How Waiting Until Marriage Affects Our Marriage

[@ryanjane4424]

My boyfriend and I are waiting until marriage. Neither of us are virgins.. but we decided to do wait with one another. It’s been such an awesome challenge and joy so far.

[@katethegreat4918]

Good for y’all! Praise God! :)

[@micaela_c]

Omg, near the end when Daniel was saying not to wash down how special your wedding night actually was, was the most beautiful thing ever, just had to say it.

[@eugeniefohr8369]

yeesss

[@Dani88_]

I can’t wait to experience that hopefully if my husband waits for me

[@kindermann9301]

I like when she brings Daniel on. I always appreciate his thoughts and comments

[@houseofballet]

It felt like he stopped your embarrassment in its tracks- he was stepping in and protecting you from lies!

[@melissac9021]

I know! It was so sweet!

[@shaynasmits3551]

Talking to a friend the first time about struggling in a relationship and she said that during engaged encounter when the priest was asked if wanting to have sex with your fiance was a bad thing he said, "If you don't want to rip the clothes off your fiance right now then you probably shouldnt be here." and it has always stuck with me, just that they are natural desires to have.

[@emwilss]

Indeed - attraction to one another is real and normal and good.

[@Mia15239]

wow that is awesome

[@Dani88_]

Thank you for sharing this. I’m 23 and I’m waiting for my husband. It’s so lonely when barely anyone waits. I trust in God when he says this is what He desires for us. I don’t feel alone and I thank you very much.

[@maiaatkinsschalchlin2075]

I couldn't agree more! My husband and I waited till our wedding night, we were both 27 and virgins. Our wedding night was so beautiful, being able to enjoy the amazing gift God has given in giving us intimacy. Communication is so essential. Boundaries and continually talking about those boundaries as our dating relationship moved to engagement were so key to keeping our relationship pure. We were long distance so it felt even harder cause we didn't get to see each other often. Now 4 months into marriage, there is so much peace knowing that we waited and being able to share those memories with only my husband is amazing.

[@carolJomalema]

The way they speak to each other and listen to one another, shows how they have so much respect for one another.

[@Jess_ica2927]

I got married last month, and I have to say the time when we were dating/engaged and waiting already feels like nothing! It sometimes felt so, so difficult at the time, but I barely remember those feelings now that we're married. It's so worth the wait and has borne so much fruit for us already. Thank you for sharing this.

[@user12383]

Love this! Can I ask what fruit? Like in what ways has having sex after marriage helped? X

[@elizabethtsang78]

So beautiful! So happy for you both!

[@aprilmiller6587]

Thank you so much for talking about this! I am getting married next year and my fiance and I are saving sex for marriage and honestly the hardest part is when people tell me we should have sex before marriage and or love together to "make sure". It's very much assumed these days that any couple not having sex has an unhealthy relationship

[@mbecky24]

I loved this video I have always wanted to wait until marriage for sex and I will continue to wait forever until I find the right man to be with. I'm 36 going to be 37 at the end of the year and I will wait and serve the Lord. People think I'm completely crazy that I want to save sex for marriage but I don't care I'm still waiting. God bless you Emily and Daniel.

[@burnett_sheischosen]

How beautiful! I’m waiting as well. AND YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!!!

[@ellaagasaro496]

God bless you Becky!

[@luismozotorres7428]

I have a good friend who waited and got married in his 40's. They've been married 16 years now and he says he doesn't regret his choice one bit. Hope this helps

[@kindermann9301]

Do you go on dates?

[@milaszczecina5553]

Amazing testimony

[@AleighaCharette]

Daniel needs his own KZbin channel for men 💜 there is so much beauty in how he speaks

[@gethimrock]

Would love that tbh

[@kindermann9301]

I second this

[@margiehalpern4573]

This was really, really interesting, Emily. As someone who back in the day used sex to cover up a lack of real connection and communication (but didn't realize that that was what I was doing)...I can really see the wisdom and benefit of what you're saying.

[@anjolenna]

LOVING all the vulnerable, honest marriage content ❤️ My husband and I are about to celebrate one year of marriage on the 31st. We’re another intercultural couple and we live in his home country of El Salvador 🇳🇮🇺🇸

[@emwilss]

Thank you very much for letting us know!!! Cheers to multi-cultural marriages!!

[@evelyntippie4106]

Oh my goodness! I can relate to the intensity of seeing each other after long periods of time. I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, OH MY GOSH that first day of seeing each other is when we're most tempted!!!

[@andimcdove]

This is the most underrated experience of every LDR couple 🥲🙏🏾

[@kindermann9301]

How long have yall been dating? I’m skeptical about long distance

[@sheilareynolds3755]

It's so sad that remaining pure before marriage has to be a strange topic. Years ago, sex BEFORE marriage would be the taboo! I think it's incredibly sad that holiness is no longer an issue for "Christians".

[@xx_furby_lover_xx5812]

Great advice! I almost forgot I was subscribed to you, glad I still am. I'm almost 17 and never dated but I been planning to save myself for marriage. I decided earlier this year and I feel so amazing for my choice. I know it won't be a easy path but I know that it's a decision worth making. Thanks again!

[@emwilss]

I'm so glad you're here and I'm proud of you for making that decision!

[@jacklyn5578]

we’re all in this together

[@luismozotorres7428]

Hey, I'm a 23 year old guy and I'm still waiting till I find the right one! Hang in there!

[@elizabethtsang78]

Waiting here too :) we’re in this together

[@candyxoxo19]

So nice to see young people with standards of sexual purity and waiting till marriage. Keep being true to God. You are a noble person and will be blessed for staying true.

[@ellaagasaro496]

It’s great to hear both your perspectives on waiting. Most people who share about their experience in waiting have a tendency to boast about it, it is essential to include that as Christians it was only by the grace of Jesus Christ that we are able to wait. Otherwise it is impossible especially when two people are in such a close proximity. Be blessed ☺️

[@naomiarkison5365]

So thankful for your beautiful, marital example, it gives me hope! Praise God!!

[@emwilss]

Thank you Naomi!

[@shelley9565]

Ah loved how Daniël spoke of your wedding night. Not to water down. It may not look like what the work thinks sex is on the first time but how beautiful to share that. And to hear that from a guy! 👌 thank you both of you for your openness. It is so valued . To see how communicating and knowing these things is so valuable within marriage and to many facets is so encouraging to hear. So counter what the world suggests and not often heard even within the Christian walk. Thank you!!

[@jesspitchford7185]

So glad to have these videos from Emily and Daniël, too. I've watched for many years, but after getting married, can't always connect with her messages any more. Always a blessing to hear about the married and mom parts of life and faith, too.

[@missatomicbomb9333]

I feel like I found your videos at the right time in life and now I’m growing with them. First as a single woman dating, then meeting my now husband setting boundaries, and now married reflecting on our choices while dating and growing closer. The timing of your videos is always perfect and always so relatable. Hearing another couples thoughts and perspectives is just so encouraging, thank you!

[@chai848]

Great video! I’m not a virgin because I did not grow up in a Christian household, but have since found Christ, repented and committed myself to a chaste life until and if I meet my Kingdom husband. Sometimes I feel like an island in my decision! But this gives so much hope! Thank you!

[@elizabethtsang78]

Love love love this! I’m 100% for such real talk and am so glad seeing the boldness, courage & strength of the Lord in the both of you bringing such a topic to light! It’s so encouraging 🥺 I’m personally saving myself for marriage but in days like these, it’s so hard to stick to my conviction when everyone around me are engaging in it or have drowned out the idea of sex within a marriage covenant, the way our Creator has designed it to be that results, great sex. Thank you for such a beautiful reminder that has truly encouraged me to stay this path through His grace and strength. 🙏🏻

[@emwilss]

This is a very sweet comment, thank you Elizabeth Grace!

[@bgcate]

I love how you both talk about the subject in such an honest and beautiful way! Definitely going to rewatch this video in times of struggling or doubt 🥰❤️

[@shady1234shady]

Loved all of the talking points!it is so important in today’s age! Thanks Emily!

[@emwilss]

Thank you Samantha! For watching and commenting!

[@caseypern]

Hey emily! Could you make a video addressing Catholic young womens’ feelings of inferiority with men? I’ve talked with a lot of Catholic women at many college campuses, and there’s a lot of brokenness that we experience. A lot of us feel like Catholic men might understand how to treat women like a gentleman should, but don’t quite understand how to treat them as their equals too. Not sure if this is getting across right, but in sports, group activities…etc, many women feel like they’re not listened to or included by the men and it’s a deep place of hurt that’s becoming a trend. The guys are very respectful and want to treat women with respect, but it feels like there’s a disconnect between being chivalrous and respecting a woman as their equal- Aka acknowledging that a woman might know more or be better/as good as a guy in various areas (especially some that aren’t as well received like sports). I hope this came across right and that there’s a way you could help shed light into this. I’ve been searching for a while for Catholic females who have shared their experiences, places of hurt, healing… or any commentary whatsoever on this and nothing’s coming up! Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated

[@milagroscapomasi8525]

Every catholic community must be so different, because were I come from Ive never seen anytthing lik that

[@gethimrock]

Really interesting topic. As a Catholic guy would be curious to here more about this because I don’t have the denial perspective

[@bishnya21]

Thank you for this Emily! 💕 Much needed! Your husband is a gem , so much wisdom

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome! Thanks for watching!

[@kindermann9301]

Daniel is a good dude. I definitely look up to him and respect him

[@nnnnnnnnnataliem]

There are a lot of cute guys where I just moved and work, it's been difficult to keep my mind on purpose. These guys are fun and flirty and normal lol and they're not bad guys, but I don't think they're Christian. I believe it's no coincidence that I keep seeing this type of content recently to help me stay strong in the Lord and to keep my eyes on Him and believe that which I long for really does exist. It's been my (unfortunate) experience that men who are active in their faith as young adults are a little more than a little weird and out of touch with reality, and it's rare to find someone who is a healthy and balanced person, who enjoys their life and who loves to serve the Lord. I'm struggling to find someone who I'm attracted to, who is smart and capable, who has a pure heart, and who fears God. Thank you for your honesty and for your example! You guys are in the world but not of it and you're similar to who I'd like to be/find - Helps me to hold on and have faith for what I pray for! Blessings 🥰

[@InitialPC]

"men who are active in their faith as young adults are a little more than a little weird and out of touch with reality," "it's rare to find someone who is a healthy and balanced person, who enjoys their life and who loves to serve the Lord." You either want a man of faith or you don't, you can't have both.

[@maryblum1606]

Just soaking this all in for the future 🥰 Thanks! Also I'll love y'all in videos together ❤

[@Nick-rb1dc]

These videos are very important for us to hear, especially singles and misinformed Catholic couples. We simply aren't hearing this on any other Catholic KZbin channels

[@BlessedLifeLoveandFaith]

Emily, thank you for sharing all of your marriage content videos. I absolutely love them! That last part where Daniël is describing how beautiful the wedding night was, wow that's really wonderful. My boyfriend and I are not financially ready to get married yet, but I'm eager to wait until we can. Communication is definitely something we've developed strongly since we've been together and I feel like it's just getting stronger. We also have such a great friendship and respect towards each other. (: God bless always and bring back your husband again. Hearing his perspective has been really good to hear.

[@kellyw3807]

These are the kinds of videos that young teens need to see. I wish I would have seen this when I was younger instead of the awkward talks and videos given when at CCD.

[@jennifertinoco233]

Good to know there’s still hope for good men out there !

[@taratravels6235]

This is so awesome, I think when I was younger I had this forced notion of sex as a dirty or gross thing and I wish I had seen something like this sooner (though it’s awesome to see it now!) Thanks Emily and Daniël!

[@morganhubert6681]

This sets a helpful viewpoint on marriage!

[@krystajordan3437]

This was awesome and perfect timing with seeing this video for me. Thank you so much for sharing.🙏🏿

[@marione.smedberg8062]

:D:D Thanks Emily! I left a request for this topic on your last marriage video, I'm very glad you did it! 🦋

[@emwilss]

I'm so glad we could answer your question! Thanks for asking it!

[@milaszczecina5553]

This is so nice and down to earth...so chilled...

[@Shootinforthestars1]

This video is so encouraging !

[@annan.9966]

LOVE Videos like this!! Newly wed and loving this series!

[@mh3552]

How do you know if your partner even wants you? For me my partner abstains so well I don't always know if they will want me after marriage.

[@ViennaAuSsBg]

That's a good question! I am asking myself the same thing. Opinion anyone?

[@pmhead314]

As a married woman (of 2 and a half years), I really appreciate your past few videos. They've been very helpful for me, especially because I don't have many Catholic peers who are married, being 26

[@jeannabug94]

So hope I can wait till marriage!

[@BlueDauntless]

You can. It takes a decision and then commitment to it.

[@ellaagasaro496]

By God’s grace.

[@keithbugden4399]

This is very refreshing! Especially in today's world where so much emphasis is put on sex, and it is made cheap! Lisa Bugden

[@michellemurowanidzwa3319]

Eeeep I'm 1st. Lots of love from South Africa 🇿🇦❤

[@emwilss]

HI MICHELLE!!

[@michellemurowanidzwa3319]

@@emwilss hello 👋☺

[@marissadevilliers9798]

Hi from SA too!! ❤️🇿🇦

[@ThingEmmie21]

hi Emily, I know this isn’t something you and Daniel personally experienced but I hope you see this comment and can share some wisdom or encouragement. My boyfriend and I are waiting til marriage. I made this decision when i was young, probably whenever I learned what sex is haha so I am a virgin however my boyfriend started his journey with his faith only a few years ago and has a very different past than mine and he struggled with lust for a huge chunk of his life. I never hold that against him because he is born again and a new person, so much so that he truly leads our relationship to purity and closer to God. But still I find myself feeling very anxious about when we do get married and have sex because it will be something new to me but for him it’s something he’s already done and I worry that he won’t feel the same way I feel about it. Like getting to experience this thing God created for just us two, it is sacred and wonderful but I don’t know if he will feel the wholeness of it and if it would be a different feeling for him in marriage than it was for him before. I’m not sure if I made sense haha its just hard for me because I can’t imagine what that’s like for him and I also feel insecure at times because he could have expectations for sex that I won’t meet right at the beginning of our marriage because he already had sex before and I didn’t

[@roxanaguevara250]

I wish I would have known about your content Emily when I was younger. ❤️

[@kindermann9301]

Controlling your desires is probably somewhere in the top 5 hardest things to do in life.

[@BlessedisShe]

So beautiful for you to share! Praying for you both!

[@bijoumwaura3735]

Really loved this video 💯❤❤💖

[@mariejacques2887]

Beautiful, thank you for sharing! 🥰

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

Thank you so much! Helping me out so much!🤗❤

[@user12383]

I would like to hear more from Emily because I agree in my experience that it wasn’t fireworks and heightened feelings like other people go on about?!

[@juanis8219]

i’m so off topic, any one know where i can find that painting in the back? you can barely even see it but it’s so beautiful

[@love2loveheart10]

Curious where you find a man like Daniel 🥺

[@emwilss]

We are trying to raise two 😭

[@MissNina67]

interesting thought on which I would love to hear your opinion: you talk about how waiting to have sex helped you build a stronger foundation for your relationship, which makes sense, but it seems that to achieve that, it is more relevant, how much time you spend dating before having sex rather than just waiting until marriage. Like, if you get married after 3 months of dating, even if you saved sex for marriage it remains doubtful whethet you achieved the same 'relationship skills' (for lack of a better word) you described.

[@kindermann9301]

So what’s your question exactly? I didn’t really understand what you meant

[@amcarrera2577]

Do you think it's too late for some couples who have engaged in sexual acts to change or be pure again? Or it's no longer possible...? :( Thoughts on this. Thank you. And God bless your marriage 🙏🏻🤗

[@emwilss]

It is NOT too late to re-commit - I know many who have (both as an individual or couples who decided to re-commit together in their dating relationship) and who would tell you it was worth it also! I share in-depth about the decision to re-commit to live chastely before marriage here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z3eQh5yqrKypl5o

[@clares-b98]

Totally! There is always grace from God and you can re-comit to waiting.

[@diegosananez]

Have y’all made a video about what it was like to date long distance? What were the difficulties in particular that y’all both encountered and what were the blessings that flowed from it?

[@diegosananez]

Hahaha nevermind as soon as I typed into youtube “Emily Wilson long distance” I found it! Praise the Lord!

[@katie5431]

Do you all have ideas on how to find that intimacy with your partner without sex?

[@kindermann9301]

Hobbies together, kissing, holding hands, traveling, new experiences

[@kathyalex778]

I'm glad you shared your story and I am happy you both have peace in having the same values, but I can honestly say that I think saving sex for marriage is a very difficult thing to do and should not always be strived for. I will say that media and entertainment make it seem that sex has no consequences and holds the same weight as kissing, which is obviously untrue. However, I just can't imagine waiting until late 20s or even 30s to be married without ever having sex, without ever watching pornography, without ever masturbating, ever doing anything remotely sexual with a partner, etc. The drive for sex is just too strong to withhold for that long. Obviously self control is important, but in my opinion, waiting until marriage for 1 person in late adulthood is just too much of a burden to bear. It was still nice hearing your viewpoint!

[@Elizabethmarie1313]

🙌🏽

[@anonymousgambler6738]

So we’re the both of you virgins before getting married?

[@thebethdavis1]

Cuties 🥰🥰

[@alondraceja9618]

❤️

[@alicedamiano7718]

I know a couple who did the same. Their sex life after marriage didn't work. The frustration made them eventually get a divorce after some years. If only they had allowed themselves to check their compatibility, before getting married! _It isn't always a fairytale_ Perhaps you and your family and your church feel proud of your virginity while coming to the altar... but then it will be you alone, or you and your spouse--not your family, not your church--going to bed every evening feeling lonely, unsatisfied, and stuck in a frustrating life for the rest of your life. Is it worth risking your future happiness and your marriage to pursue this idea of "purity"?

[@aliciadiazdelrio2406]

I think what is wrong though, even though you say sex is good and so on, there is still the assumption that people that do not wait base their relationship arround sex or avoid communicating or solving problems by having sex. That is not true either! There are plenty of people who have beautiful and healthy relationships that do not wait until marriage. I mean its great that it helped you in that way and for you it has a deeper religious meaning but in this videos there is always the comparison of how your relationship is if you wait vs kf you dont. I find a bit reducting and biased...

[@G1CAAAAEO]

Already too late for me 😡😡😡

[@emwilss]

It is not too late to re-commit - I know many who have and who would tell you it was worth it also! I share in-depth about the decision to re-commit to live chastely before marriage here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z3eQh5yqrKypl5o

[@kaithlyn7217]

This was beautiful.