"I am a Man and a Lesbian" What is a Lesbian?

[@AzzureSky]

If "bisexual lesbians" exist, then I'm meat eating vegan.

[@BuckAngelOfficial]

😂😂😂😂❤

[@s4di.3]

Emphasis on the meat eating 😭

[@AzzureSky]

@@s4di.3 Apparently labels are personal, so no one can tell me what I can or can't eat!

[@tegandetermann3299]

🩵💜❤️

[@tell-me-a-story-]

I thought a lesbian was just a women who’s attracted to women?

[@libertykim6438]

A man calling himself a lesbian use to be satire. Not reality.

[@caligirlsns]

I was just thinking about my bff Dan, he was a manly man and that was his long running JOKE. RIP Dan you were the man and my DREAM DATE.

[@JinxMarie1985]

Yeah and hearing it for most of my life, it gets real ol real quick...

[@nikedoesthings]

It is not reality. They can call themselves that but they will never be a real woman, they are trans, so they cannot be a real lesbian either. They're down to the bone straight men, whoever you wish to put it. An actual lesbian doesn't date men, that includes trans women or men who identify as women. They can say whatever they like but it doesn't make it true.

[@Ilive_420]

​@@JinxMarie1985 I don't blame you, I'm straight and even I heard the "well I like girls too so we have that in common" too much when they tried to get on with lesbians and kept harassing them.

[@MjollTheLioness-o4y]

Yes, it was a joke I often heard from high school boys when I was a teen. Even some adult men make the same tired joke. Then there were the ones who claimed they could 'change' my lesbian friend to straight if given the chance. It was so eye-rolling and cringe. I never thought it would be something people would take seriously and now call people 'bigots' for not supporting. It's so bizarre.

[@Celethio]

The reason terms like gay and lesbian exist is BECAUSE they describe a very specific thing, they aren't meant to be subjective or fluid.

[@ADanZLife]

Lesbians want neither transmen nor transwomen in their spaces because transmen transition out of being a woman and most transwomen still have the twig and berries. The same for gay men. I think trans creates a whole new sexual orientation that no ones has created a word for yet.

[@reeceraur8735]

Exactly! Words matter and must be agreed upon for effective communication and understanding to happen. I used to work with a person who would make up their own abbreviations and use them in the workplace. It was frustrating bc it caused confusion and a breakdown in communication and was dangerous bc this was in a hospital and it could have caused a medical error. This person actually had to be told that their personal abbreviations were not allowed at work bc abbreviations only work when everyone agrees on them and their meaning. Seems very simple but apparently not to everyone. It's alarming how clueless and illogical some people are. These people are everywhere; driving vehicles, making "decisions"!...How?

[@lilolmecj]

I just had a brief conversation online of a person informing me that "queer" can be used to describe any sexual orientation, including heterosexual ". Words have meanings and to change the meaning causes confusion, and in this case allows dishonest people to manipulate. A man claiming to be a lesbian is a person seeking to take advantage.

[@ADanZLife]

@@lilolmecj I'm not even 40 and when I was young "queer" was an insult no different than another word I'm not allowed to type on the internet. They want to destroy language so that people cannot communicate effectively, but they can create hate speech laws. It's all about social construction, which is what 1984 warned us about.

[@Joker-zl9ng]

I’m sorry? Being a lesbian is fluid since when is it an umbrella? “Bisexual lesbian?!?!” I’m sorry?! That’s a different damn label

[@rachelm9350]

I swear! I could say I'm a dog and catsexual.. like that is where it is going.

[@Joker-zl9ng]

@@rachelm9350 right? I wish I knew where to find the old sensible lesbians that didn’t make the simple shit into this big mess

[@nunyabusiness2945]

@@Joker-zl9ng I just said in another comment chain that I’m bisexual but in a hetero monogamous relationship. So according to that logic I’m a bisexual heterosexual woman? It makes no sense at all. But it’s fine. I done got kicked out of the community years ago because I’m ’hetero-passing’. Lol. 🤷‍♀️ It is what it is. My bedroom activities are private anyways and I don’t need external validation.

[@Joker-zl9ng]

@@nunyabusiness2945 I figure it must be boring to be just a plain old lesbian or bisexual person these days. Since apparently it’s a personality trait

[@RandomStuff-i4i]

​@@nunyabusiness2945 And you don't need external vaginadation either.

[@leticiamartinez7031]

So glad people are pushing back

[@Uncle_B83]

But it’s still nearly impossible to confront these people. They’ve dominated the narrative by coming up with all these buzzwords, and if all else fails they’ll just call you hateful or a transphobe. They’re not going to debate with anyone who they consider to be a hateful individual, so unfortunately all the pushback is falling on deaf ears.

[@jamessorrel]

Please let's keep pushing back against this incoherent nonsense

[@kaliblue]

​@@Uncle_B83You can't be as weak as they are, either toughen up or move out the way so the rest of us can keep pushing back

[@Fragmented1436]

​@@Uncle_B83I just absorb their rhetoric and throw the truth back at them. If we stay relentless in our push to set things right they will scatter. All these people have is the idea that we fear being ostracized and will not fight. Well, let's prove them wrong.

[@horror-core]

Me too, but we need a lot to push back, and not be scared of backlash that will come from the wacko posers.

[@rebeccao8895]

I’m a biological female who is bisexual and I would NEVER say that I’m a lesbian. Out of respect

[@justakathings]

Same here but the opposite. I’m a bi man and I never say that I’m gay, because a) I don’t fit in with gay dudes and b) it’s not who I am. Sometimes I feel it’s hard to fit in anywhere because gays think you’re straight and straights think you’re gay. Which makes sense because I am neither. Respect has gone out of the window these days

[@rebeccaspratling2865]

Same.

[@Whateverxo56]

Well you would be in a lesbian or homosexual relationship.

[@Itsstuff7328]

Wait, I thought lesbians are gay women. So how could a bi person be a lesbian at all? A bi person isn't gay by definition

[@tell-me-a-story-]

I thought all women attracted to women where lesbians? If you also like men, it doesn’t count? Huh.

[@AutumnLuvsJesus]

This generation is like, “there are no definitions or fixed meanings for ANYTHING.” How insane is that?

[@kaliblue]

Definitions only apply to how they choose to use them they keep moving the goal post and gas lightning us

[@mountaindesert34788]

Yup! "Transphobic" is the first word that comes to mind for me!

[@mountaindesert34788]

​@kaliblue don't worry, the wokies have already started turning on themselves too because some have moved the goalposts to different spots and then they argue. It will eventually implode on itself as they keep getting divided up among themselves 😂

[@cecemac159]

Forget the dictionary

[@andrewunderwood4570]

Until you get their pronouns wrong

[@Crackpot_Astronaut]

Nobody is "kicking you out of your home," dude; you MOVED out by choice.

[@azuropixie5703]

"stop redefining their space to make YOU feel comfortable." very powerful statement.

[@patrickoehlke9984]

My guess is the reason why they want to put EXTRA labels on themselves is because they want to feel special and be included in EVERYTHING!

[@fergieingrid2521]

Yeah I believe that's it too.

[@ciganyweaverandherperiwink6293]

Oh it's nuclear grade solipsism. That black chick on the porch talking all about how it's to do with their lived experience and all suited to their personal feelings...I watched with my jaw slightly ajar. When people navel gaze this aggressively it's...what a monster they are permitted to become. They go from ornamental potted plant to a ferociously toxic climbing vine, suffocating everything they grow around. So yeah, we've all got skin in the game. Nobody lives in a vacuum. These people...👹🤦‍♀

[@gertibell]

Yeah, they collect labels like they collect friends on Facebook.

[@nikkijack911]

Damn participation trophies😂

[@BestPunkyEver]

One woman said: “People get upset because they have their own definitions”. No, people get upset because others are just making shit up as they go along. Men wanting to be called lesbians are upsetting to lesbians. Lesbians don’t want to be with men, even if they call themselves lesbians. It really isn’t that difficult. If my above statement doesn’t make sense: Everyone, listen to out Tranpa Buck! He’s been through it all!

[@canuck21]

The bottom line is, if someone is not interested in having sex with you, it's their choice and you have to accept it.

[@hazelnutcase357]

In addition, if someone doesn't want any interaction with you as a friend or acquaintance it's their choice respect it. The only time you are required to accept conversation is if it's for work purposes, paid or voluntary, when you are working. Eg serving a customer. Or you cross paths and communicate common courtesy. Eg saying "hi". Noone has the right to push unwanted attention on anyone nor demand attention.

[@canuck21]

@@hazelnutcase357 Agree.

[@cartergomez5390]

Yeah, it hurts but there’s always the possibility of friendship ❤

[@MaceyPrice007]

I am a lesbian and part of the LGBT community and a lesbian is a woman. Lesbian means a woman attracted to another woman.

[@bradycall1889]

Amen 😎

[@julesniner1766]

So now, these men are not only making women have to say we are biological, but now lesbians have to say they are women as well. These men are such narcissistic pricks. So they are heterosexual.

[@Suthech]

Right! Also you was born this way! Its natural to be a woman that is only attracted to women! And a woman is a human that can give birth! Yes there are some reasons why a woman cant get pregnant BUT still she is a woman. I am a man and only attracted to women so i am a heterosexuell man and i am still a man after my vasectomy! Yes i cant impregnant a woman but this is not the only reason why i am a man! A man that is attracted to only men is a gay man! And every men and women that is attracted to men and women ois bisexuell! Its so simple and so natural! I really dont get this gendernonsense at all! I am to old to get it or is this whole woke nonsense to stupid so that my brain say, Hey Buddy dont think about this! You will lose if you trying to find some logic in it. ;)

[@rose-hope]

Kinda simple…

[@parakeetfloor3185]

You bigot ... lol

[@katera5711]

Labels are very personal. Lesbians are lesbians, gay is gay and everything in between is queer. Stay in your lanes, everyone wins.

[@notyourordinarygran]

I am bisexual, not queer.😊

[@Ilive_420]

​@@notyourordinarygran Or that 😆. Yes, I know many lgbt (mainly old school ppl) that hate the term queer, but young ppl use it on everyone.

[@bflower1562]

💯💯💯

[@nunyabusiness2945]

Not queer. There are more lanes on that highway you’re describing. Many of us will never ever accept queer because it was used against us very aggressively.

[@suzPeacemonger]

What about my names? I’m a woman. Why are all the lanes sacred but mine?

[@elephant1871]

I’m in high school. One day my friend who claims to be a they/them non-binary lesbian said “my sister found out I was lesbian and was outing me to my cousins last weekend” and so while everyone was consoling her, I asked the simple question “how can you be a lesbian if you’re non-binary?” and of course she didn’t have an answer, but everyone else sitting with us started attacking me calling because both homophobic and transphobic, so I proceeded to ask “how can I be transphobic if they are non-binary not trans?” And once again the girl who claims to be non-binary didn’t have an answer to my question, but everyone else decided to attack me.

[@RaefonB]

If you go by biological sex and agree your friend is a lesbian, the group could call you transphobic because that also means a trans woman can't be a lesbian. Instead, you went by gender and asked how can your friend be a non-binary lesbian...and they still called you transphobic. Crazy, isn't it? There can't be agreement in these discussions at the moment, because the terminology is too ill-defined and easily manipulated.

[@ghostthelizard]

Absolutely baffling how these people felt the need to answer for another person. I bet a lot of the people who attacked you arent even lgbt. Thats a very common pattern tbh from what i have witnessed

[@elephant1871]

@@ghostthelizard agreed

[@ShivaLadiva-sb9nw]

The fact they shut down the conversation just shows they are easily threatened by your honesty. Apprpach adults whom you trust to confide your emotions and stay away from people who attack you. You deserve to be heard without judgememt. Talk to a trusted teacher about this bullying and please dont waste your time on people picking fights

[@elephant1871]

@@ShivaLadiva-sb9nw thanks for the advice, this is helpful 💜

[@jude-zd9ms]

The modern LGBT movement has become disturbingly homophobic

[@TheReformedVitaminB12]

Lesbian is an adult human female loving another adult human female

[@ivamccann5112]

That's what I said 😂😂

[@rebeccaspratling2865]

Bingo!

[@tell-me-a-story-]

Well, an adult human female attracted to an adult human female. I’m not a lesbian because I love my mom.😂

[@katelynharvey06]

exactly!! why is it so hard to understand? why must these words be changed into any meaning.. ‘just because?’ crazy mfs

[@iamerica7887]

I would modify that definition slightly to be more specific: "Lesbian is an adult human female who is romantically and/or sexually attracted to other adult human females". Because you could be an "adult human female" that loves her own mother or sister, without being attracted to her. (otherwise it could delve into more taboo realms)

[@melp.6562]

I’m a straight female, who used to go to gay clubs (once in while and with gay friends) to have a break from straight men. I went a couple of time to a lesbian club, with a lesbian friend, and I was able to acknowledge their spaces, and I was, and still respecting that. I don’t know if my comment make sense. Also, I’m really feeling a very individualistic era, like, me myself & I on speed; MY feeling, MY perception, MY life, MY choice, MY identity, ME, ME, ME, ME! Never about other people’s feelings, never.

[@liabell2175]

👍

[@murphychurch8251]

It's a shitload of failed childraising...I've seen plenty that are now in their early to mid 20s being raised by their parents as the center of the universe, and I'm not surprised to see a surge in narcissism. Neglecting children is harmful, but so is raising them to be insanely overconfident.

[@LJ-ln3js]

I am so supportive of the LGBTQ community, but I don't appreciate being referred to as a CIS woman. I am a woman. Period. And let's leave the lesbians alone. They're entitled to their own spaces. Agree 💯

[@HekateSelini]

agreed! "cis" is a term coined by a particular belief system - "gender identity" - that some transactivists push on everyone. A lot of gays & lesbians are opposed to this belief system, too.

[@barbieengland-russell1669]

Agreed

[@sparrotara]

However this all started it has divided the gay community and it's now dividing the heterosexuals by calling us cis. And right now the political atmosphere is so dangerous I feel another Stonewall coming not only between the gay community and the gay community but the gay community and you know who

[@theripper1705]

Instead of calling yourself a "cis" woman, call yourself a REAL woman.

[@xenaxaz6964]

I think the word cis woman should really only be used if like, you are comparing them to trans women? You know what I'm saying? Like if you were to say "The difference between a cis woman and a trans woman medically is..."

[@tatsf]

Older gay man here. Back in the 90s I had a friend and roommate who transitioned (as did my brother, also in the 90s, and other friends). As he became clear in his mind that he was transitioning he had to make the decision to stop going into lesbian and women's spaces. This had been his community for many years and it was very difficult and lonely at times. We had some lesbian friends who encouraged him to keep showing up, they would welcome him. He politely declined out of respect for those spaces and communities. He was lonely sometimes, in early transition, and still declined their offer. I understand how isolating it must feel sometimes. But the bottom line is still the bottom line. He was identifying as a man. I had a lot of respect for him for doing that. It's only applicable to specific spaces. All mixed spaces are still an option, as are cafes, hiking, bowling, the movies, museums, parks, etc. You don't have to stop hanging out with your friends and support network... just not in women's/lesbian-specific spaces. Personally, I still believe it is important for people to have their own spaces. I wish that was more respected these days.

[@HekateSelini]

thank you so much for your post. Same experience here - friends of mine who transitioned ftm were clear that as they increasingly presented as men, they needed to say good bye to female only spaces, and they did; and we found many other spaces to share, just like you said. In general, I find older transmen (ftm) much more respectful of women's spaces; I believe it's because they were socialized as females AND they used to be part of women's/lesbian political spaces and understood the value of female only spaces! These days, young queers don't have that experience anymore, they never were active for women's rights or part of lesbian only spaces; so even ftm are very disrespectful to anyone wanting female/lesbian space. And mtf... I've met a few respectful transwomen, but they, too, are a different generation. Unfortunately, most transidentified males have typical male entitlement and believe whatever they want is owed to them, especially if it's a women's space - like any other entitled guy without transidentity. I guess that's (unreflected) socialization, too.

[@carolwalker2989]

Cultural appropriation also includes our sexual identity. We won't be able to communicate at all because there will not be any real definitions for anything.

[@kaliblue]

Exactly

[@madtabby66]

That’s the goal. Smyth: The destruction of language is a beautiful thing

[@gh4939]

My biggest fear. I used to feel a deep connection to the gay community, now I just completely can’t understand anyone anymore. We’ve destroyed that intimate connection bc of strangers.

[@ADanZLife]

Welcome to 1984 + Marxism!

[@pointermom7641]

Hi, Buck. I suggest you check out the latest outrage. For runners, the Boston Marathon is the ultimate bucket list accomplishment. It is very difficult to qualify and you have to a minimum time and there are a maximum number of runners who are allowed to compete. This year there is a qualifying time for men and one for women. However, anyone who claims to be nonbinary can use the women’s time. This means that otherwise qualified women will not make the cut. Grossly unfair.

[@BuckAngelOfficial]

No way! My Dad ran the Boston marathon!! So many people will cheat now! Disgusting 😮😮😮😮

[@liabell2175]

that's why gender ideology is so clearly misogynistic - whatever they do, women have to pay the price.

[@HekateSelini]

another example for the misogyny of gender ideol*gy. Men get to identify themselves into women's sport - and push actual women out. Boycott the Boston Marathon!!!

[@kimberlyhood4095]

​@@BuckAngelOfficialit's absolutely cheating and it needs to stop for the future of all women. You'll never see a f to m pulling this, it's just a way to keep women down.

[@Dylan-hv8bu]

I remember the days where life was simple. Easy. Gay was man attracted to man, lesbian was woman attracted to woman, and bisexual was man/woman attracted to man/woman. Now a days, there’s so many new labels, and new “definitions” of words that people had fought for the rights of, and some died to protect those rights for us to be where we are now, and to see these people trying to erase that to fit their own selfish agendas is truly heartbreaking. I myself as a bisexual woman, not a CIS woman, a WOMAN, would never call myself a “bisexual lesbian”. What does that even mean? I’m so glad to see so many people are taking a stand against this. I can’t thank you enough for all the things you do for us Buck. I always look forward to your videos. 💗

[@samaireoctober5584]

Getting a like even though it's not aired yet because I already know where this is going. Def will watch though.

[@BuckAngelOfficial]

🤣🤣🤣♥

[@bleukettu4521]

I remember in the 90s how someone calling you something (goth, emo, punk, prep) and everyone was all "don't put a label on me" what happened to that? Now these crazies are out here collecting labels like Pokemon cards.

[@Vitaluv]

They don't even believe that shit. Because this is the same group of people who will tell you that they don't want to be labeled and that labeling somebody one thing or the other is wrong in 2024 and yet they have a billion labels for genders and all this crazy shit so they're lying...they are lying as usual.

[@southbug27]

The argument was basically “Respect women’s safety boundaries unless you’re talking about me & then I need to be let in anyway”.

[@brandiedevoe6464]

Buck thank you for being a voice of reason, you are one of the few people who actually makes sense when talking about these things. Your way of telling it like it is while still being respectful is one of the many reasons why I like you.

[@123astbury]

I've given the race example before. I was born a black woman, but I identify as a white woman. Should I get upset because I'm still seen as a black woman? If I straighten my hair, bleach my skin, do white women stuff (I'm not sure what that is 😃), will I be white? No? My DNA will always be that of a black woman! There are some things you just can't change. In addition, I worked in Obstetrics for over 25 years. I can tell you the sex of any newborn was never assigned at birth. We didn't sit around and say, " we've delivered 3 boys today, let's assign this one as a girl!." Sex is assigned at conception and is determined by the male sperm. It's not the delivery staff's choice!

[@ghostthelizard]

Yeah sex is identified at birth (although with modern tech we can usually do that in utero) and there are only really really rare cases where doctors either wrongly identify it or actually do have to assign a sex, although considering the intersex rights movement i dont know if its as common in the western world to operate on babies with ambiguous genitalia and how certain cases like that are registered. But even in intersex babies its generally observed, might look like a girl outside but actually have testes or looks like a boy but actually has XX chromosomes. So honestly assigned sex at birth doesnt even properly fit for intersex people let alone 99% of the babies without DSDs

[@theresas740]

Me, too! L&D, ICN, Mother-Baby x 20 years! We do not "guess" anything! 2 full physicals, Vitals, lab work. I always say "Patently obvious at birth."

[@123astbury]

@theresas740 Exactly! Saying sex is assigned at birth makes it sound like the staff decides the sex of the infant and may have misgendered the baby.

[@torij518]

Agreed! That ‘assigned at birth’ thing irritates the life out of me. Biological sex is observed at birth, in a lot of cases it’s observed months before birth on ultrasounds. Their whole argument is insane!

[@completelycrazy1]

Thank you, this "assigned at birth" bs doesn't exist in my language and I always thought it was moronic

[@daniellefen8478]

I love it! So simple.... "Stop trying to redefine their space to MAKE YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE"!! Buck always coming through with the knowledge!!!! Love you!!!!! ❤️

[@mountaindesert34788]

Only on your first video and I'm already rolling my eyes at "being a lesbian is gender fluid" or whatever they said. Wtfff I'm so sorry for what lesbians have to deal with nowadays! 😢

[@jenniferplatts174]

And just remember....lesbians are women. This whole ideology cult is targeting women i n the main. Its appropriating any se x id females. Trans lesbians!!!! What a sick joke. The first person is still so female in their rhetoric and used the word contradiction . You make a decision to be the opposite of who you were, then walk that path. And Buck is so right . The hypocrasy is out of control ..spot on. Oh will there be an end to this social disease.😢

[@veeganboy]

Women's spaces are being encroached upon on all fronts. They seriously need to unite and stand up for themselves, before they lose them all.

[@rvastrik]

Their hypocrisy and confusion of words and concepts has risen to a completely unprecedented level.

[@FormigaFit]

I met 3 bisexual lesbians. They told me they like women only but ended up with boyfriends and kids.

[@cdrone4066]

Please, make it make sense.

[@ApersonnamedPon]

its like just label urself bi and not lesbian ☹️☹️didnt even get with a woman

[@YrisOrus]

I think its not that hard to explain. The drive to procreate is very strong. It is easiest ( actually necessary) to do with a partner of the opposite sex. So many will end up slipping down that slope if it is in any way thinkable. Sexuality is not a choice. I truly wish I was never attracted to men.

[@FormigaFit]

@@cdrone4066 Trust me, I'm not the one making these definitions

[@1jotun136]

🙄

[@joannewilliams5337]

WHAT? "Being a lesbian doesn't mean you have to be a woman" 🤣 That's exactly what it does mean. 🤣

[@Uncle_B83]

I hate how the only way they’ll confront someone on these topics would be to call them transphobic. You can’t win an argument with them because they genuinely think you’re hateful and not worth their time.

[@theresas740]

Phobia- IRRATIONAL fear and/or hatred. Hatred of dealing with insufferable, entitled, endlessly fault-finding, fight-picking children is a COMPLETELY rational response.

[@TheRealMikki4ever]

Oh my god. Definitions are not “personal” and “subjective.” They are OBJECTIVE. This is terrifying.

[@cher6358]

When you finally grow up, you realize that boundaries are not a bad thing. Proper boundaries convey respect and are often necessary so that we can all co-exist peacefully Love Buck’s common sense!

[@IOJFJM]

There's such a mess about identity spaces, I've decided I live in my own space and no one is welcome

[@monkeytennis7477]

Mee Too 😡

[@BenGray10]

I was genuinely thinking about this same idea earlier today, so this is incredibly strange timing. When I was in college back in 2010, I noticed the first tentacles of the woke mind-virus slithering their way into academics. I took "Human Sexuality and Culture", and the instructor asked us "Can a man be a lesbian?" Almost everyone answered "no", because that is an easy question with an obvious answer. She then went on to correct us and inform us that we were wrong -- what followed was a convoluted description involving gender ideology, transsexualism, and disinformation. It wasn't up for discussion, it wasn't her way of getting us to ponder the subject in more depth -- it was just a patronizing sermon that made no sense and meant nothing. At the time it felt silly and inconsequential, but looking back it was clearly a tiny little piece of cult scripture that would one day become sanctified in the eyes of the media.

[@kellymallory9852]

Conversion therapy, i think thats what they are doing in public schools

[@leximarie123]

Texas public school teacher here. It’s definitely not coming from the teachers, it’s coming from their delusional classmates and the very, very small percentage of “educators” that get off on confusing and harming very ignorant teenagers. I haven’t seen it with teachers or anyone in admin personally, not at my school or in my district (which is one of the largest in Texas), but I have seen it with the kids. They get sucked into the social media craziness and they end up being even more confused than they ever should have been. It’s sad.

[@LukasTay70r]

I was labeled Lesbian for many years before transitioning. I hated calling myself a lesbian i never felt like one. I was always meant to transition. It is what made the most sense for me to live happily. being called a lesbian made me dysphoric. I don't get these people.. it should be self-explanatory.

[@suzannelipscombe589]

What should be?

[@sheerbeauty]

You are FTM? Then the men who call themselves Lesbians are misgendering themselves.

[@sheryljohnson2695]

I appreciate the person in the second video you showed Buck. They were actually questioning their right to still be in women's spaces after transitioning. They were thinking of other people's feelings, along with their own, and what would be comfortable to all. It's something truly lacking in most of the TikTok videos you show. And probably for that person, they will realize as they get further in their transition and pass more, they will find that even tho the lesbian community is where they have friends, they will feel just as uncomfortable being there as a man and not fitting any longer.

[@SM-es2os]

I do not understand how someone who claims they are not a woman, will then turn around and try to claim a woman identity.

[@Anne_Onymous]

Entitlement. These people are living in a fantasy world and we're told to affirm it.

[@suzannelipscombe589]

They want it all.

[@horror-core]

A bisexual lesbian. Do these people ever listen to themselves?!

[@keashanice2526]

Nope they just do things and then cry when we point out reality and call us hateful for the truth

[@Matilde2809]

After the movie "Lost in translation" someone should do the movie "Lost in transition" so maybe a few people would understand

[@birichinaxox9937]

The first trans guy. He was talking it out and trying to reconcile gaining one thing vs loosing another. Came across as wanting to do the right thing.

[@Pheilen6]

The mental gymnastics required to understand these people is out of this world! It's crazy how quickly they come up with new definitions, only to change them again to fit their narrative. It all feels so confusing and insane to me.😂

[@ThinWhiteAxe]

The position of many of these people who are arguing that they can identify as lesbian _and_ transmasc/nonbinary is nicely summed up by the Queen song "I Want It All". However, at least Freddie sang it beautifully 😂

[@ljBloomington]

That’s funny, I was thinking the exact same thing when your comment popped up 😂

[@carsonjones6479]

I’m so glad you make these videos I’m obviously not a Lesbian I’m a gay man but I hear people saying they’re bi but their partner that dated them is straight like no because if they were straight they wouldn’t be with you it’s like people just throw labels arounf

[@claudiugardelli6302]

Cis guy here... I'm a lesbian

[@Candy-O1776]

Huh?

[@mikicerise6250]

THESPIAN, Claudiu. A THESPIAN. 🤦

[@knrdvmmlbkkn]

@@mikicerise6250A therapist; not the rapist.

[@latsnojokelee6434]

As a cis woman I’m a gay man!

[@madtabby66]

Only if you take the extra steps.

[@JenniferMcMahonhawaii78]

Buck, seems like some of these individuals are dealing with an issue with grief and bereavement in the sense of loss that they haven’t psychologically dealt with as yet.

[@TopHatNat]

Thank you for talking sense Buck. You really are an angel like your name suggests. Even though the subjects you talk about are serious, you still make me smile and feel happy. Love ya xoxo

[@raynbohh]

Why would a lesbian go into a lesbian bar and flirt with a trans man? ..... Well they don't, if they wanted to be with a dude they wouldn't be in a lesbian bar. I agree with you Buck, it's not that hard to understand. People are selfish and think they are the center of the universe and we must bow to them... BYE!

[@pazobackenstein6473]

Well, if he still passes more as woman, then it makes sense, you know

[@rantsofafangirl7000]

What if they have the appearance of female genitals? Def don't agree if they still have a Schlong

[@mattjones5817]

words of wisdom. I don't think enough young people hear that phrase and it may be the root of many of their issues. "You don't always get what you want"...

[@sarab2324]

The amount of jump cuts that one TikTok had! Insane.

[@asherahalchemy5101]

Thanks! This lesbian is holding down my state of being , regardless of so much nonsensical chaotic mind control

[@ttrev007]

definitions are needed for communication. you cannot have a different definition for each individual. Cults will redefine things to better control their members. It is a form of manipulation and mind control.

[@capWIT8539]

It’s always a good day when Buck posts 🔥

[@bemidji57]

Keep pushing back Buck. You are making a difference.

[@Honore7413]

Damn I read a comment the other day that said these people are the flat earthers of biology and I felt seen!!! 🤣 thank you Buck! This is harming the lgbt community and I am afraid they will never see it. You should do a video w Thai Rivera I think you’re energies together would be 🤌

[@Wendy6v]

I'm learning so much from your videos.. 60 yr old straight Aussie woman.. love your work!❤

[@robyny5790]

My mom always taught me growing up... life isn't always fair, you can't always get what you want, suck it up buttercup. Thi is true for everyone no matter what your choices. More parents need to teach this!!!

[@angr2773]

You are so right, man, this IS ABSURD! How can we identify Anything if we change definitions of the words anytime we wish, according to our opinions and nothing else? Identification IS the process of finding yourself (or someone) in the existing pool of definitions. And if the person isn't there - only then creating a new definition. Identification does Not mean changing the existing definitions to the point where words don't even have Any real meanings anymore - because everyone can call every thing with any word they want. This is ridiculous. This is absurd. By definition). People with ideologies... Oh, they're so alike, no matter what ideology or time, or country they belong to. The patterns are the same.

[@tinkthestrange]

Yes other people’s sexuality isn’t my business, but words have meaning. I don’t care who is a lesbian or what actions they choose to do, but we all need words to describe that feeling/those actions.

[@spagzs]

A “label” is something I put on another object to IDENTIFY and clarify what it is.

[@MonikaFreemanPilecka]

This is just craziness🤯🤯🤯 anyway I just dropped by to say hi Buck and thank you for all the work you do🙏🫡❤️👽

[@MjollTheLioness-o4y]

As a Gen-Xer it makes me sad to see so many young people so eager to label themselves and others. My generation was all about casting off labels.

[@4kassis]

how would these people feel if they walked into a starbucks to order a decaf soy latte and got a double espresso with goatmilk and a shot of kaluha because the barista has recently changed the definition of all those labels to match the weather?

[@suzannelipscombe589]

Thankyou for making me smile! What you have said encapsulates the measure of how ridiculous this all is...

[@HekateSelini]

you know, this is a great business idea! We can sell water as whisky for 12,- a shot...

[@vickilanders2887]

So glad to hear a voice of reason. Thanks, Buck.

[@rizumu-8937]

i’m a bisexual woman and the ONLY time i have ever said i was a lesbian was when i wanted a creepy guy who wouldn’t take “no” for an answer to stop talking to me at a bar i would never go around in my personal life and tell them i’m a lesbian… i’m married to a man lol

[@diamondinmyeye6160]

In the “trans debate” the lesbians seem to be taking the most damage. Poor ladies are taking it from all angles.

[@HekateSelini]

the transmovement is about taking all women's language, boundaries, and rights down. Lesbians are the epitomy of what they hate: women who insist that sex is real, that it matters and cannot simply be replaced by 'gender identity', and who on top if it all don't desire the male sex (no matter how a male self-identifies)... So I'm not surprised by all the bullying, harassing and hate against lesbians by transidentified males - I'm just deeply saddened by how few people stand up against this violence, and stand up for women and lesbians.

[@MsMGrace]

20 years ago I used to run a bisexual women's social group. One of our favorite events was going to the local wellness center (clothing optional hottub and sauna) on women's only night every week. A transwoman tried to join our group and was angry with me that the wellness center did not see the trans person as a woman (because they had a penis) and wanted more "inclusive events". I had many complaints from women in thw group that they did not feel comfortable with the trans person who presented as a cross-dressing man being part of a women's only social group. The wellness center responded by holding a once monthly trans night but stood strong that trans people were not "women" and would not allow them into a safe space for women. I agreed. What happened in the last 20 years?

[@vegaanisliveupdates-u7s]

At the? Lesbian comes from Lesbos Based on the writings, of “Sappho's of lesbos particular association with erotic love between women dates to at least 1732 in writing in English, though the continuous use of lesbian and the modern words formed from it are from late 19c. Am I missing something? I’m freaking confused.

[@Tylahh]

Good thing this comes out after I get out of work 🤣

[@angeldip5797]

I just love my Buck Angel!!!! You are SO important dude, so much courage and care for this super crucial matter. Supporting you all the way baby!!!! Xo

[@bradycall1889]

The fact that you can be a biological man and simply identify as a lesbian is just cringe to me.

[@sheerbeauty]

Back in the day if he sailed to the island of Lesbos and proudly said he was one of them, he'd probably be driven back at spearpoint.

[@kaliblue]

It's a pred mentality

[@latsnojokelee6434]

It’s as ridiculous as a straight woman going into gay bars because she likes men and therefore identifies as a gay man since gay men like men.

[@Zamek13]

It’s the same patriarchal attitude that in the past lead to colonisation of countries, but now they are colonising womanhood.. In so many ways 🤯

[@AndreRewind]

Not all transgender are cringe.

[@missdrool]

Thank you Buck for speaking the truth! People are getting more and more insane and you're a breath of fresh air ❤

[@carolynb.9469]

"When I use a word," Humpty Dumpty said, in rather a scornful tone, "it means just what I choose it to mean---neither more nor less." Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking Glass. Words have to have an actual meaning, or you can't have a sensible conversion

[@charrishead]

👏👏👏👏👏 love your work Buck !!

[@sashabenoit1518]

To be fair, I can definitely see why this is actually not such a clear and obvious thing for people to understand and why some people are making this argument... I definitely understand and agree with the notion that when you decide to transition, you give up your rights to those spaces. However, I also can understand why people don't want to let go of the community that they have, especially because after the transition it can suddenly feel like there's nowhere to belong when it comes to their sexuality. If someone is straight before transition, oftentimes once they transition they're not accepted as a gay person by the gay community and they're not welcome in those spaces. Same problem when it's reversed too... Someone identifies as gay before transitioning and then afterwards, a lot of straight people don't accept them as the gender they choose to identify and live as and also don't want them in their spaces, particularly when it comes to trans women. That being said, I certainly sympathize with their struggle as I can see how difficult and confusing trying to navigate all of that must be. Unfortunately, I'm not sure what the actual solution is... Obviously we can't force people to accept or be attracted to trans individuals but we could at least start with collectively agreeing on definitions of what these words mean. That would certainly go a long way because this whole thing where everyone gets to just decide for themselves what a word means to them is clearly not working and never should have been a thing to begin with.

[@brigitte9999]

Very straight, feminine woman here. I love your channel!😍

[@Moon133.]

So many now seem to be: I’m gonna be ‘this’ but I’m gonna change the definitions for everyone, not caring how those groups actually feel about it.

[@melbaraboo]

Those three women were a great of example of using word vomit to try to make yourself seem smart. In this case it had the opposite effect lol

[@EvilSnips]

Just wanted to add and agree, as a lesbian, I am not really attracted to trans men, especially ones that have taken testosterone and have gotten the male characteristics (especially facial hair and deep voice.) I known people before who I thought were attractive as masculine women but then transitioned and that changed for me (but not saying they are ugly at all!) I would also say, there is a small percentage of trans women who are attractive to me and it's a definitely bigger percentage than trans men, but that small percentage of trans women are the ones who look and present nearly exactly as cis women. I hate this term, but some people just have 'feminine energy' and you can tell.

[@HekateSelini]

I know that shift from being attracted to masculine females, but no longer when they transition hormonally/surgically, because they increasingly appear as the other sex... To me, the important thing is to separate personal attraction - which can change and can have exceptions to our usual thing - from terms like lesbian, which denotes a homosexual, same sex attraction. The meaning of lesbian doesn't change when a lesbian has an attraction to a male person. (And it's her personal business to figure out if that's an exception to her primary orientation or if she's bisexual - or transamorous (cool word for being attracted to a transperson, regardless of their sex/gender)). We need specific terms to speak about particular groups and issues, also to set boundaries where needed (lesbian only means only females). Only then can we negotiate mixed spaces, different needs... and find fair solutions to where interests conflict.

[@EvilSnips]

@@HekateSelini I do agree with you, for the record I've never been with a trans woman so to be honest I don't know how I would feel when it comes to intimacy but there's many trans women who look indistinguishably female to me and I can't say I'm not attracted to some of them on a surface level lol... But totally agree with you on your point about trans men, testosterone does sooo much to the body where the changes make them appear literally identical to cis men so in their case I do not see them as female and I don't think they should be considered lesbians even if they are only attracted to women. I think on your point about female only spaces, I think it's mostly about assimilation. If a trans woman enters and looks, acts, seems like a regular women I would not have a problem with that (Hunter Schafer, Kim Petras, and Blaire White are great examples) however, there are cross dressing males (nothing wrong with doing that if you respect women!!!) who take advantage of this 100%. I didn't believe it until I went to an art school and had someone basically do that. Creepy in an entirely unique kind of way. One of my major reasons for transferring.

[@Cam9020]

Hearing Buck cackling during the videos in the background tuned in with my soul 😂😂. With the “male lesbian” you didn’t get kicked out YOU moved out

[@patpoole6653]

You don't always get what you want, but if you try sometime you'll get what you need!!

[@rachelm9350]

OMG LOL

[@El_Ophelia]

Thank you for touching upon this. As a lesbian, not only am I a woman, (not a "cis" woman - I hate that term, it's disrespectful), but I am also *not* a non-man! Stop lumping us together and stop encroaching in our space. Identify however you want, but please respect who *we* are and what lesbians are. Please stop the whole "cis" crap to refer to us biological women. We are women. Period. Plain and simple. These men are making excuses to insert themselves into our private spaces. I feel like we lost the protection, as well as the rights, that we fought for. I'm beginning to both regret, and _resent_ , ever fighting for gay/trans rights.... _sigh_

[@HekateSelini]

very much with you! Just: at least with gay/lesbian rights, nobody else lost any rights or spaces! The so called "transrights" are nothing like that - they mean replacing (biological) sex with (imagined) gender identity in law and policy, which effectively takes away women's and girls' rights to any single-sex space or service. Totally different agenda - and wrong, just wrong!

[@sashabenoit1518]

It's not so much a matter of people suddenly just "forgetting" what a Lesbian is, as it's more an issue of these younger generations being taught things that are simply just untrue and that go so far outside of what's generally accepted and believed by the public... Their world view is fundamentally different than all of the previous generations that came before them and these views are not compatible with each other, resulting in them clashing.

[@tez2025]

I feel that everyone can already say that they are this or that and use whatever labels they want that they got to a point like this, saying that a man can be a lesbian, bruh... No, whether someone is a man or a woman or something else, people cannot use any label just because they want to, Many people in the community need to understand that they cannot get away with it. What about "TRANS MEN ARE REAL MEN", oh sure, but they can also be lesbians, haha no, make up your mind, just like you say, it's a big responsibility that comes with consequences.Thank you Buck for speaking facts even though they can make people uncomfortable, otherwise they'll never learn. ⭐

[@barbaral7179]

I am far to old for all these fluid identities, but i really want to listen to this! 🤗

[@SummersPsycheDelicates]

11:09 I had a lot in common with this story minus the conversion therapy. I was a bit, a tomboy, and consequentially disowned by multiple people and mistreated by basically all the rest. Except when I learned about gender ideology I thought to myself something more along the lines of ‘that’s gross and goes against almost everything I believe as a feminist.’

[@bobbiejojackson9448]

They have an absolute obsession with changing long-held, established definitions. Just look at all of the words that they've changed already. Mother breastfeeding, pregnant woman and on and on. On the one hand, they say that they hate labels, yet on the other hand, they insist that their labels (that they give themselves) can change from one day to the next and the rest of us need to adhere to their constant label changing. Make it make sense!!!! This is migraine inducing stuff!

[@HekateSelini]

the transmovement is changing only language pertaining to women - to the specific female lived experience. At the same time when transidentified males take over all female only spaces, sports, services... Accidental? I don't think so.

[@bobbiejojackson9448]

@@HekateSelini Definitely deliberate. They can deny it all they want, but the ultimate goal is the erasure of women and our rights. It's the most misogynistic agenda in modern history. And what's equally infuriating are the men that I see on social media, saying that women brought this on ourselves. Excuse me? I'd say that it's quite the opposite. I'm convinced that the majority of these cosplayers are either incels or MGTOW. Either way, they despise women.

[@rachelwelsh7734]

Buck, keep the faith, what you are doing and saying is so important. As a straight woman, with a lesbian past, your respect and clarity is so necessary right now. thankyou

[@suegodfrey9676]

Words have meanings!!!

[@RavenSaint1]

Buck explains a Lesbian perfectly. I'm Bi and I am pretty masculine, even now after 25+ years of being married to a guy. I had a lesbian girlfriend when I was younger, and I did not look feminine in any way. I love suits and guy clothes, even now. During the time with my girlfriend, She loved that she could be comfortable around me. She tended to attract some pretty toxic butch girls. Though, I did help her hook up with the butch who did my piercings. I miss them, but I know that they were happy up until I moved out into the middle of no where.

[@hollyfran51317]

What I find so sick is how women are being so disrespected in an “inclusive” movement. Being a woman is a beautiful and special thing! We are biologically created to create a life. We go through so many changes and e events that surround that ability. I love and respect men, don’t get me wrong. It just seems that it’s biological women that are being treated as disposable like something that can be changed, or disregarded, or redefined and that it’s our spaces being attacked.

[@HekateSelini]

doesn't just seem like women/females are treated like crap - it's true. The translobby is destroying all female-specific language and spaces. They're pushing women out of their own lived experience. That's why I refuse to play along at all anymore - after decades of engaging for LGBTI rights... I understood too late that T/the agenda of the recent transmovement is something entirely different than L,G or I.

[@ladyecho7761]

To know people will make themselves sound stupid just for attention is sad and hilarious. Thank you for your openness and candor.

[@theresas740]

6:55. Thank you, Buck! Respect the space for sure. When transguys transition, they're not lesbians anymore. If you're gonna be a man, be a gentleman and know when to take your leave.

[@CHXFIT95]

Omg you said go make your own “Queer-do like weirdo THATS HILARIOUS and SO ACCURATE please coin that!!! GENUIS ❤

[@kellymallory9852]

I have life long friends who are lesbians. These people just jumping in and saying they are. Its not right

[@cottoncandyflaps4347]

My best friend is a lesbian. And it’s not right. She wouldn’t want someone with male parts no matter how they identified.

[@scoobykitty]

Thanks for standing up for women and lesbians. I think the majority of people agree with you. Hopefully,voices like yours will lead to more people having the courage to speak up.