I Just Found Out I've Been Dating My Biological Brother For The Last 6 Years r/Relationships

[@raptoress6131]

Well, the reason that this happened, is the system that separates siblings and doesn't inform them that they have a biological sibling. They didn't choose this, and now it's their choice what they want to do.

[@markanthony1004]

Thank you. It’s ridiculous. It’s sad that so many politicians scream “Think about the kids” only to ignore them after they’re born and I’m talking about 95% of all politicians are like this. It’s almost a none issue and that’s just sad as hell

[@juliearmfield2634]

I could not even begin to imagine the internal confusion and pain that they're going through. This is definitely a choice that they have to make and nobody has the right to tell them what they should or should not do. Especially in a case like this. Where I'm from there's a saying "the horse is already out of the barn "so there's no sense in closing it now.

[@carolroberts4614]

We say the same" shutting the stable door when the horse has bolted! "

[@immapotato1]

it's unlikely they were separated at the same time. probably boyfriend got taken first and then OP after she was born. some people can be declared incompetent to raise children and will have kids immediately taken away once any are born. that said their parents must be seriously fucked up for that to happen.

[@Chlober_Official]

My brothers and I were put into foster care at 12(older bro), 8(me), and 5(youngest bro) years old. The foster mother we were placed with immediately got into our faces when the agent left to tell us "if you don't behave, I'll have you all SEPARATED! Then you'll NEVER see your siblings again! Just remember that SOME foster families aren't as NICE as this one."

[@saltpilled]

fun fact, falling in love with long lost relatives is actually so common that there's a phenomenon named after it! genetic sexual attraction. being separated from your relatives for most of your life means that your brain fails to develop something called the the 'westermarck effect'. this effect essentially exhibits that people tend to not develop attraction towards those they lived with before age six.

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

Yo, what! I did not know that!! Thanks for sharing haha. I'll have to look more into it!

[@johnnyhall9154]

Fun fact, falling in love with long lost siblings or unknown relatives is much more common than we'd expect

[@meechiebaby493]

Statistics? Research? Studies? Any articles pointing to your statement as fact? Asking for a friend.

[@DeathclawJedi]

yeah I could have gone my whole life not knowing that and been perfectly fine. This factoid like the story true or fiction is what I call unneeded info in my brain already too full of random and equally useless facts.

[@mattiekarwin3667]

It makes me wonder if that chemical that let's you recognize your sibling does still actually work if they were raises separately. Traditionally, this chemical is meant to lock out the ability to feel sexual or romantic desire towards them. I wonder if the chemical does still yet produced in absence of the other sibling, allowing them to feel connected to each other despite never having triggered that shut down response. Pure speculation, no tests have been done on this, but it's a weird as fuck how many verified stories there are like this

[@jimdob6528]

Here is another fun fact. The northeast of the USA has WAY more incest than all the southern states combined.

[@nonyabiz2013]

There's been more than 1 episode of Maury where parents fell in love with and were dating their biological child after finding them as an adult. 🤨

[@dianabialaskahansen2972]

Story 2: If there is a reason for justifiable homicide, it is this one. Hope he gets a long time behind bars.

[@orchidoxs126]

Story 1: eeewww.... I understand the circumstances. They didn't kniw what do they really think their relationship would survive that? If it does. Just don't have kids. Don't listen to those redditors.

[@abz4674]

Agreed, I found it so gross and disturbing.

[@hack117]

OP on the first date: "we have so much in common," Whatever cruel God that set them up together: "You have no idea, muhaha."

[@delilahbelle2125]

S1: I get why OP and the BF stayed together, but the redditors saying "well actually, you could still have kids..." should definitely not be giving that advice IMO. I can still remember an anthropology class I took in college, and talking about taboos in various cultures, and the only "universal taboo" that exists across all cultures is incest. What constitutes as incest varies, but it's a universal taboo for a reason, and that is because you can't control how genetics will mesh together, so it's considered "too much of a risk" to procreate with family. Just don't.

[@Sclasspsycho]

Even animals have ways to prevent inbreeding.

[@hippie1252]

Right? The fact that some of these people are willing to gamble with a child's life like that is crazy.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

For humans, incest includes serious psychological issues, not just the horrors of inbreeding.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

Yeah the likelihood of _their_ kids being messed up vs another generation of incest, the odds are in their favor, but yeah, there still is a possibility and it's just not fair to the kids even if they are fine, you know? Like you know they'd be products of incest, that's not something you do to someone you love. There are a lot more kids of incest than we like to admit, because family often assaults family, not strangers. They are often fine. A lot of the taboo comes from the social aspect, since we are social creatures.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

​@@hippie1252it's honestly more the psychological impact of knowingly making products of incest. I would never be able to forgive my parents, aside from the gamble

[@ZombieSazza]

That husband is beyond evil, I hope folk find out about what he’s done and he gets shunned by everyone he knows, ain’t no way I would be silent about that level of cruelty. As a child abuse survivor this was the only real way I got folk to not only protect me from my abusers, but get some form of justice because they got beyond publicly shamed, my mother and brother were called out by others who knew them for other behaviours, folk spoke out about my brothers cruelty that they’d also suffered (for me it was extreme violence leading to hospitalisation several times, but for women who knew him it tended to be sexual assault), and only one woman stood up for my brother because “he isn’t that bad” Lemme tell you, everyone already knew they were sleeping together but folk rightly called her out for her behaviour, asking how she could possibly allow such a violent drunk to be around her children when he’d terrified my nieces and friends kids, how she could put her kids safely second over a toxic relationship, but she didn’t care, she claimed everyone was “lying” (despite a MOUNTAIN of evidence)… all for her to break up with him because he was toxic, abusive, terrified her kids, was violent towards her. So he’s been ousted from his social group and nobody wants to talk to him, then everyone rallied to make sure I will always be protected and he can’t get anywhere near me. Sometimes it’s the only way when you know police action wouldn’t lead to anything, I’m from Scotland and the police here are pretty good but I wouldn’t get any justice from the courts, they’ve arrested him before for his violence against me but I was much younger and too terrified to press charges, plus it was very he-said-she-said, so social ostracism worked because he relied heavily on everyone being compliant and letting him do whatever he wanted. That’s what OP can do about her ex husband, tell people he was not only a violent drunk, but he literally poured her daughters ashes down the toilet out of spite, because the social ostracism from that would force him to either get help or he’ll die lonely (either works honestly) and gives OP the chance to get a support system. I’m glad she is however getting some legal action against him, but the social ostracism could not only lead to her getting support, but would force him to acknowledge his actions. At the very least I’d recommend domestic violence support groups online, these are free to join (Facebook has a lot of these groups, I use child abuse survivor groups) and offer so much support, as OP desperately needs love and support in her life right now.

[@cindykq8086]

I am so sorry for the horror you had to live with. I'm also so proud of you for not just surviving but triumphing over your past. Hugs ❤

[@ZombieSazza]

@@cindykq8086thank you, that’s very kind! I struggle with the permanent nerve damage and cPTSD but I refuse to let my disabilities from said crappy childhood being me down, I find enjoyment where I can and always try to find the positives in life. I do understand the OP spiralling and mentally struggling, but one of the things that really helped me was a young persons charity who moved me in days of contacting them at 18. Was low contact for years before going fully no contact and just went “let’s make a well written lengthy post so folk know I’m no contact, so nobody lets them near me, and folk truly see who they are” I know there’s always folk online who say “airing out drama is tacky” but I don’t see why I should’ve ever had to stay silent and endure that, plus it was one of the most freeing experiences I had and was very liberating, like a weight lifted off you!

[@grinningweirdo4888]

Story 2 I’m thinking given his lack of hesitation that he may or may not be involved with his daughters death, the urn then destroying all her belongings screams some strong feelings of guilt

[@geminiblue]

Story 2 - Personally, I don't think he as grief stricken about his daughter as he claims. Hearing about the age gap, financial & controlling issues, I think OP's hubby baby trapped OP & the daughter being gone means his control over OP is not as strong

[@damien678]

I'd honestly say it's likely to be both. Which is super grim

[@babybookworm003]

Story 1 gives me some flowers in the attic vibes only without the horrible abuse

[@PaulaSB12]

Pair of sickos you know you are full siblings but still want to screw them they can’t marry for sure

[@johnbradbury8610]

Jerry Springer is smiling in his grave.

[@johnbradbury8610]

The first commenter is sick

[@gazzhumbly5433]

Just nasty bro, sounds like a crappy porno script

[@madcatlady]

@@johnbradbury8610I thought Flowers in the Attic too, how does that make me sick? in the story they were totally unaware too

[@Nevertoleave]

I’d be noping out. The adoption/foster system needs to be better. I feel like the government should start keeping DNA of kids on a list and connect siblings. Like, you give a baby up, it’s dna is connected to their file. And if you have another and whether or not you keep the baby the file gets updated with sex and birth year. When they’re teens they can access that information. When they’re adults they can tic a box that says if they’re okay with being contacted. Then adopted kids know they have a brother who was born in 1982 and can go, hey you were born the same year as my brother I’d rather not date without a dna test.

[@glitchyglitchy3925]

They should be very careful about who they share this information with because most people will not accept it. That said, what are the odds of this happening? Maybe they should play the lottery lol

[@johnbradbury8610]

This story could very well be fake. Either that are these people are desperate for attention, which means they won't be careful.

[@markanthony1004]

They should be careful because it’s literally a crime almost everywhere. The only exception I’m some states is marrying a cousin since I guess the precedence for it throughout history but damn still ffs this entire thing is weird no matter how you look at it

[@radish6740]

People SHOULD know how disgusting op & her brother are.

[@glitchyglitchy3925]

​@@johnbradbury8610 It's not unheard of. I remember another story like this was posted on Reddit, though I don't recall the outcome. Though you might be right, posting this on a popular subreddit is not the smartest course of action if they intend to stay together.​ I don't know where they live, but incest is criminalized in almost all 50 US states regardless if the two people are adults.

[@valgardener7656]

@@johnbradbury8610 Agree that it is probably fake. All those little details -- like people saying he's the male version of her. If this was real, no way she'd be sharing details like that, for people to recognize. How many couples out there are 1) both adopted and 2) look just like each other.

[@RSARYR]

Story 1: I saw this on Reddit but I was too scared to read it. Story 2: I read this one on r/bestredditupdates. My heart hurts for what she went through. I just wanted to find her and hug her. As for the husband, he needed a frying pan to the head.

[@DrewLSsix]

I specifically avoided this one when I saw it, so ima dip out at this point. I'm already feeling a bit off recently, I feel like this story could put me in a bad mood. And I would rather enjoy my weekend.

[@CodyJoel]

@@DrewLSsixSame. I’ve been trying not to listen or read but decided to click just to see the comments. Yeah based on the comments I decided, nope! Protect your peace

[@AndreNDP]

A hell of a lot worse than a frying pan, if you ask me.

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 2 is just full on traumatising 😢 it's the 3rd time i've heard this story in the last few days and it doesn't get any easier to listen to

[@johnbradbury8610]

so have I. The huge problem with OP is that she thinks alcohol is the problem. Her husband is a horrible person, the alcohol just brings it out easier. It sounds like she will take him back if he goes to rehab and apologizes. I hope I'm wrong.

[@ZombieSazza]

@@johnbradbury8610I hope she gets help from domestic violence groups so she can learn how much danger she’s in, how little he loves her, and that she is worth so much more. Hell even Facebook groups as those are completely free and really helpful, as she’s still very much deep in denial about how much he hates her.

[@hannahwilson1459]

The fact that she didn't immediately break up!! Thats fuckn disgusting.. incest is absolutely disgusting and alot more ppl need to be upset about thisss... for the love of all thats good don't have a baby!!!

[@ladyv5655]

This demonstrates the failure of 1) closed adoptions 2) the foster care system and 3) parents.

[@jodieisnotokay]

how tf is it the parents fault

[@ViniVidiBibi]

@@jodieisnotokay not thinking about consequences before making kids

[@jodieisnotokay]

@ViniVidiBibi the right to an abortion is being taken away from women all over the world, what are they actually meant to do?

[@ladyv5655]

@@jodieisnotokay , it is their fault for abusing and neglecting their children to the point that they get taken from them and go into foster care.

[@jodieisnotokay]

@ladyv5655 that was never mentioned in the reddit post, some people get adopted straight from birth.

[@patty-pat-pat]

If I were them, I'd keep quiet. Isn't incest illegal?

[@cater06]

Yes. It can lead to jail time and placement as an s. Offender

[@elski5067]

They need to be jailed.

[@jimdob6528]

Depends on the state. Also depends on the circumstances. This situation?… I doubt it’s illegal

[@jakemarie828]

​@@elski5067that's incredibly harsh considering they were adopted and this is a failing on the system. Legally they aren't siblings.

[@elski5067]

@@jakemarie828 Are you alright sir you can pretend they are not biological siblings I won't. They are not brother and sister because they were raised in a foster system apart says you. They found out they are related but they should just pretend they are not as you suggest very weird insest logic you have.

[@jenniferhanses]

Re: Incest. I'm sorry for you, and I'm glad if you're happy together. There have been studies done, and if you're not raised with your siblings, this kind of thing is actually likely to happen. As a species, we're apparently attracted to people who are physically like our family already. It's not weird. It's how we're programmed. So, I don't think you're hurting anyone. And after being a couple for 7 years and together for 10 years, I just wish you happiness.

[@hanoh2904]

Do they not know nothing on the internet really goes away! Relatives and family members might find out . I suggest she gets her tubes tide just in case

[@johnbradbury8610]

Exactly, anyone who knows a couple that looks similar to each other will suspect. This could also be fake.

[@treco2583]

All the “the monarchs did it for centuries” is insane. People used to throw 💩 out of their windows, but we don’t do that anymore either. 😂😂

[@jillynnrekowski3106]

Story 1: OP can call the bf her brofriend. LOL

[@raptor_redd]

Two of my half-siblings dated for six months in high school because my dad and his estranged ex coincidentally moved to the same city. This was 40 years ago and they laugh about it now, but they were both pretty broken up about it when it happened.

[@nonyabiz2013]

My father had many children from different women, I heard one of them telling a story of meeting a guy at a party and how they were hitting it off when the host came over and said something like "oh so you found him/her" confused the host explained they had the same last name and he thought it funny that's when they realized they were half siblings. My father's comment on the story was for his kids no never date someone they resemble, his genes are strong an we all really to look alike in some way, even if we have different complexsions. Which is why it made sense to me when my mother told me of my older half sister not being my father's biological daughter.

[@raptor_redd]

@nonyabiz2013 lmao Yeah I totally understand that. It's an unwritten rule in my siblings' hometown that you don't date anyone born in that general area because being a prolific manwhore seems to be a genetic trait in our family because my dad, my uncle, and two of my nephews have had bastard children coming out of the woodworks like crazy since DNA testing became popular. 😅

[@RWorley3sl]

My sister was scared of dating within our state as my uncle insisted he had a son out there. With his moms name. Before DNA was so easy to do.

[@ToxicSunrise132]

Y'know it's kind of darkly hilarious that in a video that starts with a Sweet Home Alabama plotline, the second story still manages to be worse

[@ZombieSazza]

So this is called Genetic Sexual Attraction, it’s where people who are biological relatives are attracted to each other such as father/daughter and brother/sister, where person X has been adopted at a young age and meets relative Y and they are attracted to each other, not knowing they are in fact related. “psychologists theorize that the supposed phenomenon of attraction to biological relatives separated at a young age occurs because the separation forecloses the Westermarck effect, which normally desensitizes biologically related persons to later sexual attraction” “visceral erotic feeling an individual has in reaction to a new contact with a relative where there was no contact between the two while one of the individuals was growing up.” It’s actually a topic that has not gotten as much research as it needs, like this is a topic that needs proper research and time put into it with psychologists and sociologists, without shame to the individuals involved. Obviously this is a taboo subject and has a lot of shame attached too it which hinders more information being learned in the name of human behavioural science. That’s all regardless of my own feelings (because am social scientist, psychology and sociology), my own feelings would be to strongly advise to either pretend this never happened and NEVER have children, or the healthier option would be to split. They don’t need to tell anyone, I’m trying not to judge but they are choosing to stay together and I don’t know how long they can actually maintain the relationship in the long run or are really stubborn, but at the very least do NOT have children. Should anyone find out these two adopted individuals are biologically related and they have children, the stigma is really hard for that child born of incest. I come from the Scottish Highlands and spent a large amount of my childhood in a fairly small (less than 7,000 people) fishing town and one boy Liam in my high school was heavily bullied because his parents were actually brother/sister, he grew up with a LOT of rage and behavioural problems, was shunned by almost every adult in our town, ignored by teachers, being constantly arrested. As an adult Liam couldn’t escape this heavy stigma when none of it was his fault and he turned to alcohol, where he’s been on/off homeless and struggling with addiction his whole life. So if the OP happens to read YT comments, I’m not judging because am social scientist and keeping an open mind to your situation, but please do NOT have children!

[@Iflie]

They were not planning to have children anyway but why do you think they should split up, they are doing great together. It really is just a social stigma and as long as they do not tell everyone they are fine. It's not as if they are parent and child or in a power imbalance. It's completely psychologically healthy.

[@masoncampbell3314]

Damn. Poor Liam 😢 bullies fuckin suck

[@walkz007]

I was looking for this comment

[@ZombieSazza]

@@Iflie​​⁠​​⁠​​⁠​⁠because if anyone were to find out somehow their lives would never be the same, it would be a stigma that doesn’t leave them, hence I said breaking up would be healthier. I mentioned a boy I knew growing up called Liam so I would hope my point came across regarding the heavy stigma he’s lived with his entire life, despite none of this being his fault. And whilst I am aware they said they’re not planning on having children, accidents can happen and people change their minds, one of them may have always wanted to start a family but now feels they can’t which can lead to resentment. This is an extremely common wish for adults who’ve come from the care system, that they desperately want to build a family of their own, so whilst they may say “we’re not having children” they might end up changing their minds, resenting the other, an accident could happen. If they truly mean to stay child free then they both need to take more permanent measures to ensure they cannot conceive at all. And the strain of having this huge secret with nobody to talk with about it, no support system for this, that can lead to a lot of stress. So whilst they’re “doing great” right now, that can quickly change. It’s another thing that can harbour resentment or make them feel trapped. Hence I said splitting would be the healthier option.

[@Iflie]

@@ZombieSazza Splitting up may be far more damaging because they have a long standing very good relationship. It can ruin the rest of their lives because they would always have that one that was perfect that got away, And on top of that a sibling they cannot see. I think people are actually more understanding, many couples that find out they are related get a lot of support too. Even if they have kids. It's not that hard to take plan B when you do end up with an accident or do a very early abortion which is also just pills. Or they can do a genetic test to see if the child is healthy. Or just buy some sperm. After this many years together I think the not having kids was also well established before they even knew they were related. So I have no reason to doubt them on that.

[@TheJadedJames]

I’m sorry if I was dating a girl for 6 years and I found out we were full siblings from a DNA test, I would immediately end that relationship. Same for cousins or anything over than an absurdly distant relative. It’s not about kids, I could no longer have sex with them after that. It would be over

[@raeris]

okay but the first couple breaks the "siblings or dating" game 🧐

[@dessnatazha]

I legit started crying listening to this. I don't think I could've made the decision they did, but I understand why they did. AND WTF IS UP WITH PEOPLE SAYING IT'S OK FOR THEM TO REPRODUCE

[@mermaidnurse17]

As a fellow adoptee this is a huge fear of mine. Long lost relatives fall in love way more often than we realize. I can understand their choice to stay together. However I wouldnt be suprised if their feelings about this change overtime. Especially if one of them decides they want to meet their bio family later in life.

[@dave19328]

Story 1: They didn't know they were siblings when they got together, ok, not their fault. But now that they know, it's simply unacceptable no matter how you look at it. Whether they won't have kids or not, they need to break it off. It's not always about feelings, sometimes it's about doing what's right.

[@Poopiepies]

Some people just don’t have a moral compass

[@catandrobbyflores]

At least they weren't married!

[@Poopiepies]

@@catandrobbyflores they just decided to keep dating with the end goal being marriage and no kids.

[@bryn1063]

this story is disgusting. As long as their happy i guess but there has to be a limit. This aint right

[@JDKT002]

@@Poopiepies you speak as if there's such a thing as moral absolutes (their isn't). This is one of those very odd situations where I can't really fault the people involved no matter what they ended up doing. Remember, your morality is yours and yours alone. If you're going to look down on other people who aren't hurting anybody with their own choices, you aren't being moral, you're just being a judgemental asshole.

[@immasnakeee6460]

This straight up incest, ewwww. I understand they were together for a long time but they’re still siblings and it’s nasty they are staying together.

[@deballen7031]

Thank you for the warning and yet I still wasn't prepared for the full horror of that last post, most distressing. All I can hope for is that help will be available for OP and anyone else who is unfortunate enough to be in this type of a situation. My heartfelt good wishes go out to OP to be safe, well and be able to build the best future that she can.

[@josiemorgan6567]

Story 1) Please don't breed with each other.

[@pompe221]

Story 1: They didn't grow up having a sibling bond between them, they met as adults, they certainly didn't set out to commit incest, and they already planned to not have kids. Honestly, as long as they stick to that last part, I wish them the best in their relationship. Story 2: I hope OP stays safe and free of that monster! Isn't it telling that even in his "drunken rages" he didn't destroy any of his own stuff?

[@ivanadragmire2873]

But it's still incest and it's still weird. like, they need to just break it off and bury the truth behind an excuse.

[@literallycringeidk360]

@@ivanadragmire2873Just because it’s weird doesn’t mean that it’s bad. People forget why incest is generally bad and just react based on the “ick” factor. If they don’t have biological children and are able to live past the being related thing, then I wish them the best, even if they later break up.

[@valgardener7656]

@@literallycringeidk360 Just because it's weird doesn't mean it is bad. However, being weird doesn't mean it is NOT bad. This is both weird and bad. It's bad. It is a bad thing.

[@MoonlightBelladonna]

@@literallycringeidk360 Bro stop watching that kind of stuff and please don't defend that story and what they do. Its goddamn gross and out of 8 billion people that's who they end up with. That's nasty if its true, if not then the op has some really creepy fetishes.

[@Daydream_N]

​@@literallycringeidk360it is bad. They're full blooded siblings, that's not only bad, but also incredibly weird and gross. But overall, it's BAD

[@katyc.1402]

Story 1 was insane but to me, the 2nd was way worse. Im glad she got out alive but flushing the ashes and destroying the daughters things...I can imagine the devastation. He should be charged.

[@sgtjarhead99]

Story 1 - Well. This is awkward. More coffee?

[@TheCFD_Dude]

Haven't even clicked on the episode, but somehow I am already hearing banjo music.

[@gazzhumbly5433]

Bro, these comments in story 1 wtf!!

[@treco2583]

SICK!!!

[@nr7701]

Story 1: Well, I guess lesson learned. If you are adopted or don't know your parentage, you need to do some research into your biological family so you don't accidentally fall into this situation (especially if the person you're dating also doesn't know their heritage too). If I were in this situation I would want to break up.

[@PowerStruggle555]

Im picturing the scene from the first "Borat" where he passiontly kisses a woman and says "She's my sister"

[@cindykq8086]

If the siblings did accidentally have kids, their kids and kids' kids *would* have increased risk of genetic abnormalities. Some diseases happen only if a bad gene comes from both parents, so if the parents are siblings, yikes. Charles V of Spain came from a long line of cousins marrying cousins, and his lower jaw was so deformed he couldn't fully close his mouth or chew his food right. So, yeah, there's that.

[@GoldenLeafsMovies]

Assuming they're not the product of incest, I wonder what the percentage of genetic abnormalities on their kids would be, I know it increases the more it happens but I wonder what the initial percent is. Apparently cousin marriage is very common in the eastern world, or at least not a taboo so I assume the risk is not high. But I wonder how much that increases if it's a direct relative (brother/sister) instead of something a little more far (cousin).

[@EluneAnzu]

"Now I know I started you guys off with a really happy first story" Oh it's just family bonding what's not happy about that?

[@aduckofsomesort]

If they change their mind about having kids, that’s a great opportunity to keep a good cycle going. Since both of them were adopted into loving homes, they can provide that for other children.

[@keikeyleno]

1st story seems fake. They want to keep quiet but posted it on Reddit??? With little, their acquintances can recognize them

[@phantom-pr6op]

"Now I know I don't normally start you off with a trigger warning..." A little late for that. The story is over! Oh! You mean the next story?! It gets worse?! Update: That was horrible.

[@NikitaHunt]

Was thinking the same thing 😳

[@phantom-pr6op]

@@NikitaHunt ikr 😨😭

[@AlexxeMJFAN]

Story 1: ......SWEET HOME ALABAMA!!-

[@juliearmfield2634]

Can you imagine how hard that would be to find out after six years of being in love and being together. I cannot even begin to imagine how traumatic and devastating that would be

[@AlexxeMJFAN]

@@juliearmfield2634 ikr? It should be so hard to them knowing they're siblings.. but they still want to be together because they did everything that a couple do in 6 years.. I'd end things tbh..

[@juliearmfield2634]

@@AlexxeMJFAN I'm just thankful I was never in that situation that would cause a major mental issues

[@agentzapdos4960]

S1: Alabama intensifies.

[@ChaoticNalilitoMC]

I remember watching New Amsterdam and they actually covered a subplot similar to story 1 but the bigger problem os that the couple were ENGAGED and both were struggling with the revelation.

[@taylorcurl7558]

Siblings or dating? Yes.

[@magoichi75]

Well that ent straight into sweet home Alabama real quick with the comments…

[@SethUnwell]

Story 1: SWEET HOME ALABAMA

[@alfredmarcos1761]

The first story reminded me of that house episode

[@radish6740]

At least on House the girl had the decency to be grossed out enough to leave. Op loves fckng her brother too much.

[@shamimtorang4390]

I keep imagining them like Loki falling in love with Loki and uncontrollably laughing

[@SakuraMoonflower]

Story 2: "drunken rage" my as*. In his "drunken rage" did he "accidentally" remember to destroy some of HIS OWN things? Or was he remarkably lucid enough to hyper focus on ONLY those things that weren't his to destroy while he was in his "drunken rage"????? It was clearly the latter, so he clearly wasn't that drunk. -_- I'm so glad OP got away from that abusive loser, holy sh**. 😢❤🎉

[@johnnyhall9154]

Second Story is just tragic

[@etherealnine]

Wow at the amount of people that think being actual biological siblings is less important than "growing up as siblings" is mind boggling.

[@juliearmfield2634]

This is one of those an exception to every rule kind of thing. They aren't going to have kids so they're not putting anyone else at risk. I couldn't imagine doing that but I can't even begin to imagine being in her shoes to start with.

[@Shangori]

I'm one of those. Yeah, as far as they are concerned they were complete strangers. I don't see why it isn't possible to fall in love in that situation. To find later that you are biological siblings means just one thing: offspring is off the table. If you can handle that and there is no other family involved to make things 'awkward', I don't see why such a relationship should be looked down on. 'It is icky' is the worst argument for anything. Remember that lgbt were, and still are, considered 'icky' by many. There is a reason why we call that bigotry. If it doesn't hurt anyone, I don't see a reason to interfere.

[@Raigius]

As long as they don't make kids together then it's not really anyone's else business. They didn't grow up together so there's no need to worry about possible grooming concerns like there would be amongst relatives that grew up knowing each other.

[@aduckofsomesort]

You watch stepsibling adult videos don’t you?

[@Shangori]

​@@aduckofsomesort I don't see how that's an argument for anything.

[@shaetoons3602]

Story 1: They're sick. I don't care.🤢🤮

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Umm, they didn't get the ick immediately once they found out? 🤢🤢 God, that's so gross. Update: Come on! I just ate. 🤢🤮

[@Daydream_N]

Yeah, how do they even look at each other the same way. Hope one of them wises up and breaks it off, or at the bare minimum they both need to get their tubes tied/ vasectomy

[@doorlocke8009]

Story 1: Have the guy put samples on ice then get a vasectomy and get a check to make sure everything stays that way a couple times a year. That way they wont be able to have kids and if the day ever comes that one of them/both wants bio kids they can look into getting a donor/surrogate and having kids who biologically are cousins but raised as siblings. Do that and though it seems weird I'd have no problems with the relationship, as things stand the risk of accidental pregnancy is a bit too much. A kid born like that would be genetically more prone to illness and even if it caused no problems, it wouldn't be fair.

[@valgardener7656]

But that child will still be a child of incestuous parents. If the truth ever gets out, do you think the shame and disgust will be any less because they tell the kid "But your dad/uncle used a surrogate instead of impregnating your mom/aunt directly"? The fewer people brought into a situation like this the better.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

One must imagine sisyphus listening to another incest reddit story

[@kaykay8855]

I think you mean Oedipus. The Greek ‘hero’ who married his mother.

[@ToxicSunrise132]

​@@kaykay8855see, the image I had in my head was poor Sisphyus being forced to push the boulder uphill while The Worst of Reddit was being played full blast so only he could hear.

[@kaykay8855]

@@ToxicSunrise132 oh, got it 👍.

[@sabinemetzger3219]

​@@kaykay8855well oedipus did not know he was adopted and when he found out he was destined to kill his father and marry his mother he left the couple who adopted him, thinking they were his real parents. On his way out in the world he meets and kills his real father (who abandoned him as a baby to avoid the fate his baby was foretold) . He then marries the widow of the man he killed, not knowing it is his real mother. He probably thought he avoided his terrible fate beeing far away from his (adoptive) family. Oedipus was innocent and just wanted the best for his family. If oedipus father had not abandoned him as a baby this probaby would not have happened.

[@Cruz2917]

Story1: An Alabama happy ending ☺️

[@bearstarpresents2264]

Story 1. I remember a similar story in England. A couple, together for a decade with kids, decided to finally tie the knot, but they needed their birth certificates. That’s when they found out they were siblings. That couple will never be able to marry.

[@sgv0719]

Would you rather to hook up with a biological sibling you've never knew, or with an adoptive one that was raised along you as a brother/sister? I mean like if you absolutely HAVE to chose.

[@ruthsaunders9507]

That's easy. Not the one you share blood with. I've seen the damage that does with first cousins down the line.

[@sgv0719]

@@LostSoulchild89 Yeah, but that's the thing. If you find out that he has been swapped at birth and you are not actually blood related and they bring some other guy and introduce him as your actual blood brother. Who would you pick? 😬 I wonder, who would most people choose?

[@catandrobbyflores]

The one I'm not related to.

[@RealAnimeBadGuy]

Story one is gross. Story two is horrifying. They needed more help

[@Roxashearts13]

She should have LED with they were both adopted. I'm at the end of the tale asking myself how in the hell the parents on his side didnt ask questions

[@gcarr1089]

Last story - hope OP is doing better now and has moved on with her life. It sounds like husband blames Himself or OP for the daughters death and can't move on. I hope he gets the help he really needs but OP can't help him and shouldn't try.

[@pippo17173]

The update makes it worst. I think the daughter might of been another tool to keep op in check because op flat out admitting there is control and being younger legit make me think it's all intentional for control.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Sweet Home Alabama 😂😂😂

[@Ospyro3em]

My first thought when reading the title 🤣

[@madambutterfly1997]

​@@Ospyro3emit doesn't help that they're choosing to stay together

[@tonyblake7569]

Years ago my brother had a friend that moved to Alabama. Brother got a letter from him one day. His friend met a girl, slept with her, later found out they were cousins. Don't know if he was messing with my brother, if so not sure why, but seriously? Moved to Alabama and immediately slept with his cousin?

[@ZombieSazza]

@@madambutterfly1997aw Cmon wtf

[@madambutterfly1997]

@@ZombieSazza they said so in they update

[@elski5067]

Story 1: they need to go to prison for this sickness.

[@hvymax]

The West Virginia Law of Relativity: You can Marry your Cousin but your Sister has got to be Common Law!!!

[@andreaarchambeau9499]

I know so little about my father and his side of the family, that this has often been a distant thought.

[@monferno1]

I really hope they didn’t do any “help step bro I’m stuck!” Role play in bed…

[@Sparkly._mocha]

10:48 😂😂😂😂l laughed so much lol …l feel bad but omg

[@JB-bj3fl]

S1: gross

[@kazzuo32]

Omg I have a friend that went through this. It was terrible and the father have the balls to be angry. ( the father have 2 family's)

[@Sensansenkai]

Can’t believe the incest story was more uplifting than one involving a toilet

[@MrJoestar83]

Story 1... Has she gotten stuck on the washing machine? Help me brother, moms not home

[@catalinacaro8183]

1) actually is not weird that they found each other atractive, we tend to look for ourselves in other people and I think is more common than we might espect that two people who didnt knew were closley related find eachother and start a relationship, at least i've heard it a lot. at the end we are wired to do that since ussually you can find more genetic similarities between long term couples than they have with the rest of random people, but also our brain blocks siblings and parents from having atraction so we are not too closely related, it is this way so our children have as much as our genes as posible without being closeley related enough to cause genetic problems for the offspring. now luckly op and her partner did not want children so they can freely follow their animal brain that made them fall for eachother.

[@Nathaniel-t7u]

Story 1: I read a post on another sub the same situation but they have the same father but different mothers on was a product of a ons but didn't meet each other until both was in the same college but both grew up thousands miles apart.

[@rhiannoncarney9380]

Story 2: Already heard it, it's already been posted by a few other KZbinrs whose channels I am subscribed to!!!

[@HappyNiniii]

S1 after Update: Not even Mike Tyson could beat this out of me.

[@marecort3697]

Ok, I have 2 brothers, so this is creeping me out. I had one male cousin, and THAT would creep me out and a lot of people get together with their cousins. P.S. if there are other relatives, this may come out. Especially if the bio parents try looking for them.

[@MrPete1985]

Story 1: Move to Alabama, problem solved

[@catharsismemory]

1. Not knowing is one thing but now that you know now...I. sorry but no..gross.

[@treco2583]

Disgusting!! 🤢

[@stellamccoy5259]

S1. Sick, just sick. Shows just how sick society has become.

[@Jeremiahbullfr0g]

MARKEE LEAVE THE WHITAKERS ALONE!!😭😭🤣🤣 I am screaming at the end of story 1 hahahah oh my god 🤣🤣🤣

[@antithoughtpolice7497]

Story 1: Thank god they decided not to have kids before discovering this T-T

[@mandalorianhunter1]

Damn sounds like a detective Conan, Case closed, story. I'm sad this happened

[@RosesTeaAndASD]

Story 1: Uncomfortable as I am; if you have been dating a stranger then it's different feelings and intentions involved than if you were dating a sibling you'd grown up with and were attracted to. Do note that I'm trying to remain as neutral as I can here.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

I hear banjos playing seeing “entering Kentucky or West Virginia vibes reading the title. This is sad for op and BF

[@phoenixwolf6779]

I’m throwing up in my mouth

[@SherriLyle80s]

Oh hell no. I could never move on from that. Gesh.

[@Krystalized_Python]

Bruh, my heart breaks

[@hvymax]

They been swimming in their own Genetic Pool!!!

[@NathanielTavington]

Story 2.... I would have lost my shit in that situation. Like, I get OP's reaction, and I'm not trying to criticize her or anything, but I personally would have snapped. I would have come back just like he wanted, and it would have been with a gun, I can't imagine caring about consequences after that. I'm glad she held it together and got herself out though. My heart hurts for her.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

Story one is heartbreaking. I've heard that story before, but it's usually because the father is a P.O.S who cheated on his wife to create a child out of wedlock, and then he just didn't acknowledge or bring up the child, leading to this kind of situation where his children fall in love with each other.

[@valgardener7656]

Story 1: Ugh! These commenters and their rationalization and their excuses. "Oh, just don't tell anyone and don't have kids" Yeah, good luck with that! People WILL find out, and accidental pregnancy happens. How is this a "really happy first story"? Again, ugh!

[@Poopiepies]

Right??? Like damn these people can really do that and still sleep with themself at night knowing they’re lying to everyone and dating their sibling 🤢🤢

[@MoonlightBelladonna]

That's weird, Idgaf about if their adopted or how they see each other they're weird and really creepy to continue that relationship. That's just gross.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

TBH if you saw the movie Fargo I’d throw hubby in the chipper if he dumped my daughters ashes in the toilet.

[@olivezanakis2606]

In many cultures in history royal families always married siblings. I think the problem starts when they have children, and their children marry and have children. I wouldn't tell anyone because people always have to put their two cents in.

[@historictruecrime5119]

I’m glad they’re happy together.

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

The second one at least ended with some hope.