I Feel Like A Failure

Many of us often tie our self-worth into our relationships and when those relationships don't work out, we may end up feeling like a failure. In this video, we discuss how our self-esteem and the state of our mental health affects our relationships.
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[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Focus on victory! What is your plan for success? Do The Knowledge Workbooks 30 minutes a day will change your life! Just read the comments of people doing them! 🔥🙌❤️

[@bilqissulthanannasira4905]

Its crazy that im still listening to ur intro without even skiping 😂 Its been 2 years 😂 I've been enjoying my own company, but still, i love watching u guys!

[@PeteAndersen]

I’ve been with a woman with BPD. You dont have a chance Girl. Love yourself and Get out now. ❤️

[@amstarla]

Run. Now!

[@Js-wd6dr]

We all have issues in childhood that we have to unravel...no one has a perfect childhood...good heavens. We all have to pull up out boot straps and press on. We can't take it out on people as adults.

[@robertescoffery8775]

I broke no contact a few days ago. It was only 11 days since the breakup. I'm so detested with myself because I feel like I pushed my ex away.

[@Michael-qq9kk]

I feel your pain it's hard how someone can just change

[@danstaples5023]

No you didn't, just keep focusing on yourself, i know its hard but trust me just give your ex space theres just nothing you can say to her right now, as hard as it is try to do things that bring your energy back to yourself and let your ex go through the process, if the relationship was good she will reach out and if she doesnt trust me you'll be strong enough to handle things if you take responsibility for things you need to change about yourself and just keep leveling up.

[@mariellas1271]

Imagine if she wants a hotdog 🌭😂😂😂😂🤦🏼‍♀️ I can’t with you two🥴🫣

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

😜

[@cw-wj1vs]

😂😂🤣 you guys!!

[@legendkiller_-2k-__273]

Hello everyone…… Me & my girlfriend have been together for 4 years ( minus a 6 month break up in 2021! February to July ) I’m 34,She’s 47…. It’s been not always plain sailing since the second year (When she had to have an Hysterectomy) since then , Along with what I believe is her entering early menopause,She can get snappy! Out of character and rude sometimes. This Saturday just gone,She says why are we still together? She doesn’t crave sex( Never had a high sex drive ) / Probably never get married and doesn’t want to Live together. Say’s she doesn’t get them feelings for me now. Sunday woke up she was very funny and loving… I love her to bits,But her outbursts every couple of months do hurt me

[@seri8214]

Hey coach Craig! Could you do a video about going days without talking after an argument? I am currently going through it, my boyfriend is giving me to silent treatment

[@Js-wd6dr]

Sounds like her partner that is borderline has a lot of problems. Too much to deal with. But who am I to say? Dang!

[@elianadimase4135]

U guys really help me

[@AlightBULLDOG]

Talk about no contact... We were texting for quite some time. Almost 5 months after she broke up with me and it was always her reaching out to me before I blocked her on absolutely every single thing.. little less than a month ago I received the package in the mail from Amazon. Inside was a book and a note. The note said "I'm sorry for everything. I have more to say if you'll let me. I don't expect you to reach out but if you do that would be nice. Anyway I figured you at least deserved this from a pain in the ass." I thought about continuing to ignore her but decided to respond and we met up and had a chat. We're still in contact messaging each other every day. But now I find myself in a love triangle with somebody who wants me back who I truly loved but did me wrong, and someone who I don't feel as strongly about but has been absolutely wonderful to me though we ain't dating. Is it wrong to want my ex back despite the fact I care deeply for this new person??? So conflicted.

[@Kate-ub1dp]

I think it’s normal since you haven’t gotten over your ex yet. Which book did she send you?

[@Michael-qq9kk]

How long was it until she messaged its amazing what time can do I guess it's also good that she kind of realised that she has done wrong because a lot of the time they can't see the damage that has been caused and it somehow gets turned around back to what you did wrong . I don't see any problem with messaging her just depends what light you see her in and if you can sort out the past if you were with her a good while then that can also make you consider repairing things between you Good luck 👍

[@AlightBULLDOG]

@@Kate-ub1dp The tenth volume of Berserk. It meant a lot.

[@AlightBULLDOG]

@@Michael-qq9kk i blocked her in February. I received the package at the end of July. Funny thing was when we met up to chat at one of our spots she was the one to mention that it was the anniversary of what would have been our third year. I feel like the reason I haven't been able to give myself over to this new girl is because I'm still in love with my ex, even though I thought I was over her.

[@Michael-qq9kk]

@@AlightBULLDOGit sounds like your ex has had a good think and maybe realised her loss I have removed mine off everything as she just doesn't seem the person she once was what was bad is she had kept me hanging on by sending random messages every so often so I couldn't let go and it gave me hope I met another woman around February and the night we had on our date my ex kept ringing asking where i was as she was out aswell whats the chances of that i said i couldn't tell her but i did anyway after my date had gone home she was upset but probably just drunk I could never really commit to the new woman as deep down I wanted my ex back so I broke things off with her

[@themozzies1712]

Please help Coach Craig!! I just completed 4 weeks of radio silence since the break-up, I was about to start the 5th week when I accidentally viewed my ex’s Instagram story for the first time since no contact :( it was an hour after he posted - just need some reassurance do u think I’ve messed up??

[@nikkiqluv]

I just did that too on snap chat 😩😩🥴

[@christianchetwood2581]

There is no real way to know whether viewing your ex's instagram story has affected anything during no contact, but know this. We have no idea how things unravel and what path lies Infront of us. Maybe your ex will reach out to you in six months time wanting to pick up where things left off, or maybe somebody else is around the corner. Like the Coach says, you can never know for definite if your ex will come back, so from now on, make sure you cut out any no contact mistakes and work on your self improvement. I know how difficult it is, I was an anxious wreck for six months after my break up, I couldn't break my attachment. But I slowly regained my strength and feel the self love and confidence I once felt. I've been to therapy to work through my childhood issues and my anxious attachment, moved to a new department at work and got to know new people, and have been doing all things that I have been meaning and wanting to for a long time. It will get so much easier for you I promise. It's going to take a while, but you will see improvements with each passing week/month. One day you will wake up and move out of the trance you are currently in. You won't be checking your phone or wondering what your ex is up to, you will end up focusing on yourself and the people people who truly care about you.

[@r.maelstrom4810]

Na, no problem if he posts stories quite often. It would be different if it was the first story he posted in all that time.

[@holyroller7743]

That's so funny 🤣 I don't know what you see in dill pickle

[@Artlife0831]

She needs to get away right now

[@LonelyRider87]

Know that f@$%ing feeling.

[@jcmontana662]

RIP ❤

[@gow6739]

My ex reached out and we texted a little. I asked her to meet and she said yes (but it wont be for a few weeks because of long distance and i think she knows that). I didn’t reply to her last text which i probably should have. Two days after we last spoke she posted a instagram story with a sad song about getting back together. I am really sure that the post was about me because the picture was of the sunset that she took when we hung out together. It has been over a week since she said yes and we last spoke. I won’t be able to meet her for about 3-4 weeks. What do I do?

[@jassonkhoo1223]

She obv wants you now. Just dont ignore her, but dont chat her more than she chats you. Remember to keep yourself controlled and never puke your emotions out since that’ll scare her; what i learned from coach craig is to chat her neccessarily and hardly about “what are you doing” typa convo

[@gow6739]

@@jassonkhoo1223 well should i reach out now that it has gone one week or should i wait for her to reach out again? I kinda messed up by ignoring her last text when she said yes to meeting.

[@jassonkhoo1223]

@@gow6739 im not a psychologist by any means so any decision should be decided by you. But if i was in your situation, i would chat her back, she made the effort to chat you and agree to go out w you and thats a huge move from her end; if you do, remember to keep “COMPOSED”.

[@gow6739]

@@jassonkhoo1223 i sent her a text and said i cant come before an appointment i have. She replied in 2 minutes and said that it’s no problem because she has lots to do meanwhile.

[@jassonkhoo1223]

@@gow6739 she replied in 2 mins after you last ignored her for a week, thats a pretty strong response from her. Be sure to have proper contact, but again keep things CHILL, SLOW, INTERESTING, IMPORTANT, no bs, and act like you’re not easy to re-attach; while you’re not meeting her for awhile, “be sure to look your best when you do meetup”. Get fit, get better outfits, look like a G. I lack self improvement when I got back with her and she broke up w me again, DO NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I DID. Good luck 👍