I Can Never Make It On Time To Anything (Unpacking My Procrastination Habit)

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7 ай бұрын

I never seem to make it on time to anything. I tried to unpack my procrastination habits in this video, let me know if that also helped you out.
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@garciaerick898 7 ай бұрын

It's crazy to meet people who are always early in life. They enjoy being up before everyone else. Clocking in ten minutes earlier and grabbing coffee before it crams up. They genuinely enjoy it. Maybe there are ways to think thru the problems so that you can enjoy being ahead rather than willpower your way through this shit in fear of being behind. I mean, to others, the gym is torture. Another chore. To you, its a place to work out your demons and get yourself right. I think changing your mindset is far better longterm strategy to make something stick than willpower/discipline alone. I know its vague. But I'm feeling inspired to follow this thread. Thanks brother man. Love hearing your journey and always taking notes.

@Eli.G12 7 ай бұрын

That’s a hot take right there. I didn’t look at that way. Thank you bro

@Locadelly 7 ай бұрын

I've been a chronic procrastinator for as long as I can remember. People that aren't just don't understand, they always think it's just laziness, selfishness, what have you, but it can seriously feel unbeatable when you're the one. But this video might be the kick in the ass I need to ACTUALLY do something about it this time. Time to make my own plan.

@Rohan-yt4br 7 ай бұрын

I can definitely relate to your struggle man. This is kinda me venting too but I think the reason why I'm late all the time is because I value time so much that I compartmentalize every single thing I do into neat boxes of time. For example if work is at 9:00 - then breakfast =10 minutes, a shower = 15 minutes, getting dressed = 5 minutes and finally driving to work = 20 minutes - so I can get up at 8:10 and I'll make it on time right??? Never works out because I don't account for intermediate things like walking to the car, variation like traffic, or stubbing my toe etc and I'm always late. I guess I either forget this system, or overestimate instead. But I looove to squeeze out every drop of relaxing and free time out of every possible moment until it's too late. Also why I don't get assignments done on time - I overestimate how much (productive) time I have left until it's due. Like waking up at 8am and it due at midnight, that means 16 hours right?? I have tons of time! And then I procrastinate for 10 hours and then I'm cramming so hard to get shit done... Wait I didn't even realise this now until I wrote it out

@jessicawalton4690 7 ай бұрын

Totally agree, overestimate the time we have when we should be overestimating the time we’ll take to do something

@Rohan-yt4br 7 ай бұрын

@@jessicawalton4690 Yeah exactly, shouldn't think everything we do as the best possible scenario but plan for the worst instead. And maybe an extra 5 minutes in between each of the actions too

@kat_thefruitbat 7 ай бұрын

One thing that has been a game changer for me with this is an idea I picked up from Dana K White. For every task you have a lot of resistance towards, she says to set a timer so you can learn how long it takes you to do these things. Write down the amount of time it takes you so you can reference it whenever you need to, and you can even add 5 minutes onto each task’s time allowance for safe measure. So in your case with getting ready for work, time each task and add them up to see how long it takes you to get ready and make the commute to work. That way when you start thinking to yourself…“5 more minutes won’t make a difference. I still have time.”…you can snap yourself out of it and say “no, I need to start these tasks right now because I know how long it takes me”. I think your idea about getting ready with ample time to spare is great because rushing around can cause a lot of stress. 👍✌️

@Kyle_Bu 7 ай бұрын

2:45 I can agree. Thinking about the work that needs to be done can be the burden that spurs procrastination

@Eli.G12 7 ай бұрын

It’s good to be aware of that. We’ll be able to combat it better since we can see it

@homersolomonjr 7 ай бұрын

Thinking about the work it’s going to take, the resistance. That hit different. I never thought about that point of view.

@lluxrynewman6080 7 ай бұрын

I appreciate the rawness, self reflection and the fact that your able to teach us while teaching yourself at the same time. This is something we all must learn to fix as men and many of us didn’t have a father to teach us how. Keep going fam we need more of you. 🙏🏾

@Eli.G12 7 ай бұрын

Yes sir! Thank you man. I appreciate the support

@marksinger5241 7 ай бұрын

Godsent video at the perfect timing, peace and blessings to you Eli, make sure to meditate on the Word day and night and you will succeed in this (Psalm 1), because procrastination stems from stress and anxiety.

@cosmicdot. 7 ай бұрын

I work from home and I log in late

@Eli.G12 7 ай бұрын

Lmfaaao, nah, that’s wild🤣🤣

@albertolamandini 7 ай бұрын

I really relate to your channel

@JacquelynKay 6 ай бұрын

Damn this video is super relatable and refreshing. Now ima put down this phone and get to my stuff ✌🏼

@ashisland8061 6 ай бұрын

ay bro, what changed big time for me, is inner child theory type shit. which basically says, imagine ur brain and body being controlled by your adult self most of the time, but half the time, there is also the child inside that is driven by emotions/interests. and he behaves like a child cuz he is one. (we never grow up from our child selves, we just develop a second half thats the adult part, but the child still there). so what happens is, just like dealing with a kid IRL. say you driving ur nephew around, if hes happy, hes calm, we chilling. he trusts you to drive him places he likes, mcdonalds being the gym. but when u gotta take him to the dentist (work), hes gon hate it and lash out and mess up your driving. and he will snatch the steering wheel off you and crash it even. thats basically our child-self when we stay up late on the internet or procrastinate things. you acknowledging that "in that moment, gym is heaven and work is gulag. so ofc i wouldnt want to go" is the exact moment u taking a step in the right direction. the right direction being acknowledging and understanding where he is coming from. hes not crazy. hes mad at you for taking him to work cuz he hates the damn work, and thats okay that he feels that way. the solution is just simply acknowledging him and his emotions. cuz part of his rage is that his hatred to go to the dentist is ignored by you. the way about it is, some middle ground between you two. "hey, kid, listen. i know this is a painful thing to do. and its okay if it makes u mad or sad, you are justified in feeling that way if its what you feel. but we gonna do it and imma be here for you and then later, imma get us out of this shitty job soon" alot of us men think acknowledging emotions is giving power to the emotions, but the opposite is true. when u ignore them/ignore your inner child, thats more likely to piss him off and then he will lash out on us and grabbing the steering wheel. and thats how men lose control when angry or depressed. Part 2 of all this, is long term solution: giving him relief properly by figuring out why or how he is suffering, cuz work shouldnt be that much of a drag. i think it might be a sign for a better career. i was a huge procrastinator but i realised i had mad anxiety about failure. (general list i found for jobs to be motivating is: interesting, purposeful, mastery/good at it, and automony). i procrastinated social situations, i didnt realise i had dorment social anxiety. hella deep down. great job unplugging from internet, im still on that journey but i found, its step 1 fr cuz now, we are forced to face these emotions that most people ignore. but upon addressing them, thats when we legit be leveling up. thanks for your great content bud, its on my mind when i do my weekly youtube subbox checkins. (which is weekly RN. working towards bi-weekly)

@blubayou4654 7 ай бұрын

Mmmm, chocolate brutha rocking an Afro pick❤💥💥💥

@b1g_m00n 7 ай бұрын

you should make a video about the stuff you've been reading!

@BroncoCandyman 7 ай бұрын

Showed up late to chemistry lecture this morning, always been a problem of mine, but never had a problem getting to work on time, or to my practices/games. My friends are the worst at being on time to plans, so when they say a time I never can take that serious. Keep up the good content, best wishes from MI

@FacePlant1324 7 ай бұрын

I am ADHD. I struggle with procrastination a lot. I am never late; I am always early to stuff, and that is anxiety that keeps me on time. I have to study a lot for certifications to get out of my job and get another job. I don't like studying so it take me a year or more to get a certification that should of took me 6 months. In my actual job, I procrastinate. I could do 2 to 3 times more work than I do on a daily basis if I didn't procrastinate so much. I struggle sometimes with hygiene to. I would struggle to shower and all that in the morning or whatever. I used to work on site and that helped but not working on site I loss the structure of having the pressure to be some where to keep me doing everything I had too. I have had been in therapy for about a year and what i find helps is timers and alarms help a lot, forgive your self for being late because we are humans and we mess up constantly. Rewards for completing task help and always give your self extra time. Like you said a extra 10 minutes to get to work or starting early to get ready for work.

@MalissiaCreates 7 ай бұрын

I appreciate your video diary, it’s relatable and helps me feel not alone

@user-gs1lz2pw9v 7 ай бұрын

Minimal effort maximum enjoyment and defense

@ytvc6039 7 ай бұрын

that lotion in the back😂

@CH-yi2xm 7 ай бұрын

Oh well bro, in a couple of days going to be 30 with the help of Gd.. and yes its part of life, the only thing you can do is notice the time that you are fumbling and ACT. You will start being proud of yourself and it will be second nature through out time. Robotic mindset.. with all this said ? Im still late - like a boss.

@lilquacker4907 7 ай бұрын

I’m honestly very similar I have no clue why I need help too

@jebus456 7 ай бұрын

you got this! Did you make it on time? lol

@ReBuild_conscience_palestine 5 ай бұрын

U are showing me a mirror, man! N.B: I genuinely think u are gonna be into Islam or Judaism in no time. May the Lord Almighty guide u brother. #peace 😊

@ivanthaboi 7 ай бұрын

He just like me fr

@Divy91311 7 ай бұрын

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@pauldaulby260 6 ай бұрын

I was thinking you had adhd from other videos. This one practically confirms it

@Eli.G12 6 ай бұрын

Lmaaao, bro, how?

@pauldaulby260 6 ай бұрын

@Eli.G12 common symptoms (take this all with a huge pinch of salt) -Time blindnes (this vid) -Struggle to focus on anything not a direct Interest but little to no trouble focusing on direct Interests. -Impulsiveness (sudden pressure to change your life) -Continually starting new tasks instead of finishing plans. Question, do you find your blurting out responses and accidentally interrupting others?

@Eli.G12 6 ай бұрын

@@pauldaulby260hm, I see what you’re saying with the first parts but those are literally things most people face in their 20’s. The last one is a no, I’m mostly quiet until it’s time to say something

@redemitTim 7 ай бұрын

I'm stuck at the exact same problem. Just like you said I'm watching you video rn to procrastinate the homework I'm supposed to do. So glad that I found you channel, I will try to sync you progress with mine so that I have a liability and challenge which I have to accomplish