I’m 50 and I have No Friends

[@timharris2497]

You got a friend you got a wife.

[@cybersphere]

No friends is better than bad friends.

[@SladkaPritomnost]

Don't have high expectations from people. Even enemies can point to our weakness, so love them for that.

[@TheBigBananaaa]

The Selfish Society 🤗 The Hard Hustle

[@xdgs567z]

Throughout my life, all the friends I thought were close friends ended up doing unfriendly things to me in the end…true friends are hard to find these days

[@foftylife]

The realest statement right here

[@leaguefixesyourmatches8259]

You can't make friends in this culture where there is no trust.

[@ChadTV-vi7lk]

Im 35 and i got there earlier. Even at 25 i didn't have much friends. I have a bad habit of seeing through people BS and fakeness real quick and its a huge turn off.

[@foftylife]

that's actually a great habit!~

[@sundayess6222]

A wise man can always be found alone.

[@foftylife]

Wise words from a wise man

[@AK-ky3ou]

Same here, 41 with no friends and had the best of social lives in my 20’s.

[@leaguefixesyourmatches8259]

Same here. 20 years ago, you can actually make friends. Same reason people aren't getting married.

[@outpost3178]

Friends typically are what you have during your “school years” As you leave your childhood behind the workplace and life gets in your way. Most people have acquaintances during their adult years, real friends are hard to find in my opinion.

[@foftylife]

Yes, the definition changes over time and we should adjust our thoughts around it as well 🤞🏼

[@ShikokuFoodForest]

So true. Well said.

[@HN-oq3gf]

50 as well! I slowly realize that people I thought were friends, were not my friends.

[@Meritumas]

This ❤ no point to waste time on “friends”. Better to enjoy yourself and live life

[@ninersnation3298]

You are just around bad people.

[@foftylife]

It gets less and less over time it seems as they wind down in number

[@HN-oq3gf]

@@ninersnation3298 agree, friends i have only are there because they can benefit something.

[@Daytraderkev]

No friends is a choice we can't change due to our personality. As our life gets more extended we lose touch with people, its natural since people move on with their lives and things just change. I am not the type who goes out and finds friends. I rather have my own space. Some of us are just built this way.

[@foftylife]

Yes, different strokes for different folks - the key is to adapt as life evolves

[@hawkkim1974]

50 next month. No friends. No gf. No wife. No kids. Nada. Gave up almost every idea how a life has to be. Then I see almost no problems these days. Don't get me wrong. Life still sucks sometimes.

[@kzpm9796]

Haiya. What about family? No family too?

[@foftylife]

Life is defined by us not someone else - it’s all relative to yourself within brother 🤞🏼

[@kzpm9796]

@@foftylife maybe wife and kids are overrated anyway? lol

[@prchaser2081]

This is gonna be a viral video - I’m calling it before it happens

[@BL-qs6iq]

I'm in my early 40's and I haven't had friends other than girlfriends since I was 20. I had a lot of friends in school but once I got into the internet my need for friends plummeted. I still miss the human interaction, and I do get some of that from work, but the work it takes to keep up friendships is no longer worth the effort.

[@foftylife]

That’s the truth, it’s a lot of work and in the end, it doesn’t pan out at time

[@MrNmc09331]

I am 46, got 2 true friends, and talk to them no more than once every other month. Wife and kids are my new friends now, I guess.

[@foftylife]

Evolution of life

[@the_river_acheron]

I keep seeing a pattern of men that value sincerity over pageantry. The problem is most of society seems to fall into the fluff category, leaving a significant portion of people that are in solitude due to it being the most fulfilling option.

[@foftylife]

How can we gather this population segment together? Actually, it’s the trust of being one of these people that’s hard I think…

[@genelee1202]

As we get older, I think it's just natural for our circle of friends to get smaller and smaller... Friends die, friends get married, friends have family, people's focus deviates from friends to what's more important. However... it does get lonely at times, and sometimes it can get depressing for some especially when one realizes our circle truly gets smaller.

[@xdgs567z]

After graduating and been working at home, I really did not have a true close friends that I could call up to hang out on a weekly basis…..people are too busy nowadays with working and taking care of the family

[@foftylife]

Totally agree - the past is the past and trying to cling on earlier “friend” definitions only results in pain instead of embracing the evolution of life itself.

[@Ratchada11]

By the time you hit 50, you've successfully streamlined your life by eliminating all the friend-ly overhead. Think of it as going minimalist, but with social connections. You're not friendless; you're just socially exclusive! Plus, you've dodged countless birthday parties you'd have to buy gifts for. Who's the real winner here?

[@foftylife]

Love the perspective and will keep dodging!

[@Thesmellofrain-h6o]

My word. You are not alone in this. The world is different now. I’ve just lost my best friend to Covid and have no friends now. Not yet. You are really in touch with yourself. Real friends are out there. It will get better. I hear you-

[@foftylife]

thanks for the support!

[@R5123]

Having a family is great! That is worth quite a lot. I believe that there are a lot of people suffering from loneliness of all ages, especially now with more remote work.

[@foftylife]

Thanks and yes, society is changing thanks to technology among other things - we must adapt and not cling on to past definitions.

[@ptaeiy-n2h]

I'm 58 and in same boat. Once you grow older, your circle of friends gets smaller because your interests and way of thinking diverge.

[@foftylife]

Can totally see how I'm heading there ✌

[@chri8067]

I'm 55, and I have many friends, family, and buddies. In my life, friends have come and gone. Even today, I still make new friends.

[@KarstenNielsen-mh2fy]

We all lost friends, when they did a family. You are a product of what you did yourself.

[@foftylife]

maybe i just upgraded from friends to fam

[@raymondlin8728]

​@foftylife exactly, more time with your spouse, your kids, your house, your activities, health. Youre not a kid in 5th grade anymore. Hey, it's Saturday what do you want to do. Wanna come over snd play?? Grow up.....

[@blurigard447]

Ultimately, we are all on our own at the end of the day. We can be alone without being lonely though. Self-sufficiency is the key to happiness. Family is far greater than friendship in most cases and friendship can be very fulfilling too. But if you *need* to be surrounded by friends then that can bring sadness. Loving your own company and being your own best friend and advicate is a great thing.

[@foftylife]

We can be alone without being lonely - that’s awesome👏🏼

[@FallacyAsPraxis]

Consider yourself blessed, you have a family. Many don't have that. Besides, people these days are not to be trusted. Being alone doesn't make you a loser, it makes you more like everyone else than you seem to realize. Some people have a lot of fake friends, and some people have very few, or one, or no real friends at all. Consider one thing, its best to stay by yourself than to associate with bad people.

[@foftylife]

Great perspective and always good to hear reminders of what we do have - much thanks!

[@gg025]

You look great for 50 man

[@badgerbusiness9059]

We'll all be friends during the apocalypse, we will all finally need each other.

[@foftylife]

now that is a chilling, but somehow probable statement!

[@aaronvytlacil672]

"Friendship" in the traditional modern sense is generally pretty disconnected. You nailed the different types of friends most people have. I'd add high school friends in there but that's not something everyone has. I had very few friends a year ago. I'm 37. I realized I wanted to feel connected but my friendships were scattered and no one knew each other and I wasn't super close with anyone. The game changer for me was setting out to build COMMUNITY, not friends. Communities are very difficult to create in modern western culture, unless it's a commuity around an activity, and in those instances (let's say the skiing community for example) it's not so much about each other, it's more about the sport. So I had this strong desire to create the community and network of people that I wanted to be around. I started with the ecstatic dance community in Seattle because as a new age spiritual person, those are the most closely aligned people with me that I have found. These people actually care about connection and community. Even so, it's hard to make "friends" because people are busy. People need a reason to spend time with you. Friendships in the modern sense are too much work to maintain, our time is too limited for 1 on 1 relationship building. So I started organizing my own community dance events, and through that process of creation, I made connections with people that became friends. But I don't maintain those relationships on a 1 on 1 basis, I see these people on a regular basis in group settings, then things flow naturally from there. I go climbing with someone, I play airsoft with some guys, I go hiking with someone else, ect. But the foundation of these connections is the community. The relationships can't survive on their own, there's too many of them to give that 1 on 1 attention. Now I have a healthy network of people, I host dinner parties and there are people I'm genuinely interested in inviting and getting to know more. Read the book "The Art of Gathering" if you're interested in creating your own community. It can be done, it just takes the desire to do it.

[@foftylife]

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this topic- you know I totally agree with you community. I built some in the past, around different things… like ixsa.earth and now FoFty which is around likeminded people who have respawned themselves after factory resetting their avatar in this simulation that we “live” in 🙏🏻

[@alhoward6514]

If you have to compete, then it’s not a friend.

[@foftylife]

truth!

[@jjdinanno4147]

This resonates. I am not sure many men have friends they regularly hang out with or know very well at this age. Unless they are associated with work, it's a very small list for many. For me, my friends are spread out all over the world. They aren't going to fly in for a birthday, even a milestone birthday. I have a friend who turned 50 last year who lives 2,000 miles away. His wife put together an elaborate surprise party for him. She was very disappointed in the outcome of that party. In the days before the party, she reached out to see if I could find a way to fly out for it as the local RSVPs were really low, and mainly acquaintances were RSVPing, not "friends." The end result was kind of sad, to be honest. About a dozen people showed up, and only two people who knew him generally well. This level of awkwardness is difficult to comprehend. Especially given the expense his wife shelled out for it. After a 30th birthday, I just don't see why it would make sense to continue to celebrate birthdays like this UNTIL you start hitting milestone ages AFTER retirement. Even then, if you are an introvert with a closed group of friends that are far away, it just doesn't make sense. The cringe isn't worth the effort. But maybe, that's just real maturity versus what popular culture and media want us to believe is "happy" about birthdays. It certainly isn't that way in most of the rest of the world. I want to see your thoughts on LinkedIn in an upcoming video. I LOATHE LinkedIn for all the boasting that happens on it. Can't stand it.

[@foftylife]

man, i've hear of similar stories... heck i've been in some in my past birthdays, as you said some strange mixture of people who kind, and sorta know me mixed in with a few who know me know me, but the rest was filler.. but seems like there is interest in a linkedin episode, will think about how to share my thoughts experiences there ;)

[@andyedison2416]

I've never been into my own birthday parties, I never really got why they should be celebrated, if anything it should be our mothers who are celebrated on the day of the births, as they are the ones which bought into this world new life. I've just manage to dodge another birthday where my work colleagues were non the wiser, I don't enjoy the attention at all when people know its my birthday as it all feels so forced. Don't get me started on Linkedin that place sickens me LOL., just constant circle jerking each other, its pathetic.

[@lindawilson795]

Happy birthday 🎉🎂🧁🍧🍨🍦 You look younger than 50.

[@foftylife]

Thanks! 🙏🏻

[@tuvo9791]

I found or maybe the algorithm suggested your channel from my finance interests but I find myself coming back for your POV on life. I can relate to many of the things you’re saying. Keep up the amazing videos.

[@foftylife]

Like the tributaries that lead to the river, we gather together 🤞🏼

[@derekmalunow8962]

Right behind ya. I’ll be 49 in April 2025. I have a couple close long time friends. Not many but it’s enough for me.

[@foftylife]

Not behind me, with me bro

[@RoberthSagdahl]

Same here. Bee strong.🤠

[@chasesportscards5087]

I'm in the same boat as you. I am 46 now and realize that I have no "real" friends. I am married, have 2 near adult boys and prepping for retirement. I have the most and loving wife but I have zero friends. Like you I do not allow fake friends or social media friends to enter my life. But I do wish I had closer friends that I could count on and be counted on when in need.

[@foftylife]

Some people in the comments have brought up community, it’s something I hope to try and build 🙏🏻

[@irememberla6460]

Everyone is different! Male friendship can be especially elusive and is especially more activity -based.

[@foftylife]

true that ✌🏼

[@feetforward75]

I found myself at age 18. no regrets living my true self. never ever drink alcohol, works for me.

[@foftylife]

Keep keeping on! That’s a very young age to have found yourself 💪🏼

[@generic1189]

Who cares. You have a wife and money. Thats all that matters.

[@lanceharvie6933]

It’s ok buddy - you’re all good

[@foftylife]

Thanks for the support!

[@lifesajourney-tv]

I'm 51 and don't have any friends either. I have found that I have mostly closed myself off. I'm not lonely since I have family but I am now working to be a bit more open minded and not so guarded. Friendship has to be earned and so don't use the term loosely because I don't trust easily.

[@foftylife]

Same here, totally agree that trust is not a given but something earned - but one has to trust more forgivingly during one's youth in order to grow, develop, and learn until enough is learned.

[@lifesajourney-tv]

@@foftylife totally agree. thanks for replying. It means a lot.

[@youarehere1251]

Time to shop for a Wilson volleyball.

[@foftylife]

I saw one in a hash hike I just did!

[@polish2x91]

Same brother, feels good.

[@reefk8876]

Good insight! I’m in my mid 40s and where I’m from it’s definitely a jerk circle game lol people only liking you for what they can directly benefit from you and not necessarily money.. could even be online Status. It’s odd pathetic and slightly fascinating.

[@foftylife]

I admit I was part of that culture earlier in life… man it was so empty now that I look back on it - mostly an ego driven phase!

[@ShikokuFoodForest]

I’m Canadian living in the Japan countryside since 2011. I spend ALL my free time outside of work on my own. Making friends in Japan is next to impossible. I do enjoy several hobbies and enjoy time on my own. Sometimes I think I’d like to have a social life, although as we get older it seems normal to spend time with far less people and eventually I believe we tend to spend more time on our own. I’ve eventually accepted it and are comfortable with it.

[@foftylife]

I recently met someone from CA who moved to japan and is living in a mountain village with a population of ab out 5,000 people... they barter food, and his currency is coffee beans. He says it's like a time capsule back to the 70s there.. kids learn, play, and grow up like in the olden days. I want to visit him.

[@mikebravo4545]

guess I’m fortunate to still have a group of friends I chat with regularly the last 30 years, some people don’t even have 1 friend, sad, I’m grateful

[@foftylife]

more power to you 💪🏼

[@ChristiansKindnessKorner]

They say your a reflection of your five closest friends, when you don’t have those do we even have a reflection? Many of us all have the same things going on. I believe you’re doing ok. Many people only realize they want company when crisis hits, but being alone and being lonely are two different things.

[@foftylife]

isn't that the truth? how it takes a crisis to pull into view what has always been right in front of you 🙏🏼

[@jackpop4133]

who needs friends when there is internet? talking and sharing don't need friends anymore, just get online...somehow some strangers will listen to you😂

[@foftylife]

Hey, thanks for listening!! 🙏🏻

[@sw8281]

Looking good for 50!

[@foftylife]

Thank you!

[@SpookyTimestamps]

You look amazing at 50, man!

[@foftylife]

Thanks!

[@mikewood4242]

Im 55 and have 4 people I communicate with regularly.WE meet once in awhile,but with our famillies and work life its not easy to find time

[@foftylife]

Finding time truly is hard, especially if families are involved

[@johncoleman6768]

This just showed up and it may be because I'm also subscribed to a channel, Josh Hitti, who also has no friends. I myself am 44, not married , no kids, and I do know a lot of people because I worked with the public in a gas station for 23 years. Once the station closed in 2022, I actually missed seeing all the people I knew for all those years. But even when I worked there, I had people tell me to come hang out or text them. I never did. I truthfully enjoy being alone. Even growing up i knew a lot of kids from school, but that's as far as it went for most of them, we really never became close friends. I know a lot of people have tons of friends they hang out with. I'm content with how my life has played out like it is.

[@foftylife]

I admire and respect you choosing to be you, and what you're comfortable with - and most importantly, being ok with that.

[@johncoleman6768]

@foftylife ok this is weird. My best friend from high school sent me a message on messenger last night. He then tried to video call me, but because of the weather it didn't connect, so he told me to call him. First time we've talked on the phone in years. What a crazy weird coincidence. It actually felt great to talk to him. We've grew apart over the years and the last few times we messaged each other it was just short conversation. Well at least now I know I have my best friend back, thankful

[@clearlyunwell]

I agree, cars can be a huge waste of money.

[@foftylife]

Haha immediate deprecation right off the parking lot

[@nickwithattitude]

Love this, timing couldn’t have been better. I was giving this a random thought reflecting on my own circle of friends as well. It’s quite small but there are few peeps I could call anytime What prompted me think about this was: my girlfriend has a huge friend circle as I said I don’t. I was just thinking if we got married I literally only have a hand off friends to invite versus her

[@foftylife]

You know, I had a similar issue. I’m divorced from her now and have a beautiful family and wife but one thing I can say is that the wedding I had in my first marriage was a totally waste of money - so much so that I actually never had a wedding with my current wife, though I plan to have a ceremony with real “friends” and family soon

[@viadharmawheel]

I have a few good friends but friend-count has dropped from a peak in my late 20s (56 and retired now). Lost my best friend to Covid in 2021; we were best friends for 30 years. BTW, my mom had a best friend for 61 years when she died. I have a BFF gap, one of my friends is a close 2nd but no clear replacement.

[@foftylife]

sorry to hear about your buddy and covid, so many people were affected by it and the resulting mess that followed

[@GunmanYeoh]

Thanks for your thoughts bro!

[@foftylife]

Any time!

[@BrutusYoun]

Lol, It's funny because we were BFF's when we were in elementary and high school, but yeah I realized also in my 40's I don't really have those kinds of friends in my life anymore, nor do I really need them either. My wife really pretty much has taken that place in my life so it's kind of superfluous. So it seems I pretty much reached the same conclusion as you, even though we've been on different paths. Yeah maybe sometimes it is nice to have someone else on the outside to talk about random stuff to get other perspectives or maybe help out in times of need but you only really need that once in a blue moon, certainly not every day. Anyways very cool you voiced this all in a video, I thought it was maybe a little unique to my situation, but actually it seems pretty much par for the course for many people these days.

[@foftylife]

you know, it's so cool that decades later on life, we connect back here and share the similar thoughts man! I mean, we were totally bffs as little kids in school and did all kinds of stuff locked in our memory ;) but here we are, and one thing that can never get undone is in fact our memories - which i am very fond of - i mean, i haven't communicated with you in ages so linking in comments on a youtube video is kinda pretty awesome ✌

[@BrutusYoun]

@@foftylife Yes, well this video in particular resonated with me as I had that startling realization of having no real close friends a few years ago and maybe I was bothered by it for awhile before I just accepted it as part of getting to a certain life stage. Your voicing the same realization compelled me to comment, as it's fitting that we were so close when we were younger but still found ways to connect every once in awhile in our later years. We may not be BFF's anymore but every time we do connect it's like no time has passed. That connection is still there and I do value those memories as well, maybe I'll start commenting on more vids just to stay in touch.. :p

[@glaucioguerra]

In Brazil, we have a saying: 'It's better to be alone than in bad company.' But on the other hand, as I’ve been studying ways to improve quality of life, I’ve come across the concept of Ikigai, which emphasizes the importance of community, friendships, and how positively they impact our lives. While it's essential to stay connected with others, it becomes increasingly difficult, especially as we get older.

[@foftylife]

Didn’t know that was a Brazilian saying, thanks for sharing. Yes, ikigai- I’m developing a FoFty framework that I’ll be sharing soon - it has helped me in my journey of life 🤞🏼

[@glaucioguerra]

@@foftylife Wow that's amazing man!

[@HeadStronger-HS]

In the same boat, old friends moved to different states. My best friend is my wife and I have 2 older kids. Making friends now would be hard. I would be wondering what they wanted. Also if you are a multimillionaire you have lots of friends but I bet they look around and feel more alone then most people.

[@foftylife]

People with. Lot of money who showboat attract the wrong crowd - I learned a little of that lesson earlier in life (I wasn’t super rich but I was showboating)

[@TheAmaterus]

My take is that having no friends means that you are independent, subconsciously know that you don’t need to hang around with other people (less trouble that way), and value tranquility in reflecting on things for deep analysis and deciding on your best next actions.

[@wattlebough]

Having no friends is a symptom of a loveless society. To love and be loved by a few good faith brothers and sisters is a sign of a selfless and compassionate people. We are called to care for one another.

[@foftylife]

I think so too, perhaps it is just an evolution of life itself as we develop over time

[@Being_Joe]

You have friends, but they are categorized as your family. I'm 41 and a widower in a city where I really do not know anyone. My best friend/wife passed and I have no other friends in my city (I have friends around the country but no locals). Yes the types of friends change but we still need friends. My situation is a bit unique but I do need to go get me a network of people / friends. I feel like we need more words to describe relations rather than a catchall word like friends.

[@foftylife]

Thanks for sharing your story, I appreciate your honesty. I totally agree that the word is outdated… or maybe it’s our understanding of it that’s outdated. Another commenter here spoke about communities and I fully believe in it- that is in fact what I hope to achieve with FoFty 🙏🏻

[@Dribbles88]

As a 35 I've realized this very early at 17. Would say I have 1 friend and the rest acquantainces. But another question that I'm not clear on is, will I regret not drinking alcohol socially? Or accepted the advantances of women to sleep with them? I can only hope my future self doesn't regret my past decisions.

[@andyedison2416]

Dont look back brother, it no longer exists and nothing positive to achieve by second guessing ones decisions. The journey is the most important thing and we are writing our own scripts.

[@foftylife]

I follow the bezos retirement minimization framework and fast forward myself to my deathbed far into the future to figure out what decision to make

[@BRIANHARVEY-p5n]

I'm 56yo and have the same problem. But hey buddy. Like alot of others might say, it's better to have no friends or romantic relationships at all. Than to always experience and endure, fake people around you all the time. Im here mate, should you ever need to talk, well type. Amyways. I'm here in Oz. That's Australia. But welcome to the youtube family anyways. ✝️

[@foftylife]

I've been down under a few times and thoroughly enjoyed my stay there, some very good coffee and wine!! Who knows, perhaps the problem may not be a problem but a blessing after all, cheers ✌

[@BRIANHARVEY-p5n]

@foftylife anytime, mate. You've made the potential a beautiful friendship here. Welcome to the youtube family. ✝️

[@dojocho1894]

62 divorced no family left dropped my last friend.... a old army buddy we were in Iraq together......sucks but thats how it goes.....other wise Im doing well God loves me He guides me daily.....its magical

[@foftylife]

keep the magic going!

[@keithsavageone]

I feel ya - but instead went to Thailand and made loads of temp friends - and partied hard. In short...life has always been up to YOU. Mindset. Then I realize I have friends and they busy as me and feel the same. Hence GET YOUR BUTT OUT THERE! I'm well over 55 - no excuses. Keep living.

[@foftylife]

Love the energy and good on you for going to Thailand! I was just checking bkk out a few months ago and was surprised at how far it has come.

[@ciu9940]

I'm 40's and have no friends too.. You still lucky have wife and maybe kids? And look like 40's years old man rather than 50's

[@foftylife]

Having a family and kids really has basically replaced “friends” and I think for the better part of

[@internetfreeforever2046]

Some people even play the game of measuring stick of how many friends you have LMAO

[@foftylife]

wackest game of life that one 💀

[@thapupfather]

i thought the same thing at 40 spent it alone had a friend but his narcissist wife keep him leashed when it come to me

[@foftylife]

In a strange way, it was a memorable solitary birthday 🎂 for me

[@onelaststand1]

When we look at people who've lived more 100+ years, they most commonly value daily activities with familiar people, good food, and exercise for the mind/body. If you get those three things, you'll be fine for another 50 years Sang

[@foftylife]

You’re 100% right! Thanks for the reminder

[@onelaststand1]

@@foftylife You're welcome :) glad my comment could be helpful!

[@mixmax6027]

All good. 40s. A few guys i call occasionally from the military. Life's good. I go walk in nature.

[@foftylife]

You know, nature is a great, great friend indeed!

[@indikom]

I'm your age, and I would love to have one real friend. That would be awesome.

[@foftylife]

It’s harder to find than I thought too

[@Meritumas]

Same here, 50 last year. Happy with my wife who is my best friend.

[@foftylife]

Awesome, our wives are friends that evolved to a whole other level 💪🏼

[@frankjamesbonarrigo7162]

I have no room to give advice

[@butterflysigh9577]

i know it's hard not to take it personally ...........but we live in a society that expects us to compete with each other & constantly make money..........& also being married or the character of your partner can ruin your other relationships ...........in my next life i am coming back as a gay guy in an open relationship & i will have loads & loads of friends & be really popular x

[@foftylife]

If there’s a way to determine how we come back you gotta share it with us 🙏🏻

[@CL-em1tk]

Hey man, I am also 50 and Korean and have no friends and no need of friends.

[@foftylife]

My 친구 ✌🏼

[@feetforward75]

who needs friends? already rich, healthy, have love, have family, have success in career. when I see people go to football game and "act" like they are all into the game with their tribe, I see that as lame. how can you be excited for such a repetitive game? I say, I would not want to hang out with these spectators, bad way to waste time and life.

[@foftylife]

Fulfillment can come in many forms, you I used to love watching games with my buddies when I was lot younger, then I moved and it got lonely, and that’s when I started to find out the truth.

[@johnsradios484]

Unfortunately that’s what happens as you get older! Family, kids, maybe grandkids is what you have and that’s fine.

[@foftylife]

Grandkids sounds fun, all the joy and none of the work 🤗

[@ubiquitousdiabolus]

I have a few close friends and I did nothing on my 50th birthday either.

[@foftylife]

we should start the #nothinhburger50 movement ✌🏼

[@MatthewJohnston-wc3zm]

I'm 52 and no friends.no gf and no kids

[@foftylife]

You have a beautiful kingdom within 😇

[@SVmathfarmer]

If it makes you feel better I prefer hanging out with my trees than my friends。

[@foftylife]

Green friends are the best!

[@josm8063]

I haven't had friends in years and honestly don't really want to. My family is more than enough.

[@foftylife]

My hands are full with family too 😉

[@railsnothandles]

Have you thought that you "simply" need a deeper connection with people in general? I have been thinking, that most people are fine enough with engaging on a mutual surface level. But it's not surface level for them. It's enough for them actually. So for them it's not surface or deep, it's just normal or something. However, I'm not judging. I'm fine that others don't need to put in so much effort for mutual connection. Respect for the video. ❤

[@foftylife]

Thanks for the support! I find pleasantries have some value in that it may brighten other people’s days up a bit, in a cultural context - like Japan and Finland aren’t places where it’s valued much.

[@HelloWorld-hb7yt]

the older we get, the harder it is to make friends.

[@foftylife]

ain't that the truth!

[@randysem]

It's true, but it's not impossible. Put yourself out there, dare to be rejected.

[@Stephtones-75]

49 no friends🤷‍♂️

[@kbmblizz1940]

Why is an year number with a zero a big deal? It is a day no different than waking up the day before or after.

[@foftylife]

We were programmed by society to believe so

[@internetfreeforever2046]

I'm 43. Already no friends since 10 years ago. Every new goal and better habits I get, the less people I could talk to lol. Alot of times even just mentioning those habits is too intimidating for normies. Started remote contract job living in Asia more than 10 years ago. People from my home country didn't get it even shit on me so F them. Started crypto and most don't get it so F them. Started ice baths and it is even more crazier for normies even for Westerners, so F them too.😂 It is really HARD to find people who are on the same journey in real life... a lot of time it is just a waste of time looking. Best to spend time just doing what you want.

[@foftylife]

Haha the normies cower at your gaze… communities are a great way to find birds of the same feather and flock ✌🏼

[@tmoshamo]

When you turn 50 you official become considered a young old man.

[@foftylife]

I am proud to be a young old man 👴

[@badgerbusiness9059]

Gonna be 53 in a month, no friends since 50 as well. Not judging.

[@muntedme203]

Who cares. I am 57, and I have few friends. But I have family and children..

[@heakk1]

friends are overrated! all you really need is your wife!

[@foftylife]

Ain’t that the truth

[@enkibumbu]

You got a wife.

[@foftylife]

She’s way beyond a friend 😄

[@paulcooper-n2v]

Iv'e got no friends either im 24/7 alone but i do have peace.

[@haykav]

There is no way you are 50 years old, you look so young.

[@foftylife]

Must be all that Korean cosmetics my mom sends me 😂

[@IshvaraGodCazimi]

When is your birthday?

[@1boi593]

same but i am 24 and i have zero friends.

[@foftylife]

Life lessons learned at an early age propel people far

[@naturallyaspirated8893]

Ill be your friend

[@Demonstrait]

You got FIRE JORDANS THOUGH

[@foftylife]

keeping them till the end

[@rajmathew6220]

That's probably why you look so young for your age

[@foftylife]

The secret is out!!

[@NeerajBaid007]

Atleast you've a wife!

[@sbfhawk4343]

Yeah bien alone is not soo bad ..its peaceful

[@foftylife]

Peaceful is the right word

[@vktravellog1242]

I am 52 and have no friend and on vacation right now all alone 😂😂😂. Got you beat by two years! At least you have a wife and I am still single so lets see if you can top that 😂😂😂😂

[@foftylife]

Solo vacations are so underrated ✌🏼

[@Torsten87]

I'm turning 37 on Wednesday and I don't have any friends either... 🥳🥳

[@foftylife]

Happy Birth on Wed bro!! welcome to the club

[@morresortiz]

Im 29 with no friends either lol it seems to be the normal in this generation.

[@foftylife]

educate me 👌🏼

[@jiggabaybeejones]

This is everyone.