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[@JoshuaFluke1]

This was almost 5 years ago now. I didn't make this video to start a witch hunt, or anything like that. I am passed it. It's just me, sharing my experience. Every story has 2 sides. Maybe in her view, I'm nuts. I don't know. You have to understand that when you're in the thick of it; you can't see what everyone else is saying. You're just 'blinded' with feelings and 'hope'. Finland is dope, my second home. A serious contribution to my overall being that you see now. One bad experience with a person from that country doesn't ruin the entire country. Plenty of generous people there. Once friends with a Finn, you're friends for life. They'll give you the shirt off their back, a place to stay, and all you need do is ask.

[@yt-sh]

better alone than friendly in bad relations better friendly than lonely in good relations - Last Prophet (PBUH)

[@yt-sh]

And dont try to think it from your end you werent weird or anything you were just different for each other BTW Man shes CRAAAAAAAAZY

[@mmx2731]

I guess those Finnish teachers don't agree with the Feynman/ Sagan model of teaching. The content is exciting, it's teachers like them that suck any life out of education...bleh Also had a very similar situation with a Russian ex. Engaged for a month, then she broke it off. Broke my heart, but you just figure out how to move on I suppose. Also, good thing it happened then when there weren't any of your assets to split. Would be tough giving it to someone that didn't care at all about you.

[@chrishuerta2506]

I like how you made a shoutout to the people that helped you through your tough time.

[@lalalalalala9333]

Thank you for sharing your story. You might not realize it but you might be helping someone out there whose in an abusive relationship identify abuse, so kudos to you dude! For anyone who is reading this, please please please understand that there is no such thing as "manning up" or "growing a pair" when you are being abused, regardless of the gender of the abuser. Abuse is abuse and you need to run as far as possible away from people who are hurting you.

[@TechLead]

why can't people just be happy..? after the honeymoon phase, it's harder than it looks. well anyways... you wanna trade ex's? I'm just looking for a way to also monetize your ex-wife.

[@1MinuteFlipDoc]

like TechLead did! LOL

[@KiraPlaysGuitar]

I'll trade. Let me start my KZbin channel first.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Enter at your own risk lmao

[@KiraPlaysGuitar]

@@JoshuaFluke1 Man, seriously, KZbin seems to be about the least risky option at this stage. At least then it's really on me.

[@moonsdonut5188]

@@1MinuteFlipDoc tecklead monetize every thing ex Google lead ex Facebook lead all his thumbnail says that

[@junkaccount2535]

Man the first red flag is at the beginning of your relationship. She told you not to come, and you helped her cheat on her boyfriend. If a woman is unfaithful to her last partner, she will eventually dump you as well. "She never was your woman; it was just your turn."

[@heyjude4485]

Well. That just made sense.

[@junkaccount2535]

@@diobrando4897 Yes actually, the quote came from him, but the advice is from personal experience with another girl. Thankfully I didnt marry her tho

[@BboyDaquack]

@Itachi Uchiha listening to his story was just red pill red flag city. Glad I see em now

[@user-ti2xi9bd4u]

faxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[@drewmortenson]

Yes, my girlfriend left her toxic relationship to be in one with me. She worked for me quite hard until eventually I picked up on it and asked her out, knowing she was in a super toxic relationship. She left him for me. I fear she'll one day do the same to me, but alas I don't fear it enough because we are still dating

[@DucNguyen1610-v2b]

"i will not be friendzone by my wife " ,well that is the highest form of friendzone

[@amirhosseinetemad3094]

LMFAO 666 likes too rn

[@Erweezy27]

LOL :D

[@kennarnett8220]

Regarding your ex-wife: "You can’t be friends with those who broke your heart, ruin your life, took advantage of your love, kindness, forgiveness, or show contempt. They don’t deserve access to your life. There is no friendship there."

[@Orion_Nebula_M42]

Well said. I believe this applies to any relationship in your life

[@samrapheal1828]

Correctamundo ✔️

[@DankBeatDubz]

True

[@cmrsamk]

true true

[@vincebu6441]

Unless there is servicing.. ok a little massageanistic.. around the naughty zones but ehh.. we all have needs lol!!! If the party presents itself have fun but be responsible and get that STD test printout from her.. The more you know.....

[@christingunning293]

It takes a strong man to speak up about emotional abuse.

[@briannecaswell6204]

Very much so! It gives me hope that one day I will find a man who is able to share his feelings and have a healthy discussion when need be lol. So far no luck!

[@marybell2002]

I'm shocked at how many stories I'm hearing about verbal, emotional and physical abuse by women. I'm wondering if things were always like this but no one talked about it or if its a downside of radical feminism.

[@neronihil1710]

@@marybell2002 its been like this for a very long time. The woman who opened the first shelter for women in the UK was a devoted feminist. After a while she came to the realization that men experience very similar kinds abuse and tried to address this issue. The response from the feminist community towards her, was swift and brutal. They basically excommunicated her, poisened her dog and destroyed her reputation. I could be wrong but i believe her name was Erin Pizzey. Look up her story if you're interested

[@laurenshannon2703]

Her words were brutal, emotional abuse. So sorry this happened.

[@DX-d]

Are you kidding! she was the only one working & spending money ON HIM?!!! And for YEARS?!! Unbelievable. And he says now that he doesn’t want to be a provider for a woman!! Pathetic. No one in their right mind would be with a loser that takes money from women.

[@thereason1010]

Took a lot of balls to share this story. Really appreciate it man! We're all human

[@lucid3852]

thereason1010 exactly what I was thinking

[@KreativeHogwartsLegacyGUIDES]

it sounded like being in hell, especially the deportation threat and losing your degree.

[@lightgiver7311]

I guess I was lucky. I married a divorced man and I was a young widow. Marriage is hard. It had some challenges. We made a pact. We gave each other one thousand I loves you every day. One touch to the face, 1 hug, 1 kiss, a daily reminder of our love. We were together 37 years. I lost him to death.

[@tommak6516]

You were a young widow, now you are an old widow. Ironic.

[@donitawhite8111]

@Wally Reyes 🤣🤣

[@Observer82AB]

That is how marriages are supposed to work.

[@zander4529]

very sorry for your loss

[@gillpb638]

F these losers making jokes you were wonderful and every marriage should be like this.

[@shreyaindia4024]

your first red flag was that she broke up with u and told you not to come and told u she found someone else. If ANYONE, breaks your heart EVEN ONCE, you are supposed to run in the opposite direction.

[@fangtooth4471]

Video game répulsion would be the first & last red flag for many of us.

[@shukhada6664]

@Matthew Neddeau Nah we just think that's not gonna happen for us.

[@Hawaiiansky11]

@Matthew Neddeau A lot of times, it is because (1) we are "in love" / "in lust" / infatuated / high on someone falling for us / being love-bombed by phrases like, "You are the most amazing human being ever!" and (2) it's the beginning of the relationship and we don't want to throw away a potentially good thing ('they think I'm the best person they have ever known' - love bombing!) over something seemingly trivial at the start of a relationship or (3) we are codependent from having grown up with bad parents, which sounds like Josh, because he used the phrase "knight in shining armor" and that he wanted to prove to her what it was like to experience real love (in hindsight, huge red flags!!), and (4) we don't notice the individual red flags until one day when we 'wake up' and see that we are surrounded by a sea of them, most times after which we are already committed, like married or having a child with them, or in my case, they moved in with you and you take pity on them because they have no money or other place to go, etc. so we say to ourselves, "I made a commitment and I fully intend to keep it," where the other person has probably already long since moved on. Speaking of which.... The one who seems neurotically paranoid about being cheated on, is statistically the most likely to be the one doing all the cheating.

[@vicfromest]

He was really young at the time and these were his very first experiences. We don’t always get it right at 20. I think he did well considering the age.

[@sheezy2526]

Yes it is unethical too trying to break someone's relationship to be the white knight.

[@erowal1]

This video shouldn’t be called “I’m Divorced...”, it should be called “I Dodged A Bullet...”

[@jackbacic868]

Sure did

[@fredachase5193]

erowal1 that’s for sure

[@hollyandlorifineart9591]

Yess! Thank goodness they didn't have kids!!!

[@aleckermit]

Dodging a bullet still hurts. I think about my ex of 2.5 years nearly every day. Bad break up and lot of regrets that I can't mend.

[@lyndonbauer1703]

He didn't dodge it, he married it.

[@gman9090]

Repeat after me boys..finance before romance.

[@kaputasri]

More like never romance cos romance can take your finance to zero pretty fast.

[@mgtowgoose8862]

Acquire currency, ignore women. Be the best version of yourself you can be.

[@dannytheman2217]

Yes let them beg

[@gabrielmorais3554]

mgtow goose Disregard Females, acquire currency or Fuck bitches, make money 😎

[@spiralviper8158]

@@dannytheman2217 there's always more men for them, it's on us to avoid the well of bitterness and misery but becoming our best selves. but it's difficult to reach that point without then desiring love

[@Yolduranduran]

I agree people dont understand that men can also suffer abuse.

[@TheUtuber999]

Women are (usually) conditioned not to get into physical altercations, so instead they hone their skills toward doing psychological battle against others.

[@freedom13245]

@@TheUtuber999 yes that's a fact

[@liamdavis492]

@@TheUtuber999 women are as aggressive as men, except socially instead of physically. That's a psychological fact.

[@exstee]

@@TheUtuber999 And those psychological attacks often do way more damage then physical. It damages the mind and spirit. Bitches be crazy.

[@differentbutsimilar7893]

@@TheUtuber999 You'd be surprised. You know who have the highest incidence of physical domestic abuse? Lesbians. But in hetero relationships, definitely. Seen it many times, lived it myself.

[@user-fy3mh3yj9y]

It’s common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you’re ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way forward.

[@user-el4cq5qg2j]

I’m facing significant relationship problems and can’t stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I’m ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.

[@user-fy3mh3yj9y]

Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.

[@user-el4cq5qg2j]

I'll quickly search for him online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.

[@user-fy3mh3yj9y]

I promise you will not regret it.

[@dumbr457]

"My parents were sued and lost their house. They were basically homeless...." That couped with the divorce, rough times.

[@Sean-ll5cm]

I want the story behind that.. I'm curious about his family situation now

[@Xellos976]

@@Sean-ll5cm in a previous video, he has spoken about how his dad was let go from the company he worked for his entire life and then when he tried starting a business he was sued because he signed a non compete clause or something when he first got the job.

[@Sean-ll5cm]

@@Xellos976 ah damn

[@jasonreviews]

Now he's famous on KZbin

[@justinTime077]

Sean its hard to miss. Dumbr it just sounds like a few days on planet earth to me.

[@BrendanStBrown]

I want this guy to do well in life

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

ME TOO

[@Bushey4545]

Haha You know that's true

[@cuybueno]

This kid have made many mistakes due to his short age. Thinking that she was going to foot the bills while he was studying was the worst mistake.

[@Dice-Z]

I think he is.

[@adeneo.g6456]

He is a good solid dude, you could play pool with and share a few drinks. The woman is spawn of satan my goodness.

[@jjlatinopedia]

Not a Tom Leykis listener I see. Married at the age of 20 - Strike 1 Talked to a girl online for a few years -Strike 2 Dropped the "L" word - YOURE OUT!!!!

[@zerocool527]

Yup

[@coldtruth6354]

Exactly

[@mycoblue9320]

agree 100%

[@Oliver-tm7jm]

Sounds like he spent more than $40 on a date also

[@jeffreymcfadden9403]

"long distance relationships" STRIKE 4.

[@jeffhiggins4478]

Bud, your experience sounds so much like mine (apart from living abroad). You’re not alone, dude. I’ve been there too. Stay strong, brother.

[@RM-kw1hn]

Me too, I’m a woman but same experience with a foreign guy. Those experiences don’t define us or others though. You live and learn. You can not become a bitter person and think everyone is the same. Yes, we were wronged but not everyone will do the same to us again. What is this telling us? That there’s a lot of not so good people out there so we have take out time and look for red flags. We also have to be accountable for our poor judgement at the time if we think retrospectively about not getting to know a person good enough before marrying them and looking for potential red flags. Self-awareness going forward is needed.

[@mzansimomentsreloaded913]

Bro I cried when you said she didn't even give you food.

[@jnjerinduati]

She was a narcissist

[@ivanjdrakov1957]

Yeah the money for lunch was terrible, that made my eyes water.. No money for food and having to ask, beg for lunch money for school!!! I think that it's absolutely sick how she treated him... I'm sure he learned some super valuable lessons from this whole experience! Sweet Keep well and be safe everyone! 😁🇧🇬🛸

[@tyggy3]

Omg! I'm still crying! How could anyone do anyone like that, especially when they are from another country? My heart is sad for what he went through. I pray things are much better now 🙏🙏

[@ivanjdrakov1957]

@@tyggy3 can you actually believe the nerve this girl had, or has..... I'd try my best to get away from her asap....

[@mzansimomentsreloaded913]

@@tyggy3 Some people are just pure evil its sad.

[@jonlouis2582]

I keep my divorce certificate in a frame in my bedroom to remind me never to do that again.

[@user-ti2xi9bd4u]

@@Comeswoopfam not everybody is like that, chill bro. there's someone who loves you, but she just has yet show up

[@b__w_4565]

@@user-ti2xi9bd4u dude honestly it ain’t even that...fuck the legalities involved with marriage. They fuck men over. Why can’t we just give each other a ring and call it a day...it’s 2020 men and women work and the laws can’t be like the fu king 40’s anymore. Why do we need a contract to spend our lives with people!!!

[@bestredditstories1158]

Fucking legend

[@nicoleholley7049]

If I get a devorce that's what I'm going to do!!!

[@littleripper312]

I think people get married way too lightly. Also what people don't seem to realize is that even if you are well matched it's going to take a lot of work to build a strong lasting marriage. For me it's not something I want but I know plenty of people who are happily married and would never want to be single. I think we need to just stop pressuring people to get married because a lot of people dont really want it- both men and women.

[@714lmfao]

Loved the honesty. Abuse is abuse regarless of the gender.

[@karelhalim8090]

@@astondias810 dude the fuck you said that for?

[@karelhalim8090]

@@astondias810 ,okey i admitted it , wasnt ur fault u were bored , what should we do im bored too

[@siliconiusantogramaphantis2122]

I clicked on this expecting to hear a bitter man talk about his past experience with a failed marriage. What I got instead is a story of how a man was kicked down by circumstance, and still managed to pick himself up against all odds. Dude you're a hero. I'm subscribing to your channel now.

[@yourcaseworker6916]

*You don't know a woman...* *UNTIL YOU MEET HER IN COURT!*

[@MetaLNadia]

LMFAO

[@sebas8225]

You dont know how low a woman can be... Until you meet the Widow version.

[@stevenjodeir534]

Amen!

[@yourcaseworker6916]

@@sebas8225 Yes...I do!

[@jpai1411]

Sadly 😢

[@vinolabikunda7418]

You married a women who wasnt ready to be married. You are doing better as a single person. Stay blessed

[@toushiri9476]

No biiiiig nooooo He is a good guy and i hope one day he find a good girl too I am not saying go and search for one.. but at least keep your eyes open There are good people out there don’t punish yourself because of single woman Your sexual needs are not something to be ashamed for.. it’s more than normal.. they are life enjoyments. It’s just she couldn’t end the relationship and couldn’t say it clearly so she tried to make you feel bad so you are the one who stop it People like are wanted.. don’t let a good loyal girl goes a way just because you had a bad experience with a random bii**

[@tross8863]

He WASN'T ready to be married.

[@alanadenham7997]

Huh? He was literally a man-child who did nothing for himself or her and played video games all day. No woman wants to raise a man! No one.

[@sergeijegorov1440]

@@alanadenham7997 They had no money to do anything else and she wasn't letting him drive or do something, this is the only thing could do to stay mentally okay and relieve some stress.

[@alanadenham7997]

@@sergeijegorov1440 The reality is that while in school he could have worked on campus part-time and made some level of contribution. Per his own account, he went to school and played video games like a 15 year old. No woman will put up with that mess for long. "Let him drive" Lol He was grown, he could have caught a cab or walked. Lolol

[@InstructorMike]

Dude I am so glad that I listen to the entire of your story. If you don’t mind, I would love to continue to share it. It could save so many people who may be open to it

[@McofCOD]

Imagine being able to say "Sorry I can't go on vacation with you, I'm banned from every nation in the EU." Your friends would be like wtf did he do?

[@BernardBrunu1]

I guess he might now be a supporter of Britain leaving the EU.

[@josevasconcellos9633]

Jajaja

[@HickoryDickory86]

😂

[@yvesgysel9834]

Strange. Here in Belgium, you would keep your permission to stay after the divorce and it is also within the EU. Josh is also talking about deportation back to the USA and a 10 years ban from visiting any EU Country. Josh, I think your ex wife and her family were playing you. This would never happen within the EU. In reality everybody can come over to the EU, file for a citizens permission and wait. In the main time you get food and shelter. If your citizens permission is declined, you can always go to court. Here totally free. Courtcost and Laywer. So You can prolonge your stay for 3 to +10 Years. Yes I know a case, we're it took 16 Years to have a final Verdict. She got a piece of paper, saying that she had to leave Belgium, that is all. She is still living in Belgium and has now even the Belgian Nationality. You can always file for a new citizens permission if your situation has changed. Western European Countries are still feeling guilty for the Holocaust and Hitler, so we would never deport people. To my American friends, You should definitely come over and visit Europe. Greetings

[@Ukraineaissance2014]

My brothers banned from spain for stealing a saudi princes boat

[@starboy2013]

Ok when she says she meet someone and you make out with her.There is your red flag.

[@YorktownUSA]

Yep.

[@dougg1075]

Yes

[@harryking4007]

Yes that's right. But he ignored that .like we all have done

[@starboy2013]

@@harryking4007 totally,if you do the postmortem like we all do there were red flags everywhere.

[@kevinmiller8111]

Young and dumb, we've all been there. I dated some horrible women when I was younger and in retrospect the red flags were obvious to everyone but me. You learn from your mistakes, can't blame him for that.

[@keltongreen5455]

between seeing Josh and THE TECH LEAD coming out about the effects of divorce and shedding insight on this topic will help young men be more analytical about marriage. Thank you so much for sharing your story sir.

[@jonreyes166]

agreed, really got to weigh the pros and cons of it

[@alashawn8]

I LOVE THESE TWO GUYS!

[@JoshuaFluke1]

I'd like to think we love you too

[@hendrixansel9750]

The difference is, at this point, josh is very redpill and techlead is pretty blue pilled.

[@saraache9420]

I am a girl and because of those two vids and some real life experiences from my family, I am honestly traumatized to get married.

[@99994139]

I'm 28 right now, never married, I had two engagements both did not work out well. I know Divorce is not the same as ending engagement but I feel you and what you have gone through becasue it feels sucks to be lonely and don't have someone in your life to support you in times of need in this tough life.

[@SProductions166]

Hella shed a tear for you brother. When you got the call and dropped the phone and hugged your friend.. I felt that

[@iamrockness]

I was with a beautiful girl for 3 years who was my best friend in every sense of the word. We treated each other so well, moved in together, bought a house, nearly got married and nearly had kids. We almost had the american dream, so to speak. Over the course of 2 months, I watched her emotionally and mentally fall apart before my very eyes and abuse me emotionally, mentally, and even physically. I was basically forced to move out for my own health as trying to keep our relationship together withered me away. It still baffles me how someone who looks you in the eyes and promises to Love you forever, talks about growing old with you, and even discusses the names of children with you can go to the lengths of hurting you with a smile on their face, blaming you for why they're hurting you, and then projecting their insecurity and infidelity onto you. I've learned since then that those people are only to be pitied and forgotten. They fester in their own narcissism and lies, never really feeling guilty until it's too late and they're desperate for some other sucker to love them. Truly awful stuff, but we all grow stronger from it. Much love to all of you.

[@iamrockness]

@Steven Boortz I totally understand your confusion and your pain. It is unbearable at times and it just feels like a pit of despair that you won't ever get out of. Just know that it's okay to feel all of what you're feeling, and that it will pass. What they did was cruel and unjust. They do it to try and rid themselves of the guilt. They do it because in their mind, if they can convince themselves of the lie that you're awful, they dont have to feel bad for hurting you. They will go to the extent of gaslighting you to the point of making you wonder if you were as bad as they make you think you were. However, a relationship takes two. Both parties contributed to the beginning and failure of the relationship. One the catalyst and one the receiver. The only thing you can do, is keep your head held high and maintain your dignity. Your time is worth way more than what they've done to you. It will take time, and it is going to hurt a lot. I mean, a lot a lot. I'm not going to sugar coat it. It will sting for a long time, but as a result you will gain wisdom, insight, and strength from it. So much so that someone who values you will notice it and be drawn to it. For now, let the pain flow. Cry if you gotta. No shame in it. People will hurt you in life, but you'll always be there to get yourself back up. Love yourself first, and no amount of BS others put you through will ever be too much. Take your time. You fuckin got this. I hope this helped. Have a great day.

[@AFuller2020]

And yet, everyone probably blames you....BTDT, go overseas, I did.

[@ahmedcheikh3082]

@@iamrockness u need some red pill wisdom

[@iamrockness]

@@ahmedcheikh3082 way ahead of you. I got therapy, started hitting the gym and eating clean, looked up guides to be a strong successful male, earned back my self respect, learned the nuance to women, studied stoic and taoist philosophy, and am now red pilled. I don't need nor want a woman for my happiness. After this arduous journey, I am much happier internally than I ever was. I dodged a great bullet, and I'm thankful for my freedom and all the babes I can talk to for free. Life is good.😎👌🏽

[@aliibrahim1001]

Wow you just described what my recent broken relationship of 10 years was, word for word! Its so difficult to process everything and live a life like the past 10 years never existed..

[@MegaTriumph1]

They say love is blind, but marriage is sure an eye opener.

[@SuperLiliana1973]

LOL :D :D

[@KKKK-jr1nm]

Lol yeah.

[@sunset2.00]

thanks Disney.

[@nagisa0931]

Wow, this comment rhymed , it even be a poem

[@12akul]

@@nagisa0931 It actually didn't but ok

[@ikennaq2]

There is something about you Joshua. You're the type of person that makes the world a better place. Thanks for sharing.

[@kitt7082]

Now tell us your fitness story

[@ProactiveIfeatu]

i can tell your not an OG fan he made a fitness story years ago

[@moonsdonut5188]

Boom roasted

[@robertjif6337]

FitnessReel coming soon

[@JoshuaFluke1]

I was fat. Then I decided I wanted to go on dates again. Girls don't particularly want to date another planet. So I decided to slim down.

[@moonsdonut5188]

@@JoshuaFluke1 saturn is huge but is doing well in dating so many moons

[@UndertakerU2ber]

I know I can’t watch this video. It’ll just resurface bad memories of my parents’ divorce. One of the worst parts was knowing how my mom beat my father over the most trivial issues, and my dad started making secret recordings of her abuse. When the inevitable divorce proceedings started, the judge just blindly went along with the narrative that my father was the abuser, and my dad couldn’t present the video evidence he had because the state has a law prohibiting secret audio recordings in a private setting (such as a home). My dad was then charged as a spouse abuser by the district attorney, and before the case went to trial, his lawyer went to the DA and handed him the videotapes. The DA said “Steven? C’mon you know better. We’ve gotta let this go to trial and see what happens as usual.” And my father’s lawyer just said “Just...look at the tapes, for Christ sakes...” The spouse abuse case was dropped the day after those lawyers talked with each other, but my mom was never charged, because the tapes were inadmissible in court. My dad still has a public listing on the docket that he was charged with assault despite the case being dropped. He never wants to talk or think about it, because the thought of being treated as the villain despite being the victim is a very, very painful experience to endure...

[@lifeandhomewithmeredith9050]

UndertakerU2ber I am so sorry you and your dad went through that! I learned early that life is never fare. Much Love

[@lowdieee]

How do you feel about your mom now?

[@user-cm9kd3bw7y]

Stay tough . Wish you and your dad the best .

[@AgeofMachines]

Yet one accusation and men are guilty....

[@Mike-yy4ll]

@land otter1 My wife broke my sternum - hit it with elbow (she used to do martial arts) for me hiccup for too long. When i got to a doctor, he understood it instantly and tried to call the police to arrest her. I refused, but that man is doing the right things and doctors actually can help you in those domestic abuse cases.

[@sam.0021]

i cant think of a more real and down to earth youtuber than you bro. thank you for spreading your message and your story. it has helped me and countless others.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Sure thing, but don't go to jail.

[@alexward8596]

That divorce was a blessing, imagine being in that situation still.

[@77moonwalker77]

What a horrible experience. She was most definitely emotionally abusive.

[@timsteinkamp2245]

I'll comment to you but it could have been many others. It is life and no foul done. It is just an experience he had and shared. I didn't see him looking for sympathy. Something I learned is to never take sides in people's relationships because they may kiss and make up.

[@DX-d]

Are you kidding! she was the only one working & spending money ON HIM?!!! And for YEARS?!! Unbelievable. And he says now that he doesn’t want to be a provider for a woman!! Pathetic. No one in their right mind would be with a loser that takes money from women.

[@mateuszmazurek7991]

​@@DX-d Why is this any worse than a man spending money on his wife and working? That's MARRIAGE!

[@Adefuye]

That relationship sounds like a freakn NIGHTMARE

[@spiralviper8158]

all too common though. as a culprit myself, it's on me to learn to live without love

[@spiralviper8158]

@Pewdiepie's Hot Dog Boss touche, fuck that shit

[@spiralviper8158]

@Craig X to me it seems like the more you try to control a situation the more it gets out of hand. People do what they like, but social magnetism and push-pull dynamics are a thing. "The more you chase after it, the more it gets away from you." - Alan Watts

[@Saffeyah]

The fact you said she said she found another guy from the very beginning and you spent money to take a trip to see her. That would have been case closed. Aside from being young. Guys, do not take crap from any woman who tears you down. No matter how gorgeous she looks. She’s toxic, stay away from her.

[@Saffeyah]

@Daniel the Maniel yeah you’re right

[@everythingisupsidedown9593]

Ever had a relationship with woman that doesn't tear you down? From your Mom onwards?

[@gondaljarrat8864]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/iICTl5ygibuWis0

[@shanedowling4214]

@Mahta The Great wait till you hear my story, worse than his but glad I made it out and found a throne through my run in dirt. We only know what we experience hence why you didn’t know this is rampant and trust me it is. Same way we men don’t know much about what women experience cos we don’t live their experience. Understanding each other’s struggles is the way forward. There are wicked toxic people in all sides.

[@shanedowling4214]

@Ig Hanchks I wanna live in this world. I will definitely marry here. Sadly the society at large is the opposite of this such amazing society. Out of curiosity, where is it? I’ll understand if you don’t want to share. Please protect your community at all cost. Rare and golden

[@keepforever726]

"I love you so much I want to get the government involved." ~ Jim Carry

[@Hawaiiansky11]

That's why it should not be called marriage unless you do it in a church, where you ask God's sanctification. A marriage involved three; you, me and God. Without God, it's nothing more than a domestic partnership.

[@JoelAntwi]

well this was a surprise. really honest and real. I like it

[@rotmgWevouls]

You like beta males?

[@IBennx77I]

Josh you lost someone who didnt care about you, but this girl lost someone who really loved her, so she is clearly the loser. Learning from such situations is more worth than gold.

[@xo_kryptoknight4147]

This is the exact quote I tell myself all the time

[@sunnydays405]

Cope. She'll find someone else in no time. Joshua lost big time here, but it seems like it was a good learning experience for him.

[@sunnydays405]

@@alantinoalantonio you're right josh won in the end becoming successful, I just think assuming she is going to have a shitty life is cope. Who knows how her life turned out.

[@alantinoalantonio]

@@sunnydays405 It's safe to assume that people that live for themselves and are damaged will end up bitter since they are damaged. Damaged people don't love themselves and therefore it's impossible for them to love others. Josh grew, learned, and knows what to look for and what to avoid. Look around. Wholesome women love people and are genuinely joyful. Selfish cunts end up lifeless inside.

[@sunnydays405]

@@alantinoalantonio perhaps you're right. I'm a little jaded and think too many people commit a just world fallacy when looking at these kind of situations. For the record I hope you're right.

[@cherylblack184]

I am going through your videos. If you haven't already, hire an attorney and follow up with the divorce. Make certain the paperwork has been filed and you are divorced. It's concerning you signed something you couldn't read and obviously aren't clear on the process. Hopefully enough time has passed that emotionally you can revisit it if only to make certain that chapter is indeed over.

[@inconnu4961]

very good advice!

[@inconspicuousbystander6224]

"She was a hairdresser..." Hooo boy, how many divorce stories include that line friend.

[@hassibk6121]

Matt W Lmao

[@johnsmith-vu3sv]

Lol what?

[@SenhorBeGo]

LOL...but you are not lying

[@MentalDeviant]

In the crazy hot matrix. Hair dressers are mentioned as a negative but they are not all bad.

[@attractiveforce8609]

@Assoluto Cosmico but when it comes to murder it's always the gardener^^

[@tellurye]

Shes crying and screaming at you, then 4 seconds later she is laughing .... yeah, sounds like a psycho, dude. WTF?

[@JustNodIfYouCanHearMe77]

Nope. Just sounds like typical Finnish woman

[@gmeister03]

Typical

[@minglee9288]

@@JustNodIfYouCanHearMe77 *most

[@donnalangley117]

@@JustNodIfYouCanHearMe77 sounds like my ex husband.. so it happens in both sexes. People are crazy.

[@winning3329]

The real problem is men just marry women soley on looks then get disappointed when she turns out to be a nut job. You men always chase the bad girls and turn your noses up at the good women just because they ain't hot.

[@isagoldfield7393]

YOU DESERVE THE BEST JOSH, ONLY THE BEST. Blessings to YOU‼️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[@dougl8248]

Count yourself as lucky to have not had a bunch of kids with this woman and begun making money because it could have been much worse.

[@SiaarZH]

Josh being real the most wholesome thing on youtube. So many people "fake it till they make it" and keep faking afterwards too, because they never knew how to be real. Kudos Josh. You broke the algorithm and you're making (my) world better.

[@brandiew7611]

As a mom of four, and a person with a son myself, it really breaks my heart that she said those things to you-- you're clearly a very smart, strong person. I wish you the very best and continued success in all your endeavors.

[@Donamtrx]

Crying doesn’t make you weak. It takes courage to cry out loud. It makes you human.

[@sugarcoma7662]

I love your comment

[@PatrickSmith-hv1um]

U only weak as a Man when u dont scream out Loud to GOD with tears Bro

[@Nihilist_Waltz]

I'm not sure. I still remember the first time I cried infront of my ex, and she laughed. Probably best to do that alone...

[@xoxoJGWS]

@@Nihilist_Waltz i can imagine that wasnt a good experience.. your emotions are valid tho, and there are people out there that would like to comfort you instead of laugh :)

[@Nihilist_Waltz]

@@xoxoJGWS Thank you. I appreciate the sentiment genuinely. However in general, when it comes to relationships dynamics between the sexes. As a man, you are expected to be the rock. If you're with a woman, and you start to become emotionally vulnerable wih her, she is hard wired to lose attraction for you. I understand that everyone is an individual, and has individual preferences, but if you tell men it's okay to cry in front of your girl, you're setting the guys up for failure.

[@go4damo]

"'How old were you?' 'I was young and dumb. That's how old I was.'"

[@paultexasusa1366]

20

[@xdandychiggins]

@@paultexasusa1366 aka young and dumb.

[@avalerionbass]

I was in a 5 year relationship with someone I thought I was going to marry. Turns out I was delusional and she was a gas-lighting sociopathic narcissist. The pain was real, but talk about dodging a bullet.

[@StoicContrarian]

Derek Ball fellow musician; excellent. Been married 11 years; playing guitar is the only thing that wards off the depression.

[@crystalianike]

Me too! i dunno now who is my soulmate is just living best life now.

[@lavish_1717]

trojan Same! When I see my friends in miserable relationships, I’m like damn I’ve been blessed to be single lol

[@eminemilly]

@@StoicContrarian I appreciate you comment I'm struggling but I am getting back into guitar

[@KirstenMarie_MS3]

@@crystalianike There's no such thing as "soulmate." We aren't living in a fairytale or some sappy RomCom.

[@UmeshABhat]

Had a simliar experience here in Estonia. Many thanks for sharing. Stay Strong.

[@RabidPrimeape]

To be real with you, it went from 0 to 100 because she found someone else. She called you a sex addict because she was behind your back.

[@mikecantreed]

Nailed it. It's called projection.

[@justaprogrammer3764]

omg ghis comment burns. was in a similar situation and you're right

[@lavish_1717]

Arv'ceo OmG this happened to my friend. Your comment is so accurate.

[@kallepikku4991]

Hahaha.... some Finnish bluntness right there! LMAO

[@joekettering2151]

Guaranteed that if you had been an a-hole to her, she never would go anywhere. I've had to learn the hard way over time that that's what they respond to. It makes sense, biologically. We've just been groomed to treat them like queens, open doors for them, pay for meals, spoil them in general. The problem is that they haven't been groomed to appreciate what we do for them, to return the favor in any way whatsoever, or just treat us like men and take care of us the way we take care of them.

[@OhVictoria]

What a kind & patient human being you are. Wow. We don’t stop and think that men get abused this way just as women do. Just, wow.

[@paigelovette8156]

THAT PART.

[@75Cee]

I agree with you.

[@drakelondon6849]

Haters gonna hate and betas gonna bate.

[@Krbydav328]

and why don’t women think about the abuse they do to men?

[@suzannekeil3170]

Aww that’s sounds so harsh, really sorry you went thru that ❤

[@leonidassabr9197]

JOSH I JUST WANNA SAY FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO. IT WILL HELP ALOT OF MEN

[@madanydiallo5220]

Leonidas Sabr it sure helped me out. I know it’s not the same thing but I’ve been dating this girl for 4 years and we just recently broke up and it’s crazy how similar the stories sound.

[@NTJedi]

@@madanydiallo5220 Basically people change as time passes because of events, friends and genetics. Some people change for the better and some people change for the worse. This means the lady of your dreams today can become the witch of your nightmares in the future. MGTOW is the best path which protects your career, everything you earn and you can still raise a family safely.

[@infulleffect5930]

Just interested- how you gained so much weight although you had no money to buy food?

[@nadirsaleh7839]

I needed to hear this, I totally relate to this..

[@mmanda515]

Absolutely was emotional/psychological abuse (even financial).... & doesn't just happen to men. Glad he made it out of there, with a degree, with what seemed like a great job offer & most importantly imho, without children being involved, having to pay the ultimate price. Stay safe & be well. #DoctorRamani (channel everyone should watch to know the red flags BEFORE......if not to help themselves, perhaps a friend being sucked in & manipulated to ignore those red flags) #DARVO "B.A.I.T.E.R.S"

[@aimeenunez2904]

You have a heart of gold and I'm really sorry you been through these messed up relationships... Sometimes people are so caught up in their own issues they lash out at the people closest to them

[@supern0is349]

"just suck it up" is the perfect excuse to coerce a man into doing things that are not in his own best interest and keep him a slave.

[@FGuilt]

Truth. This is the essence of MGTOW. We won't be lied to anymore.

[@littleripper312]

This is actually a common way people are taken advantage of and abused. I'm a female who will never marry but I know what you mean about men being told to just suck it up. I think men and women should still come together as a team to bring up children but everyone should be pulling their weight and not demand so much from their spouses.

[@dominikbradvica9406]

@@littleripper312 i do respect your opinion, but in this curent age, marriages /relationships are a dying relic. Feminisim destroyed the whole meaning of that term nowdays and to top that "whole MGTOW movment"is doing the same thing, marriage is a obsolete relic of the past. Also if you want to have kids, then you will have a shitty life without freedom.

[@FGuilt]

@@alexander8548 sure did. I'm paying 1600$ a month for ten years but I have the privilege of rebuilding my sanity. Cheers 🍻

[@FGuilt]

@@alexander8548 one can only hope. Be well brother.

[@natashabaars5030]

as a woman this makes me really sad... believe me, she didn't have the tools to deal with this, but still, this is very unfair... this was a great video, and it's great for you as a man you can be that strong to be vulnerable... I also really kinda learned a lot hearing such a story from a mans perspective... just makes me feel determined to never ever emotionally belittle my husband in any way, absolutely matter what...

[@papagal2553]

sound like both had no real realtionship experience and didnt know their limits and have too big expectations from eachother without living atleast 1 year without marriage together. Woman want a strong male and at that time he wasnt. She had the pants on and then woman loose respect. Its no surprise that that happend.

[@applecrave1097]

@@papagal2553 she was still a huge dick and never communicated with him, and tried to plant fake cheating evidence to hasten the process and have him banned before graduating school.

[@basteagui]

you're right natasha, she should have had the tools so she can MANIPULATE and ABUSE him more effectively. poor chick!!!!!!

[@natashabaars5030]

@@basteagui that's not how I meant it. It seemed to me (from the way he explained it) that she did not know how to treat her husband with the respect, dignity and love a husband (or a wife) deserves. We all do the best we can but and sometimes we lack the tools how to treat others but we all still need to learn how to do better. However, that's just my personal opinion. I grew up lacking these tools and I had to learn a lot (and still learning) so I wouldn't treat others the wrong way and continue the dysfunctional family patter (like manipulating and belitteling others).

[@happyhands117]

@@natashabaars5030 How you meant it was exactly how it read Natasha. You have a genuine love for him, whereas some people on here obviously have had bad experiences that they judge all females by which is wrong to do. I understood exactly what you meant and that's how it should be as you're being open to understand how men see their role towards their partner. Men and women don't always understand each other and it's a lovely sentiment from you.

[@indecisiveist]

This made me teary eyed. I'm glad you're in a better situation. If anyone ever laughs at your sadness or plight they have no love for you.

[@Harry-nn4px]

"A poor man may marry but his wedding night is short." (Old Russian proverb).

[@taylorj6177]

I fuckin love it

[@user-ee8cq9jt3y]

Which means?

[@cx777o]

@@user-ee8cq9jt3y if you got no money, you get no honey (in this case no pussy)

[@bitzartdev]

I am actually russian and I am seeing this for the first time in my life

[@Harry-nn4px]

@@bitzartdev I read the expression in an Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn book some 35 years ago. He was using it as a metaphor for something in his musings that I long ago forgot. The literal meaning, however, stayed with me and is applicable to the poor boy's misadventure in Finland.

[@cherie3000]

never take someone who you have "taken" from someone, one day you will be the one they are leaving for someone else....

[@wadima6526]

TRUE

[@sahtemehdiavcstarkd8712]

@@wadima6526 maybe they loved each other, who knows.

[@wadima6526]

@@sahtemehdiavcstarkd8712 honestly I’ve been through the same thing, she left her ex to be with me and I truly loved her but eventually she left me for someone else

[@Hawaiiansky11]

My mother used to say, "If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you."

[@abdullahmosibah560]

Joshua , if she looked at you now , she would regret that she treated u like this -success is the best revenge , although it's not about revenge , but u get the point

[@uppymcdowny58]

its actually spelled revenge* ... Not trying to be a jerk, because judging by your name I am going to assume english is your 2nd language

[@abdullahmosibah560]

@@uppymcdowny58 thanks man

[@1boi593]

it is about revenge

[@psicosis101]

Facts

[@audio.video.disco.]

The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.

[@ChristineLena-yn3ex]

Owww your poor wife went through so much. You didn't appreciate anything she did for you 😢

[@mireliom]

I laughed , cringed, empathized, and wasn’t surprised all at once.

[@pauls4742]

Yup!... the voice of experience.

[@robwembley]

Thank you for being so utterly Real and Authentic !

[@JoshuaFluke1]

I'm not sure how else to be.

[@robwembley]

@@JoshuaFluke1 You have no idea of how 'evolved' you are ! You have survived so much. Continued after setback after setback. Just please stop apologising for being you. I was utterly disgusted by the way in which you treated. No one deserves that. Allow yourself to cry. Stop holding it all in all of the time. You are 'worth your weight in gold' ! Please get that. Please let that soak in. Love and (Manly) ('No Homo Bro') Hugs !

[@ellenrichardson8701]

@@JoshuaFluke1 Good guy you are 😄😃😀😍

[@Hifcrea]

Married at 20 mistake #1 Met her online mistake #2

[@mar.c1]

Dude didnt cut it off as soon as she said "I met someone else" which in other words means "I fucked someone else". Mistake #3

[@afiasheikh416]

@@mar.c1 at 20 you are supposed to make mistakes.. that's where the parents come in...

[@justmeandmy]

She dumped that guy in a heart beat for some strange. What makes you think she wont dump you in a hearbeat?

[@spiralviper8158]

@@mar.c1 Nice of her to be honest though. Most people would keep it a secret and avoid that being known

[@BlockchainDaddy]

That's some b.s.

[@VangaroZeon]

It's really crazy how similar our lives went around our same respective ages. Same deal...met online, moved to a new country...the stressful visa process...the starving after I was robbed...Just discovered you today and I really enjoy the content.

[@Judi-CA]

Josh, I saw your story. My first marriage was emotionally and verbally abusive like yours. When I started to seek healing through therapy and personal growth I learned that those type of relationships were good because it forces you to learn about your boundaries and stand up for them. I hope you find true love, not all people are like your ex so, don't shut out love! Best wishes, thank you for sharing.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Judi-CA1955,you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!

[@ale347baker]

I would Not call those relationships good at all....however, once you realize you are in one, I suppose the best thing to do is look at the positive like you mentioned. Live and learn.

[@bull.dog.]

What is love? Love is first and foremost RESPECT! 2nd is DUTY! These days women have no respect towards men and no sense of duty at all!

[@quinnrsligo]

He left The States a boy and returned a man

[@Ultrajamz]

itsmeruairi has he returned? Or still there?

[@cluelessstilo7695]

Ultra in the end of the video he states that he went back to utah and been back ever since

[@patriciastockdale197]

The Russian border?

[@TheGalacticEmperorOfLabels]

I left the UK for a Finnish girl and came back disturbed at the fact that a female would regard shitting on my *chest* as an act of 'love' - THAT'S how screwed up these people can be.

[@theStashSmash]

@@TheGalacticEmperorOfLabels what the hell...what the hell

[@Krakkokayne]

About the bro moment you had with your finnish friend, i really felt that. For most of my life I've ever only had one friend that I would vent to and he would always be willing to listen to me and offer help the best he could whenever things seemed to be going wrong, he was my best friend. I just lost him a few days ago and it's been the hardest thing to deal with these past few days. R.I.P.

[@Skychupie]

My goodness...you seem so sweet. This just sounds horrible. She was laughing at you when you're crying. I'm sorry but that's just a new level of evil.

[@edwardgeorge4881]

They're out there!👺

[@lynncarter4964]

Kind people attract narcissists. Don't change, but be careful. Always know the persons friends and family before committing. Observe how they treat them.

[@allualex2606]

This! This is so true.

[@coldcube]

This is the most underrated comment here.

[@franz3810]

this is so true!

[@sheezy2526]

It is also the cultural barriers which are hard to break. But one thing that seems constant even in countries where women are considered more independent is that they expect men to be the bread winner.

[@lynncarter4964]

Not expecting this is definitely better, but men lose testosterone if they fall in love, and then don't get to be the MAIN breadwinner. Feminism can actually mess w our hormones, believe it or not. John Gray teaches this, and I've noticed it's true. It's in our evolutionary genetics.

[@Raphael-vj3eq]

Anyone ANYONE thinking about online/long distance dating, needs to watch this. Send this to them before they do something they regret ! Trust me I been there and been in similar shoes

[@meghbalikamegh6909]

i just got out of a long distance relationship with someone i've known for a decade and was one of my closest friends, but only met faced-to-face 2x. I don't even need to think about what an absolutely worst decision it would've been if I actually went to his country and married him. Just by converting him from "best friend" to a partner, the 1.5 years of nights of crying myself to sleep and hearing countless personal insults, narrow-minded judgements,threats were truly an eye-opener. Once the 1st few moments of romance passes, it's really shocking to see people's true faces

[@aadityanair9981]

Jesus... I found this way too late ;-; I was in a long distance relationship last year and it ended abruptly... she justa stopped talking to be and blocked me everywhere. (won't go into detail) I was crushed for most of last year...

[@timsahkelebek5901]

Don't wanna be the negative guy but long distance relationships are dead from the very beginning in 99 times out of 100.

[@lancelotray]

Been in LDR for 3 and half years years... saved enough money to see her in 2nd year.. decided to break up because i seen enough red flags.. Best decision ive made..

[@timsahkelebek5901]

@@lancelotray God bless you for being courageous

[@Vroktar2009]

Marriage is an antiquated concept. Dont do it. It's not required to spend your life with someone.

[@IanBPPK]

I disagree, I think it's moreso that many cultures have lost what marriage really means and requires from the participants. There's more to it than the legal contract, it's a commitment to each other that requires some level of self sacrifice (but to a limit) in order to maintain the partnership, and not everyone is prepared for that level of commitment in this era.

[@hellokittydoll2794]

I just want to say the fact that you still graduated in Finland is WILD. You're obviously very dedicated and hard working. I am so sorry for all of the hardship and struggles you had to deal with during this time. I'm genuinely just assblown entirely that you made it through all of this. What happened to you would've broken me for sure. Proud of you man. Thanks for opening up and sharing your story. 😊

[@genericname1136]

Any father that doesn't teach their kids the truths of the red pill has failed their sons

[@split_jcgg9613]

Generic Name his father failed him big time

[@johnwigren4429]

My father was Red pill..He told me when I was in High School " If you get a girl pregnant you will screw up your life."

[@roggie77777]

@@johnwigren4429 TY adding to my Red Pill List for my Boys

[@None_of_your_business666]

So true. Im already teaching him all i can. Go red pill dads

[@phoqueewe7230]

@Generic Name Sometimes the student becomes the teacher and the son becomes the father. How many fathers didn't realize the redpill existed. If your father knew he would teach. If he was bluepill... If you redpill before your father, teach him. He's probably in hell and doesn't know how to get out. Manhood has forgotten to teach men for decades. Older, younger, father, brother. Once you wake up spread the word and have another mans back. The redpill awakening is a fucking nightmare at first. The redpill has been a work in progress since feminism first began. It took the internet and good men spreading the word in order for some men to even realize that they were in the bluepill fantasy. Fathers from the last decade got sucked into the process. That process was masked. The mask has been removed. Many men commit suicide that lose their way. True redpill helps other men wake up and find their path through the nightmare while adjusting to MGTOW. That includes your father. The truth is that even if he taught you as a younger idealistic man would not have believed him anyway until you were nearly destroyed bay a woman. So when you judge, just realize that the older generation has always tried to teach what they knew. The younger generations didn't truly realize the truth in it and apply that value until they experienced it.

[@sharksmate]

It hurts me every time I hear these stories about failed relationships, and especially failed marriages. Coming from a divorced family myself, I know first hand the impact that has on home life for the kids and parents themselves. I always aspired to have a marriage that wouldn't fail. I consider myself one of the luckiest men in the world for finding a good woman and married her after a few years of an amazing relationship. We had children a couple years later, and being a father has been one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life. I always had the itch to be a father and would imagine life with my children even before I was married. I attribute this to having a real loving father who did his best to provide for us and love us, teaching my sisters and I how to enjoy life. I will tell you that marriage is a huge change for anyone's life. Having children only makes it more challenging, but the reward is something I can't really describe in words. I feel it every time I walk through the door at home and I'm greeted by a little person who looks at me like I'm they're whole world with the most beautiful smile you've ever seen. I can only tell you that having a family gives me a sense of purpose that I don't think I would be able to find anywhere else on this earth. I've been at it over 10 years now and I continue to see that to be true. My thoughts and prayers truly go out to you and anyone else who is struggling in their relationships/marriages, those hurt by them, and those who struggle to find what I've been so fortunate to have. May you all find someone to love who will love you in return.

[@amazinglats6020]

Wow, you're a lucky man, don't take it for granted.

[@sharksmate]

@@amazinglats6020 I try to remind myself of how lucky I am every day, and it has definitely helped me when life throws shit my way.

[@amazinglats6020]

@@sharksmate She's lucky too, don't forget that.

[@vaquera9368]

Takes commitment. I went through a horrible divorce four years ago after being married 26 years. He divorced me to marry a woman he met online. He bifurcated the marriage in March 2016 and married her in June 2016. We have four children together who are in their early twenties now. It’s one of the worse experiences they and I have gone through. Marriage takes work. A good marriage doesn’t happen by osmosis. Both people make it work.

[@Jabulani926]

She was a narcissist... 100%

[@Matt-uy8tw]

I married a japanese girl at 21 divorced at 26. we met in college. I think when you're younger there is this sense of wonder, you don't know what is going to become of your future, especially in school. Dinners that used to be special treats are now mondaying. Unfortunately I was more comfortable than she was, she ended up cheating on me. I remember telling her "You are dead to me i promise you, you left me for a fling that won't last and that's on you" The worst part is she is dead to me. 6 years of being together that I pretend don't exist. The best part was I was on a mission to find a girl that matched me. I noticed i became much more assertive in finding a good quality match. 6 months into the divorce, i went on 5 dates and found an awesome match and i have with her for 4 years now, she has been way better for me.

[@iidesolateii2837]

Good luck man. Not all relationships are bad just be you and I hope it lasts

[@joeyken7791]

Talk about getting a second bite of the poisonous fruit.

[@Matt-uy8tw]

@Craig X yeah we are going really strong, there isn't any negative energy in my house. I understand if you don't have anything to offer a girl you will need much more time than me to move on. I learned my lessons. I wasn't going to tolerate constant fights that get blown out of proportion. Bad relationship have major red flags before hand, if you're experienced enough to notice them. To jump to conclusions about my relationship with your very little information about my life really shows a lack of intelligence on your part. Trash belongs with trash and i hope you find yours craig

[@user-ub8uc8gq7r]

That new girl will fuck you over. It’s female nature. Wake up bro. They’re all the same.

[@CourtneyMedinaEco]

Yeah, 100% emotionally abusive ex. That's what happened and never let anyone try to make you feel bad for telling your story. It's your truth, not theirs.

[@kallepikku4991]

Duuuudeh, that lady was cheating on you from the start. Trust me, I'm a Finn. :D This case is clear as day. All her angst and mental abuse towards you were just her way of rationalizing her own guilt by putting the blame on you; as well as a distancing technique to get you to break-up so she wouldn't be the "bad guy" in the relationship.

[@mistywindy]

There was this "other" guy she had xD

[@nathan2813]

Kalle Pikku > ...a distancing technique to get you to break-up so she wouldn't be the "bad guy" in the relationship. Wow, I thought that was a game only some American women played. It's interesting to learn some Finnish women play it, too. It almost seems as if they share ideas at international relationship conventions.

[@heyjude4485]

@@nathan2813 wtf lmao.

[@johncarloservanez4939]

wow i never knew that these things happen everywhere... i guess these these things happen regardless of ethnicity/nationality. kinda sad tho to think its a part of human nature i guess?

[@chandrashekhar.prabhu]

@@nathan2813 women across the globe have similar traits when it comes to blame game irrespective of nationality, race, religion, caste.

[@BrianKarmo]

You my friend were dealing with a pure covert narcissist, I as well am now seperated for over 18 months but rather her presenting a divorce paper, she caused me not to recieve my federal taxes and drained all my energy, as well as my resources, but i have two kids with that Jezzebelle(A.K.A. Jezzy)although i did love her, she as well was draining on my emotions. Just be glad and happy , we are are survivors.

[@fembot521]

Nothing cringe about being a good person and not a psychopath.

[@edithtierce8209]

Right? If she was normal and caring rather than a psycho, this would have ended completely different honestly. It’s only cringe because she was a B- - - -!

[@sheezy2526]

@@edithtierce8209 She wasn;t really a psycho and we don't know the other side of the story.

[@lukealadeen7836]

Its clingy and I used to be a nuce guy

[@GearZNet]

“I will not be friend zoned by my wife!” 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@benjisea]

GearZNet sad. Bad position to put himself into

[@APPi711]

MGTOW

[@SaraFJones]

Hannibal L yes, please go your own way and stay that way to spare people.

[@IronTeddyBear]

Unfortunately, as a divorced guy, it always comes down to this. Women lose interest in sex much sooner than men.

[@Gravitywalker20]

@@SaraFJones MGTOW is growing every year there, hoss. Plenty of "people to spare."

[@artistryartistry7239]

I swear to god this guy tells the best god damned stories. I can picture all of it in my head so well. I NEVER listen to anyone talk for this long, but there's just something so "listenable" about this guy. :)

[@delphiniapickett2934]

Yeah

[@yankeerose9011]

Yup, I'm going through this as we speak. I have 4 grown kids and 6 grandchildren. I moved on and am living my best life. Have faith, be strong and believe you deserve more than what they limit you too. Love from Myrtle Beach to all of you! 🏖❤

[@pollacksharman0147]

Hello... how're you doing hope you're safe due to the Covid 19 pandemic?

[@yankeerose9011]

@@pollacksharman0147 I'm doing absolutely fantastic! How about you?

[@pollacksharman0147]

@@yankeerose9011 I'm doing great where are you from if I may ask?

[@yankeerose9011]

@@pollacksharman0147 Myrtle Beach SC...you?

[@pollacksharman0147]

@@yankeerose9011 I’m originally from California born and raised in a small town Santa Barbara. I am a White. My mother ancestors came from Ireland and my dads are not traceable as he was adopted when his mother died at birth. I'm currently residing in Key west, Fl 🏝at the moment. I've been here for quite sometime

[@mentelatl]

"If you loose your job you will loose your women...The countdown is on!" -Chris Rock

[@heartpop22]

Lose

[@xFlared]

There are faithful women that will stand by your side no matter what. All you have to do is separate the skanky ones from the ones that were raised to be good and loyal. I'm speaking from experience. Don't give up.

[@chicobrutalguitar]

@@sodone466 you're right! Some men just refuse to learn about female nature. A woman will never truly love a man, but only what that man is able to do for her. Gentleman, cash and prizes is all a woman really wants from you.

[@caleb7475]

@@xFlared Bull shit. It's not in women's dna. Women can't stand with a man through a degree

[@oprah7]

@@chicobrutalguitar female nature? Aren't men 7x more likely to leave their partner when that partner gets disabled. Which sounds more shallow to you? Tell me.

[@vikumwijekoon3166]

This dude has gone through everything possible in human life. Why arent you like 70 already man?

[@kehindeemiabata4032]

If you think thats everything in life, you havnt lived.

[@poetaenlaluna]

He's making up a lot of stuff just so you know.

[@madambutterfly7513]

A lost love, is not going thru everything in life!! How old are you, 12????

[@starlight-jr3ge]

@@madambutterfly7513 if this were a woman speaking you would be saying‘you go girl!’

[@ayoiawe]

@@madambutterfly7513 are u new to the channel. The comment wasnt based on just this failed marriage video.

[@freedeworld]

Being an immigrant is tough. Be nice to your fellow immigrants. Cultural and educational difference, language barrier, separation from family and friends, long distance relationship, financial problems, lack of scholarship, immigration red tapes that make employment very difficult... Glad you are doing ok dude.

[@anaelisalopez8184]

I clicked on your video because of the title. A similar experience happened to me over 25 years ago. I am 50 now. I still think about my ex-husband to this day. The experience shaped me into who I am today and it certainly made me into a stronger person who knows what she wants out of life. The same for you - you are clearly stronger for having had that experience, and you know what you want and what you don’t want out of life. I really wish you the best! Thanks for sharing your story.

[@pollacksharman0147]

Hello how are you doing hope you're safe🙏😄😄

[@tommessig2060]

wow, that's some serious emotional abuse. good thing you bailed out of that scenario. that absolutely is abuse.

[@flynnzero9282]

I was married for 18 years and spent most of them incurring emotional abuse. I finally walked away. It wasn’t easy.

[@alysssalyn]

I drank a lot of water many nights when there was nothing to eat. Friends and family ask “You’re skin and bones. Eat a burger! Why don’t you eat?” ... I had no food or money for food. (Things are much better now) So sorry to hear this story but we grow. Hope you’re much happier now with that knowledge. I wasted 7 years on someone in my younger years, left him seven years ago actually. What a story. Thank you for sharing so others know they are not alone.

[@GoldKingsMan]

Were you in Finland?

[@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457]

its not a waste, you were meant to go through that, as part of your growth, so never say it was wasted.

[@paulgoogol2652]

@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 After you have went through lots of shit in your life, say that again. Will you be grateful for being a miserable person, probably poor with poor mental and or physical health waiting for it all to end? Maybe if you want to look forward to the end.

[@i.rankin6711]

@@GoldKingsMan That can happen to you in any country...

[@RD-ms9gn]

I also wasted 3 yrs in a relationship. I like watching his videos.

[@willard39]

Emotional abuse is a toughie. You almost never realize you're being abused until after it's over and you've had time to see what it's like without it. I know that after my marriage ended I was terrified (well, that was mostly because she walked and left me with 3 kids aged 9, 5, and 4 and I had no idea how I was going to manage that). It took only a few months (busy months due to the logistics of single parenting) to realize what had been happening to me over the course of a 13 year relationship, 10 married. It's a welcome relief when you embrace the fact that you never have to do it again. Good for you, man. I'm glad you're doing better now! I agree on the marriage front, but my kids have been the most rewarding thing I've ever done.

[@sf.9731]

This story its called: married a stranger...which i did too😆

[@samshadbibi7412]

😁

[@Hawaiiansky11]

There used to be a TV program, I think on TruTV titled "Who the *bleep* did I marry?" and had very harrowing accounts of how honestly some people just 'change' (a/k/a take off their masks and stage makeup) after you commit to them.

[@sf.9731]

@@Hawaiiansky11 sounds fun😂 i'll look it up.

[@ew6392]

I made my 14 y.o. watch this. This your story is not less (and maybe more) educational than coding.

[@KiraPlaysGuitar]

Good age, too. For real.

[@KiraPlaysGuitar]

@@O_Canada Me or Anita?

[@stephanieleon5970]

Great idea, mom! I might do the same with my 14 and 15 yr olds. This is the exact age that they really start being interested in girls and having the opportunity to actually date, and then get married when they're 18, lol.

[@FeelingShred]

Finally a responsible mother that actually prepares her kid for the world. Jealous.

[@cyberlord64]

"here! Watch this video on youtube and learn about life" Parenting 101

[@cbase06]

This story is incredibly sad From your perspective. I hope you will Give marriage another try. Sounded like you didn’t receive much support from your side of the family either. That’s tough bro

[@lulululu28383]

She never was your friend, that's not how you talk to a friend who is struggling let alone if they're actually trying to pull their own weight.

[@Hawaiiansky11]

Very true. This is where so many people (myself included at times) make such a horrible mistake by getting sexually intimate too quickly. The hormones, oxytocin et. al. literally blind you to reality. You should always start out as friends first. And, [note to self, ahem!] take the sex very slowly. Give it several months, even. That's how you truly get to know someone. Anyone can get naked with anyone else. But that's a false intimacy. Real intimacy is getting to know someone else's mind and heart.

[@Spectraevil]

Your mother in law seems like an amazing person.