I'm 36. If you're in your 20's, watch this.

[@MardigBidanian]

Life is never linear, your story in your sales job shows this. Sometimes you make more progress in 2 years than you make in the last 10.

[@weareeverywhere8851]

After quitting video games 1 month ago, which I used to play for approx 7 hours a day for the past 15 years, I made more progress than I made in the last 5 years.

[@BKRouteTV]

@@weareeverywhere8851 oh wowww

[@KrisVickers-wn6dd]

​@@weareeverywhere8851What did you do instead?

[@aerofxunme]

​@@weareeverywhere8851what have you started doing differently that you made such progress?

[@juliusjacob1416]

Awesome man, much respect. I’m sure you can build an awesome life if you keep doing what you’re doing 💪🏻.

[@LoserLotte1]

27m here, who has never had a girlfriend and wasted a lot of my time. Luckily, things have gotten better over the past two years. I graduated from college, which I thought was impossible, learned Japanese, saved enough to start a business, and went on my first date (still no girlfriend though). It’s been amazing to experience new things now. For anyone who feels behind, you never know what awaits you in life. Please don’t give up and start doing something that made your future self thankful right now. You’ll feel grateful later on.

[@ayoobi1691]

so you can speak fluent japanese now? did you go get a girlfriend in japan

[@forsadeltoro8692]

@@ayoobi1691 he is a jav actor now

[@RadioShaman]

@LoserLotte1 you'll find her bro. Keep that positive attitude, and be the man you think your perfect girl would want.

[@joeharris2892]

im old now but years ago the women I met in my life all came about without trying out of the blue me being me when you become you stop worrying about silly stuff stand tall might not work for everyone but worth a try enjoying life is a big part of it

[@ichangedmyusernamebecausei2551]

I’m 22 and I still don’t have a girlfriend. I’m going to graduate college next year in spring 2025 and I still barely made any close friends in college and haven’t joined any clubs or programs. I’ve made friends each semester but we were like friends just for that semester. After the semester ended, we barely talked. I’d reach out and we’d talk for a bit. But it was never the other way around. Right now I’m just trying to fix my diet and get in shape. I’m happy but just lonely you know. The only true friend I have is my car lol. She never lets me down. I saved money for two years and bought my own 2021 honda accord.

[@charlie64x2]

I’m 12. If you’re in your 5’s watch this…

[@fhatylion7302]

Stop the cap 🧢. How comes you joined KZbin 17 years ago 😂

[@charlie64x2]

@@fhatylion7302 I was -5 mentoring -15s.

[@edg8-eddylikescake312]

@@fhatylion7302Issa joke lol

[@BARCABetterThanReal]

Im 2, if your in your moms belly watch this

[@AndrewAnew]

@@BARCABetterThanReal😂😂😂

[@armandoperez3226]

I was having a crisis recently about not being enough and feeling like a failure, and first thing I see when I opened the app was this video… this is everything I’ve been needing to hear thank you so much🙏🏼

[@TommyZeus-i8n]

I'm 45, worked for decades on my health, body, career and relationships. There is no wrong or right when it comes to this, everyone is on their own schedule in life, also, setbacks happen, the course changes and we fail (many times) - the goal is to keep moving forward, and, make the most of life and enjoy the ride at the same time. God's timing is perfect.

[@SmartPhotoVault]

You said it perfectly!

[@TommyZeus-i8n]

@@SmartPhotoVault Cheers!

[@juliusjacob1416]

Yeah I agree with what you said about Gods timing. It’s like once you are just clear about going forward in life, and doing your best to be a good person and reach your personal goals, the universe or God starts letting you know you’re doing the right thing, and your circumstances will reflect that by meeting the right people or certain opportunities will unexpectedly come to you.

[@autismion]

Naw

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@TommyZeus-i8n Your answer is awesome. Just better yourself! You need to tell this to Wheat Waffles! 2024

[@beau5778]

Just stopped by to say I wish I'd stop seeing thumbnails telling me "it's too late" 😂

[@DutchWestFilms]

Same here.

[@Maximus_sapiens]

you should stop engaging with that type of conten and you will get less, you are welcome.

[@gabrielgabriel5177]

Its never too late if you are still alive.

[@YahwehJesus777]

Same, subliminal messaging

[@beau5778]

@Maximus_sapiens Oh is that how the algorithm works, enlightening thanks 🤯

[@tonnytrumpet734]

Never in my life I thought about getting advice from 36 y.o. guy with minecraft music in background but I love it.

[@Double_Dude]

I didn't know he used Minecraft music in his videos. Thanks for the incredible insight!

[@maxstorm486]

I didn't even realize it😮

[@whoaitstiger]

I'm 36 myself and if I could only give my younger self one piece of advice it would simply be that you're under no obligation to be the person you were five minutes ago.

[@Archiconocido]

As long as you don't loose your loyalty and honesty if you ever had one.

[@SmokeOnTheWater108]

Same bro 🤦🏾‍♂️ I’m currently 36 since January and I felt that

[@ryananthony407]

❤39 I love this one

[@jsonkody]

I thought you would say: "One does not simply walk into Mordor."

[@whoaitstiger]

@@jsonkody It is a barren wasteland riddled with fire, and ash and dust ... the very air you breathe is a poisonous fume. Not with ten thousand Men could you do this. It is folly.

[@neilstarkweather8721]

I’m 32, and it’s deeper than “Don’t be afraid to be behind in life.” There is no such thing as “behind in life.” It’s a trick, a shadow on the wall. To be behind, implies one is racing or competing with their peers and contemporaries, or at the very least judging one’s worth by comparing one’s material and social success with theirs. Do not live like this, it is a waste of life. Do not even think like this. Be allergic to framing reality like this. It is not only physically and spiritually exhausting, it is ultimately a worthless endeavor.

[@Christian-ml9sx]

you are competing. If you want family and friends, you do have to compete. People caring about status and money doesnt make them bad people, and having these things yourself will in turn make your dating and friend pool a lot bigger. Money buys freedom and lessens anxiety.

[@neilstarkweather8721]

@@Christian-ml9sx I have never once competed for status and money, and I have little of either. But I do have family and friends, and I have never had to compete for them. Caring about status and money doesn’t make someone a bad person. Whether someone is bad or good depends entirely on one’s actions and then on their reasons for those actions. If someone only cares about status and money, they can’t be a good person, but I wouldn’t call them bad per se, more like confused. Especially if they truly believe status and money will get them things that are truly valuable and meaningful, like love and friends, and will buy their freedom and happiness. Status and money can buy the appearance of these things. Appearances are deceiving, and a great many people are fine going to the grave surrounded by the convincing illusion they’ve made of their reality. Money doesn’t reduce stress, secure access to resources and social connection reduces stress. Money is a proxy. Freedom that has to be bought isn’t actually freedom, it is servitude. As far as your “dating pool,” I don’t like women so I have never had to compete for money and status in this regard. But for straight guys that want to date lots of women, you absolutely have to care about money and status, and that sucks for you, I’m sorry. I’d still say it’s not worth it, but that’s me. Do what you gotta do to get p**sy I guess, if that’s something you want out of life.

[@minsharminni3177]

@@Christian-ml9sx That's a pessimistic mindset. I'd avoid people like you right away.! Only shallow people care abt your status/money or even how you look.

[@ayoobi1691]

@@neilstarkweather8721there is truth to what he says. at a basic life level we do end up competing with others as part of Nature, but you can be mindful enough to lessen the competitiveness of it. Money does reduce the stress caused by money problems which can be some of the worst kinds of stress because you need it for food and shelter. Secure access to resources and social connection can help you get the money that you need. In this world we live in, you do need some money to have freedom in modern society, but you could go live in the country and denounce modern things like the internet to require less money.

[@mvricks90]

I fully agree, and those telling you otherwise are usually selling you a course

[@Vekren]

Kinda going through this myself. I am 34 unfortunately, super ultra behind. I wasted years. Weed and video games. Lost everyone, burned all bridges but I always had other interests and hobbies that helped me. I am working towards changing my life too, I want a job I feel happy at, I will save all my money, find a good woman, God is with us all if we let Him. Thank you for your video, motivation and advice.

[@SmokeOnTheWater108]

This feels like a Millennial dilemma bro. You’ve literally just described my life to a damn “T” and I’m 36. We were raised durian a time where we still got to experience analog technology and the crossover into the digital age. Its kind of difficult to verbalize how odd our mid-thirties are in this age, you know?

[@m.a.g.3920]

It's terrible, specially because some people of a certain ethnic group (won't say anything else..) wrecked our world with all that social media shit, Tinder, IG, Facebook, and so on...that has changed things in a way we don't even grasp yet, I feel It in the youngest generation a lot, but It also affects millenials, specially...women​@@SmokeOnTheWater108

[@99jewelz]

@@SmokeOnTheWater108 Same here my friend - about to turn 40 in a few month and i often thought about it being a millennial dilemma, since i grew up the same way you and Vekren described - experiencing the old times and progressively trying to live a life that got more fast paced by the years, trying to catch up to certain standards that - as i found out - weren't mine from the beginning - obviously feeling bad about not being able to catch up as fast as i would have liked or seen others do... Learning to live on my own terms and accepting myself as i am helped me a lot, as well as acknowledging that there are far more important things in life than being a high performer by any means, even if u feel like shit in the process and trying to keep up with folks you see online that only show the upsides but not the downsides of self improvement as well as unattainable standards. Be yourself and live your own life after setting your own goals - and keep in mind that you are not alone - we all struggle with the human experience and i sign every word Rob said in this video 💯 Stay strong, love yourself and help others to do the same ✌

[@NicLarcher]

@@SmokeOnTheWater108same here bro I’m 35 and it seems like all us millennials have the same story

[@clubstep8244]

I feel like Weed&Video Games people are the ones you can have the deepest Talks with when you actually get to this point in a conversation naturally. Being lonely and having a lot of time makes you really think alot

[@Oturra]

24, trying to catchup currently. I see it all the time so I know people are gonna call bullshit. There’s been plenty of times lately where I feel stuck and have been to the E.R. for stitches or flushes because I tried to permanently end it but I can’t quite fully go through with it for one reason or another. Before today, I probably would’ve hung myself within the year because I felt like such a failure as a man. This genuinely opened my eyes to know that I genuinely got decades in front of me. You probably saved my life with this. Lol Genuinely, thank you. Thank you for that perspective shift.

[@devonmiller113]

Hey man don’t give up. Keep fighting. I want to hear about your amazing story and successes one day.

[@Oturra]

@@devonmiller113damn sure gonna give my best and nothing less.

[@demea.7630]

I hope you’re doing well man, I was in a somewhat similar mindset and this video really helped me out a lot. Be safe out there.

[@GioMellos]

24 and in a similar position. keep fighting brother

[@heshamabdou5259]

From an experience I went through, nothing will save you from this pit unless you pay attention and read about religion, and here I am not a missionary or calling you to pagan or formal worship, but your arrival at the complete truth with evidence and the realization that this life is just a temporary thing, and that it is merely a test for what is to come, will make you You fight in life and do not give up easily. You will have a bigger goal. It will make you work hard in your work and professional life, and help people and yourself non-stop. You will feel happiness you cannot imagine. Read the Qur’an, the Bible, and the Torah, for example, away from the noise of imaginary conflicts Man was not created in vain or by chance Religion is not a drug or a cause of conflicts, as we are systematically convinced

[@DejanKeepingitReal]

I’m 37 going on 38 and I too feel I have so many wasted years but the past is the past and the future is mine. Everyone has their own path and success is not always found in your young years. Everyone lives with different circumstances too. I love this video it hit hard. Mate you’re one amazing man. Instant subscribe. God bless you.

[@m.a.g.3920]

The opposite is much much worse, when you do a lot of things in your 20s, you have success with girls, and suddenly things go south and you find yourself in your mis 30s broke, without a proper job and you don't attract girls like before for no apparent reason. Even if you did a lot of effort to get your studies and stuff.. sometimes life is mean.

[@DejanKeepingitReal]

@@m.a.g.3920 the success I was talking about wasn’t success with women. That I’ve never had problems with. Pussy is expensive mate - and can be costly at any age. As for money it comes and goes.

[@SpookyGhost11]

Today is my 23rd birthday. I've been in almost the exact same spot you said you were, but I've decided to make some changes recently and I can see what you're saying. It's always encouraging to see people who've been in your spot, thank you, sir.

[@ManiYaStreams]

Well put together. Thanks for this video.

[@sasanka-u2l]

This so relatable to me maniyoo🤧🤧 Thanks for sharing this💗💗💗

[@claudeakel]

I'm 27 glad to see your videos pop back on my homepage, keep up the work Rob, truly inspirational

[@michaelbrunsdon8938]

The fact that young people miss is that God exists and He really did become human for a time and redeemed us all by sacrificing his own life. This actually happened and the evidence for it is pretty good. Everything else in life flows from this one realisation

[@BlackScorpionism]

You give some solid advice.Im glad channels like you exist.Sometimes its hard to know who to trust for advice.You really are helping people understand what they need to focus on to solve their problems.

[@nowolin]

I'm literally living your past at 26 and I'm very happy to have come across your video. It's like a future message to my current me. Thanks Brother!

[@memey306]

I'm 23 and for so long i've felt so far behind than my other friends and family and wasted my life from 21 to now been and feeling what you've been talking about, thank you

[@TheWorkshop190]

I’m going through the exact same process, its been tough initially and its going to take time, but I am already seeing benefits and I know it will be worth the effort. Get your shit together a day at a time, no one is going to do it for you, its necessary, your body is your temple, once you respect yourself life becomes much better and you start to live in an abundance mindset and exit the scarcity mindset. Your health and your hobbies is all that matters in the end.

[@AndreasScout]

My grandpa always said to us ( so many times) : "its not the destination, its the journey that will determine who you are and where you are mentally and physically. The only person that has your best interest at heart is YOU". He tried to explain it and some of the grandkids understood it but me, i was one of the youngest, i didnt understand... but i never forgot it.

[@Squrrillyadams]

30. no job no car no money no girlfriend/wife no kids no house i can call my own no friends I got left behind in life. When i should've been focused on finding work at a younger age, i was too busy playing video games and watch tv. I've had a total of 3 jobs in my entire life. Idk how to catch up at this point. No one cares to help. I don't know how to help myself. So im stuck in this bubble, where i hope and pray every night before i go to bed that i just simply don't wake up. I think i've given up on living because no matter how hard i want to try to get ahead, i just don't. I sit there thinking about what i need to be doing and it gets so overwhelming. So i lay down and ignore it, until the next day, when i unfortunately wake up again. And the cycle continues. Maybe tonight ill get lucky and succumb to the struggle and don't wake up. Please listen to this guy. Every word he says take it to heart. I don't want no one ending up where i am. This is pure hell.

[@chase_james]

Hey buddy, your message really struck out at me. I’m 41 and finally got the big house and the nice cars but it took 15 years of trying. I know that exact feeling when you wake up and you talk to yourself almost like a drill sergeant. Like here’s the deal Chase this is what we’re going to do, then you get online and it’s an overwhelming soup of information. You don’t know who is full of crap and who isn’t. The reality is, on the Internet, the best way to make money is sell people a dream package on how they can learn to make money online. Most of these people live very different lives outside of the camera. There are of course exceptions and we all know their names but it’s so rare and a lot of these people also are involved in illegal and illicit operations outside of what you see on the Internet that are making them that money. Start by just going for walks every day then just hit the gym two days a week for 25 minutes that’s it. Learning click funnels on you to udemy.com is not a bad waste of time and when you get some skills you can get on Upwork.com and apply for some quick and easy jobs. If you have any basic skills with building funnels or websites, you can charge lots of people that don’t have the time patience to learn these skills. If you have any extra money now is not a bad time even to get into Bitcoin and just hold it. Even if it’s just a couple hundred dollars, you’ll see just do a little bit of research with Elon Musk going to be heavily involved in the White House and Donald Trump. keep your head up man, it does get better. It just freaking sucks on the way there. You’re not alone then trust me there are hundreds of thousands of us that don’t know what the hell we are doing from moment to moment. I was a total nothing until I was around 29 when I got my butt in gear, and even then it felt like I was wasting my time. I know you don’t know me, but hopefully that gives you some idea. It’s low hanging fruit if you try the things above. You’d be surprised how much you’ll separate yourself by just trying out a couple of those things.. Just don’t buy into the hype. 99% of people are full of shit on the Internet.

[@asillycookie]

if you feel left alone, i’m praying for you and think about you so as every single left alone soul…. my heart is so filled with hate i can only give love❤

[@hollyjaw3303]

Hey, I'm 30 and I was in your situation at 25, save for having a girlfriend. I was struggling ending my undergraduate degree and was seeing no hope for the future. Now, 5 years later I have all the things you said with a very good standard of living. If you told me 5 years ago I would've laughed at your face, literally. 5 years can do much, be smart and work hard once you figure out the right thing to put work into. I'm Roman Catholic and pray, but even if you don't believe I'll pray for you.

[@clubstep8244]

5 years is all it takes, was same for me. The most important thing is that change means giving up things and that you need Courage to go foward. When i turned my life around i had a lot of first times in this timeperiod, First time getting Drunk, first time buying clothes that arent Black, first time driving an excavator, first time this first time that... i believe in you bro. Whenever you read this, please try to Do something for the first time tomorrow

[@ArcanumTM]

You shouldn't give up my friend, you're 30, I'm 37 and I'm in the same situation but I'm not going to give up, on top of that I have health problems, but I'm setting a goal to get better and get back on my feet to finally get out of this hell. You shouldn't give up at 30.

[@budaibence720]

This video will be a treasure for your children sir!

[@KazakhStarOG]

My boy I am also 36, same freakin story as yours. But I do believe in you, you will get everything you need to be happy❤

[@superhard6606]

Im 37 and Im feeling like Im in my early 20s, I wasted my 20s by the way, I was heavily into drugs and doing girls . Now Im chasing career

[@madams989]

Same here brother

[@ondrej1893]

How is doing girls a wasted time? Many regret they didn't develop this hobby...😅

[@TheKarlslok]

​@@ondrej1893 "You can love girls, or you can understand girls, but you can never do both"

[@ankitch1542]

I think you are really lucky bcoz you working for your career even if you waste so much time earlier still doing what you love at age of 37 you are really lucky that you born in USA Because the place I live or were i born is very rigid they set line for every thing if i am doing what i love even i wasted so much time in my 20's people will judge you very badly you will even remain isolated and single the so called society here will never accept you just because you are a failure and you never does anything in your 20's😢

[@asphetto]

@@ankitch1542you’re even luckier because you’re starting in your 20s I’m 21 and I’ve started taking my life seriously. I woke up one day and realised I’m wasting too much time on pointless stuff, we can do this!!

[@bjdaniel6776]

This video may just have saved my life. I can identify so much with so much you've said and have often thought about giving up and ending it all because of the feelings of failure, hopelessness and being behind. Thank you so much for giving me hope. I am 32 and not too far behind you in age and never had a proper youth myself

[@stefanboy4810]

Here's something i recently learned: "the greatest tragedy in life is not aiming too high and missing, but aiming too low and hitting"

[@bjdaniel6776]

I disagree. I aimed too high too often and ended up falling way lower than I would have been if I aimed low and gradually progressed after small wins

[@serpserpserp]

Some people aim so high they build an impressive rocket that blows up in their face on the launchpad. Destroying their life.

[@VTV0]

For me that is the best quote i ever heard and i will remember it from now on. Indeed I will wrote it down.

[@HarveyJohanneum]

It's a good advice to those who are already behind in life. But being behind in life physically, mentally, relationships, and career is a fact that no can deny it. I am 37 and it crushes me to find myself behind because of a life event flipped my life upside down 14 years ago. Injury left me with one eye, couldn't finish my engineering degree, and spent about 8 years crippled. Now that I wanna catch up, I really find it hard especially I couldn't achieve my goals. Having said that am I going to stop pursuing the life I want? Never. I will keep pushing hard until last breath in me even if I couldn't fully achieve the fulfillment I strive for. Thank you for sharing your life and it is really insightful for the younger to pay attention and stop wasting time. Rule number 1 and the king of all rules "Don't be afraid of anything or anyone" Wish you the best Rob!

[@jaimegutierrez5520]

I am 36, too. Just lost the only job I know to do, and I am going to school. Currently, unuployment lost all my muscles because I can not afford to eat healthy food anymore. Depressed? Sometimes, but I am still working my way to get better.

[@SmokeOnTheWater108]

‘88 born here, keep your head up bro. Our lives are literally what we make it. We are young enough to still make things happen yet old enough to know what decisions got us to where we are. You know what to do because you know what hasn’t been working. Keep pushing forward and up, bro☝🏾☝🏾

[@michalS-]

Respect for minecraft music. I love your vids overall

[@artaleasham4105]

I'm 32. At 30 I was unemployed, had no goal but gaming in life, got bullied a lot and had a bad childhood. I was under the effects of anorexia again. Then I got angry and stood up. I wanted to be happy. So I have been fighting. I am working out, doing volunteering, enjoying my make-up as a man, learning social skills etc. I have my ups and downs. But I refuse to go back to the pit where I was at first. I just want a job, but I need to figure out what to do. Your videos are helping me immensely. So thank you monsieur.

[@schmidt969]

You're my generation, I'm 39 and I spent most of my life in front of a computer aswell. I realized a few years ago that it was time for a change. Today I have two wonderful children, a wife and I am finishing a new house. It's never too late to revive - train, fight for yourself and for your future. Family is the key to achieving complete happiness afterall.

[@lavrentiq]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart, this video found me at the right time, it helped relieve some of the stress and gave me some motivation and some of the information I was lacking to get myself together. Let's see how I can start taking action, I sincerely thank you for this needed video

[@MohamedAmine-jv7yw]

Legendary Video Positive and realistic to the maximum extent Thank you man ❤ I am 28 years old I swear to God I have been kind of depressed the past few days and thinking about this very topic

[@BKRouteTV]

tell me about it

[@Christian-ml9sx]

@@MohamedAmine-jv7yw If u wanna talk or maybe play some video games, hit me up. I am also a soon to be physical therapist :)

[@aRRRaiS]

Great story, glad you share it with us.

[@entertainment101-bj2jw]

I´m 19 you remind me so much of me with your ideas, this is a video that I think will help me in my near future, thank you.

[@welp5970]

Nice video with destressing messages that help block off a lot of crap fron nowadays' constant stimulation epidemic Good job mate

[@Rakyr]

This is the video I needed. I think being intentional with things is the key, being intentional with when to work and when to just relax and spend quality time with the important people in your life.

[@ryandlion6961]

OH SHIT then u hit me with my favorite maiden song! Dude I heard it first back in middle school I thin, I'm 29 now and still everytime I hear it I get such a rush of feelings and need to dance and sing to it, no song hits me harder with the lyrics.

[@DopDet-bl7vw]

This video is GOLD

[@Aklyn01]

One of the best advice video for youth.

[@ruveyroets]

You're already rich brother, ten fingers, ten toes, and a healthy mind. Keep going!

[@galaxyxagony]

m/23 chronical ill since 2022 with severe long covid. Im falling more behind everyday and I cant stop it... I can only watch. Praise the opportunity to get a better version of yourself.

[@OriginalFrancisWinston]

I'm really recognized myself in this story of yours,. I'm 25 now, and already missed a lot of times, but the things you've said make me believe I'm have future yet, have possibility to achieve some happiness yet. Thank you, Sir! Send you my regards from Russia)

[@billblount7854]

Don't sacrifice enjoyment in life for something that may not even happen.

[@halometry5523]

not true

[@Endeavour30]

You don't know if it will happen, but you can work to make it more likely to happen and you learn more and more during the process. It definitely won't happen if you indulge in unrestrained partying, alcohol and other drugs.

[@amirrahimi2990]

Only man that makes me feel really better. Enjoyed that video so much👌👌👌👌

[@robmulder]

Really glad to hear this

[@Christian-ml9sx]

@@robmulder Yes dude, i need to hear this. Im too caught up with what im not doing.

[@Утконосище]

mirror of my life, rhank you for sharing

[@hurthollow1825]

i'm 23 and never a video was so relatable to me, i'm struggling to find a job, while all of my friends are well paid in theirs, for most of the time i have this feeling that life has nothing more to offer, and no matter what i do this will not change because i already failed, as if when i turn 30 nothing more will matter,, a constant feeling of hopelessness, i'm terrible in talking with people in general, i feel like i would never be able to find a girl who's genuinely loving me, i've been trying to make progress by studying, going to the gym, and submitting my resume, and even through i still didn't get much progress i started to feel better, i just hope that in the end things work fine and that i start to feel hope for the day of tomorrow and life again

[@jamesm.9285]

Thank you! You've shared wisdom with us, for free, which might just have a life-changing impact for anyone who inplements these lessons. The "falling behind" and "ultra-productivity" traps are so easy to fall into, and it's always in retrospect people seem to realise that we each need to strike a balance in life that means we don't miss out on the memories, experiences, and relationships that are what truly make a rich life. You're still young, sir - keep on learning, growing, and reflecting! 🙌

[@alejandromazo242]

Thank you much rob for these content, God bless you bro!

[@digimei2143]

im 33 and i am still behind in life. struggling to have that peak in life

[@frv6610]

maybe the peak comes when you stop caring about the peak

[@erikhabruk]

I love your advice❤❤

[@Simonsay84]

I’m turning 38 n I just gave up drinking and smoking 🚬 and now living for the lord and be a better person everyday

[@danielwalley6554]

Yep, you've summarized it well. What seemed like a brick wall turns out to be a paper facade - a lot of these obstacles are easy to overcome, so long as you actually try. It's a bit like cold water - the imagination of how it's going to be is far worse then the reality once you're in there. As for making that change - I think a guy has to hit a low point, where he's just over it. For me it was when I went to a speed dating event, and I was so paralyzed with anxiety that I got to the door of the bar, and then chickened out and drove home. That stuck in my throat, I couldn't live with being that cowardly, to the point that I had to try again - and the next time I walked through that door. From there it was all forward momentum, the spell had been broken. Everything I was afraid of, I started to face, until there was nothing left.

[@davidsampson94]

This is brilliant brother I'm proud of you

[@NordicNatureArt]

These are some very good insights - thank you! When I feel demotivated I try to tell myself that it is the journey and not the destination that is important. Although it's hard to live by sometimes, lol...

[@meganpacyasmin9732]

This was exactly what I needed to hear, thank you!🙏🏽 A lot of times I feel behind in life and I will turn 26 this month. But I am encouraged to change my life now and next year completely to become a much better or hopefully the best version of myself 💪🏽 It‘s a process

[@williammclean6594]

Yeah I I have disabilities. Never worked and I only got my first job at like 30 my mom never really wanted me to work because of my mental problems. I want to catch up on life. I'm 35 now. I spent my life mostly isolated. I hope it's possible

[@littlenoah926]

God bless you my friend you are here for a reason and God loves you❤

[@streamingnowstreamingnow2568]

That’s because you mom wants to keep you Infantized so that’ll you’ll look after her when she needs the help as she ages and all the stuff you’re trying to learn now she’ll expect you to learn it on your own after she passes.

[@williammclean6594]

@@streamingnowstreamingnow2568 no maybe a little bit i’ve started to get some life experience now. My mom just has anxiety disorders and she’s always been very overprotective of me because I’ve had a lot of childhood trauma and my dad abandoned me when I was little. She’s always been so afraid of me getting hurt. But I realize her overprotectiveness has held me back in a lot of ways. I’m starting to put myself out there. I have a lot of anxiety problems and I’m getting Therapy to get it under control.

[@williammclean6594]

@@streamingnowstreamingnow2568 I guess KZbin deleted my comment again, but yeah, you’re partially right. But my mom just has a lot of anxiety problems which I inherited and she was really afraid that I would get hurt because what my dad did to me when I was young and she’s been really overprotective of me getting hurt ever since.

[@ahah-lt7bl]

Dont worry you are still have another 40/50 years to make it up. The main thing is forgive her, she was just being protective and scared. Just improve 1% per day you will get their at the end life is marathon take your time

[@Jonkoloog]

Soms kom je ineens pareltjes tegen op youtube op precies het goede moment. Zit al een tijdje in een fase waar ik binnen zit en alleen maar game, niet goed voor mezelf zorg etc etc. Ga nu weer naar de sportschool na 2 maanden niet gesport te hebben en voel me direct beter!

[@juliusjacob1416]

Man this video hits home. I turned 30 a couple of months ago. I have been living with my dad since around 27. I got longcovid and a pretty severe burnout around that time. I’ve felt like I have missed out on so much these years. Literally saw all my friends grow ‘past’ me. They all have settled relationships now, well paying jobs, bought houses and some are having kids. I’m at home without a job or any direction. I have used my health issues as an excuse to stay in this state of inaction for too long, but I find it extremely difficult to get the ball rolling in any direction. I used to be so full of life and full of confidence, but these years of isolation have really made me a person I barely recognize. I just don’t know how to find my motivation back anymore to feel inspired and energized to get my shit back together. In the end of the day I believe we all are the masters of our own fate, so I gotta stop hiding behind my physical limitations and find a way. If you took the time to read this, thank you and good luck on your own journey!

[@robmulder]

Thanks Julius! Sorry to hear about your situation and I wish you all the best.

[@tembisombewe6457]

Thanks and wishing you the best.

[@nujuh1357]

i think we humans underestimate how much we can accomplish in a short amount of time if we are serious about change... and btw i just started my education when i was 30, and i finished it now this summer...and i trained hard in the gym for 6 months got a really nice body aswell when i was 29...i was very serious about change...and i have to say i never felt better when i was focused on this...but the beginning is always the hardest... just start doing something you like and other people perhaps find valuable?

[@Ooth9999]

I just realised this video has 800 views. I thought it had millions and i think soon it will. Very intelligent and honest insight. Good job

[@mr.garibaldi182]

Where can I sign this? I totally agree. 36yo guy here.Enjoy you life while you still can there is nothing more precious than happines and calm in a life.

[@chino3610]

I rob, Im Marcelo from Argentina, im 44 and your video was really inspiring for me. Thanks! I have 3 little girls, one baby, a wife and a house, and sometimes I feel I need more because the media says that... what a fool... thanks once more, deeply reach me and make me think! Grettings from Argentina !

[@YouTubeTaron-hj6tj]

Wow that hits hard men im literally crying right now. Thank you so much for your true honesty that you share with us. God bless you and your family.

[@HughMungus-q5r]

love the videos man

[@Icarus6783]

A purposeless life is an unhappy one. Even when you purpose requires pain and suffering, it enriches your life experience and gives you a true feeling of elation. You feel challenged before going to the gym, but when you leave, you always want to go back even if you are tired and worn. That's what its' all about.

[@SAMURAINUTS]

im 21, due to a myriad of issues im just now working my first job and im about to get my drivers license. im behind, ill keep what youve said to me in mind. hearing you talk sounds like im listening to me talk and its reassuring hearing im not the only one whos been through my situation, even more so from someone who has escaped my situation.

[@gamera7206]

Im 20 and wasted the past two years on doing some scam get rich quick schemes, and only 4 months of studying to get into a college before injuring myself and progressively got worse for 10 months. I herniated discs in the gym and couldnt sit down to study so i fucked around and didn't do anything for the last 10 months of the past 2 years. Im about to study to take exams and get into a uni at age 21 and i feel so behind in life. But your video was very helpful. I also got a good physiotherapist that makes me confident that i will get better and heal until the summer. Its hard to study because it still hurts when im sitting down but I'll try to push through

[@steve5123456789]

How did you injure yourself? Do do think the gym should be avoided?

[@gamera7206]

@@steve5123456789 I did very high intensity deadlifts, squats and leg presses. I wouldn't say that it was "ego lifting" it was just that in the program I was following it was told that I would be able to add 5-10 lbs every week to each lift which for me wasn't the deal. But I kept pushing for it because I thought there was something wrong with me if I didn't add it every week. I also bought into the idea of high intensity training which is kind of risky even if everybody preaches to train until failure.

[@milandragacevac]

@@steve5123456789If you are careful and not ego lifting you will be fine, just warm up before every workout, do stretches from time to time, eat properly. Always control your muscles and all

[@frv6610]

​@@steve5123456789 avoid very heavy weights and if you already have a sore back lower the weights even more

[@tomcat9727]

21 is not behind it is the very beggining I would say

[@AdrianDoiron]

I don't think you realize how much this helped me today. I've been feeling depressed about the decisions i've made and had lots of regrets, but this gave me hope that i can still become happy if i put in the work. God bless.

[@ninjaskyking5198]

I'm 33 and want to better myself but man my bad habits control me so much. One habit I have is I like to daydream in my own head issue is I daydream for hours which does me no good.

[@david-self-improvement5887]

Maladaptive daydreaming. I have the same issue. Avoid listening to music because that's a bog trigger

[@pikeythepixie]

​@@david-self-improvement5887 nah I am a musician and I love music. All I do is listen to music. But yea I am a daydreamer too. 😓 I am a doer but I'v been a sayer for a long time and saying I'm gonna do this and that for years now and haven't 😓

[@david-self-improvement5887]

@@pikeythepixie The issue with listening to much music is it can disrupt you thinking because you don't have clear mind. Music is supposed to trigger your emotions because it makes you feel a particular way. So you can be working on something, for example, then you think of a song you like. That song makes you feel some sort of way, and now you're disrupted from work. If you are going to listen to music, don't put it on full blast. Below 50 percent is good. That what works for me, or listen to chill music like Lofi Girl

[@pikeythepixie]

@david-self-improvement5887 nice yea I get you

[@Flashxy78]

I'm 32, and everything you said here just felt relatable. Thanks for sharing this strong motivational piece. There is really hope indeed.

[@teob3777]

Man you brought a tear to my eye at 7:58

[@francescociapica5651]

the comment I was looking for

[@fantasycraft-forge]

So true - life's all about the journey. I've been playing WoW for 8 years, and I don't regret a thing. To be honest, it kept me away from some really bad decisions that my friends who didn't play ended up making, like getting into drugs etc... Now, I'm the only one doing something productive while they’re still caught in making poor choices.

[@DarknessIsThePath]

Soon 38 here, fell hard three times in life, first time was in my teens, went from straight A student to failing over a third of my grades. Social life was next to zero due to a decade of bullying, dating life as well. Met a guy, became friends, he was toxic, almost murdered me twice because reasons. I was omw in recovering my failed grades but due to this guy I fell again, deep depression for about 6 years doing nothing with my life, could not even walk to the nearest store without someone in my family going with me. Once we got a kitty, my life started going up again at 26 years old, the following year I got accepted into a top university. Sadly I failed that too, it was my dream education and I failed it, fell again into a sense of loss. Dated some afterwards with almost no money, the only one I ever loved turned out to be a fucking sociopath. At 33 years old I got accepted into another university studying not my dream but a hobby field, graduated, now doing my master degree. Will life screw me over again? Likely, but I am so much stronger than I ever was and any setback in the future will be handled that much quicker without mental issues.

[@dodsjanne]

He had to overcome a bunch of hurdles to become successful. Todays people think opening an instagram account and an OF is "a bunch of hurdles".

[@FearsomeVoid]

I'm 31 and I'm getting my own life fixed. My late teens and 20s sucked because I couldn't talk to people. That was a dark phase in my life. The most important thing is to be happy and have a stable life with a job, your own car, your apartment etc.

[@ladignita4318]

You. You. You are the best thing I will see today.

[@huyhuyt]

I am 52 and still watch this, love the content.

[@lordBercos]

You are already rich man. You have a beautiful family. Thanks for the advices

[@SHEERRAA]

Amazing Video and quality! :)

[@Tea4tea4double4cup]

Last month I turned 18. I don't have much work experience. Because I'm at home most of the time. I've been off drugs and bad friends for about a year now (I still smoke cigarettes but I'm working on quitting). I went to the gym three months ago. Now I am thinking of training kickboxing to develop my self-defense skills.And my self-confidence I haven't done much but I feel like I'm on the The right way. ❤️

[@990212thebest]

Your story is a really happy one, i really feel with you🍀

[@madir9940]

I'm 19 and already feel like I missed life for the last 5 or 6 years. That I felt for the first time a love a few months ago made me realize that I am behind. This video just gave me the advice I needed. So, thanks for that.

[@jameshuston3474]

I'm 20 in this November, I literally just started experiencing exactly what you're talking about, one good thing I have out of this is that I know which direction to take, as I'm writing this you described exactly that. This is a wonderful video for men stuck in the position where you felt stuck when you were younger, thank you so much

[@WalkerEdits]

I'm 20 rn and this summer i realised how miserable my life was all this time, i mean, i had friends, but always had conflicts with them, i didn't listen other opinions on smth, i played games a lot, i had some hobbies like guitar or working out sometimes, but games were at the 1st place always, it was hard for me to start a conversation with someone, girls were also far away and fortunately i cnanged my mindset and stopped playing that much, started thinking what should i do next to have some decent life and i'm so proud that my mind is almost clear right now

[@pedramaz1583]

Damn bro, I litrally had the second thought that I must lock in my 20s into a business and and cutout all the entertainment. But I felt burned and bored actually. Thank you Rob for your precious advices.

[@Hans_von_Kreit]

Was nearly the same for me. I started to work out and gaining self confidence. Now I try to be the best version of myself

[@marccosta7376]

Yeah I know this feeling...I'm living it. I'm 36 too and at 30 I started a degree to get a good job but at 34 when I finished it I found out that contracts offered are temporary and nobody rents an apartment in Spain with this kind of contract, so I'm living with my mum. Spent years with videogames, reading, playing the guitar and never socialized too much. I'd say I talked to less than 20 women throughout all my 20's. The sensation of seeing your friends getting married, buying their own real estate, car, having children and progressing in life and myself still living with my mum, no girlfriend....it is hard mentally. There are REALLY hard moments in which I wonder if all this thing has any meaning. When I'm outside and surrounded by people I try to laugh and be kind to everybody but when I get into bed at night and start to think about all of this is very common me bursting into tears. Having a younger sister whose life is considerably better than mine it doesn't help neither. I'm fed up.

[@joshuacanny4858]

This is the best advice video I've ever seen. I needed this . I truly thank you .

[@MooohGX]

This is the kind of wisdom that dads and grandafathers tell their offspring, which orphans and people without them don't hear. I am glad we are at a point in time, in this modern age, where life experiences and wisdom are getting recorded for all the generations to come.

[@Crativity-p6b]

RESPECT For you Rob Mulder....Thank you so much for putting this video in order to motivate and inspire evryone....I hope all the best for you and also i feel so sorry for your years wasted....But still you have the courage to go on...still have the courage to become your best self 😊 RESPECT 🙏 🫡 🤲 🙌 🙏 🫡

[@Askme-df3ib]

You are a person with a big and clean heart, but addiction is a different person than your beautiful self. I hope you live happy times❤

[@Anon74289]

He still needs Jesus.

[@Askme-df3ib]

@@Anon74289 yas 👏

[@ralphdeluscar5861]

Thank you for your wise words I think that's what I needed, words that bring clarity, balance and hope to become the man of tomorrow. I'm 28 years old in few weeks I will have 29 years old I was a little afraid of not being able to accomplish some of the dreams that I cherish so ardently. Your video allowed me to see where I was stuck so a big thank you. 😌👍

[@realjacobdavid]

This is gold. Thank you. A lot of things I needed to hear..

[@donpalullu]

Thanks for sharing your story, appreciate it. And the way you tell it is so honest and simple

[@denoke719]

My fav KZbinr 💙

[@forfreedom5344]

The wasted years reference hit me hard. I love that song and also connected that same message to it!

[@Bobby_101]

I'm like you but worse. I'm 30, and litrally no change from the point I was 18. Actually even backwards, since then I had more then 2 friends. It's the mix of what you did, combined with having a chronic illness which is getting worse, and I'm physically unable to do the things and have experiences that normal people have. So beside being horribly behind, I also can't do the action of catching up until I get back in the camp of "won't die in a few years". People are so lucky to have the option of doing normal things and catching up to life. It's worse when you can't even if you want to. To be fair the main problem is health, but time to time when I fantasize about living a normal life, then I get reminded of this other problem too, of being so behind that I don't know a single person my age who is anywhere near this far behind. Very motivating video, I needed this though.

[@arjanz864]

Dankjewel Rob. Ik had dit nodig maat. 👊

[@ΠαζαρακιαΣιτι]

For me a succesfull person is a truly happy person, even if that person the only thing he has is a blanket on the street.

[@shxkxth8135]

As a 23 year old I thank you for making this video. You changed my whole perspective on life. I spent my last 3 years solely focusing on my degree and avoided parties, friend thinking its for the better. It was not. If you are in you 20 or below, enjoy life, learn, get a gf(try at least) :)