Husband Got His Family To Try And Get Me To Put Him On The House Deed r/Relationships

[@thecrowuknow]

Story 2 - it is so disgusting that the ex wanted full custody just so he wouldn't have to pay child support when he was neglecting her while he was in charge of her care. Edit omg it got even worse...

[@vanguardangel6912]

Yooo I heard it on Markee’s channel this morning!

[@AngelaVEdwards]

@@vanguardangel6912 LOL so did I.

[@charliedelfino2102]

My dad did the same thing. I think it's sad how common it is.

[@HotxXxMess]

He'd rather get away with neglecting his child even further than pay for his ex wife to actually take care of their daughter. People like this are beyond disgusting.

[@CaitlinKelly-mo1ld]

It got SO much worse

[@valgardener7656]

"He said it's unfair I have 2 now" That sounds so absurdly childish. Let him ask mummy and daddy to buy him his own personal little house, if he feels that way about it. I'd ditch this guy tbh. He doesn't want you to have anything of your own, and that is concerning.

[@ArcaneNim]

It's so funny because he lists his as "part of one," but she owns two? The math ain't mathing. If anything, he owns half a house, and OP owns 1.5 houses.

[@happilyevernever4289]

Yeah if he's so bothered by it, why not buy one himself, that way he too can have two too.

[@HaleyJo1992]

It's funny. Owning a home is literally part of the "American Dream" yet people sure do get angry when someone actually manages it.

[@mogulmade]

Story 2: I had to rewind to listen to this man's age! TRAPPED HIM IN WHAT YOUTH?! He called his mother to comfort him? Your daughter has been going through hell every day. 💔 Op better press charges.

[@BraveryWing26]

"He's just going to cry to mommy everytime he doesnt get his way" THIS OP THIS! Listen!

[@meghansherman6880]

Story 1: He is a red flag to get a "no "from his wife and he runs to his family to harass you. Will he share his generational wealth to be "fair"???

[@AndyyWithAY]

OMFG. That update was on AmIThDevil. I hadn't heard the first part. Of course he went after a barely legal girl. He's stunted at that age. An 18 YO doesn't know better. He can't take care of his baby, but he can rob the cradle with someone barely legal. I hope he gets neglect charges 🤮🤮🤮

[@rebelks88]

I do wonder if the “girlfriend” actually exists.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

​@@rebelks88 Yeah it's probably pure copium

[@bessieburnet9816]

Story 2: The more I hear about what this guy is like, the more I'm baffled about why OP even aimed so low as to make a baby with him.

[@ineedhoez]

No self worth.

[@availanila]

What do you mean? He hid his true self and was continuing to do so up until her neighbor clued her in, then the ball was in her court and she didn't hesitate. The only red flag was the unemployment but it seemed to be working out for them; she probably thought he'd be a willing stay at home dad.

[@FreeToWaffle]

Bessie and Ineedhoez, you need to understand how narcissists use abuse tactics to understand how this works. It’s hidden by their mask, that comes off once they have spent a lot of time psychologically and emotionally abusing someone until their reality is completely distorted. Not OPs fault whatsoever. She was strong and sure of herself and make the changes required immediately to keep her and her baby safe.

[@greenbeacon394]

Story 3: Reddit what’s with extended family that can’t mind their own business?

[@user-blob]

@@availanilanot true. She already knew he was super lazy and had misgivings about leaving her with him. She’s an idiot.

[@KatieB33]

The second story scares me. My friends daughter has multiple disabilities including chronic paranoid schizophrenia. We are guessing at what was the trauma that triggered it so early in her life. She had to go back to work after her daughter was born and dad was her full time carer. It makes me wonder if she had been neglected during this time. Her dad was a total deadbeat and was unemployed before and after they were married. I’m glad he’s outbid her life now.

[@crem-crem4070]

It probably was, the sad bit about Schizophrenia is that it tends to be caused by experiencing severe stress in life Had the father been a decent father there likely wouldn’t have been any schizophrenia

[@KatieB33]

@@crem-crem4070 I spoke to Mum today and she was 4 when he cared for her while she worked. He did have a temper or meltdowns, himself because it was obvious by then where the daughter inherited her issues from. But with an ID and ASD her comprehension isn’t great either.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Grandma is nucking futs. If she threw a shower with her friends, that might be ok. But, for her to hijack the party and make it to her liking completely ignoring the parents. Talking about "my baby". This is kidnapper vibes. Mark saying it gives me the ick, so funny 🤣🤣

[@vanguardangel6912]

My sister’s MIL is doing the same thing with the “my” baby. Just the verbal stuff but…idk it rubs me hella wrong

[@zerobolt9506]

I'm glad that the husband is 💯 on OP's side here, to offen we get ones that side with crazy

[@tegantalks9612]

Looking back on it, my ex-mil kinda gave these vibes with my son but not quite to that extreme. She was always posting on insta about my son and would also just grab him and totally take over whenever we went to her house. When I broke up with my ex she would basically just act as mom when my son came over.

[@cnow82]

Dude. 2nd story she should have charged him with neglect. Then there would be no chance he could fight for custody. She needs to go after him for child support. He is seriously disgusting. And she has got to stop letting him get away with this shit.

[@dreamrose2223]

Story 3: Why do I get the feeling that the grandmother always wanted a girl but got stuck with a boy and OP’s baby is the grandmother’s second chance to get to have a baby girl to raise?

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

I mean this goes beyond "I wanted a girl" This is a case for a psych hold or at least a professional. My grandma had wanted a girl. She had my uncle, miscarried, & had my father. She used to tell my father that the child she lost was her little girl. I was her only granddaughter & my brother her only grandson. She never tried to "steal" me lol because she was a rational sane human lol

[@18Hongo]

That story made me think "I need an adult", but I didn't say it out loud, lest the MIL manifest behind me with the words "I AM an adult".

[@marshawargo7238]

She's going to be telling them how to raise & discipline her whole childhood! Gramma will be putting her in diapers when she's 3 or 4 because "She's too young to be potty trained already!" She will be coaching her to think OP is too mean & controlling & Gramma's house is where she should want to live!😢 Major Manipulator! I wonder if she's changed since OP's husband was little (him not telling OP to be the bigger person) or is it because it's going to be a girl? (I'd think she'd want the flower theme being she's an older person & they'll tell you "Dolls are for Girls & Cars are for Boys!!!"😂

[@geckokid8265]

Story 1 sounds like as good an ending as possible but I would still recommend the OP remember her husband's reaction for the future

[@merykhan97]

S02: she definitely should press charges for her own daughters sake. WTF !!!! How can he do that to a baby ??

[@merrick1588]

Story 3: Granma is going Golum real fast... get an RO and an exorcist

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 2. Did I hear that correctly? OP "ruined" his "youth" by baby-trapping him at 35 years old!! Story 3. This whole thing is creepy as hell. OP and her husband need to be very careful with husband mom. Something isn't right with MIL. Yes, I get it she is excited to become a grandma, but she needs to know that is all she will be, a grandma. They seriously need to consider getting an alarm with cameras for their home and never leave their child alone with her. Not that I am saying she will hurt the baby, but she might try and run off with the baby. My mom had 8 grandchildren before I had my twins, and she already had a crap load of stuff at her house for babies (playpen, highchair, etc), but they were pretty old seeing as the last baby born before my twins was 11 years prior. However, the twins were going to be my MILs first grand babies, so she had nothing. When I went to do my registry, I invited them both to come with me, along with one of my sisters and one of my my SILs. As I picked out the things for my registery, my sister/SIL kept notes of the things their respective mother liked. On a later date, my sisters and I we went back with the list of things our mothers liked and made a registry for each of them. We then planned out and sent invites to both our moms friends, along with their registry, and threw a "Grandma Shower." We had it a week after my shower, and they were so excited. We knew that once the twins got a bit older and were no longer exclusively breastfeeding, they would be spending time with both grandma's, so we wanted to make sure our twins had what they needed at each place, and our mom's had what they needed/wanted to make things easier for them. They were both chomping at the bits to get their little grandbabies for an overnight visit. Due to a medical issue with myself, I had to ween the twins at about 6 months old, so all bets were off after that. My husband and I got to enjoy 2 weekends a month alone together, while grandma's did a whole lot of spoiling. They weren't too happy when we had our 3rd child because he breastfed for 2.5 years, so they had to wait a lot longer to get him overnight, lol.

[@geminiblue]

Story 1 - Even tho OP & her hubby eventually ended up seemingly on the same page in the end, i would be very scared to trust that her hubby won't change his mind in the future especially when they have kids & he feels he's locked her down

[@BNezzy]

jesus, who hurt you? I am going to guess if genders were reversed you'd have a totally different opinion.....like to leave the asset to charity when you die rather than your spouse of what could be decades? wow.

[@SergioBicerra]

I think he's just backing up to plan this better.

[@oompaloompa83]

This definitely isn't the end of her problems with this guy.

[@JootjeJ]

Most mothers in law don't get crazy levels of possessive over their grandchildren until after the birth of the first. Thank goodness OP's husband stepped up after he saw the final red flags.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Update: My Granny is being released to a care facility today. I hope the nurses and other staff are good to her. I used to do that many moons ago and I always treated my patient with dignity. I hope that good karma comes back to us. 🙏🏾😌🙌🏾 Mom was talking to Dad on the phone about the location, and she said it was near a shop where they bought a crib for me. That was over 3 decades ago. Why do you remember that?🤣🤣

[@PuppyKatt]

❤

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤗🤗💜💜

[@Swnsasy]

Awww, look at my bestie best waffler squad fam! ❤❤❤Hugs to you as always sweetheart! I hope things are going well..

[@kieramaccourt8717]

*Hugs* to you and your Gran, sweetie.

[@carolroberts4614]

We all remember stuff like that! I remember the shop where I nearly bought my first pram! It was a huge Silver Cross one, like you see the Queen's babies in.I bought a second hand one just like it in the end. My daughter is now 50, and I'm 70! All the best to your grandma! My sister had had to go into care recently, her dementia got bad really quickly, it's a scary time.

[@bessieburnet9816]

"Too many cooks spoil the broth" Ah, haven't heard that one in years. 😅

[@carolroberts4614]

But many hands make light work!!

[@ScooterBond1970]

Meanwhile idle hands are the tool of the devil.

[@oritreuben2184]

Story 1. It’s non of the parent’s business what she decides to do with the house. Op, stand strong.

[@jeannebuttons5301]

Story 2 OP should demand child support, if he's going to ever learn it's going to be from having his pocketbook attacked

[@ceeshnia]

Glad I wasn't the only one getting huge "this woman will steal your baby full stop" vibes from that last story; she is not safe, and I would be very concerned for both OP and the child. These are the kinds of people who will kill a mother to then "be the mother". How terrifying.

[@PuppyKatt]

@ceeshnia That last sentence of yours crossed my mind, too, including kidnapping the pregn@nt DIL and inducing labor/performing a C-section, and unaliving the mom and disposing of the b0dy, and claiming that "she must have run off." I was just too scared to type it in my comment, in case I jinxed the mom.

[@ceeshnia]

@@PuppyKatt I think it would be more of a "causes the mother to have a break or die after the birth" type of situation, where she may be looking into things like poisoning, gaslighting to an extreme degree which could be hugely detrimental to someone, let alone someone who just gave birth. And/or manipulate the son into believing his wife is unfit and dangerous and set her up to the lose the baby, then go into the kill route if he doesn't play along. I would honestly look into moving away for their safety, because they will always be looking in the shadows for this creature, who will inevitably be there, waiting for the moment they let down their guard.

[@CareyBilley]

The entitlement of her husband and his family is a huge red flag.

[@kerryday]

The Mother-in-law talking about her baby story, give me creepy handmaid's tale vibes

[@siralfredofhorsiii]

How op let the ex off with no child support, I will never know. He neglected the baby, and potentially caused life long issues. He deserves to pay

[@sandrakranzwinther3286]

She did it for her child. The deadbeat wanted full custody and they negotiated. Result: mom takes baby, dad doesn't pay anything. In this situation it's the best for the child.

[@HeiwaTori]

sometimes its just easier & cheaper to settle & be done with it

[@siralfredofhorsiii]

@@sandrakranzwinther3286 that is fair

[@Flakey101]

He is on benefits, the child support is going to be just enough to buy a couple of meals. It just not worth the hassle.

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 1: He is upset that you turned to internet strangers, rather than to him? He who ran to Mommy and Daddy? He still is not ready for a relationship outside of his parents. He is just a large-bodied child.

[@MizTameRumors]

2nd OP needs to find that hot 18 year old and let her know some loser guy got her pics off insta and is pretending they are dating.

[@Tammohawk1]

2. OP's ex should be happy that he's not in jail for child neglect. 3. Mother in law sounds like a menace to society. What grandmother has a baby shower for herself?

[@Kati_P]

Story 2: If he's lazy, won't work, and won't help with the housework WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE WITH HIM?!?! Edit to add: Story 3- Bold of you to assume that the rest of the family is rational, Mark, lol.

[@user-blob]

Well said.

[@nataliereeves3594]

Last story: Wasn't there a similar story a while back where ops step mom was the one claiming ops babby as hers calling her " my christina". Op had to adventualy move away and get a restraining order.

[@zerobolt9506]

There was one with Neighbors as well in another country 💀

[@nataliereeves3594]

@zerobolt9506 I remember that one. It was the stepmother that time as well also with the backing of the dad.

[@deettekearns9092]

It's wording in the first story that I'm commenting on. "He said it is unfair that I own two houses and he only owes part of one." (I paraphrased a bit here). How is it unfair? Does he know the meaning of the word? He can buy and build as many houses as he likes. He sounds like a child who's friend or sibling got a bigger ice cream. And then doubles down and calls his family so the flying monkeys descend, just like a seven year old would do (no offense to 7-year-olds). The entitlement of these people is shameful. But the outcome was a happy one so...

[@carolroberts4614]

So far anyway! Not sure about him.

[@JasperCatProductions]

lol it’s about togetherness because it’s not their $$$. You ok married to man who has mommy and daddy doing his boo hoo crying? Yeah this dude doesn’t seem like a person I would want to be tied to. Don’t give up your property, cause he angry. Stay safe!

[@pezchef7577]

you know what is inappropriate and disrespectful? running to your mummy and daddy to tell them your meany wife won't give you a free house.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 3: at least husband seems to understand how weird his mom is being. Hopefully they go no contact and stay that way

[@imjustgonnasayit415]

Story 2: Jesus that guy is pathetic l. Please get child support… what did she see in him in the first place??

[@vrsalcedo7245]

Story #3. My husband and I have one of those portable crib/playpens we set up in our bedroom when babysitting any of our kids' children, but that's about the extent of 'setting up MY nursery'. MIL has mental issues. Keep her away from your baby!

[@loganjoh1]

Story 3: that’s just creepy so glad OP’s husband was like “wtf is going on here?”

[@colleens1107]

Story 2: OP? Please raise your standards. A lot. Also, FFS DONT LET HIM OFF FROM PAYING CHILD SUPPORT.

[@AndyyWithAY]

That was pre-marital property. He's not owed your house. The two of you are putting in for a house together with both your names on it. Are this many grown @$$ people really getting their parents involved in their martial business?? That's so messed up. It's even more messed up if he's from a generationally wealthy family. He could've bought his own house. Major husband problem and I'd be reconsidering this marriage

[@luvspaiste]

↑ this

[@affsteak3530]

I'd guess this approach to marital property is partly how the husband's family built that wealth. An entire clan of grasping swindlers and money grubbers.

[@damien678]

​@@affsteak3530 The way to get rich is to be grasping and take any opportunity to squeeze money/property out of a situation.

[@mortimerbrewster3671]

The problem now days is people don't take their vows seriously and are running for the door with the first sign of problem. In the update, she said she COMMUNICATED with her husband and he understood and was supportive, even against his parents. It wasn't cool that he went to mommy and daddy first but maybe he won't next time since they were able to work it out between them. Marriage should be a lifetime commitment and the "reconsidering this marriage" should be the last resort and not when the spouse is understanding when they communicate their issues. This was a stepping stone in growth.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Last story would be my MIL all over. She was obsessed in being the first to see and hold the new baby BEFORE anyone else. She was uber ticked when husband and I didn't go immediately to her place when my youngest and I were released from the hospital - yeah... because I knew what would happen if I did, I was NOT up for that crap! This was my 5th baby and I was over her crud!

[@phionella7]

Story 3, why did it take the husband losing out on gifts to realize that what his mother was doing is frankly effing disgusting. When it only affected his wife it was just deal with it. He's gross too.

[@MzBatts1011]

@phionella7 from listening to the story I don't think the husband was there until the end to get his wife and saw everything and that's when he saw everything and made the comments and things went left for his mom

[@phionella7]

@@MzBatts1011 what I'm saying is throughout the pregnancy she's said to hubby your mom doing this is making uncomfortable and he said oh just ignore it she excited

[@ScooterBond1970]

He never saw it before because mommy dearest never acted that way towards him, only the wife. He was able to shrug it off because perception filters based on personal bias are a thing and can be very powerful.

[@helar2574]

Last story: One thing, that i think reddit is best at is when giving rational advise on what to do in different situations. Because normal people without such extreme expirience can easily forget to call Dr and hospital to warn about crazy MIL for example, sometimes what to do in abusive situation and whre get for help/etc

[@EnDB]

The neglectful dad is cartoonishly evil.

[@luizad2277]

Story 1; love how it was about togetherness where OP’s house is concerned, but not the husband’s family wealth 🙄

[@misscat6055]

For story 3 I feel like we'll get an update on how hubby switched sides since mommy has apologized and is really sorry when, in reality, she's gone continue her bullshit.

[@linkinlady06]

Story 3: heck no that is unhinged behavior! I would get a restraining order because I have no doubt in my mind she would try to kidnap that child the first chance she gets!

[@kateemma22]

"She's giving me the ick." I love you, Mark lol

[@ajwinberg]

Last story is crazy. I hope the O.P. takes all the precautions that she can to keep her baby safe. Her MIL is unhinged.

[@teamthoth]

13:00 he wanted full custody.... Give it to him then call CPS on him until she's taken away and given back to you- full custody. Seek child support. That's a route to consider.

[@hirohiroarikawa6806]

Nah I’d charge him with child abuse and state I want full custody and he needs to pay for child support, also a protective order. Also if he didn’t contact through a third party I’d charge him with harassment

[@mogulmade]

Story 1: I still think Op is being duped. They are now playing the long con. No way he suddenly backed down like this. Like he didn't know at all that Op put work into that house. Smh. Good luck. You were warned ⚠️

[@CouncilEstateRach]

Lol... when she showed him the post...he laughed.... yep he laughed because he had already seen it...thats why he had the quick turnround

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 3: Psycho MIL needs to have absolutely NO contact with you or your baby; kidnapping quickly comes to mind. Involve a lawyer NOW before this escalates further. Congratulations to you and your husband. Stay safe and please, when you can, give us an update.

[@chaseashley6775]

It was actually a video of yours in which you mentioned “The Hand That Rocks the Cradle” that introduced me to the movie. It’s now one of my favorite horror movies!

[@videofan1010]

The second story makes me sad 😢

[@ZombieSazza]

Story 3: the rest of the family isn’t getting the whole story and are being lied to, I’d be exposing her immediately and asking the family who supports her “would you truly be comfortable with someone else calling your unborn child “my baby”, and telling you that the child you are carrying is “mine” and acting like the mother carrying the child is unreasonable for not wanting someone else to claim their child like a toy?” I’d also be upping security around my home, CCTV for sure, recording any conversations I have around MIL on my phone, screenshotting all text/social media messages and honestly I’d forward on the unhinged ones to her supporters. I’d also only communicate with her in writing so that way she’s forced to admit her behaviour in text so she can’t hide from it. On top of all of this I’d be going no contact, her behaviour is worrying and she’s already trying to isolate OP, the literal mother of her unborn child, from the rest of the family, she’s trying to make OP sound unreasonable and I’ve no doubt trying to make OP sound mentally unstable. Be careful around her if you have to be near her, she’s plotting something and I wouldn’t be surprised if she ramps up her behaviour so she can try and take your child from you, she’s insanely possessive of your unborn child and treating you, the mother, as a mere inconvenience and making you out to be insane to everyone else, so many stories are out there of crazed Grandmothers who try and forcibly adopt/kidnap/isolate the child from the mother and this woman is giving those vibes, that her behaviour will only get worse and worse. Protect yourself and your wee family, OP.

[@BitterSimplicity]

There's something so adorable about hearing "Gives me the ick" in that accent.

[@poohbear4515]

S2: Why would she stay with a lazy pile of trash? He’s the worst “father”, actually he’s not even a father if he can’t grow a pair and actually care for his baby. He even had the gawl to actually be freaked out that the baby was missing when he never took care of her. At least OP decided to finally put her foot down and divorce him so mommy can look after her “pwecious widdle baby” since she obviously will never see how terrible he is to her own grandchild. Definitely keep the child far away from them. I hope she presses charges on that pile of human crap. I also hope in the future, daddy of the year can find daughter and try to get into her life, but she tells him “mom told me never talk to strangers”.

[@hbomb0417]

amazingly, that he even had a pair, to begin with, to actually reproduce in the first place.

[@Rael0505]

Story 1 ended surprisingly wholesomely

[@qnkendra1523]

That second story hits close to home. My ex did that sleeping while he was supposed to be watching the baby and lying about it- the big difference is I had no clue until I went home ill one day and that was the day I knew I had to leave because he did not have sound mufflers on but if he had I'd probably have ended up with charges. And he was working nights so the discussion had been about if we needed day care which he denied and he also slept and went off baby duty the moment I came home so I was on it at all times except while at work. I am so glad OP left I'm sure like me she had nightmares about what could have happened. My kid's diaper actually fell apart exploded when I tried to change it that day and I realized why the kid was having diaper rash. As soon as the kid saw me there was crying so loud it should have awakened my ex but it didn't like OP I left the home with our child because I couldn't remain there with my temper. The big difference was I waited for him to call me for the usual dinner planning and he didn't say anything about the kid and it took another hour before he called asking - I 100% believe he didn't check until shortly before that despite the BS he tried to sell me. This is a level of selfish neglect that cannot and should not be forgiven.

[@maurer3d]

Story 3: NTA, if you have no relationship with your MIL's friends why on earth would you invite them to your celebrations? Baby-showers are for the mother and/or father parents to help get the stuff they will need for the baby when it is born. On top of that her calling the baby "her baby" is deeply disturbing, and leads me to worry she may try to kidnap the child, or file false CPS reports to try and get the child removed into her possession.

[@madcatlady]

grandma wanted circus animals to go with her flying monkeys

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@FlamesofJagger]

Take care Broken. Stay positive and much love

[@RavenHaili]

How can you love me when you don't even know me? Love isn't just some word you can throw around, it's supposed to have strong meaning. Thanks for the well wished I guess and it was a nice comment to see but it also gave me a weird and uncomfortable feeling when you said love, like this is some parasocial nonsense. At least to just me, the love in your comment feels about the same as if an AI told me they loved me. It's meaningless when you really think about it because love is conditional.

[@RavenHaili]

I feel uncomfortable when youtubers say it too, it's not just you. I was just noting a pattern I see with people

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@FlamesofJagger 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗 you too jagger

[@damien678]

Story 3: ok, I'll admit, circus animals is way better than flowers as a theme, but WOWIE is that granny nuts!

[@Timbulathespidermonk]

Story 2. There’s a very good reason unemployed, living at mommy’s house, non driving ex is “accidentally” sending op stuff meant for his sexy, hot, 18 year old girlfriend. It’s hard to send stuff to someone who doesn’t actually exist. Hot new girlfriend is a figment of his imagination.

[@catlover2223]

Yeah, wonder what would happen if she Google reverse image searches those pictures he’s sending.

[@gcarr1089]

Story 1 - OP waited 2 hours before ringing husband. How long would it have taken for him to notice the baby was missing had she not rang. 😢

[@renee0_0]

The woman who said "what do these girls see in a fuy twice their age?" obviously never heard of grooming. As someone who was groomed and no one aside a random old woman saw it for what it was, it's horrifying how quickly society blames the teen and not the old abusers. If this man was able to use a woman his own age and put her and his child in such a horrible situation, what chance to teen girls have? Especially if she is like I was and was abused and groomed (in other manners) so I was an easy target.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 2: word to the wise, if you already know your partner is lazy / doesn’t do their fair share of house work, don’t have a kid with them, it won’t get better. Glad OP got out of there but honestly, just block him or take him back to court for child support / harassment. Also she should probably warn the girlfriend that her partner is sharing her nudes. That’s revenge porn in some places

[@user-blob]

Yes this. More people need to think twice before insisting on breeding with wastrels.

[@Standinthegap4ever]

The rest of the family needs to be told, by your husband, what she’s doing & saying. Document document document! She’s giving “I will take the baby & move to another state/country”vibes

[@ilovesports5468]

Why are these women always letting these men get away without paying child support?

[@CristinaFrank]

Story 3: The house used for "The Hand that Rocks the Cradle" filming is in Ferndale, CA. I've been by it multiple times 😊

[@tegantalks9612]

Story 2: I have 2 sons and if one of them called me in a panic because their wife took the baby, I would be calling the wife to get her side of the story. As soon as I heard what the wife had to say, I too would be going over to that house, with my husband, but not to comfort my son. I would absolutely rake my son over the coals, and so would my husband, for that level of neglect.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: NTA, it is a premarital asset, that he has exact zero money into it. I just hope you got a prenup to protect it.

[@Silence-1170]

Hi waffles hope you are all doing well! Have a terrific Tuesday! Stay safe and Stay positive waffles!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hope you're well too silence 🤗🤗💜💜

[@Aubsy]

Thank you! Hope your doing well as well ^^

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Hello!

[@katraylor]

Story 1: Red flag red flag red flag. I've heard true-crime stories that started that way. "Hey, baby, so glad we're married. Now, if you'd just sign over your property..."

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark stay safe please, peace.

[@browniewin4121]

1) Good for OP for protecting her property. As she is working and they split expenses that should be sufficient. He contributed nothing to her prior investment. Shame on him for involving his family. This is especially disgusting considering his family has wealth, guess we can see how they got it, always grasping at everything they can. NTA, and their reasoning is not reasonable. If this situation was reversed you can bet they would be saying she is a gold digger. I'm glad OP's country has laws that make her property her's alone. After update: It's good OP and husband talked and he is seeing reason now. It's good he apologized fo involving his parents, and told them now to butt out. 2) Wow, what a failure of a parent and a husband. NTA and beyond this, OP should change the locks while he is away and get a good attorney to lose the dead weight. He should live with his mommy since he is such a man-child. It seems he contributed nothing to OP's life except for sperm. He is a danger to their child. After update: I'm so happy OP is in a better place now, and I'm glad she is going to press charges against her X so he can be kept out of the child's life except for having to pay support. After next update: I think OP should go for full custody and NC, this guy and his enabling mother should be kept out of their child's life. Document and go to court. Their child would not be safe with them at all, even for a moment. 3) MIL is demented and OP should not ignore this. This was so much disrespect, overstepping, and creepy. It's good the husband seems to have gotten a clue and realizes now how awful his mother is behaving. This is a JNMIL and should be blocked and NC with OP and the baby. Make sure she has no access, the Dr. & hospital ned to be alerted she is not allowed any information or anywhere near mom & baby.

[@catherinedyaunka2640]

The last story about the mother in law calling it her baby is rubbing me the whole wrong way. The baby with HER son she means. Cause if she is the mother then her husband is the father.

[@ACCER]

That second story: OP should find the girls on SM and find her parents. Send THEM copies of the photos and texts. The girls is a stupid kid and it would be a good thing for OP to do unto her what she would want someone to do for her daughter in the future. It's entirely possible that the 18 year old has no idea he's sharing her photos with his ex...... If she's even actually 18..... I'm starting to think that you should have to have a phone license....sort of like an over 21 license to buy alcohol..... Oh, hell, we need to just raise the age of adulthood for EVERYTHING to 21 and be done with it. You can't drink, vote, own a gun, drive, have a cellphone, or join the military until you are 21. Until that date you are legally still a child. We might as well given how maturity seems to have been declining rapidly over the past 30 years......

[@reginafarley1325]

Story 1. NTA. Don't put his name on the deed. There's something fishy about them trying to FORCE you into it. And as for their wealth, just because people look rich, doesn't mean they are. All it takes is for one family member with a drug, gambling, &/or shopping addiction in a place of power to wipe out everything they say they have. Besides , why doesn't his wealthy family buy him a house so he'll have 2 just like you? DON'T MARRY ANYONE WHO WON'T SIGN A PRENUP. Think of your place as a safety net. If the marriage goes sideways, you'll have a place to live &/or a way to make $$ (renting out a room). These days, you can't depend on anyone but yourself. Good luck

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 2: NTA YOU are not the terrible person - he is. He is legally neglecting the baby. GRAB YOUR DAUGHTER AND GET OUT before the house burns down while he sleeps.

[@plurpball3958]

Story 1: rich of him to tell his parents to stay out of their relationship after he got them involved. This is why you have to be careful about telling others your problems. You and you partner may come to a solution, but the people you told will still be upset at your partner

[@buildtherobots]

Story 2: all that comes to mind is that the mother saved her baby from the fate of the baby in the movie Trainspotting (the death scene not the ceiling scene).

[@Swnsasy]

No, it's not disrespectful to want your own things that you brought INTO the marriage.. He did not put 2 cents into it so he doesn't benefit from ALL of her money yet everything else is split between them.. Screw that! I'm so sick and tired of people always using US LAWS!!! Him calling his mommy and daddy to tell on his wife is a massive MASSIVE red flag!! He can go buy a house of his own, nothing is stopping him at all!

[@CloverField83]

Story 3 has 2 updates in the comments. In brief, MIL is "afraid" that OP is going to turn out like her own mother, who was/is physically abusive and was trying to get a rise out of OP to use it as justification to get custody of the baby. OP and her husband are consulting a lawyer to see what their options are. Further updates on JustNoMIL were removed before I could get to them.

[@paden1865able]

We have gotten a lot of snow and I managed to fall three bloody times in five minutes while outside. I'm going to bed now, much love, Waffle Gang!

[@littlegreycat]

2:00 ugh he called his family on you. Always the worst sort.

[@eowyn8340]

Story 3: NTA. I’m getting “Dateline” and “Snapped” vibes from granny. 😵‍💫

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: NTA, if he wants to be a SAHF, he needs to do the job, not neglect the baby till just before you get home. This is divorce the Dick territory. Story 2 (update): Take the AH back to court to get the child-support that he is legally obligated to and make sure to have his parental rights terminated. "you trapped me with a baby" and also saying "be a surrogate for a new baby". Make sure to get your lawyer to get a no contact order.

[@LadyDnMiller]

Kudos to the husband on story 3 ❤

[@DullestStar9299]

That man is the GOAT. I was floored when OP quoted her husband when he confronted his mother. NOW THAT is a man.

[@Zeroknight34]

Story 2 - hm sucks but a major problem is the mom should of handle the situation better. If the husband call the police first before her then she would of actually been arrested no matter what despite the situation since she did kidnaped someone. She got very lucky BUT if husband decided to use the kidnaping against her then she is going to have a harder time. All I can do is wish her luck.

[@ffsno9078]

Story one: so instead of hearing his wife out, instead of talking it over over multiple conversations he runs to mommy and daddy like a child?! WTF

[@christinesinclair6938]

S1: That's a stalemate. S2: Good riddance to bad rubbish S3: Restraining order now! Keep her away. NC. Document EVERYTHING. KEEP HER AWAY.

[@phoenixsky6124]

When I was a teen I babysat all summer for my auntie. I slept all day and my grandpa picked up the kids. I was super panicked and it’s not cool to do that to another person but I totally deserved it and knew I deserved it.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 3. I mean I get being all excited about having a new baby in the family. I can see how a new grandma would get excited and refer to it as their baby and I don't think it's a big deal as long as the grandmother knows the boundaries. That baby actually is not her baby that the parents have the say in what happens with that baby Grandma's are just the extra hands when needed or wanted.

[@JayJayFig54]

Sry that this isn’t relevant, but I need help finding a story that I think Mark covered. Does anyone remember the story about a bride that was pranked by her fiancé before the marriage ceremony? He made her go to his room in her dress and recorded her as he told her that he “knew she cheated on him” and she had a panic attack and fainted. The SIL told her it was a prank I think and that he was super sorry. I forgot how it ended and it’s driving me crazy! He was rewatching the video to punish himself I think. Thanks in advance!

[@brandyanderson3522]

Story 1: Not excusing the husband's actions. Or saying this is 100% the reason for them. But I wonder if it's possible that the husband started to see the house as OP having one foot out the door. Or not being fully invested in their marriage. Especially since she wasn't even open to him buying into it. And when they finally actually communicate with each other he was able to see that this was an emotional attachment and not just a Financial attachment for a security blanket.

[@jessilyngray1223]

That last story... my mil tried to change the theme of my baby shower and then the sprinkle for baby 2. The oldest was Winnie the Pooh themed and she tried to make it all navy. (Husband is in the navy and they try to make everything about that) with my youngest her sprinkle was bows and elephants she tried to make it navy. Thank God my sister's and mom stopped that with both of them because they through them for me. Mil still showed up with a navy themed diaper cake. And she didn't like that she sprinkled I only asked for diapers because hand me downs are awesome. My sister in law did say she threw herself a party because she's a Grammy again and that's important. She's doing a lot better now that we live on the other side of the country.

[@PuffyRedCloud]

Story 2: Did she press charges??

[@kerryday]

That guy is definitely a narcissist, and his mother created him