I Cancelled Valentine's Day Dinner With My Husband Then Lied About Why I Did It r/Relationships

[@poohbear4515]

Boyfriend in the second story, is incredibly weak. I’ve heard of this recently, and he even created his own page explaining why he won’t say “no” to stalker and allow anyone around him to hate him for it. Which was so pathetic. He wants to people feel sorry for him for not having a life while caring for his very mental “friend”, even tried to gain sympathy for the “friend”, but in reality, people just tell him how spineless, worthless, inconsiderate, and sometimes selfish he is for not seeing the massive issue he’s allowing. So I highly, HIGHLY doubt he’ll never have a normal life with friends and a lover if he doesn’t stop his enabling, and stop seeing stalker for good. In my honesty, good riddance to him and let stalker have her boy-toy all to herself.

[@a.a131]

So... The context is that the stalk is for sure kind of a egotistical narcissist and wants him for herself and the ex has fallen for it

[@D-me-dream-smp]

This sounds very much like a co-dependant relationship by two very immature and mentally unhealthy people. Ironically he also isn’t even “helping” her by enabling such toxic, manipulative destructive behaviour and supporting her delusions. Im gonna make an armchair psychologist suggestion that he is deeply insecure and having a friend who “needs” him so much and is so unstable makes him feel better about himself and allows him to ignore his own deficiencies.

[@vivifoxysdaughterandchild544]

I feel like Op in the first story should do something about her friend. It feels like she's jealous of Op and thus is trying to tear her down because of it. Idk I just feel like Op should keep an eye out. At best, it's all just a misunderstanding and the friend is unaware of how much she's hurting Op. At worst, she wants to take what Op has and is using her post partum depression to her advantage so the marriage would fall apart.

[@silverstarmoon5802]

I agree with u and the moment when friend is mentioned, I knew immediately that friend isn't good and probably gonna be homewrecker.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

My thoughts exactly. The husband seems to at least be trying to be helpful and sweet and say what he thinks his wife wants to hear but the friend just sucks and is obviously trying to like get the husband or something or at least tear her friend down to feel better. They need to throw her out the window

[@sandyberger-r9j]

BIL once had a girlfriend who was diagnosed with BPD. Same level of insanity- threats of harming herself and crazy mood swings, like one minute we’re all talking and having a good time, next minute she storms out of the restaurant, crying and raging for no obvious reason at all. It was sad, she seemed to be a nice person, but it was impossible to get along with her because I never found out what her triggers were.

[@SkyEcho751]

Story 1: PPD is a monster when you actually hear it from the horse's mouth. Glad the husband was a good spouse.(Edit: Also, friend is 100% trying to get with husband, I remember previous posts where a girl would act like this solely to get the attention of someone they liked who was already married.) Story 2: That guy has some kind of hero complex, well it's that, or he has been gaslit to hell and back. Either way OP did good, she knows her worth and didn't stick around a toxic relationship.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Story 1 PPD is definitely horrific but one of the most challenging parts is how insidious and all consuming it can be. I suffered from it for almost 2 years but unfortunately it took a year before I managed to get treatment. It was so hard to figure out what was “normal” post partum challenges (overwhelming tiredness, huge adjustment in lifestyle and routine, financial pressures, inexperience and the realisation you are suddenly totally responsible for another human life). People often don’t realise how influential hormones are on our mental state. The big advice I can give is if you are a support/close person to a new mother who appears to be struggling please please take real practical steps to assist them getting professional help but ensure it iis done in a gentle, kind, compassionate manner since any type of judgemental comments or guilt tactics will be harmful (ie think about how lucky you are having two healthy babies, you need to appreciate what you have etc). When you are in that fog you don’t tend to have the energy or headspace to navigate getting mental health support. Research what counselling or support groups are in the area, offer to take or go with them, actively LISTEN to them - learning how to genuinely listen to someone in an empathetic way is an excellent skill anyway doesn’t come naturally.

[@despinasgarden.4100]

Story 1: I'm happy OP talked to her husband about her insecurities and i hope they live a happy life with their twins! OP should still ditch the friend tough or at least keep a eye of her.

[@Mglay556]

Wow, that first story made me really take a step back about how I talk about myself. I felt so terrible for OP how she talked to herself and can’t just trust that her partner thinks she’s beautiful and wants to have a happy, safe life with her. I feel like a lot of people talk about ourselves like this but the self monologue doesn’t hit us as hard. When you hear someone talk about themselves like this is so sad. Op is an asshole but a soft one. Plus OPs friend is a total asshole and Op should kick them to the curb.

[@Suguri]

I am also in love with first OP's husband. What a great dude! I'm glad they were able to work it out; they both sounded like really nice people that were good for each other.

[@Ospyro3em]

The sad thing about story 2 is that the now ex-bf posted separately on Reddit asking advice because his friend relied on him too much and it was ruining his relationships and friendships. All the commenters warned him he can't help this girl and that she's effectively isolating and trapping him, and that he needs to just run and be stern with her, but he wouldn't listen. He just kept replying to the effect of "Yeah, but she needs me". The guy seems beyond help.

[@Muzdat]

Its funny how he asked for advice but doesn’t even acknowledge the advice that hes been given lol

[@vanzy01]

@@Muzdat if he responded to the advice he would actually have to do work and work is hard.

[@thalitha3554]

The ex-bf Made also a post why everyone is leaving him

[@vampiredaddy2096]

@@thalitha3554 what’s the Reddit username

[@yandereskitty]

Talk to a counsellor. It's not good to let it get in your head, you will just get worse and feel even more miserable. But lying is never the way. So soft yta. Also , let go of that one friend. She does not care for you and its clear she's digging your husband. Find a better friend.

[@potatoempress5731]

Story 1 OP's friend is awful. She should drop her. Those comments about how handsome OP's husband is PR0JECTI0N.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

People might comment how sexy or hot their friend's date is the first time they are seen together and perhaps a few times after that but when a solid relationship has been established, then the comments need to be scaled back big time. You can still make comments when the need arises like a special dress-up occasion but then the words need to change to more congenial or neutral phrases like "your wife looks very lovely tonight in her formal dress" or "your husband looks very handsome or dapper in that tuxedo". You can still use adjectives like handsome, lovely, dapper, elegant, etc but you need to tie them into something (like their clothing), so you don't come off as creepy or flirting (hitting) on them. Also, even congenial comments like that can be too much if overused or abused. Like you tell your friend how attractive their date is repeatedly over the course of the night. However, you can point out and say a couple together on the dance floor is "burning it up" or look very sexy out there dancing as long as your statement includes both of them and you describe the verb or adjective as to why they both look that way. It is never wise to single out someone's date and say something like, "she is so hot I want to lick her like a postage stamp". That will usually get you into trouble lol.

[@guybot360]

Story 1: ive seen women nuke their own marriages because of stuff like this. Postpartum stuff is really tough, but pushing past that fog is crucial. All it takes is saying one thing you cant take back.

[@lilfairykiki122]

I feel bad for op, BUT it gets frustrating when someone is hanging around someone so obviously terrible and not seeming to grasp how that person is awful and needs to go. The friend told her her kids would ruin her life basically, why wouldn’t you realize she’s a nasty human who’s just trying to hurt feelings and kick her to the curb straight away?

[@ChaoticNalilitoMC]

The ex boyfriend has also been posting on reddit asking for advice and he basically admitted he feels bad for her and "responsible" for her because of her bad mental health.

[@Mystic-mountains]

That last story hit close to home when me and my bf first starting dating his girl best friends got super possessive at first I just ignored it as her wanting to make sure he wasn’t with the wrong person. Eventually she got so clingy it was obvious that she wanted him. I told him it’s either her or me and pointed out everything she was doing. Thank god he was smart enough to see she was crazy and break off that friendship.

[@thanos8077]

Story 2: Igaf about whatever issues the stalker has her behavior towards Op and her ex is not acceptable and the bf is an enabler

[@jakeking3859]

I actually heard the other side a few days ago from another Reddit channel, and it turns out that girl, the stalker, is emotionally abusive, saying shell kill herself if the ex ever cuts her off or sets any boundaries, and it was really upsetting to see so many people in the comment section of his post saying that he was spineless to not get out from under her. He truly felt powerless, and I know, from being in that place, just how much it distorts your reality. They make you see things from their point of view and reject anything else, to the point you don't even believe you're seeing or thinking what you're seeing and thinking. It's just a fucked up situation all around for him, it turns out, and all of his doors turned to guillotines

[@Resilient_Sage88]

It's kinda sad though because this level of enmeshment is unhealthy for both of them. He can't get her help outside of maybe talking to some of her family members or maybe a Counselor for him too so he can safely disengage without feeling responsible due to her emotional manipulation.

[@MrJpaynebb]

@@jakeking3859 I saw that as well. He's an enabler and he's also being emotionally abused and manipulated by his friend. Until he actually stands up for himself there's nothing OP or his former friends can do for him. It sucks but only he can break this cycle. Next time that stalker threatens suicide he needs to call the police or emergency number for a welfare check. Doing so will end their relationship but he will never have another romantic relationship or any other friendships as long as his stalker friend is in his life. He can't save her while drowning himself.

[@despinasgarden.4100]

@@MrJpaynebb i feel really had for him, he was an asshole to his ex, friends and is an enabler, but i pitty him. I hope he can eventualy break free of that awfull frienship.

[@anymous8407]

@@MrJpaynebb what channel is it on

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 1- the friend sounds super toxic! Op sounds like she has PPD.

[@pansprayers]

'I don't think the hormones last that long'. Umm. Yes, yes they do - they can (and DO) last two years. Yay crappy OB/GYN client education. It took nine months to make those babies, and it's going to take at least that long, if not longer to get your brain (that's been proven to shrink durning pregnancy) back to normal, and your body certainly - contrary to popular perception - needs time, too. You need better medical education and someone who can give you better ways to communicate. And ditch the 'friend'.

[@jaycooper2812]

Story 2, I bet the next thing we hear is a news report about the stalker chick killing him or someone else in a "If I can't have him no-one will." situation. I've seen it before.

[@starbird3939]

Story 2 - One of the other readera found the story from the BOYFRIEND’S point of view and woooooooooow does that friend have the boyfriend wrapped her finger. He has savior complex

[@anymous8407]

Weres it on

[@WyntheRogue]

@@anymous8407 lost genre and mark narrations, would reccomend.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Unpopular opinion, but I honestly feel sort of bad about the ex. He’s being hardcore manipulated by this woman, even going as far as threatening to kill herself because he’s forming connections outside of her. He’s essentially stuck in an abusive relationship that he can’t escape from because if he does the stalker would do something drastic and he’d be left with feelings of guilt and accountability. It’s easy to say that he should just cut off the friendship or think he’s a doormat for keeping her around but it’s usually a very difficult process to leave a toxic relationship.

[@wheelsndealz]

Yeah, all I could think about is if the roles were reversed. This screams abusive relationship but all they can do is rag on him.

[@emilybarclay8831]

@@wheelsndealz regardless of how much we’ve progressed people still don’t believe men can be victims of abuse at the hands of a woman. Johnny Depp is proof of that

[@asherikamichaela8425]

Yeah, agreed... 😕 Dude needs therapy himself to figure why tf he's so attached to stalker chick. And now he's cut off from the whole friend group as well... This isn't gonna end well for him unless someone helps him out of this hole. He's just in too deep.

[@ChaoticNalilitoMC]

@@asherikamichaela8425 considering his reactions to his own reddit posts asking for help tegarding the stalker friend, it's going to be a LONG road for him because she's got her claws in him deep

[@asherikamichaela8425]

@@ChaoticNalilitoMC Very true, sadly.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story one, dump that “ friend” , you are pushing your sweet husband away. I know it hard but get some therapy. Your body issues are yours not his. Stop taking it out on him. Get some therapy and some help dealing with your issues. It’s very good to get help.

[@carolroberts4614]

I had a toddler and was expecting agsin, and we had a 'friend' like that! Unfortunately my ex fell for it, while I was poorly while pregnant and grieving over losing my mum. Ending in a long-running affair.

[@streamerssaymyname]

@@carolroberts4614 your friend was only successful because of the shortcomings of your ex, good men don't cheat and he already had something wrong with him that he kept hidden from you until he was exposed.

[@carolroberts4614]

Oh yes, he was a serial cheat, and not just to me, but she was as well before she was even with him! It was a mess! Many years ago now, and my toddlers-at-the-time are now grandmothers, and everyone is doing amazingly!

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 2: LOL! Seeing OP's conkwocket of an ex wallow in misery is giving me life.

[@boneymeroney2674]

This morning. I walk in the room looking like my usual bag of sad ass. My Partner in Household Crimes loudly says..... You are the most beautiful woman in the world... blah blah blah. I say maybe the most beautiful in YOUR world... We then get into a teasing argument about no... the whole world. BTW a bag of ass means, hair up no makeup mismatched oversized clothes... Yes he thinks I am beautiful. I think he is a hottie and handsome. This is perfect! We aren't blind just blind in love. We're in our 60's.

[@vampbites89]

I had a friend who was afraid to leave her relationship with her incredibly insecure/submissive partner because my friend was afraid gf would end herself. I had another that stayed in an abusive relationship for ten years because he didn’t think anyone else could love him. I think op should have tried to get ex to go to therapy or something because it is clear to me that he has been setting himself on fire to keep het warm so long he can no longer feel the pain.

[@mako_toons]

story 2 has an update on the BF side, it's not better than anything that already happened, he claimed he felt responsible but didn't want to react in case stalkgirl went beserk on him

[@carolroberts4614]

Then he's stuck with her for life!

[@jaycooper2812]

My SO was insecure about her body after the kids were born and it took me a long while to convince her that to me she is the most beautiful person in the world to me. Having my children makes her even more beautiful to me because she just performed the biggest miracle by giving me the gift of children.

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 1, ditch this "friend". She's absolutely wretched, and you deserve so much better. And for god's sake, stop treating your husband badly because of the heartless third party making YOU feel awful.

[@wolfwhistlewoowoo6297]

Markee: thank you for being such a joy to listen to! Thank you for your kindness and thoughtful opinion and thank you for being respectful of the Redditors and your listeners alike.

[@kevinspacey5325]

Woman - "omg i feel ugly and i feel like he doesn't love me anymore" Guy - "Ok. . . chores done check, Kids taken care of check, made dinner for everyone check, cool we're all set for valentines day dinner tomorrow!" Woman - "I know what I should do instead of questioning my anxious thoughts and disproving them with facts, lets blow everything to hell. . . . yeah that'll work" Guy - "wtf is wrong with you?" Woman - "SEE I KNEW HE DOESN"T LOVE ME ANYMORE!!!!!!!!" Anxious thoughts lead to anxious actions that cause bad reactions. It's a self sustaining loop that has to be broken.

[@WyntheRogue]

PPD sucks to my understanding, the hormones linger and lead to super intrusive thoughts and anxiety like nobody's business. Doesn't help OP's "friend" is giving off questionable "pick me,I'm not boring" vibes towards her hubby,though good one on said hubs for staying loyal,him and OP deserve to be happy.

[@rebel1612]

@@WyntheRogue I struggled with PPD for almost a year after giving birth to our second child.

[@streamerssaymyname]

@@WyntheRogue hubs staying loyal is the bare minimum though. That is a bar every man should be able to meet.

[@lilywong9672]

Her "friend" wants to steal her husband. Cut her off.

[@faithgonce8712]

Why does every single awful person in recent stories have BPD and try to use it as an excuse??? I have BPD and I can confidently say I have never done these crazy things. Sure I've done some odd stuff before getting help but never to the point of anything close to these stories. It is truly no excuse and gives people who are diagnosed with BPD a bad reputation.

[@jerriewyatt905]

Story 1..OP should talk to her husband and tell him exactly how she feels insecure and get therapy if it causes issues.. don’t push hubby away because of the insecurities..I’m glad they worked it out .. ditch the “friend..”

[@TraceyBoyland]

Lady get some help fast please. You're in your own head big time.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Marriages and relationships have been ruined millions of times for reasons such as this. At least communicate and talk with the husband. Otherwise, the husband will start to pull away because he feels he is responsible for her statements or cold actions. More than likely, this is a problem created by the OP of a non-problem due to an A-hole intruding friend who is either simply wrong or doing it on purpose to cause the OP and her husband drama. After you have kids, boring can be a good thing. When my wife and I had triplets I gave up many of my "hobbies" that were a bit dangerous and my wife felt bad and thought she "pressured" me into giving them up and thought I would be bored if I wasn't skydiving, scuba diving, dirt bike racing, or rock climbing all the time lol. But I gladly gave up or massively scaled back those activities because I was more than happy to "settle down" with my 3 girls and my wife and become, as she put it, boring lol. I called it being a responsible dad. Besides, how many "old" rock/mountain climbers do you see in the world??? Not many and there is a reason for that, either they physically can't do it safely anymore ORRRRRRRR they made a critical error and died. Being a responsible dad seemed like the better option. Plus now, I can get life insurance on myself finally lol.

[@aprilwycherley]

Her friend is TA…her body may not be perfect, not no body is. Her body just created 2 new lives! The stretch marks are there to show what her body went through!!! Celebrate them!

[@shells500tutubo]

Story 1- OP's "friend" is so jealous it is dripping off of her! She first tries to belittle OP, talks about how attractive the husband is, and then, in front of the husband, talks about how boring things must be. To his wonderful credit he tells her in so many words that his boring life is perfect, every bit of it. OP, kick this "friend" to the curb.

[@littlepip4014]

If you have to keep an eye on a “friend”, they aren’t really someone you should keep around.

[@KH-tx6lg]

I believe that when you love someone you don't see them with your eyes but with your heart. It doesn't matter what you look like because you will always be seen by their heart ❤😍

[@Detector1977]

s1: husband has given op NO reason to treat him like crap.

[@Nope148]

Sheesh, the ex in the second situation is setting himself up to stick it in crazy. PSA: Do NOT stick it in crazy.

[@darecrise]

The thing I am hung up on he said there is a reason he chooses the friend over her. In my interpretation it meant he saw a problem with op but from the update it's clear it's the boyfriend and friend that are crazy but still the wording just gave me a different impression.

[@RylieRiddle]

On another reddit channel, the boyfriend makes a post about his side of the whole thing. He has a savior complex with the stalker friend. He has been the person she runs to when her issues get bad and he's now used to dropping everything for her. He feels as if he doesn't, she will follow through with her self harm threats. He knows she probably won't, it's for his attention but he's used to doing so he won't stop.

[@wolfwhistlewoowoo6297]

Story 1. "I JUST CAN'T GET PAST MY THOUGHTS." Yes, that is the exact cause and the solution - you are causing all of this turmoil in your own mind. You are hyper focusing on your own insecurities and ruining your life by allowing others to negatively impact your marriage. Trust your hubby and be the woman that he loves - honestly, a good man is such a gem and he is showing you that he is invested and that he loves you and your children ♡♡♡.

[@jauneork278]

Story 1. He needs to prove he's attracted to her? Like.... By trying to take her on a date she'll refuse to go on with him? How tf is he supposed to prove it if he'll automatically be suspected of lying. It's the same as people who can't accept that their partner isn't cheating despite practical proof smacking their face.

[@casualcausalityy]

She's sabotaging her marriage to a good man. This may become a lifelong regret

[@thorgrootsweetrabbit2244]

The hell of it all is if ex does at some point get together with stalker girl (sounds like a super villain hahaha) she'll probably flip and cheat on him while maintaining their psycho bond.

[@Symos]

Stalker story, apparently the ex bf posted on relationship advice and everyone told him to ditch the stalker. He still refused

[@markedwards3647]

BPD is not something that one gets over. While one, with a therapist, can have a usually healthy relationship with someone with this disorder, they need to maintain a relationship with a therapist for life.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 2: "She's his safety blanket." Really? Because it sounds more like he is hers.

[@foxbuns]

she needs some serious therapy.

[@nads3024]

I wonder how close the friend is to OP and how often they hang out? Often times, the smallest of comments can effect the way we feel about things, especially coming from someone who’s opinion we value. If OP regularly meets up with the friend, I could believe that the friend has been steadily pouring poison in her ear with small comments that would be innocently playful if pointed out but would gradually wear OP’s mental state down. The birth and post partum depression might have been just the opening she needed to try and drive a wedge between OP and her husband.

[@edgardo8971]

Story 2- some people love this kind of drama and attention. The more drama the more they thrive. They are both toxic and feed off each other.

[@sadunicorn3863]

Story 2: The Boyfriend wrote his side of this story on Reddit! Everyone still agreed that he was the AH and had a saviour complex! It was so wild and I hope Markee finds it!

[@driversuz44]

Story 1: YTA. If OP wants to shove her husband into the arms of her predatory "friend," she sure is off to a good start. Yeah, I get her feelings - all new mothers have been there. And that's the point. She's not special, and she's not entitled to make everyone around her miserable due to her whacked hormones. She needs to grow up and deal with it. She has a problem and she even knows what it is. She knows she's out of line, and she's being a coward about having her husband tell her he knows too. Step one - apologize to her husband SINCERELY, with no excuses. Yes the hormones are real, but she chooses every word she speaks. Grownups are capable of not speaking every irrational thought which flits through their heads. Step two - lose the friend because she is absolutely NOT a friend. Step three - call the doctor and address the PP issues - therapy, exercise, change of diet, whatever it takes. Might be a slow process but it sounds like her husband is on her team. Step four - learn to take responsibility for her own happiness. She is certainly entitled to emotional support from her husband, but she doesn't get to make it his job to "cure" her insecurities. And BTW "boring" and happy (as compared to the so-called thrills of single life) is the best way to be while raising a family. Because to you, IT'S NOT BORING, it's deeply rewarding. Nobody loves your family like you do. Others might see the shared love, but they're not part of it; they're not basking in it. To many of them, it sure is going to appear less interesting than glamourous parties and romantic weekend getaways.

[@nightdweller6446]

1st minor TA but dump that so-called friend. Hubby stated he's happy with "boring, happy and have babies" He doesn't notice anything different, communicate and therapy to get op sorted out. Go on the dates and talk.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

Second story. The ex apparently posted right before the ex posted on a different sub reddit about the situation giving more detail to his side of the situation. Stalker does have bpd and he didn't seem to get thst he was enabling her and he needed to cut her off already.

[@carmen4479]

Story 1: yta. It is not your partner's job to give you value. He is showing you what he feels and you are ignoring it because your precious feelings are bruised. You need therapy.

[@jaycooper2812]

Op needs to dump the friend. After my twins were born I had to fend off several of my significant other's called friends trying to get me into bed with them. I made sure that I took over as much of the child care as I could so that she could recover from the emergency c-section. She didn't change a diaper for the first 3 weeks and the only thing I couldn't do is breastfeed as I'm a guy.

[@shilohord6591]

First story: I'm nearly 2 years out from having my youngest (my third) and my hormones still aren't back to normal yet. So yes, you can be out of whack for a while.

[@TaterKakez]

Honestly, OP’s bf in the last story sounds like he needs professional help. He tolerates so much, thats not normal or sane either…

[@teneil31]

Op1 ditch your friend she's trying to still your husband open your eyes you have a good 👍💯 loving husband

[@frazzledhaloz3184]

First story: Therapy

[@catherinetiernan5888]

I don't care what you read or see in the tabloids about someone who had a baby yesterday and are looking like they were never pregnant the following day at some Gala. It takes 2 years for your body to recover after the birth of a baby. Sure some mums can get their figures back in a few weeks but that is not the norm. Stop giving you and your husband a hard time.

[@cnow82]

The stalker story. I guess her ex posted about how his friend keeps ruining his relationships with everyone. And that he doesn’t really like her anymore but thinks he’s supposed to take care of her.

[@TheRuneTail]

Funny thing Mark Narrations covered this also I believe including his "side" of the story

[@Yusei1Fudo]

Second story, Mark Narrations posted the story with the update from the ex bf as well.

[@rangeraero]

Story 2: the (ex)boyfriend says he feels responsible for stalker-girl? But, why though? Why does he feel responsible for her?

[@robyncrytes]

Fun little timbit, the ex-bf from the last post also posted but I think it was on relationships/advice

[@debc6260]

Somewhere is 2nd OPs ex bf's story.

[@DemonAngel]

S1 reminds me of a story were the OP (guy) was working and they just had a baby. Well wife/gf had a friend that was whispering in her ear about him working late and was cheating and was around the wife/gf all the time. I call people like that "earwigs". Nasty looking bugs that will bite you. PPD is a scary thing and the human body/soul/ emotions are such a weird thing.

[@johnkendall6962]

I don't remember if I told her after all it was more than 40 years ago but I thought my wife was absolutely beautiful when she was pregnant and afterward and I bet most guys are just like I am about it. I never understood guys who didn't like her body or used the excuse about no sex for a little bit of time to cheat. What women don't seem to get is even 50 years later if we love you we still see you as that beautiful woman we married all those years ago.

[@gaywerewolf1294]

Honestly? Everyone around the bf sounds toxic to certain degrees, especially the 'friends'. It very much sounds like no one even attempted to help him in any way possible beyond maybe saying "she's toxic, get rid of her". And to further prove that, they knew about all of that shit they told OP. And OP sounds like she left the bf to set boundaries by himself against the stalker/abuser's behaviour (bc let's be honest, she is an abuser with stalker behaviour) knowing full well her behaviour. That's some love OP had. And I am BY FAAAAAAAR not excusing the abuser's actions, she's by far the shittiest of them all.

[@aaronmedley7606]

Girls okay little advice most men if we love you deeply we don't really see changes we love you and see you as the person we first met so to us you are beautiful from the first to last day together and when we say boring and happy it means we are happy with the relationship we don't need constant excitement we just need you and your love

[@rachelm2657]

Hormones last well after birth. If breastfeeding the whole time. There is a reason it takes sometimes a year to get your period back.

[@jazzamethyst8225]

Post partum hormones and the issues that come with it occur for 2 years roughly after birth.

[@haventhehedgehog]

In story 1 with the wife talking about the Reddit story the husband in the story no longer found his wife attractive. I know Markee read it, but I can't find the video. Was there an update on it?

[@thetableofelements4472]

Story 2 Let's take this at face value and change the genders and say that the friend is a boy and the boyfriend is a girl. See the problem? Sounds like an abusive relationship don't it? Oh sorry, I forgot, men can't experience this. 😅

[@taurus3alexis]

1 min in and I’m debating about turning it of because of how she described herself. Just pew

[@mgaus]

You lied to your husband. YTA

[@lauriehallberg5807]

Iam a nurse.post partum healing can last 18-24 months

[@Restrictedeightteen]

Bro he likes the attention, he clearly thrieves off of it. Probably enjoyed having the tension between you two too.

[@n.a.nameless5435]

#2 Continue to walk.

[@michaelmorris8302]

Did the friend actually say that or was that what she said in the first story. She seems like a problem waiting to happen

[@cuteizombi6946]

Yta but a very soft yta because that sucks I'm glad she was able to talk with him about her insecurities I'd say it's time to ditch the friend though so yta but a very soft one also I think it's time to get off the internet for a bit that might be adding to the insecurities that she already has after viewing something like that you might take it to heart no matter how much you don't want to

[@brandytzu2747]

Boiler bunny chick alert!

[@HM-rw7ly]

Wow I’m really early hiii 👋👋

[@AmyRuby]

Oooooh markee…. While I normally love your content, you are way off base here. Pregnancy and childbirth is like tnt to a relationship you have to go to the brink and back. I hated my body, I didn’t want to have sex really at all for a year because of it. It’s mentally taxing to be off work and doing nothing but feeding babies and changing diapers. It’s bad enough with only one, let alone two. Men don’t understand because their bodies don’t fundamentally change to birth this thing that they love so much. Men get to go on with a (mostly) normal day of work and wonder why their wives are emotionally and physically drained when they stay at home. For some B to come into her house and undermind her like that when she already feels like shit definitely makes her just want to curl up and die does not make her an asshole. no assholes here but she absolutely needs therapy

[@davidlionheart2438]

Story 1 - "I've never wanted to be the insecure, jealous, boring wife because I am not".......................But you are, Porkarella, you are.

[@aaronmedley7606]

S2.has multiple updates and the bf did post as well as one of his friends

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Story 2: the ex-boyfriend is a total doormat and a shithead. *Change. My. Mind.*