inspirations that I can use to get back into my story groove. Btw, I’m grateful for your vlogs!

[@SockMonkeyofcourse]

We are all wanderers in a world of wonderment. Your Why can change daily, hourly, etc. Knowing how to keep something as the answer to your story is the meaning of life. Life is a series of changes that, to those observing, affect the observers of change...so they are enabled to make their own changes resulting in desirable effects. Yin-yang Dude!

[@mavor101]

Yin Yang indeed. Still so much we don't know about life. :)

[@greenpoprocket7965]

This was really insightful. I'm in kind of a funk today and it's because I'm wrapping up Thanksgiving vacation (just a few days off) and got like nothing done. It's a story that didn't really pan out, or at least none of the stories I'm telling myself progressed. Thanks for posting this.

[@rosslmccallum]

Why don't you really know what you want? “Two reasons that you don't really know what you want: number one, you have it; number two, you don't know yourself because you never can. The Godhead is never an object of its own knowledge. Just as a knife doesn’t cut itself, fire doesn’t burn itself, light doesn’t illuminate itself. It’s always an endless mystery to itself. "I don't know", and this I don't know uttered in the infinite interior of the spirit. This I don't know is the same thing as I love, I let go, I don't try to force or control. It's the same thing as humility.” - Alan Watts

[@anuragpranav]

amazing explanation of the concept of Emptiness as in Buddhism

[@Artofcarissa]

I find it hard to find a reason for my life when I grew up with the expectation that I would get fulfillment from my job/career, however I find my ideal career out of my reach and completely unattainable, even before the job market went to shit. I don’t know how you find fulfillment in life when you’re spending a good portion of your life at a job you are not passionate about…

[@sierra8802]

Love love love this video Craig. I think a lot of us needed this advice. Grounding yourself by observing concrete things in your day to day life is such a great way to find peace. And it helps you appreciate the little things.

[@ASplashOfJer]

I have been watching you since your early videos and I love seeing the evolution of this channel. This is very inspiring content and I appreciate you sharing!

[@Lobstrique]

this is genius advice! easily one of my favorite ones for making your life more enjoyable

[@TessJordan-lp5sc]

This is great stuff. Thank you.

[@asophcalledskye]

I can't stop thinking about this video, truly so good

[@SuperLkelley]

really great vid wheezy - thanks!

[@kerryswan1875]

Needed this 💕

[@tifKh]

I really needed this today

[@sarahburgess7306]

Thanks, Craig

[@amata87]

Thanks, Craig ❤

[@bigfootnintendorazr]

Great video!

[@lizkathrinsaves]

30 days of doing homework for life?? I loved this video.

[@JaxsonGalaxy]

When meditation teachers and yogis talk about developing focused awareness, this is what they're talking about. Congratulations Craig, you've discovered focused awareness. You've completed level one! And you're now able to start the journey!

[@SirBoden]

I spend my time hunting and gathering snacks, tending to my hut, making sure it stays waterproof, collecting wood for warmth, after that I’m tired, so I make a snack and snuggle in. If you’re looking for a purpose, chores work pretty well. Keep life simple and you’ll sleep better Your house will be tidy With plenty of snacks.

[@DaivG]

Be willing to try lots of new things until you fail. If you fail at something and you have no inclination to do it again. Try something else new. If you fail at something and you are internally motivated to try again, pursue that until you're not motivated to continue. Acknowledge that you're probably making up a story about how easy the process was for other people and you're on your own path.

[@Kapow14]

Mr. Wheezy Waiter! Wow. I LOVE this video. It really resonates with a lot of themes in my own life and journey of trying to figure out what the heck to do on this planet. A mentor of mine years back had this exercise he taught me, called the Noticing Game, which is exactly what you describe in this video. Just asking yourself "What do you notice?" It's similar too, to what I learned years later in therapy for severe anxiety, where my therapist taught me how to breath, separate from a rumination, and then 'float' with my brain until it naturally started to notice things. Just allowing it to float, not fixating on any one thing, staying curious. All this to say, yes, I can personally attest to the truth of what you say here in this video! Also love the reframing of finding story. Dr. Bertice Berry's whole thing is that humans search for stories, to learn to tell your story with love, ah yes. Thanks for the actionable steps at the end -- so excited to try these 3 stories a day idea! I LOVE it! That's a lifegiving way to journal for sure! Thanks Craig. Deeply appreciated.

[@SusannahPerri]

Thank you Craig, that actually helped a lot. I needed this message right now, in particular, as I have been very sad and stuck the past few weeks. I’m actually quite good at this type of observing of my life. I’ll make a relevant video soon and be sure to reference this video as well. ❤

[@MatRavven]

Greg picked a random movie and amazingly rhymed with melatonin - I am blessed

[@homeyrademo2605]

Thank you 🙏

[@DevinTMichael]

I love how he hit the eagle, it brings back so many memories of Crash Course Politics...

[@LukewarmCoffee134]

Thank you!

[@goronska]

This video is the most ADHD I have seen Wheezy in a while.

[@cipro33]

You're wonderful, I love your videos. Thank you.

[@cephinisemodestin3348]

My brother and I once had a conversation about kinda ‘finding oneself’, and in that conversation he explained to me that ‘why’ isn’t a very good question. You can literally answer the question ‘why with anything.’ For example “Why do you like this channel?” Because it inspires me to write more stories. And then I can go into a whole thing about how Craig’s creative journey has inspired me to continue to push on with my creative journey. And while that is true, I’m not really digging into my own mind to really question my motivation as a creative. But ‘better questions’ ones that as ‘when’ and ‘how’ something occurred or began, brings out more concrete, and thought provoked answers.

[@cheery-hex]

to me the best question is to ask is, what do I like to do? And do that

[@PrettyUnique-wl7or]

​@@cheery-hexagree I've asked myself why my whole life, but only made progress when I stopped and started asking what do I like to do.

[@GamerofOld]

I am not going to lie. When the "shirt" kept popping up I had to pause the video because I was laughing so hard! 🤣thanks for that.

[@simranbobs]

I've been following your channel for years and I love what you and your wife do. Much of it has been helpful...all of it has been funny. Meaning and purpose of life? Figure out why you came here and get the hell out!

[@darmanistan]

came at a good time

[@christinajordan9713]

One of my mottoes is to approach with curiosity. It was nice and validating to see similar here. see thing, be curious about thing.

[@shartmann2008]

I love the Moth Radio Hour on public radio. :)

[@sarahburgess7306]

"I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains, I looked to the children, I drank from the fountains. There's more than one answer to these questions, pointing me in a crooked line. And the less I seek my source for some definitive, the closer I am to fine." - Indigo Girls

[@mavor101]

The meaning of my life is to be one of the views on Wheezy's videos. Keep being a nice guy, dood. :)

[@The1Overmind]

Craig describing the leaf bags with jack-o'-lantern faces is like hearing my day to day inner monologue said externally and that's creepy. 😅

[@cheery-hex]

good advice thanks wheezy

[@MsScree1]

Brilliant!

[@lucia26]

I just watch cos you are a funny and kind and human.

[@nutherefurlong]

Thank you, Mr. Benzine

[@audone5551]

Pay attention to who you admire and move towards that.

[@keyframeclips]

Craigs neighbors checking the mail: _Hey, there’s Craig walking his dog_ Craig: “Manhole cover, bird feeder, car, fire hydrant, Christmas decorations…” Neighbors:

[@brodyalden]

Happy thanksgiving Craig

[@wheezywaiter]

Same to you!

[@dannydanny9875]

Respect!

[@_orodrigofernandes]

Cheers!

[@coniff3]

Great video!

[@jessicapaul7538]

Thats a great perspective. Just make a story and live that. Im going to do an experiment of telling myself what will happen tomorrow and see if it goes that way and if not why and observe it. 😊wheezy waiter the great thinker ✨️gratitude

[@izzyxblades]

This is great advice, but I want to add, depression could block a person from finding and feeling these things. Getting therapy and or antidepressant medication could lift the fog. As long as depression is still active, it would just be really hard to get to some of these mental places, because by definition depression is supposed to make life seem pointless or meaningless, by definition it dulls motivation. If a person has depression, there is no reason to fight it without help, that would be like a person needing glasses but not wearing glasses. It's a self imposed handicap to not get that help.

[@Catriiine]

Damn I needed this

[@ashe1317]

"i'm not a witch, i'm your wife, and i'm not even sure i wanna be that anymooooooore!!!!" -Chyna, probably

[@Mentat13]

Great video. Continue in this vein

[@o1ecypher]

it can be anything, just focus on one thing and do it to its fullest

[@itsdanielsun328]

Hi have not seen you since 2018. Last time I was watching Wheezy Waiter. Woah I did get lost.

[@emilyb1122]

Omg I'm early! :) hope you and your family had a great Thanksgiving!

[@Nothingmuch1039]

There isn't a reason, our big brains and egos just makes us think there should be. We aren't as smart as we think.

[@MattSmith-ks2lc]

I 3D-printed a plastic cake in the form of one of those garbage bags decorated like a pumpkin face.

[@SophiaAphrodite]

The issue for people is not what the one thing is, it is just find ANYTHING to make you get out of bed other than paying bills. There are things I love, but I would not get out of bed to do it. I would rather sleep 16 hours than be awake and only siting around surfing KZbin videos. The issue I have is the people who have this answer are wholly unable to explain it to anyone in a way that is not just canned tropes to those of us who don't. NOTHING works. If it worked, we would not still be begging the question after centuries. You found it, but HOW you did it is not how you tell us you got it. Or it would work. IT DOESN'T.

[@Ludix147]

I think there's a spectrum of aimlessness. You can't cure depression by simply making up a story, but you can definitely inject more meaning into a normal and otherwise boring life!

[@maurice3590]

finally new good stuff to view on youtube, I guess this is what to do with our lifes ! Meaning found, problem solved.

[@ThePancakeJedi]

Dear mister Craig, your video’s are so excellent to me that I’m going to embrace them as a new religion. I hope you don’t mind being a God like entity in my mind. Ps. Will be going door to door later today to spread the word of Craig.

[@goodstorydan]

When did Wheezy become the realest guy on the internet?

[@getlostblue_coach]

Thank you, you reminded me of my what....pot candy! And grateful for....pot candy.

[@sledgehammer-productions]

My story for the past 5-10 years is about all the stories that I've lost. Not a good story, still working on finding/making up the new one(s).

[@dw300]

Say 'What' one more time WheezyWaiter, I dare ya. I DOUBLE dare ya!

[@wheezywaiter]

What?

[@nikkireigns]

Hwhat? Yeah! Ooookay!