I Can't Stop Obsessing Over My Ex (Attachment Trauma)

I can't stop obsessing over my ex. In this video I’m going to talk about why we have obsessive thoughts about our ex. Then I go into an email, and I even talk about why the break up isn’t as painful for our ex.
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[@ck6639]

A very good coach said “the pain you feel at the end of a relationship is directly proportional to how much you compromised yourself, your goals, your mission.”

[@theplansbydan]

This hit hard

[@avenuempire]

Damn..

[@jennasittler3142]

Godam

[@savannahjadehillebrand5618]

Brilliant, wow

[@albertpatino7089]

This is gold.

[@kirkv2262]

I've watched this video 20 to 30 times. It really helps me at night, this is usually when I have the worst thoughts going through my head. I hate the who could she be screwing now thoughts. They are the worst , worse than diarrhea :(

[@battlefront987]

Kk V I can totally relate. How are things now?

[@ravibhartia4797]

Add me let's be friends

[@mattykay1137]

ravi bhartia How do you become friends on here ?

[@teesahurt2074]

You are funny

[@guadalupelomeli6203]

Lol

[@ngalahansel6066]

Let's face it,80 percent of the pain co.es from reminiscing over the sex and imagining that what you used to do together is now being done with someone else. Crushes you

[@chrisfelan7113]

Ha this is very true

[@imissme8313]

Wow

[@Misslotusification]

"A man never throws away his only pair of shoes." Good to remember not to take anything personally.

[@johanneskirnbauer6643]

FC l

[@PriyankaGupta-ew1li]

Hmm😎

[@ahmadrabaa1235]

Lol 😝

[@sarahsomebody8684]

That was absolutely brilliant, it made me realise that it’s not my ex I’m missing but the attatchment, now I just need to work on letting go,

[@xpaperxcutx4588]

Sarah Somebody hi I’m writing this two years later from when you posted but I totally agree with what you said, did it ever for you and did you ever get back with your ex or found a more fulfilling relationship?

[@wanderertatiana2498]

Good question

[@sarahsomebody8684]

S H thanks for your reply. I’ve remained single and am working on loving myself. My ex lives opposite and will not speak to me so that’s difficult but I’m dealing with it. I now know that I don’t need a man to complete me and I accept things as they are. If I’m meant to fall in love again it will happen if not I’m happy and content with my life sorry for late reply

[@sallyruss4574]

Hi Sarah! I found this video and saw your post and just wondered how you're doing now since 4 years ago. I was married from 2000-2017 and now remarried but still haunted by previous memories of my ex husband who did not fight to stop the divorce or fight for me. Just curious how you're doing, if you don't mind sharing. Thank you!!! I'm glad I'm not alone in this.

[@danielc81]

I feel like im dieing. Im too depressed to even function normally. I just want this to stop

[@michellpalacio4]

I feel the same way. I just want it stop I don’t want to feel sad anymore.

[@lossennedlorwen]

Same

[@ravibhartia4797]

Same

[@agee6679]

Same💔

[@mura0]

+1

[@isabelvaldez6622]

the answer for me is no - meeting someone better won't make me happy or change my outlook.

[@kursengamer4699]

me neither. My anxious attachment would have me already thinking about when they/new partner would leave! everyone betrays me and leaves for another! why would this seemingly great new partner stay when there have already been others just as great?

[@staceyswope3438]

Rock bottom. It’s a great foundation. Hang on, everyone!!

[@android1012]

THAT is great, Stacey! Needed that today, thank you. :)

[@tonismith8209]

You are so beautiful! Don't worry. Some hot guy will sweep you off your feet before long. You'll be ok ☺

[@rossphillipgerard]

LOL nice

[@dcdude171]

Yes. I would still be just as traumatized about my ex if I met somebody funnier, kinder, or more beautiful. We spent 5 years together. We traveled, we cared for each other when we were sick, we were there for each other when our pets died, we were there for each other making the transitioning between college in the real world. Our favorite songs, our sing alongs, our shared interests. All gone. That bond is worth more to me then her characteristics.

[@GMH9765]

Nathan Norton How are you doing now? I am now only 1 month in and need HOPE that it gets better!!!

[@Franzifii]

Same here

[@ngalahansel6066]

@@Franzifii how.are.you doing now

[@ngalahansel6066]

@@GMH9765 you doing well now?

[@Franzifii]

@@ngalahansel6066 Well, I would lie to myself if I'd say I have no more feelings for him but I realized I need to move on because it was just too much pain and there were too many problems originating in my non-fulfilled feelings for him, so I decided that I have to put the friendship on hold for a longer period of time, to heal and be a better friend to him at some point, if I can manage to do that in the future, because he's such a wonderful man and he deserves it. He hurt me a few times without wanting to, but he is still one of my favorite humans and a better friend than most other people will ever be, in my oponion. But us being a couple is maybe not meant to be. Fortunately, I can distract myself with a lot of other things at the moment. Building a career, building other quality relationships, interests, and so on. I think I will be ok. What about you?

[@shirleytorres339]

When you said it’s like they turned off the Faucet they loved you then they didn’t anymore ☹️! It just shut off.

[@tonismith8209]

I grew up in a stable upper middle-class home with 2 parents that loved me and gave me almost everything I wanted. I was never neglected or abused. I don't have a lot of unmet needs. And he was a complete asshole. I don't know why I can't stop thinking about him...

[@Melzee620]

Toni Smith same!

[@wanderertatiana2498]

Not same here, but this is the first time in my life I've obsessed over someone!he ain't even special, but he was the most I've ever felt loved by someone not in my family. And it's been 3 years and I still miss him badly.

[@tonismith8209]

@@wanderertatiana2498 I know it may sound crazy, but try this. Can't explain it but this helped me so much. I barely think about him anymore kzbin.info/www/bejne/iHiZqYOFZZuIqq8

[@a.a.d.6374]

Look up intermittent reinforcement

[@samia6888]

@@wanderertatiana2498 how are you now

[@jesseboggis2449]

my friends probably think i'm fine with the break up as i put on a brave face, seem happy round them and don't talk about it. little do they know deep down its killing me and when i'm alone my minds constantly going over what i done wrong, what i could have done better and if I've lost her forever. if i met the girl of my dreams tomorrow yeah id be over the moon but there's no way i still wouldn't be sad about losing my ex and still think about her all the time.

[@ekamnoor7201]

its never easy bro but we can't bet our important time of life in the dreams which went wrong or did not come true. You guys broke up it is the reality now and deep down u know it too that even if u get her back there's not gonna be the same spark in the relation as it used to. and whtever u did wrong you gotta embrace that it was you who did it and made the choice and if you regret that choice of what you did then you should learn from that mistake and be a better person to build a better relation with a better partner.

[@pacomar1970]

Hey guys!! Is there room for one more broken heart? Well thats how i feel about my situation right now.i was married fir twenty two years i have a daughter she is twenty years old Ever since my wife divorced me about a year ago, i feel if my world is coming to an end I feel exactly the same way you guys describe your selfs. I thank Craig for making this video it is amazing. I would appreciate any comments on what’s working for you guys...thanks God bless.

[@mattykay1137]

Hi I’m Mathew It would be great too Make some friends 👍🏻

[@PriyankaGupta-ew1li]

How are things now man?

[@kaseydunn3192]

Same

[@eddiesantiago7971]

this is the best relationship coach and break up expert.... by miles

[@socalguy97]

All true here. My fiancé of two years left. I was the avoidant in a smothering relationship, and now I’m the one suffering. Little sleep. Can’t eat. Lost 14 lbs in 8 weeks. Can’t focus on work. Can’t go out on new dates and enjoy them. Therapy is no help. Talking to friends has served little purpose. It’s hell. I can’t make any of this stop. I’m not even sure what to do anymore.

[@wes25]

How are you now

[@ngalahansel6066]

How are you doing now.one year later?

[@socalguy97]

@@ngalahansel6066 That was almost two years ago now. I started on Prozac a little over a year ago and that helped me tremendously. It changed my life. My ex comes to mind every now and again, but it doesn’t affect me one way or the other. I feel free.

[@ngalahansel6066]

@@socalguy97 Awesome! I hope in a year from now I'll also feel free and not have this pang of pain rush through my heart when I picture her with him again

[@oliviabb73849]

Would love an update four years later lol ❤

[@LesiureBoy]

I'm going on 3 1/2 years and I'm still pathetically addicted to my ex. Dude, this is a nightmare and it's not even funny anymore:(

[@Rocket9944]

It sucks...

[@PrankYankers100]

I relate, man. We gotta build our own good life.

[@juliecarter7772]

me too 💔

[@Nozverah2]

It's been since 2013 & I still feel guilt & remorse

[@aselalovesjoy7368]

I can totally relate to that! 3yrs 8mo

[@trannongoble7722]

You, sir, are a genius. You hit the nail on the head. It still hurts like hell, but you cleaned my clock. Everything ... nailed it. It's like you were reading my mind. I wish there was a pill to take get take away the pain though.

[@rudyforte5617]

Trannon Goble I

[@106FMCatt]

#Truth

[@juanito3821]

Wish there was a pil to wipe my memories clean

[@Candlelight787]

Follow up - how are things going for you today?

[@Brandon.Lee._]

Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind . Only if !

[@jarmelo2006]

were all screwed.

[@ravibhartia4797]

Yeah

[@leahc8347]

Absolutely.

[@kellegeez]

😫😫😫

[@jarmelo2006]

@@kellegeez I felt that...😔😔😔🌙

[@liviantus]

Lol

[@sallyruss4574]

Thank you for posting. I'm 52 year old female was married from 2000-2017. Remarried now but still consumed with memories of my time w/my ex. The man I'm with now is very loving and caring. I know the marriage was not good. He is a non-practicing Muslim and I'm a Christian. I had a lot of attachment to him as we spent many years together. We went on amazing vacations and he was very clean/neat but I guess basically that's all there was. Being a middle-eastern man, his culture taught the men to think "like men" and not really care/be interested in women's emotions. Anyway, there's more but I've already written enough and it is helping me heal. God Bless You!

[@beatweezl]

So great Craig, thank you. I do feel better after watching your videos.Very therapeutic. Takes the edge off my pain while distracting me and educating me at the same time. Made me realize that I was missing the attention I needed when I was a child and this is why I am so deeply affected although is not easily replaceable. I've never felt this strongly about anyone before. She is very unique and special.

[@hardvibes]

If she's with someone else (and if she's happy) how can she think about me? Let'S face the truth, she doesn't

[@angelsdosing1741]

Maybe. But you are forever part of her life history. That cant be erased. When the chips are down in a relationship, her mind will drift back to you. You may probably never know about. BUT if you go on to find new love, or if you live an exciting passionate life with or without someone, thats gonna sting a bit for her. Plus she carries the burden of knowing she ended it, you didnt. March on, find your best life. Best wishes.

[@SpicySoulX]

I know right. It might be an evil way of seeing it but... I hope she hates the "new guy" and regrets breaking up with me, but i doubt that will ever happen

[@HerbalistGG]

@@SpicySoulX it will , human nature craves for new exicements, new life changes , " wanted to be free" but when you get it all in once you feel like you are lost you don't belong here and immedality want to go back , but when you get slowly naturally you fell in love and make bond together like all long term relationships then people got too close they know everyting it becomes "routin" so they sabotage things then cycle returns to new exicements and so on so on, there is 2 choice , one is you will become to master manipulator and learn when to pull back , give attention, dissaper ,and love and hurt at the same time to shake things around and keep them emotional so they don't get bored when you think if i only love her truly she will be "happy" , and second is you will deattach from another human being so you will not be hurt when it is over , but at the end women does not need love , it is just on movies , they need chaos drama attention , they are slaves of their emotions , if you keep them in one emotion they will try to find "new exicetement" , you gonna stir up the waters to keep them interested or you will get abandoned

[@cinneadken]

@@HerbalistGG This is actually not a million miles off the mark. Creating new emotional waves is part of it, basically wanting to say "I am looking for attention"...

[@ubersoldado]

@@HerbalistGG yeah, i was the new guy and i didn't know it at the tlme. she was with her bf for two years, dumped him for me then dumped me for him. shit's crazy.

[@mrzahkriisos2457]

I lost my mother at a young age and he made me feel safe like id never have felt before, it may of been a false sense of security but this all makes sense and i already feel better!

[@harebell6850]

Thank you so much. This was very helpful and i'm beginning ti understand what my obsessing is all about. My ex left after 30 years and is in a new relationship and I just feel overlooked, forgotten and disrespected.

[@samia6888]

How are you now

[@philipzanoni]

Holy cow!!! So well done... even the pause and you looking at us in the camera and the eyes and smile after the long pause all that silence your face was saying a million things really intense message my friend you scored 100 on that one..thank you

[@JomariGuitarTV]

coach Craig all i want to say is THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR HELPING US TO GET HEALED , your explination is wonderful.

[@robertjelinski5113]

WOW, another five star video. Hit the nail right on the head for me! Long Live Coach Craig. God Bless you!

[@btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892]

I grew up in a big, loving family. I never felt unloved, or ignored. my mom, my dad and both their families were always around me. Still, breakups leave me devastated, i feel miserable, cry for days, lose apetite, etc.

[@kaseydunn3192]

You’re the best. I love how incorporate psychology into it and explain it so well.

[@Dad_Brad]

One of my favorite videos of Craig's so far.

[@DanievanderLinde]

Just watched this video doing the programme at 3.30am cause I can't sleep and bookmarked it as my number 1 video going forward. Craig this is not only insightful it is literally helped me to get perspective. This is a lifesaver in no uncertain ways. Thank you.

[@kita0918]

I’m here at 3:43 am lol

[@donovankokel1468]

Best video yet. Really opened my eyes to what i'm dealing with. especially at the end when you talk about the girlfriend keeping the toxic ex in the background to keep from getting to close. This is exactly what i am dealing with in my current break up. Hope to have $$ soon to do a skype with you.. working on the workbooks as we speak. Continue the good work it really helps.

[@bkekss]

Your insight is genuinely truthful! Thank you kind sir!

[@AzureScorch]

"I wonder how your feelings about the break up would change if I told you tomorrow you would meet a hotter, sweeter, funnier, richer girl[...]" However that's the thing. I fell out with my ex over a year ago. I've met someone better for me. But it hasn't changed anything. I still obsess over my ex. Alternative scenarios play out in my head constantly. I shouldn't still be crying about it today, a year later, in the company of my new partner.

[@CameroneProductions]

0x007fff - No, you shouldn't. Be grateful you have someone at all. Still an empty bed over here 😕 But it says to me that you didn't grieve that last loss properly. And I hate to say it but the only way to do it is to revisit it...in your mind that is. I wish you luck. ¥

[@Hannah-vw8xd]

could it just be your guilt? did you cheat on the ex with the new partner?

[@danapple9000]

A person can grow up with love and security and still feel like they want to just die after a love break up. The solution for me is that I developed a passion for art and painting during my entire life. I can fall back on that when I get hurt so badly. I neglected my art and my own life needs during my love for another person. I couldn't breathe when she left me. During the affair I watched my phone like a crazy person. I lived to see her face pop up with a message or phone call. I am so glad to be over that. I still hurt but it is getting better. You guys can get better too. Just get into yourself and things you love to do that have nothing to do with another person.

[@kirkv2262]

Great video! I just want to forget about her and move on to someone else better .

[@stevenduncan1458]

One of the best videos, of yours, that I have watched so far. Although I do not disagree with the unmet needs from your caregivers I think that it can also come from a past long term relationship. I wish I could afford coaching sessions with you, you would have a field day lol. Keep up the great work I think you are one of the best, most "real" coaches that can be found on KZbin. THANK YOU!

[@hollydrucker9929]

WOW! what insight... you are one smart dude. And i adore Margaret too. Thank you for all the important information.

[@bobbyennis52]

YOU SAVED MY LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I WAS HAVING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS BUT KNOW MORE NOW THANK YOU SO MUCH. YOU ARE GREAT OF WHAT YOU DO11111111

[@beatweezl]

This makes so much sense and makes me feel so much better. Even though she was an amazing and unique woman that will be very hard to replace.

[@rossphillipgerard]

You are the best! Thanks for posting these videos!

[@samchakriya9634]

You helped me a lot, most importantly I understand more about people.

[@sheenegeddes9029]

This is the best explanation I have ever heard. Thank you

[@earthman0x]

"if tomorrow you would meet a hotter, sweeter, funnier, richer, more educated partner. Someone more pleasant to be around, more engaging.. would you be as traumatized?" This hit me! Thanks a lot Coach Craig, you always give enlightenment for someone going through the break up. Still not finish with the workbook, hope I can save enough to get coaching with you soon!

[@bch5758]

I’m imagining that’s who my ex girlfriend thinks she has met ..she ditched me by text after 4 years - without any sign of an issue.. I loved her so much

[@danielreynolds2748]

@@bch5758 we deserve someone who deserves us, and that’s hard for me to say based on the fact that I’m working myself day and night to not think about a girl I thought was the one. I keep trying to remind myself that we deserve to be appreciated, and we truly do.

[@yishihara55527]

@@bch5758 It's a brutal world. Women are biologically programmed to monkeybranch. I know a guy worth around $10M. His wife left him for a guy worth $200M.

[@Natalie-fo9pm]

I broke up with him because he never valued me and disrespected me and my daughter . Never felt important and communication wasn’t happening or if it was he was too scared to become vulnerable and share his feelings. So I in turn filled in the blanks and couldn’t deal with it . I loved him and still do 🙁 but I felt like a broken record and there was no compromise or wanting to grow and be a team . I feel like 💩 panicked because I have an anxious attachment style . I really needed to hear this today . Thank you … I knew there was a reason why I kept leaving though I usually panicked once day 6 or 7 came along .

[@thtboirich_]

Terrific advice coach thanks

[@FreddyGaming]

It's been 1.5 months since she dumped for another guy. Last week we went out on a date, which led to her been pissed off because I didn't drive her home (she fucked a guy 4 days after we broke up). After talking with her I realized that she is a sad person that has problems with her life she started smoking and drinking after our break up. I came to the realization that night that I don't miss "her" as a person but the idea of having a shoulder to lean on in life which I didn't as I was growing up.

[@paulinelarocco3324]

Excellent analogy I can see so clearly now. Everything you said is so the man I was seeing and he keeps coming back. Now just to learn how to say NO ty

[@diandrra1]

I feel relieved now. I wish I can remember this video so that I don't have to go through pain again. A cheater ex does not deserve any sympathy.

[@mariannejane1448]

awesome video, answered a few things for me and helped me a lot. Fantastic!

[@davidnorman2134]

Not that it's any easier but reading the comments let's me know I'm not alone in these raw toxic feelings and emotions. I don't think my x even thinks of me, I have no clue how she could be so heartless, it's beyond my comprehension

[@itsbritneybitch69]

this is hard because me and my ex could not have got on any better, we would laugh till we cried, we both have the same outlook on life we could tell eachother anything we were like best friends but with smoldering attraction and a great sex life always telling eachother how much we loved eachother, im fucking devestated and broken i love him so much but feel he is on the avoidant/emotionally unavailable side

[@nkipmo1154]

Thank you

[@sarai72]

Thank you for doing this video. I'm going through a separation from my husband of 13 1/2 years. He's with his new girlfriend that he was cheating with during our last two months of marriage. My heart is broken and can't believe he did this.

[@anitalennox6525]

This video is really helpful thank you, brilliant!! My partner did just this 2 months ago and I felt exactly like that - worse he was with a young pretty girl weeks after x

[@coleway4318]

this was a very good yarn. I'm subscribing

[@lovemecom3832]

all you can do to that is, just accept the fact that you and the person you love is over, and little by little you will move on. someday you will find your happiness.

[@staceyswope3438]

LoveMe,com How are doing? Have you and your ex reconciled or have you moved on? I’m 2 months post break up and decided to go no contact this week. I was previously reaching out to him on a limited basis, a couple times a week, and he responded, but never initiated. I’ve been focusing on me and improving myself, but I miss him.

[@uaintme6419]

@@staceyswope3438 What happened then stacey?

[@lilneeq]

It's exactly what happened to me.My ex dumped me out of the blue.He says our personalities didn't match (Whatever,that means)I'm sure he'd been plotting it for a while.He said we should remain friends....As if.... Thanks Craig for the advice

[@LaurieGordon]

One of your most insightful videos...and you have many...

[@BenJones1127]

I'm on video 10 out of 82, and I've already learned sooooo much

[@greghernandez54]

This is a very important video!

[@stevenwoods6093]

Your a good man Craig... Thank You for helping us...

[@missmigz6559]

You are so spot on. Thank you for your videos!

[@minaknoell2345]

What a great video Craig ur brilliant thank you so much for all u do for us.

[@android1012]

I LOL'd when you said "I think this girl is absolutely clueless when it comes to consciousness & awareness." That was my ex also. Asleep-at-the-wheel. No concept of what they're doing or why they're doing it. She triangulated as well. There was always some clueless dingbat ex in orbit. I'm onto her game now...though it's too late with her, as the devalue has already initiated. ZERO ability to communicate...just avoid, avoid, avoid. All of this knowledge has armed me with a new awareness though - both about myself and working on my issues, and what to look for in a future partner. Thanks Craig & Margaret :)

[@buttertamayo8829]

I’ll be watching this video again many times!

[@samhill7471]

You are so right. I grew up in a wonderful home but neither of my parents ever said I love you. Not to each other or any of their kids. The words were just never spoken. I married the first man who said it to me. It was an enormous mistake and ended in divorce. My recent boyfriend was the most loving, affectionate person I’ve ever been with. He constantly expressed his love by saying it, writing me poetry, physically, etc. So the breakup was a nightmare. And I’ve been obsessed since. He had met someone else. Someone entirely, 100% opposite me and totally wrong for him (I’m not the only person who thinks this). Holding out hope that he gets bored and tired of this toy soon. He brought her to a mutual event we were at this week. He didn’t introduce her to anyone. She sat in her chair most of the night and didn’t speak to anyone because she’s so shy and introverted. He kept leaving her there to go socialize. I was a social butterfly and at least tried to make it appear that I was having a fabulous time all night. I hope I did the right thing.

[@jillmiller682]

Coach, this is one of your best and I want to say thank you for providing this for us. My question is how do you stop obsessing. I understand it comes from childhood but it's been 3 years and I still obsess

[@ravinakaushal1265]

Felt like u were reading a script, but I still Feel like u made some really good points from a logical perspective. Definitely made me think 💭 thx

[@JoJo-vz5yh]

One of your best videos

[@StGraceofOslo1]

Thank you so much! You were very helpful. May you be blessed.

[@russiandrivers9986]

I thought I had it bad but after listening to these poor guys... man.

[@WatchingPlanesnbirds]

Love these videos!

[@bonniewu1]

Karma is going to give him all the pain he gave me 10 times!

[@agee6679]

I believe in Karma! I hope the Same for my ex!!!

[@freespirit3818]

me too. Hope he gets it back. He broke my heart big time

[@SpicySoulX]

I believe in karma as well. She'll pay for what she made me go through.

[@prestonkinsey3828]

This is going to help so much. Thank you

[@rodrigoquiroz]

This is amazing!

[@jakeking9113]

Ya Craig I really cannot express the relief I actually finely feel After you explained the hotter, funnier, smarter woman theory. I guess I really am just projecting all my sadness and loneliness on my Ex. Heck when I was with her we were pretty unhappy the last year of our relationship anyway. If only I could get rid of these dam anxiety attacks that debilitate me about ten times a day and think clearly again

[@JeDeanT]

Holy crap this was so insightful

[@suncluster]

I am anxious. He was avoidant. Great video

[@KB-hh8rt]

My ex relapsed on meth and left out of the blue so my situation is really different and sucky. But your videos have helped so much, thank you.

[@christopherbullens5494]

this video really helped me in fact all the videos help so much my ex finally reached out by phone after i started watching the video and we talked for five to ten minutes why she was waiting to pick up her kids or so she said i asked her out for dinner she said i can't this week busy hours its not a no so im hoping to get another call thank you for the confidence

[@LG-ly7pw]

Excellent explanation

[@shanemontgomery1358]

Great video! I recently broke up with my boyfriend who I loved so much. He was an active alcoholic and lied and at the least sent sexual text messages to other guys. I could not be with him bc I didn’t like who I became the long I was with him and the more his drinking escalated...I struggle with regret, a fear of being alone, and anger. I’m going to a 12 step group for people to love addicts and it is helping. I still think of him but it’s getting better. However this is great bc I note know why I seem to attract emotionally unavailable people.

[@jbjjbb]

It's the same if a good friend breaks up with you. So many people are mean out of jealousy or fear or insecurity.

[@christophermccarthy9497]

I wish I had more eloquent words to express how much your videos are effecting my life. You are way better than love advice tv. I wish I could meet you in person one day to shake your Damn hand lol. Thanks man for doing this.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Thanks Chris! I wasn’t aware we had competition 😉

[@pennieclinton6567]

I agree with everything u said except I had none of those issues in my childhood but yet this is the first time I cannot get over an ex. In the past I was able to get over everyone in less than two months. Even the father of my son.

[@mymiracle79]

Great video.

[@deedee19791]

My exes need to watch some of these videos 😂 I’m watching them to understand what’s wrong with them..

[@arielny823]

This is a great video. So informative and is exactly what I'm going through. I was in an affair for over a year. She broke up with me and here I am begging her back and acting obsessive. Meanwhile shes not shedding tears cause she has someone and is getting her needs met. This video hit all the points and so accurate. Is there a video on how to overcome this feeling.

[@kimbakotschi]

Hi Craig, can you do a video on how MBTI personality types can effect attachment styles?

[@xtiann442]

Damn.. great channel. So much better than some with views in the 100,000k range

[@BETherealBWA]

Great video

[@drew5884]

13:20 damn, he unleashed the biggest truth bomb I needed to hear. Thank you for that, wow.

[@nejibyakugankyo]

I wanna say I definitely have some attachment trauma.😀. I cried so hard when I had to think about the unmet needs that were met by him

[@marylongoria35]

A beakthrough for me...Thank you!!

[@QuasarFatale]

I subscribed over this video.

[@j.p.4658]

Hi, coach! I want to ask you a question. What type of attachment style is the most appropriate our partner to be, if we are with an anxious attachment style? I guess the healthy type is the best option. If our partner is with anxious attachment style will the relationship be healthy?

[@cinderellacrystal9491]

Amazing n very helpful

[@yvngkevv9146]

Your at your job keep doing it

[@doglover4195]

Great Video! This taught me a few things. I made the biggest mistake of my life breaking up with my ex boyfriend. Now he's been married to a Philippine girl for 4 years. If he gets divorced I Pray he will give me another chance!! 💔

[@paultriggs7967]

Wouldn't think this would help...I'm on sleeping tablets...anxiety tablets...I've lost 13kg in 3 weeks...I've been visiting her after 6 days nc...doing the same things as we were together...holding hands..kissing...cuddles....sex....when I get home...nothing...this video really helped

[@earthman0x]

Does “no contact” also works for an ex with secure attachment style? They have an easy time to form connection so it could be difficult to get them back?