I Left NYC For These 3 Reasons

[@joymae]

THE REAL ONES STAY POST NYC - jk jk ❤ no but really… thank you

[@thedizispell]

🐶 You’re so right about living in New York and having friends - from experience, it’s totally normal (by NYC standards) to have really close friends and only see them ever few months. When everyone is so busy and lives in different boroughs/has different schedules it’s hard to even plan simple things like dinners or going to the movies. It’s so different from smaller European cities where you can finish a workday, eat dinner, and still have time to stop by a friend’s house to hang out…

[@joymae]

I’m happy to hear I’m not the only one thinking this! I’ve heard places like Spain is less lonely and people make time to socialize after work etc

[@divinemessenger2030]

Yup. Cus we’re always busy trying to afford the crazy cost of living here. Barely have time for yourself…. Crazy.

[@flyfly2850]

This is the most mature and intelligent video testimony about living in NYC that I watched in a very long time. I have been dreaming of living in NYC since 1989 ... I did have other experiences and move across the world, no regrets, just need to hear the harsh truth about NYC...so sad that one of the best city in the world has come to all this.

[@joymae]

Just keeping it real. I’ve been here for four years to some that’s not long to others it’s eternity. It was long enough for me!

[@spicynomad]

if you want to move to nyc and can afford it you should. listen to stories but like any other city you know how to keep yourself safe. ive been here for over 20 years and im a girl and i dont have any issues and im out at 3am sometimes.

[@TheGoodLifeStarterPack]

I would suggest you have a pied-à-terre NYC residence, rather than live there full-time. Or just go for a month and rent an AirBnB, for the experience you’re seeking, just got in eyes wide open and your head on a swivel.

[@lisasheridan5482]

I admire your bravery and courage. Especially your willingness to embrace change even when it's difficult. 💖

[@joymae]

Thank you!!! Thank my therapist hahah

[@stephaniem5188]

Thank you for bringing attention to these issues. Love and support you for doing what is best and safest for you ❤

[@joymae]

Thank you so much

[@Super-yw7ss]

Hi Joy, I have lived in NYC for over 40+ years (native) and know a lot of ppl, related and not, experienced more than most and I know you made the right decision, if I left, I wouldn’t look back from my experience living here, just to visit that’s all, everything you said is spot on, NYC has become Very OVERATED!!!

[@spicynomad]

she also said its not safe and i dont agree. there is a saying that if you can make it here...or she will chew you up and spit you out...etc.

[@jayvito86]

I don't blame you, im born and raise in the big apple and I recently purchased a new home and moved out of NY. I just felt it was time to part ways.

[@joymae]

Congrats on home ownership!

[@elizmon8526]

Nothing beats home ownership--I managed to buy and sell a place 20 min. outside of NYC - the BEST move I ever made. So still here.

[@elizabethcommandeur4093]

Really good video! 🐶 NYC has always been scary, every trip I always had a bad experience on the subway (long before the pandemic). Crime has really gotten bad all over North America. I hope there’s a more positive shift in energy coming. More videos with Brody please! 🐶

[@joymae]

Yes I agree it’s not just a nyc thing I think it’s a city thing across America. I’m not happy with the way things are being run there needs to be more accountability.

[@JoshIsOnAMission]

Same thing happened to me in LA - everyone would just move to another city. It becomes super lonely.

[@joymae]

I think that’s just early adulthood. When I was in Arizona people left a lot too because they would move for a job and then “level” up to a bigger city.

[@linlin_says]

Hey Joy thank you so much for your story, I moved out of NY in end of 2019 and was luckily to avoid the covid and Asian hate things afterwards. But I've always miss the time living in the big Apple just because of the diversity and tons of things to do. After saw the quote you shared, I believe I actually have more options to make me feel happy rather than just thinking about living in the greatest city in the world!

[@joymae]

Thank you and it’s exactly true focus on how you feel instead of how your life looks. I had a great time in the city until it no longer was serving me. It’s still a great place but not in the phase of my life at the moment.

[@junekuntz1874]

Sometimes change is hard but traveling is exciting I'll see you in your travels. 🐶

[@joymae]

Yes it is! Thank you

[@heatherkarko564]

Wishing you the best! Looking forward to more traveling videos. 🐶🐾

[@joymae]

Thank you!!!

[@lotsofnella]

I love how you are so fluid! Yes to life journey !!!! I loveee you girl!!!!

[@joymae]

THANK U! Free as a bird now

[@tallgirlsrock100]

Hi Joy, I'm from Chicago and I moved to Wisconsin because living in the city was too much for me. I wanted a quite safe place to raise my girls. Thanks for taking us along. 🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@joymae]

Chicagos been a mess lately, good for you for taking the leap

[@BrinaSmith]

Girl keep Chicago name out of your mouth. Chicago was named the best big city in the country for 7 straight years. You know nothing about Chicago.

[@tallgirlsrock100]

I was born on the south side of Chicago in 1966 and moved from Chicago in 1993. I won’t lip box with you. Just check yourself.❤❤❤❤

[@BrinaSmith]

Girl shut up because I was replying to the other person. I don't care what you have to say about Chicago. Go find something to do.

[@SolisOfDreams]

​@BrinaSmith Chicago is trash. Born and raised on the south side. Lmao. Sorry but it's a very dangerous city and only getting worse by the way. SO, YEAH. Cope? Stay mad, fuck Chicago.

[@brianhatcher1437]

Joy, I have been watching your journey the last few years. When you left NYC, what state did you go to?

[@dianebaker5243]

Wishing you the very best in life. ❤

[@joymae]

Thank you same to you

[@GinaBell-i7r]

Hi Joy, thank you for your honest account of NYC. I recently visited for the first time from Australia. Can I say I hated New York. I felt uneasy the whole time I was there. The loud sounds, the people were not friendly, social problems everywhere, weed smell everywhere and the divide between rich and poor was terrible. As a little girl I thought the big apple was the place to be. Unfortunately, it’s all smoke and mirrors. I hope the city can turn itself around and solve its homeless problems and help the mentally ill that need help.

[@joymae]

I can see that. The divide is very wide between the rich and poor and it's sad.

[@channel_nick87]

met all my friends through work, hobbies and my neighborhood in Brooklyn. Making friends was the easiest for me in NY. Left 3 years ago and making friends out of a city is way harder in my opinion especially since more people are married and have families out of the city. I was there 10 years though, I think like anywhere you live consistency and investment where you are is what will generator longterm friends.

[@joymae]

That’s so true!

[@Welovehorrormovies]

I know how you feel, living in SF the homeless problem is out of control. One guy was following me and he started chasing me and throwing a HUGE rock towards my head. And people saw him but just looked away because it happens ALL the time. He could have killed me just because he's paranoid. I'm scared a lot now.

[@joymae]

Omgosh I’m so sorry. I was driving through SF last month and a homeless man biked up next to my car and started making circles around me at the red light. I was scared he’d break my window and assault me. They’re crazy out there.

[@Welovehorrormovies]

@@joymae yeah, it didn't bug me for years but now idk what's going on but I'm always aware of my surroundings.

[@zakatista5246]

“At first it was towards the elderly and like okay, alright, I’m fine…” lmao. Sums it up.

[@Myfilteredview]

Native New Yorker checking in this is very accurate and true.

[@joymae]

Thank youuuuu

[@LainieB]

I'm really sorry about the Asian hate. I'll never understand why or how people can hate (or even dislike) another person based upon their race, religion, etc. It makes zero sense to me. Thank you for speaking up about how unsafe NYC has become. I love NYC & used to go down there for a long weekend all the time, but I've not been there since March of 2020. It really saddens me because it was my favorite place, but being acquainted with people "in the know", the crime has gone back to the pre-Giuliani era & I don't know if it'll ever recover. Best of luck to you in your new life & I look forward to seeing where it takes you.

[@joymae]

Thank you Lainie. Just tired of being traumatized everyday I’m a lot happier now

[@brandondavid1175]

Preaching to the choir!!!!! Even when I'm on work trips out of state depending on the area sometimes I would spend $20-$25 just to go get something to eat and come back to the Hotel and that would be on just rides so it definitely adds up, Over time I've decided to factor In the per diem that my company gives me a day and I wont spend over that on food.

[@joymae]

Let's be honest all of America is overpriced at the moment

[@FredNewsome]

I feel you as a black man we have been feelinfg that way for centuries, as in we just want to be comfortable in our own skin. I hope you are happy, and blessed.

[@liyaah85]

🐶 ok so for the videos idea: house tour of your new home in France, vlogs, and maybe storytimes so we can know you better 💖

[@joymae]

I’m in a short stay at the moment but will vlog the tour before I leave for my next stop! Story times for sure maybe I’ll make it a weekly thing and add a vlog for the second weekly video thanks

[@Super-yw7ss]

I agree with you 100%, your right.

[@trg414]

I am also lonely I live in the city of Milwaukee Wisconsin. It’s not as big as New York but it’s still pretty large and it is hard to find friends. I also do a lot of traveling around United States and Europe my favorite place in the United States so far is Los Angeles, California, which I find people more friendly than any city out east.

[@joymae]

Milwaukee is cool!!

[@TheGoodLifeStarterPack]

I met my NYC friends organically, through other friends. This was back in 2006 to 2014 and gave S*x and the City vibes. Was fun for the time in my life I was in. Now that I’m in my 30’s, I have a handful of friends (just much more discerning) and focused on creating generational wealth for the next generations. The “It” girl lifestyle doesn’t align with that for me.

[@joymae]

I love this. I also was obsessed with fulfilling my SATC vibes but saw how toxic it was. Also Carrie and Big were toxic.

[@ThomasinaMyresa]

Girl I’ve been trying to find a friend group for the past 4 years 😫

[@joymae]

IM SO TIRED WHERE ARE MY FRIENDS HAHA

[@Billy33753]

Thanks for sharing

[@joymae]

Thank you!

[@Melgworl]

And now you're back in the city....girl we need an explanation!!!

[@christinewang7349]

"Unless you grew up in a town outside of the city" then having a friend group is possible...Must I say POSSIBLE but NOT probable. I grew up in long island all my life and by the time I moved out at 28, I did not have a single friend group to claim. Not that I never had any but people grow apart and you are constantly changing. It really is hard to break into new people there.

[@elizmon8526]

You made a great decision based on solid valid reasons. If you can live in NYC you can live anywhere and be successful. Too many sacrifices to live here--but safety should never be one of those sacrifices. Brooklyn has become just as expensive if not more unreasonable. You would never be able to invest and/or buy a home down the road.

[@Randompotatoes-qs7bm]

Nyc is not even worth it. I can’t move too far since I have family within an hour of here. It’s hard for people who have fam in this area. I’m so happy you got out.

[@joymae]

AHHH. But I am back!

[@googleuser2609]

🐶🐕 Hey, *Joy Mae* , remember this: "Nothing is constant but change".😃 --- Heraclitus.

[@joymae]

I’ve heard that many times from my old company ahhh

[@oliviaii6164]

Omg... I like your video...please make more... I hope I can be like you one day... From: Malaysia

[@joymae]

TY 🥰

[@FabianKim-z9u]

Do you regret it ?

[@Drift_x27]

I disagree with most of your points about living in new york, but i hope you found your happiness where you decided to move to.

[@michaelleetrini3635]

🐕 congratulations 😊

[@joymae]

Thanks!

[@acestarone]

I feel there is nowhere left to live in NYC who wants to go to Orange County or South Jersey. the northeast is very expensive. I have to start work very early in the morning. the mental push it takes to walk to the subway sucks. safety is the main reason I get anxiety. and it is expensive to take Uber or Lyft daily. the friend group part is so funny. I always assume they work from home or they meet all of their friends online. It does feel my closest friends live out of state.

[@FredNewsome]

You should be comfortable to express yourself and not have to worry about someone accosting you.

[@cupwithhandles]

It's amazing people don't place more importance on safety. Violence and danger are normalized in the USA.

[@edt7108]

I need to start eating a healthier breakfast like that☹️….I’m so bad on eating right.🐶

[@joymae]

You got this! Start today thank you

[@danielgothits]

good video, respect for not being brainwashed and seeing through how fucked up our "justice system" is

[@war1231]

Same reasons I'm leaving NY. I miss my parents, and NY is not sustainable at all.

[@Dream-bebe]

I grew up in NY It’s sad what NY has become!! A crime ridden city!

[@nourinicole7045]

🐶 😊

[@joymae]

Realest

[@veganmamma965]

🐕 ❤

[@joymae]

✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼

[@callmeNeno]

Mid life crisis is not easy

[@joymae]

NO ITS NOT

[@ZenZim]

🐶🐶

[@joymae]

Wowowow the realest

[@GirlyBellSeashell]

❤

[@Super-yw7ss]

You have a GREAT ARGUMENT!!!😊👍🏽

[@Super-yw7ss]

An expensive city where you don’t feel safe!!! and you have to deal with all the noise and have to deal with the political puppets. Crazy situation for many.

[@fairy7101]

It’s way too dirty and noisy

[@jessw4195]

I just discovered your channel and been watching your NYC videos because Ive been contemplating moving to NYC and I resonate with a lot of things youve said... After watching your videos and also connecting with my true self, I really dont think NYC is for me lol. Good for a vacation there I think but not for full time living there

[@joymae]

That’s great you’re doing your research! It’s diff for everyone but you know yourself best

[@_xBrokenxDreamsx_]

you shouldn't have to live in fear because of who you are. when a government turns on the innocent and creates and environment where the guilty flourish it's time to abandon them.

[@DanielleJ27]

🐶

[@joymae]

Yayyyy

[@jenniferlee482]

🫠

[@getfree]

One great thing about NYC is all the hot guys!

[@joymae]

Hot emotionally unavailable men

[@mariavigil7211]

Ahahahaha true, very emotionally unavailable men... 😭

[@fairy7101]

All I’ve met have been married but still looking for side girls

[@arkatub]

4th

[@joymae]

Loyalty

[@Melgworl]

You're upset with a major city for being just that...a major city.

[@joymae]

Lol yup

[@spicynomad]

do you know any of these people who died or are you just saying things that you saw on the media? im not disputing any of these stories but im a girl and living in manhattan since after university and ive never( knock on wood) had issues. im out and about at we hours of the morning. i do live on the upper west side and im pretty safe. i go all over the city. you do know that tons of single (unmarried) women live in new york city, right. they are still here. putting that kind of narrative out there that nyc is unsafe is irresponsible.

[@thelastgamurai]

You lived above the number 1 lesbian bar? Me too jk 😂🦮🐕‍🦺

[@joymae]

Yeah there’s only four in America apparently they did a documentary about it during pride

[@GirlyBellSeashell]

🐶