How to Stop Relationship Insecurity... Before You Ruin a Good Thing

[@alpham]

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[@invisiblerevolution]

Good video Alpha...... RESPECT your openness! Ps. I tend to run on "negative imagination" also.

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[@yerrboi6842]

When I was 13 you taught me how to dress. Now at 21 you’re helping my relationship. Life long internet father figure. Your beginning story was very helpful since it’s the hardest to admit many times especially taking her back after she cheats

[@jimmyhilley6706]

Same man same

[@Flaco_775]

Same aswell

[@thecowboy9698]

I hope you didn't take her back.

[@thetokerjokersmusic]

I did, she gone now. But at the time, I didn't think I was good enough for anyone else. So I stuck with the one that "told me" I wasn't.

[@Damnthatscrazy666]

I feel u G I'm 24 now fs favorite youtube legend 🙌 love how he's not afraid to share emotional parts of his life and what he's learned from it 😅 you the man Alpha

[@Monsoonpain]

When in doubt...DUMP EM...They'll secretly respect you. If you think they're cheating...THEY ARE

[@bobsmackey3852]

My ex-wife told me that I should just blindly trust her. That didn't sit well with me and then I found out why she said it, because she was cheating on me.

[@jrviade85]

😨😨😨😨

[@nickthompson1812]

Terrible person. I asked my ex multiple different times… “I don’t believe you… should I?” “Yes.” I never thought she could be such a bad person lol.

[@suhtangwong]

Awww at least she tried 😂

[@Mugsey1984]

If she’s your wife you should trust her. If you couldn’t trust her and she your wife, then she probably never should have been your wife until you could.

[@jakegraham7265]

​@@Mugsey1984Life isn't that black and white. People are good at hiding their capacity for evil. Coupled with the fact that the morality of cheating has become subjective in the west which influences people to behave in a way that society no longer punishes as being morally reprehensible, you have many cheaters in the dating pool. I recall hearing about how a guy got cheated on the week after he married his girlfriend of 7 years. The girlfriend was infatuated with him, she did traditional roles because she wanted to be a stay at home wife but upon marriage she realized that this goal that she was working towards wasn't as cracked up as she thought it would be so she sought gratification from reentering the dating pool while still married... if the guy saw signs that in seven years the girl that he loves would cheat on him after 1 week of marriage, I'm sure that he would have ended things early on.

[@razzledazzle8631]

At 63 years old I am still married, raised 3 girls and worked with women forever. I know the female mind. Young brothers never forget a woman must think you have options. Men with options don't worry about their woman cheating because they know she can be replaced tomorrow. Even if you don't have options, she has to believe you do. Options could also be a hobby, building your empire etc. She must think you have other interests and will walk away and never come back. She must think you will be happy with her or just as happy without her.

[@rram992]

Insecurity leads to assumptions that eventually leads to self destructive behaviors, which in turn lead you to ruin your relationship. That can eventually make its way into toa newer relationship.

[@RiteshTrikha]

The timing on this is crazy. Thank you Aaron.

[@ripster9713]

Bruh for real💀

[@hockeyshot999]

I feel this

[@Dark_Section]

Thing I learned in life is to not trust someone from the get go , if you have nothing to hide then you shouldn't be insecure about sharing your phone or whatever. Trust is earned not gained instantly. You should be transparent with your partner if you want a committed relationship. I've see countless women calling their own husbands boyfriends insecure because she wants to be safe from responsibility and cheating > if she is doing shady things she is not the one for you especially if you are opened and transparent. Being gullible is a sure path to heartache. Setting boundaries is not and one of the most important boundary is no secrets.

[@mattheworloff2421]

Thank you Aaron. I’d never leave comments on KZbin, but felt the sincerity, timing, and helpfulness was worth acknowledging. Hoping for everyone to come out the other side of pain!

[@Scrollz07]

Man,you are here since years,sharing honest advices,stories of your life and giving us value in your both channel. Thank you,your energy is they key of your success! Keep the power up,Alpha 🔥💪🏻

[@arminxvs3372]

So true. Man, those are some hard internal battles againdt your own mind. Hard struggle. Building broken trust is frightening.

[@bobbyrebholz2183]

Once a cheat, always a cheat. It doesn't matter if they only did it once, it doesn't matter if they were drunk. Cheating is genetic and is a biological trait, especially if infidelity runs in the family.

[@maverickmountain]

Good wisely, advices in this video Keep them coming

[@freakboy4554]

When i was growing up (14) you showed me how to love myself, dress, practice confidence. Im now 20 and you are keeping me in check and reminding me that I an AWESOME! And that I became a man of God. I needed this today. Thank you. I have done some things I am not proud of and ashamed of in the past and am working on fixing it. I am thankful that this video will play a big role in this growth. Thank you Alpha

[@9663mu]

I will never ever forget the conversation my fiancé of 12 years talking to another man on the phone proclaiming her love for him. Calling him baby and everything else. I been trying so hard to move on.

[@spoilerman8975]

@@9663mu My fiance cheated on me two weeks before our wedding. She had been cheating a long time with this guy. Believe me I know how you feel. With time things do get better, That I can promise you. Good luck brother.

[@nicholasstgelais2112]

Bro fiancé for 12 years is crazy like after 3 isn't like do it or don't?

[@mikes4200]

No judgment man, three or 12 years everybody’s experiences their own. soul crushing.

[@AK47BLACKice]

Overthinking will lead to insecurity.

[@smoothvelvetsinger]

My insecurity is that I'm not an interesting enough person to talk to and be around. I don't know why I feel that way.

[@nickthompson1812]

Scared of being authentic. Totally feel that myself. I am overly serious because I can’t joke and laugh because I fear the reaction to my authentic self. The stuff I like women certainly don’t like, so the authenticity is hard to elicit.

[@Lostalantis]

Hit a couple puffs

[@Joey21071]

If you're in a relationship, or just casually dating someone, that person already finds you interesting enough to go out with you.

[@smoothvelvetsinger]

Thank you all for your feedback. I'm separated, after 22 years of marriage. It's strange being on the marked again after so long. Trying to figure it out. Using a lot of dating apps, I live in a small town and there aren't any women here that I'm really interested in.

[@swisscheeseplease97]

You ain’t the only one who feels that way. I’ve felt like that for years

[@Itznotme09]

Great vid to start my monday!! 😅

[@riaantems7206]

I needed this today. Perfect timing

[@ounmore2893]

Words of affirmation?? Does it even work anymore?

[@colemanMartn]

Felllas if ur already insecure try to hold ur self and then leave it’s will never end well

[@preslebmoyans975]

I felt embarrassed when being bullied in school…

[@canihristov5438]

Thank you so much alpha! This advice saved my relationship! Keep going, you are great!

[@Thoroughly_Wet]

If you can take my girl you can have her, i dont need that kind of woman in my life

[@ChamP10nk1ng]

Stop insecurity? #1. Don't date a h0e. #2. Stop being shallow & find a partner who's not worldly. #3. Be with someone who follows spirituality & embraces being loyal. #4. Realistic partner who's not a financial parasite always looking for "the next better thing". & you shall be in peace.

[@Lucas-dy4wy]

Thank you for the message dude. I am currently married with kids. Life change since I have my first child and since we got married she change completely. I didn’t set any boundaries to my self. I am alone in Germany no friends no family nothing. Just only the little one, who is the only one who kiss me and Hugh me. And I am a six pack run marathon earn salary of 6 digits, and sometimes she is doing nothing in the house. Pay everything even cleaning and doing my cloth and ironing . I am now into this hole that sometimes I try to figure it out how to get out. She even told me that she didn’t find attractive anymore. I just don’t know what to do.

[@mickeystrings92]

This was amazing and well needed ! 💙

[@K505KID]

Theres always that one relationship weve had that we used to put on a pedestal and thought there was nothing like it. Eventually we screw it up but learn from it.

[@gogulr3151]

Awesome😊 I have got the clarity to handle my insecurities. Thanks a lot Dude😎

[@Mrfantasy23]

I really needed to hear this.. Thanks AlphaM 🎉

[@ryanandrous765]

Thanks for this video, Aaron!

[@xingxing85]

Thanks for making this video. This video helped me a lot 😊

[@devinbrown5364]

Damn this story right here nailed allot key parts in a situation I’m in, I’m not insecure but I’m dealing with someone that is broken while me on the other side is battling Sobriety. I really have to start focusing more on myself and like allot people say the rest will follow!!!!! Thanks allot for this interesting topic well appreciated!!!✊🏾💪🏾💯

[@SteveScotsman]

I don't have relationship insecurities in fact I have a list of girls under my belt. But I have grown tired of not finding the one I truly want. So I simply ended my search as I realize she more than likely doesn't exist. I also never felt like I was ever in a relationship. I always felt it was a friendzone plus. Idk I'm just not one for dating and relationships anymore. That part of my life is done.

[@tiesto_gaming9735]

I really needed this!! Thank you so much Aaron

[@aravindramesh3877]

Great video Aaron❤

[@ahmedyoussef312]

Incredible, thank you for this. You’ve always been there for us 🙏

[@tazdrum73]

Awesome video and very well timed, with truly valuable advice. Thank you!

[@Joey21071]

I watched the first few minutes and stopped the video because for the life of me, I can never understand why the relationship didn't end that day. Why did it go on for another two years. I guess the simple answer might be the fear of being alone. That's why people put up with stuff like this. She didn't find you attractive and you knew this, yet you still stayed with her. She cheated. Again, you stayed with her.

[@TimmyP_3]

Everyone needs to hear this.

[@davidismetal10]

Thank you Alpha!

[@nimeshgounder442]

Thank you soo much, this helped a lot ❤

[@BMPOS]

I dreaded going to couples counseling until the other night when everyone roasted your overcompensation. Everyone that has heard of you was in tears. I finally got something out of that class and I can’t wait for the next one lol.

[@rigomartineztarot]

Been there bro.. I took someone back and everyday I was dying inside just to think how she just cheated on me like that.. walk away was painful but it was the best thing I did..

[@anichris8390]

Great video and something I struggle with

[@suhtangwong]

This is some great advice, I've gone through all these red flags, the problem was me, I knew it was mainly due to my ex, but I pushed that into my newer ex and that caused lots of problems.

[@meltedb5750]

Bro been watching since I was 12 im 23 now and this been what i needed literally

[@adrianveron4312]

He’s back… after being subscribed for a long time, I’m happy to watch your videos again.

[@geogemini8528]

Great advice. Thanks!

[@adeebfarhan5968]

Proud of you man keep going❤

[@RichFitzwel]

Great message 👏

[@Lil_jmp]

Where’s the person who tells about the video on the comments so we don’t have to watch it all? Come clutch 😂

[@visualaxingofficial]

Great message.

[@dyllanguye5741]

You did a good reading the journal, and to anyone who thinks that you shouldn't find out if your partner is cheating should not listen to what you said. Always Snoop it has two outcomes you either find out they're cheating and you leave or you find out they're not cheating

[@nickthompson1812]

Never snoop. Communicate like an adult.

[@LGFischer]

Thank you very much for this one!

[@collindurham7150]

This is exactly what I needed to hear

[@mario-zc7bt]

A couple that swings together stays together forever

[@rupagaming7646]

one of the best viedo of this channel

[@paulrenis8930]

When someone cheats, the signs are their, not only with actions, but you just have to listen to the words and whatbis being said also. Just read between the lines.

[@The_KarKnight]

The positivity I feel from your videos 💯

[@victorlaguna9003]

Thanks for this video, alpha. 💯

[@phillipsmith7759]

That is tough. Way to go Aaron.

[@vikasa1201]

I love this guy💖💖💖💖

[@Agave101]

Alpha, where did you get that awesome V Neck? Great content as usual!

[@missedinsunday]

I get this. So deep. Thank you.

[@chevyzoner]

Thank you Aaron 👍❤️

[@MotoMafiavlogs]

Much needed, Love u Aaron♥️

[@billsnyder1067]

Best advice I ever got was from a cheating girlfriend’s mom. I unexpectedly showed up and she was on a date. I was hurt and angry. My first instinct was to kick a dude’s ass. However, her mom simply said, he is not doing anything to her that she doesn’t want to happen. Then she said your to good a person to be treated like this. We “dated” another 2 weeks then we went our own direction. I realized exactly what you said here, you can’t control what another person does. Plus if you could control them would you want to be with someone you could control?

[@airsoftjosh7064]

Love the videos it would be awesome to come visit you and hang out with you for a weekend. I’m not sure if you still do those videos where you help people, but I would love to be one of them.

[@USATrump2024]

@Hey Jehiely! This is for you. Watch the full video.

[@smoothvelvetsinger]

Very valuable video👏

[@martynasp6315]

thank you

[@buddykaiser2380]

This will probably sound dumb to a lot of people but I'm going to talk about it anyway. When I was around 9 years old I had a girlfriend that lived 2 doors up from me (row houses). Obviously it was just stupid kid stuff but what happened really did a number on me and I didn't realize it until a bit later in my life. So one day I was sitting on my front steps and up at the opposite side of the street I see her and a boy I was friends with holding hands and running out from the alley to across the street to a large field that a church owned and let trucks (18 wheelers) park there. So I run up there and find them under the back end of a truck kissing. My 9 year old self was devastated. I felt very complex emotions that a 9 year old shouldn't have to deal with. I got to the anger part of the spectrum of emotions I was going through and went on to beat the snot out of my so called friend. This incident seriously installed some insecurities into me that persist to this day. I know people are going to say that it's stupid because I was so young and kids are kids and whatever else but it really did something to me. I'm honestly not usually a weak person when it comes to most things in my life but I've always struggled with trust in relationships I've been in. I honestly hate feeling like that. Most people say you can't have a real relationship without trust. I think because of that early experience I have never been unfaithful in all my relationships and have a zero tolerance for infidelity. I've never understood how a person could take back someone who was unfaithful to them. It's the ultimate betrayal. I hope that one day I'll be able to get over my insecurities. Relationships are difficult.

[@clintonnagy1662]

It saddens me to read your post. I know the pain you speak of. A deep pain that never heals and never goes away. I'm 51 and been cheated on many times from past lovers. I was married for 20 years before but left my marriage and pursued someone else. That relationship ended in disaster. Since then my dating life is lies, manipulation, deceit and deception. Stupidest thing I ever did was divorcing a good wife for the tramps Im involved with. All within the past 12 years. GOD dealt the punishment in more ways then one for the pain I've dealt to my ex wife is the pain I recieve. With that said...since my first girlfriend at 16 I caught her cheating and I was never right since then. Almost ended in prison a few times for the damage I created after being cheated on from the other lying women. Just recently, I broke it off with a woman who I loved deeply and the pain of her seeing someone else only burns my heart losing her. I really trusted her. I realize i was stupid to trust another female again. This heartache is on another level of anything I've ever faced. Im on medication, in Counseling & recovering from the loss of wrecking my vehicle via DUI. NOT sure what tomorrow brings but I pray God heals my broken heart soon. I don't think I'm gonna recover from the damage my soul endured from bad relationships.

[@Daniel3488.-]

My problem i'am trying to break is SNOOPING, Even tho Me and Her are not together anymore...I find myself in search mode and the crazy thing is this I know it's not helping me. But if she wants to treat me like I'm nothing then I guess I have no choice than to stop all that I'am doing..and start living my life as intended.

[@JJizz23]

Bout time Alpha spoke some truth here

[@FullCampColby]

Here’s how … Come to terms with the fact that if your girl wants to be with someone else ; she will be. If she’s with you it’s because she wants to be. No point getting mad or fighting about it. The end.

[@swahny802]

4:00 all of the above except last one 😂

[@karmanamgyal13]

What can we do to get it back now. She was head over heels for me, i loved her alot too but we ruined it. We are still in college, i used to try and communicate but she would neglet things. And more and more issues came up and i showed my anger at times and she did mang things to disrespect me. Now she seems cold towards me and says i disrespected her. Calls me controlling for protecting her and insecure for having boundaries. Ik we can still make things work but the disrespect has been alot.

[@nicholasstgelais2112]

If you don't have a kid its not worth it. Tell her it's done

[@anthonycardenas3643]

Im going through the same thing. Kick her to the curb. Im hurting rn really bad, but you gotta keep it pushing

[@KiloWhiskey716]

Well i wish this video came out months ago.... my insecurities got the best of me and pushed the love of my life away....she was the one for sure...😞

[@duranbodasing]

Insightful and honest here all day 🖤👊🏾therapy helped me bro. Lucky I don’t have a small wiener or I’m a broke ass (cause you’re done like you said) 😂

[@BigT1523]

Lets go Aaron!!

[@preslebmoyans975]

2:20 I know it kind of feels embarrassing when talking about a dumb girl

[@BiancuNeru80]

I blindly trusted gave all I had got crushed and my stupidity of what Marriage once meant has me still in the relationship that I know is not ever going to be what I want to believe it was wow can’t believe I even am saying how pathetic I actually am lol thanks for the resources and advice

[@edwardolopez3368]

I wish I found this video a year ago. Thank you

[@gonzalesejgx999]

Went to a festival saw an old friend and he told me to get away after seeing him a second time during that night and I walked away silently and heard them laughing at me the while group life sometimes has a cruel way of showing you who are you're real friends it was pretty funny because he was with his girlfriend and I had no interest but hey insecurities are real lol 😂

[@keysersoze1537]

I just stay single I’m the other guy she runs to 🤷🏻‍♂️ but she don’t know I careless about her it’s just a game to me

[@malone4735]

Alpha Never Disappoints 💪

[@chasingcloudsandflavorrevi9817]

Sometimes it’s just not meant to be. Just because the sex is incredible doesn’t mean that you feel good about everything else. Honestly I would rather have someone who is just okay in bed but incredible when shit gets real! I went through a similar situation recently to what he’s talking about and it’s not a good place to be.

[@youngodyssey16]

If someone is playing on you , look thru the phone lol…

[@kletts42]

Another video I wish I saw 25 years ago.

[@ChristopherGarza-rz8wc]

This was beyond coincidental

[@rudyquezada7088]

I totally agree with everything you said. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, every relationship I’ve been in, I’ve cheated on her. I just get bored, I need to feel that new beginning rush over and over. Yes, I feel bad for each of them, probably forever. I’ve been 3 years single and decided to stay single the rest of my life. I’m still gonna date, but they’ll know up front I don’t want anything serious. I just can’t help myself.

[@nickthompson1812]

Do you not respect yourself enough to think you deserve a long lasting relationship? You’re worth the effort, bro.

[@Truth4better]

My insecurity is they got no heart of mine they can break 😂😂 all joke aside I just leave everything to Jesus and stay honest and be faithful, and treat just as how I want to be treated and very lay back, God has gave me wisdom that even our own self can’t trust ourselves but if you leave everything through God and you do your part then God will take care of the rest, God removes all your insecurity because you will also understand your true value so if you lose a woman/ man that ain’t for you sure it might sting but man you will be thanking Jesus and praising him when you realize how blind you been, and sometimes you are the problem and he might take you away from a person that is okay too because God is gonna make you even better and stronger and wiser and set you up in life that is even better than before the only thing is you must come to God and seek his kingdom and everything else will be added to you !!! Wisdom!!! Joy!!!! Relationship !!! Money!!!! Health and peace !!!!!! all these Can I get an Amen

[@SJD904]

I love being Single! F a relationship!!!

[@lancerogers9694]

Do the work for yourself, dumped that skeezer and then did the work 🔥

[@specialagentorange4329]

Aaron thinks this is the 1960's where you can find someone and just flat out trust them. I'm not saying this is impossible but to find someone like that in this date and age is slim and none. He needs to come back to reality. I'm glad he has found a "fairytale ending" in Tracy, but it is still early in the game for him.

[@Omari896]

OG Alpha!

[@ShaikGayazuddin-et5fw]

Love from India 🇮🇳 ♥️

[@Dice4Card]

I’m going through this right now and alpha comes clutch at the perfect time.

[@kevinkuptz7397]

The words "INSECURE " and "INCEL" are the 2 most overused and miss used words that come out of a woman's mouth . I am actually convinced they dont know what either of those words mean.

[@leisureavocation2729]

Why nowadays no one is giving summary in comments