I Found Him! | AncestryDNA Results | CatherineMarie

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

This is a response to a comment regarding me mentioning being "Puerto Rican". I felt that with all of the comments being made about it, my thoughts on it should be pinned. Thank you all again for all of your kind words. " icilmaa yes actually I do. But tell that to John and Sally when they ask what I'm mixed with. People don't want to know my genetic make-up down to specifics. They really just want an answer so they can go on about their day. And guess what - I'm quite positive they will accept it I realize that PuertoRican is not a race/ ethnicity. To me it's a culture and a nationality - one I don't identify with. So, I don't feel comfortable mentioning "Puerto Rican" at all and I don't. "

[@coquiangel]

I understand and respect your feelings. A friend's son is mixed with PR his mom and his dad is African American. And he does not accept that half.

[@coquiangel]

You have an interesting story and thank you for being brave enough to share it.

[@SimpleMinded221]

Puerto rican is an ethnicity. The average Puerto rican is a mixture, in varying degrees, European, black, native, and sometimes jewish. You don't look " black " in the african American sense. You look arab or afro Arab. Be proud to be mixed race and dont follow the racist one drop rule that basically teaches black blood is a tain%t and inferio@r. Hence 1 drop taints the blood and the child assumes the inferio%r parents stock. Its so racist and i cant believe black Americans and many Americans in general follow this evil racial law from jim crow.

[@ricolaw1033]

@@SimpleMinded221 Puerto Rican is absolutely not an ethnicity!! Its a nationality!! Hispanic or Latino is ethnicity!!

[@mikepitts7078]

take pride in the fact that your mom is an amazing lady that raised you to the strong woman that you are today and thanks for sharing your life story with us much respect for you

[@christinasimpson7750]

Hi, your Mother must be a remarkable woman to instill such strength and resilience in you. You could call the Phoenix police and fax them your mother and your birth certificates, then give them the go on recovering your DNA bar code. Then he will be held responsible for his crime. I wish you & yourz peace and love. Great job on your video.

[@juniorreid1377]

You are incredibly brave for trying to figure out who this guy was.

[@JRandallS]

I've watched a number of these DNA videos. Your's was the most moving. Thank you for sharing something so personal. Truth be told there are many of us who have "uncertain paternity" events in our bloodlines. Yours is more recent. I'm sorry the sister that you reached out to did not deal with you more forthrightly. She has probably developed mechanisms to deal with the shame associated with her brothers actions. I'd be willing to bet that their are others in that side of your family origins that would be more compassionate. You are a beautiful person inside and out, and an example of mercy and maturity. Just to be able to deal with this whole issue in such a balanced way is really great. I am glad you got some peace in the knowledge of what really has happened. You should consider finding an avenue to share with others that have a similar history, you could be a real encouragement to them, and it would bring further healing to you as well.

[@traceyholland9882]

So, sad that his family couldn't accept you, as you are, their loss. I'm glad you found him, now you can put that part of your history to rest, and even though his family wasn't ready to accept you, at least you know where they are, and who they are for your children's sake. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story with us perfect strangers. I will definitely keep you and your Mom in my prayers, and I have to pray, for the people who left a thumbs down, because something is really wrong with them.

[@jeannebrooks6003]

You are a hero in my eyes! To be able to be so public with the circumstances around your conception, and to be able to critically analyze how you want to integrate that information from your DNA test into your life and your perception of who you are, is admirable! I am in awe (and you are the first DNA result KZbin, of the many I've watched, on which I've commented) of you and your ability to record such an honest video!

[@heliotropephoenix300]

This is by far the most unique and interesting AncestryDNA story ever. I'm glad you were able to find out who your biological father is. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@meljude1]

Thank you for sharing your story. You and mom are survivors!! You are beautiful and this should be made into a movie.

[@delroyblackwood1106]

Proud of your courage, and sorry that happened to your mother.

[@ParArdua]

Wow, you're beautiful and very clever! The yearning to know is like an itch we need to scratch. It sounds like there is not much you cannot do having been able to figure all the historical and genealogical details out. Best wishes to you and your whole family for a happy future.

[@jasminemensah9846]

You my sister are very brave. My mother was also raped at age 13 and decided to keep the child (my older brother). I never thought of asking him to take this test to find him being it truly bothers him not knowing.

[@annh74351]

When someone asks what you are, they probably mean your ethnicity. But there is so much more. You are gentle, courageous, well spoken, brilliant, self-accepting, balanced, resilient, brave, and absolutely beautiful.

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

I just want to say thank you to all of you who have complimented my efforts. It took me quite a while to pull everything together and to get to the point of actually posting it. All your kind words are appreciated.

[@mialadyy7175]

Congrats on your results. I wish you and your mum strenght, Joy and Peace.Humm , I am very sorry you and your mum have to go through this terrible experience. Stay strong & Keep your family safe from all predators.

[@davidwarrilow7083]

Just to allay your feelings about inheriting his tendencies... predation is learned not inherited. He grew up in an environment that probably sexualized him at an early age. As an example - one of Canada's worst sex offenders was molested by an uncle. It probably a good thing that your children will not meet up with that side of the family.

[@NativeNYerChicHK]

Life & Crew You deserve to know the truth. It's your absolute right to know your ethnicity, own it. They have to live with themselves defending his behavior, you are a strong beautiful woman regardless, in spite of him. Your mom gave you everything you have; tendencies like his are learned, not inherited. They don't deserve a relationship with you if you're not offering it but especially if they refuse to acknowledge how you came to be related to them. Ugh. Denial is such an ugly thing. Your mom is a strong lady, as a mom myself I admire her strength so very much. And yours too, she taught you well.

[@commondenominator5385]

Good work! are you going to try to get him prosecuted for what he did to your mom? I'm sure the police would happily get involved.

[@sweetnluvly79]

Life & Crew I'm so curious! Can you post a picture?

[@mixedingreedsworld9967]

this woman is so beautiful. I'm a product of rape also 😕 you win some you lose some but you still won cause you're alive

[@cincyjanebearcat]

I just watched your video again and I'm still amazed at the person you are. I hope all is well with you and your family.

[@lexxisbosslady6182]

You are 100% beautiful sister! Great video!

[@ursulaliving]

girl I would have stalked her page too lol. great work. DNA is amazing. I found my grandpa's real dad through ancestry. it's a game changer. thank you for sharing and continued blessings

[@alexislewis3860]

Girl, this the realist video I have ever seen! You did that!!!!

[@drgrandma1]

A daughter I had given up for adoption 49 years earlier found me 4 years ago. Such an amazing trip. I can understand you not wanting a relationship with him, nice to know who you are, isn’t it? Thanks for speaking up, even with that daunting history.

[@LovelyT29]

You're courageous for telling your story. It is so funny when don't or can't admit the truth, doesn't she know DNA don't lie. Great detective work.

[@earphbound720]

This was interesting to watch. Especially given the circumstances. I commend you for posting such a personal video. I'm glad that you are at least able to narrow it down. Although you don't want to have a relationship with that side of your family, it would be good to at least get as much ancestry info from them that you can so you can make your own family tree and pass that down to your children. This is the kind of info that gets lost and stumps people generations later who want to uncover the truth. GOD bless!

[@karenchambers5850]

Wow. This was such a brave video! Blessings to you and your family.

[@JEREMY99218]

Wow, that's awesome detective work. Very impressive.

[@CharityBrown20]

Thank you for shining a light on this kind of subject. People need to learn from stories like this, and put predators away so they don't continue to cause harm.

[@Mutlap]

Your mother has very strong feelings about going full term, to be polite. She's very brave woman and has very strong feelings about life.

[@Novembersongbird]

First time seeing this channel. You blew away how focused and deyermined you were to find out about a sensitive part of your life. I applaud you and pray your Mom heals. .

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

November Songbird thank you so much. A lot of time did go into it. Had I waited it would have been much less effort.

[@BigLyfe09]

you're brave! The story alone brought tears. bless you and your family!!!

[@OMOL_RECORDS]

they should put this on CNN. wow, this is a dope video!!!

[@jamesomoz529]

Hey Catherine you are a brave girl going on this journey with all its conflict ! You stay strong and stay positive and happy , you now have a beautiful family being married and having kids , just get on with your life 🙏🏿👍🏿✊🏿😎😘

[@TRUTHTEACHER2007]

That is one hell of a story. God bless you!

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

Thank you. Very much appreciated

[@TRUTHTEACHER2007]

Life & Crew You're welcome sweetie.

[@TRUTHTEACHER2007]

Life & Crew Your life will be a testimony that far outshines the evil he did.

[@lorifarrell5705]

You seem to have so much self assurance and peace within yourself; I hope you carry that with you always. you are defining your self and not letting the past define you, You're a good soul so stay brave and surround yourself only with those who give you love.

[@itoroots7291]

Incredible video.. thank you for being so brave and sharing.. peace and blessings to you and your mom. And congratulations on ur results..

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

Ito Roots Thank you

[@itoroots7291]

Life & Crew your welcome..

[@anrisistf2200]

Is one of his grandparents Asian.

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

AnrisisTF neither of his parents (based off the family tree) were east Asian. But they also didn't do the test so I'm not sure on genetics. But their family tree identified them as Puerto-Rican. My great grandfather on my moms side did have part Asian and Native American in him. So maybe that's where my Asian results came in at

[@lorifarrell5705]

Have you asked your Mom to take a DNA test ? that could clear up some of the confusion.

[@zakayah460]

Hi, your testimony really made me want to cry. I am so sorry you and your mother went through so much. You are a very beautiful, courageous and strong young woman as a result. Thank you so much for being so candid and sharing your life with us. God bless you.🙏🏿😊

[@zakayah460]

🙏💜

[@CRSDelta]

I am proud of how you presented your findings of this very sensitive issue. I wish the very best for you, your mother, and your family.

[@debrabonaparte6772]

Congratulations on your closure. Thank you for posting the raw side of life that so many folks are not willing to divulge.

[@Novembersongbird]

I enjoyed listening to this video. I'm so sorry that you found this out about your Dad. I pray your Mom heals..

[@tanyas.3812]

Also.....your kids and other decedents deserve their biological roots also.....This is not about a relationship with him.......it's just roots.

[@missmindymagee3642]

This was really interesting Life&Crew and you did a great job - clear audio and a good pace. It was so much better than so many I have tried to watch. All the best for the future for you and your family.

[@magsdeleon6803]

You're so brave. Thanks for sharing your story. You definitely are an inspiration for other people.

[@panamasrose]

I just happened upon this. You are amazing!!!! I'm so very sorry about what happened to your mom and what she continues to deal with. Blessings to you and your family.

[@hstteacher]

Thanks for sharing. Fascinating effort to Id your bio father. You are smart and brave. Too bad his family does not want to know you -- they are missing out. But it would probably be awkward and hurtful. So glad you have a better idea of your genetic background.

[@andred5950]

Wow that was an amazing story. I applauded you.

[@wilhelmcoq]

This is the most fascinating DNA reveal I have ever seen. I am sure to a degree this must have been hard for you. Thank you for sharing your story and god bless you.

[@baggatitus]

so courageous my sister. may God bless your mom and heal her. stay strong.

[@YellowSynth]

you look ethiopian

[@habasharabiansara3540]

lol thats what i thought!!

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

Yellow Synth lol. Yes someone has said that before. Telling you, I've gotten some different opinions.

[@YellowSynth]

Life & Crew did you DNA test tell you if you are hebrew or not ?

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

Yellow Synth it didn't. I'm sure I'm not though

[@YellowSynth]

Life & Crew oh. Still happy you found out what you are though. I was born and bred in Zimbabwe i'm doing my DNA to find out if I'm a hebrew. A lot of jews have been found in my country through this DNA yes.

[@vicky_uche8349]

Thank you for sharing this you and your mom are really brave.

[@ESLTeAchErMichelle]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I noticed how you kept saying he is your "dad." He doesn't deserve the title "dad." However he is your father. Continue to stay positive and encourage other people like myself.

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

Michelle Fields you’re so right. Thank you!

[@ivyhousewife4944]

Congrats on your success in your search. This is quite an interesting story.

[@goldcherry103]

My father was also born from a similar circumstance. I found my father's half brother via dna test. I contacted him. My "uncle" never responded. But I did find out what ethnicity that they are. Thank you for sharing your story. God bless you!

[@briannaking8211]

When I first saw you, I said to myself that you look black, and south American! I'm so sorry about the circumstances surrounding your other half. You're so strong, and you're such a blessing to the world.

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

Brianna King good guess!! Over the years I’ve gotten some interesting thoughts

[@annemoefaauo7055]

You have such a good attitude to dealing with this and connecting to your biological father's family....you know your identity is with your mum and her side of your family. Your mum's love has made you who you are today. She is a very courageous woman. You can rightfully claim and explore the cultural heritage from his side of your tree without identifying with him or his immediate family. He has brought shame to his ancestors but you and your children will only bring pride. You have given your mum justice by uncovering the identity of her perpetrator. I honour you for that.

[@whitedove4600]

I am glad you got the results/ answers that you needed!,And yes stay away from that family! . I pray your mother is doing well because the whole time you were speaking I had her in mine and I dont even know her. May God Bless you and your family. Take Care!

[@freddiehansen7324]

Interesting story. I think you are very brave for doing this. I can understand the curiosity and the wanting to know where you came from. There is no shame for you OR your mom in this. The shame is his and his alone, which are no reflection on you and yours. thank you for sharing!

[@NathanielChristopher]

Wow! I've never heard of someone actually finding a first cousin via Ancestry DNA. That's awesome!

[@Leamoyer]

Nice story. Glad you found the answers that you were looking for. I'm sorry for the pain he caused you and your mother. You seem like a sweet and intelligent girl. You were raised right. Your dad's poor lifestyle choices is his problem. Be strong. Carry on. You are your own person. Peace

[@seleneuribe258]

you are such a wonderful human!!!.I only got great vibes from you, thanks for sharing your story💓

[@allthingsbeauti]

Glad you did the test for yourself and for your children. His sister must straight be in denial but that's her loss. Some people are just not prepared the expose the skeletons in their closets. God bless you!

[@vegetariansimplicity6243]

life and crew GOD bless you for your strength and courage to find out that information

[@ahkelamshin]

Rape baby to a very young mother here too. *hugs* Trying to find the mystery man myself.

[@0906blue]

We don't know if it was a rape, a lot of women are getting busted with this DNA. I have a friend who got caught in her 45 year lie. Usually a child is given up for adoption if it's a rape.

[@tonys9796]

Sorry, I see the pain in your eyes, I can tell you had to stop the video to collect yourself!!! I hope you got some questions answered, and found solace at the end of the day!

[@mompofelski4191]

How amazing to discover the answer to that mystery! I am glad your mother gave you a good life and you are very grounded and a delightful young wife and mother. Good job to your Mom. She has had to deal with a terrible experience/memory and I am sure still does. She could have aborted you and tried to forget and go on with her life, but she didn't. She did the noble thing, the heroic thing, the Godly thing - in loving you and rearing you to be a good person. She took a toxic destructive blow and turned it into such a beautiful jewel, a treasure. I am glad you can see where your features come from - and have validation there. A sperm is NOT a father. There is nothing there to follow up on. You are wise to close that door and end that chapter as it will go nowhere. Thanks for sharing your story. Best wishes.

[@laurabryan6938]

Your kids and grandkids in the future will be thankful you did this

[@TheonlyHoneyBadger]

AMAZING VIDEO. I knew you were part latina the second I saw you!!

[@brendapaul5950]

Girl, you turned out well and tell your mom that she and her family are responsible for raising somone/you, who from all appearances, is a balanced young lady who is leading a focused life (school, wife, work, mother). Tell your mom that I pray she finds peace and that she may consider therapy for the trauma she is still experiencing. Clearly, she is affected by post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Thank you for speaking openly and sharing your story. It is too bad that even now he is being enabled and sheltered by his family. Their loss as they could have handled this much better by acknowledging you and the circumstance. Their loss. Peace and Blessings to you, your mom and your family. May the God of your understanding continue to keep a hedge of protection around you and continue to heap blessings upon you.

[@pisadinho]

Congratulations. You are a very smart girl. Your work was amazing. Wow. Best wishes.

[@princessmoon12]

You are incredible and strong and your mom is awesome and so strong!!

[@french2two]

I knew you were from San Francisco area by your accent! Me too! Thank you for your courage in sharing this video. I learned so much. I am sorry your mother had such a bad childhood experience. I am so glad you are here. You are a terrific lady.

[@kalex888]

This is a very interesting video. Thanks for sharing

[@ladybug83301]

Thank you for your story. It is amazing how many stories like yours exist. Maybe one day you will find half siblings.

[@tawanna_denise8875]

You are wonderfully made and maybe it's good you found out about who he really is. Now you know...let it go. And live your life sweetie.

[@joseph9531]

You are a brave lady that's classy and discreet! Excellent qualities!

[@anonamous6968]

Wow, that is some story. I am really impressed with how well you are dealing with the information. You seem to be an optimistic and positive person and I think that is great. As far as things being passed on to your children.... you are a decent person aren't you? I don't think just because our parents or someone in our family is a bad person that we will be. Give them lots of love and guidance and they will be fine. It's your influence on them that will in a big way help them to become who they are, that will help them to be good people. I'm sure your mom was a positive influence in you life and that's why you turned out so well :) So now you will be the positive influence in their lives.

[@EbonyGirlSpeaks]

This video is really inspiring me to get the test done and find my fathers family. He was murdered when I was young and I only know his maternal side. I’m glad to see that you don’t try and hide your story that’s what makes this video so special!

[@lionheart5078]

wow super interesting story glad u shared! don't worry we are all individuals our ancestors don't determine how we behave, it's nice u still wanted to find out about that side of ur family! God bless you!

[@KAYKAY-tf3jz]

It doesn't matter who your father is you seem like you turned out to be a wonderful person and that's all that matters

[@adventurousdaydreamer]

You are so courageous for trying to find out the truth. At least you know you didn't miss out on anything. Don't worry about inheriting any bad that was his character issues not yours. You have to checkout the testimony of Joyce Myers, sometimes it is better they aren't around! God bless you brave lady!

[@eviec2749]

Wow, your story is fascinating! thank you for sharing.

[@juda4praise]

Thank you for sharing. My mom was gang raped and I too did Ancestry DNA. Haven't really pursued searching but do see several 4th cousins. Hard to narrow down with so few closer connections. I'd love to talk with you more but there is no way to send you a private message. I'm on FB if you want to connect. I help moms and children of rape conception through Choices4Life(dot)org

[@beingsneaky]

Download Rawdna. upload to familytreedna.com, myheritage.com and genesis.gedmatch.com. There you will find more relatives. not every one does ancestrydna

[@lindapearson3411]

Juda Myers Bless You for reaching out to those who are have experienced rape in some way in their life. You put a smile on God’s face, precious one!

[@hannibalbarca4372]

​@jfsfrndTry also to upload your Raw Data file in GEDmatch (free) ; MyHeritage.com ; FTDNA.com ; DNA.LAND (free) ; 23andme.com ; Genecove.com

[@radiant2052]

Wow, powerful story. Thanks for sharing.

[@earsie1977]

Wow, you have a very unique perspective on everything. So sorry that you and your moms have to deal with that history. Hope life is going okay for you tho.

[@adriannanoble5617]

thank you so much for sharing your experience with ancestry dna! i just ordered a kit and am hoping to find a match to my maternal side because my mother was adopted.

[@ReneeDreams]

You look so much like my friend and her sisters. I don't know her DNA background or anything but it's amazing how much you look like them. She just classifies as black American.

[@kerriemcbride6681]

My half aunt came up as a 1st cousin match at 1022Cm(how I found BF family). There are charts that show centimorgan ratios to determine if someone is more closely related by the # of CM across however many segments of DNA you share.

[@therealfridayjones]

Keep being the strong person you are. Your mom is lucky you are her daughter. Strong spirit. Female soldier.

[@GrowingThroughMy30s]

Friday Jones thank you. She really did her best with me

[@therealfridayjones]

Life&Crew It shows!

[@selinaBARMAR2565]

I honor you for sharing this. Your are brave, and beautiful.

[@nataliesanders9993]

Btw Puerto Rican isn't a race, you can be fully black and still be 100% Puerto Rican because it's a nationality and slaves were sent to the island just like they were sent to the US.

[@perfectbeat]

Very interesting story. Thanks for sharing.

[@indigoblueviolet]

If you tested your mom you could really identify which parent you inherited everything from.

[@omoz189]

wow your testimonial you did good to find out well done

[@elizabethroyal668]

Wow. What did your mom say when you find the guy? Your story actually touched me. I know it wasn't easy , but thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry that happened to your mom and that it is a part of your life. I'm only looking at this from the outside so I don't personally know your story, but I hope you and your mom both have good lives and are at better places. Sending peace to you and your family.

[@latricaaline]

Interesting story, Thanks for sharing :)

[@Natalia-hf3et]

Congratulations on your efforts!

[@stephallan2543]

If someone asks you “WHO YOU ARE”...I would definitely ask them “why..I’m a Strong 💪🏽 Woman”! Unless, you’re absolutely sure it’s important to share it all with them for whatever reason? May you be continually be blessed, prosper and be in great health. 🤔🙇🏻‍♀️🙏🏽🔍🔑💗🇺🇸🕊💎

[@allsmiles3281]

You are beautiful and I commend you for sharing! :). I was adopted and that is my main reason for doing this.

[@michellemiranda4002]

I'm adopted and I have little info on my bio parents how could this help me find my mom etc. I've been a long time searching with no luck, I would appreciate your help.

[@tanyas.3812]

Sue him for a paternity DNA test........you deserve to know your biological ancestry for sure.....DNA does not lie!

[@AlAndalusiIbnRagnar]

You look East African, I'm sure you have that Ancestry if you perhaps did GEDmatch for more details

[@SundusAbdi99]

I highly doubt that. East Africans, or people from the horn of africa(Eritrea, Ethiopia, Somalia), are very homogenous people. If anyone is partially East(horn) African its most probably a recent mixture, as they generally tend to intermarry amongst themselves, and have only recent moved to other countries other than their own. They have their own Ethio-somal DNA that Ancestry DNA doesn't show (but other companies like 23andme do), with varying middle eastern and north african dna. Slave trade in the east generally took place in the Arab slave trade, many people being taken from south-western Ethiopia, South Sudan and neighbouring regions then sold as slaves in Arabia. As you most probably know, the Arab slave trade started way before and lasted much longer than western slavery, and those people sold as slaves in the middle east probably had high South-Eastern Bantu dna, as opposed to the more common West African dna African Americans generally tend to have. If you're interested, you should look into it more, it's quite complicated and not as simple as other genetics, as there are a lot more theories as to who's who and where'd they come from, and a lot less information out there and studies done. :)

[@AlAndalusiIbnRagnar]

Sunny A Definitely It all can be debated. But i think their dna is most common in that region of africa. I got some small percent from the Horn of Africa. Mainly because intermixture from middle east and north africa. But some east african also get middle eastern

[@SundusAbdi99]

Cool, did which company did you use? I think Ancestry isn't very reliable when it comes to pinpointing the differences with many different ethnicities besides european and west african ancestry. Its all very vague. People from the horn tend to have some north african dna, (assuming you're north african) I'm not surprised you've got a little horn/east/whatever you'd like to call it dna in you :)

[@AlAndalusiIbnRagnar]

Sunny A Ana Nawar, But my grandmother has significant berber dna, she has some Ethiopian and many more mixes, But we all tested with ancestry then to dna tribes and Gedmatch. But ur right ancestry not too detailed Which test you got ?

[@rantsinpatwa]

East Africans are not homogenous. They are some of the most thoroughly mixed people on earth.

[@capricorndiva6310]

You kinda look like tia&tamera.

[@yolandaznostalgictv9462]

Nicole Webb She kind of reminds me of a younger Tracy Ellis Ross.

[@sweetdee52]

Thank you for sharing your story. My daughter is searching for her birth father and I would like to help her. It sounds like Ancestry DNA would be a good place to start. We know where most of my ancestors come from but we don't know any of his. He even gave me a different name so when my daughter had him checked out by a private detective there was no such person. Again, thanks for sharing your story.

[@marce4004]

Delores Russell I'm in a similar situation. I'm not sure if I'm the biological father of a little girl. Her mother never told me until 5 months after she was born and had given her up for adoption. I met her through pof and it was A fwb kind of thing. I knew her from years prior. She told me she was pregnant after 4 months and said she was a surrogate mother for a friend when she text me and asked to be picked up from the air port. Later, I find out she had a bf and ran he ran out on her when he found out she was pregnant. I'll be honest, told her I never wanted kids and she stated she was on birth control(I'm at fault for not using protection myself) later to find out that her prescription ran out and she never went to the Dr for another script. I found out she gave the kid up for adoption on fb from someone's page that she got in an argument with. When I asked her about it and her being a surrogate mother, story never matched up. She told me she didn't know if she was mines or her ex. Now the girl is 2 years old. I didn't even think she was mine because the girl looks pretty white. She has red hair and blue eyes and I'm a black guy. Her mom is Puerto rican and Irish. I figured if I had a kid with her, they would look more biracial. I took the ancestry test so if there is a remote chance she is mine, she'd find me. When I took the test, I was surprised at my findings myself. Turns out I'm only 55% african, 37% european and 8% native american. I figured if she were mine, she'd only be around 25 to 30% black. Now I wondered if she really is mine. Hopefully, she takes an ancestry test.