I Have Severe Anxiety About the Future

[@Nadia-Q1]

I have never related to a stranger more than this caller. It’s time to stop looking for answers outside of myself. @Dr. Delony - keep doing God’s work. You’re a blessing to many of us.

[@Dorinaaah]

For real ❤

[@delightschwartz2155]

Vaya Con Dios, Abuelo. Your grandfather's legacy and courage will live on in the hearts and minds of his family. Thank you for sharing your story. America is blessed with the blood, sweat and tears of those who choose to join its ranks.

[@amyitis]

It's great that Delony understands different cultural values and cultural norms... that's why it's important to get a therapist that understands it rather than judges you for it.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

From near nervous break down at 0:23 to smiling and laughing about his grandfather at 19:00 . The power and love of Dr. John’s words and comfort in a 22 min convo! ❤️🥹

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

He is a gift 🥹 this is truly his calling

[@Goobypls6969_]

Masterful job of calming Martin down so he could help him. The difference between the beginning and end of the call is amazing.

[@focused7786]

The best motivation I have as an immigrant child is seeing my mother press my fathers clothes as if he was going to an executive office job, and he left at 3am to work at a gas station. He would come home to sleep and then the best he could give us was watching cartoons with us. My mother worked as a waitress and then as a maid. When I have a bad day in my remote job with AC, I go to that memory. We keep cushioning our lives and our minds are the ones to suffer!

[@maria319]

Very well said 🙏

[@yellowowl]

Sending huge love to this caller. You ALREADY are a great man ❤ Your family must be so proud of you.

[@arianaramirez9274]

I love this episode. ❤ As an immigrant, I needed to hear Dr. Joh Delony’s perspective and understanding. Thank you.

[@desireesalas5820]

This one almost made me cry. RIP "Abuelo"

[@luck9837]

97 years old is an amazing age to reach that many of us will never reach, thats a blessing in itself, the scary and also beautiful thing about life is nothing last forever

[@blah7694]

I think he must be 90 now because he said he was 87 when they were in Vegas 3 years ago, still a long life though.

[@vananavas]

This was a really great call. Thanks John, thanks Martin.

[@Katie-sf7jt]

John Delony is a caring man.

[@jacquelineclairereinerical4831]

I just wanna say how much I appreciate your show. I know you’re not therapist, but I also know you have an MD in counseling. I recently started going back to therapy for some of my own issues and I honestly find your show somewhat more helpful because it’s very straightforward. You don’t beat around the bush and give people actable real advice to help them improve their behavior. I’ve only been watching for a couple of months, but I watch every episode even if it’s not related to things I’ve gone through myself because I get so much good insight.

[@FStyleWWE]

He's not a therapist??? Really? Man, his advices are the best I've heard all over social media! Well he has also wrote books on anxiety so even if not a therapist he knows what he's saying!

[@jacquelineclairereinerical4831]

@@FStyleWWE i’m not sure I just am going by what heard on the show which is he has several PHDs but he’s not a therapist I don’t think

[@harleyhagans]

"You're using information as a shot of whiskey." Is one of the hardest things I've needed to hear.

[@tamcsilva]

Me too.

[@aembusiness]

“it numbs you from taking action..” so true

[@JCaceres91]

I can relate to this, almost made me cry

[@kdub10009]

💕

[@SassyL62]

the last part on the love of God had me in tears

[@SassyL62]

and reminded me of my mothers love 🤍 I’m so lucky and miss her so.. lost too soon

[@tristan4021]

Theres alot of people that come to this country that soend 40 years and never learn english. Mad respect for this guy and his family!

[@aembusiness]

This call was really helpful. I often spend hours seeking information and I need to spend more time putting the information I’ve already gathered to good use.

[@TLTSofit]

What an incredible call. Thank you both for sharing this moment with us. So incredible. You walked him to the center cause, then equipped him with tools and left him with hopefulness- that hit home for me and left me in tears but also left me so impressed with how quickly and effectively you navigated it all! Thank you thank you thank you ❤ both! Incredible.

[@karis7649]

immigrants are so damned impressive. What an amazingly difficult thing to have to do, for the peace of a _future_ generation of your family.

[@Scooby_Snax]

This was beautiful and I cried lol For this only being my second video watch of your content, I say bravo. There's so much honesty, tough love and compassion here and actually helpful advice.

[@oldrichjuranek7341]

Living only for others soon or later chase you, preventing to become yourself. Find small light in the darkness for yourself, start setting up your bounderies.

[@wf4983]

Yes. That could be a part of the problem here. Family business is tough business for the individual. As fantastic such a community is

[@ilai7893]

It's tough, but this guy's upbringing is pretty much that of the immigrant family struggle. Many cultures do choose to show love to their children through gritting their teeth to provide, and nobody has the time to put in the inner work. I appreciate Martin's courage to call and make the most of the mentality of grit engrained in him and learn to not live in crisis mode, which many poor immigrant families had done before

[@bigdave2073]

What a phenomenal young man. You got this, brother.

[@victoriaschlenz8566]

Praying for your family during this time Martin. Thank you for sharing as well, I hope you find the peace you are looking for. You are amazing!

[@Drewhasit]

This call is one for the books. Very insightful.

[@mariiners9582]

I’ve never related to something more. When I turned 28 something in me just flipped, I felt dead inside, I became very unhappy with my life but I had so much to be grateful for I had a job that I had the luxury to work from home, a boyfriend who loves me and family I love. I no longer lived pay check to pay check I just found myself bored and very lonely. I tried to do thing to distract myself but like Dr said you have to look within. I don’t know how to do that I don’t know what that even means. I know I have been chasing happiness since and I have yet to find it. Thankfully I am a little better, I’ve learned a lot in the 2.5 years of going through depression and anxiety & I know there is light at the end of the tunnel but it hasn’t been easy & I will not lose hope. I wish this man finds his happiness soon! Wishing him well ❤

[@SJ-tb2wq]

Same. I think it's because we're focused on chasing security and BOOM we finally get to a safe space then we are doomed to deal with the demons of our past. It was easy to ignore them because we grinded and fought every day to get out of the problems. But then when you are on stable ground, you're forced to have to deal with the next problem. The emotional ones inside. The toughest problems to "fix".

[@Peliculost]

I relate to you so much Martin. Hang in there. I should be grateful because I had it good. But I fight anxiety every day. Best of luck dude we got this.

[@laurenandreas5950]

I am so impressed with how honest & trustworthy this young man is!!! I Love Him! We need more men in America like him!!! God Bless You & Your Family! I wish you were my neighbor! ❤️

[@10tepeyac]

Thank you Dr Deloney for validating his pain as being an immigrant child. I came to live here at 10 and I felt it affected me a lot and you verbalized what I went through so well

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

So many from all around the world..picked up and left love and normal for another country...

[@sylviakanel9766]

What a privilege to get to watch this. I've just read your book on anxiety. It was profound. Seeing you work here was no less profound. Thank you. 💜🙏🏼💜

[@amyesush]

One of my favorite interviews ❤

[@amyethridge1798]

Finally getting around to listening and I’m thankful I did!! So helpful, so informative and so positive. Thank you 😊

[@adventurousdoglover]

God! I literally started googling Bible verses that had to do with anxiety or whatever I was going through and not only did that help me get through, but reframing my mindset and truthfully a service dog has helped, but I understand the struggle and it does get better❤❤

[@CoffeeSA96]

One of the biggest causes of anxiety is twitter. The algorithm is made to make a person angry and anxious and to make everything polarised

[@kdub10009]

Yes, thank you. I spent half the weekend arguing with people on twitter and it was not great for my peace of mind (to say the least).

[@tamcsilva]

Twitter is a cesspool. My ex is addicted to it.

[@ering7733]

Yes! All social media especially if your prone to reading the comment section

[@FStyleWWE]

Facebook is like that too. There's almost no content. Most are posts of someone sharing "this is wrong" and usually is a statement so vague that can only start a war in the comments. That's exactly what happens and you are met by people that think the exact opposite of what you think so there will never be a point of agreement. The discussion will end with insults to each other that will only leave you bitter. Meanwhile the algorythm will push this kind of content because it creates engagement. No one can stop this process. Only you can stop reading and replying.

[@kmac6404]

Aww, what a sweet and funny story this young man has of going to Vegas with his grandfather ❤

[@karydiaz74]

Oh my goodness I can relate 😢 so good to hear ❤

[@STAR393]

This one really took me back to 9 years old me. Great advice, going to write those letters to myself ! ❤

[@garrett1921]

I’m just like this, always searching for more information.

[@1blestmomamoe472]

This sweet young man, I feel for him…. My Dad strangled my mom & that day we had to only move from Denver Colorado 🇺🇸 to Alberta Canada 🇨🇦 I was held back in grade 1 bc I couldn’t count Canadian $ but I’m pretty sure It’s bc I was traumatized & moved to another country. Thank GOD I didn’t have to learn a new language but I do have severe anxiety 40 years later😢

[@jamesstanton3280]

I hope you can heal sending ❤️

[@1blestmomamoe472]

@@jamesstanton3280 Thank YOU🥰

[@ayyyejesterdazed]

🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️sending lots of love from Denver COLORADO! I was born in Los Angeles and we moved to Winter Park because my dad was abusive to my mom

[@1blestmomamoe472]

@@ayyyejesterdazed Much LOVE right back at ya GIRL😘❤️🙏🏼❤️🥰

[@gordythecat]

Love to you from 🇨🇦 also. I tried the DARE app for my anxiety and it helped me tons (I just used free version).

[@Unique-510]

I really related to this subject of conversation. Thank you Dr & your wonderful guest 🙌

[@twokois7032]

Needed to hear this, You are A Legend!

[@J0t6326]

Omg this made me tear up 🙏🏻 beautiful

[@Bunni.23]

This one hit home

[@shanelym.garciabravo]

BTW I’m Guatemalan ethnicity wise not Mexican

[@cynicallyyours61]

Moving as a child is stressful in itself, my family moved so many times. Fitting in at a new school is a struggle, without the added struggle of learning a new language. I too searched for happiness, peace and gratitude in all the wrong places, until I realised it was within me.

[@Kitty-c9p]

I pray for strength to get through... period. I believe it can be done

[@mavs4life248]

This resonated deeply. Thank you.

[@rebeccassofa]

I'm not an immigrant, but I can so relate to this guys story. Great advice 👍 you're amazing 👏

[@tonatiuhnino3711]

This hits hard on my birthday today.

[@orphansparrow2]

Happy birthday. Belated. :)

[@vhol93]

Great call

[@mow9163]

Martin, bro' , if you read that I want you to know I started to get into religion at 31 years old because I felt something was missing in my life and, I will soon be 34. As someone with ADHD and on the spectrum, I suffer from severe anxiety and have a tendency to look for the negative everywhere. But the bible and God promise helped me a lot and give me a lot of hope. It also helps me with grieving ( not saying you won't be sad but the hope for the future will help you to recover a bit better ). Believe me, once you learn to know Jehovah God, and his wonderful Son, our king Jesus Christ and everything they have put in place for us to be forgiven for our sins, you will learn to be grateful for every little things in life, and slowly learn to find the positive in the negative. Your life won't be perfect but it will be better overall and prayer from the heart does help a lot with anxiety. I will pray for you tonight. Take care.

[@DoubleMaduagwu]

I'm favoured, $27K every week! I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support God's work and the church. God bless America.

[@epraimwike1405]

You're correct!! I make a lot of money without relying on the government. Investing in stocks and digital currencies is beneficial at this moment.

[@ErebyElleth]

I just want to use this opportunity to say a very big thank's to Maureen duke and his Strategy, he changed my life.

[@vanbern855]

Maureen Duke program is widely available online..

[@ademesooluwatoyin8376]

Started with 5,000$ and Withdrew profits 89,000$

[@ademesooluwatoyin8376]

Sonia gave me the autonomy I need to learn at my own pace and ask questions when I need to she's so accommodating.

[@user-pn9db8sm5w]

My family immigrated from Holland and Germany in the 1800's, the procedure was different then. I've never really thought about how immigrants arrive and become citizens these days. I just assumed they were given any help needed, especially learning English so they can have an easier time prospering. It's maddening to hear this family had to learn it on their own, especially a child trying to learn in school.

[@Coffeetime24]

This was a great call and John offered great insight and advice. I would add that prayer 🙏 always helps as well. I’ve gone through so many difficulties in life and praying to God for help has really brought amazing outcomes! It really is remarkable how God has your back and is there to guide u.

[@pris_pris]

I’m confused, he said he had everything to be happy and be at peace and everything was good, but then he breaks down how he can’t even take a day off work?! There’s no balance in his life and it don’t seem like everything in his life is as happy as he said it was in the beginning. 😏

[@christinahek]

I think he means he has money and family, and after all they’ve been through, he has nothing to complain about. Of course, there’s more to life than surviving or even having enough money.

[@oc2538]

8:16 I was lucky my dad immigrated, worked hard, then married and had us children and gave us everything. Even a private education. But when your parents don't speak English, don't have an education from their own home country it makes you feel lesser. The way teachers talked to my mother like she was dumb for not knowing English. Even me, I remember being always behind despite the private school education and tutors. But add two toxic parents, who cannot communicate, who hated and resented one another...it was awful. My father was a workaholic, controlling and would often say "look what I did" after we did anything impressive at school. Didn't matter how many top universities I got into his response was "I did this alone, you think you will make six figures?" And I always felt defeated, why should I bother my success isn't real success cus he did it without help and I have too much help. Add him saying you are a girl you will marry and have kids you don't need an education. I didn't have this callers experience because he lived the life of migrating into a strange country, he knew one life and was uprooted which is scary for a child. He's trying to be so grateful, but he's got so much anxiety. He feels guilty because if he cannot go see his grandpa he's foresaken his family but he has to work. If he doesn't work and goes he will feel guilty that he's not working and the world will fall apart if he isn't providing. Poor man. 12:52 😢 I do this, like something I will hear make it click. He's right, it's addictive all this information. I cannot even focus on how I feel it's too scary.

[@josalmon4742]

Oh John, I felt the Lord move me. Thank you.

[@khaleelorwhatever]

John's advice should be "Read the Four Agreements" lmao That works

[@cdorothy444]

Just close down the shop. Money can be earned back but time passes

[@omotayosatuyi252]

Damn he had to learn English from a dictionary that's insane and he didn't even have the internet back then

[@marinusvanderlubbe7673]

Yage

[@cynthiaharding5378]

Pray for your mom! Turn to Jesus to give you peace

[@Doinko-u2z]

Does dr delony blame everything on moms and dads?

[@TheMavyStar]

I mean dont we all 😂

[@manoftomorrow5987]

Me too..not too severe tho. I try to live in the moment

[@velvetfaerie]

❤

[@JoeyTheProdigal-pr2xl]

"You haven't grieved." What the heck does that even mean? No one ever explains that. Counselor speak.

[@ViditNaithani]

To acknowledge that his 6 year old self had a tough life. He never acknowledged that

[@Ruth-nn1dr]

There were losses in his life he hasn't admitted. He keeps saying, "It wasn't so bad.". Yes, it was. He lost roots. He didn't know the language in the new school. He can't attend his Grand Dad's funeral. He's missing important events and connections and history.

[@orphansparrow2]

Grieving means recognizing what hard thing happened to you, admitting how bad or sad it made you feel, and then crying. Repeat this until something shifts. That’s grieving.

[@Gavin-wy6kw]

Same

[@shanelym.garciabravo]

Believe in God always this is my last meeting with you people:/

[@heidiliaklev7007]

🇳🇴 John

[@AS-du8hu]

To the caller. Let Jesus Christ carry your burdens and watch what happens

[@cynthiaharding5378]

Say-Jesus forgive me of my sins,,,I believe that you died on the cross for my sins and then rose on the 3rd day..I believe in you with all my heart,,,,you really need to believe in him for he knows your heart. Get a bible and go to a Calvary Chapel church. You wll go to Heaven if you believe in him.

[@ALL-AMERICANA]

All roads lead to keto.

[@imveryhungry112]

Me have anxieties help me 😢

[@gordythecat]

Try the DARE app. Helpful

[@davidf1712]

hi there, i remember hearing you on Ramsey saying you voted for Biden. (what a mistake that was!) Are you going to help the country go Socialist by voting for Kamala?? I think you will have a LOT more people in dire straits calling in after a few years of socialism under Kamala.

[@shanelym.garciabravo]

This is what happens when you choose Mexican lifestyle instead of Guatemalan smh from the Spanish speaking community 😢

[@capcomfan82]

Get some exercise and stop being so weak.

[@BLADE_RISE]

How is he weak?

[@boringneckties]

This one had me in tears, man.

[@thomasr3805]

My favorite job was teaching an afterschool learning program for low income families. Many were the first English-speakers of their family like this caller. Very humbling to learn how kids like him face challenges you can’t even comprehend. 🫂