What marriage is really like...in detail, no sugar coating.

[@thebestofmae]

"Marriage isn't happiness, marriage is service" ♥ which ultimately gives you happiness.

[@emwilss]

Yes! Great joy can be found in laying down your life for others - in whatever vocation God calls one to!

[@colleenlongua9752]

When I was in highschool, my dad told me that anything worth doing is going to be difficult. Literally some of the best life advice I've ever received. It's so refreshing to hear your experiences about the joy and fuffilment of marriage:)

[@emwilss]

That is so true!

[@Ariel_dorsey]

“I’m part of this marriage” 😂

[@emwilss]

I love when you all comment as you watch! :)

[@jocelynchau7452]

Daniel is a very humble man

[@GraceUponGraceProductions]

BIG thank you for not skipping over the intimacy and sexual frustration part. That’s needed to be talked about so much! Pregnancy and all that it entails is no joke and marriages are affected by it in many ways especially intimacy! I’m currently 13 weeks pregnant and that’s something that my husband and I have had to navigate and continue to navigate bc throughout my first trimester, sex is the last thing on my mind or what I want to do. So thank you again for bringing this up Daniel! The vulnerability in you both is so appreciative and admirable. God is using your not so great moments in marriage to build up others. More content like this please!! 🤍

[@emwilss]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Yes, it will be something you will have to navigate throughout prenancy, and then postpartum, and when it is done with open communication and great love it helps a lot! Thanks for your comment!

[@djrn1621]

Aww thank you so much for this video. I’m only 21 and I’ve never dated but I’ve never had good examples of marriage so I look up to faithful people like you. This was a wonderful video thank you for being vulnerable with us and May God bless your marriage and your family ❤️

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome! Thanks for your comment!

[@chayafaith710]

I'm newly married and have felt like marriage has helped me become the best version of myself, not that I find my identity in my husband, cause I dont but I have a goal and purpose each day and that is to support my Husband and help him to be the best version of himself. Everyday is a new oppurtunity to serve him and each day he serves me with his hard work and support.

[@annamarie1155]

I’m so glad you talked about the ever present “marriage is hard” comment 🥰 thank you so so much for your honesty and insight!

[@bostelmanfamily]

We have been married for 15 years and have 4 children. Marriage has been wonderful and I would never change my decisions. Good things are hard, but not bad. Loved the video.

[@marione.smedberg8062]

I'd love to see a video about NFP and how chastity when you were dating helped you in marriage (especially from Daniel's perspective 😉) Thank you for your videos 🦋

[@elizabethrussman2271]

Love your last part about listening instead of trying to solve the problem! It was one of the first issues my husband and I had to solve when we got married! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@taniabrauninger5492]

Someone once said "SOS" - "Support or Solution?" So now we use that if one of us shares a problem. It's a quick way to check in how they'd like to be responded to 🎉

[@StephanieGraceMusic]

I’m getting married in 23 days and it’s like you & Daniel made this video just for me to hear 🙏🥰

[@emwilss]

Oh I am so glad!! Congratulations!!!

[@alanamesko8717]

I'm getting married in December and this has been some of the most helpful insight I've ever heard!! Especially the "marriage is hard" part. Thanks for sharing your story!

[@emwilss]

Glad it was helpful!

[@dakotadupee2176]

What a lovely video! My husband and I have been married for 3 years this year and so much of what you and Daniel talked about resonated with my marriage as well! Social media is really toxic for marriages I think.

[@4Nazn]

This makes me so happy to see. I never see married couples openly talk about communication with sex and abstinence in marriage and it’s really blessing my heart to see you both doing that and sharing with us ❤️

[@Nick-rb1dc]

We desperately need more of these kinds of videos. I'm not married yet but it's important to hear the issue of sexual frustration talked about so we can have the right expectations. Too many couples hide the sexual frustration issue and are either too vague or they sugar coat it, which means they didn't really give us an honest testimony of what to expect in marriage. For a guy, he has to feel valued by his wife, regular sex, and good meals. I think these should be discussed more openly and regularly.

[@annikasalman8731]

This is so encouraging to watch. I am getting married in less then 8 months! Hearing that marriage is really hard has been all my fiancé and I have been hearing. So thank you!

[@emwilss]

Annika, I am so very excited for you!

[@TuNomAmi007]

I kept getting comments like that and people told me to think about it as many times as I needed… We prayed about it, understood this was what God wanted for both of us, and got married. More than 2 years later, couldn’t be happier :) it’s not easy, but I agree with Emily: it’s not as hard as people had me thinking. God being in the center certainly makes it easier. When things get hard, I pray it over with God… and things have always gotten straightened out! It’s certainly a journey!!

[@SRoseBlog]

I'm older than you and married longer. I got on my high horse about watching this video. But this video has been a blessing to me

[@mariacharach6736]

The smirk Daniel made when you said marriage has been a super positive experience 😂

[@emilyot8418]

Thank you so much Emily for mentioning love "ebs and flows" during marriage!! I was always told it just dies eventually and it is never the same again. It's hard to grasp that though not being in relationship.

[@drumkarol]

Always perfect timing!

[@emwilss]

Great suggestion! Thank you Karolina love your country!

[@ayeshat6868]

Was really looking forward to this one. Great video! As someone who has been following you since my single days and now as a married woman & a new mom, would love to see more videos around marriage and motherhood!♥️

[@rosesmith000]

Thank you Emily, your channel has helped me on my journey of embracing my feminine side.

[@juliam.8147]

Wow Emely thank you for sharing the detail about Daniel not understanding why you feel a certain way. My boyfriend is definetly the logical part in our relationship and it drives me crazy when he asks for the details of what made me feel that way. I think I might have to remember him that I just need him to listen sometimes. It's so refreshing to see couples approach challenges and use them in a positive way☺️

[@paulineadams5752]

Hi Emily! I hope this comes out well. I’ve been following since I first saw your video addressing how the church addressed purity after abuse/assault. I was sexually assaulted at church. Mentally and spiritually struggled a ton for years. But now that I’ve found someone who accepts me still, I’m enjoying the fact that I know he isn’t stuck in a marriage, that daily he is choosing me even though it’s easier to leave. Especially in church it’s easier to find someone better. You spoke of marriage knowing they will always be there. But I hesitate with it because I like knowing that he wants me and chooses me every day and I don’t know if that will go away when we get married.

[@laurentastic3842]

Hi Pauline, your comment struck a chord in my heart, about the nature of marriage in a faith context. This passage of scripture came to my mind that demonstrates God's perspective on marriage. In Mark 10, when Jesus is questioned about divorce, he says "...a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” May God bless the relationship that you decide to enter into long-term, and may you both have the courage and faith to trust in God and each other enough that being separated won't attract either of you in the slightest. Best wishes to you, Pauline xx Edit: fixed a typo

[@taniabrauninger5492]

Love this. Testimonies feel so impactful 🙌 Thank you so much for sharing 💛 What we're exposed to on TV and in the media in terms of marriage is so disfunctional.

[@817Yankees]

So grateful that you and Daniel were so open. I know a lot of things are and should be private but that also makes it hard for people who have not been married to learn about marriage. Videos like this truly help us single people to understand marriage more and to learn what it entails. I also would love a video about NFP. We need more of that!

[@dsophie7816]

Hey, I loved this conversation! If you feel comfortable, a video idea might be: What did you change after your heart to heart, how did you build your marriage? Basically, what have you practically done to come out of that place back to where you are now?

[@karenivettgzz6741]

Thank you sooo much for sharing!!! I'll be praying for your marriage and your individual holiness 😁

[@TheGeekApprentice]

Woah. Thank you for this video, I really needed it. My boyfriend and I are very close to engagement currently (I know he's ordered the ring), but I've been keeping to myself some things and feel he's been holding back too for the sake of us not having conflict. This video honestly has given me the courage to ask him to have a heart to heart about some things (I'm not fearing a break up, we just need to figure out some stuff). Furthermore, I think I know how I want to word some things and how to go about some of it. God bless you two!

[@emwilss]

I am SO glad it was so helpful for you, and so happy for you that you've found a great man!

[@clarissebrunet5301]

Thanks a lot Emily! I've been following you since your talk in Switzerland, and without a doubt this is the video that helped me the most. I hope more and more catholic couples share their experiences, because very few share details of their married life and sometimes it seems only an idealization. Thanks again and also thanks to Daniël! Blessings :)

[@brookeboarman8256]

Y’all r such a good example of a selfless, loving marriage. I love how u don’t act perfect but discussed ways you’ve gotten better and gone through things over the years. Thank you for sharing!!❤️

[@glolikes]

Beautiful marriage!! Would love to see a video on NFP!

[@julijamironovaite]

Thank you for sharing! Love from Lithuania:)

[@emwilss]

Thanks for watching!

[@amenamen5204]

So happy to see you both ❤❤ Thank you for sharing ,God bless your family

[@emwilss]

Thank you so much!

[@mariadle8715]

Thank you so much Emily and Daniel !!!

[@missatomicbomb9333]

Thank you for such a relatable and honest video. This was very encouraging to see from a couple married longer than me and my husband. The pandemic hit during our first year of marriage. Going into marriage you understand that you will face challenges, but we never anticipated having to face a worldwide pandemic in the first year and all that comes with that. Our “honeymoon” phase was hit suddenly with harsh reality and uncertainty. Now we’ve been married 2 years and the pandemic is still prevalent. It has forced us to come together in marriage faster in some ways that usually may take years for some couples. Spending so much time together, at home, alone, only seeing few people, and having practically no social life. Not only were we learning how to be married, but we were learning how to survive and think faster. Suddenly everything was different from sex, living together, communication, keeping our faith intact, to life and death situations. We even purchased a house in the midst of it all and we both lost family to death. It’s made us stronger and closer, but also forced us to grow faster as a couple. Sometimes 2 years feels so much longer than it really has been because of how much we’ve already been through. We also practice NFP and I would love to hear your thoughts about it. May Jehovah continue to bless your marriage ❤️

[@chiaratoone3251]

Thank you so much for your refreshing honesty Emily and Daniël. I would love a video on how you guys practise NFP!

[@rachelduarte1012]

Oh the logical thing!!! I have the same issue in my relationship with my boyfriend....it's so hard for them to just listen and validate. My boyfriend too is very logical. But we have definitely gotten better with it. (Three and half years long distance)

[@magrock151]

I vote for more videos 🙏🏽❤️, thanks for sharing your experience!

[@emwilss]

More to come! Thank you!

[@juliaricciardi8482]

Loved this video. It is so good to hear all of this!! Going off of validating feelings and just listening to the girl how they feel right now and the guy not being the logical person in the moment is so true. Read For Men Only and there is a chapter that talks about that. It is written my a women named Shanti. I forget her last name. The book dives into the mind of a women so men can understand the better. Her and her husband also wrote For Women Only that explains a mans mind to women. Good books to read. She also suggests men reading For Men Only first and women reading For Women Only first so we are more in tune with ourselves first so we can explain how we feel in a situation, writing down notes and then giving it to our significant other or spouse so they can read it, understand your mind better and see your notes. Worth a read. Such good books!!!

[@DeviantSpark1]

I like the back and forth feedback and how real this video is. Also, make a video on NFT 😂

[@chiarabirocchi1547]

Thank you so much for sharing such personal struggles and keeping it so real...

[@Joan685]

Thank you so much for making this! It’s really nice to hear that an honest take of your relationship ☺️

[@petrasoric4285]

Nfp video would be great!! Thanks.

[@maryblum1606]

This made my day!!! Thank you Emily!

[@katie12rose]

Great video 💗! Even in the dating stage, I can relate to some of these topics!

[@veronicab1415]

Thank you for sharing about your marriage. You and Daniel always seem to give great advice!!

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

Thank you both for your vulnerability and advice. God Bless! Yay I need and have been seeking for good holy marriage advice 🤗💑❤💕

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome!

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

@@emwilss God Bless your marriage and family. Your ministry has helped me so much🙏💑❤

[@vasstuff]

Your wonderful and holy marriage makes me look forward to mine. May GOD keep on blessing you guys and may there be more holy marriages ❤️✝️

[@AnnaM-bp9gh]

Great video! Your matching outfits are so cute!

[@emwilss]

Thank you!! 😊

[@gekepoolen7935]

In the beginning you talk about marriage is building something together. So what are you building? What is the goal or the finish line? Can you elaborate on that? What are you striving towards?

[@magrock151]

Sainthood ❤️, I’m assuming not sure it be nice if she could elaborate. God bless you.

[@dreamingofalittlecottage]

Honestly, the fact that you said marriage wasn’t as hard for you as people were making it out to be was really encouraging 😂if you get your ducks in a row right off the bat why should it be?

[@elenahermineregal2824]

Thank you so much ❤. I am just married for 2 month and I love it. Your video was very helpful. 😊

[@daisy4277]

Speaking for long distance relationship standpoint…when did you guys determine when you needed to be closer distance to each other? (Engagement?) Do you wish you had done it sooner/later? How did you come to that decision?

[@savannahstelly9669]

“It’s hard, but it’s good” I loved this. It’s so simple, but it doesn’t get said enough! ♥️

[@emwilss]

So true!

[@raquelparker2146]

Pleaseee make a video about NFP/intimacy after having a baby. We practice NFP and I am curious in how to best prepare for that struggle before/during pregnancy. It would be awesome to hear from his perspective as well so I can share that with my husband during that time. Having encouragement from Daniel to other men during big times like that would be very appreciated by my husband and I'm sure other men.

[@gonurseyourself__]

Loved this !! Super encouraging 🌟

[@emwilss]

Thank you!!

[@gonurseyourself__]

@@emwilss 🤍 keep shining for the Lord !

[@EmmazingGal]

Hmmmm that got me into thinking that perhaps hard is easy when both couples are aiming to do well and that hard becomes harder when good choices aren't made despite the difficulty. Speaking of myself, I made my relationship harder than it should have been by making not so good choices. I'm not saying that it's impossible for me to rethink my situation and choose good for myself and my partner, but that now its even a struggle to do good because I've dabbled in the wrong for so long.

[@alexandramora1697]

What is the main thing you wish you would have practiced more since singleness/dating phase that would help the most during marriage? Apart from your relationship which Christ ❤️

[@margiehalpern4573]

I really enjoyed listening to your honest discussion of your marriage. On top of the foundation of your shared faith and values, it's clear you've learned so much in six years--good for you both!! Impressive that you were able to catch the slide into complacency/habit/routine/roommates during the pandemic and work together to right the ship. The whole question of whether or not marriage is h-a-r-d is interesting. I think at the core there should be a feeling of serenity and peace. But that doesn't mean there won't be challenges and hard things to deal with along the way.

[@ellaagasaro496]

This was beautiful! Definitely subscribing!

[@emwilss]

Thanks for subbing!

[@curlyclouds9]

Love this video thank you!

[@shionafernandes4343]

Emily plz drop down your makeup products name love your makeup!❤😭

[@BlessedisShe]

Praying for you two!

[@emwilss]

Thank youuuuuu!

[@anaisdone]

Emily can you make a video on interfaith relationships? Should a person keep dating someone of a different religion and wait on God to maybe change them? Should a person stop dating someone of a different religion altogether because change from God isn’t guaranteed? Etc.

[@strawberrysmile2212]

I would love a video about NFP ❤️ lots of love from Germany 🤗

[@taratravels6235]

Loved this!

[@yasmin8433]

Are there any books/websites etc that you like to turn to for a healthier marriage? (Obviously the Bible is the best one 😉) but sometimes it helps to look into sources that can help with modern problems! Praying for y’all!

[@emwilss]

We love using the Marriage Journal from Beating50Percent! www.beating50percent.com/products/themarriagejournal

[@coolkidvt01]

What do you have to say about annulment??

[@angelica5813]

I dont know why but Daniel reminds me of a young version of James Stewart (Australian actor)

[@emwilss]

I will have to look him up!

[@Mjl449]

Yes!!

[@-Solange-]

Wow thank you Daniel for being open about sex stuff. Since not a lot of guys talk about that, it's always interesting and helpful to hear a man's side of a story. Oh, and regarding to guys always wanting to find a solution, I hear about that thing aaalll the time haha women just want to be heard and men just want to fix things 😂 kinda funny. I think it's important to recognize that difference and simply try to embrace it. P.D. I would love to hear from you about NFP (or NFT 😂).

[@angelicagallegos3397]

What is NFP?

[@emwilss]

I am so glad! Thanks for letting me know!

[@denicemontero3553]

Yes haha! I related to that so much! I sometimes just need to be heard and not necessarily have solutions, which my husband struggles to understand. But I feel that it's ultimately a guy thing/instinct because I've noticed my sister and mom have said the same thing about their husbands lol

[@emwilss]

So true!

[@imolaszasz2128]

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[@beachgirl4]

❤

[@Chydova]

Just wondering if its wise dating a guy who believes in God and goes to church but who doesn't have a strong relationship with the Lord. For Emily just seems so easy because God gave her man who isn't only very attractive but is strong in his faith. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years, he loves and respects me. I'm just a bit concerned if he will be able to lead his family to heaven as a man of faith should

[@keithbugden4399]

I wonder if as women we should listen to our man's input when our emotions are running wild. We are emotional creatures and can run wild with them, so his insight, logic and input could be very helpful in reining in those emotions, rather than having him just listen to us. Lisa Bugden Canada

[@Nicole-et2rb]

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