I counted the many times he infected me with STIs yet I'd been faithful a wife. I chose to leave him

Wanjiku is trying to pick up her pieces after walking out of her 2nd marriage. So far, she says that she no longer takes her ant-depressant drugs. She has finally found peace. She no longer worries about what time he will come home or worry that she may be suffering from yet another infection.....
Here is her story from a woman who has tried marriage twice...

[@MethayaKagoni]

Thank you Wanjiku for being so bold and telling your story. We celebrate for speaking out. May women who are in abusive relationships, be inspired by your story. Promote Wanjiku by giving her a chance to dress you. Call her via this number: 0748752314

[@malaika4158]

most women we going through this !

[@Maureen463]

It would be better if there are English subtitles for your foreign viewers

[@kkm2102]

A number of lessons here for ladies who are getting married (1) Have enough time of courtship before you agree to marriage (2) when you are in a relationship, watch out for red flags (3) never abandon your career even when you get married, (4) always have a secret bank account which you should never reveal to him come rain come sunshine. I am a man and I can tell men can be tricky. If you are a learned woman why would you sacrifice your dignity for marriage? Never ever worry about public opinion. When you suffer, it's not them who suffer, it's you. Even if you have 5 children, get out of that marriage very fast and let God take care of the rest.

[@jjjoan100]

You have a special place in heaven. Thank you.

[@mercyk2672]

Thats good advice. When I got married, me and him had separate bank accounts. We shared bills but never comingled our finances. When we divorced, I didn't suffer at all and I'm actually thriving. I didn't give up my well paying job since he couldn't afford to take care of us. He was financially irresponsible

[@judy_lesta]

Thank you so much Kenneth

[@wambuinderitu2461]

Wow😊 very good advice kenn thank you for enlightening us especially us under 25 yrs...we are now wise❤

[@annemaina2996]

You have a special place in heaven aki

[@Lydia-ev6jr]

I know this lady,,,pole carol.strong woman,may the lord jesus Christ meet your needs.

[@elizabethwaitherawangari5044]

Behind every down fall of a woman there’s a narcissist

[@susankomu8978]

Very true

[@mamakeshi7285]

💯💯💯💯

[@margretmuchiri249]

Very true

[@Njeri9753]

,🤣🤣🤣ma ya Ngai

[@kyliekayla1853]

100%

[@florencegachukia5641]

This lady is beautiful and humble, soft spoken kwani what do men like? Pole my sister take care of your family our heavenly father is now the father of your children and they'll never lack. Continue working hard and smart.

[@ednahchirchir1924]

Got the wrong person

[@annmwariri3059]

Sometimes we complain when we're dumped after being pregnant unalia, tunajichukia we get scared of being discussed and being called single mother's and not knowing that mungu alituzuia kupitia alot of pain, abuse, being cheated on and so many more ......9yrs down the line after being dumped, we struggle, we suffer, we go through alot kulea watoto lkn siku ya mungu na baraka zake zikikufikia ooh my good lord ...you sit down unaangalia maisha ya mwenye alikudump unasema thankyou jesus 🥰🥰.

[@agneswanjau559]

Carol you have perfect Kikuyu. No English mixing. You are beautiful and composed, except in the illness of ur baby which is expected. May God give you the desires of your heart dear.

[@Hukufrance1563]

Yeah she is very composed.

[@muthoni987]

This is a strong woman coz she has rescued herself twice. She will go far. Keep on keeping Carol!

[@lucymaina2869]

The biggest lesson is that anyone who claims to love you must have your interest at heart .This means supporting your course , adding to your life ,not destroying it.The minute that stops,walk away.Applies to both men and women.

[@khathywambui5776]

another lesson ladies should learn...priotise your financial freedom and power and independence,dont shelve ambitions,careers,leave employment,close that shop,put education on hold for marriage....this marks the beginning of misery in your life,no man will play around with an independent woman...you are a beautiful lady,focus on yourself and your kids..tigana na arume.

[@Elsamuigai9620]

Thanks kagoni. my marriage failed 2yrs ago and I'm learning so many things from this platform. now I'm a strong lady.

[@annmumbiz62]

Pesa ni Shetaaini.. So many married women are suffering in silence but can't move out asiitwe Single Mother kama sisi... I made my decision ya kutoka 10 years ago. NO REGRETS.. I had alcelrs but not anymore.. Mr. Right saii ako na 4th Wife.. Narssist kills u in silence🤐, , nlifake nko happy but mtu uchoka

[@judy_lesta]

Jesu ni mwathani ma

[@ruthwaweru1284]

Ann.marriage is good when u have the right person but for now let me keep it low

[@janewanjiru2410]

Why would anyone trade such a beautiful woman with anyone else surely

[@naomikiambu7721]

In

[@annnthenya2468]

Av u never noticed the most beautiful are the one Single??

[@kaarinyagambaluka6420]

I too discharged myself by force. Premature babies can be very stressful to the mother. I went thro a lot of stress. But I thank God for my son cause today he is a father.

[@wawerusarah251]

Pls stop lying to young girls aty aki commmit kwa church(wedding) na kutoa dowry uvumilie juu ata jirudia . No. Commitment or no commitment. Dowry or no dowry. Wedding or no wedding . Mtu mbaya ni mbaya. Mzuri ni mzuri

[@ednakithinji8704]

Carol it never the end, keep walking you will go far. Cheers beautiful gal

[@carolinemuthee1322]

This is what i went through infections madharau it was hard very very painful bt God gave me strength i moved out n never looked back sought medication now am happy stress free i sleep till morning bila kuamshwa i even gained weight

[@carlicemoore4797]

This woman is strong... I love her.. God bless you Carol

[@susanwambui41]

Thank you Monica for this story,, I went through the same for 3years and it was so traumatised. It affected my life until now..I hope young ladies would learn from the story.

[@liznyaga3918]

Sorry for what you went through. Please consider counselling, it will help with the trauma.

[@njerijanet4216]

This lady is very bold shes destined for greatness marriage is not a death sentence dont stay in abusive marriages

[@wakiurujames8509]

Such a sad case… but also a peaceful ending despite all struggles! Very strong l lady still standing strong after such a turmoil relationships.. May God bless you and expand your territories Monica thanks for such an inspiring educative narration🇬🇧

[@emilynjoroge3195]

You are a bold woman carol.Thank you for sharing your story,

[@janenjerikaringe6502]

The why are you single has taught me a lot interms of the mistakes young women make before entering marriage. They are eye opening and educativ. Keep up the good work.

[@teresiamaina9573]

Aki

[@lynnmwende7548]

We learned the hard way, let the youth learn from our stories( know exactly what you want in life and make the right decisions.

[@wambuinderitu2461]

Carol is very beautiful ❤️..what i have learnt is that when you are intending to get married is to follow the right procedures to be legally married, knowing your purpose and always loving yourself everyday ❤... thanks monicah for the stories you bring us😊

[@dansonmaina.]

Same thing I thought!

[@saimomaina]

on point ☝️

[@Utadowot]

Following the right procedures for marriage is not enough. People change everyday. You can marry a saint and sleep with a monster that same night! Always know when to walk out and make it final

[@cheupecheupe7865]

This is my girl,sorry to learn what you went through.He was controlling and never supportive of any business idea that you brought home . Being Single and Happy is immeasurable.

[@uniquecritical7628]

Women in Africa keeps on committing the same mistakes. Most men in Africa are from broken families or polygamous families, how on earth would you expect them to love you while themselves don't know what is love? 🤔

[@babieakawanga9127]

Very true

[@carolkami.671]

Precisely 💯

[@judy_lesta]

True 💯

[@Elsamuigai9620]

Very true, tumenyaga uguo turî acerere ma

[@Emmahkibota]

Wangu Ako Ivo but thru prayers tuko strong

[@samsonngengi3942]

So sorry for this carlo.Thank God that you have managed to gather yourself and rebuild your life again. marriage should be entered into prayerfully, advisebly and with fear of God.we are all naked before God and seeking Him through can help us evade problems in marriage. If we find ourselves in abusive relationship its better to quit than be killed or live in depression. To those planning for marriage its important to seek counsel from genuine servants of God and parents and pray through because it can ruin entire life

[@sarahjoyce7356]

Great lesson may God bless you and your children.May you never lack 🙏🏾

[@victormaina9343]

Some men will never see heaven. Pole sana whatever you went through in the hands of that beast. You deserve the best cute 🥰🥰

[@winniemathu3168]

Narcissist. Alcoholism etc he needed canceling to know himself. It's good you left

[@lynnmwende7548]

You are going far for you have a good heart and are knowledgeable now. May God open doors that no man can. Again thank God for your children, the biggest blessing ever!

[@monicahlishiar6631]

Since there is no expert in marriage I will learn from others 💝♥️💖😍

[@shiruk9228]

It looks like camera person likes your manicure 💅 keeps showing us all the time😅

[@tasneemhayati092]

Pedicure

[@virginiahchege6882]

This woman is so beautiful ❤❤

[@Susan-ie7ev]

Women, never leave your jobs or businesses because of marriage. Have your own life, such that even when the marriage ends, u have a life to go back to

[@rhouzedavids38]

Coodness 😢😢 this is my exact situation 😢 i wish i can meet this lady. Am watching this in deep tears. Waa... May God make me this strong 😢

[@anitathuku3723]

Sending you hugs ❤

[@nelliejoseph9063]

Beautiful Lady..may God expand ur territories

[@kariukinganga]

Our sisters and daughters should know that one has to be self reliance before you commit yourself to someone Know how to manage your risks by asking yourself one question What if?

[@beenjeery7959]

Single moms before you get pregnant for your new guy please make sure wewe mwenyewe without him utawezana na hiyo mzigo av noticed these men you meet and they over insist on you getting their baby and you aren't ready the moment utashika hiyo mimba huwa wanakutoka and by the time that baby is born hata you are not together anymore yet before the pregnancy he was THEE perfect partner so please fanyeni hizi hesabu first.

[@magdalinewacera1943]

Another reason for me to stay single 😢

[@susannyambura9634]

What a painful story but in life there is a second chance big up Mum ugi wi mbere ya hinya

[@ruthmueni1810]

so sad story this lady has gone through a lot but thank God she re discovered herself Carol all is not you will pick up again

[@jacklinewahome2416]

Why do married women,put all their trust in their men? Psalms:146-3.... don't put your trust in Human leaders,no human being can save you,when they die they return to the dust.on that day all their plans come to an end.

[@marywangari2555]

This second guy was on a revenge mission but the child is a blessing from God and what is important is that you are mother

[@Beemo254]

The moment a man tells you nizalie....RUUUUUN!!!!!

[@Dee_the_blessed1]

Do Single mothers feel lonely? I always wonder why single mum's are remarried and make same mistakes,

[@mamaketotos4414]

Ladies we really need to appreciate ourselves for who we are can't afford to loose my job because of a man caro workhand for the sake of your kids

[@danielkaruga7770]

She's Beautiful strong lady,

[@wanjirunyambura2708]

Domestic violence can never be justified!!! Never ever ever ever ever!!!

[@uniquemukabs1921]

Wanjiku thanks for your genuine love you heard to your narcissist husband,but you had enough red flags,its a good lesson now to all women..do not wait for your future life be destroyed by another stupit person...

[@juliegicheru921]

Women go through a lots it's my six year being a single mother weee hii life ya mr right ningekua kwa 6x6 let me have my freedom

[@highlandssuites8255]

this lady is soo beautiful

[@juliejoshua9880]

Thanks for sharing. Many women in silence

[@janekabura6163]

Once the first marriage fails, just forget about a second marriage. They rarely survive.

[@ednahchirchir1924]

Not all. After learning lessons one should take time to heal from trauma and change what is needed. Love yourself first so that you can be able to share and receive love

[@jdm6682]

People marrying for wrong reasons

[@joannjeru4307]

Not at all really depends with lots of things

[@ednahchirchir1924]

Many have worked. If you married the wrong person at first, definitely you will learn and not fall again

[@mbotemillicent1986]

Pole. Sana ..lakini ... Women have power! A child can never make a man stick to you ..it's just a way of making sure you as a woman your tied down...to commit to him...but what comes first ...vanishies also very first and men never value beauty as they glorify it initially that is the things I learned many years ago...and men forget so first and any irresponsible guy cannot make a husband.and many men who marry a woman who have kids from another man feels like you we be using him to help you raise another man's kids and they start madharau kidogo kidogo ata ukizaa mtoto wake..so the best thing ukitoka Kwa another marriage and you got young kids ...stay focused until your kids are fully grown..wamilize Hadi shule.. bcoz failure to these nasty consequences follows ...and women should stop reporting to a violent person that your planning to leave.!it's not wise.

[@fionamacharia9993]

Wish I would tag my mum here,this is a strong woman and may God bless her.there are woman who never leave and they end up damaging their children

[@shaniceandshantel474]

Carol you are so beautiful. Am sorry u suffered all that abuse in ur two marriages. I congratulate u for being so bold to walk away. Wishing u God's blessings

[@maureennjeriwanjiru1050]

NGAI wa atumia agoõka ríí hîî??😢😢

[@revzippyelikanahhbstminist4609]

Watch forbred flag young ladies. 2: Be financially self independent. 3: Never give a man a chance to beat you. 4: Speak out loudly , dont be silence when living with monster abusers. Change yourself. They dont change

[@nancynyokabi3887]

A man taking dowry to ur parents doesn't mean he will not cheat on you., it all depends with the man. Choose urself Carol, (selflove)!! and ur children , its all that matters now!

[@newtonnjugunanewtonnjuguna8755]

Serious mistakes that most girls are doing, moving to a boyfriend and believe to just themselves that they are legally married. How would you seriously agree on some issues like getting married to someone without involving your parents?

[@catherinegitau9053]

Sadly they refer to those men as husbands

[@teresiamaina9573]

Ata ushinde ukiwaambia wanaona uko n wivu

[@trizahmacharia2939]

I'd better go thru all this as come we stay rather than a legal marriage

[@Njitagwo_Shiro]

@@trizahmacharia2939if you have properties that’s when you realize the importance of a certificate

[@wamaithamary3463]

Pole sana carol for that painful story may God see u through 😢😢

[@margaretnjeri4064]

Women/radies who are in a toxic relationship or marriage, Plz learn something from this episode 2to3 redfrags are enough to make ua decisions don't wait the worse, better mwenye anakupiga physically than mentally 😢now si kama zamani ati vumilia No No✊

[@teresiamaina9573]

Sure

[@teresiawairimu4621]

Hi girl go for deliverance to the right church then as for your first and second born let them know their biological dad and let him educate them in college please You have tried so hard to bring them up to high school. So let him do the college

[@margretmuchiri249]

beautiful and strong lady

[@ruthwaweru1284]

Iko place sijaelewa hapo anesema ..hajaijikuta hosi n her first marriage alikuwa anashinda hosi i stand to be corrected

[@vanessawanjiku4284]

Okey I want to believe like hajaijipata hivo after delivery ,, like watoto wote amepata bila shida /C's

[@ruthwaweru1284]

@@vanessawanjiku4284 ooh i get it now thnx

[@marykaari817]

😢 she meant her maternity hospital cases have been seemless.

[@ruthwaweru1284]

@@marykaari817 ok dear

[@wanguiannmarimbet5726]

She is beautiful ❤❤

[@lynnmwende7548]

Wen through the same, wasted my time and energy and still very single for i would not cope but i am happy with minimum stress.

[@monicamigwi128]

Ladies b very careful, some men r very canning

[@1on1withjune81]

The man was trying to finish her. Glad you left him.

[@maggiewairimu5877]

Shiko you're a strong Gal❤❤ Solder on🎉 nīgùthiī Ríu😊😊

[@dansonmaina.]

Yaani, what do men really want? Anyways, God's grace upon Carol and her businesses as she forges ahead in life.

[@newtonnjugunanewtonnjuguna8755]

Serious mistakes that most girls are doing, moving to a boyfriend and believe to just themselves that they are legally married. How would you seriously agree on some issues like getting married to someone without involving your parents?

[@gladyswanjiru7737]

Well but we are there as parent to guide them like how things are supposed to go.

[@Njitagwo_Shiro]

True! Worst mistake

[@moniwawarikuo2253]

Narcissists always right according to them Lot of wisdom t know them

[@CarolineMunene-d8r]

Naniguo wi muthaka cjui wanaume wanataka aje

[@milcahgathoni5961]

How do you hit someones child this much???heeeeee.ppl joke aloooooooooot. Never joke with narcissists. They Will kill you as they smile

[@nancykirima2366]

Nilikuwa niseme kitu carol, but acha ninyamaze. Let's God forgive us. Wanjiku huku Rongai tunajua ukweli.

[@wanjikunjuguna6263]

🤔

[@janenyambura4428]

Carol Pole umeuzanga nguo za watoto kairitu.

[@CarolineMunene-d8r]

Ngai unaitwa Kama Mm wuuui ur husband ni Kama wangu ako na Malaya wengi Kama wangu

[@charitywainaina5303]

Uko na nguvu ya kumuuita wako

[@annengunya3402]

Young ladies please learn from this.

[@MoreenMuthee]

Am learning a lot aki kagoni

[@shifta81]

She has gone thru alot 😢😢😢,may you recover all what you’ve lost, including good health

[@teresiawachira1034]

The 2nd man made her lose her good paying contracts? Then he frustrates her?

[@RebeccaMbote-dt4fk]

So heartbreaking

[@eunicegitau6252]

Hugs mummy,lakini Mungu ni nani utang'aa ushangae

[@bonifacenjoroge577]

Who are these men marrying these poor women.

[@Njitagwo_Shiro]

Narcissistic ones

[@carolshii8023]

Atumia mageragira maingi ma

[@sue.7494]

Carol is so beautiful!!!!!!

[@marymutuma1029]

My ex husband had the same character

[@shintykiarie6606]

Weuh people go through alot Ngai amuteithie

[@martinmaina1551]

It's unfortunate..... Yani you are looking for a housewife while other men are looking for ambitious women. Ladies ukiona mtu anataka ukuwe housewife run. You should also have ambitions and that man should support that but si ati mpeane pressure just be the one leading.

[@antonov_5029]

💀 she loved that man more than herself 😞 I would’ve left him since the first time. Cuz he wants to kill the both of us and if he doesn’t love his self I can’t love him either

[@phillipsidhojapap1461]

I think the issue here is you both did communicate well before hand about the relationship - being a blended family. The man is reluctant to pay fees for the step son, but before then he seemed to be okay with it. What changed? Plus the woman seems to have expectations regarding the kind of lifestyle she wanted (this is clear from both marriages). Plus the health issues. Marriage can really stretch both partners. and many couples choose to remain in their comfort zones to the peril of their marriage/partnership

[@maalady4631]

My cutie gal didn't know yu went through all this our beautiful gal....pole swee

[@peterkariri7991]

Sorry my sister 😐

[@suzziewangombe2465]

Carol is very cute❤️

[@hellenwangui86]

A very beautiful African woman.

[@njokikangasha1840]

My God another episode to fear men 😔

[@wanguipositivevibes2908]

Marriage is not everything