I have 800k subscribers and I still get social anxiety.

[@VanessaLau]

Thank you for watching! If you want to read more about my experience and learnings going to Sony's Camera Camp, you can read it here! www.thecreatorjournal.co/p/lessons-at-sony-camp

[@PhantomOfManyTopics]

No one wants to hear about your social anxiety.

[@srishtimsr]

​@@PhantomOfManyTopics no one wants you spreading hate on her channel

[@jerryGolddd]

man you are cool! i really admire your aura now! :)

[@janedoeg3550]

@@PhantomOfManyTopics There's 10k views in 4 days, so speak for yourself and not for people you don't know. And if you don't want to hear about it, why are you here? The title is clear, you didn't have to click unless you have spare hate to spread.

[@liviubeschieri]

An alternative to that reframe of whether I like them, could be "I don't need to be liked, I just need to be myself, and let alignment take care of the rest."

[@VanessaLau]

LOVE!! This is even better

[@liviubeschieri]

@@VanessaLau happy to hear that, yeah it's even lighter 🤗

[@CreatorsBurnout2Brilliance]

yes - i love this - great words.👏🏼👏🏼💯💯

[@thepraiseochuko]

Switching from obsessing on “Do they like me?” To “Do I like them?” is such a power move!!❤👏🏾

[@VanessaLau]

Yes, it definitely brings the power back to you and makes you recognize that your thoughts matter too

[@youtubeuser6725]

Social skills is like one of the most important things to learn but no one teaches us or emphasizes it at all

[@thepodcasthaven]

Avoidance creates more anxiety! Gotta lean in!

[@MarkHarbert]

Vanessa. I am loving the low edit style of your videos. These videos are like having a conversation and thats what makes them cool. Appreciate you and your vulnerability. I am by nature very introverted. What really helped me was forcing myself to talk to people and network with people. At first it was hard, now going to events and talking with people is something I love and look forward too. Also, one book I HIGHLY recommend is "How To Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. I think it should be required reading for every human. Such a great book for people interaction. You rock.

[@VanessaLau]

Thank you so much! Yes, I've decided to start editing my own videos - so the result is naturally a lower edit as it's a reflection of my skillset haha! But also yes, I do feel the low edit captures the essence of the video and allows it to feel more conversational. Congratulations on developing your skill with talking to people to the point where you now look forward to it! That's amazing. And yes, I've read that book and was told "How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes is a modern version of that! You rock too Mark! :)

[@Richard_Cruz_Houston]

Thank you so much for shearing. Recovery from burnout can be such a challenging and personal journey, and it sounds like you’re doing a lot of important work on yourself right now. Remember to be patient with yourself during this process. It’s okay to take things one step at a time and to honor where you’re at in your recovery. If there’s anything specific you’re struggling with or if you just need someone to listen,we here for you. Keep going; you’re doing great sister!!

[@vihariii4754]

Dear Vanessa, as a starting KZbinr, you've taught me and helped so much people learn not just KZbin, but the lifestyle behind it, you were literally a boon and you taught us so many things others did not and all for free, and comprehensively, thank you so much. thank you so much. honestly this video is so beautiful and made me feel so much less alone. thank you so much. i love you.

[@allydore]

As a fellow creator who took her first 2 month break, I have been loving your past few videos! THANK you for being vulnerable and sharing!

[@melaniegriesemer]

I can so relate to this!! I used to be so comfortable socializing and going to events and talking to strangers, it came natural to me but then after COVID lockdowns being in that hermit bubble for so long, then being unemployed, avoiding meeting people and networking because of those inevitable “so what do you do?” Questions. But this is good news that we truly can improve upon our skills! Love this mindset

[@ArtByHazel]

I feel you. It takes a lot of courage to remember who we are at the core without judging ourselves for feeling anxious. It took me awhile to accept that social anxiety is a real thing. Although it can be a great thing to know more of ourselves and others. And changing the stories we tell ourselves while reframing everything we’re conditioned to believe. The good news is… We’re all doing our best to choose being better, healthier, and wealthier. Shoutout from MTL. Life is a messy and beautiful thing to experience. ❤

[@arwqs]

Thank you. As a content creator going through a burn out phase, this actually helps a lot. Now I will Make an effort to overcome my lack of communication. Thanks girl ✌️🙏

[@HIDDENADHD]

Great work Vanessa! All this stuff you talk about hits content creators who struggle with ADHD even more. That's what I've seen from my audience.

[@VanessaLau]

Oh that is so interesting!! Can you elaborate how this would help someone with ADHD?

[@paidcopywriter]

Just a word about making friends in a new city as an introvert - I actually found it easier to make friends in a brand new city versus my old town because in a new city you have no choice. Back at home, I'd try to make new friends and when it didn't "work" I'd just give up and stick with my old friends because it was easier. Something about having no other options can really be the push for us introverts to get out there, make ourselves uncomfortable, and push past the initial obstacles instead of giving up ✨

[@lbks16]

I just simply say to people that I make music as an introvert and they see it as friendly and interesting than usual job conversations

[@oops_itseli]

This is so relatable! There have been times when I feel like I finally made progress and got invited to attend events and jobs, but I immediately feel like a fraud. There have also been times when my anxiety was so bad that I thought I’d self-sabotaged. Reframing mindset is so important. So, great job for speaking out! Thank you for sharing

[@BBenoist]

That is so cool you were invited to the Sony event, and there were no expectations asked of you except to have fun and learn. I need to get on their radar for next year - LOL. I have been enjoying your return.

[@VanessaLau]

Yeah! it was a really chill event and I was blown away by Sony's generosity. It definitely left an amazing impression on their brand. I'm excited about their new Sony ZVe10 II too! They make great cameras for creators!!

[@BBenoist]

@@VanessaLau Me too. I have the Sony ZV-E10 and A7IIi. Best cameras out there for creators! (Sony...if you are reading this, I'd love to come next year!)

[@alishathebensontribe]

This was very helpful! I’m a very, very small creator and I feel this way so often. Not that I’m saying “I’m glad I’m not the only one” because i don’t want anyone to feel that way. BUT, it makes me feel a little better. I really like your perspective.

[@joshuargauthier]

I resonate with this so much! Imposter syndrome comes out of nowhere for me too, so I have been working diligently on my confidence and positive self-talk.

[@Dr_Ayman_1]

and remember courage is doing something despite the fear ( no one is fearless because fear is always there and you need to face it every time or fear will grow and will take control of the mind )

[@kailimagdalena]

You're the most down to earth person explaining this stuff, and it especially helps that you understand social anxiety. Appreciate you so much!💖

[@AgingOnYourTerms]

As an introvert, who was pushed into creating video content because no one wants to read anymore, I had anxiety about being the face of my channel, so I went faceless. But that was not the best way to approach my niche. Tackling my introversion will be a video-by-video task.

[@beebsblue]

As a majorly introverted person, I can totally relate. It’s partly why I started making youtube videos so I can improve my speaking skills

[@ReandAlKaminsky]

Love love love this. “Never eat alone” is another favorite book that helps tremendously with building these skills

[@janedoeg3550]

I really appreciate how much of your personal life you share. It helps give others perspective, most people out there will not share these small details, they try to seem perfect, so it's a challenge for the rest of us to understand what goes on inside a successful person's mind. I didn't know that many creators were actual introverts in person. How did you manage to speak at events though, that sounds a bit terrifying when you're an introvert (I am one myself.) Thank you!

[@__Jordann_]

Thank you so much for sharing! I honestly really love the content that you are putting out now and the lessons that you are learning, I feel like it’s really valuable ❤ Also I love the newsletter I never read emails but this is just awesome, just had to say😅❤❤

[@pastorrandy]

You already know about video hooks. Now think in terms of conversation hooks, but in reverse. Something I have learned in new social situations is to listen first, and then find hooks in what I've heard that will give me an on-ramp to ask questions to draw out the other person to talk about themselves (people love to do that, btw) and continue looking for hooks inside hooks to continue asking questions and making connections through shared history. Sharing history is a great way to move from mere acquaintanceship to potential friendship. Hope this is helpful for you.

[@TellitTay]

Love this!!❤️👏🏾

[@VanessaLau]

Oh great perspective about looking for conversation hooks! Yes, I learned that continuing conversation is an art in itself too after the small talk dies - love the focus on looking for hooks!

[@DAN-qi6pm]

Thanks for posting! I appreciate you sharing your journey and making these candid videos that talk about the mental and emotional roller coasters that happen behind the scenes for content creators. You're really helping content creators by sharing your experiences and offering these insights!

[@movementcreatorTV24]

Thank you for sharing this! I appreciate you sharing your feeling about imposter syndrome and being hyper-critical, I feel similarly about myself, and appreciate you being vulnerable. Thank you for being brave!

[@MrScott2435]

I would love you to make a video on how to socialize with tools that are actually useful

[@SupportmiaJ]

This video is relatable . I’ve had the same epiphany about how I have these 1000s of followers yet I’m shy af in real life

[@AlienaCai]

Venessa, I LOVE this new era of you! I resonate with you on a much higher and deeper level with your new videos. Keep going 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@katie]

Loved these reflections! that mindset shift is HUGE 👏

[@VanessaLau]

i miss you already!!! have fun on your august break!!! talk to you soon :)))

[@Mv3Trader]

Powerful video! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. 🙏🏾✨💎

[@VanessaLau]

Thank you so much!

[@Creativelifelab]

Hi Vanessa I just wanted to say thanks for your recommendations and sharing of your own experiences. It has helped empower my own circumstances. You’re doing great. May it continue 😅

[@itzmejunela]

Thank you for sharing this, Vanessa :) Awesome!

[@CreatorsBurnout2Brilliance]

you created the powerful mindset reframing technique to address the moments of self doubt and social anxiety - our minds can play these games with us but it 's job is to support us so when we think doubt and feel anxious dread, hey presto! it will support that. If we think (or reframe) "hey i can do this!, I am worthy and deserving" then our body will follow through with greater calmness and inner confidence. It takes practise, because the mind learns through repetition. Vanessa you are an amazing individual, keep creating, stay healthy!👏🏼👏🏼💯💯

[@vicikene13]

This is golden information! Thank you so much!❤ i also sometimes think im invtroverted and maybe i have too crazy dreams and people camt fit in my life. But im rlly extraverted and open hearted person.

[@VictoriaWrites]

It's so refreshing seeing you gradually get yourself back Vanessa. As long as you stay true to yourself and make conscious effort in the areas you care about, watch yourself blossom to the beautiful flower you are, whichever flower you choose to be. I'm sending you great love ❤ and support 💪 and a warm virtual hug🤗

[@JessicaLaShawn]

I totally feel you on this

[@Ladyoutside]

Me Too!

[@themicrodosementor]

What you’re sharing makes me think of PTG, post traumatic growth…or rather the economic term Antifragility: becoming stronger from our challenging experiences in life. Something I mentor on with the use of sacred plants 🌱 🍄

[@themicrodosementor]

Also when you chat with strangers and neighbors builds community, which helps us feel grounded.

[@VanessaLau]

oh ive never heard of PTG! I love that

[@brainphormula]

Thank you for sharing. This video really resonates with me as someone that has struggled with social anxiety for most of my life. Keep up the great work!

[@cannabinista]

Thank you for another amazing video where you're being so vulnerable with your audience! Your content has been SO relatable for me. Would you ever do a video about how you found your mentor, how you structure your meets with your mentor, what that whole experience is like? Thank you and looking forward to your next video!

[@VanessaLau]

My mentor and I met through a mastermind years ago and developed a friendship! He'd often be there for me when times got tough, and it wasn't until this year where we decided to make it an official mentor relationship since I wanted his support on a more consistent rather than casually. I think in the future I could probably do a video about my experience working with mentors though, since I've had many!

[@mrstrawberry2628]

May all your wishes come true in your heart feeling soul

[@Lifebyclairevlogs]

I really feel your vulnerability and storytelling is the way forward for you. Lots of channels tell how to practically grow a KZbin company but next to none show how to grow as a person alongside channel growth. I really wish this content was around five years ago. Personal development is your jam. Perhaps look to Erin may Henry (I think that’s her name) for inspiration although you are very different there could be some overlap I think. I wish you the best moving forward Vanessa ❤

[@yeshayah123]

Thank you Vanessa

[@taywilburn1447]

I am a huge fan of Katie...so wild that you mentioned her & that you guys are friends. I love to see it! 🥰

[@TrvisXXIII]

I’m sad you made that video private @<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="142">2:22</a> ☹️ Love the message behind the video as always, Vanessa ❤️

[@VanessaLau]

@@TrvisXXIII it’s public on my channel, I filmed the broll when the video wasn’t posted yet

[@ketolorabaltimore1843]

I absolutely love this and understand all your thoughts. I feel like I don’t even want employees again. That’s why I want to do an online business.

[@180waves]

You’re stunning ❤ and communicate so effectively, I would have never thought you felt that way about conversing with others

[@jackiethelifecoach]

I always thought I would be bad at talking to new people unless alcohol is involved lol this video really opened my mind

[@themicrodosementor]

I LOVE that you’re sharing this journey of the dream life. Because it can happen to anyone of us and we need a reference ❤ and that you’re friends with Katie S.

[@VanessaLau]

Katie is incredible! And thank you so much for watching!

[@evolutionaryTom]

I hope you quickly get to where you always should have been. You're doing great.

[@VanessaLau]

Thank you so much Tom! I love how your channel explores your various interests. Very cool!

[@gabewanderer322]

I haven't read The Fine Art of Small Talk, but it looks good. I did read Conversationally Speaking by Alan Garner and I really liked it. I'm definitely someone who still has a lot to learn about how to socialize.

[@Officialcalebchae]

Vanessa ~ you just one of my favorite people

[@JustAlyx]

Unfortunately, there is no universal manual on how to develop social skills. What works for you may not work for me. It's really trial and error. But the more you do it, the easier it gets. It's all about understanding people and how their circumstances and environment shape who they are.

[@folasewaidowu907]

I LOVE your videos, especially these types! And you look so so beautiful 😍 thanks for the video as usual!

[@prettysmartpresius]

Another great video that just shows a healthy bright woman, doesn't matter if you "know it all" lol ❤

[@Shah-Ritess88]

Need to avoid peoples things and chats bcz you have a valuable person and its a good decision you start up new way always smile be happy 🍂

[@quann06]

I hope to be blessed with many subscribers one day.

[@LouisLuzuka]

Thanks for being there for us ❤

[@CoilyCode]

FYI: Introverts and Social Anxiety are NOT the same thing. One is a personality trait, the other is a mental struggle. I just wanted to point that out because not all introverts have social anxiety.

[@VanessaLau]

Thats a great point! thank you for sharing!!

[@CoilyCode]

@@VanessaLauno worries 🥰 just two cents. Great video and glad to see so many of introverts overcoming this ❤

[@srishtimsr]

Hey Vanessa, awesome video as always - been loving your content since your return. Quick curious question: did you edit this video yourself? Like you mentioned in the IG story. The video is still absolutely amazing... I'm just curious why you chose to discontinue working with the anonymous video editor (their work was stunning in the last few videos).... But hey, if you're editing yourself, maybe you can share your editing process in a vlog?! Would love that. ❤

[@mrmoeezali]

I would like to Thank you for not making clickbaity titles, thumbnails, and being yourself / authentic to your audience. Sharing your conversation with your life coach / mentor are very useful to me, I got so much value from his insights. Its always good to not given ultamatums and be open to suggests. Avoiding life & problems always generates a lot of anxiety. Best wishes with the new business that you're working with your husband with, If you need an internet marketer HMU! Another great video with SO much value!

[@stillgoddy]

Socializing is one skill I suck at 😅.

[@TipsMedsos]

Thank you,information very amazing. I like it. I really appreciate i think videos wow

[@MrScott2435]

Love the videos Vanessa, super relatable!

[@tlst94]

What if every social media followed the rule of Dunbar's Number? By having a 150 friend/subscriber limit. As our human brains can only maintain relationships with about 150 people. Anymore than that would've been too much for the brain to handle and things wouldn't function properly. Our species throughout history had always had groups of 150 individuals; hunter gatherers, tribes, businesses, and military units. This study was discovered in the early-1990s by British anthropologist, Robin Dunbar. Who studied brain sizes of many primates, humans included. We have bigger brains so our social circles are bigger than other species. So, what do you think about Dunbar's Number?

[@GennyGMusic]

I'm still amazed how such a big creator and super successful gal like Vanessa can feel anxiety, being frod and so on. You have so much validation of your success. So all that is just crazy. You are cool and absolutely a wonder woman ✌🏻 ps But I really wonder who managed to inject so much insecurity into you =(

[@pastorrandy]

Here's the bottom line, Vanessa. You have to eat. You can get food either by stealing it (that's not you) Depending on someone else to provide it to you (that's not you) Working for someone else being an employee ( that doesn't appear to be you either ) or Working for yourself (there is evidence that this might be you) So, your value and worth are not tied to any of these alternatives. Your value and worth comes from the fact that - YOU ARE. The mathematical probability of your existence as YOU is infinitesimally small, so the fact that YOU ARE is the evidence, in and of itself, that you have value and worth. Otherwise, YOU would not be here - someone else would be (or no one would). So, Vanessa is here, and she has value and worth simply because she is here. Now all we have to do is figure out what to do with Vanessa. You've got this, girl! You already have a track record to fall back on for encouragement. Instead of trying to discover the map, how about drawing the map, instead? Best wishes for the future.

[@VanessaLau]

"Instead of trying to discover the map, how about drawing the map, instead?" OOOOF now THATS A WORD! Thank you for sharing this. Definitely felt goosebumps reading the last line.

[@TellitTay]

Vanessa❤ your recent videos I feel like you’re talking to me as a friend, and it’s been so refreshing!!🥹 Been trying to recover from severe burnout for months, it’s been so difficult to get back in the groove especially with recent life changes. So much unlearning, recreating and reidentifying myself. Appreciate you for sharing your truths in your experiences!!

[@LouisLuzuka]

The skill section 😮

[@Eugene.Berezin]

You know what… my husband is the other way around. He’s awesome in person but he has social anxiety on social media.

[@sirpaulsguidebook]

i love you

[@user-ve3wp8sv1z]

I loved this video! ❤❤

[@LouisLuzuka]

Thanks for sharing this 😮

[@LouisLuzuka]

I feel this ❤

[@tinymomZ]

Yeah I always ask myself that's why I'm still stuck ,

[@jjcutieboi]

How can anyone dislike you?

[@mahdinaji-pf3im]

For social anxiety

[@Eddiesleaf]

Gorgeous🙂

[@lea856]

What is the info of the book about small talk? Ty

[@tic1tac2toe]

Who is your mentor

[@coachkusumadewi]

Im curious do ur mentor have youtube/books/website ?

[@LouisLuzuka]

What are those books 😅please 🎉

[@tic1tac2toe]

Do you have a Boot Camp? I can attend. Or can I Airbnb your room next to you and learn everything you have to offer and I will give you 10% of my life earning.

[@Irani-tv8lz]

♥️

[@Lucky-charm01]

Hi how can i reach out to you

[@NikeBoaes]

Alguma brasileira perdida por aqui¿

[@Dr_Ayman_1]

you need to try rejection therapy it's very helpful

[@VanessaLau]

oh gosh ive seen videos of people doing rejection therapy, it takes so much courage!!

[@Dr_Ayman_1]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="0">00:00</a> Sony Camera Camp <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="62">01:02</a> Imposter Syndrome <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="99">01:39</a> Mindset Shift <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="170">02:50</a> Being an Introvert <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="227">03:47</a> Avoidance <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="339">05:39</a> Personality vs. Skill <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="493">08:13</a> Building Tolerance <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="609">10:09</a>: MORE Lessons

[@thisorthaat]

❤❤

[@minthangwithmommy5078]

Anyone who wants to grow your channel 👍👍

[@LOWISHA-JHMNS]

I have only 25 subscribers yet

[@artisnearbybtc]

не хилдо я хочу сотрудничатьс с сони

[@mahdinaji-pf3im]

Warch Julienhimself channel

[@upppstream]

Exposure therapy yep 👍 the world doesn't get easier it's still as hard as it's always been you just become harder... Wait pause... Hahahaha 🤣

[@Armyrules27]

Maybe you do not need 800k but 1, Islam Try read Quran and see how 'HE' guides you

[@solocaradventure]

Everytime I see one of your videos in the algorithm it’s about something you’re going through personally. No offense it’s just I don’t want you to pigeon hole yourself into emotional raw content maybe make it a mix

[@AlbertoGuerrero-x3y]

Hi Vanessa. Hit me up. I will recommend courses that will totally resolve all your social anxiety, etc. I promise. I will not let you down.

[@camillabergersen2961]

Thank you so much for bringing this up! I honestly feel relieved that someone that established in social as u can feel both socially anxious and extroverted on camera but introverted off cam. Makes me feel less alone and also gives me hope. 🙏🩷

[@VanessaLau]

You're welcome! In fact, there's a lot of creators that have social anxiety. KZbin is the best job for introverts because it's just you and a camera !!!