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[@africanwomanvibes]

I’ve opted out too 💯. Sisters, if anyone says you’re ‘selfish’, remind them it is called ‘self care’ 🤩🤩💕

[@sowsweetdeborahallen7256]

🥰love that!!!

[@nicoleterry9377]

Thank YOU FOR THIS POST!!

[@africanwomanvibes]

@@nicoleterry9377 💕

[@africanwomanvibes]

@@sowsweetdeborahallen7256 💕

[@Mshawkins1]

Amen❤💯👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏽Opt Out💯💜👏🏾👏🏾

[@sweetandsimple.]

Stephanie: “I don’t care about your purpose I DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR PURPOSE! Live your dreams!” Purpose: 🥺 Dreams: 😂🤣

[@luvnyaalwayz]

Lmbo 😂😂😂

[@themadmillionaire]

😂😂😂 oh well

[@joyanderson8646]

YAASSS!!!!💯🔥🔥🔥

[@FreeQueen-md7zm]

😭😭😭

[@pamulahwilliams1744]

She said that from her "gut." and I felt that!!!!❤.

[@officialjocelyn9108]

Funny how "purposes" help others, but not ourselves 😒

[@KFontLab]

Only when it’s done incorrectly. Your purpose and your dreams don’t always align and sometimes they do. I understand what she is saying but purpose absolutely matters more than dreams and wants. That is hard truth many do not like. As women we tend not to have boundaries because many were not taught to have them and that is the main problem.

[@soulspirationgoddess]

@@KFontLabI agree with this.

[@ksarai4823]

This JUST hit me! Purpose is great though but like she said “how ya dreams doing?”

[@ksarai4823]

@@KFontLabcould you elaborate on what you think purpose is and why it matters more? I feel like they’re equally important and agree with @officialjocelyn9108 that our purpose serves others while I feel dreams serve us. I feel like we should do both but as women we get pushed more towards purpose and how we can serve others without having the balance of serving ourselves and our dreams and wants which are also very important.

[@Gullahbae-xm6ms]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@cookie4uc]

I played this video about 10x. My dream is to recover from my toxic job and to live in a warm sunny state!. Thank you Stephanie ❤

[@KeebasWorld]

Sounds beautiful sis….

[@CupcakeBeauty24]

That's a beautiful dream. Which sunny state would you live in?

[@cookie4uc]

@@CupcakeBeauty24 I’m not sure. Winter is not my friend. Some place affordable

[@CupcakeBeauty24]

@@cookie4uc I understand lol...I hope you find your sunny dream state soon. Enjoy girl :)

[@vegasval25]

I did that and chose the state with the most sunny days in a year 364 days of Sunshine. Yes it’s hot in the summer but OMG I can’t live without the Sunshine. I dreamed to do it since 2012 and it took me 10 years to get the courage but I did and moved to Las Vegas Nevada!!! I’m here alone and my family thinks I’m nuts for doing it but IT WAS MY DREAM!!! God supplied every need and I’m loving it!!!

[@teddydavis2339]

Great message! I know that your channel is mainly for black women, but as a black male, I learn a lot from your messages.

[@KNGDDDE]

You need to learn a lot about history so you can stop backing their lies.

[@tiadeese]

​@@KNGDDDE...boy, y'all show up with your fragile egos EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. 😅😅😅😅

[@emolique]

@teddydavis2339 “Thank you”

[@brielleknoxsragerecoveryclinic]

Facts. Tired of society imposing it's expectations on how black women should live. This is my life. I will live how I choose to.

[@texasgoddess323]

So many times, we impose these harmful ideals onto ourselves, unfortunately. But we can fix it!

[@SUPWA21]

This has JUST become my life after 67 years…purpose is done! It’s ALL me time from this day forward! 💥😉

[@kimberlyanderson1539]

Good for you👍

[@frankiereid469]

I'm 67 and been doing it. I've have seen thru this bs when I was young . Couldn't do it..

[@sandybrown3879]

Stephanie this has got to be a first. Dayum! Everyone's telling us to find our purpose. Be of service. And you don't care😂😂😂. Wow, this is great.

[@Mssclark]

Yes! Bending over backwards just to be overlooked..regardless👏👏

[@heyalexiajanee]

I concur👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@emolique]

@@Mssclarkyes bending over backwards just to be looked over regardless… now what the “purpose” in that!?! I am so done bending over backwards for everyone esp my family and lazy ungrateful husband. It’s go time.

[@AngelisaAustin]

Not selfish, I AM SELF-INVESTED! SELF-INTERESTED! UNAPOLOGETICALLY!

[@yvetteboonecreates]

YES!!!! Speak Sis. My dreams are about to get a front row seat in my life.

[@prettylady818]

💯

[@themarvelousdonohues9153]

You are so right! Black women has done enough for others.... especially America! Time to live our dreams.

[@temiymahs_World]

My dream is just to be financially independent and live in abundance. That’s it! How to get there is my challenge

[@charlenex]

You know what! Yas! Yas!! I almost did ANOTHER degree to become a therapist.. I back tracked.. I said no! ENOUGH with the caretaker role.. DAMN.. Now I teach women how to create a powerful relationship with money..

[@ValueDrivenLife2024]

I need a powerful relationship with money 💰

[@autobotdiva9268]

finance is EVERYTHING and ignored

[@JoyfulOne468]

Awesome! I've jumped off the therapist track as well. I'm tired.

[@imasummergirl]

@charlenex how? Is there a website that we sign up or one on one?

[@angeliquechappellesoars]

It was the “I’ve opted out” for me. I so appreciate the sentiment behind the message of “live your dreams.” And I concur. 🎉

[@BryneenGary-vs5lq]

Concur

[@Trista1983]

I agree! I'm at this point now! Have been groomed to be the family caregiver...Parenting my mother, siblings kids...being a parent to everyone because their parents should've never had kids. NOW it's MY time! I walked away from a lot of my family to focus on myself & yes many are upset, but they are NOT going to kill me. Many black women were groomed to be codependent parentified caretakers!

[@TamarahTravels]

This is a strong and soft message at the same time. You’ve nailed it!

[@carolperry7714]

Girl, you just told my Story! 😅 I don’t even dream anymore! I forgot about my own dreams!!😢

[@MT-yx5cu]

Same

[@autobotdiva9268]

i tell women this all the time. america will squish DREAMS out of you

[@TaNishaWebb816]

I gave up my purpose long ago and I'm loving it! ❤

[@rui37CdjOe]

Right on! Thank goodness my mother told me when I was in my fifties that I had done ENOUGH for other people. My work involved helping others and I and my husband had volunteered to help others too. My mother helped me so much by releasing me from these black woman burdens and obligations to others. Thank goodness!❤

[@ollievicks8345]

I've been on your channel for awhile now and this one is for the history book. I live on Corn Island, Nicaragua and it's a beautiful life. I'm living my dream and my purpose as one in a 3rd world country. I pour into my dreams first so my purpose is healthy mentally and physically works. I love this message it's very powerful for the masses great job my sister.

[@thefemininecfo]

Damn Steph! Thank you for this. Makes sense considering beyond being a great parent to my son, I have struggled with my purpose. But I do have dreams of how I want my life to be that do not include worrying about others. Going full speed, no brakes on those goals starting today! I'll let the rest fall into place.

[@BryneenGary-vs5lq]

Good greetings and may your dreams live best with you.

[@LivingSpirit-e5s]

I have been treating patients in clinical practice for almost 15 years. So many women are sinking and suffering in silence because they do not understand that they must be their highest priority. We become weighed down with depression, anxiety, frustration, guilt, regret, insecurity and shame when we neglect ourselves. We do not have to do every thing for every one else, and we certainly do not have to be every thing for everyone one else. It's okay to say NO! NO! NO! and NO again! Self-care is not selfish. It's called self-preservation! When we learn that and commit "wholeheartedly" to the dream..... our dream, that's when the out flow of blessing will rain in. Start dreaming again my sisters and thrive!

[@Glowing-zr6vg]

Absolutely 1,000,000% correct! Black women have always (and still are) deferred their dreams for their purpose or someone else’s. Beautiful advice - thank you!

[@cushmeerpierce4213]

Stephanie yes!!! I agree we have a purpose for a lot of "ish" which is why we get distracted. It's truly about fulfilling dreams, therein you will find purpose and peace!

[@GoddessCelestine]

Sister I attended one of your conferences. I was planning to move to Paris. I created a wonderful way to finance my trip and I arrived in January. Now that I'm here I don't like Paris. The decision was guided by a number of reasons and purpose was one of them. Just last night I told my best friend no more of this! I want the soft life!

[@benatural1306]

Watched this on repeat and shared it with the village!!! “I don’t care about your purpose. How your dreams going?” Powerful message!

[@bookladyreads]

My parents have always said live your dreams.

[@patricedent591]

I love this ❤❤❤ I let it play over and over again so that I let it sink in!

[@StephaniePerry]

Yes Patrice. Indoctrinate yourself. 💗

[@tandt7694]

Me too, and sent it to a few ladies who I hope receive it.🎉❤😊

[@premierretail4067]

This made me choke up! I've played it over and over. "Change the question"...whew chile, that's a word!

[@greatnessofgrandparenting7587]

Thank you so much for this . I opt of a purpose a long time ago . Black women have given more than anyone living . It's our turn to dream . Dream big

[@sabeenie21]

Listened to this on repeat over 30 times. Remember when purpose driven life was all the rage. I have decided that my purpose is my wellness. Point blank period.

[@TheBizeediva]

That's what I notice that I've been doing: being more for others than being for myself. I'm changing that as we speak, and I'm becoming so much better. Great talk!

[@AdayBB231]

I need this as my alarm in the AM

[@loveheals6184]

Why, call me ALL the way out, why dontcha? 😂 Sister Stephanie, I'm deeply appreciative of this. There's been desire and shame around both. This is very timely. Continued joy, freedom, love, peace and fulfillment to you. 🙌🏿💃🏿❤🥰

[@HallieWimberly]

Thank you so much!!! Because that question always seemed like a burden to me.😢

[@Miss_NatashaO]

I've had to change the question recently, as times have changed for me. As long as my mother was alive, I sacrificed my happiness and purpose to inspire her to live her life (it's been 5 years ago since she's no longer with us). I was a nurse, and didn't like it, but was able to see it through until i got sick (disability from strokes). Now that's she's gone (and I will always miss her), I want to live my dreams. Thank you so much!

[@CheroShanna]

If we give up on our dreams life turns into a nightmare on purpose

[@Anvilpad]

Facts... I hear you sis. Its really a combination of both. Start with your dreams! Your purpose will be found in your dreams. Your gifts will be evident for fulfilling that dream.

[@nlrrln6881]

This message is so on point! As a black women, I'm so glad I took that cape off. I stop sacrificing my dreams, joys and happiness. It's about me from now on. 🥂

[@klassycountryk]

Purpose will have your beaten and bruise mentally, emotionally, or physically. Purpose doesn't always lead to happiness.

[@poshmyeventba]

I think you dreams have unlocked your purpose Stephanie. You are helping so many black women live their dream. Amazing.

[@RenderAnderson]

Hello

[@smileyatthebeach3452]

I have this short on replay!! I just can't stop hearing these words Stephanie. I've been so sick of hearing "find your purpose" preached. THANKS!!

[@leslieann2698]

This what we seen our grandmothers and aunts do, take care everyone except ourselves. I’m all about me now, it took along time to get here though.❤

[@MicaelaManifesting]

Omg thank you for that! “Change the Question” ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Im going to start asking myself what are my dreams what does my heart and soul desire 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@emolique]

I can see all of my broken dreams laying all around my house. From things I was once so deeply passionate about until my “purpose” in life replaced my dreams and served as my main focus. I wanted sooo much for myself. Thank you Stephanie for this hard but gentle spark. Thank you for your heart and your willingness to share. Thank you for your insightful and unapologetic glare into the black woman’s soul. Thank you for “showing up” for us and for yourself and being accountable, dependable and last but not least, thank you for your raw and radical HONESTY. You are definitely a lock picker and a chain breaker of the mind. I’ve been watching you for years and I kept saying to myself, what Stephanie Perry is doing IS my endgame in life. (of course, after I was done serving my purpose and sacrificing myself my sanity and my health. But no more!) You helped me see… myself and how I’m “choosing” every single day to show up on auto pilot, serving my purpose for others and showing up for them more than I’ve EVER showed up for myself. 😣 You sent your message out into the world like a lifeboat for all black women to hear… and I am definitely jumping on board. I am deeply grateful for sure. 🙏🏼 my dream is to be a well known, sought after, best selling author, poetess and storyteller. I love travel. I want to travel the world to become immersed in all this life has to offer me. I encourage you all to cast your dreams into the world as well. Thank you Stephanie for checking in on us 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@eatlivebloom8076]

🌸I’m opting out too! Some times the people you want to help be some of the ones holding you back. I no will no longer operate based upon others anxiety! I have enough of my own to deal with! Periodt!🥰🌸

[@TheJoyceTV]

Thank you. I said this to myself YESTERDAY. Enough of the sacrifice and no appreciation. Just yesterday l wrote in my journal... " I'm done!" I wrote this before seeing your message. I agree with you 💯%

[@Soiknow2]

I've OPTED out to Stephanie, you on SOLID POINT. It took me to turn 50 to figure that out. I'm so over Purpose, burnt out. Children grown gone, parents in Heaven saying it's time to live your life. DUES PAID. You're So Appreciated Aways 💓

[@DouradaBambina]

Your purpose is to be happy ❤you’re already whole. No other human being or diploma can take or add to your soul. You’re already enough ❤

[@RhondaOnline72]

You are awesome!!!

[@StephaniePerry]

So are you Rhonda. 💗💗

[@tracyardelia]

Love you Stephanie! Don't know what I would do without you and your "message." I truly embrace my dreams and purpose. I too have opted out. Children are grown, and I'm living and working in the land of wood and water. Jamaica! UP!

[@GalinaMalakhova]

Love this message. Very brave and necessary. I’m not black but I’m an immigrant and I hear you.

[@kay7732]

Never heard it put this way before. Live your dreams. 💓

[@DNNWorld-Wide]

Thank you for placing Black Women seated in a chaise lounge chair in center of the frame 🖤🤎.

[@NkemOnyeka12]

I JUST LOVE THIS WOMAN ! And I’m married, but I’m free to travel and do things that I desire for myself, my children are grown. I’m finding myself in a rare situation where I can make these types of decisions. I felt bad because I don’t know what my purpose is, and my life has had more downs than ups. I am now PLANNING the ups, because what I have discovered in my struggles, is that Ups don’t just come. 🎉🎉🎉 And you are GLOWING today Sis! 😍

[@spirittraveller7411]

The irony is- we must put on the *respirator- first* while on the plane, before we even attempt to help someone else! TRUE-TRUE! LIVE YOU DREAMS!🌹🌹🌹

[@MR-so1mc]

I love you for saying this out loud and showing that it CAN be done…happily!!

[@gloriaojogwu9047]

You hit the nail on the head! Thank you 👍 I could not have said it better Stephanie 👍🙏 Gloria Payne

[@StephaniePerry]

Thanks Gloria! 💗

[@wadiyyahsalaam298]

I second this Stephanie🥳. That purpose got us stuck and used. I’m living my dreams today!! Thank you Stephanie ❤❤❤❤

[@catrinagriffin6141]

Changing the question just changed the game for me❤. Thank you for this short,sweet and straight to the point short!🙏🏽

[@MT-yx5cu]

Wooh the way I was just "gathered" 😂. Thank you Stephanie ❤. I needed to hear this

[@newheartnewspirit8468]

This will never get old. July of 2024 and never thought to adjust this question. Sacrificing my dreams trying to find purpose and drowning. I need to pivot and redirect just have to figure out how.

[@pansyrosereality]

Very profound way of being. I love it .❤❤

[@beverlyb6391]

Got it! Well said!

[@deborasmith4668]

This is on point 💯

[@bebe553]

I am through being there for everyone else and no one being there for me I have started saying "NO" and am determined to be SELF-FUL, and do what's best for me. All three of my children are ADULTS even though they don't act like it. ENOUGH is ENOUGH😮

[@onyxjade5474]

This ‼️thank you for the reminder

[@StephaniePerry]

You’re welcome! 💗

[@CatchFlightsAndFitness]

Oooooo this is a sermon!!! You done snatched my edges back w this one. Definitely been heavy in my purpose lately and not enough in my dreams 😍

[@AleciaRenece]

LOOOOOOVE THIS. 💛💛💛

[@StephaniePerry]

💗💗

[@LifeCoachingWithDelarue]

Yessssss Sis ….yesssss…. That part 🎯🎯🎯 My true purpose is to live out my dreams … to give my ancestors who did not have a choice access to some joy and ease…which will naturally align with my joy and gifts. When I am happy and fulfilled, the people around me will enjoy me. That’s my gift to the world ❤

[@yaakeshahenderson6636]

Self Care is the new healthcare 👍🏾🥰

[@HeatherICreateMyPath]

Stephanie, you are amazing! Authentic and overflowing personal strength. I've been listening to you for over a year and, although I've already left the US, I will continue to do so! Thank you!!

[@ellewoods9396]

My purpose is to live life on my terms and enjoy as much pleasure as possible.

[@bigt9391]

Well I just woke up and watch this unpause to myself exactly what I needed to hear this morning thank you

[@kimberlyanderson1539]

Oh my God, Helping everyone now I'm older tired ,resentful and angry. Thank you for this message.

[@DaSaintMedia]

I appreciate you so much ❤… Happy Women’s Month

[@MsCc1212]

I can't thank you enough for this🙏🏽! It's very much needed! ❤

[@stefaniegueye693]

Damn I know that’s right. I dream of resting more and having the money to maintain my current lifestyle.

[@lavieestbelle6068]

I have opted out. Live your dreams.

[@Sageandgold]

Please live your dreams. Purpose will have you going in circles forever

[@tameekawyndon2665]

This is a gem that will forever live in my heart and mind. Thank you Stephanie❤

[@LoveEmpress]

Thank You❣️ Dreams are It!

[@tenillepatterson5366]

Absolutely!!!!! You can not be liberated if you can not dream!!! I needed this today. Let's dream and then live out those dreams!!

[@prettyqueen573]

This is a whole sermon right here!!! I absolutely adore what you do for black women. Thank you so much

[@ms.rivera7898]

Purpose? My purpose is to be free and enjoy this life that so many people take for granted.

[@kiva5619]

I felt this in my core.. had to listen to it twice!

[@gmannfl2004]

I agree live for yourself. I wish I did this 20 years prior

[@sowsweetdeborahallen7256]

Preach Stephanie!!!

[@rosegreene3446]

"I don't care about your purpose" you should make that into a Tshirt.

[@LuluLuvsTravel]

Yes! What are my dreams?

[@StephaniePerry]

Free time can help you rediscover them. They’re in there. 💗

[@nina5-12]

@@StephaniePerry Hi Stephanie, interesting take. Would you say being from a religious household and being in the military made you formulate this mode of thinking?

[@applesidertea]

I was featured in the local news for work that I’m extremely passionate about. Doing this work has required lots of energy and focus. I’ve noticed that lately, I’ve been very selfish about my time and energy outside of work-I only do what I want to do, I move casually with no agenda, I relax and get massages and read my books, I take myself to nice restaurants , I retreat home whenever I feel like it. I’m working out regularly, and I’m cooking more-all because I have been unapologetically selfish about my time. Your videos allow me to know that it’s ok. My DREAM is for my work to gain attention on a national stage. I realize that moving towards that dream has required extreme self-care, and I’m not going to apologize for it.

[@mamayolanda4282]

I'm Opting Out too!!! Thank you!

[@ggwwio4681]

You are absolutely correct. Thank u

[@fatuma2954]

This message came right on time.

[@ImAMayTaurus444]

Wow I needed that light bulb moment..Thank You...

[@ladonnawashington1643]

You know, I’ve done my share of sacrifice that did not serve me well like many Black women but at 58, it is high time that I listen to my ”first mind” as my Mother called it. I married three times twice to the same man over riding my gut to satisfy societal expectations. All to my detriment. I don’t know what my purpose is but I have some dreams. And permission to follow my dreams is taken. I’ve felt strapped in and caged by obligation my entire life. Enough. My internet Sister Stephanie politely unlatched the door. With courage and humility, I walk out. - Wish me luck & Godspeed!

[@michelleshelby6247]

LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS!! Child you are my hero!!! 😂❤

[@theresaisaBIGBOSS]

We continue to live in silence, and it is dangerous, I opted out. I am my own advocate, and I am appealing to us, as black women, to learn how to live. Stop the hustler mentality. I am living my dreams.

[@ketejames4955]

Amen,,, HALLELUJAH GLORY TO GOD, LIVE YOUR LIFE❤

[@NicianNia]

I love and appreciate this message!

[@lisabelcher6045]

Yes, I totally agree with everything you saying.🥰💞💓🤗