Husband Accused Me of Cheating with His Brother and Demanded a Paternity Test for Our Newborn, So...

Husband Accused Me of Cheating with His Brother and Demanded a Paternity Test for Our Newborn, So I Kicked Him Out and Filed for Divorce.
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[@DarkEinherjar]

OP should've done the paternity test... and then filed for divorce anyway out of spite. I support paternity tests, simply because baby swapping, accidental or malicious, is a very real possibility. I remember a story about a man who almost divorced his wife because the paternity test on their 5yo son revealed that he wasn't the father... until they did a maternity test and realized the wife wasn't the kid's mother either. The husband in this story was completely out of line, though, so yes, OP should divorce.

[@yeyosilver7067]

Yep

[@Incubus_Gal]

Or First divorce and next the paternity test for child support 😂

[@jemase7931]

Paternity test, yes. Divorce? Why? Something else is going on that we aren't hearing about

[@ionutaurelboldura2740]

Divorce out of spite ... WOW...

[@Montyandrew45]

Came to say the same thing

[@samanthadetgen5041]

Lmao, the grandparents looked at this situation and said "hmm, my two idiot sons, or my grandson? Hard choices... Ill take the baby for 500 Jerry." Grandma and Grandpa knew who was going to control baby's visits, and it wasnt their idiot kids.

[@Storymaker1316]

Dumb choice, she can only have one of their grandchildren. Both sons can go off and have many more that they won’t be in the lives of.

[@shaheenzannat3839]

@@Storymaker1316 ew

[@Storymaker1316]

@@shaheenzannat3839Whether they had sons or daughters that's the fact

[@lobsterlunchbox7581]

@@Storymaker1316 Who wants grandchildren from 2 crazy people and people who chose said crazy people

[@OC_DEFENSE]

So Michael didnt want to ruin Bryan's friendship with OP, so he accused OP of having Bryan's kid? And imagine if she did get the test. Dude sounded so into the affair fog that he would probably say that the results were fake.

[@alechboy3578]

Yea the narrator is clearely the problem. Women are more likely to cheat anyways and the fact that Brian admitted all those things would have made anyone paranoid. OP should have kept the marriage since Michael was right for being paranoid. She is the bad character here

[@cocogoat2131]

@@alechboy3578 Bro, if you accuse your partner of cheating for no reason, without any evidence, your partner is gonna leave you. It proves you have no trust in that person, and at that point, the marriage is over. Also, people who accuse their partners of cheating are in most cases the cheaters themselves.

[@draconicdusk5911]

​@@alechboy3578 Hard disagree. A bell cannot be unrung. Once you ring the bell of adultery the only path s devorce, whether you're right or wrong. If you do not trust your spuse enough to stay faithful, you will never have a happy marriage. The only thing i would have done differently as OP was hand him the paternity test first, followed immediately by devorce papers.

[@Xrl8r]

​@@draconicdusk5911If you want divorce at first slight of conflict then you don't need a marriage, you just want a f*ckbuddy.

[@Maria-wi1pj]

Exactly. Or he'll still accuse op of cheating

[@artemislove2941]

“she’s emotional so she’s guilty” she just pushed a human out three weeks ago and he accused her of cheating. no shit she’s emotional

[@SSHanYolo]

ofcs, personal responsibility goes out of the windows when emotions are at play. I'll try that when i fuck up, "I was just drunk".

[@bibliomaniac4life]

@@SSHanYolo You choosing to drink at the moment is your choice, pregnancy hormones are not

[@HeoBaby24]

​@@SSHanYolomf you're choosing to drink she can control her emotions after just having a child

[@SSHanYolo]

@@HeoBaby24 she could have not gotten pregnant. Just how i could have stayed sober.

[@maarshiexcryxx]

​@@SSHanYolo you know sometimes you get pregnant by accident bc your anticonceprion fails?

[@NeuroNotTypical]

“Here’s your paternity test, and here’s the divorce papers.” Would have been the vibe

[@TrueBlunty]

its a story that is years old. clearly he isnt the dad since courts make u do parternity test when requested by the supposed father before the divorce settles / child support and alamony is decided. she probably cheated with someone else completely.

[@cocogoat2131]

@@TrueBlunty Bruh? We don't know who these people in the story are, how tf do you know what happened during the divorce? The story not being updated isn't proof of anything, even if, hypothetically, the wife cheated, she can write whatever tf she wants in an update, cause no one knows their identities. What stupid logic is this, lmao.

[@W3lcome2H3ll]

he could have gotten a test done if it was his baby then no one had to know anything if it wasnt his baby he could have confronted her about it

[@HarmonyOC]

Exactly

[@supreme84x]

​@@cocogoat2131Cause it is a simple test. Women know if they are the mother always. Guys don't carry the baby inside of them for nine months as proof. Put her and the guy's feelings aside and think. The baby could have a father in his life if she just got the damn test. She can divorce still, but she would rather have no father in her son's life because she's too offended at a cheating accusation to take a test? Bruh, that doesn't make sense. The ONLY thing that makes sense is that she is worried the baby isn't his.

[@irisrelvas5415]

I mean she could get the paternity test just to shove it in his face and then get a divorce.

[@Deimos001]

Exactly,that would be the best course of action. But yeah in the heat of the moment stuff happens.

[@MumwaW]

Yeah but women logic goes like this

[@collegedays4924]

And then make herself a single mom. Slay queen!

[@irisrelvas5415]

@@collegedays4924 in my country we have a saying "Melhor sozinho do que mal acompanhado" (better to be alone than in poor company), he's the one who let his baseless delusions get in the way of their relationship. It was over the moment he blew up on her. Least she could do was clear her name before the divorce, so he trully understands that he fucked up.

[@Thundeer_cloud]

Bro. Have you seen a mother giving birth. The hormone balance is so unstable they can't even think straight. If proper care is not takent they can become so depressed that they would even kill their son or themselves. The father ignored them, then accused her of cheating,and wanted to do nothing with her. I don't know about you but I think she acted pretty good

[@p2Universe]

The real question Why was the husband so worry about ruining the friendship if he think she's cheating. Like it really makes no sense something fishy is going on. Why does he owe his brother?

[@ShadowLady247]

Also he could’ve been like “Honey, I got a hypothetical question that I was curious about?” And try to gauge if his wife was at all interested in his bro during college. Ya’know, just like as a crazy thought experiment that he randomly thought up b/c he “realized” how close she could’ve gotten with his bro instead of him. Sure, weird. But not completely out of the ordinary ya’know? But nope. Had to do (gestures to video) that! And not only did he ruin his bro and OP’s friendship (something he promised to not do) but also ruined his own marriage and Son’s chances of having a dad (something he inherently vowed not to do as well). What a pathetic and idiotic man!

[@shells500tutubo]

Because he is still in "son" mode and doesn't realize he has a new nuclear family who should be his first priority. That's what a lot of these family/spouse problems are about, a person refusing to acknowledge the new family order, whether it be the spouse or the in law.

[@nbrikha]

THIS is why emotional maturity and intelligence is SO important. Imagine if he had talked to his wife even once.

[@amirafinn9720]

I feel like no matter what the test said he would have felt his actions were justified

[@casper8849]

​@@amirafinn9720and it is justified...he has every right to ask for a paternity test if he believes the child isn't his

[@amirafinn9720]

@@casper8849 and she has every right to ask for a divorce

[@casper8849]

@@amirafinn9720 ur absolutely right...but at the end she just proves his point that the child is not his by not doing paternity test... sometimes ego should be let go to be the greater good person

[@LadyWolvie82]

​@@casper8849- OP didn't know Bryan had feelings for her until after the divorce was announced.

[@CJBerdomas]

I bet he’ll get his paternity test through the courts(because he doesn’t want to pay child support) and realized that his insecurities cost him his wife, son, job, and parents.

[@TrueBlunty]

this is a story that is already years old that is passed around. if it was his kid she would have updated. because some comments are right the court will force a test to see if he is the father. so more than likely its not his kid and she got thrown out the ex in law's

[@DougieG7130]

Paternity Tests should be required by law!!!!

[@CJBerdomas]

@@TrueBlunty How is that more than likely that she cheated? Like there is no logical reason to believe that. I mean I can say it’s logical that the guy didn’t want to be a dad and he just used this as an excuse to dodge responsibility.

[@notforlookingat]

As a wife who's children look nothing like their father if my husband wanted a test it would hurt...a lot...I would tell hom ok but you owe me a lot and you better beg on your knees for forgiveness. He was in the wrong yeah but if you love your spouse you don't just let your husband worry about that. It hurts yeah but you can work it out with communication​@@CJBerdomas

[@redrackham6812]

@@CJBerdomas "Methinks the lady doth protest too much." She says at the beginning that she would have had no problem with getting a test normally, but first she demands a reason? Translation: she first wants to know how much he already knows. When she realizes that he only has an inchoate hunch, she stonewalls. It's a classic denial technique: how dare you suspect me!?

[@______7820]

Hold up the kid was alive for 2 weeks before the confrontation? why didnt Michael just quietly get a test behind her back? why is Michael so stupid

[@Olimar92]

The guy instantly suspected his wife of cheating because a conversation, neither he nor his wife was part of, had someone say "Dude we all thought you and her would get together." And he was unlikely to even bring it up.

[@Gumbier_Than]

Because a paternity doesn't necessarily prove infidelity. It was about her cheating with his brother, not raising a child that was fathered by another. After OP filed for divorce, he stopped asking about the baby and refused custody.

[@manuelb5466]

​@@kidm0bius190I think what they were saying is that if the kid was his, it doesn't disprove her cheating

[@katelyntaylor7384]

​@@kidm0bius190just because the child is the husband's and not the 'affair partners' doesn't necessarily mean that there wasn't an affair. The fact that the husband is the father doesn't disprove the affair

[@alisonzunguze8183]

Because if he goes behind her back and she finds out later. The marriage is nuked. She asked and he was man enough to be honest.

[@DressedForDrowning]

So you rather let your marriage go to pieces instead of talking with your wife about your concerns?

[@Komedi_kimg]

You would rather have your husband have a emotional break down and leave instead of just getting a paternity test? When He talked it about the test she ran, that's why he didn't

[@shortangel333]

@@Komedi_kimg But the mistrust he's shown you isn't going to go away. And with him thinking that she cheated, she's now going to think did he try to get back at me by cheating on me? Accusing your partner of cheating out of NOTHING is a relationship ending thing.

[@artybread5116]

@@Komedi_kimg first, hes a man. and im just saying that because theres a sense of maturity and trust a person should have as a husband and a father. getting that test would do nothing. its a punch to the face, gut, emotions and trust in a whole. and him having a ''emotional break down'' im all for men, but you have to understand she is a new mom probably still suffering from post partum, her hormones are wild. Him not even considering it and only staying quiet cos ''he didnt want to hurt his brothers feeling or whatever'' is just wild. he outright isnt just ready for marrige or be a dad. he is not contesting the divorce and doesnt want costustody. she was blindisghted, she married to a man that showed his true colors late

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

@@Komedi_kimg Guys like you are so busy giving andrew tate your money you've forgotten how to think critically. He's already convinced himself she's cheating, even a paternity test won't make that go away. There's countless other stories showing it doesn't stop.

[@Komedi_kimg]

@@SvarogAristaeusAllen I like how u assumed I like andrew tate lmao. I am gay bro I hate him with a passion. Also you can't just say his reaction would be the same just because of "countless" stories.

[@Ktspitfire007]

"He was in a tough position " dude literally wasn't there for in the most vulnerable stage of life for most women. You need support to get through the weeks following birth and he was distancing himself with no explanation while she was caring for THEIR newborn

[@artemislove2941]

also yall saying she’s guilty because she hasn’t updated in a year. she literally is raising a whole baby. no shit she’s not gonna focus on reddit

[@N..P..]

She's not constructing a human in a lab. Most of raising a baby is waiting.

[@BPJD2004]

​@@N..P..You're obviously not an attentive parent, or even a parent in general. Most of caring for a baby is preparing for the future, cleaning up messes, getting yourself enough rest, and trying to get everything else done, and that's just for a single parent.

[@frost3193]

Lol, you know this is fake right? How gullible

[@hakatatata]

​@@N..P..are you a man

[@jojo-xy3dn]

@@frost3193why would it be fake

[@CybilEvans4010]

I don't see how Bryan is a bad guy here. Like dude had feelings for his friend, but he put his friend's and brother's happiness first and accepted that his feelings weren't returned because he just wanted OP and Michael to be happy. Making Bryan a bad guy is ridiculous. And yeah, of course he doesn't want Michael to say anything to OP about his feelings, he doesn't want things to be weird. He valued the friendship and was respectful. All of this shit is on Michael being insecure and stupid, not Bryan having had feelings for OP. Also I feel like Michael's hiding something too.

[@missytanner3501]

Michael is mentally disturbed

[@DragonOfTheMortalKombat]

​@@missytanner3501 literally has mental illness

[@JasmJones]

The reason why they are mad at Bryan isn't because of his feelings but because he made Micheal promise to not tell OP knowing that could potentially lead to problems between OP and Micheal. I understand that Bryan wanted to keep his friendship with OP but that shouldn't mean at the expense of his brother's and OP's marriage. Yes, Micheal is 98% at fault for how things turned out but the remaining 2% is Brain's fault for becoming the catalyst when he didn't have to be.

[@malakiheadrick2832]

​@JasmJones oh sorry but I don't he friken read minds or tell the future

[@JasmJones]

​@malakiheadrick2832 it is about reading minds. Bryan knows what type of Micheal is. Why he would encourage Micheal to keep something for his spouse knowing what type of person Michael is.

[@shayalmasy101]

Truthfully, someone with anxiety that severe would have never talent the paternity test as proof she wasn’t interested in his brother. There would have been more and more proof that he would have wanted so divorce was probably inevitable. His anxiety is crossing the paranoia boundary ever so slowly… I’m glad he is getting help because it is a critical time before he reaches full blown paranoia.

[@miguelarias5193]

"Yo wife my relationship with my brother is more important than ours and I believe my brother is the baby's father but my loyalty to my brother wont let me tell you the truth of why I'm doubting my paternity to your child.... What why are you divorcing me can't you see I'm anxious and am heartbroken look at me I'm the victim of all of this"- OP's husbands story and I'm dumbfounded, I understand he has mentally diagnosis but still

[@pastelbee8125]

Not ONE crumb of evidence and he’s absolutely crazy

[@strange4202]

Brian was also not the asshole, so he overheard that his brother who knew OP before her husband, he just mentioned to a friend in what he thought was private that he once had feelings for her.

[@NattyGWify]

Michael didn't want the responsibility of a baby

[@Fayvyn]

God bless these in laws. Seriously. What a couple of gems 💎

[@middi6]

He is cheating on you theirs no way he would jump to over hearing a conversation that dosnt even acuse you of any wrong dooing to she must be cheating.

[@urinternetangel]

bro what makes you think he's cheating 😭 you live for drama don't you.

[@casper8849]

When did people become this delusional 😭

[@nikkihorn3852]

Many times in these stories the person shouting "cheater" are projecting or just looking for an out.

[@middi6]

Because everyone I know who has had a partner cheat on them had that partner start randomly accusing them of cheating its projection.

[@chindvids]

Wait why the the fuck is Bryan also somehow bad he couldn't exactly predict Micheal would assume they were cheating

[@NeilTruick]

Exactly. In this case, I feel more sorry for Bryan than the kid, because the kid, at least, has Mom and grandparents right there. Bryan was in his feelings, but was also being completely respectful. If Michael never overheard the conversation, no one would have known.

[@DashaIsMe]

I think she cut off byran bc he had feeling for op he never brought up . Then he was having a conversation about how he thought the two would get together and made his brother promise not to say anything to op . Thats why he is bad . If bryan was a real friend he would have came clean the first day he had the conversation at the party or came clean about his feelings for op even though she had a strict no dating policy in school . The outcome could have been so different if bryan would have just opened his mouth and said something in college.

[@cocogoat2131]

He wasn't bad, but... pining after your brother's wife is a bit weird. He shouldn't have made that comment, probably. But otherwise, he didn't do much wrong.

[@lmaocopter101]

@@cocogoat2131 but he did make his brother promise not to talk directly about it. it's just weird, he partially set them both up for failure, but michael was a moron for following through on that promise.

[@LinkPizza]

⁠@@DashaIsMeI’m not sure things would have been better, though. For all we know, she would have cut contact with him had he told her. He probably knew that, which is why he didn’t say anything. Honestly, I don’t think he was bad for talking to a friend about it. It’s not like he was talking to the family about it. And the friend brought it up, and he just mentioned how he felt. That’s like saying Bryan isn’t allowed to talk about his past, or else he’s a bad person. That’s how I feel.

[@VadBlackwood]

Wonder what Michael would have felt, if he just pushed a baby out, has to do everything by himself when he has a perfectly able spouse, then mentioned spouse comes home, acts weirdly for weeks, does nothing to help with their baby, and then goes "Yeah, I've decided to think you're a traitor. Imma treat you as such now. You may start trying to disprove it now (it wouldn't change my mind though), you've got nothing better to do anyway. Why are you acting emotional about it? Must be a traitor thing". Oh he made a promise to his bro. Didn't he also make a promise to his wife? Called "wedding vows".

[@burnscooper892]

I don’t entirely understand why OP and the parents were so mad at Bryan. All he did was ask Micheal not to talk about his old crush on OP to her. Everything else was entirely Michael’s own fault from agreeing to keep that promise if he was thinking they were having an affair to asking for a paternity test and trying to justify his crazy actions. Bryan may have been the inciting incident, but Michael escalated everything until it blew up in his face.

[@deeksharao836]

I was wondering the same! Having a crush on someone and admitting it to a friend (not Michael) is totally okay and even though he did confess to Michael, it wasn't as if Brian interfered in their marriage and kept it strictly platonic and respected their friendship. I don't understand how Brian is a terrible person in this situation because he just was true to his past feelings and conveyed that. And he wasn't privy to Michael's obsession with the paternity test either, so it wasn't as if Brian just let OP take all the BS Michael was dishing. That is the one contention I had with this post honestly.

[@ma13volent]

You mean ongoing crush. Not old.

[@CurliFox]

Because it's completely inappropriate to orbit around your brother's wife, hoping that you can swoop in once the relationship fails. Its pathetic and disgusting.

[@burnscooper892]

@@CurliFox Whoever said that was what he was doing?

[@CurliFox]

@@burnscooper892 9:55 that was just my interpretation of the story. To me, if you have feelings for your brother's wife then you should distance yourself from her. Not secretly harbor feelings and remain around her. His behavior is just so gross to me.

[@CalmQueenKey]

A paternity test wouldn't have solved anything. He still believes she was cheating on him with his brother.

[@amandaelmer5533]

Her inlaws are the MVPs here. Love to see it

[@BlazePlayzGames62]

He didn’t need her permission for a paternity test, he could have just done it and then none of this bull crap would have happened. With that, and other stuff, I call cap.

[@kierranbrooks7306]

Should have got the paternity test and then explained that she couldn't see herself raising a family with someone so insecure and untrusting

[@SR-lm1jx]

can't get a prenatal paternity test in secret, collecting fetal dna samples requires invasive procedures which the mother will certainly know about

[@abhishekn7200]

Seeing how Michael is behaving like a literal child, i have to say, i don't condone child marriage.

[@alexandrawetzel5861]

I would have gotten the paternity test while continuing with the divorce out of spite

[@JohnKFredericks]

I feel each child should have a birth certificate and a paternity test and both health screens of both of their parents. Then they know by science who their parents are and what their medical history is.

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

And that STILL won't stop the insecure men in this comment section from believing the kid isn't theirs.

[@lindah3803]

DNA at birth would be good. However,full health screening costs a ton. Health insurance isn't going to cover a full scan, just because. They already try to get out of any tests possible. Majority of people don't have that kind of money to put out.

[@maxgucciardi4507]

The thing that makes me nervous about that is that those DNA databases can be accessed by the government at any time. They could do a lot of shady stuff with that and its not like most governments dont have a few ethnic cleansings or inhumane experiments under thier belt.

[@yododraes4348]

Image at the end it turns out the child is of Brian 😂

[@Sonjamc]

Husband was cheating on her. When the brother said that he liked her that was his opportunity to call her out because they always say your partner is a reflection of you.

[@Alice_Skye]

The OP made this into a way bigger deal than needed. Even with a divorce if they guy says "I'm not paying until I get a paternity because I don't even know if it's mine" the judge WILL order one regardless. More than likely, she's going to have to do a paternity test anyway. She could have said "Sure, I'll get one", get one, and then divorce if it upsets her that much. If my husband was worried/had anxiety over our kid not being ours I wouldn't yell and flip my shit. I'd ask why he thinks so, talk, communicate, and say sure, we'll get one if it helps you. I really do believe OP cheated because you don't react that way when your S/O asks for that or brings it up. You act that way when you have something to hide and/or you really don't want a paternity test to happen. I've seen people flat out laugh as a reaction, I've seen them smile and say 'you're joking', I've seen disbelief followed by questions, but I've never seen someone just go off because it was brought up. And it's funny how she didn't believe his medical disorder until she knew that he had the paperwork and proof. Okay, he's asking for proof of the kid being his. Why is that so insulting? Because "you don't trust me!" - I don't see it as that. I see it as unnecessary worries in someone's mind, that it's irrational but they can't help it. That's how anxiety is and has nothing to do with trust. If I knew my own husband had anxiety or showed signs like hers did I wouldn't flip my shit. I'd do it to ease his mind because I love him and also make him aware that doing so doesn't make me happy, because yes, he should just trust it, but again, anxiety doesn't work that way. OP is a terrible wife, terrible in-laws, and just first time I thought 'wow she's so stupid and sad'. A divorce over someone making sure the kid is theirs? Unhinged imo. I'd be more than happy to PROVE my loyalty through a guaranteed test, showing the kid is my S/O's, while also putting their worries to rest. If you don't cheat, haven't cheated, why worry? Why be offended about a man asking if the babies his? Trust? Sorry, you have trust otherwise you wouldn't share finances, a home, bills, responsibilities, ect. It's about anxiety and worry and things your brain is thinking without your control. If he's already shown he trusts you why can't you do one simple thing for him? It's not like it's not his so seriously, what's the issue??? I don't get people like OP.

[@devil_cycle3232]

bro read too much reddit stories and now is insecure sad

[@MinisterManDan]

It doesn’t even make sense. If she had ever wanted his brother, she had tons of opportunity. His brother introduced them to each other! It wasn’t like the OP and her STBX met first and there was never an opportunity with the brother. She got invited to holidays with brother’s family and saw him and got hit with the thunderbolt and gave him her number. The idea he’d be insecure…it’s just completely irrational

[@anetegrike4428]

Tbf, she should've done the paternity test to simply assure him, imo. Especially because him being anxious & insecure is out of character. He went with all that like an idiot, but she also is just being ass. Trust, no trust, whatever. Just put pride aside and do the test.

[@seeker4924]

It would not really change the outcome in any way but... isn't a paternity test no more complicated than like. Getting the baby's saliva on a swab and secretly getting the test done himself? Like it doesnt change the fact that he doesn't trust her, but he literally could've done this by himself without the meltdown

[@stephenzelesnik6153]

Why not just get a Paternity test in secret?

[@Maestrosendgame]

Because that’ll lead to a divorce

[@shadowcollins4589]

Yeah it's really hard to do that because you would have to take something from the baby, some kind of DNA And if she's not letting him see the baby, there's no way he can do that

[@stephenzelesnik6153]

What I’m saying is, if the husband was worried about it, he should have never asked her for a paternity test. He should have just waited for an opportunity to get a mouth swab from the baby and get a paternity test on his own.

[@Maestrosendgame]

@@stephenzelesnik6153 there was a story of a husband doing exactly that and when the wife found out because god forbid he actually talks it through it ended in divorce

[@Olimar92]

@@shadowcollins4589 He was literally ignoring them.

[@notting2640]

lol what an idiot, if you’re so paranoid you can always secretly do a private paternity test, instead he blew up his whole marriage

[@Bonbon-C]

Exactly

[@damieo8139]

He didn't blow up his marriage. They both blew it up. The guy has a valid concern. Paternity tests should be mandatory. He is emotional yes, but she is too.

[@SR-lm1jx]

it's not possible to do a prenatal paternity test in secret. collecting a sample of fetal DNA is an invasive procedure and requires at the very least a blood draw and at worst amniocentesis, where a needle is inserted into the uterus through the abdomen to collect amniotic fluid

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

@@damieo8139 Her response is more valid than his because she's postpartum and just got accused of being unfaithful, which is something you can't take back.

[@meandthefairies]

​@@damieo8139 "he is emotional", while she pushed a whole baby out

[@razemander]

Why is she so against the paternity test 🤨

[@LadyWolvie82]

Partially because OP didn't know that Bryan had feelings for her. Michael screwed everything up for himself here.

[@ashesfalldown492]

And because it wouldn’t be enough. The test doesn’t prove she didn’t cheat which is what he was really accusing her of, he would find another reason and another to question her loyalty and that can get dangerous. Can’t prove a negative. All the test proves is that she managed to “time” it right or whatever. He isn’t being rational and once he made that accusation, nothing was likely to assuage his anxieties.

[@robodestroyer8351]

Well he had no actual evidence she ever cheated for starters just because someone used to like you doesn't mean she cheated so there's quite literally no physical reason to suspect it. 2. Her mental state probably wasn't the best after months of him neglecting her both before and after the birth of their child and also biology women can have major mood swings and stuff because of their horomones in the late stages of pregnancy as well as after the birth. And also he just straight up wasn't being a reasonable ADULT HUMAN and having a conversation this could have been solved really easily had he just had a conversation with her but he didn't. He put an honestly stupid promise he made with his brother over his own wife and newborn child he deserved quite literally everything he got out of that. The mental disorder can explain why but it definitely doesn't excuse that type of stuff.

[@mothic]

Because she was only thinking about herself and how she felt and what she thought, and how she felt he should think.

[@amandaeye11]

He didn’t want to be a parent. End of story. This is window dressing so he can pretend he’s a good person.

[@BaddyZ]

Paternity tests should be required by default. Especially before birth certificates are legalized. There's literally no reason to not have it be that way.

[@VadBlackwood]

Because there's just not enough control over women bodies currently going on.

[@BaddyZ]

@@VadBlackwood If you think verifying a child's parent is actually their parent at birth is somehow "controlling" a woman's body, you're delusional and have malicious intent.

[@Black_golem]

If being insecure is unlike him even more of a reason for you to get a paternity test

[@MW-cx3sb]

Damn thats a mean thing to do to your child, putting them from a good to a broken single home to have a fucked up life over something so small.

[@Xargas]

If you still want to be with him after you go for paternity test on the condition that he HAS to attend couples therapy when the results show the kid is his. Especially if this is out of character for him like everyone claimed, you gotta find the root of this madness and get rid of it. If his absurd accusations made you no longer want to be with him, give him the paternity test and divorce papers.

[@alyzu4755]

Seems like a lot of this could've been avoided if they'd all communicated.

[@HeoBaby24]

if he communicated

[@jrdl0809]

The hospital should make obligatory paternity test at birth, it's the right of the father to have certainty

[@VadBlackwood]

Because there's just not enough control over women bodies currently going on.

[@wanderingbeing]

​@@VadBlackwood"Because there's just not enough control over women bodies currently going on." STOP PASTING IT EVERYWHERE! It sounds so lame. The paternity tests should be mandatory! You prefer that women have control over "their bodies" (when it's not even about their bodies) and ruin someone else's lifes 🥱🤪

[@CBNM1]

This is too much talking i would gave him the dna test serve with divorce.

[@edmarty46]

Asking for a paternity test in a marriage is just asking for a divorce. How else do you think telling your wife you think she’s been unfaithful will go? “It’s just for his peace of mind” you think there’s gonna be any peace after that? Should’ve gotten the test done and given home results + served divorce papers the same day

[@N..P..]

If you divorce your husband over that, then he's got every right to doubt you. There's absolutely no reason to not have a paternity test done.

[@alorarhodes1568]

​@@N..P..it's more about the implication. You are all but saying you think your wife is cheating on you. Now how would you feel if your wife came home and accused you of fathering her sister's baby? That would hurt right? It's about the implication

[@C.G.Gaster]

​@alorarhodes1568 I see all ends of this. If you accuse your spouse of cheating, you better have more than a gut feeling. However, if you're accused of cheating and don't go get the proof that you are faithful, it just festers in that person's mind. And they question each action. Both of them messed up and fed into a cycle. Just Micheal started it, and op perpetuated it.

[@alorarhodes1568]

@@C.G.Gaster Op just had a major medical procedure. Her husband was neglecting his child. Op didn't owe him shit

[@FlamesAndShadows]

Yeah, I think all the divorce comments are people empathizing and imagining where they either get too little, too late of an apology (innocent from the start) for the hours/days/weeks of abuse, still be treated bad because its not actually an evidence of the lack of affair (maybe she got lucky), or just be left with a festering wound to take care on their lonesome while the accusers start ignoring as nothing has happened and be irritated that wifes 'Not gone over it yet'.

[@ayceinquisitor190]

OP is allowed to be unhappy with being asked for a paternity test, and while Michael needed to start trying to get evidence rather than spiral like an emotional toddler, it shouldnt be insulting to be asked to have that test done if it was asked for with a cooler head. However, OP should definitely be upset with her husband's lack of communication and emotional immaturity. If he couldnt find any evidence and confronted her instead of trying to emotionally ghost her and to ghost his responsibilities, and asked for the test bc of his anxieties.... he would still have a marriage and he would probably get his test. This is the husband's doing, the ruining of this marriage. Because he couldnt be an adult and regulate his emotions with good coping mechanisms, and talk to his wife, or his parents.

[@anetegrike4428]

Indeed, fr.

[@Maninawig]

Interesting that Bryan lied to OP for years, bound his brother to a secret that made him go crazy, and OP is so quick to defend him and put the blame on Michael...

[@kossettereaditte7552]

Plot twist: She is sleeping with the brother

[@shadowcollins4589]

I'm thinking this has less to do with asking for a paternity test then with everything else that surrounded it. I think what a blew up into is what caused her to want a divorce

[@CptKorn]

Another situation that mandatory paternity tests would have avoided

[@HeoBaby24]

another situation where man insecure means we should hate woman

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

You wish. The men who do this stuff are so insecure they'll believe the woman fucked the doctor to change the results.

[@VadBlackwood]

Because there's just not enough control over women bodies currently going on.

[@florilestari]

What is wrong to get a paternity test? To prolong dramas? To boost ego? I dun get it, just take one and shove it with divorce paper, unless she really did sleep with Bryan, OP literally feed his anxiety, I have so many ppl with heavy anxiety, reassurance is the sole cure for it. if I were the OP I will let him do the test and also did mine, since he wont trust me anyway while preparing divorce paper and settlement agreement, no need long dramas

[@Maestrosendgame]

There’s literally no stopping this kinda delusion. Who’s to say’s he won’t stop at just the test. Any person with self respect would be pissed at randomly accusing them of cheating especially with literally no evidence or strong reason

[@florilestari]

@@Maestrosendgame that's the reason why paternity test exist, ppl always have a reason to hate and to conflict. Get the test done to as prove of your intergrity and flee from toxicity. Simple...

[@Maestrosendgame]

@@florilestari she literally has no reason to prove her innocence. Again I’ve seen stories where men would have this kinda delusion and even after the test they’ll find reasons to monitor and police her whereabouts and look through her phone. If anything he could very well be projecting even after his brother just mentioned he had a crush on her in college

[@Olimar92]

Paternity doesn't mean she didn't cheat. With his mentality, he would still think she was cheating.

[@florilestari]

@@Maestrosendgame If she does she wouldnt have a problem with paternity test, my brain is kinda lay back but if my hubby did that to me I will just go along to reduce atleast his anxiety, but tell him before hand that I am going to leave him cos he is gonna be toxic to the baby whether he is his or not, informing his parent and mine, record everything he says, get TRO if he goes bonkers. Simple... no drama, no ego booster, no ABCDFU. The more I hear OP didnt wanna get paternity cos she didnt have to prove herself makes me even more sus that she also has something that she doesnt want to tell, if she doesnt have something to hide than she has nothing to fear.

[@hamptonbrown6118]

YTAH, it’s a valid concern and your refusal makes you look guilty

[@shelliblossom8953]

how is the brother being in love with her show that she cheated on him and proves that the baby isnt his? and how is it ONLY her fault?

[@slimguy94]

If your this sketched just do the dang test yourself instead of demanding the OP does it.

[@vapixdarmana4428]

Truthfully, this seems like something that couples therapy would be better suited to than divorce, but I don't blame them for getting one. I hope that kid turns out alright, being a child to a single parent can be very difficult.

[@BrightElk]

Yeah I feel like she was way too quick to jump on the divorce train. Did she even like him? I agree he was acting stupid but why deny the paternity test? Just do it and put his mind at ease. Divorcing while still suffering from baby blues is a bad idea. I think he was self sabotaging because he didn’t want to be a father and he realized the baby was hear and a real person and he couldn’t back out or hit the undo button so he just decided to hit self destruct instead.

[@Friday1207]

The marriage was over when he accused her of cheating when she literally pushed a child out of her. Men do not have rights to children, usually it’s a right that women give to them. He took his wife and his child for granted, so he shouldn’t have 💩. Unless Michael pushed out a baby in excruciating pain for HOURS, then he has a say.

[@PairOfSocksGaming]

@@Friday1207 theres so much weirdly wrong things about this whole paragraph. It takes two to make a baby, a woman cant have a baby without the actions of a man, does giving birth suddenly mean cheating didnt happen? This has nothing to do with the story, what you said is just objectively wrong

[@Friday1207]

@@PairOfSocksGaming A man can’t have a baby without a woman’s actions, commitment and strength. A man doesn’t actually have to do work to convince, a woman has to actually push out a child in excruciating pain, she could go through postpartum, or might ruin her body permanently. You clearly didn’t read anything I said, and wanted to play the victim (as men always do).

[@Friday1207]

@@PairOfSocksGaming My comment has everything to do with the story, yours doesn’t. Men will always try to be victims, even if they’re the only ones in the wrong. Her husband accused her of infidelity, so she divorced him, why is she somehow in the wrong aswell??

[@Rj-ij6ko]

Op should have done the test…then handed her Ex the test results as well as divorce papers.

[@joanneneal1752]

Unpopular opinion: I don’t see an issue if my partner wants me to do a paternity test. It just confirms that the kid is theirs. I know it’ll be my partners, but know they know for definite too. If you put up such a fuss over it, I’d believe that u have doubts too.

[@aprilb1273]

Same but I can go through his phone whenever I have an itch.

[@FlamesAndShadows]

Its the difference between fulfilling their sincere need and being attacked and abused all of the sudden for as long as it takes. Getting even worse when you get legitimate 'WTF?!' moment, is a person on any spectrum of hair triggered emotions (anger, crying because of feeling betrayed and attacked by the person you previously felt save with), or the kind of person who leaves when there is too violent and unshakable conflict (even if not opposed to resolving it). Be patient and trust your partner for at least do the least damage to their feelings (and strength of your bond) for at least the length of a process. Plus it is a good way to flush out cheaters and gaslighters when you approach it as open heartedly, and nicely as you can and get hysterics, twists and overreactions that eventually sums up in manipulating the dude into opting out of the test if he loves or trusts her. Decent women will do the test, no need to antagonize them. Also cheaters do the accusing, controlling thing to drive their partner away or have an excuse to keep tabs, so too insulting of a demand could also be that

[@halesm5720]

It's the principle of things though-- by asking you're stating that you don't trust the person who you decided to procreate with. It's hard to walk that back when it reveals the partner had been faithful. Trust is earned-- and honestly she would have earned it over the years they had known each other. The moment that is questioned without any amount of evidence walks that back hard. It's easy to say that it is easy to do-- because technically it is, but... it's what it stands that causes the problem. In this case, his bro liked his wife so he 'assumed' his wife would have an affair given the opportunity... but he didn't consider how that 'need' to know for certain does to his wife if he is wrong. Calling loyalty into question with no evidence or basis during a time when someone is vulnerable irrevocably affects the relationship.

[@joanneneal1752]

@@halesm5720 I get that it’s trust and all, but I would offer to do a paternity test without them even asking. I want them to know I am 100% committed to them and have no concern about the results. They don’t have there reassurance of the kid being theirs as it doesn’t come out of them. I want them to know that I’m fully committed to them the same way they are to me. Plus the amount of women out there who cheat the “better man” into thinking the kid is theirs is disgusting. By doing the paternity test it avoids situations like this ever happening

[@beyusnow1693]

Let's say op took the test and it came back the husband was the father. Then what? I think he's going to continue believing op is having that affair.

[@leahunfeigned5955]

Paternity tests should be mandatory at births anyways before the potential father is allowed to sign the birth certificate. That will cut out a lot of issues.

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

The men who do this stuff are so insecure they'll believe the woman fucked the doctor to change the results.

[@blueravenchick]

Men, you can go to Walgreens and buy a paternity test and do it without anyone knowing! I know most men aren't that smart, but it's a win-win situation if you have doubts. You know the child is yours and you don't offend your wife, especially when she did nothing wrong.

[@mahanyasingh139]

Op should have had the paternity test done and then give the divorce if Micheal believes that the test was fake or overeating to it ,both Op and Micheal were stupid and impulsive and Bryan shouldn't need any hate while he had a crush he still moved on and let his brother get with Op and it seems in the conversation they were just reminiscing old things during the college days and it wasn't anything serious.

[@seanmanmark2]

I feel like most people would get the paternity test and to dunk on the person being an idiot, and then file for divorce. Not doing both makes me question the validity of the post.

[@kianna2530]

Why not just do the paternity test?!

[@vaishnavichalla9789]

I think OP overreacted. OP should have just gotten a paternity test instead of leaving the house and running off to his parents. And the parents pretending to cut him off in order for him to reconsider what he was asking of OP was too much. If I heard my brother tell me that he had feelings for my wife i would too feel weird and uncomfortable. And after i asked my wife for a paternity test and she starts screaming at me then that would just confirm my suspicions. I personally think that she should have talked to michael instead of walking out of the house and getting the in laws involved. She handled this situation terriably.

[@shelliblossom8953]

so its ok husband over reacted to nothing but the second a women who given birth not that long ago and probably still has messed up emotion over reacts she a fault?

[@BunnyTheOverlord]

Not gonna lie this whole thing feels like way too much of an overreaction from all parties. Who just jumps to divorce like that after having a kid? Also the last part about Michael getting checked out with Anxiety at the end seemed tacked on like this wasn't a true story and OP lost the crowd so had to come up with another hook to get sympathy. Then theres the parents immediately resorting to cutting off both their kids for a situation that could be easily diffused like wtf? Whole thing smells sus.

[@esercapar2004]

I WAS THINKING THE SAME EXACT THİNG FRR

[@neffymations519]

Exactly like ????

[@klaushaus7219]

I bet OP cheater with someone else otherwise she wouldnt make such a problem over a paternity test lol

[@MzK1sz3s]

You should’ve just got a paternity test and then went on about your business…. But people nowadays will go years without one and come to find out the kids aren’t their kids…

[@Maestrosendgame]

You can’t really go back to business after literally accusing your partner of cheating. The trust at that point is gone

[@Shadowy_2]

​You can if you're not a prideful, b****​@@Maestrosendgame

[@cocogoat2131]

@@Maestrosendgame Yes, exactly. The moment you accuse the child of not being yours, the marriage is over, whether the child is or is not.

[@xxlouisehoverxx]

I agree to the paternity test kinda but then I think she should divorce him afterwards cause a relationship without trust will only end in tears anyway and he clearly will never trust her

[@neffymations519]

it’s so silly to say that the trust being broken is cause for divorce in this case. He had a reasonable concern? Based on a conversation he had heard his brother having and then a follow up of his brother confessing his feelings for his spouse. Insecurity in a relationship is normal? Are you expected to never have any concerns about your partner? Does needing reassurance mean your relationship is over? Silly.

[@alisonzunguze8183]

Our girl dodged a bullet.

[@casper8849]

Or the husband did

[@Jetstream7579]

OP should have gotten the paternity test. If she didn't cheat (which she never said she didn't), then she could have shown the results to Michael and they could have them had a productive talk. If she's willing to throw away her marriage for her pride, then Michael dodged a bullet. Funny that she talked about how Michael wasn't paying attention to anyone's feelings but his own when she missed the clear signs of his mental breakdown. Instead of trying to understand her husband, she chose to run away, not prove her innocence, and sat back and watched as his whole life fell apart. She didn't love him. I understand post childbirth hormones (I'm also a mom), but feelings changing doesn't excuse being a bad partner. Mental illness is no joke, and he clearly needed support. The fact that his entire family abandoned him is just sad. Michael might have been able to be a good dad if he had some help, but he recognized that he couldn't provide for his family in his state and let them go. I hope for his swift recovery and that he builds a new and better life for himself.

[@amirilan4435]

The one thing that bugs me - why did she say she has no problem to do a paternity test. And then she explains how much asking for paternity test is a vile thing. Your point was valid without being a hypocrite

[@TripnotizeVM]

I mean... I don't get why not just get the paternity test before it all escalated to this. Don't get me wrong, the guy is also in the wrong

[@SR-lm1jx]

cuz collecting a fetal DNA sample in late stage pregnancies is very invasive and can be quite painful

[@TripnotizeVM]

@@SR-lm1jx I don't remember much of the story now, but didn't they know when she was pregnant early on too? or did her husband only demanded this on the late stage?

[@elliottmoore7090]

I get the husband is wrong and shouldn't have acted this way but why didnt she get the paternity test as that wouldve solved everything. She couldve divorced him after if he didnt repent for his actions. The way she acted wouldve been unsettling even more (again not justifying his behavior)

[@TV42_DLSV]

Devils advocate: all this could’ve been solved by understanding someone you “love”s insecurities and doing a damned patternity test.

[@Yawgmothx]

If it's real, it's cause she did screw the brother.

[@Joesamurai]

i cant understand why mothers are so defensive about paternity tests i feel like they should be mandatory to prevent parental fraud i can get a person would feel hurt being accused of cheating but if you can flat out prove you didnt why not prove it?

[@jojo-xy3dn]

@@Joesamuraiit doesn’t matter if she can prove it. the whole issue is his baseless accusations of cheating

[@shelliblossom8953]

@@Joesamurai there a different between i think this should be mandatory at the hospital and i heard someone else likes you YOUR FUCKING THEM AND THAT KID ISNT MINE I KNOW IT.

[@maya127u]

​@@Joesamurai will you be ok with your wife coming up to you and telling dhe wants to look through your phone just incase or tell you to get a std or sti test done jsut to. Make sure i would never be ok with that, if my husband came to me and ask for paternity test i will do it but now i don't trust him because sometimes cheater project so i will need some type of proof he didn't cheat so now a marriage without trust

[@finalfantasylord1]

honestly while the paternity test may or may not have solved the issue as he was accusing her of cheating either way the fact remains that his reaction over a conversation that he wasn't supposed to hear is ridiculous even with some diagnosis of "paranoia" with a doctor as for all we know he went to a doctor to just agree with him for a sympathy card. no instead let me nuke my marriage instead of talking about it like a rational human being

[@Black_golem]

Those two saying that might not have meant something to you but it meant something to him and just being someone’s husband isn’t enough to reassure you that cheating isn’t happening cause that’s literally the definition of cheating

[@christophernoble76]

paternity tests should be mandatory, it would solve all kinds of situations like this. those things come up negative about 40% of the time, the fact that she refused is a red flag and there's no update after a year, if there was a court mandated one and she failed she'd be reluctant to post.

[@Olimar92]

Yeah, a guy can have all his children be his, and his wife being in several affairs. Paternity doesn't solve cheating.

[@vn_1]

Op's is also all about herself and acuses husband about being selfish. Sheesh these emotional people aden't fit for marriage, let alone having children. Poor kid

[@SilveredRaven]

That was super manipulative to try and get him to apologize that way. Just get the bloody paternity test and leave him. I can't blame him for reacting the way he did, you're a blood red flag behaving that way.

[@LocksAndChains]

Yeah, given how many women seem to cheat and have their hubbies raise other men's kids, I kinda think paternity tests should be mandatory.

[@cocogoat2131]

His parents did that, not her, lol.

[@faeriegraver]

But his brother was upset that he wanted to get together with her, and had not. It seems like her husband just couldn't handle his emotions, and went nuclear because he couldn't handle being a dad.

[@SilveredRaven]

​@@cocogoat2131but she went right along with it my guy. Doesn't matter if they did it or not. She thought it would work and went along with it. It's 100% manipulative. If you agree with her approach I'm glad I don't know you irl.

[@Maninawig]

I might be roasted for this, but I honestly feel bad for Michael. I am guessing that he was able to overcome his anxiety with simple coping mechanisms in the past, but they all failed with the brother's revelation and beinf sworn to secrecy. Lost in the fears, fustrations, and uncertainties, his mind latched onto the idea "if only she proved the doubts wrong with a paternity test" to the point that he was blinded to everything else... a matter made far worse when his parents cut him out with that scare. Now, thanks to the lack of diagnosis and support, he lost his brother, his parents, his wife, and his child.

[@NotSoMoist]

The devorce part is taking things to far, he had valid concerns ( to him) and he wanted your reassurance, do the dna test, show him youve been loyal and its all good again, this comment section is to toxic💀

[@strangelola]

She should have taken the test and then hand him over the results alongside the divorce papers.

[@ionutaurelboldura2740]

How much OP loved her husband ... prefered to loose him and the father of her child instead of taking a paternity test to remove any doubts from the mind of the man she supposedly loves .... obviously she does not love him more than her injured pride ...

[@xsjado_anon]

Yeah, she's a giant red flag. He's terrified of even mentioning his insecurities to her because she screams at him straight away - no wonder he kept it to himself. Sounds like she's gaslighting him into not taking the test because it's not his.

[@Maestrosendgame]

@@xsjado_anonbull in no way did he tell her his feelings on the conversation with Brian he’s clearly an idiot and should not be in a relationship

[@T9GTV]

sounds like a 1 sided story about a girl who was so scared of a paternity test that she burned down his life, and gaslit his family to turn them against him.

[@delvontrestewart9264]

Can I plz get a woman's perspective on how Brian is in any way a bad guy because it's just not making any sense to me. 1. Brian falls in love with op but respects her boundaries of only dating once finished with college. 2. After finishing up at college, op and Michael start a relationship, causing Brian to put his feelings on the back burners out of respect and love for op and his brother. 3. Brian keeps his feelings a secret and is content with being her friend because he can't stand a life without her in it. 4. Even after being found out, he begs his brother not to tell because he doesn't want to ruin his friendship with op. Now, if we're being honest, most people wouldn't do half the shit Brian did because most people would see it as being too hard to be that close to the person they're in love with and watch as they happily start their life with someone else, let alone their own brother. So I'm just curious as to what the female perspective is on this??

[@xxlouisehoverxx]

I think Brian is innocent and so is op I think micheal is just being ridiculous the fact he couldn’t even speak to op about it says it all really

[@delvontrestewart9264]

@@xxlouisehoverxx I completely agree. I just found it weird that op seemed to think Brian was just as bad as Michael

[@martaledbetter2911]

Bryan started this whole mess by talking about his iROMANTIIC interest in his SIL at a party hus brother is attending. Dude should of zipped his mouth in public and never discussed this beyond a therapist's office. That's the bad guy part.

[@joy4themightydonutchainsaw620]

That whole family is stupid The Husband for like everything he did The Brother for even talking about getting with OP The Parents for that idiotic plan

[@_darkseid_4490]

She should just be a single mom. Its not that hard these days. I mean what else is she gonna do, give a man proof the baby is actually his? No way. Its too much work and offensive. Women don't cheat, ever. Its outrageous of him to even demand to know for sure if hes the father or not. Suspicions be damned.

[@gooseprince]

but his reason for suspecting her is completely stupid, no wonder she didnt wanna entertain his delusions

[@xsjado_anon]

@@gooseprince No way, that's gaslighting at its finest - I'd bet money he's not the father. If he was she'd solve the entire thing by getting the test and shoving it in his face.

[@donaldkue2364]

An affair didn't start but the brother would've been the first one she ran to after the divorce. That's my judgement of this situation.

[@OracleofSorrow]

If the in laws just wanted the grandson, they easily could've sided with their own kids and fought for custody. It's obvious they care about OP as well.

[@creator_redwood552]

What is up with the comments saying that op needs to get a paternity test didn't anyone listen to the whole story. So W op for not doing that

[@NeilTruick]

"...my son might not have a father figure in his life, through no fault of his own." True. "It's these two brothers who messed up, and for some reason, the universe is punishing me and my son for it." Hmmm...not quite. She could have her righteous indignation and her strong, independent single mother moment _after_ she got the test. The fact that the in-laws took her in means very little, because, in either case, they are still the grandparents. As far as punishment goes, if she had simply taken the test and the husband was the father, she could have lived happily ever after with the brother because their relationship would have been intact. The divorce was going to happen anyway, but her refusal burned both bridges instead of one.

[@jacoby-flower]

Claims to love husband, husband is insecure acting out of character, paterinty test could solve it all but decides to get divorce and no patertinty test instead. Sorry but sounds like shes hiding something. She goes on about how imporatant family is, but refuses to get the paterinty test and work on the marriage. And she doubles down to its not about the test just the disrespect. Sorry all signs point to her being unfaithful, anyone going this far to not get the test is hiding something

[@teddicusboozicus8017]

Paternity test should be mandatory at birth. It would prevent fights like this and allow for guilt free certainty for the potential father.

[@BPJD2004]

That could go wrong a number of ways. Like what if the partner at the time isn't the father, but wants to raise the kid all the same? What if the baby is born through a closed adoption? Mandatory paternity tests cause more problems than they solve.

[@lloydchambers390]

This 💯

[@_juju_jojo_]

It infuriates me that she didn’t get the paternity test. Not to prove her innocence but to rub it in Michael’s face and show him how much of a moron he is

[@shortangel333]

Nah I bet shes dragging it out, this'll ruin him mentally which is a slay. Wait until he's forced to give child support, he contests it, gets a court order dna test, bam, its his child, he breaks down because he knows he fully ruined his life.

[@EddiePReacts]

Everyone is saying divorce. An argument or insecurity doesn't mean end a marriage. You work on stuff. If a lady was insecure, we'd agree he should reassure her. What is wrong with you guys?

[@Joesamurai]

going straight to divorce just makes it seem like the kid is his brothers lol

[@HazeyClarity]

She didn't go straight to divorce, she went to divorce based on everything he did since asking

[@xsjado_anon]

@@HazeyClarity He dared to be insecure and have doubts as a man? If the sexes were reversed and it was the woman getting all worked up because she was worried about her man doing something, he would be expected to drop everything and comfort her, and reassure her any way he can - but she'd rather blow up multiple lives than get a simple test? She 100% cheated - I'd bet money on it - you don't gaslight that hard unless you have something to hide.

[@HazeyClarity]

@xsjado_anon Do you just not have comprehension skills? She didn't divorce him because he was insecure she was divorcing him because the way he chose to confront her about it, instead of calming talking to her and expressing how he felt he went and hurled accusations at her and then said he wouldn't speak to her until she got the test which is definitely taking things too far. Her issue isn't that he was insecure it was that he got THAT insecure over a few sentences that were exchanged that didn't involve her. If the roles were reversed my argument would still be the same, when you're with someone for that long and still don't think you can trust them or think you can talk to them then there is no point in even being in that relationship. Yeah she could've taken the test but what exactly would that do? He still accused her of cheating which a pregnancy test wouldn't disprove, still showed he has no trust in her. It would've fixed nothing.

[@EddiePReacts]

@HazeyClarity im referring to the comments. Everyone as in the comments

[@oliviadas91]

I am damn sure if the post was made by by husband, everyone would have called the wife asshole as she denied the paternity test

[@Zevelyon]

Nothing wrong with wanting a paternity test. If the mother refuses it's not because it's offensive it's because she has something to hide. Maybe Bryan isn't the father. But Michael probably is not.

[@Maestrosendgame]

That’s extremely stupid. Any innocent party is gonna refuse the test especially when you’re literally accusing your partner of cheating

[@Olimar92]

Or, and I know people don't think of this, she's in an emotional state after giving birth and the reason of "My brother has feelings for you, so that means you're fucking him" isn't going to be seen as reasonable. Hell, it's not reasonable normally. Not like the test would have helped. He'd still suspect her.

[@jens1229]

She didnt even try to make it work with michael