My Girlfriend Became Distant Because She Wants To Go Have Fun On Her Own r/Relationships

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

“My parents are heavily religious and we live in Utah.” Message received hun.

[@catsncrows]

Gee, your parents committing human trafficking is okay there I guess? 😶

[@mindyschocolate]

I’d say Mormon, but it’s curious she refers to math as plural. Only Europeans/UK say maths.

[@catsncrows]

@@mindyschocolate she explained that her mother was from the UK I thought. Maybe I misheard

[@shadowkissed2370]

Except other than the "tithing" which was far too much to begin with and I doubt he even gave it to the church or informed the church he received it from her, nothing she commented on had to do with said religion. Mormons do not arrange marriages. It sounds more like the FLDS, the Polygamist Kingston family, or some other polygamist cult. Her parents are just psycho. -from an ex-Mormon

[@KitsunenoHibi]

@@mindyschocolate Absolutely a mormon. The mentions of eternity, girls being rushed into marriage, the dad "owning" the OP.... it's mormons.

[@livingnightmare969]

Last story: OP's dad: "You belong to me!" OP: "Actually, according to your logic, I belong to the mailman."

[@cindykq8086]

Do I understand story 1 correctly? The relationship only works for the girlfriend as long as the boyfriend is happy and upbeat? So he's not allowed to have life throw him any curves or ever need support from her. This isn't a partnership, this is all and only about her needs. He needs to dump Miss It's-all-about-me.

[@KaileyB616]

She's obviously full of shit and just trying to string him along.

[@coreymartin6486]

I've counted at least three examples of her telling him that she will try to hook up with other guys. She's also telling OP that he will be her backup plan .....and OP is just going along with it. Dude has no spine at all.

[@braidygal]

I feel like she’s just keeping on the hook as needed…and seriously, he doesn’t celebrate when he bring flowers? Like What?

[@chasewarner5513]

Exactly another situation where someone else’s feelings don’t matter VOP is an idiot, and he just needs to leave her. Sometimes we get depressed. It’s called life.

[@sleepyearth]

@@coreymartin6486 which 3 examples because it's exactly the opposite in the video.

[@trillionbones89]

Op2 is getting A in all subjects, works at McDonald and still is punished for being so good at a hobby we won a competition - by taking his money and refusing to fund higher education. 😮 Make it make sense. These are horrible people.

[@randomusername3873]

Can't risk the daughter to have the means to leave before being sold

[@kateemma22]

Escaping a cult is hard and I'm proud of OP2 and the awesome friend.

[@heatherholzhaus7013]

Me too. Holy cow did they ever dodge a bullet

[@axlengland]

2nd story is very fake, and there were quite a few give aways, not to mention a minor flying to South Africa by herself requires some sort of parental or guardian permission. Or the mysterious email from SIL, or her friend coming to "join her". This is probably one of the poorer creative writing exercises I've heard. 😵‍💫

[@susan7775]

⁠@@axlengland She states her age as 22, therefore not a minor. It still could be fake, though; that thought went through my mind. But we all know how unhelpful and biased against women the Utah police are. Remember the Susan Powell case?

[@k1smet1312]

not a minor @@axlengland

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Seriously and I hope she does a DNA test to find her real family, maybe they’re amazing people. Cults are becoming more and more prominent today and some quite sneaky at getting members

[@cavalr1002]

The last story sounds like she escaped from a cult. With how much they was Talking about religion and with so many emails from so many family members and that the father had arranged a marriage for her. Always happy to hear when people escape from crazy people.

[@kateemma22]

She came from Utah therefore Mormon - they ARE a cult.

[@CasualVFlowerEnjoyer]

Religion is basically a legal, encouraged cult. And fully capable of the kind of abuse the bad cults are. Of course, many enjoy it in a wholesome and passive way. The bad apples who take it to the extreme just spoil the bunch. My best friend is in a religious family and they are very wholesome, while my catholic in-laws can be strict, judgemental and cruel. My mother in law has MD and she is constantly in fear of going to hell when she dies her inevitably early death. She's a kind and gentle woman, but because she smokes weed and has "mean thoughts" she thinks she is bound to be punished for eternity. Its so sad.

[@25Erix]

@@CasualVFlowerEnjoyer Bit unfair to lump it all into one category. Even atheism is basically a religion in and of itself since it does take faith to say there's no greater power. People can disagree on that but the lack of faith takes faith in order to exist. Just as religious people have faith in a higher power, atheists have faith there isn't. They just don't call it that. Cults are about control. Reasonable religion isn't. I'll say I'm Christian but am more of a spiritual one these days. Your MIL sounds like she needs a gentle reminder that if she accepted Christ, that's all it takes to gain a place in heaven. Nothing short of blasphemy is going to change that. At the same time, I can understand that fear. A closer look into the Gospels should ease her fears hopefully. God knows all too well how imperfect we are. He didn't have to come down to our level to know that but he did anyway.

[@waitwhat1029]

​@@25Erix... It takes faith to not have faith? I'm rolling. You funny, bear killer.

[@smapa1185]

​@@25ErixAtheism takes no core beliefs unlike religion, except for the disbelief in any god. It is so much less of a monolith than religion...

[@debc6260]

Hoping for all the best for 2nd OP. Got to the last update. I KNEW it. OP was an affair baby. I thought there was a reason for all the hate. Screw that family. Horrible humans.

[@darkmask5933]

And of course, the family blames the child for existing, instead of the mother for cheating.

[@KaileyB616]

Boy that sure is a lot of words OP wrote to try and convince himself that everything is great and his girlfriend loves him 🙄 dude is lying to himself more than she is

[@InvasionAnimation]

I hope she cheats, He needs to get wrecked to not be that gullible.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

She didn’t do anything wrong

[@InvasionAnimation]

@@KadeStringer2.0 You ain't loyal either then.

[@neru1584]

​@@InvasionAnimationI feel like hoping someone gets cheated on is way too fuckin far holy shit????

[@neru1584]

Like disagreeing with his actions and the way he handled the situation is one thing, but actively wishing hurt on someone? Are you okay?? What the fuck

[@keab2105]

Story 1: OP deleted the post but you can still find him off of his username and BestOf notes. He currently posted several photos of himself asking if he was attractive and is flirting/complimenting other girls on reddit. Current one is trying to convince a girl not to get plastic surgery and in the post he compliments her hair, breasts, youth, and more. Soooo I am guessing either things didn't work out or he has a tendency to stray and she's better off without him.

[@carlrood4457]

"Tithing" literally means 1/10, so taking half is definitely NOT tithing.

[@mbyerly9680]

A nice name for theft as well as taking away her power to escape.

[@Llama_Whisperer]

@@mbyerly9680 Point is the story is made up.

[@rhio-ohki6107]

😂😂 The friend is a star in second story, would've loved to seen their faces when turning up to places she sent them. ❤

[@19nmiller1]

I'm so happy that OP2 is in a good place now and that she has such an amazing friend. Just the idea of the friend making the parents go on a wild goose chase and then drawing them like Wile E. Coyote is making me chuckle.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

She was an evil genius! I would've loved to see the dad's reaction to being at the strip club, or the mom clutching her pearls over the nudist colony! 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@lianabaddley8217]

Utahn here. Thinking. Huh. I had no idea there is a nudist colony here??? And then l they've gotta be talking about the FLDS not LDS. Those Warren Jeff's people(Men) are seriously Crazy!! 😵‍💫🫨🤯👹

[@ashh4929]

Extra props for the friend fucking with OP's monstrous parents so deliciously. 🤘😎🤘 I'm so glad you got out when you did gurl, you are far stronger than you know and I hope you can also give courage to those who are in a similar situations with your story.

[@ComaLies225]

That was my favorite part. She a great friend lol

[@srkh8966]

Story 1: This is why you don’t move in together after a month-although their communication seems to have improved, even if they break up eventually.

[@patheon9541]

story 2: wait...OP owns THEM $85k in reparations? huh....on what grounds exactly? this dude has to be on some bad juju

[@ComaLies225]

Last I heard, it’s illegal to sell people in the United states. The threat of taking her to court is most likely not gonna fly and might get dad in trouble actually

[@macylouwho1187]

I’m a wife of 26 years, since we were older teens. The first comment was spot on. People won’t want to hear that maybe, but it’s true. Compliments are nice, needing the validation from the opposite sex while in a commited relationship is NOT. There is a difference, albeit nuanced. The difference is that you enjoy the compliment itself-not the other man who says it. That is the distinction. Example: I was out shopping and I’m very much a “ladylike pretty long dress/makeup/long curls/jewelry/perfume/high heels” sort of woman. I just really enjoy looking feminine and put together. It’s not a usual thing around here, if I’m being honest. Women usually wear jeans and shirts and dress more casually/comfortably (nothing wrong with that!). I had a man approach me in the store and he smiled broadly and said “I just want to tell you that you look very beautiful today and that’s a nice dress.” I thanked him a bit warily for the comment, but hid my worry that this was going somewhere wrong. It’s nice to be told that, as long as that’s all that is meant by it and it’s not a “hitting on me” thing. I love my husband very much. He continued “I always like to give someone lovely a compliment-because it reminds me to go home and tell my own lovely wife something nice too, “like you look beautiful today honey!” I breathed a sigh of relief and smiled warmly. I told him that he was a very good husband if he did that for her and to keep up the good work. We parted ways smiling and happy-both of us. I appreciated the compliment, but only for the compliment’s sake. I did not welcome any male attention beyond someone just being nice/kind-which he was, so that was great. And I loved what he said about his wife, that was adorable. In the above story, it sounds as though the girlfriend wanted to respond to the male attention that validated her attractiveness-not just to the compliment itself as a nice gesture from a new potential friend. She wants to free herself up a bit from the relationship and be less responsible for her partner and his needs or feelings. This is simply something that you cannot do in a marriage. Your mate will need you in so many ways. In sickness and in health. You don’t get a day off from thinking of them or what they need. The fact is that eventually children grow up. Parents pass away. Friends sometimes leave or move on in life. People die suddenly. Everyone else just sort of falls away here and there for the most part. The only one you can depend on other than yourself is a good faithful partner. Your kids will have their own life to lead-and they don’t always stick close by. If you can’t depend on each other-you are basically alone. In this case-she wants that. There’s more to it than she’s saying. He’s being trickle truthed even if it wasn’t due to cheating. She’s told him what he needs to know. Her real desires have been stated, sure, but there’s probably more to them than she’s letting on. Things that he wouldn’t like to hear, and she’s hanging on to her backup plan/sure bet guy just in case other plans don’t pan out as well for her. But more freedom is her goal, and for more reasons than she likely stated.

[@ian7064]

Story 2: If it's the case that OPs dad isn't her bio daughter and her mom did in fact cheat, you'd think the dad would be more than happy that she left the continent and now he won't have to see her

[@kaykay8855]

It’s about control. From the way that op described their childhood, their siblings probably knew about the clear favoritism. Op was the unwanted child, the child they believed should bend to their will because she dared to exist.

[@alexisgrunden1556]

In cults like those, having a child (but especially a _daughter!_ ) disobey the man as the patriarch of the family and ruler of the roost is a huge shame for him. That she not only disobeyed him, but completely noped out of the country, WHILE destroying a marriage contract (a 53yr old man? How much was he paying her parents, I wonder? If he actually was, then they now have to refund him every penny, plus possible penalties) would absolutely shatter his social standing in the community. His wife cheated on him, not-actually-his daughter ran away, and now he's a social pariah, viewed as a pathetic half-man who can't even control his women. As for her egg-donor, she was likely treating OP2 like crap as a form of penance to her husband; _'See? I hate the product of my disloyalty! That means I'm making it up to you!'_ Probably not consciously, but in her subconscious? Absolutely. And her not-dad never cared to stop the abuse because it was easier to punish a child for the audacious crime of having been born than to punish a grown woman who can fight back, and it made him feel good that the product of his wife's infidelity was being punished for daring to exist and remind him of his wife's sins.

[@axlengland]

2nd story is very fake, and there were quite a few give aways, not to mention a minor flying to South Africa by herself requires some sort of parental or guardian permission. Or the mysterious email from SIL, or her friend coming to "join her". And then her being the product of cheating ... Wraps it up nicely in a neat little fake bow. This is probably one of the poorer creative writing nonfiction exercises I've heard. 😵‍💫

[@ian7064]

@@axlengland it may very well be. I can't imagine anyone would just go to south Africa so willingly

[@darkmask5933]

@@axlengland It makes zero difference if the story was real or fake though.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Just from the title it already doesn’t look for our first stories OP. Let the drama unfold. Story 2: wild story and proof that some family trees you gotta chop down and toss in the chipper

[@GBunnyG]

Story 2: effing Mormons.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Markee, I want to say thank you for the holiday backgrounds even though you have completely different seasons!

[@rasheedabasheer4046]

Story1: POV: When you use phrases like "we have never had fights" for a 2 year relationship either you are delusional or you are not giving it 100%. Which implies that your partner is either taking advantage of you or your partner is carrying the burden of the relationship.

[@TheLugiaSong]

Story 2's friend is an absolute legend, and good on OP for gettin outta there, that's difficult for a lot of people in such an abusive family so I have heard.

[@KJ-sp9jq]

Markee really went there with his Art Student reference 😂

[@OnyaB]

What’s the tea? That’s the only reason I checked the messages.

[@KJ-sp9jq]

@@OnyaB it's a Hitler reference. He was a failed Art student before becoming a dictator

[@erima4270]

Story 2: the best friend is a legend lol

[@CatLoverX74]

Story 2 I’m guessing OP was in FLDS it’s a religious group/cult in Salt Lake Utah. I’m so glad she escaped . Her parents were horrible to her! I’m actually surprised they didn’t try to marry her off when she was younger. A lot of them they marry them off when they’re 16 sometimes younger 😢 The fact he sold her to a 53 year old man is disgusting 🤮 I’m guessing he got $85k? 😂 I’m glad she overheard them so she knew she needed to go ASAP. The friend is absolutely fantastic! She really is an amazing friend. I think it’s amazing OP went all the way to Africa. I hope she has an wonderful life 😊

[@raz7573]

I hope they don’t find her. Personally, I would have lied and said I was in the US. He wants to sue her for 85K for reparations? Good luck with that. I wonder where he dug up that arbitrary number? Her friend is the best! I hope they both have happy lives.

[@ndawn90]

She's probably mainstream LDS, not FLDS. The FLDS practice polygamy, so she would have had more than one mom if she was FLDS. Source- I was raised LDS in Utah.

[@Llama_Whisperer]

@@ndawn90 Sorry, not even close to mainstream LDS. No selling of brides. Just ridiculous 😂

[@jauneork278]

OP1... The story basically reads to me as such. I left to join the military and destroyed my relationship by leaving her alone for a long period of time. Now my girlfriend is being distant with me after she told me she no longer wants to be with me, but she's not going to be the bigger person and just end things because she wants everything.

[@kirstenornelas881]

OP’s gf in the first story very much sounds like she is projecting her own crap on him to make him feel like he’s at fault for her choices. She wants to be single great, nothing wrong with that but blaming her decisions on his “negative energy” making him fully move out is insane. A couple should be able to rely on the other but you also need to keep independence but having him move out is not going to solve that and keep the relationship. That relationship with break up just from the natural consequences of making such an extreme decision to fix a small problem. You work through those issues, speak to each other and learn to give each other space. You don’t separate from each other the second anything seems like it might be a bad thing when in reality this is about one of the most common and tiny issues a relationship needs to survive. I feel bad for op because he very well might have been being more negative and having issues surrounding his career. That is a lot knowing you could be deployed at any point and knowing you have to spend months away at a time. However, a good partner helps you work through that not ignore you and kick you out. If this is how she manages small issues I fear the second anything big happens he will be back on here wanting to know what “he” did wrong. I truly hope he wakes up soon to the huge issues this relationship has. Really sad he can’t see what’s going on.

[@zerobolt9506]

Yea this, all of this, you said it better then anyone else so far.

[@eduardoguimaraes7447]

Sadly, most of the time simps learn too late.

[@coreymartin6486]

Shes keeping him as her backup and this guy is so oblivious to that and her desire to sleep with other men (too much love to give)....this guy is extremely gullible and simpish.

[@liquidglow21]

1. So it's me me me me me for the gf and if he doesn't simp himself and never have his own feelings he's the problem? She's cheating and won't give up her puppy dog servant... its so gross

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 2. What a horrible family! They are smashing their daughter like a roach because she won't step in what they consider should be her line. I worked in IT for years, and my husband did as well. My eldest son is a fiber optic engineer, my husband's father has his Ph.D. in mathematics, my mom was in telecommunications, my dad was a chemist, and my youngest wants to be a software engineer. My eldest daughter (eldest son's twin) wanted to go to college for studio arts. Guess what we did? WE SUPPORTED HER DREAMS! This is what parents do. Now, she owns her own business promoting both her own and other local artists and is unbelievably happy, and we are so proud of her.

[@abbyredrose128]

2nd story my biggest advice for op is if she does decide to move back to the US she needs to marry a friend. I have heard to many horror storys of people who have ran from cults getting into car crashes and if they arnt married the people who they contact if you are incompasitated is your parents...

[@coreymartin6486]

She essentially told him after he returned that she wants to have sex with other dudes and he can't recognize it.

[@videofan1010]

"I was the perfect boyfriend..." kind of a weird statement.

[@randomusername3873]

What the comments in story one seem to not grasp is that op is missing every issue of the situation, so him staying is not "the mature thing to do", it's him being guillible If he adressed the issues (like, I don't know, your girlfriend realizes you are depressed and the idea of helping doesn't even cross her mind) than maybe, but he seems to have no idea

[@skyelindsey687]

Yep. Reddit and his GF have him brainwashed into thinking he was the issue. I hate how anti-men most AITA Reddit commenters are. It’s only once every hundred or so posts that men get good advice because it usually devolves into a “you man so you bad” comment section.

[@owl7072]

Story 2: I would unironically say "I'd like to see you try and get laughed out of court" in response to the dad threatening to sue. Like, what proof, _legitimate proof,_ do you have that would actually make the courts side with you over this 💀

[@Artem2034]

No proof would be needed as the dad would incriminate himself. The story took place in US, where selling people is illegal. Funny thing is he already admitted to it via emails.

[@radish6740]

I would LOVE to see psycho zealot dad take op to court over his lost dowry. 🤣

[@oetgaol]

I would love to see those horrible parents take op to court. The judge will have a field day with that.

[@oetgaol]

@@thatjeff7550 even Mormon judges need to follow state and federal law.

[@jazzamethyst8225]

Op 1: She probably realized she liked living on her own more. My ex started taking bimonthly 1-2 week long trips out of state and I realized my work load became 1/3 of what it was and I was spending substantially less on groceries, utilities and everything else when he was gone. I was less anxious and was able to see my friends without someone blowing up my phone constantly while I was gone. After he moved out I went from spending $900-$1000 on groceries per month to about $400-$500 which includes myself and my child.

[@jasminebray2277]

I idk how op gf is being demonized

[@Grace_x68]

S2 Welcome in South Africa OP. Hope you find peace and love here. It's a crazy country but super lovely

[@dallezzra8063]

2nd story: I was raised LDS and I’ve never heard of anyone being treated like that. It’s absolutely disgusting and I can’t believe people still think like that in the modern world, but here we are. I’m so glad she was strong enough to be free! I hope she stays safe bc South Africa is known for crime….

[@TailsFan]

Might not be LDS, might actually be Scientology, since they talked about being heavily involved in science jobs and that actually kind of counters what LDS teaches and they are just as if not worse than the Fundamentalist LDS sects are.

[@ndawn90]

I was raised LDS in Utah and what OP describes sounds like the norm to me. I had plenty of friends whose families were totally like that. I had a friend whose parents wouldn't let him interact with non-mormons because they were trying to prepare him for his mission. You know, that thing where you spend two years talking to non-Mormons and trying to convince them to convert to the church? So yeah...

[@sequoyasierra5671]

So the best friend likened OP's Father to Wile E. Coyote from Looney Tunes? How funny. I guess that makes OP the Road Runner.

[@mweathers79]

S1: it’s YOUR best relationship. Girl was playing house with you, literally. There’s DEFINITELY someone else. Probably multiple someone else’s. After the Update: she’s gaslighting OP. Everything that’s wrong is his fault, his being depressed is bringing her down. Could it be that her distance and pulling away from him, that is adding to his depression? Couldn’t be, could it? What a joke. She wants to be in a relationship when it benefits her, but not when it doesn’t. She’s a cake-eater. “I didn’t actually consider the other guys that are flirting with me, so I need you to move out because I love you too much.” What?!?

[@Russman67]

Story 2: The friend Is a real one. Helped her escape. Sent the parents on wild goose chases to strip clubs and nudist camps. Here's hoping she gets out safe and catches up to OP wherever she settles in.

[@carlrood4457]

Story 2: Before the updates, I'm getting an adopted/affair baby vibe from this.

[@carlrood4457]

CALLED IT!!

[@cynthiabowser8014]

To everyone wondering there is a HUGE difference between FLDS and LDS! Night and Day!

[@dementesf]

After you move in together, moving out means break up.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

From the tone of OP’s update I thought I’d be one of those Negative Nancy’s that try to find fault with literally anything but I’m relieved the majority of people also found it messed up how all the blame got dumped on the OP. The comments really nailed down just how wrong the gf’s actions were and how false OP’s positive update is, like, several of the issues the gf had were more of a ‘her’ problem and there was no need to kick OP out for most of the other problems. His replies were a lot more reasonable and mature and yeah, Reddit can kick rocks for having no other solution other than condemn and break up because from the sound of it his relationship issue was just a bump on the road.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Additionally, a lot of context was missing that would’ve explained why the gf made such drastic choices, like how she had a patient die on her. That’s something that would debilitate most people.

[@seangarvey8232]

@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64 well then she needs a new profession or she will continually be this way

[@trashcan2748]

I didn’t trust the first OP to give the best info after the first post described himself as a “perfect boyfriend” like that. Something about describing yourself as not just great or good, but perfect, makes me feel like it’s a one sided perspective that really isn’t considering a lot of why the other person feels how they do. That whole story was a disaster tbh.

[@fufufuaru]

op1’s girlfriend is DISGUSTING. OP is having issues clearly but instead of helping op, she told him to MOVE OUT. yeah, she’s selfish alright. OP gotta break the damn rose-tinted glasses.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Initially I thought the same but after hearing most of the whole story the gf isn’t some dastardly villain but just someone that was dealing with a lot and made a wrong move. I know if I had someone die on me I wouldn’t be in a right headspace.

[@ajb7530]

Also, why does the guy have to move out? Why does she move out if she isn't happy? Also, when someone is going through things, be there for them.

[@YellaBellaReno]

@@ajb7530 maybe because he was already essentially moved out from leaving for 6 months? Maybe she owned most of the stuff? Maybe only her name is on the lease? Maybe because he can’t afford her place? Maybe because she is almost done with school, and will be moving soon anyway, so leaving and finding new housing would be more complicated for her? Just several possibilities, right off the top of my head…

[@atex6175]

@@YellaBellaRenohe was gone for a month not 6 reading comprehension isn’t your strong suit is buddy? She definitely found a Jody at work while he was doing his mandatory military service

[@YellaBellaReno]

@@atex6175 my bad. 1 month. Honestly, that makes her case even more understandable… because she didn’t ghost him for months.

[@rmhartman]

she doesn't want to break up with you -- you are her reliable guy to settle down with after she rides the carrosel for a while.

[@lynnw7155]

Story 2: "Leaving your family"?? At 22? That's called "moving out" in the real world. Most people do it. And the father's email...wow who wouldn't be tempted to go home 🤣.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Some people not most

[@Spendomaniac]

As others have said, it sounds more like her family were in a cult than a "normal" family.

[@InvasionAnimation]

The age to do that 35 now due to extreme price for home and other thing.

[@seangarvey8232]

@InvasionAnimation no one should be living with mom and dad at 35 foh.

[@InvasionAnimation]

@@seangarvey8232 I agree, sadly that is the way it is for most people these days due to the housing crisis.

[@jay2thaudy]

Last story was doing so well until the nudest colony pass out. Gave it away. Nevermind: Final update is where it really jumps the shark lol

[@bluebirbas]

I wonder if those emails could be used for proof of what op's family was like and in case something would happen

[@ruthhenderson5413]

That's why she's printing and saving them, isn't it?

[@jameyregier8054]

OP 2's story is amazing! I wish I was that strong at that age

[@rmhartman]

she wants to "live her life" ... like dating other guys

[@mythking541]

19:14 -> Parents out here not learning from history.

[@notconvincedgranny6573]

I'm dying at the Looney Toons "we out" reference.

[@sharonramirez8014]

This content thread has me wondering if i missed the whole first story lmao 😂😂 what? She's not leaving bc OP is having problems! She realized they were codependent and moved WAY too fast. That's NOT a break up, not selfish... it's her rose covered glasses that were removed in his absence... F'nking HEALTHIEST thing that could have happened

[@LaviniaKing-hz9ue]

Something is seriously wrong if you never had an argument/fight. Sounds like she realized that you smothered her, too much togetherness. Being in love doesn't mean you can't be independent and also mean you must communicate feelings/issues. 2. You're over 18 year old and parents can't force you to marry anyone. Parents can't sue you for doing what they were supposed to do. Even if you still lived in the same town there is nothing they could LEGALLY do to you. Maybe your mother could come in live with you and be free.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

The gf has some good points, but it also feels like OP might’ve been going through a hard time and she just wanted the old OP back. It doesn’t feel as optimistic as OP makes it seem.

[@deballen7031]

Very nice selection of stories with plenty of updates. Perfect!😊

[@tineve2002]

Story 2: What An Awesome Best Friend 👌

[@Vashti-g7i]

You should have sent them all to the police and possibly the FBI (there is a good chance the local police don't care) and have this documented. After, you asked for more information about the guy they sold you to. I'm sure this is very common where you are from.

[@beccaf262]

Browsing the comments has shown me how few people are able to comprehend grey areas.

[@ruthhenderson5413]

By "comprehend grey areas," do you mean "agree with your own interpretation of them"?

[@tamsel814]

Story 1: sounds like the gf just realised that she likes her life when he is not constantly with her.

[@ruthsaunders9507]

She should have broken up with him instead of stringing him along.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

2nd time hearing the first story and I'm still confused on why people thought she was cheating. It still sounds like she just changed her views on how the relationship was going and wanted to take a step back.

[@locusxe1411]

I don’t think she cheated but the way she went about things is what got me

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

@@locusxe1411 Yeah unless I missed the fact the house is hers, she should've been the one to move out imo

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Because usually females will cheat on military men while they are away, and how she went about things. Like, pretty much not even talking to OP while he was away, how she became distant, etc.

[@lynnw7155]

It's sad that men sometimes work/worry about a secure future and being able to 'provide' for their partner that they end up chasing their partner away.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

@@PinkMarshmallows Ah I see. As a military child that should've clicked faster

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

19:02 meanwhile aren’t tithes like 10%?

[@diamcole]

5:20 There's interdependence and then there's codependence. You should be able to function as an individual without having to circle back to your significant other like you're subbing them for a parent (or lack thereof) lol. I can understand wanting to be solid as an individual before continuing a romantic relationship with someone.

[@dessnatazha]

So OP had a depressive episode and the GF couldn't handle it? Major red flags

[@srideout91]

The last story is a wonderful fairytale.

[@sgtjarhead99]

OP is delusional. The two of you broke up the moment she asked you to move out. Enjoy the heartache when she dumps you again.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

No she didn’t ask him to break up with her .

[@cutespheal3442]

lmao the art school ref 😂😂😅 let them do art!

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S1- I think the gf is straddling the line of single life and relationship. She has Op that’s her commitment, responsibility,& familiarity. W/o OP she has ME time, coming to an empty apartment, the excitement of meeting new ppl. In this case, he was going through mental issues and she probably saw what her future was going to be. Maybe she wanted to distance herself so he could have space or she wants them to be separate so they can decide if being together or breaking up is the solution. They both need CC bc they seem to not communicate well and be there for each other through tough times.

[@SherriLyle80s]

S2 oooo .... Mormons. They practically run the entire state of Utah, government and all. That poor girl. 20:15

[@RobertCampsall]

Most people don't realize how much power the mormon church truly has in Utah. Frankly, most mormons need deprogramming. I had a friend in high school who was mormon (in Canada). She went to Utah and disappeared into the church there and is now a baby factory for a much older man. So much for her dreams and goals.

[@locusxe1411]

Story 1 I hope things work out for him I guess but if they don’t I wouldn’t be surprised. With you saying that she had a patient die on her that would definitely mess with her mental. Couples therapy is the best solution imo cause they need to work a lot of things out.

[@inloveharmonypeace6797]

Do more redit stories like this :) with a loads of uploads! Thank you! 💖💖🥰🥰💕💕

[@jonathanhinshaw588]

So instead of working together, let's kick him out instead smh

[@samgoeshiking]

Wow that last story. Holy cow. Glad OP got away.

[@gabrielle4152]

Last story: It's so sad how they treat a 22 year old woman like a child unable to take care of herself. They talk as if she was a 14 year old running away from home!

[@ComaLies225]

Don’t know why my comment was deleted. Anyway, still gonna say I choked at Markees insert at story 2😂

[@MrPete1985]

I thought that guy did get into art school but could not draw the human figure. I thought he did architecture drafts

[@samisass6759]

So the second things get bad, the girlfriend wants space. Yeah, definitely.Someone you want around.In the long term

[@HodajuciParadoks]

2. It is for the best that OP does not post where she is . She was in the cult, good that she escaped.

[@IrisAsuras]

They're 24 YO? Story 1 - 24 years old? People can move in that young, but also, they're young. She may just not be ready and communicated that terribly.

[@carlrood4457]

She's getting ready to monkey branch. OP is now her backup

[@cynthiabowser8014]

To add to a previous comment, don't lump all members of a denominations together.

[@TheAuntJo]

OP2 - stay safe and live a long happy life.

[@braidygal]

So story 1. I’m thinking GF wanted to go with someone else, but it didn’t work out so now they’re back with OP. She’s got him so on the hook. He’s just the fish trying to get that bait that isn’t even a real worm…

[@GermanMae]

Markee, that art school comment had me cackling 🤣💀

[@CensorshipVictim]

Story 1 NTA: OP needs to stop simping for his girlfriend and return her to the streets.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

30:30 That 'Abade' should be pronounced more like "aw biddy" because that's a clear reference to Porky Pig closing the cartoon and stuttering over his "line" (likely _"I bid_ you adieu") and instead saying "That's all folks." That's silly her dad was portrayed as apparently Wile E. Coyote - I would've probably gone with Yosemite Sam (considering his impotent raging) though I guess his plan for OP falling through is why she went with Wile E. Anyway, I'm rooting for OP, and hope only the best for her.

[@mindyschocolate]

South Africa story: I feel like this story is fake. I won’t mention South Africa as the choice of country to flee to, since maybe that’s possible, but it’s the fact someone who’s lived in Utah refers to math as “maths”. No US citizen refers to the school subject in the plural. That’s not done here. ETA: still not buying it. Even with British parents, you’re still surrounded by literally everyone else who refers to math singularly. First gen kids of immigrants typically have American style accents too.

[@rachelhillman910]

It's very fake. Things don't add up. This person has only read things about Mormons and hasn't actually lived the experience. They make a lot of mistakes.

[@victoriathornton2973]

Based on the mentions of being in a ward, paying tithing, and being in Utah I'm going to assume that the last OP's family are members of the Church of Jesus of Latter Day Saints. If this is true... I am so, so, sorry OP that your family did this to you, and your ward didn’t support you. I mean, Im sorry either way because this is horrible, but specifically because I'm also a member, I'm extra sorry. If I were in her ward amd witnessing what was happenjng I would have gone to OP and asked her if she wanted help getting away. I may not have been able to do much besides letting her stay in my home while she figured out how to truly get away, but even that is better than what others did. I'd also be reporting everything I could to every appropriate channel that could help remedy the situation. No one, regardless of age, gender, race, authority, or religion has the right to put others through that, nor do they deserve to be put through that. I wish I could give a hug to OP and every other person who has ever gone through something like this. It's horrible.

[@johnbradbury8610]

story 1, Op-I'm convinced she didn't cheat because I asked her and she told me she didn't Yeah because no cheater has ever lied about it.

[@jamesstapleton3002]

Calling fake or a complete bs on 1, way to many “buzz words”. And….just sad….dude/op….take the L and move on. The not sending someone to art school…I had to pause cause I was laughing so much 😂

[@nyb3672]

Right, so was ANYONE surprised to learn the father is a cop?

[@inichan8786]

Particular man WAS send to artschool.....they kicked him out.

[@yahainHotPink]

Thank you

[@hyzenthlayrose2176]

The OP in the second post has never seen Looney Tunes...??

[@justinburgard4700]

S1) This relationship is so freaking doomed its stupid...