I don't want kids and here's why... | Childfree by Choice

[@JasminesRooms]

Everyone's journey in life is different. Choose yours the way you want to because you only have one life to live. Do what makes you happy. Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

[@theeglasschild]

I'm right there with you!! Kids are not for me. The world is awful, medical care is severly lacking, the education system is rapidly declining, they're expensive, and I want to spend my time and money the way I want to. Plus I already raised my sister and that was enough for me 😅 I have a nephew and absolutely adore him but that's as close as I want to be to parenthood. I don't think that not having kids makes you weak or selfish though. There are different difficulties you have to face and strengths you need for every path in life.

[@JasminesRooms]

Same! I helped raised my baby brother who has a disability and it was a lot that came with that tbh. Having nieces and nephews can be a great alternative to parenthood because we can give them back 😭🤣 I agree but I know some people may think otherwise. Everyone's journey is different though and I know I definitely like the one I'm on because having kids is a lot of work, money, and effort. Thanks for always being supportive!! 😭💕

[@triofan9]

Thanks for your candor and confidence talking about this because I know it’s not easy especially because of societal expectations . This video was in my recommended so I just subscribed , but I’ll watch your other videos too ❤

[@JasminesRooms]

I appreciate your kind words and thanks for watching! You definitely have to do what's best for you at the end of the day. People may try to peer pressure but gotta stand firm on what you want. And thank youuu! I have a variety of videos so feel free to check out anything that interests you! 😭💕

[@andi01452]

Girl the concept of having biological children or any kind of children at all has always been back and forth with me and though I'm only 25, the feeling of getting closer to my 30's has made me think about this more often. I don't want to settle at all and am about to start a brand new era in my life at 26 in about 6-8 months. I have small dreams I want to accomplish, build my life around and I want to continue my journey of expressing myself and growing freely. For me there's this feeling of something bigger in this world that I want to experience and do by myself before I'm gone from this world than repeating the cycle of raising a child in this modern society. I want to be able to slow down whenever I want and be present with myself, my thoughts and my inner self, that's how I'm keeping myself sane. I currently work with children as well and If I happen to continue working with them in the years moving forward, the thought of spending my whole days with children, then go home again to be responsible and present for 1 or more children already fills me with stress. I love the creativity of children, how they're each different and I mostly love socialising with them, but everything that comes with our modern world and everyday life makes me only want to be with them in dosages and then have my own space to go to. Though I do sometimes think about how a bond of common interests and passions between me and a potential child would be meaningful, there's no guarantee of that happening. Then we of course have partners, I want time to fully manifest and nourish the relationship between the two parts involved and not revolve our relationship or my life for that matter only around a child, I'd definitely lose myself at some point. Yes you could say 18-20 years after you're "free" to do more again but if that's so then 1 child maximum lol, though the thought of upholding that and a relationship at the same time is scary to me at most.

[@JasminesRooms]

I completely understand!! I feel like 25 is that point where most women start thinking about it more. I know it was definitely a topic of discussion a lot when I was that age. I am glad that you have this awareness and thought process about it where you know yourself in a way which you have an understanding of your goals and how having a child could impact that. I couldn't imagine working with children and then having to come home to a child. 😭😅 It sounds so overwhelming to me. Having a partner definitely is something to think about when having kids because so many people do not examine the changes that having a kid could bring. It's possible to manage a relationship with your person, but at the same time.... it's like you're split into 4 people; A mom, a significant other, an employee at your job, and then hopefully your true self. It's scary to me as well and personally I'd need to be in therapy regularly. 😂😭 Thanks for sharing your thoughts and checking out my video!! 💜

[@illblerdmatic1]

🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😭 These are solid reasons why you don't want kids. That your choice at the end of the day. Both angles tackled with mother and father even child too.

[@JasminesRooms]

The logic is there 😭🤣 Most definitely!

[@deflatedfish]

I get it! I've never wanted kids either for these same reasons. Thanks for sharing!! :) *EDIT: also, congratulations on your marriage!*

[@JasminesRooms]

Thank youuuu and thanks for checking my video out! 😊 I'm glad you can relate because I know some people just don't get it 😭

[@deflatedfish]

@JasminesRooms Ofc!

[@wildernessisland2573]

I'm a nice enough person, but I genuinely believe i would hate having a child. I wouldn't hate the child directly, but i would just hate my life. What the hell is the point of that? People who like it and enjoy it, great, go do that, but why do the rest of us have to grapple with this, too?

[@JasminesRooms]

Same. I feel like I would not be happy at all and feel a lot of pressure. Exactly... People should do what they want and that doesn't mean we all have to do the same thing. Some people just don't want that lifestyle and that should be okay.

[@MaffyTaffyHaffy]

I think a lot of people who have kids hate their life so they want others to join them lol it’s sad but it’s the same with body positivity. They want you to stay fat so they feel okay about themselves. Seriously beware of “nice women”. Women literally want other women to suffer 💀

[@Porceliankitty]

Hope this is a safe space for only us women!! If you’re a man don’t respond to me. I’m married and I told my husband before we got married I didn’t want kids. And I was so firm about it I cried. And told him he should find someone who does cause I can’t betray myself with a child. He said he was okay with it …. And now his family is saying we need to have kids soon, cause we’re getting to the age of no return (30s ) and my husband still believes I’ll “change my mind” uhhhhhhhhh, no baby. If I get accidentally pregnant I’ll own it, but while I have the choice I’ll still not want a baby. He doesn’t force it on me, but he jokes about it all the time and I’m like… stop 😑

[@JasminesRooms]

This is a safe space and if anyone responds negatively to you, I'll block them! But I am so sorry. I am glad that you told him before marriage how you feel. When it comes to family, sometimes they can definitely step over boundaries and be in your business when what goes on between you and your husband should be your personal business. I don't like when people say "Oh they'll change their mind" specifically if you've told them multiple times. This is just my personal opinion, but if you haven't already you could express that you don't like when he jokes about the subject and share how it makes you feel what you feel. Idk exactly how you are about handling this situation, but I know for me I've always been direct about it with both my family and my husband's family. Some of them mentioned I'll change my mind, but whenever I went into detail about my reasonings... tbh they ended up leaving me alone about it because it's not just an "I'm not having kids" without logical reason and you shouldn't have to explain yourself, but I know in my case it helped me. Yes, you're married but never feel pressured into doing something you don't want. A child is a long-term for life commitment and I feel like a lot of people don't think about that at all. At the end of the day, it's your body and your husband should want to or at least try to understand... but communication would help you out if it's a repetitive subject. I hope things get better for you.

[@melaniecorona8634]

Yeah okay.. well when ur in retirement don’t expect help from anyone 😂 cause I assure you it’s not coming the only one who holds that responsibility is your children 👍

[@JasminesRooms]

Having a kid just so they can take care of you when you're older is selfish tbh. Also I've seen a many of people expect their kids to take care of them when they're older.. and the kids did not. Can't assume the kids will be there to provide.

[@LaChanceuse]

What will parents who are estranged from their kids do?

[@JasminesRooms]

@@LaChanceuse Right because that is unfortunately a common theme I've seen. Those estranged parents sadly end up alone regardless of whatever "investment" they thought they had with having a child to take care of them in the future.

[@cano9724]

Having a kid isn’t a guarantee that they’ll take care of you later on in life, let alone if they want anything to do with you once they’re on their own.

[@poseto1234]

Ew you had kids to take care of you when you’re retired ?! 😂😂 that’s messed up- I feel bad for your children !