How to Write a Thank You Note | The Art of Manliness

The holidays are over and you likely have gifts you need to write thank you cards for. Here's how to do it with class. (Don't disappoint your Italian grandma!)
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[@mikeywestside8509]

Adding a wax seal to the envelope really puts the icing on the cake.

[@mindfulmike8612]

I got a job because of a thank you note. After interviewing I sent one to each of the managers/bosses I had spoken to thanking them for taking the time to talk with me. On my first day the boss told me that they went with me specifically because I was the only one that took the time to write a note (there were three of us that were well qualified and a good fit for the job).

[@brianhouchen2459]

+mindfulmike That's awesome!

[@nicolek8971]

thanks for sharing your story I'll do that too!

[@nicolek8971]

Also mindfulmike would you mind telling us what the note was like? Was it a letter or card? How long was it and what sort of things did it say? It would really help

[@mindfulmike8612]

It was just a small simple card (maybe 3"x4", smaller than a regular post card): "Thank You" in simple font and design on the front and blank space on the back to write on. I wrote a little personalized note for each person I met with and thanked them for meeting with me, then got the address from the receptionist on the way out and mailed them before my flight out. Short messages, like 2-4 sentences, use their name and just say thanks! For some reason almost no one sends hand written notes anymore and I think they're very appreciated (a lot of people send emails, but it's just not the same). But make sure you take the cards with you so that you can write them while the details are fresh. An example of what I might write is "Dear ____, thank you for making the time to meet with me today and answer my questions. I especially enjoyed our conversation about ____! Thank you again for the great interview, I look forward to hearing from you. "

[@nicolek8971]

mindfulmike Ok thanks! That would help many

[@jasonluong3862]

Dear Bob and Mary, Thank you for the lovely dinner we had at your home last week. We are recovering nicely from the botulism. Enclosed is the contact info of our lawyer. Hope to meet you again soon.

[@jt01212]

+Jason Luong Dear Jason, Sorry about the food poisoning. Our attorneys, Vinny and Guido will be offering you our "out of court settlement" very soon. Their office is located at the bottom of the Hudson river. Warmest regards, jt01212

[@thejerkyshack8040]

+jt01212 lol

[@couponville1]

+jt01212 lol

[@domenik8339]

Thank you notes are a thing of the past, for better or for worse. I've helped a lot of my friends, never received one, but I've never sent more than one or two either, and they were both accepted with a bit of confusion. Nobody really expects them anymore. Hope these come back though, might help with people becoming so distant.

[@IhaabMajid]

I don't think I've ever watched a video from this channel and I subscribed. I love the concept of this channel an this is exactly the interesting stuff I need. I appreciate the work from this channel.

[@bobbykurschat2213]

Idk how many times I've gone back to this... thank you, Brett.

[@Srvent]

And a big THANK YOU to the Art of Manliness for all the wonderful reading and viewing material over the years!

[@emloney]

Written expressions of goodwill add a personal dimension to human discourse. The texture of the paper, the quality of the writing, even the stamp you choose - can delight the receiver as well as say much about the sender.

[@ramezqubain8177]

What a great idea! Things have become so impersonal with the digital age. Thank you Art of Manliness for the great idea.

[@paulhidinger4010]

The quality of these videos is unparalleled in reference to all the other channels I have come across.

[@Gims110]

Great thoughts, thank you for posting this. Emails and texts have their place but there is nothing like a hand written thank you note. A quick visit and a strong dry American hand shake and "how do" works too. I am really enjoying your channel. Thanks again and have a great new year.

[@cytherians]

Here's a "Thank You" note -- to AoM. I just stumbled upon your channel and I'm thoroughly enjoying your videos. Great advice all around. They're fun, jovial, and informative too. I don't know what your publishing rate is, but I'm subscribed now and look forward to working backward through your archives. Cheers! :-)

[@thecapone45]

I have long been in the habit now since high school of writing notes and letters for appropriate occasions and it is very appreciated and noticed! What I personally do is use blank paper or cotton stationary paper to write the notes, fold it, and seal it with red wax and stamp it with my first initial. That almost always garners a respectable response. (:

[@memoduran]

Thanks as always for the time you take in shaing this information. :)

[@justagerman140]

This is awesome! Please make some videos in this style soon again!

[@UlissesNalone]

This channel is a must watch for every boy and man.

[@TylerCinema]

This is a really helpful video. I need to work on doing things like this.

[@dbfromm]

Using a fun / interesting / cool stamp is a nice final touch.

[@nicolek8971]

Thanks man this will help me write one. And also not many people write too many thank you notes these days, maybe we should all start!

[@HDInstrumental1]

This is such an amazing channel...

[@ujjwalshroff4983]

thanks for sharing this kind information

[@MauriceFlower]

I like your channel very much. This was a good one. I needed to hear this as a 'reminder'. I have many (importent) thank-you-notes needed to write - and send by ordenary mail! I am inspired now! I have stationary, cards, stamps, envelops, pens - yes, everyting to start out with! :-)

[@crownfisch]

love this formula...what looks like a long note is written very quickly

[@LTxStriker]

Really enjoyed this

[@KCCOmug]

With job interviews it helps to write the letters to people you spoke to immediately following the interview at a convenient location (ex. coffee shop or park near the office). The information you need will be fresh in your mind and you then don't have to write both a letter and an email.

[@bedroomguitarist8681]

I am grateful for the value of gratefulness

[@austinreed5898]

Great video, very informative! Thank you:)

[@EvilSecondTwin]

I like this channel. Good stuff.

[@MatiasAlric]

Dear AoM, thank you very much for your video. I will keep it at hand to thank the nice gifts I have received this year. I feel grateful to have subscribed to your channel and follow you on Facebook, and I'd love to keep reading your posts. Thank you again for your video. Warmest regards, Matias. Pd: Yeah, this is very nice, but... where is Mr. Narrator Man?!

[@kevindevaux4244]

i love this channel

[@eliotloveskimchi]

excellent informative vid! Only wish it came out before christmas...

[@delimuktiputramuliawan9653]

Thank you for creating this video, i find it useful for me when in the meaning time I will have an anniversary with my girlfriend and I think I got a new Idea what do I gift to her, once again, thanks for the video. Kindest regards, Ian

[@eddie51arz]

Awesome! I'm going to make one for my boss. I was an intern and I received a full time offer, 2016 will be my year!

[@imchrris]

this video came at such a great time! :')

[@ChristopherJohnsonIsAwesome]

I loved the video, I'm happy to see more AoM how-to videos. Am I the only one that misses the WWII informational film style and voice over?

[@MauriceFlower]

+Christopher Johnson No you are not. I am on your side concerning this. [smile] Greetings, Hans Fredrik of Sweden - born and raised in The Royal Kingdom of Sweden

[@meyou5350]

Thank You for teaching me how to write the perfect Thank You Card

[@Gymngardengains]

Gratitude means nothing if you cant express it. . . Gees Louise 💔

[@TheRealAnarchrox]

I've only ever received one thank you note. That included a scratchie (scratch lottery ticket) which was nice of them. The postal deliverer dropped one of their packages in our yard. I tracked them down and got it to them.

[@PyroGhost913]

You guys should do a video on dip pens. Fountain pens are cool, but I like the ritual of dip pens.

[@m_ianO]

Thank you

[@super_ponton9049]

This is awesome :D

[@earlalvizo4420]

Your the best!

[@mo1979ca]

good tips.

[@gabe8500]

First.Also nice video.Enjoyed the tips

[@mjchalla]

Cursive handwriting!! :)

[@Hopeofmen]

I saw Jordan, and I thought it was gonna be another romp with Mr.Narrator and Bill. :\ Still, thank you for these excellent videos! They really help!

[@Maurice_H_Rivers]

Thank you for the letter of recommendation sir. This will help me greatly in the in my future of aviation. I look forward to flying with you sometime. Thank you again sir. How dose this sound?

[@personincognito3989]

Very good

[@squilliamniggason6683]

Very useful

[@h.ar.2937]

Art of Manliness! You need to do a video on how to eat a burger in a manly manner. Many people eat it the wrong way, and end up in a big mess. I watched your video on dining etiquette but nothing was mentioned about burgers. (PS I'm new to the channel, so if the video already exists, please excuse me)

[@kalimav2]

this vid was helpful

[@ispaf]

I love the stationary you use. Can you direct me on where to find it? Thanks

[@JordanCrowderFilms]

I wish I remember where we got it. I think we just bought it in the card section at big box store. Peter Pauper Press has some great similar designs. Available on Amazon, or Barnes and Noble.

[@safewaycart]

Thank you for your bribe.

[@red1moster1]

a video suggestion how about proper dancing such as ball room, Latin scene, etc.

[@mosshark]

Thanks. :)

[@kevin1049]

@artofmanliness Would a phone call suffice instead of a thank you note?

[@pilotstyle123]

rule nr.6: use a fountain pen not a roller ball. class is in the detail

[@nustada]

I prefer money over thank you notes.

[@ronaldochavez270]

how to write a letter to someone who has lost a loved one?

[@malaquiasalfaro81]

+Ronaldo Chavez From the Gentleman's Gazette: Letter of Condolence The very first thing that one must do when a death occurs is to acknowledge it. If you learn of the death of someone whom you knew or if you discover that a relative or close friend of a co-worker or friend has died, you first sit down at your desk, take out paper and an envelope and write a letter of condolence. This is important especially if you are not planning to attend a funeral service or if there is no funeral service. Even if you attend a service, a letter is a nice, but not obligatory, thing to do. I said you write a letter of condolence. What Not To Do You do not send an email or post a “thinking of your family and you” entry on a funeral home’s website or Facebook. Death requires more from you. A handwritten letter is where one begins. It need not be long or witty, but a sincere message with a personal touch is best. Be Sincere If you did not know the person that well you can simply say something along the lines of, “I was deeply sorry to learn of the death of your aunt. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy. Your family and you are in my thoughts and prayers.” Just make sure to be genuine. If you are not religious, drop the prayers. These letters will serve as tangible reminders for the grieving that people care for them or cared for the person they are mourning.

[@ronaldochavez270]

+Malaquias Alfaro Thank you man.

[@Skillmatic323]

Why don't you upload anymore..

[@dbibah]

Can you do a video on how to have nice handwriting?

[@donaldbutler9702]

I know hiring managers who immediately chuck a resume if you send a thank you note following the interview. They view it as ass kissy.

[@MasterDraognCoorporation]

Did you sell the channel ? the voice is different

[@tgrqqs]

I looked up business thank you notes and it led me here in 2022. Do people read comments here in 2022?

[@todayscalm]

Thank you for watching this video!

[@SilverioVicente]

I miss the other narrator.

[@sid3347]

trueeeeeee this guy is so soft

[@thomashayward3286]

Would you advise still sending a letter if it was a recurring meet up, for example a friend who host a party every month (sometimes twice) would you keep sending thank you letters every month, or would once be enough?

[@TheAfrocalypse]

make it a default thing then... if the person recognize you do this frequently, your act of friendship gets a stain

[@andrearossi8293]

new videos please :)

[@SimmonsProductions27]

Funny this should come up, I had friends and family gave me gifts and some just came over to see me. I decided I would right thank you notes to all of them.

[@WiseGuy508]

+Noah Simmons The present tense form of the verb, "give", should be used in this case. Not "gave".

[@SimmonsProductions27]

+Wise Guy 508 You really do live up to your username. Lol I'm kidding, I knew I messed something up when writing that.

[@roadbuzz]

+Noah Simmons ... at least he didn't ding you on the right way to spell write. ;-)

[@SimmonsProductions27]

Bob Newman Fantastic, didn't realize that spelling mistake either. I was out in the cold when this video came up, must be the reason why.

[@roadbuzz]

+Noah Simmons if I get a thank you note, I'm the @$$h0le if this is what I'm worried about. #enuffDbagging

[@NathanLoveridge]

Is that really how you should use the word allude?

[@TroutOfOrder]

If you'd have just said "my friend" after "stay manly," it would have been a "Most interesting man in the world" moment.

[@hamedhosseini4938]

What happened to this channel?? you guys barely upload anymore! D:

[@ChristopherJohnsonIsAwesome]

+Hamed Hosseini Well they have their own website with written articles and such.

[@Hopeofmen]

+Hamed Hosseini Also, Brett has his own podcast for AoM, so that takes up a lot of time.

[@ProductionSandoval]

Where can I get stationary similar to what was shown in this video?

[@sir8aeriosthethird]

+ProductionSandoval Staples or Office Depot should carry some variety of stationary.

[@TheWhyteRhyno77]

Stationery is what you write on. Stationary is what you are when you're writing on stationery.

[@friendlyhoovy4244]

I'm doing it for school

[@TheVANITYKILLJOY]

can i just write "Thanks"?

[@adrianre9149]

How to ask out a crush ? Like a man

[@nicolek8971]

Its always best to ask somene out in person i think

[@maxreign9071]

I agree, Alex.

[@adrianre9149]

yea but i meant as a way of building up the courage or something along the lines like that ....

[@nicolek8971]

You could learn about what the person likes, get to know them. Or ask (ill just asume its a girl) her friends what she likes and surprise her with her favourite tye of things for example roses, animals, types of dates, lowers, candy, etc. Smile and talk to her more. You could say to her someething along the lines of '___ I really like you. I enjoy being around I'd like to get to know to some more...' Oh also you could tell her friends or your own (just so that she knows your interested in her) that you like her, it can show that you arent ashamed that you like her and is confident, which is attractive. Is that sort of what you mean't? hope it helps

[@adrianre9149]

This helps a lot actually, but I'm a very very close friends towards her i think my trouble is that I'm afraid of getting rejected/friend zoned

[@MrSandshadow]

Where are you? What happend!?

[@djoseful]

why not just say it in person

[@sophiaroth1930]

I'm not male, I just need to write a thank you note. good video BTW!

[@AMindInOverdrive]

I have an account with a well-known online card site. So whenever I need to send a thank you card, I just logon and pick a good one, type my message and they do the rest. Highly recommend that method. Also, I like to inject some humor into it with things like "Thanks for the lovely gift. It was such a surprise!!...because your gifts are usually terrible. Well done this time!" - my friends know my sense of humor so they get a kick out of those remarks

[@nicolek8971]

Thats cool! is it a virtual card thing?

[@AMindInOverdrive]

No they receive an actual card...SendOutCards

[@ItsMrBrendanG]

Mr Narrator man....come back );

[@snoopdog311]

oh nice I think Jimmy Fallon needs this

[@user-th5sy4be7k]

yeah... he could use some help... 😂😂😂

[@johnperkens600]

Imagine how useful the next generation would be if they spent time watching this channel instead of pewdiepie.

[@pedrohenriquesoutogueiros1449]

I though it was a comedy channel

[@aliciaplanaolias]

Obviously I am not a man ... but I really love this channel! Great advice for women also :) Thank you guys!

[@sarahverpile1595]

Is it weird that as a woman I watch alot of content like this?

[@moreeze4775]

What if my handwriting sux?

[@Junedude433]

Improve it.

[@moa3821]

i aint sending mail

[@winterfox6930]

whats the itro music?

[@sid3347]

AMOGUS

[@knugenavswarje734]

Honestly, isn't it kind of weird to send letters these days? I like the idea of it, but in practice I feel like people will find it weird. That reminds of a quote from Jim Gaffigan: ""Who's writing by hand unless they're like 90 or a serial killer?"". That's kind of how I feel about.

[@DeadlyAlienInvader]

Boy, I sure will miss the days when we used to use pen and paper.

[@ericl3085]

Jim needs to do more writing himself and work on his routine.

[@Rexdaninja]

Yea seems you'd have to be a Ron Swanson type guy to pull it off

[@AustinSlack]

Anyone have any tips for writing a nice thank you note when your handwriting is absolutely horrid?

[@lightbenderga2017]

Yeah I won't send you a thank you note for sleeping over...

[@wyattj.sullivant3494]

Left hand salute? Really?

[@scottallen2190]

No videos in 5 months, what gives?

[@DrScorpios]

Maybe you should consider a video on the correct way to sharpen a pencil>

[@m1ghtysauc397]

I just write them like Jimmy Fallon.

[@hedgeearthridge6807]

My biggest problem in writing thank you notes: ruining a note with my garbage hand writing :)

[@onlystar5943]

Здарова бандиты

[@SomeKindOfFighter]

No do how to write an email like a man lol #somekindoffighter