I LASHED OUT At My Husband When He Added Spices That RUINED My Teriyaki Chicken r/Relationships

[@embluvya]

Story 2: 'dating' in elementary school doesn't count as dating and it amazes me that I have to say that.

[@cgi2002]

I'm quite sure when I was in 6th grade I loved my rc car more than any living person and likely had a better relationship with it than any girls (girls were still yucky back then). By 8th grade things changed, but that's all biology.

[@NoOne-fo1di]

2 girls got into a fight in my highschool over this. Girl A dated boy A in 3rd grade. Girl A is dating Boy B in 10th grade but her BFF Girl B starts dating BA and GA starts a fight for breaking Girl code

[@markanthony1004]

@@cgi2002I loved Godzilla like a lot lol

[@cgi2002]

@@markanthony1004 well who wouldn't, he is the king.

[@nunabug1203]

"Who is Tony and why is he making spice" had me crying 😂

[@Ldunk]

It's called Tony Cachere's. It's a blend of seasons made by a chef here in the southern U.S.

[@kimsvisualdiary]

@@LdunkI’m trying to figure out why she put creole seasoning on TERIYAKI CHICKEN yet she’s pissed about red pepper flakes and smoked paprika.

[@Ldunk]

​@@kimsvisualdiaryToo true! My ex used to do this and f up everything.

[@DanyellaJane]

Haha me too! Literally cackled out loud!

[@lrock48]

​@@venusbleu5764 yes she did, the only thing her husband added was smoked paprika and red chili flakes.

[@belantww]

I would tell OP’s husband, “well, since you’re obviously well enough to cook, you’ll be doing that from now on.”

[@TimesUp8888]

This one right here.

[@KG-VanityInKnickers]

LOL that was my first thought when he offered to cook dinner. I mean, she went upstairs to change the sheets on the bed and straighten the bedroom, right? Why not just tell him to do that instead? LOL

[@kentario1610]

Right, like thanks for volunteering!

[@patriciakilbourn4323]

Three times I did stand up for myself. I wanted a certain type of vacuum cleaner, he and his father decided another type was better. When he asked why I wasn't vacuuming when he bought me a new cleaner. I told him he bought himself a vacuum cleaner. I never vacuumed for the 30+ years we were married. .2 He said I didn't do the laundry properly. I stopped doing his laundry. 3. We were remodeling the house. When we married we agreed that outside and major projects (electrical, moving walls etc.) and I would have final say on inside decorating. He and his father chose a medicine cabinet/mirror for the bathroom. I told him that wasn't the one I wanted. They countered with the square inches of storage, size of mirrors etc. I stuck to saying "inside - my choice" 'they gave in then discovered that the one I chose was larger than the one they chose. They asked me why I hadn't told them - not the point. After the divorce, my son and his wife moved in with my husband she was going to school and working. The men said they wanted her to quit her job and take care of the house. She agreed but said they would have to wash dishes the nights she had school. One night she called me saying she was afraid I would be mad at her. They hadn't paid her in a month; she came home from night school and the kitchen was a mess. She said she looked at them and told them it was not her mess and she was taking a bubble bath (where she was when she called me). Are you mad at me? Sweetheart, I'm not mad. I'm so proud of you I"m about to burst. She is a woman who knows her own worth. My son told me when she wanted a housekeeper; he said "No". Then went for a walk to cool off. He told me while he was walking he recalled a night when I came home late from work due to a traffic accident and was obviously exhausted and his father started complaining and I said life would be so much easier if I could hire a housekeeper. He went home and told his wife to hire one. I was proud of him too.

[@phantom-pr6op]

Story 2 I couldn't predict what either of them were about to do 😂 Like the guy is clearly unhinged. I don't feel the need to explain why his actions don't make sense. But the girl went from I'll tell him the truth gently to not telling the truth at all, to telling him as harsh as possible. 😂

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Yeah all she had to say was he was a selfish lover who put his pleasure above all and in the future he should try to focus on his partner too.

[@ondank]

Yeah she gave me whiplash there. Like I had sympathy for her at first but then she kinda acts like a jerk in the update "I want to soften the blow to his ego and be constructive ... How dare he try and do the same by pretending it was mutual, now I'll smash him!"

[@valgardener7656]

Yeah, that was her endgame all along. If she cared about his feelings, dignity, manhood, or any of the other things she pretends to care about, she wouldn't be broadcasting his failings in the group chat for the mockery of others. She's got some issues. She can't just say "no" to unwanted sex like a grownup. So she endures it, seethes, in suppressed rage, gets her "alibi" ready by making this show of caring for his feelings, and then unloads on him. Turns out he knew he was bad all along, so her anger is retroactively justified, but also powerless to actually hurt his feelings. I get the feeling he was bad on purpose, just to see how long she would put up with it. If so, he is dangerous levels of creepy.

[@faeriefire78]

I lost it when he pulled out and tapped her twice with his fingers before carrying on. 💀

[@ECMKAD]

In the wrong spot, even! 😂

[@halliehallock5731]

At that point, I would have just told him to get the fk off and get out of my house 😡

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

...I cannot WAIT until I have context for this, b/c ohmygod, the *phrasing* edit: I have context now, and oh christ, it's somehow both better *and* worse than I'd thought! (by wrong spot, I thought you meant wrong *hole* )

[@ECMKAD]

@@thesewinggeekmiri9029 😂 To be fair, I didn't like the OP of that story at all. She sounds like a terrible person. But geeze, nobody should be subjected to sex that bad. 😂

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

@@ECMKAD lol, why do you think she's a horrible person? Is it because she shared stuff in the group chat? Or because she outright said that he was terrible at it (and also didn't give constructive feedback)?

[@GBunnyG]

Story 2: The description of what he does is absolutely hysterical. That would not be worth training.

[@TimesUp8888]

Agree 100. Wish I could say I never had bad experiences like this but I have. If you're also familiar with what is good, u know there's no way these dudes will ever get close to that. It's like a handicap or something else I don't care to figure out 😂

[@justadragonwithaphone8878]

You never add spices to someone else’s dish especially when you don’t cook

[@MrsWheezer]

My husband pulled that crap when we were newly married and shared cooking. 25 years later and he still does almost all the cooking. 😂

[@susankaempfer8427]

Unless you are the asshole 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@mcrose9067]

Then never complain about having to do all the cooking. If your so controlling over the food is prepared then do it all yourself with a smile and not a whisper of complaint.

[@annegrey6447]

If I don’t like it I add spices to my plate. Never add anything to the pot without an ok.

[@MusicalCreativity]

​@@mcrose9067 until someone tampers with your food when you're not looking and ruin the dish. I think its absolutely fair to complain when someone who doesn't/can't pull their weight in the kitchen actively ruin the work *you* put in. The real rule is; "Don't fuck with food you're not preparing"

[@neru1584]

Honestly id lash out if someone ruined my teriyaki chicken too. You dont play with chicken bro

[@Jordan-bm8lp]

Right! The poor chicken died to provide its flesh for nourishment. I don’t eat meat anymore, and I don’t mind if other people do, but I do absolutely HATE meat food waste. That animal died just to be thrown away. It makes me sad

[@rakibalmahdi2401]

Nice joke bro. Otherwise, its an uncouth, barabaric mentality.

[@soniatello4556]

@@rakibalmahdi2401to be mad about someone ruining and wasting food because they had too big of a fucking ego to respect their partners request?

[@untitled-gv3qp]

It's more about the attitude that would annoy me. I hate when people act like they know more than me about what I'm doing.

[@neru1584]

​@@rakibalmahdi2401if I'm barbaric then call me a damn orc, don't mess up my food 💀

[@Aeriesan]

Story 2: OP didn’t like it the first or second time….why would she then give him like 4 more extra tries and hate it every time? If she’s not gonna give feedback, at least just say “No thanks, I’m not interested.” and give it no more chances.

[@lordlyhawk]

And tells her friends about it

[@league-of-shadows]

She was a mess.

[@anyjen]

Sometimes you are trying to give the other person the benefit of the doubt and see if they improve. Sometimes there's nothing else available and you get what you can get. Not everyone has it easy finding sexual partners and may not feel able to be picky.

[@X3N14]

Story 2: just say no 🤣 if he asks why, tell him. Don’t be so nice he doesn’t get the message. He’s already shown he can’t take a hint. So be blunt. Not saying anything is not helping his poor future partners. Also, warn all your girlfriends not to get with this dude.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

It's not her responsibility to teach this dude how to bang. Her asking for specific things should have been a clue to Mr. Ego that she wasn't enjoying it. He doesn't care. He was in it for himself, and has no interest in what his partner is feeling.

[@KADDIE101]

The whiplash I got after he said he got baptized is crazy😭

[@ladyv5655]

@KADDIE101 , pretty sure that is bs, the part about him getting baptized, I mean.

[@KADDIE101]

Literally bogus...I was cleaning when that part played I never looked at the screen so fast in my life😭

[@TwoCatsInLondon]

Story 2: Why didn’t she or any of the commenters seemingly consider the phrase “This isn’t working for me, so I don’t want to keep doing it.” And if he insists on why follow up with “We’re not sexually compatible. I told you what I wanted but you didn’t do those things, so this doesn’t work for me.”? I feel like that’s not a hard sentence to string together? Unless that’s hurtful? She was comfortable enough to tell him what she wanted, so just tell him “those things are important to me because otherwise I don’t have a good time”. This feels like such a simple discussion.

[@Jamlf]

I was thinking the same thing.

[@poetryqn]

Absolutely. 💯

[@league-of-shadows]

Totally agreed.The second story was just such a mess and exhausting lol.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

It's no secret that some people, especially women, are often taught to prioritize others' feelings over their own comfort.

[@myounakami]

I think she initially went into it telling him she was seeing someone because she didn't want to hurt his feelings or be the bad guy (since a lot of people equate being honest as being cruel), got thrown off when he made the BS excuse of 'finding god' to excuse her breaking things off with him, then pestered her for a sex critique; at that point, she was done with his bullshit and let him have it with both barrels since he made it clear he wasn't considering her feelings all the way through and just wanted an ego boost.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Last story was easy - she just had to say he’s a selfish lover that only cares about his pleasure. That’s not about his size, it’s about him as a person

[@morganleanderblake678]

Pretty sure that FWB was deliberately seeing how far he could go with just using her and not caring. It wasn't that he was bad at it or needed compassion. He knew. He just didn't care. Probably some "high value man" nonsense.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

wonder what he thinks constitutes high value then? It sure isn't his bedroom skills!

[@samanthaw3845]

If he wanted to cook it his way, why did he look her in the eyes and agree to follow her recipe? That’s the real issue here, that he lied to her face and then got mad at HER when he got caught. Edit: paprika in teriyaki seems like it would be a rather noticeable difference in taste. But rather hilarious that the husband didn’t like the chicken he made 😂 that’s why you follow the recipe, dude

[@jimbobjones9330]

To be fair, her version of the chicken sounded pretty vile, too. As someone who cooks a lot, who the hell adds onion powder, garlic powder, and friggin Tony Chacere (which is the only Tony's seasoning I can think of) to chicken that she's adding bottled teriyaki sauce to? Especially since the three top ingredients in Chacere's are salt, pepper, and garlic powder? The smoked paprika may have been an odd edition choice, but the red pepper flakes were WAY more "authentic" to Asian food than anything she added. She sounds like a terrible cook. Just because he's somehow worse doesn't make it any less true.

[@jessicarichards6796]

My husband would never fuck with my recipes. He loves my cooking and has cooked, which he’s admittedly not great at, but he follows my recipes to the letter so that it tastes as close to mine as possible.

[@betheguy_posts]

can't believe I beat the shrimp emoji guy to the comments this time

[@angelaa7388]

PRAWN

[@Markee]

Scampi

[@evecampbell3069]

You're also first!

[@jerriewyatt905]

sex without any romantic feelings involved isn’t enjoyable to many people, especially women.. It sounds like the guy is into missionary sex..

[@betheguy_posts]

@@evecampbell3069 🥇

[@lilunette9319]

"Who's Tony and why is he making spice?" This made me snort laugh 😂 I had basically the same question.

[@CanonSkyrissian]

story 1: NTA wtf is wrong with the husband, that was so disrespectful! I would straight up refuse to cook into the unforeseeable future after that

[@JenniSeven7]

Yeah, if you refuse to even TRY to please your partner, you’re gonna get talked about and you deserve it.

[@cloudfair2]

That guy in the last story, OH BOY! What a freaking COPE 🤣🤣🤣

[@Starvingmetheartist]

My first thought at the title is NTA, and do you need help burying the body?😂 Edit: okay as someone whose digestive system is delicate as spun sugar, I would be upset and unable to eat something like that suddenly changed (like I can handle sweet and sour chicken, but ghost chili chicken is not even viable for me).

[@alexanderhenby1362]

But she wanted Tony's on it. Which is red pepper and chili powder and cayenne pepper! I'm so confused

[@jakemarie828]

Story 2: the baptism is totally a cover. Dude can't handle feedback. Ick.

[@mulqueen2023]

Markee your interjections and comments are honestly the highlights of these vids 😂. I was pure dying when you talked about the twelve yr olds not loving each other. Just comedy good to me 🤣 And about offering water after sex. You left me in stitches mate.

[@iamconfusion1791]

I will never understand why women put up with bad sex. They don't want to "hurt their feelings", so you'd rather be sexually unstatisfied and have to use sex toys after your guy leaves? Really? Does this sound like a quality partner? Remember that sex and relationships are a two-way street, and your needs also count. There's also a way to be honest and direct while maintaining respect and dignity when telling a partner about their sexual performance, rather than straight-up lying. It's funny to me that they both lied to each other and OP could have just stated they weren't sexually compatible and his performance left her unstatisfied. Boom. Done.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Story 1: NTA don’t fuck with someone’s food. Simple as that.

[@JK-sh8rc]

Story 2: Am I just an old prude? Can't the OP just say "the sex was really really bad" without all the gory details?

[@petitmains]

Nope. You are a bit restrained and that's your choice, but it's not bad for someone to be more frank and unvarnished. If you prefer not to hear that style of talk it's best to excuse yourself from the conversation or story.

[@damien678]

It's a bit hard to give advice on how he could do better if we don't get the details, though.

[@stormkive4356]

she wanted advice on how to tell him how to improve (even if thats not how the conversation ended up) so commenters needed the details. i would say yeah ur a bit of a prude here. i think its reasonable to expect gory details in a story about sex partners

[@ndawn90]

No, I'm kinda with you on this one. The entire situation could just be resolved by stopping having sex with the guy. It's not OP's responsibility to coach him on sex, especially since they aren't even in a relationship! Therefore, the details are not necessary, because fixing his approach to sex is not her problem. The fact that Reddit told this girl that it was her responsibility is ludicrous. Especially since she was just going to lie to him anyway!

[@Chellirsl]

That's the thing, man think we just wing it and throw things together, and by dumb luck, we have it right. And then they try to do it and sush us... when they simply don't know the amount of time we WOMAN spend learning things to do it just right. Seriously, the first story had me furious. And he wasted food just to prove he could be "lucky" too. What a dumbass

[@NM-ub6ml]

Nta... it is meant to be teriyaki chicken. You are looking for a specific taste

[@MsAnonymous1981]

This story regarding the fwb-if she's just telling her friends that the guy is bad in bed in her opinion, what's the problem? She's saving her friends from potentially being disappointed by this selfish guy. I say selfish because he seems to think of her as a doll not a person deserving of pleasure. If her friends don't follow her advice, that's on them. If she's sharing explicit details like specific texts and actions he's doing/not doing, then that is different, and is a problem because her friends may not want to see/know that and that actually falls into the realm of shaming, not constructive advice. That I do not think is right. You treat others how you want to be treated. Doubt OP would want him sharing explicit details.

[@millersam07]

For the guys bad at sex, she DID already tell him. She explicitly said do X, but then he wouldn't. People if you're partner needs to tell you repeatedly the do X but you keep not listening, then your the issue. The ultimate issue is not listening to the partner, not communicating before, during, or after.

[@ajzephyros7454]

As a sex repulsed Asexual I’m glad I never have to worry about being good at sex cause I’m not having any cause Ace

[@vggeek13]

Same!!! All my friends except my fellow ace friends have sex horror stories no matter the gender or orientation they all have a story about bad or selfish lovers

[@ComaLies225]

NTA. Also Markee, I think there was a trial for male BC and they stopped testing cause the men were complaining about the side effects…even though women also experiences those as well and we’re just told to deal with it. Though certain birth controls have been shown to reduce the risk of breast cancer, regulate our cycles and help with acne. I guess to each their own😅

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

You're right about the history of birth control.

[@Markee]

I’m still gonna complain when I can get it one day because it’ll be funny

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@Markee If it does become available on an equal basis, it won't be during your lifetime. The pharmaceutical industry doesn't care about that which isn't profitable.

[@kurotsuki7427]

Its a risk vs reward type thing. Or side affects vs risk? Basically pregnancy and childbirth can be dangerous for women so potential discomfort, mood swings, and potential blood clots are considered worth it to avoid the potential risks of pregnancy. And birth control are also used to treat some other medical conditions where again the potential side affects are better than the current problem. But men generally don't get pregnant so the risk for them in not using birth control (besides condoms) is 0. Becaise their risk is 0 the side affects would have to also be 0 to be considered a reasonable pay off. It is a good method for deciding what side affects are ok to risk in most all cases, but it keeps cock blocking a needed med here.

[@lilunette9319]

​@kurotsuki7427 I'm pretty sure a lot of men want to avoid the risk of paying child support for 18 years. They should do a survey and get those men in the trial :)

[@LilBluSky0417]

My husband wouldn't ever mess with my recipes out of basic respect and also because he's absolutely loves my cooking. He's happy to assist and always follows my recipes to the letter 🥰

[@nadirimyers6643]

Story 2: it’s not hard to say I don’t want to meet up anymore. Esp if he don’t even live near you anymore. Use your big girl words! Also he could just be bad at sex with you. Obviously y’all are not compatible soooo that probably makes sex harder. Like girl you could even ghost him if you want just stand tf up

[@tiggertail779]

Even if you were to tell your friend about that male friend, she`ll be like, "Buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut, I can change him! You don`t know him like I dooooo!"

[@Incognito_1964]

Story 2. I personally have tried to give a couple of partners feedback. Tried to explain what I like. Ask what he likes etc. Both times the guy got his ego hurt. I wasn't rude or harsh. Because the way I look at things. It could only make it better for both of us. With one guy he tried fir a bit. Then said he liked it better his way, ie: idgaf about your enjoyment. The other guy just got mad and said no one else complained. I said I am not no one else. I am me. This is what I need for both of us to enjoy it. He didn't see the point. Both got mad when I said I am done. Go find someone else. 🙄. Some people don't want to change.

[@mae-z6s]

#1 OP married a child. Very common occurrence. The issues she is having with her husband sound similar to what I went through with my ex husband (partially, as there was other issues) and he did these things to be passive aggressive towards me. Thus, one of the reasons why he is an ex husband.

[@alg94]

men always say that they want a relationship like their grandparents. totally ignoring the fact that more than likely their grandma was a victim and their grandpa was her predator. one thing I learned as I got older that the happiest day in many of those old ladies lives is the day their husband passes away and they are no longer under his control

[@helenasouza9196]

Story : I hate this idea that we have to play teacher and mommy to men regarding sex. The whole "Oh OP never gave him feedback!". Why women have to be put in the uncomfortable position to volunteer feedback? If the guy is not asking and trying to get better on his own, it tells me he doesn't give a f***. Why should I treat him like a toddler or a being without agency? Why men can't simply ask "is that anything you like? What do you prefer? Is this working for you? How do you like that?" and in this case, OP DID give feedback. She told him what she wanted, needed, what he could do and how to do it and he didn't care. It wasn't a situation in which OP was faking orgasms and making him believe everything was peachy. For what she writes and judging by the guy's reaction later, it was pretty obvious she wasn't trying to hide it wasn't working for her and he didn't care. That's simply it. He did not care. As long as she was willing to spread her legs so he could have his pleasure, he'd take it without feeling the need to give anything back in return.

[@lynnw7155]

Yup. Some men just don't care if you enjoy it or not. My ex would do things that I didn't like; if I said "Please don't do that, it doesn't feel good", he would say "Well I wouldn't mind if you did it to me" and continue doing it (yes, I got the hint and did those things to him). I'd tell him what I liked, but by the next time he'd completely forget; it was like teaching Sex 101 every single time. That gets tedious. That and lasting a minute or less (my fault; I "moved too much") was one of the many many reasons he's my ex.

[@jessielee3187]

OP 2 was really immature ngl.

[@BloodSunBlast]

..... Gurl four times?! Nah I wouldn't entertain a guy who couldn't please me sexually for a third time. I'd give a second chance to see if it was just nerves but if he chose not to get me to finish then why even let him finish. If i have to do all the work on myself AND my partner then whats the point of having a partner?!

[@somethingsomethingsarcasm]

EXACTLY. If a man can't get something SO SIMPLE right, why bother lol

[@anonymouse9833]

Story 2 is wild lol

[@notkaliroi6675]

(story 1) As someone who would also get mad at my husband/boyfriend if he did something inconsequential: OP sounds petty and immature, and the comments are too much. They've been married for 13 years! they know it's not about the chicken. But the husband doesn't seem unwilling to listen to her concerns, was honest about him not liking how he did the chicken which shows it wasn't about ego, does actually split the housework with her on a regular basis, and doesn't have a pattern of this behavior, so I think it's on OP. She needs to do some self-reflection and see where this is really coming from and assess if her reaction was appropriate, but also recognize how inappropriate the comments are.

[@Lightwaverable]

Story 2: What a fucking irritating story . Op was honestly getting on my fucking nerves

[@VorenusXIII]

This. Everyone is the Ahole because everyone is a liar. Including the Redditor that advised OP to lie even more. At least the ending is funny. Two pathological liars trying to break up with each other. "Baptism", my ass. He had to go outside to make up a story and that's the best he could come up with? Those liars deserved each other.

[@ndawn90]

OMG, THANK YOU!!! She kept saying that she didn't want to hurt his feelings, but also somehow wanted to give him feedback on his approach to sex, and asked for advice on how to give him that advice, but then ignored him and lied to him anyway. She called it a "white lie", but it was just a straight up freaking lie!!! This entire situation could have been resolved by literally saying No after the first freaking time!! This guy sucks, but OP is the freaking *WORST*!!!

[@bluebeanie561]

Anybody heard about the guy using a song to do the tango? CBAT I believe it was.

[@thatonearoace]

Just when I thought I’d escaped CBat 😔

[@saged1513]

The only thing I play when handed the aux

[@fleacythesheepgirl]

Husband has no energy to help, but worked up the motivation to screw things up? 😐

[@mogulmade]

Exactly. Why didn't he go change the sheets?!

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 1: And this is why whenever my husband cooks, he asks me to spice the meat because he knows I like the meat a certain way (he doesn't put on much spices, so the food tastes bland to me).

[@miz6229]

Hahahaha OP is such an immature 25 y.o. She counted her elementary to grade school "dating" like a real relationship. Now she's having bad sex and she keeps going back to him. Jeez girl! It's just a hook up. Let a hook up go. No need to explain.

[@marshawargo7238]

I kinda got the impression that this was his first or had very few before this. Like maybe he thought the man finishing is the whole point & women are only there as a receptacle?!!! Maybe he didn't even know that women have any feelings about the act one way or the other? A homeschool kid with No sex education at all? His total knowledge is bits & partial snippets he's heard in the locker room or coming of age movies?

[@carolsimpson4422]

​@marshawargo7238 it's more likely he learned about sex from porn, where women are just holes to stick it in.

[@miz6229]

@marshawargo7238 it's 2024. He's in his mid 20s. You gotta live under a rock to not know you should try to please your partner. He's just selfish. OP tried to tell him what she liked, and he did it for a short time and then just did his own thing for his satisfaction. His church upbringing probably didn't help because women are not looked at as sexual beings but just a vessel to carry children and procreate. OP was dumb enough to feel guilty or whatever to allow him to come back. Young women need to have some backbone and stop thinking they need to rescue/teach some guy what to do in bed. Reserve this teaching for a guy who is a long term partner. This was just a hookup.

[@ndawn90]

Right? Like, girl, you used so many words when the entire situation could be resolved with just saying one word: No. If you want to be extra, go with: No thank you. Problem freaking *SOLVED*!!!

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

thats some serious control issues and entitlement to mess up some one's cooking,

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: NTA, you never add anything to a pot, that the chef/cook does not tell you to add.

[@LikeWaterBaby]

The problem with giving men feedback is that even if you’re nice about it, they get offended. It’s a blow to their ego and depending on the guy, he might lash out.

[@jbgra2566]

S1: people on reddit read too much into the issue. Partners do dumb shiet from time to time, and no, this was not a hill to die on. S2: yikes, that guy is something else. I'm sorry for the next girl who is going to cross paths with that weirdo.

[@RaccoonsTrashVault]

Ooooh when the husband didn't like his Chicken Nightmare dish, sweetest karma. You decided to be dumb, now you get to eat the results. He didn't deserve the chicken breast though.

[@cheekyweb8055]

The last story is so funny lmao 😭 he fucking knew it LMAO

[@MH-ku5kn]

Ah it’s my time to shine lol! Tony Chachere’s Original Creole Seasoning (aka Tonys) is a blend of creole spices made in Opelousas, Louisiana. We put it on everything here. The southwest Louisiana version is also good and it’s called Slap Your Mama. It is pronounced sa-shur-ee…. Yes, you’re still probably saying it wrong.😂 Sorry for saying shrimp that one time lol.

[@jimbobjones9330]

I like Tony Chachere just fine, but I'd slap everyone's mama before I put that on teriyaki chicken. It is definitely _not_ a combination that goes together.

[@totitelevisionshow]

i’m going to chuck a prawn on the barbie one day…

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Story 1: It's always a red flag to me when someone does something completely unnecessary, knowing it would ypset their partner if they got caught. Also, it's just straight up disrespectful to mess with someone else's meal like this. OP had everything set up, and he agreed to follow it. But he didn't, so now we get to add lying to the list of things this guy has done too. It would've been different if he made it clear he just wanted to change HIS portion of the food. But it's clear that wasn't his intention or defense. This is a pretty great way to make sure OP never cooks for him again.

[@jenniferrichards2122]

My father did this to me. Had finally made the best stir fry. Best blend of veggies, tender but crisp, seasoning and rice. My brother and I had our plates, he got there late, and I see him turn the oven back on. He overcooked veggies to practical mush. The way he liked. So mad. How does this guy think she wouldn’t notice the extra spice?

[@dc.pxrecious]

I think the Op in story 1 is hungry and tired and has been carrying the team for a month, and if those things were not a factor things might have gone differently or may not have been a big deal lol

[@AvyFerg]

S2: Just say thanks but no thanks. We aren't sexually compatible. I like XYZ and you don't do it. The end.

[@craigwapples4200]

2:54 omg the Iranian yoghurt is a crazy throw back story 😂

[@Spiritrose25]

Story 2: My ex and I used to hook up occasionally. I told him I had a tilted uterus (a lot of women in my life have one, and about 20% of women have one so it's not that uncommon) and that it made sex really painful in certain positions, and he went around telling people I had a "crooked p*ssy"🙃 AND HE WAS STILL TRYING TO HOOK UP WITH ME AFTER I FOUND OUT FROM A MUTUAL FRIEND!!!!! He told a lot of people we both knew. Keep in mind, HE was the only one who ever came!!! And not only does he not know the difference between a vagina and a uterus, he smelled like onions simply because he didn’t shower much! I was 18 and he was the guy I lost my virginity to (he was only a year older than me) and he was my first kiss when I was 15, so I was emotionally attached to him for whatever reason😂

[@Batman-lg2zj]

Story 1: NTA but op shouldn’t trust this man .

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

"God, this sex is so awful. But maybe it'll be better next time. Nope, it's still terrible. But maybe next time. Nope, it's still bad." How many times does it take, OP?! 😂

[@reneenoriega4524]

Three seems to be her limit 🥴

[@redonyx5428]

Adding unnessary spices can actually f a dish up. IE make it too salty etc. Also this isnt about the seasoning. This is blantant disrespect.

[@MariaPlacido-b7s]

Good Friday Morning Markee, it's seems I'm first from all the way from Toronto Ontario Canada. Everyone on this group have a good weekend 😊🇨🇦

[@holographicwing]

Story 1 this is why you don't marry young.

[@MizMorgue1]

Bad sex is the worst. Glad OP didn't keep that going.

[@ndawn90]

Except she freaking did!! She had sex with him 3 times after it was bad the first time!! It was bad the first time, it was bad the second time, it was bad the third time, and it was bad the fourth freaking time, but she *STILL* said yes over and over and over again!! She should have shut that down after the first time, second time at the absolute freaking latest! They weren't dating, they were never going to be dating, there's literally no reason to go through that 4 goddamn times!!

[@MizMorgue1]

@@ndawn90 agreed. Unfortunately many girls and women are STILL being trained to "be nice" regardless of the situation. Just like boys and men are expected to not express their emotions because being vulnerable is considered "weak". Humans truly are the most dangerous, damaged animal on this planet.

[@fantasticmrfox9291]

I've had my hubs hovering around eating the bacon from the pan *while I'm cooking it* there's a reason so many ruthless arguments happen in the kitchen

[@Iflie]

I have read some stuff about guys intentionally making zero effort for hook ups because they just want their own pleasure and can't be bothered. But then that makes me think they are really bad at it when they do make an effort with girlfriends because they don't get pleasure out of pleasing a woman or are even just nice. They don't like women probably. A guy that knows foreplay exists and still doesn't do it is just intentionally bad. Even if the woman doesn't give feedback, you have google.

[@kentario1610]

I'm sorry, this might be irrelevant, but OUR 88 year old grandmother?

[@GKFF9872]

The Spice must flow. He who controls the spice, controls the universe.

[@catsncrows]

S2 Potential terrifying thought about emotions in elementary and middle school. Adultification (is that a word?) in her family and she hasn't figured it out yet. (Me wildly projecting I know) I know it's a girl's girl thing to teach this man but she doesn't have to if he's going to turn into a whole insulted mean jerk. Fortunately he tripped and fell into a bible

[@Choachno3]

Letter 2 was written by a virgin teenage boy.

[@littlegreycat]

17:00 he's a selfish lover. Just say you aren't interested in sex with him any more. Nuff said.

[@marcsando]

Maybe he only offered to help just so that he COULD cook it his way. And too fatigued by meds to assist even a little? BS!! OP is NOT the AH.

[@oogawa13kokomi]

Sex in my last relationship was like story 2 but id actually tell him what I needed and it was halfassed for less than a minute and then he went back to what he was doing. He also would never make the moves first. When I broke up with him he blew up and tried gaslighting me saying "not everything is about sex" like ok it's not but the sex is HORRIBLE and shows how you do not listen at all and indicative of bigger problems

[@strawberrysangria1474]

Markee, you are killing it with the jokes today. Congratulations on being, officially, the boyfriend who lives in Australia!

[@CYBER_5KU11]

Story 2: when she says he's rolling around in her, I imagine her lying on her back on the bed while he's standing off on the side of the bed spinning like a plane propeller XD

[@aprilfox9205]

Nooooo, y??? 🤣😂😭✌️

[@annsnyder4662]

Ihado a large crock pot full with roast beef, potatoes, carrots, onion, garlic and salt. My now ex added a LOT more salt and pepper (he knew I could not eat pepper). When I found out I threw the whole thing in the trash right in front of him. He pulled a lot of other sh... stunts so the reason for him being ex.

[@lianabaddley8217]

😢 🥩🥔🥕😤 People need to just stop adding stuff to food they are not cooking! A good roast dinner is always the BEST!!

[@trixmania]

The guy not happy she shared in group chat? That dud should never follow some girls to bathrooms....

[@BbiBbii]

That first story hit close to home, especially that last comment thread. I used to take a cooking class growing up and the boys in that class is what made me drop it 😅 They always acted so high and mighty for being boys in a “girls” class, they would talk down to others and add stuff into your dish without saying anything. Made me wanna dump my food on them. I used to face that at home with my male family members as well (despite half of them depending on their wives to cook), it stopped only after I banned all men from entering the kitchen when I’m cooking. Told them that if they wanted to backseat cook so much then they could just cook it themselves one Thanksgiving. The food was absolutely atrocious, the only thing I can say positively is they “baked” the Hawaiian rolls perfectly 🤦‍♀️

[@Anamink]

Just FYI, "Tony's spice" is most likely referring to Tony Chachere's Creole Seasoning, which is an incredible spice blend that I may or may not overuse when I'm cooking. xD But I would never use it on Teriyaki, of course!

[@nyxspiritsong5557]

Dang id be pissed. When necessary i cook two separate portions just because my MIL can't eat spicy stuff without major tummy issues. So i make here mills, and ours with a bit more kick. Husband was being a tool.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: While I understand them being upset, turning into a "dumbass men" rant is overboard. For one thing, thinking you know better than everyone else is not a gender thing, it's a personality thing. (My mother is one.) Secondly, there are plenty of men that don't do this. My husband actually cooks 99% of the meals in our household, but when I do, he doesn't try to take over, or criticize how I do it. If I have questions about how he does things a certain way (for instance, I don't usually cook in the cast iron), he'll gladly offer to show me. Third, they're complaining about "shitty men being tolerated for too long," but they married those men and tolerated those men, so they enabled this behavior, and allowed it to continue as long as it did. S2: "Yeah, I was actually going to tell you I needed to stop cause religion and stuff. Oh, btw, what did you think of my size and performance in bed?" "You can ask your wife after you get married; since you're a man of god now, you won't be "practicing" anymore right?" Uh-huh. Religion, my ass.

[@babybookworm003]

For story 1 I don’t cook well enough to deviate from the instructions provided

[@Gildacapra]

Story 2: ETA he sucks (though not in the way she was hoping , apparently) she sucks, the advice she took sucked. Just a whole bunch of people being inconsiderate and dishonest with each other. It's hard to be on anyone's side for this one

[@Imahappygirl25]

Story 1 & 2 are both about selfish ‘nice guys’. Women, stop treating them like fragile eggs when they stomp on your boundaries

[@venusbleu5764]

My husband would never disrespect my cooking like this. Ooh no.

[@piratsnygg]

Yuck, smoked paprika will turn every dish into bbq. It's not SPICY like some of the comments are saying; it's just smoke flavoured.

[@sdaniels160]

"Unneccessary spices" is what other people call flavor. Hubby is sick of OP's cooking and doesn't have the balls to tell her. Hubby is wrong for going behind her back, but simply putting sauce on chicken is not seasoning and is bland AF.

[@ariste01]

I swear, if you tell a guy a girl is dangerous, that just makes him go after her more sometimes.

[@ariste01]

Though I guess tbf you've got these women that write serial killers so....

[@feathersprinkles]

Markee worrying about people's hydration levels during the deed🤣🤣

[@cloroxflavoredbleach9362]

For story 2 the both of them honestly sound insufferable to me i swear They're like the state of hookup culture incarnate. Hes a liar, is selfish, and doesn't practice the teachings of the Bible. She talks about their sex life behind his back and ridicules him to others for it without ever actually talking about it and is also a liar.

[@soniatello4556]

who gives a fuck abt the teachings of the bible 💀 oh no he broke rules some people wrote hundreds of years ago!

[@cloroxflavoredbleach9362]

@@soniatello4556 its called religion thats the whole point you follow a belief system. And going against what you claim to follow is looked down upon. What's the difference between rules for yourself set by you and rules set by the hundreds of generations before you. There's nothing wrong with self discipline its genuinely beneficial in life to making good decisions.

[@soniatello4556]

@@cloroxflavoredbleach9362 you don't need a made up deity to have self discipline. if you do, you're just weak. same way that if religion is what stops you from being a bad person (raping, stealing, killing, etc) you're just not a good person.

[@josepherhardt164]

1:22 I haven't even read to the end of this story yet, and I'm already angry. If what I cook in the kitchen has been good up till now, do NOT now come in and sabotage my work. And when I'm busy in the kitchen, do NOT come in and start doing your own sh!t. I'm surprised most murders don't occur in the kitchen. I mean, the weapons are there.

[@carolsimpson4422]

Whyyyyy does op keep ff-ing this guy? Get some self-respect girl!

[@patriciakilbourn4323]

My husband was disrespectful (and otherwise non-physically abusive). But, I didn't know better. It was the way my mother treated me and her husband. However, there was a very small thing that broke the camel's back. I left and filed for divorce. I was happy and relieved when the court announced that the divorce was final. Then my older son, college age, said "Mom, if you were going to do it, why didn't you do it years ago" It breaks my heart when I read or heard about men and women who live in these situations and don't realize that what they are glossing over is really mental or emotional abuse.

[@0mniaVanitas]

Story 1: i mean, the seasoning she picked was already bad for teriyaki sauce to begin with (I'm guessing by Tony's Seasoning she means Tony Chachere's which... On teriyaki? Girl? No.) but anyway it's clearly not about the chicken, it's about the disrespect, she's been hard carrying that household and when he finally does something for himself again, he disrespects her wants and apparently leaves her without food and also takes the chicken she was planning to use the next day, which is incredibly inconsiderate and disrespectful, also "Our" grandmother? *is confused and disgusted* Story 2: there's so much to unpack here, why did she keep sleeping with him if he was that bad? the way she describes what he did in bed sounds like he'll be just fine with his hand and relationship with god since he doesn't seem interested in the other aspects of being with someone in that manner. Also, she really went from "I dont want to hurt his feelings :(" to putting that man in morgue, "yeah, i figured" is a deranged reply to that omg

[@tossedsaladandscrambledeggs52]

Teriyaki Chicken: It's not about the food. It's not following the recipe OP requested. He used the chicken for the next night's meal. No. No. No. No. It is about him agreeing to make the chicken with the spices that OP already had out on the counter AND NOT DOING SO!!! He lied. He snuck around. And his intention was to trick OP. Those are the bigger parts of the disrespect. AND because OP specifically asked him to follow the recipe she planned and laid out the spices for, he has clearly effed around with her recipes before. Likely multiple times. Big disrespect and feeling disrespected building every time he does this. Ten times worse if she has discussed this with him before.

[@eli3rdgender208]

Story 2: after years of trying to tell or show him kindly, I tried showing my husband the same level of effort that he showed me. He just yelled and nothing got better. We're divorced now and he's super depressed about his lack of options as a 47 yo divorced man with a child. Oops. Sucks to suck!