Husband Suddenly Wanted an Open Relationship After 9 Years of Marriage, I Filed for...

[@TireFireW]

How do you say you’ll cheat if you don’t get an open marriage and expect them to stay 😂😂😂

[@vikafigol3397]

Yeah, as if he's some sort of prize💀

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

It's either cheat or cheat. Might as well bounce.

[@jdavis7613]

Your gut reaction was right. Open marriage or divorce? He wants to cheat without cheating.

[@Olimar92]

"If we don't open the marriage, I'll cheat!" than surprised she wanted divorce. Dude, you basically said "I don't love you, but I want to stay with you because this is a good set up."

[@mortaldao8044]

Olimar, men can separate love from sex

[@Olimar92]

@@mortaldao8044 You didn't hear the situation the dumbass wanted did you? He wanted another woman that he could have an emotional and physical relationship with. He says that. The chance he could make that work is 0. She didn't want it, so it was already doomed.

[@SunshineTheLover]

@@mortaldao8044so can women but then when they do its called "disrespect" which is exactly what that man was doing to her

[@intpleb4206]

@@mortaldao8044 The husband specifically stated that he wanted them both to have a regular boyfriend and girlfriend, because having an emotional connection was important to him.

[@mikkelborby]

@@mortaldao8044 nobody can.

[@PinkNinjanerd]

Props to the bf in the second story for cutting Kylie out of his life immediately after hearing what she said

[@andreasb1771]

friends that block you without hearing your side can eff off

[@anakatsukifangirl2944]

When a partner suddenly wants to open the relationship after multiple years, it usually means they're already having an affair and want a hall pass to continue it.

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

Yeah, at the least, he already has wowsers in his trousers for someone. 100%

[@usmcmikeco0651]

that is not true. sorry you only deal with dishonest people

[@anakatsukifangirl2944]

@@usmcmikeco0651 That's the way it usually goes.

[@Safetyman64]

Good that she was Going for Divorce, because that is just Disgusting. My man really wanted cheat without to cheat. He thought he was smart.

[@Safetyman64]

Or rather slick

[@lillia2479]

The story reminds me of another story where the husband wanted an open marriage a few years into their marriage. After constant begging and coercion, the wife finally gave in to his demands. Sad thing was, he couldn't get any girls to sleep with a married man like him. But she got A LOT of young men who didn't care. It got him pissed off and decided that they shouldn't open up their marriage anymore. This is what they say, "f*ck around and find out." 😂

[@Deimos001]

It's actually hilarious how when guys want to open the marriage and later on they don't get any attention,but their wives get all of it. There's something hilarious on it.

[@yeyosilver7067]

That's fake

[@lillia2479]

@@yeyosilver7067 It wasn't from this channel that reads from reddit. It was someone's recounting of a relative's situation.

[@yeyosilver7067]

@@lillia2479 I know and that's exactly why I'm saying it's wrong, the whole story is literally an absurd advertisement for women

[@lillia2479]

@yeyosilver7067 If you really think about it, it is easier for women to find men who only want some action briefly while harder for men to find women who just want a one-time thing. So it's not as far-fetched as you want to make it. And it is especially crucial for the men who keep wanting to push for open relationships to understand the consequences. Unless they're already cheating, then that's a whole different story.

[@low-keydrama1260]

Story 1: It says a lot that even his best friend was telling him that he made a mistake

[@DarkEinherjar]

What they say: "I want to open up the relationship." What they really mean: "I'm already cheating on you, even if just emotionally, and I want to do it without consequences... BUT DON'T YOU DARE DO THE SAME TO ME!"

[@Maria-wi1pj]

This is kinda out of context since he said to op that he was perfectly fine with her having partners. In fact, the post says that he wanted to search for a partner for her first. (This doesn't make it any better, it makes it worst in fact)

[@bryn1063]

​@@Maria-wi1pjthey always say that. But then when they actually get partners they get jealous because it becomes real.

[@redghost433]

The husband was already out of the relationship way before suggesting the open relationship. When she mentioned the lack of sex, that was my first hint.

[@tingtingboll]

Same sis. My ex husband got a fantastic stepmom for his daughter and another income for him. I was used and so were you. I found out my stepdaughter's senior year at college that he had a girlfriend. I stayed quiet until I switched my direct deposit to another account, got an apartment, and all the evidence (pics etc) of him cheating and had divorce papers drawn up. The house was in his name so he could keep it. I didn't even take my pillow from our bed and left. He came home one day to me just gone. The only thing he was furious about was that I had moved my money. These past 5 years have been incredible 🔥 Never again

[@doomedfromthesmart]

Lisa "they call her, the cat lady" I know, she's the victim here, I just couldn't stop laughing when she took the two cats

[@Maninawig]

Guys, I think one of the commenters got it right... he wants to experiment with his gay friend.

[@mannydcbianco]

Yeah I kinda get that feeling too, and this would also explain why OP, being a female, could never quench his thirst no matter how much kinky bedroom stuff she would agree to. He was so dead set on it because OP could never be what he secretly desires.

[@W4FFL3S_0]

Real

[@DW-le5gd]

I mean nothing gets more open than being single. I feel like people who want them one sided or when their SO doesn't, they just want a fall back incase it doesn't go as expected 😂😂😂

[@MaggieLynnHeronHeidelBooks]

Your gut is correct. Run from this guy

[@TireFireW]

bro ain’t no way you thinking that’ll go without suspicion tryna open a relationship

[@ladyweasellou3367]

He didn't even ask, just demanded.... We're having an open relationship and these are the rules... And then he didn't go to her or even pretend to try and comfort her when she ran off to cry on the couch all night. Not that it truly makes a difference since it's going to have the same result either way and pretty much everyone already knows he's already sleeping around... ... but on a psychological level it's just screwed up as it gives us a better idea of his mindset and lack of respect towards his wife. She described a perfect happy marriage but I'm thinking she's been very heavily psychologically manipulated through a lot of her marriage. All of those "reasons" are just "excuses" and I'm glad that she stood up for herself and left him. There's too many things that show he never actually loved her.

[@MrMK211516]

My wife's friend did that to her partner. Of course, she had someone she was talking to already, and she wanted homie to stay because he was super helpful raising her kid. (not his). They're still together but he did shut that down real quick. I remember my wife telling about it and calling it. I didn't realize it's a common thing, but I guess it is.

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

Story 1 Thank god op has self respect and a spine, and didnt go to counseling or that kind of bs, divorce is the only answer afther they propose it. Story 2 good for her,

[@GeezSus]

yea I don't get the concept of counselling. Majority of the time it's just some person who gets paid to spew some random bs while having no authority for their actions at all. Really respect the OP for not falling for this trap since counselling is realy tryna support open relationships for no reason and gaslighting innocent people into ruining their entire lives

[@adityasricharanillindala4547]

Story 2: The guy's a keeper, truly. DO NOT EVER LET GO OF HIM.

[@StoryWave123]

He would have cheated anyway.

[@albread6684]

Honestly, he should have started his relationship with someone he was sexually compatible with. It's an important aspect of a relationship, sort it out relatively early so that problems like this don't arise later. Even if you're against pre-marital sex or have boundaries and want to wait, you can talk about what you'll be willing to do when the time comes and what you think you will and will not be comfortable with. It's not perfect, but it prevents him being driven to do something so hurtful and cruel to his partner after nine years.

[@MeyaRoseGirl]

Well, she did say they started their relationship when they were very young and married so they could become his sister's legal guardians. They were likely still learning their sexual needs and preferences when life pushed their relationship extremely far forward. Because they were so busy being parents, they didn't really have time to address their own relationship and its problems. In a normal relationship without the parental issue, their relationship likely would have fizzled out much sooner. This actually is rather common among couples who married young and got so busy in the day to day of raising their kids. 20 years go by, the kids are in college and they look at each other and realize they don't even recognize each other. At least in this case it was only 10 years. But their relationship sounded like it was pretty good, with the exception of the sexual incompatibility. So I find it hard to believe that this guy is going to be able to find someone that meets his sexual needs as well be as compatible as OP was in every other aspect of their lives. He probably realized that too, which is why he suggested that he have someone else meet his sexual needs while OP meets every other need. You can't have it all. And if you can, you don't get to have it for long.

[@albread6684]

@@MeyaRoseGirl Really? From what he was saying, part of why he didn't just want it to be sex and he wanted another partner (basically a gf) was because they weren't compatible in terms of activities either and had nothing in common. I watched another video like this after this though so I may be getting them confused. Anyway, from the sounds of it (and assuming I've not got the wrong story in mind), they were incompatible across the board. And I get the idea of not being able to have it all, I just don't always accept it. Work to provide the things a partner wants given that that partner will also work to provide you with the things you want and while you both have to put in effort you both come out with whatever you wanted. In terms of the sexual incompatibility not having been acknowledged earlier, I get that the pair were taking care of his sister, but they were young adults. Early twenties. We could say they were occupied 12 hours of the day with work and the kid, then an extra 8 hours sleeping (even then, the majority have more free time than this) 7 days a week and that'd still leave 4 hours a day they could spend together. I refuse to believe that an opportunity to talk about it didn't crop up until ten years down the line, and in the event that it's a more recent thing he didn't know he wanted, then that just makes it worse honestly since it leaves her blindsided not because of poor communication but just because he had his head turned by a new idea and wasn't fully committed to what he had.

[@RanchoSantaAnadelChino]

Men ♂ get hypnotised 😵‍💫 by their Unconscious into getting with women they are not actually into *ALL* the time.

[@Deimos001]

On the story 1 Opening the marriage may seem like a good idea,but in truth its actually quite bad,many couples get destroyed by the experience.

[@scaredpaul540]

97% failure rate to be precise...92% if it's shorter than 3 months

[@eboniclarke177]

Second story is WIIIILD. OP better let ppl know what that crazy woman is about.

[@Jerweh]

About the 2nd story. If I did that to my brother. He'd kick my ass

[@devhxh1558]

Story 2 How people involved their friends in relationships so much that their partner gets sèduced or taken by their best friends... And put their relationship at risk.. you gotta protect your relationship too...

[@PatrickBhardwaj]

The first story guy needed professional help. He should have talked to someone before he said all that to his wife .

[@Ohsnhapitsdenus]

The second story was so terrible. Talk to the people and find out what she said then get pay back

[@نيشا-د2م]

Story 1: the husband definitely has someone one in mind which is why he wants OP to choose someone before he does. The husband was really upset over the fact OP filed for divorce even though he admitted that he will cheat on her. He is toxic & really immature. The marriage is over & there’s no point in staying in one. The husband turned controlling & angry cause he was losing control of the situation & he didn’t like that. Story 2: she should’ve told the bf right away & I’m happy that he genuinely is a good bf. Kylie’s trash & a snake 😐

[@alyzu4755]

Open marriage/polyamory can work, but only when every party is aware and willing. Forcing a partner and giving an ultimatum never works in the long run.

[@ace1gl]

99.99% of these type of relationship fail. Smart to just move on. He can be as open as he wanted then. Just wait until he changes his mind and loses it.

[@RanchoSantaAnadelChino]

That's true of most relationships in general. Just monogamy more often leads to zombie 🧟 relationships.

[@CHICK-A-BOOM]

So he’s done using OP because his little sister is grown and out of the house now! 😩🤣 What an unadulterated piece of trash! 🙄

[@RanchoSantaAnadelChino]

Dude ♂ is better than most humans. Knows the loveless relationship is a problem. Confronts it rather than avoiding the issue in denial.

[@89wolfcub]

1st Story- Op: “You’re just looking for a way to see other ppl while being able to fall back into the safety net of our marriage in case it doesn’t work out.” Ex: “That’s not it, I just want to do everything you said but just in a different way of explaining it”

[@fuchsiasecret120]

This guy was never truly in the relationship... it is likely he has cheated multiple times throughout their marriage... he took advantage of her for the sake of his sister, which, I'm sorry, but at the end of the day that will damage the relationship with the sister you got married to save in the first place

[@carebear91]

For the second story, the second she asked her insane request, I would ask her if she understood how crazy of a request that was. I would have told her she is not in a healthy mindset and if she thought that was a good option for her and that ruining a friendship would have been worth doing something like that. She clearly was unhinged so maybe I'm a more understanding person than most but honestly, it would have probably fixed a lot of issues. She wanted to have a healthy relationship like her friend had but she didn't understand the concept that she needed to find that relationship, and not think it ended at just that guy.

[@christophernoble76]

i really do think this dude could be bi, never thought about it until the comment but it's absolutely possible.

[@mztweety1374]

Somebody always gets their feelings hurt...

[@savannahmae3679]

Honestly for the second story I would have probably post a Facebook group message and tag them all in it. Honestly from my boyfriend's phone I would have said what happened you look you're either as delusional as she is or you were a horrible friend and didn't ask me for my side of the story and either way right now we can't be friends because of your actions. I mean seriously what did she tell them to make them block her immediately. If I had two friends and someone told me such a horrible horrible story that I be thinking about blocking someone I will call that person and be like look she just told a cray cray story and you've never shown any signs of that what's going on from your perspective. And if the person you told me the crazy story told me I was a horrible person that she was kicking me out for life or even asking that question then I would be suspicious of the story.

[@jadorianempire9754]

I’m a firm believer that people who actively engage in their sexuality, but at the same time continually deny their sexuality-are ticking time bombs. They either end up hurting themselves or take other people down with their sinking ship. STD’s, and unprotected love making everywhere. It’s something that gets on my nerves when it comes to that specific rainbow colored community, and was one of the reasons I left said community, the “down lows”.

[@RanchoSantaAnadelChino]

That is virtually everyone though. Straight or LGBT. They are in denial of some aspect of it or another.

[@LesCish]

Having a second partner while having someone waiting at home for me sounds great! For me, that is. Not for you.

[@bigdaddychompers9260]

Oh, no, no, no, please don't start that comment stuffs in your videos. I hate that. You're the only good story channel that hasn't done it yet. Please don't keep doing that comment stuff.

[@eboniclarke177]

Well it's wide open now.

[@demichaelwright71]

Bro just wanted a sister I got 2 sisters they are dope 😂😂😂

[@notting2640]

Story 2: Women’s greatest enemy will always be themselves 😂 even their “BFFs”

[@christophernoble76]

definitely true, their friends whispering in their ear telling them things and then lack of communication after that. it happens especially from single friends, obviously if someone is actually toxic that's just them being supportive.

[@TOMMY716]

You don't honestly.It makes sense that she was probably just a horrible girl friend

[@sliqyplayz8072]

Wow blocking somebody, just because another person in the group badmouthed them, with no evidence, not hearing there side of the story, not even confronting them just insta block.Opus prob didn’t need those friends to begin with they are dumbasses

[@NoelleWayne]

I really would like the videos more without those top comments.

[@Theyreallyfooledyou]

Where did the question If he was gay come from?

[@matheusmendes5488]

Husband had a gay friend

[@cynicalpsycho5574]

She is obviously in the right to divorce him for his cheat threat and open marriage proposal. But she really downplays the fact it is obviously a loveless (sexless) marriage, it doesn't have to be every day but the amount of women in these stories that expect their husbands to magically be ok with basically being celibate because of the length of the relationship is beyond naive. That said DON'T CHEAT OR LIE! Just communicate honestly and leave or divorce if it isn't going to work and stol wasting your fucking lives.

[@OO9O9]

How about you males stop getting narrated and live the single life where you can hook up with others.

[@GeneralKoA]

Gay best friend...

[@Tony-n9c]

Yes you totally over reacted… l can’t believe in this day and age that ppl are still so hung up on living their grandparents morality!!! This guy loves you!!! If he didn’t he would have just cheated on you! He came to you with a real problem and you simple went nuclear on him. This is why your marriage is failing! He needs to get out before you waste his life! Wives like you weaponize sex and love and use it against husbands. If you were satisfying his needs he wouldn’t want to look elsewhere. Most women do not understand this until their second marriage 😢. you said you can’t believe he would want another man in you. Well guess what, you will either be celibate the rest of your life or another man will be in you. So why not explore a New World with someone you love as opposed to going through the heartbreak and turmoil of a divorce?

[@sungping6294]

The husband demanded they open the marriage or he would cheat, and you call that love!! His solution for the problem was not working things out with the OP. In fact, the offer was specifically declined. That is why their relationship failed. Not because the OP refused to work on their sex life. It's quite astonishing that you would see this as the OP wasting the husband's life, and she weaponizing sex and love, because it appears to be the exact opposite, where the husband married her to get guardianship of his sister and is now serving ultimatums about opening the marriage or else. The OP is right...from a woman's POV if there's anything worse than he wanting to sleep with another woman, it's him being okay with and wanting her to find another man to sleep with. It's just so unfair that whatever the OP chooses, it's her life that gets screwed over because the husband decided he couldn't be bothered to keep his marriage vows.

[@usmcmikeco0651]

They were both pretty selfish. Him not giving her other options. but her for immediately making up her mind about divorce after one conversation

[@TimothyHartwig]

As a kinkster, I think OP is immature all or nothing and scorched earth stance and I think the husband is immature on presenting it as they did.

[@vidyasreeram2587]

OP isn't immature at all, she's incredibly generous for not going nuclear.

[@OO9O9]

Found the cheater

[@TimothyHartwig]

@@OO9O9 You are prude. May you have the day you deserve.

[@sungping6294]

It's not immature to be clear and consistent about what one wants in one's marriage. It's cruel to marry someone and then spring these demands to "open" the marriage, where it can hardly be considered a marriage at all.