How to take control of toxic thoughts and vicious self-criticism

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@matta7647 3 ай бұрын

I have a viscous 50 years in the making inner voice. But I gave it a high squeaky voice and laughed out loud. This was a great video and newsletter. Thank you!!

@yoknapatawpha 3 ай бұрын

I really like the idea of changing the inner voice to make it easier to dismiss. Similarly, a previous therapist would tell me "Thoughts are not facts, they are only thoughts. Feelings are not facts, they are only feelings" as a way of reducing the impact of unwanted intrusive brainworms and their assumed validity.

@Betwixt_App 3 ай бұрын

Yes! I love that. Honestly, anything that we do in that moment of the thought arising is going to be a step in the right direction because it means that we are aware of the thought and we are being mindful of it as a problematic inner experience rather than reality.

@eprestejfel 3 ай бұрын

Genius. I imagined myself failing, strongly and vividly, but with the Benny Hill song in the background. I laughed out loud!!! 😂🎉❤

@Betwixt_App 3 ай бұрын

Hahahaha! That’s brilliant 😂

@lindatyler4331 3 ай бұрын

I watched the whole video prior to these shorts. I like having the whole picture and then having the breakdown to focus on 1 step at a time. Thank you!

@CallumMcPherson 3 ай бұрын

I just tried imagining a Dalek shouting criticisms at me and not only was it very funny, but it also helped to highlight just how ridiculously draconian my inner critic can be.

@annalockwood3021 3 ай бұрын

I love these ideas! I've used a similar technique for some things, but never thought to modify the voices of my inner critic. So very useful! Thanks!

@Betwixt_App 3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I’m so glad it makes sense to you (I’m sure plenty of people think it too daft to make a difference but it really does) 🖤

@terrywalters9178 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for posting this.

@Betwixt_App 3 ай бұрын

You’re welcome. I hope it helps! 🖤

@RalfyCustoms 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this, very timely indeed ❤

@Betwixt_App 3 ай бұрын

You’re so welcome! I hope it helps.

@Sdesser 3 ай бұрын

Love these videos. So easy to follow and so much information is relayed in such short bursts. I really like your style and presentation. Thank you so much for making these. I have a question about the inner critic: Have you had clients with no inner monologue? And if so, how did you apply these methods with them? I definitely have a harsh inner critic in terms of having negative thoughts about myself and the world, but there's no voice, dialogue or even any solid visuals happening. It's all abstract; concepts, feelings and partly something else don't really know how to describe. I'm having a hard time intercepting the critic, so to speak. It's like it's everywhere at once and at the same time it's nowhere. Edit: There are visuals too sometimes and/or partially and your tips on that look really good!

@grooviechickie 3 ай бұрын

I realised that my inner critic sounds like my ex-husband, who emotionally and psychologically hurt me for 20 years. We divorced 14 years ago, so I can't believe it's STILL his voice in my head. Geez. Changing that voice is an extremely powerful act. Thank you. ❤

@Betwixt_App 3 ай бұрын

Argh! That is _such_ a massive realisation. Well done! 🖤

@billcolak5253 3 ай бұрын

This is going to sounds cliché but he seems like a narcissist, I would high suggest Sam Vaknin's video on why narcissist's voice still lingers in your head.