How To Stop Lying To Yourself

[@Thagy1973]

Oneof the worst is staying with someone you're not really attracted to just to avoid loneliness.

[@Wanjiku-m5p]

Came here after a therapy session my therapist told me I have been lying to myself. Thanks for a great explanation

[@Nutellapod]

Keep doing what you’re doing.Your words and thoughts mean the world to us that need them most

[@lilacfunish]

Power dynamics: 1/ what did I get from this situation? Play victim. 2- how did it allow me to play victim? 3- how the staying wounded child show up to make the world as parent. 4- how I not take responsibility and make them responsible 5- how did it able me right and to make them victim? 1 up 6- how did I outsmart to blame them make them guilty 7- how is holding and lack of acceptance to resent hate and release my anger on them. Steps. 1- Recognize what is not acceptable 2- what do I want 3- how to plan control myself 4- what is MY first step.

[@tomasdale5306]

From El Salvador, thank you so much Kenny to enlighte me

[@treeroot7636]

I agree Kenny, once we become an adult, we have to take responsibility for our decisions, I had to go over all the reasons I got with my abuser and why I stayed with him so long, bringing children into it. Some of that was because due to my upbringing I was very vulnerable ignorant and did not want to risk homelessness again, and some of that was due to the things I believed about myself, people pleasing wanting to be good enough and not wanting to face the fear of being alone and "unloved" again....along with many other complicated reasons. Some of those things were hard to look at and accept, I am still working on forgiving myself completely, but I really truly know, that I did not have the awareness nor knowledge nor internal strength to navigate safely out of that situation when I was younger. How can you be resentful at a blind person for not being able to see?

[@micheleleegoddard]

I played small and did not use my voice to express my emotions and needs and walk away when they were not met, when lack of empathy and respect were given. I got to relive my adult heavy childhood upbringing

[@tomasdale5306]

Sometimes feeling good is not the truth, the truth is like a muscle, you need to train daily to be capable to have it. It is like a spiritual muscle that needs to be train daily, once you stop training the truth you wouldn't know what is real or not.

[@terencehennegan1439]

Spot on 👍.... By training the truth we also train and strengthen our authenticity.

[@IRSamsara]

You’re a rockstar. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.🙏🏼

[@kennyweiss]

Happy to help

[@JohnnyB-v6v]

Thank you for sharing this Kenny

[@kennyweiss]

You are so very welcome :)

[@terencehennegan1439]

Your videos are very enlightening.

[@lucyclerico6575]

Boy oh boy do you hit home. Thankyou

[@elmaestrosinescuela]

Thank you so much for this. Very helpful 👌 ❤

[@kennyweiss]

Glad it was helpful!

[@denisepriddy6421]

thank you for this explanation.

[@kennyweiss]

You are welcome!

[@Mary-me9so]

Thank you Kenny. I had learned the information you discussed some time ago, but definitely needed a refresher.

[@kennyweiss]

Happy to help :)

[@elarecovery7928]

thank you for being so honest

[@kennyweiss]

You are so very welcome

[@missamericausa]

I’m going to the gym!!!!

[@tinyfacemcgee9211]

Would you do a guided meditation on us being in a childhood state for choosing a mean betraying partner and how we can’t stand up for ourselves. Because what you are saying is perfect but I am still in pain. Love your book. Excellent work!

[@amyrobeson]

this is perfect 😭✨

[@talanisingh8326]

Hmph. I have been trying to tell people that self-love is one of the most important gifts you can give yourself and those you love. It changed everything.

[@BobSmith-kd4oc]

I don't know where the saying came from but it goes like this. Inside of me I feel like they are two dogs fighting one good one evil and the one that wins is the one I feed the most

[@BobSmith-kd4oc]

The life what we know is an illusion and we face reality after we stop breathing

[@zoeazsss5035]

I think Dr Seuss had it right, with his book about the Sneetches. With their stars on thars, which meant they were better than the ones without the star. I dont know why this makes sense to me, .But I feel in narcissistic world, there are those who feel they are better, than anyone else and those who feel they have no value at all. Complete opposites.

[@micheleleegoddard]

What do I want not vs what do I want them to do wow

[@kennyweiss]

Beautifully said!

[@micheleleegoddard]

@@kennyweiss thank you

[@fightswithspirits915]

We confront our delusions with other delusions. How do we know truth isn't also a delusion? If it feels good must be truth?

[@tomasdale5306]

Sometimes feeling good is not the truth, the truth is like a muscle, you need to train daily to be capable to have it. It is like a spiritual muscle that needs to be train daily, once you stop training the truth you wouldn't know what is real or not.

[@micheleleegoddard]

I could stay a victim and small that’s what I got It relived one exact childhood situation

[@micheleleegoddard]

I allowed myself to be dependent so I could be cared for and be adored and waited on and cared for and provided for rather than take responsibility even when capable of housing myself and caring for myself which i did just fine before he came along. I also came from vanity and wanted the fantasy he dangled. Ill be honest.

[@DreStewart-py3zc]

Thank for changing my life; now I can leave my parents. Thanks.

[@kennyweiss]

Glad I could help 😊

[@LawCharles-f4r]

Karma always wins... ask for more wisdom and strength