Non-Religious Reasons to Wait Until Marriage | ACW103

Certainly there are strong theological arguments for saving sex for marriage but all sound theology is based on sound philosophy. Taking a phenomenological approach, it’s easy to see from our human experience and the laws of nature that there are good reasons for waiting until marriage!
Understanding what the beautiful gift of sexuality really is and observing the pain it causes to individuals and families when sex is not properly oriented towards its natural end can supply a non-religious basis for choosing to save sex until marriage.
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[@pauldowner1]

This makes me feel a ton better.. I am nearly 30 male and haven't "done it"... I want to find the person to spend the rest of my life with then get married then have sex.. Thank you.

[@avb20540]

WOW this is incredible. I want to send this to my friend who just got a girlfriend. I hope he's open to watching this though.

[@PsychoBible]

This is perfect timing. My client just asked me this question on Monday.

[@sharontiatia6064]

Some one needs to animate this and put it on KZbin, or some other platform that our teenagers will see (please!)

[@leonoracosta6490]

This explanation goes to the core of the matter. Brilliant, thank you both!

[@ajafca7153]

Beautiful. God give me the strength to become a godly man. Here we go.

[@100Denario]

Giving up that much vulnerability, openness, and closeness to not have it reciprocated or cared for breaks people inside themselves. Pray for us please Lord Jesus Christ

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Praying!

[@GringoPicante]

I turned 38 years old march this year (2024). I made the commitment to not have sex until marriage when i was 29. Still waiting for Mrs. Right and have no regrets. I represent the 3rd generation in a row in my family of kids growing up in a broken home, no father, the problems that come with that, etc. I believe it is my responsibility as a man to break that generational curse in my family. By the time i was 29 years old i discovered that most women in the west are also 2-3 generations removed from having a father in the home. I believe this is why the importance of traditional family values and traditional "no pre marital sex" values have been forgotten for the most part in the west. And to be clear im not religious. At 29 years old i could only count on my two hands the amount of married couples I met in the west who's kids were not suffering from the generational curse that has plagued my family for 3 generations. These married couples have different walks of life, don't know each other, some are religious some are not religious but they all had one thing in common: they waited until they were married before having sex...and they would go on and on for hours on how waiting until marriage contributed to the stability of their marriage, their sex life, and the stability of their home in which they are raising their kids. I found that so inspiring that I chose to never have sex again until I'm married. And wow, what an eye opener that was! It changed the way i approach dating. By the time I turned 32 i gave up on dating because family values have deteroriated so badly in the modern world i could not find a woman i could trust to be a mother to my future kids. ...then i lived in southern Mexico for 10 months and discovered that there is a whole world outside the so called modern world that still has an abundance of women with the type of values that are compatible with mine. im now studying spanish and will be immigrating to Mexico soon to meet, marry and build a family with someone. it's a rare luxury in life to know exactly what you want and know exactly how to get it and that's where im at now in life. but i would not have had the luxury to go after what i want and break my family's generational curse in the way im planning if i didnt make that life changing decision at 29 to not have sex again until im married because i would have likely been married, divorced and lost kids in a custody battle and be forced to pay alimony and child support, thus continuing the cycle for a fourth generation in a row. Not getting laid doesnt mean you are not manly enough. that notion, that way of thinking is poison. the most manly and masculin thing you can do is wait until marriage to have sex. cuz a real man is the kind of guy who chooses to do the right thing when everyone else chooses to do the wrong thing and makes you an outcast because of it and you do the right thing anyway for no other reason than...it's the right thing to do. hope this wall of text helps somebody out there. :)

[@theempressdesha]

you really didn’t have to travel and learn a different language. I think you left due to what you saw in your family/ community so you felt the need to detach completely from your roots because that’s all you saw was broken homes so your solution is to be involved in another race/culture. In a sense you are running away from your roots and that doesn’t necessarily break the curse you could easily end up with the same issues with someone from a different culture or race. You have to have discernment wherever you go

[@GringoPicante]

@@theempressdesha thanks for sharing. Yeah I never really saw it as detaching myself from my roots because I don't see different nationalities as different races, different roots. We're all part of the same tree. At the end of the day we're all Terrans. I feel that it's more like, I leaving one branch of a tree that is insanely difficult to find good fruit on because it is dying, to go to another branch of the same tree where it is easy to find good fruit in comparison to the branch I left that is withering and dying. :). Oh and I so agree about using discernment. There are good women in the USA worth building a family with! But actually FINDING them is a "needle in a haystack" situation in the USA. However finding those same kind of proverbial needles in latin american countries is insanely easy in comparison due to those countries, for most part, not turning their backs on old fashioned values...especially when it comes to family values.

[@DodgeRoebuck]

Brilliant video!! Really beautiful explanations

[@jeanettehhenry1638]

Please consider. Love you so much. You are indispensable, irreplaceable, and unrepeatable. You are meant to be loved and not used. My husband and I slept together until we understood. Then we spent 1yr in celibacy until marriage. I am convinced that our 34yr anniversary is due to that commitment. And we still enjoy each other sexually, emotionally, and spiritually.

[@earllam9975]

This idea of irreplaceability is exactly the reason why there is no such thing as another one there that can fulfill the role of wife and husband. Other TOB videos express an idea that totally contradicts what is expressed here. Please explain how in the scenario of this video one is indispensable and in the video of soulmate one can be replace?

[@emanrn]

true but I wouldn’t say sex and fertility are required as it does not say that anywhere in the Bible. Food is not there just to sustain us or else we would just be gas tanks guzzling fuel, it also serves as pleasurable. I don’t think it’s wrong putting culture aside to have relations with your spouse solely for the purpose of showing affection and feeling pleasure as it is for them.

[@jh1362]

Best channel

[@maxamahnken7325]

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