How to tell if you have triggered a

[@blairsy]

"They'll punish you for dealing with them" -- so sad and true ... !

[@Forexroadrunner]

He's getting punished right back. My lawyers will make sure of that

[@dean314videos9]

I’m just saying… wouldn’t it be nice if there was a “registry” of narcissists people.. so that we are warned because engaging into a relationship

[@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552]

Oh you'll know. They'll punish you, ghost you, lie to you, abuse you, gaslight you, discard you. But they are nasty. They'll wait until they have new supply, or you are at an all time low in your life. They'll capitalize on it, get joy out of your misery, because they justify hurting you in their very sick minds.

[@fuliviacannady7703]

Exactly this 💯

[@Babylon-WILL-fall]

I triggered a narc not intentionally and he did the most and got his flying monkeys involved. Lots of rage, silent and loud

[@Bianca2802]

I think you can test if your Partner is a narcissist by beeing happy on your own, without them, and watch their reaction. A normal Partner would be happy if you are happy, right? A narcissist cannot stand the idea of you beeing happy and he is not the reason for your happyness. Because he is afraid of loosing control ,he will punish you with silent treatment, beeing cold etc

[@katherinemccoy5376]

I could feel the tension oozing off of him once he was triggered and I could see the way he held himself change in an instant.

[@MentalHealness]

😫😫😮‍💨

[@ZonyWest]

Im away from the narc and it feels wonderful!!! He think im coming back, but im actually going in a whole other direction that he doesn't know about!

[@unicorn73212]

Same I got a hotel room and got off my ex's lease I was suddenly reminded the other day why I stopped talking to him so much in the first place because he just wanit to sit there and talk about himself all day and he gets mad that you lose focus of what he was saying I just lost touch with him maybe there's something wrong with me but sometimes you don't want the narcissist to know anything is wrong with you. The narcissist will always try to make you out to be the narcissist.

[@Bianca2802]

The microexpression in the face ... especially when they think you dont watch them.. I had a friend who was always smiling when talking to me but others told me she is jealous of me.. one time we were walking down the streets, talking laughing, and i Turned to one other friend and she was somehow behind me..when i looked back to her i saw an expression on her face that i will never forget.. her eyes were full of sadness and hate, but when she realized i Look at her she immidiatly started to lighten up her face, smiling at me. It was all Happening within 2 seconds.

[@casmartin790]

Run!

[@makg83]

"You might not be the trigger"!!! Lee strikes again! A lot of this behavior was so confusing to me and you so effortlessly break it down. Thank you Lee!

[@MentalHealness]

You’re welcome

[@terriNCCC]

If they give you the silent treatment they’re triggered

[@MentalHealness]

💯💯

[@doralburnett9886]

"Is yesterday NOT the past?"😂

[@MentalHealness]

😆

[@sism3028]

I used to have two narcissists In my life. I walked away from one of them and the other one walked away from me. They have neither one contacted me in months. Lucky me!

[@CitiesOfAsh]

Doubt they were actually NPD.

[@kamenichetty4763]

Yes the screaming 😱. Then the tears from the narcissist. Yes they become distant. I was so much in denial. I have no evidence - but I'm quite certain he was having an affair.

[@marlahargrove5685]

He has rapid eye blinking. 😏. And this smirk.

[@gigafia5358]

Does anyone experience the silent treatment after a conversation you want to have and you put your boundries up and say what you feel,they turn back to you and ignore?

[@derekmarks8969]

That’s stonewalling and manipulation

[@sharonphillips5282]

Yep, I get the silent treatment and that's why I'm planning to leave now

[@user-dj8vl2mq2y]

Absolutely used to yes!!!

[@earasmith3884]

This is my husband right now. He asked me for a divorce and since I won’t move out. He is so mad.

[@thehandycapper1295]

Oh man I was where your at 4months ago you better take that offer

[@deannaharper2046]

OMG......this one was totally eye opening. My ex NEVER wanted to hold my hand. If i tried, he would let go within seconds. If i tried to touch him, he told me i was petting him like a dog. If i knew then what i have learned, i could had saved myself of soooo much heartbreak and misery. Thank U so much Lee.

[@ChrisS-vt8bw]

FYI, identical twins will have different fingerprints, though they will have the same DNA. There is a different "air" when my narcissist is triggered. Facial expressions, something in the eyes, tone of voice, etc.

[@karlippo]

I found it hard to watch their behaviour while in the relationship cause I was traumabonded and fearful 24/7 and when youre in that state you cant “see” clearly. But if you listen to your own body you knòw when he is triggered you can feel the energy shift to icecold agressive indignation with the narc. I would brace myself for impact. Also when he would become mean sadistic and attacking I knew he was triggered. But he was triggered by almost everything except compliments and ego strokes

[@mysecret0406]

I saw mine change on a dime! Everything was good and he turned into someone I didn't recognize. I actually wrote a note to my family saying, IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO ME TONIGHT, HE HAS KILLED ME. It was insane. I was terrified of him out of no where. I took him to see his favorite artist at a concert. When we got back to MY HOUSE, he was screaming at me! He blamed it on the traffic. Everything wonderful thing I did was never enough. I am 8 months of no contact after 6 years. He NEVER stops hoovering! He seriously does not believe I am done. I hope everyone listens to you Lee! This SAME person says he wishes we had children together. That way, I would forever be in his life. Now I know why he has so many baby mamas. I have never felt so sorry for anyone in my life. He ruins everything he touches. And thank God, he didn't destroy me. Trust the disorder! Thanks Lee. We need answers and closure. You are the one who gets it done!

[@jessicawilson8114]

I was with somebody for a couple of months and I don’t even know why I put up with that for long so what I did is I recorded him so I never think about going back and if I do, I just look at the recording it’s not worth your mental health type what they’re doing and rewatch it whenever you get weak or think you’re going to go back record them having a fit do you really wanna live like that? Let them go and be miserable live your life and be happy. Misery loves company. Good thing I don’t like guest.

[@socalfriend6985]

He ghosted me again, i guess he is with the better supply. I'm lucky i can get away now. Fortunately we didnt spend too much time together. He was always so paranoid and always looking around, so suspicious. Never touched me in public. Im over it

[@leoqueen7981]

Hello Lee!!! 😁I don’t think you’re getting supply from us subscribers, I think you’re helping us with problems we didn’t know about that existed. I’m truly grateful for your channel bcuz I have learned sooooo much since you popped up on my KZbin shorts. You were the first person to give me understanding of what I was dealing with and now GOD has given me peace. I honestly and truly thank you 🙏! Please keep up the great work. ❤️💯🔥

[@devonnordt8674]

Definitely this is a double edged sword.. he most definitely is getting supply from his subscribers and his platforms. Yes he may be “helping people”.. but he has y’all out here like Lee is helping us.. he’s still a narcissist and after while he gets under my skin.. he’s still a narcissistic. He gaslights y’all because after while y’all are out here talking about oh he’s helping me.. he literally starts his channel saying “I’m your favorite narcissist”.. last time I checked why would a narcissist be a favorite.. he says I’m in therapy.. I’m in therapy.. (gaslight).. y’all fund his pockets by buying his merch, subscribing all of his platforms.. get a life

[@mamasaid3]

Everything you said in the video is exactly what I'm experiencing right now. He moved back in with no explanation and still has dates with the new supply. And I'm the one that gets ignored, left out, you name it, he's doing it.

[@Blessed591]

My ex would sleep right at the edge of his side of the bed . ....almost falling off . . . So dumb . . . But in the middle of his sleep he would roll back to my side and hold me . . . It really used to confuse me because I felt in those moments that he loved me . . . I left him eventually but I still wonder about it . . .

[@NevaMindYo]

Lol, I’m laughing cuz I almost forgot my ex-husband did that… so corny

[@stephaniemcwilliams840]

Mine would do that to me and then blame me and I would constantly tell him I always sleep like this its never changed 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@user-vj2sn7vv5s]

This is so resourceful. He was soooooo distant. And was placed on Silent treatment.

[@MentalHealness]

🙏 🙌🏾

[@latoyaboyce9902]

When I was with my ex narc fiancé there always something going wrong in my life. From car problems to money to being sick not getting sleep and couldn’t explain it. Always having a headache and couldn’t explain it. It was always something. Things were still all about him. Selfish as hell. I was always in a state of anxiety. Flutters every single time he texted. I started pulling away when I got CoVID this year. He was pretending to care so much but it was a front. The moment I was feeling better he started asking for things all over again. He started being less attractive. I put a boundary in place. He was pissed!!!! His reaction sparked me to investigate and I found out some secrets. When u confronted him with the proof he punished me with the silent treatment. Turned me off even more. You’re throwing a temper tantrum like a toddler!!! After that he used his wants from me and a bargaining chip. I stuck to my guns. This made him madder and he eventually gave me and ultimatum…either I could do what he asked or not contact him anymore. I choose not to contact him again whether I did it or not. He’s been stalking me since then.

[@colleenanderson5308]

The past 😂 yesterday’s problems…. So true!! 100%! Thank you for calling out these behaviors!

[@agatamakulska4442]

When I raised my voice (in his house it was never allowed) or cut in while he was talking to my son he immediately goes blank, he would not say anything just made me feel like I have done the wrst thing in my life. It would begin silent treatment. His mom was exactly the same. It’s like you were visiting the royals. Proper speech, sit in a right place, say in a right way. You could see she was not happy. Lee is right my husband treated me like I don’t exist. He talked to me minimum for years, total lack of respect.

[@kilo_charlie0226]

Omg!!!! So I have severe major depressive disorder, right. My “spouse” would always give me the silent treatment and it would be no less than 72 hours even a week plus, whenever he did the silent treatment. I swear I would get the silent treatment every other month, at least. He would put himself in an entirely different room and lucky for him he had made the 4th bedroom into his game room, so it made it easier for him to hide out. He would even just sleep on the floor or sleep in the chair because I was so unbearable and repulsive to even be around. But when it time for me to break the ice because it was noticeably worsening my depression by feeling like a burden, he would always respond with “I wasn’t ignoring you“. If that’s not gaslighting, then I don’t know what is! We have been separated for a year and a half now with a divorce has been in a process for almost 2 years. We live totally separate lives and he is not in our two sons’ lives much and he lives 3 min away 🙄🤷🏽‍♀️

[@marcilk7534]

I could tell when he’s triggered, but I wish I knew what would trigger him before I said it. I could say the most loving thing, and he’d get triggered. It’s was always very odd.

[@josephinefurman3905]

You’re videos make my day & You’re so on point. Long story short , the narc mortified himself in front of me.. ( posted a pic of his new main supply he was lying to me about ) then called her a “friend” I literally humiliated him about it and it triggered him so bad he deleted all his social media… disappeared for 3 weeks… then texted me like nothing happened 😆😆😆😆😆 🤡🤡🤡🤡 beyond toxic 🙃🙃🙃🙃

[@rhondatownes2013]

I Am So THANKFUL That I Have Been Cut Loose ‼️‼️

[@rosebennett7388]

Soo True but Soo Sad!! Smh I am SOO at Peace since that FOOLISHNESS is out my life!! NEVER AGAIN!! That is CRAZY!!

[@MentalHealness]

‼️

[@debbysmith5346]

I think he's pissed off at me for ghosting him. He would always tell me my silence was deafening. The day he left I sent him a landslide of gray rock.

[@distinguishedelegance]

My wife got those papers for pulling this nonsense.

[@MentalHealness]

😰

[@jadewindom68]

Well that's definitely going to trigger her 👌🏽 be safe ppl act up when you break 💔 it off they go nuts 🥜🥜

[@cybildrake4058]

😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@Emily-ed6ed]

You answered so many questions of what I’m going through now! lol thanks Lee ❤

[@MentalHealness]

You’re welcome

[@MsPangY]

He's So Calm & That's The Hardest Part So He Would Like To Make It Seem Like It's My Fault Or That I Am Crazy But He Likes To Bring Up RICH PEOPLE Like He's Rich Too!! He Talks A Lot Bout His Rich Uncles & His Ex Rich Family!! That Bothers Me A Lot or I Hate It, Why Can't He Support Us Instead Of Bringing His Family Wealth To My Face!!

[@JudyLBeres]

I was so busy he’d pull the silence and it’s take mea week or more to figure out he was mad about something. I’m glad the new supply has to deal with that crap now.

[@Gillie81]

What’s up Lee I definitely set my narcissist off today but listening to your videos definitely helps me out a lot, keep up the good work

[@shundawilliams8543]

Thanks because this video just explained alot of the rage I endured and when I think back on it alot of the things you mentioned Lee, is what was going on like the cheating (maybeshe cut himoff), going silent for no reason then days later he smiling and talking to me like nothing happened and the kicker, yesterday is always the past unless it's me smdh

[@doralburnett9886]

Distance over drama and its subconcious and i should not take it personal

[@MentalHealness]

Stay safe

[@mkb7013]

I am an empath. Subsequently, I’ve attracted many narcissistic people over my lifetime. I have a question for you. Why are 92.5% of them so damn good looking!?! Yourself included.

[@casmartin790]

You offer free 'supply' 😂

[@mkb7013]

@@casmartin790 that has nothing to do with my question.

[@casmartin790]

@@mkb7013 I was referring to your additional comment after the question.

[@mkb7013]

@@casmartin790 😂😂😂 point noted

[@casmartin790]

@@mkb7013 I'm glad there is no hard feelings between us and that we could see the comedy in my comment. I'm also an empath survivor, but I'm male 💛

[@Anne-go9ol]

I did that too. But isn't that a normal reaction? Not wanting no f***in hug after seeing him kissing someone else or making dog whistle comments. Pretend to be ok because you know he does that to make you look crazy in front of everyone in the room

[@barbarasanders1010]

Yes I experienced that, the person give me a robe and find a cap in the pocket accuse me of cheating with the neighbor. So he gave me the silent treatment the person body language changed.

[@lydiabergmann4521]

Thank you, helpful to understand whats going on in toxic relationships and helpful to stay safe and growing in the healing process. God bless you and all listeners. 🙏❤️

[@elizabethday4509]

Great show definitely describes my NC I have told him for years that I am not his emotional punching bag that he uses me as his emotional punching bag

[@mkb7013]

It’s not hard to tell. They rage

[@MentalHealness]

😫

[@nick1985fjb]

Evidently my narc EX isnt being truly listened to at work or with her new bf. Saturday morning she was grumpy when pickin up the kids, she steps toward the door and says ohhh i got myself into some shit at work... but ohhhh yeah were not talkin anymore, sighhh. I smiled, told my kids.. i love ya then smiled again an told her be safe. In my head i wanted to tell her to go tell her new bf, but i turned the other cheek. Glad i did.

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@deezgex]

I agree took mine out to eat once and because she noticed a girl with dreads, looked like maybe was into same stuff as me. We had changed tables. Then she looked at me and said outloud. No bitch can love you like i do outloud in the place.

[@deezgex]

I got blammed for her feeling bad, being confuzed, etc etc even though she has medical issues that cause these things but she also uses that against me that i didnt do enough but it seamed she was ok mostly that day physically

[@karlippo]

We didnt live together (thank god!) these five years but he would trap me to take revenge when he got triggered which of course he never told me just acted out on it. he would call me hey honey? And then once I was there at his house he would act like I was a vilain and would on purpose withhold the touch or kissing or cheeks clapping and i had no idea what was up. He would rage cold mean sadistic shit. Leaving me completely in shock and freeze state.

[@theliterarytarot]

My ex hubs was a malignant narc and it was hell getting rid of him then I ended up dating a covert narc. Didn’t know it until your videos wtf was going on, I thought I was mad. Thank you for giving me the closure he wouldn’t. ❤

[@deezgex]

And blame the distance on you for a outing you noticed they got dissapointed at you then other things and ppl, started not feeling good then later blew up on me. Days later blamed me not holding hsnds etc etc but yet themselves said was busy doing this or that. Ultimatly ended up breaking up with me telling me my view is demonically twisted and they cant be apart of it anymore followed by tons of stuff. I had witnesses during the day closer to me then her and thry said i didnt do anything to cause this.

[@keliakilpatrick5038]

I don't even bring up the situation it infuriates him I take him home 🤣

[@TheRealDee96]

Ugh my narc would literally give me the silent treatment and say I’m on punishment

[@MentalHealness]

😮‍💨

[@lovefaith6285]

I share your videos with my nephew's wife and exbrother-in-law to help them in dealing with my sister. We all now see my sister for who she is and what she's doing with the emotional games she plays with her son and ex. She's been getting mad because we are not responding to her triangulation, out bursts and lies. Thank you for all that you do, you're SO appreciated!

[@stylist62]

Narcs mind is extremely cruel😢🙏🙏thank you Lee🙏🥰

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@ChristieMoline]

Thank you for putting yoʻurself out there. Im an only parent with a grown only child that am just realizing 2 b narcisistic. Im heartbroken but strong.

[@user-db8kq8te5z]

Thank you for your video. You nailed it when you said They will text you and say how Evil you are! The last text I got from my ex had that in the context. In that very moment I shook my head and said to myself this person is not in a stable mindset time to let go permanently. That was to bait me and hurt me with thier words because they can’t hit me physically so let me hit them with my words! Peace out homie, I genuinely wish them them to best regardless and I need to Replace the image of them in my mindset

[@kamenichetty4763]

I think I triggered him Wen I blocked him Wen I hid from my statuses. But today I blocked him on wotsapp. Btw I'm an identical twin.

[@sandramiggins9268]

I experience exactly what you talking about with my Nar husband.

[@MentalHealness]

😞

[@void1718]

Oooh yessss, I triggered him to hell once I knew the game .

[@InkdNXS]

Same, lol

[@danieladegan8106]

Makes sense..I couldn't figure out why all of a sudden he wasn't talking to me, took away things like hugs and kisses when I didn't do anything

[@MentalHealness]

silent triggers

[@Survivingnarcissistsabuse]

Devorced but still living with my narc ex. Still trying to figure out how I let that happen. Watching your videos Lee and I am learning so much. Thank you

[@jenniferhowley5103]

I actually had lots of fun with my narc until I didn't ..he developed extreme substance abuse and that's when it got ugly

[@jenniferhowley5103]

I stuck in longer then I should. he was my fav drug I wasn't his ..he sucked everything out of me in the last year we were together. bled me dry..I was love drunk and blind. ugh I feel so dumb still and its been 13 months w no contact

[@cybildrake4058]

Jesus you are telling the truth

[@MentalHealness]

I try

[@Zanyelle]

New sub! I love that you are self-aware and helping others and others like you perhaps become aware.

[@michaelarnold414]

I'm dealing with this RIGHT NOW!!! He's in a place and I didn't do it. I noticed his body language and he's trippin!!!

[@MentalHealness]

‼️‼️

[@tshireletsochuma7931]

Thanks for your work Lee!

[@MentalHealness]

Any time

[@user-zs8er5pg5c]

Thank you for keeping it real!

[@earthtariankyrasimone]

That playing. I am not the one. Silence then talking like nothing just happened for the entire day of silence. Kmt.

[@banitapplebum8457]

Watching this is triggering ‼️ PTSD

[@cathyjennings5580]

Thanks SO VERY MUCH FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND TIME TO SHARE WITH US 😊😊😊😊💛💛💛💛💛😺😺😺😺

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@catherinedetrizio7312]

I had a great day today!

[@sism3028]

Hello.. Thank you for your channel!

[@MentalHealness]

Thanks for being here

[@kamenichetty4763]

Will the new supply ever catch up with him ???

[@MentalHealness]

Perhaps

[@nikkimole540]

Thank you again Lee ❤ for highlighting the trigger deflection they do .. its Totally Toxic behaviour

[@pinkheartfairy]

Absolutely right

[@MentalHealness]

💯

[@useyourwings793]

I'm so happy that i found your channel and i subscribed to it, you helped me a lot! 🙌🏽🙌🏽👯‍♀️👯‍♀️

[@HisLoveEmpowersMiracles]

This was awesome!! ☺️ You have helped me so much!! May Jesus bless you abundantly!✝️🙌

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@crystalball3717]

Identical twins have different fingerprints too.

[@aprilmorgan909]

Resident Evil and Silent Hill, nice! 😆

[@cathyjennings5580]

Thanks SO very much for the knowledge and time for Us 😊😊😊🥰🥰🥰💛💛💛👏

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@user-yt5zt1tp7z]

I think I triggered off my narc neighbour she got her son to harrass me aswell as god knows how many other people, after 2years of it I finally told him to knock it off if he keeps on I'll report him to the police,he accused me of spying on him and mum,then he kept saying you don't like men do you?,I told him I have a man he's a doctor,and I don't want anything to do with him or his mum do not contact me or involve me,couple of weeks later 9pm she's at my door talking shit as narcs do,if I go near her son again she'll cut me up,she kept calling me a rat,I ignored her,the next morning she's outside my bedroom window in the middle of the road shouting look at the state of you (everytime I do my hair it triggers her)then she guestered slitting my throat,she was posturing like the hulk does,she said open your window,I told her she won't control me,I had a male visitor who I had a laugh with then I was leaving home to go to the shop,she had a man help her to assult me ,she bit me twice, ripped off my necklaces stole two pendants a kiss and a heart,then shoved me down two concrete stairs got on top of me and strangled me,then a load of screaming the c word at me, months later again after I did a week of jury duty and being away from home she was laying on slabs outside the door I couldn't get in constant harrassment, anything triggers her off she's so unstable ive never had anything like that happen to me before I'm in my fifties she's insane !luckily for 6 years before meeting her I had been educating myself about narcs all your videos and others I cut contact with her after 4 months that is what is triggering her all the time I'm getting on with my life and completely ignore her she can't handle it

[@samanthiahamilton6599]

So my friend got stopped by the game warden and discovered his license had been suspended for 10 years. So now he can't drive that truck anywhere cause they know he doesn't have license and they know the truck. Long story short I got discarded again about a week later

[@SonjaSmith-qi8hd]

Great session! So true ❤

[@MentalHealness]

Glad you think so!

[@kadlacdixon-thedrawmylifep3293]

6:35 I love when they do that cus you get a break from them...

[@LisaLeeLeeBlue]

@mentalhealness is it bad that I blast the volume of your videos and follow him around? We’re broken up for good after 5 years and have a daughter. He stonewalls or grayrocks silent treatment whatever you want to call it, harder than any human or child than I’ve ever known. So the only thing that happens is he’s silent. Which is no different from how things are day to day anyways. There’s basically zero communication because it’s been 5 years of talking to a brick wall. So why not feel like I have a little control in my life? Or is it a bad idea? Thank you for all your content, you basically saved my life.

[@Kangarooriver]

You touched on great examples of behavior from narcissists. Curious, how have you changed your behaviors in similar situations? Do you still catch yourself stone walling or anything? What have you chosen to do in place of those typical narcissistic behaviors?

[@noName-il4wk]

can the punishment last 6months or more? He flat out told me "I'm going to punish you".

[@smn3313]

Yes they do that

[@icshay21]

Yes, they do😳

[@Anastasiapajarillo]

Lol I don’t think you can miss it 👻🫣😱

[@deezgex]

Is it normal if they get triggered not just by you but others and conceal it then let it loose on you later in the day? Like it just builds up

[@amylukasevich4447]

What made you realize you needed to change? What opened your eyes ? What made you say “I’m a narcissist and I need help”

[@erykahhoney588]

Soooo accurate

[@kurtrinamckinnon4214]

Everything you said is true

[@debhufnagel5912]

What about blocking communication even temporarily? Is that also a sign of being triggered?

[@MentalHealness]

yes possibly

[@debhufnagel5912]

@@MentalHealness then unblocks to bring up the holidays and that's it

[@katface28]

Out the gate, if you get crickets back... if you get an explosion back...

[@angelic9630]

I subscribed!

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@cathyjennings5580]

Is this common behaviors in the very early stages of getting to KNOW them & warming up to them ?? Trying to encourage them to watch a home movie??? R they triggered aloof behaviors for ??