I Left Narcissistic Relationships YEARS AGO Why Am I Still Stuck?

[@bluebird3014]

When you have kids, (in my case now grown), they’ve been told lies about what happened and they also have some narcissistic traits, so things come up that have to be dealt with, which also keeps you stuck. I absolutely DO react if I ever think anyone is trying to manipulate or control. Sometimes they’re not, but I really have to figure that out. My Insides and brain absolutely react that that stuff will NEVER be allowed in my life again.

[@RedheadedWritinghood]

That’s me also I was in it for 30 years and I have five grown children

[@attractarattigan3574]

Made me seriously ill. Seven yrs later Im still STUCK. Court ongoing - with him draging it out.. To eternity.

[@davidhynd4435]

My father is narcissistic. I spent my childhood and much of my adulthood trying to win his approval. I never did. On top of that I was married (now separated) to a covert NPD person. I've now had more than 30 hours of counselling. I can tell that there's still a way to go, but there is progress. There's definitely a lot of bad programming to undo. However, if you've just started out on this journey be encouraged. There is a better life ahead. Be the kind, thoughtful, sensitive (Yes, sensitive is a good thing), loving person you always knew you were. A peaceful life.

[@jessicadubois9945]

One of the absolute hardest parts.

[@stevenmiller3337]

I am still stuck. I want to get unstuck, but I need a new person in my life to push the old one out. All the new ones have hallmarks of the old one... narcs everywhere

[@FlockingNerds]

Soooo true …it like we are doomed….sad but true :(

[@FlockingNerds]

What looks good is just a different flavour of narc icecream…it like some serious baskin robins bull shit with the free cones🎉…that was generous lol ..and to know the fact they go after the good ones…we screwed

[@kathygallagher8273]

This resonates so much with me! I was with him 20 years, married for 15 and have been out of the relationship for 5 years and still feel stuck some times. He has “visitation” with our kids (when he can make time) and I am always on edge when he comes. Thankfully, it is maybe once a month or less. I resent that I still feel this way - I should be past this. I still have a lot of healing to do.

[@Helena-tw7pj]

I didn´t learn about narcisism till I was 50. All these years in thearpi and noone ever touched the subject. It was all about changing ME. When I learned about narc and CPTSD it was an AHA-moment for me. Now I am working on shutting down "the voices" in my head.

[@arianasha]

EXACTLY ! I’m seeing this so clearly now.. thank you Michele!

[@barbarajcavyell9929]

So me right now!! I left my husband 7 1/2 months ago 😢

[@Happy-Me.]

Wow!!!😮 You haven't aged. An intelligent and natural beauty!

[@jwhalen111]

Thank you Michele! As always you explain things so well...and thank you for the encouragement about why it's not about being weaker/stronger...I've been in a dysfunctional narcissist family since I was little...but the focusing on them, wow didn't realize why I do that, yes, definitely it's to protect myself but keeps me stuck

[@terrydyer2490]

WOW, Thank You for validating and explaining the lingering effects of narcissistic abuse. I guess It wasn't all in my head. I have been thinking that I'm just going crazy for not being able to escape from the past. I've been no contact ,moved 3000 miles away, for over 4 years and still can not function. I want to get out and meet new people but I've been dealing with the narcissist abuse and the fact it's my daughter and she stressed out my husband, her father so bad that he had an emotional breakdown and started uncontrollably crying and gasping for air then he collapsed and died. It's been almost 5 years, I was trying to be civil and do the gray rock thing with her so I could keep in touch with my grandson that we raised from birth to 6 years old but she was still trying to control me and verbally and mentally abusing me over the phone. I have had to go no contact with my grandson also. It hurts so much, and it's killing me. I'm dealing with narcissistic abuse and grief. My entire life died. I don't know how to start over at the age of 58 with health problems and being disabled. It's not easy to jump into society at my age. But this video explains alot. I don't know if you will see this Michelle, but thank you.

[@eloisehamilton2522]

Narcissists are manic, my older sister is like that - it never stops & her methods just get more sophisticated. Manic-insane: any even tiny positive step I make she gazumps like the depraved cesspit she is. She just swipes every positive, constructive act I make so she can use it as her own and take it away from me due to her insane pathological envy. Stole all my designer clothes to take for herself or her daughters or throw out. This is supposed to prove she has a sense of humour. Took/swiped my batik's I made in a 1week workshop I paid for. I never saw them again. Not only did she desecrate reading of books for me, but I realise she worked like a trooper all my growing up to ensure I never saw the daily paper which my parents had delivered (back in the 60's). Destroyed my career. Insanely jealous because some 4-yr old boy liked me in kindergarten. She mentioned him/it one day when she was 50 or so, when the memory for me was completely gone! It is quite shocking to think there are actually people this depraved. They were spoilt as children, not taken on. They believe they're superior. The Proverbs tell us parents have to reprimand bad behaviour while children are young.

[@annasimon7077]

Magnificient explanation, Michelle. This is so true. Thanks for the amazing video!

[@hazelmarieb9934]

I learned a quick way to screen potential issues early is to ask them their boundaries and comfort levels with conversations. Narcissistic people HATE being clear with you and cant even answer that question clearly, they prefer to gaslight you into thinking you should just "know whats appropriate" people are different and have different boundaries and comfort levels. You're first thought is "gee i feel bad i dont know whats appropriate" but the thing is appropriate varies person to person as long as all parties involved are consenting and comfortable with the topics being discussed. See the subtle way they gaslight and how its so effective?

[@lovefaith1794]

Thank you for what you do here❤

[@andriyandriychuk]

I was 28 yo when I got to know my father was a narcissist. Suddenly everything made sense. What happened etc. But it is hard to rise from the ashes.

[@Radiantly_Resilient_Ry]

I feel like I’m never going to get better 💔. I just got out a year ago from my 8 year relationship with my ex-husband but finally broke away from his hovering 3 months ago, at the beginning of June. And I just recently discovered that my mom was a narcissist and I grew up alone with her being an only child and living states away from all of my family. My life has been a nightmare since 2022 with numerous hospitalizations and attempts. I feel so alone and without any kind of support system. I have been going through most of this alone because my only person lives is California and I live in Texas.

[@kelseykimmell9929]

Bless you. Thank you so much for this.

[@FlockingNerds]

Omg …my nervous system has been stuck for years narc family and on top of it a narc mother and father and many relationships …no wonder why I can’t break free…they don’t want see you enjoy your life and jealous of you when you do don’t want see you shine …experience do any of that….stay quiet be seen not heard …life is a chore no time for fun …just ridiculous way of living….crazy

[@alisha8833]

Omg! Yes! This is me now! 😢

[@FlockingNerds]

Yes

[@takitakirumba22]

Could those narcissists all be part of a spiritual cult?? It's not simply getting over a narcissistic relationship years ago then..

[@stevenmiller3337]

They are the satanic cult.

[@FlockingNerds]

There is a lot of talk in our tribe of survivors of them dabbling in the dark arts…narc poacher and several other KZbin channels validate it …stay strong in yourself and don’t be fooled to go down the twin flame tar-rot card path…greatest trick the devil pulled is convincing the world he didn’t exist…if you start dabbling in the twin flame tarrot thing it is a portal for there demonic energy to enter your life…..it will mess up your relationships with loved ones …finances ….health …these people are demons …stay the f…. Away and do a spiritual bath with pink salt and pray for gods protection to get them out of your life …do not do any exchange of energy texts phone calls nothing or you will live there Demonic reality And not your own….many survivors will testify to this ….

[@FlockingNerds]

Don’t now were my previous comment went …but my opinion is yes …yes….f….yes….lots of survivors will testify to this…and don’t be fooled by going down the tarrot card path to see if they think about you …it is a portal for them to mess further with your life….relationships health and take your energy….don’t be fooled

[@Christopher-dh5vq]

Michele could you pretty please do a video? on Narcissist Gangstalking

[@Tom-jl9ir]

i am from india. i am in narcissistic parents abuse from 24 years by birth. my mental and physical health is totally destroyed. i am 24 hours confusion brain fog state. i have various types of disorders symptoms like bipolar disorder, adhd, split personality disorder, trauma bonding, Stockholm syndrome, extreme fear, extreme low self esteem & self confidence, Learned helplessness. i have sucidal thoughts 24 hours. i have only trauma images in my head. My studies, my focus, my personality completely destroyed. i am living in Fear all the time 24 hours. how to overcome and cut off 100% from my narcissistic parents? anyone please guide me?

[@Volodymyr-Vo]

Hi, I'm with you. Remember that you're not alone. And remember that you can heal yourself. The healing journey is not easy and not quick. But it's doable. Step by step. Bit by bit. And don't be frustrated if you feel like you are stuck. Keep going no matter what, keep going your healing journey.

[@Volodymyr-Vo]

Also I would like to recommend you watching JulienHimself videos who helped me a lot by his learnings, especially letting go meditations - just search for "Guided Meditation: Letting Go Of Anxiety, Fear & Worries (Powerful Mindfulness Visualization)"

[@Volodymyr-Vo]

Also I would like to recommend you watching Julien Himself videos who helped me a lot by his learnings, especially letting go meditations - just search for "Guided Meditation: Letting Go Of Anxiety, Fear & Worries (Powerful Mindfulness Visualization)"

[@Volodymyr-Vo]

Also I would like to recommend you watching Julie n Himsel f videos who helped me a lot by his learnings, especially letting go meditations - just search for "Guided Meditation: Letting Go Of Anxiety, Fear & Worries (Powerful Mindfulness Visualization)"

[@Volodymyr-Vo]

Also I would like to recommend you Julien Himself learnings who helped me a lot