I’m Living With My Husband and His Girlfriend

[@thorneto2742]

Me after only reading the title and thumbnail: yes

[@fauxbro1983]

Could be a sweet setup for the husband if you know what I mean

[@thorneto2742]

@@fauxbro1983 honestly I think the husband, wife, girlfriend and son all lose in this situation

[@brenttrotter88]

You must be a psychologist too haha!

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@thorneto2742 yeah I don’t think any one is winning here, unfortunately.

[@RealAnimeBadGuy]

Yes

[@Meems-p7o]

She doesn’t want him to move on. She wants him to want her and he doesn’t. Move on.

[@adamchavez999]

Well she left him because she wasn't being cherished,and now he doesn't want her.

[@Lietotajvards9]

​​@@adamchavez999If she wasnt cherished that means he never loved nor wanted her

[@ThomasDavis-e4g]

I have two thoughts on this issue: 1) Yes. She is a fool. 2) She is only there because her husband doesn't want her. The moment her husband starts to want her she'll be asking her boyfriend to move in AND DEMAND that her husband accept those terms.

[@sunflowerrayne6026]

No she has low self esteem, she dosent believe anyone could ever want her, ​@ThomasDavis-e4g

[@RPMcMurphy33]

I’m so glad Dr. John called Jen out for not having a backbone. She needed to hear that. It’s not her fault she went back to Australia to find her husband lied about having a live-in girlfriend and made their son keep his secret, but the fact that she can’t see that he’s clearly moved on and doesn’t want her anymore is maddening. I wish Jen healing and strength to move on.

[@ugabuga1361]

guy cheating and girl cheating is different. huh???? why???... it takes charisma, swagger, skill, charm, money, overall hard work to get to have multiple girls as a guy. aka a challenge. for a girl, it takes nothing. you could have no money, no brains, no skills and have multiple boyfriends. aka easy. that's why it's not respected. guys are hoemakers, girls who bang multiple dudes are hoes. every successful man has multiple girls. why because 99% of men are broke ass losers who are lucky to even have 1 girl. guys like dave ramsey, who are millionaires and don't cheat are very rare. just like how guys with money are rare. be honest with yourself. if your guy watches porn... he is cheating on you. its just that he is a wimp and knows he cant get multiple girls... truth hurts but its the truth. every guy doesn't want to bang the same girl for the rest of their lives. when a guy sees an attractive women in 1.2 seconds we picture them naked. any guys who says different is a liar. guys cheat for sex... girls cheat to replace...

[@terriesmith2616]

Her husband already left, he doesn't want her anymore, yet she still clings to him. She's the problem. Whatever she's willing to tolerate is what she'll get from her husband. Dr. John is right when he says it's not about the husband but it's about her. She doesn't respect herself.

[@ihnmefgfu16428]

They say grief has some stages and denial is the first one. She will get there but it will be a painful journey.

[@nly4607]

@@terriesmith2616 maybe this situation is the best she can get....guys aren't exactly lining up to date post menopausal women ha

[@dearbrave4183]

​​​​​​​@@nly4607 that is if she thinks it's better to be in bad company than alone. That would be the highest form of insecurity and self hatred. Women of all people should embrace being by themselves because they outlive men in general and the married ones usually bury their husbands. And even when it comes to happiness really. I have seen women who have gone to therapy and made peace with themselves and were able to find their purpose in life way happier than married women. Which is also why although married men outlive single men , single women outlive married women. There's a lot of stress and frustration for women that comes with relationships. This is not to advocate against marriage for women but it's just my observations. And finally, if she's interested in a new relationship, since a person gets to pick only one person unless they want polygamy, her not having a lot of men line up for her shouldn't be a problem at all. And unless she really loves herself and becomes objective in her reasoning and stops defining her value based on men, which to be honest is the wrong reasoning. When it comes to nature, women are more valuable. Life could go on with a few men, but it can't go on with a few women. Where there's scarcity of women life ends. And this alone should be enough to end her desperation and distorted view of herself. Until then, the new man she gets will be just as narcissistic as her ex. Who didn't even have the decency to breakup and end it , but chose to lie and worse drag their son into it. Because narcissists are attracted to women like her who neither know themselves, their purpose nor understand their power and privilege of being born a woman on this planet.

[@Righhhhhtttt]

In the word of my late granny “never let someone tell you that they don’t want you more than once.” This is sad, I hope she finds happiness ❤

[@SuperAlma666]

18 months is a long time, she let him go he moved on and we don’t know what she was doing the past 18 months maybe she found out men are not interested in a older woman. How about she cherishes herself if she feels he wasn’t living up to her expectations.

[@goose4284]

My former wife after I caught her cheating, removed her from the home and filed for divorce, came to me with a request. She wanted to date me the husband and her boyfriend to see whom she wanted to be with. I went this is easy for me, you are his, see you in court!!!

[@goose4284]

Her marriage to him lasted less then 3 yrs. He cleaned her out. She has never recover now 14 yrs later. karma exists!!!

[@jordanferguson2254]

Do you mean she's getting karma for not recovering or moving on earlier? Or getting into that relationship with him?

[@roboticski]

@@jordanferguson2254 CHEATING

[@toscadonna]

@@goose4284 That’s hilarious how she got what she deserved.😂 Cheaters are so selfish. She knew the other guy wasn’t gonna work out, or she’d never asked to “date” you both.😂Idiot!

[@jordanferguson2254]

​@@roboticski Oh lol, sorry, I thought that wasn't a continuation of the first comment but was referring to the woman in this video. Eheh, I'm gonna get some sleep.

[@larissaalcorn3406]

This is why good quality friends come in to play. They'd snap her out of this crap in a second. He's made it ABUNDANTLY clear he doesn't want to stay married. He just doesn't want to be the one to initiate it. She just doesn't want to see it.

[@morena012]

Amen!

[@mahamehanna9826]

If you don’t know your own value, somebody will tell you your value, and it’ll be less than you’re worth. Know your worth. You must find the courage to leave the table if respect is no longer being served.

[@clabeauxdave8709]

I think she does know her own value, and it's pretty darn low.

[@RepublicTeaRoom]

Variation of the quote stated by Nina Simone...👍🏾🤗

[@amyjade788]

needed this 10 years and 15 mistresses ago. But it's all good because I finally figured out my worth and left him. Divorced last month!

[@ThomasDavis-e4g]

Poetry! I'm writing this one down!

[@NorthernRealmJackal]

While it's _certainly_ applicable here, I'd definitely be cautious with throwing around that advice. Consider how strong a wave of self-absorption we're seeing in the Anglosphere, especially among young adults. It's a sentiment of "Me me me", and "everyone who doesn't treat me right (i.e. wants me to compromise), is toxic and disposable." Idk, maybe I'm too pessimistic.. I just feel like we already have an entire generation who "knows their worth" but can't assess the worth of others on anything but a superficial level..

[@sailorsallyrockinrarity2130]

I agree with a lot of the comments about Jen needing to move on. But no one has brought up that part of the reason why she hasn't is because he never filed or had the gumption to tell her that they need a divorce. Why is he still holding onto the marriage while having a girlfriend? Why is the girlfriend OK with being with a man who won't divorce his wife? Nobody in this situation has a backbone.

[@blueseptember2174]

Alot of men will cheat all day and make the wife file because they will never do it

[@terriesmith2616]

Why should Jen wait for her husband to file for divorce? He clearly has no problem with staying married while having a new live-in girlfriend in the same house, so we already know he's okay with the situation. The question is, why won't Jen file for divorce herself, why does she have to wait for him to do it? It involves her life. She clearly has a problem with him having a new girlfriend, why isn't she taking the initiative? Why wait for him when he clearly sees nothing wrong with the status quo.

[@dearbrave4183]

If he can lie , you think he would mind holding on to the benefits of marriage on paper while living with a woman of his choice? It also helps his ego to know that he will never really be alone.

[@neisci]

Jen is the who needs to do, what she needs to do to free herself and move on with her life(he already has); had he been the one calling the comments be assessing his behavior.

[@oncetwice5942]

The whole situation is messy asf

[@revdavidpeters]

When a breakup is completely mutual and apathetic, why would you ever try it again? It just never works without passion

[@TK-fm5ud]

I would have liked to hear more on why she moved back. “The universe told me so” is a cop-out. I think she tried to survive on her own and felt that she couldn’t.

[@FahadKhan-sn8lq]

That’s obviously what happened but she wont admit that

[@racer89gt]

That or she tried with someone else and it didn’t pan out.

[@sitcomchristian6886]

Very cringeworthy coming from a woman her age

[@alyciamarie4163]

Or she found out about the other woman and had quick realization that she was okay when she thought he was sitting at home doing nothing!

[@GrannyDi276]

Her son? He should be the most important person to her now....❤

[@lovette7684]

John: why are you telling her to ask for what she needs when he has already moved another woman in their shared home? He has clearly made a decision that he doesn't want to meet her needs.

[@starlingswallow]

Her husband made it very clear~ she asked him if he wanted to reconcile and he straight up said "no". Jen, spend some time working on your self worth and self esteem, wave goodbye and go live your life! He doesn't cherish you and you deserve to be cherished! ♥️💕

[@citrustaco]

She did spend time working on self worth. They have a son together and it was worth it to her to move back to Australia after leaving for her son. They are separated, so yes he's moved on after she fled the country. What else was he supposed to do? Sit there and hope she moves back? If a man left a woman, left to go back to his home continent, should she just sit there, not move on with her life waiting for him to come back? No. After moving back, she didn't come prepared with enough money to live on her own, so he offered a room to stay while he lives with his new girlfriend. He didn't have to do that -- he could have just said no and she'd have nowhere to go.

[@strnglhld]

@@citrustaco She doesn’t have to live with them in the same house. That’s bizarre. Absent a custody order, she could take their son back home and move on.

[@EadsB7002]

@@strnglhld exactly!

[@bethkelsey1]

My first husband let me know he didn’t want me within days after the wedding He was a completely different person once he wasn’t in pursuit. I stayed, basically begging him to love me and want me for 23 years. I was stupid, stupid, stupid. I ruined my life. At first notice, run!

[@Logistics_Sandar]

Whooof… That tough… 23 years though?

[@bethkelsey1]

@@Logistics_Sandar Never blame the victim of abuse. I work with abuse victims, and the conditioning is not unlike cult conditioning. Walk a mile before even thinking about judging.

[@Logistics_Sandar]

@@bethkelsey1 You're right.... I will say this. If love is blind, then abusers use our blindness to continue their abuse.... In general, I hope you to find guidance and love, and sometimes it's the pursuit of it that matters more. Don't give up on finding Happiness

[@marilyntill9507]

23yrs. in 😢. He took house all the money! 💰 Through me out like a broken toaster. Ran from the law. Law win! 😊

[@bethkelsey1]

Absolutely!

[@lilsamantha1]

Oh man. the heartbrake. when a man no longer loves you and having to accept that. Its awful. But she has to move on.

[@Mrs.TJTaylor]

I always wonder about that. I can’t love a person who doesn’t love me. It doesn’t make sense. Moving on is easy, maybe a little startling at first, but heartbreak? No. Heartbreak is when the person whom you cherish and who cherishes you, dies.

[@lilsamantha1]

I dont think u understood what I wrote

[@Dhuxul9]

@@Mrs.TJTaylor that is not how love works! It is not as easy as just moving God some people act like they have special powers that protect them from feeling hurt.

[@AM-xe4iq]

It’s a favor actually

[@lilsamantha1]

@@AM-xe4iq damn right

[@theluckienurse]

After only a couple of months of being separated, this man moved another woman into their home… While their teenage son was living with him. No one deserves that.

[@maril1379]

Leave

[@tonyarmoore894]

Maybe I'm confused, but didn't she say she moved to North America? For all intense & purposes, she was gone. She found out how hard it was to do this life alone and felt the pain. Remember, she left her son there in Australia. She thought she could do better. Probably, listening to the delusion of other women.

[@ansingh6919]

So right. He probably didn't really care about her in the first place. Too me this feels like It was all fake from the get go. I feel bad for her. Her husband just jumped to the next person around. This is so sad. Hope she sees him for who he is & is brave enough to face this.

[@adnanorochi3761]

​@@tonyarmoore894the reason itself is weird, she can handle that better to teach him indirectly about what she wants... Men change over time! Making trips together and lots of experience, she could arrange that for them, those stuff could help make them much closer to each other if not on a calm night asking him about it... A lot of things could happen differently, anyways I hope the best for them.

[@Jonglohn]

Deserves what…?

[@9liveslisa]

Complications don't just happen. People create them and keep them going.

[@Megan6772]

"entanglements" 😆

[@MsMak03]

That part

[@jenkinsamanda9]

Let’s talk about the fact that her husband had a girlfriend living with him and their son only after 3 months of separation. Then she’s afraid to confront him. She already knows the answer that the relation isn’t working and she’s afraid to confront it

[@oncetwice5942]

Most of all she’s afraid of being alone. I don’t understand why she would even bother staying with a guy that clearly doesn’t care about her.

[@BillDaBurgerEater]

A commenter avoiding self understanding, just like the caller, lol

[@sodvine3486]

He has MONEY

[@hkburrows]

14 months. They've been separated for 18 months and she said he met his gf 4 months ago.

[@brightpage1020]

💯

[@terriesmith2616]

Jen: "I have never felt cherished by this man but I'm going to continue to stay with him anyway, even though he's already living with a new girlfriend, I'm still gonna stay with him because I don't respect myself and I have low self esteem". Jen is the one drinking poison but expects her husband to feel it.

[@nly4607]

We don't know her situation lol. Maybe this is the best she can do? It isn't like guys are lining up to commit to post menopausal single moms with emotional baggage....

[@dearbrave4183]

​​​@@nly4607 Seems like you're spreading manosphere generic thinking under every comment. Are you allowed to be here? Isn't Dr Delony not supposed to be your cup of tea because he doesn't tell women that if they are not a 10 they should expect less, like your gurus? Also, it's impressive how you have moved the goal post. First it used to be women after 25 ,who according to you were too old, had zero opportunities to get married and could only become cat ladies. But then it turned out that most marriages for both the mainstream and regular women happen after 25. Even Mikhaila who got dragged because of her divorce and single motherhood, remarried, to your disappointment. Now, you're after pre menopausal women with the same generic remarks. How about instead of focusing on women's problems which are minute in comparison to men's problem, you get your priorities right? Worry about men corruption in politics, high rates of suicide, etc. Do something for other men instead of fixating on whether she gets her next husband. Must she have another man to be happy? If your concept of happiness implies a romantic relationship at all cost, then you shouldn't be giving advice.

[@1981lashlarue]

@@nly4607 If that's the best she can do, she's better off alone. No matter what the options are, there has to be somebody out there better than that.

[@gailainsley6939]

@@nly4607 Oh please. There is definitely someone out there for her. Let’s quit acting like men have some super high standards. I’ve seen most of their wives. Yes. She will do fine😂😴

[@nly4607]

@Gail Ainsley the fastest growing demographic of homeless is women precisely because of this attitude lol

[@vjs4539]

Lady. It's over.

[@Auntee-Sara]

The pandemic began 3 years ago and this was posted an hour ago so this woman has been living this for a long time!!! Hubby isn't going to suffer over her and she wants him to bleed, it's over Jen and was a long time ago.

[@kekejefferson9219]

I rather live under a bridge than stay with an ex.

[@FreeSpirit47]

I feel the same way. The ex married a wealthy woman. She has money, that's the one benefit. When he and I were married, sex was never a problem, usually 10X + per week. Six months after he married her, he realized that she didn't like sex. 6 years later, he maybe gets it twice per year. He complained to me about it! As if I was supposed to "help" him! I gave him a golden response. "If you want to treat me like a prostitute, you'll have to pay me like one. One kiss, lasting 5 seconds starts at $500. One night of sex will cost you $20K." He never complained to me about it again.

[@AnnaNicoleVinopal]

Yea, I’ve slept under a bridge and after that I’d rather stay with the ex. 😅

[@ishalocke1123]

It's time, Jen. You both won't be able to heal until you move on. I like how Dr. Delony reminded you to treat yourself with kindness and dignity, and how you want to treat everyone in the rest of the situation. For your kid, it's time to respect boundaries and take ownership of the current state of affairs.

[@nly4607]

Or she could just be realistic and admit this is the best she can do and be a family again Multiple wives was the norm for men of means and it is ridiculous to expect them to suddenly change

[@thorneto2742]

@@nly4607 The best she can do? She would be better off on her own. Multiple wives has not been the norm for longer than any of us have been alive, don't go justifying this nonsense lol

[@reginasemenenko148]

@@nly4607 What? Multiple wives are the norm? That's crazy!

[@nly4607]

@Regina Semenenko not multiple wives but side pieces and half siblings nobody knew from the next town over were very common before social media

[@ntmn8444]

My goodness. So many people doing the wrong things in life. This poor woman. My heart goes out to her. She has a good reason to move out and divorce.

[@ugabuga1361]

she knew he wanted multiple girls. just like 99% of guys want multiple girls. just everyone is broke so they stick with the one girl. if you are a guy with money aka (very rare) why not have multiple girls? girls always think their vag is so special, its not..

[@oncetwice5942]

“I never felt cherished by this man.” Yeah, she needs to divorce him.

[@jeradkiester698]

Only women and children expect unconditional love.

[@nly4607]

Any post menopausal woman who divorces her husband expecting to do better is by definition delusional

[@oncetwice5942]

@@nly4607 Divorcing him is better than staying in a marriage where she isn’t cherished.

[@oncetwice5942]

@@jeradkiester698 Love is supposed to be unconditional, not conditional and for men as well. In her case, it’s not reciprocated.

[@dearbrave4183]

​@@nly4607 Any person who believes a post menopausal woman divorcing her husband can't do better is delusional.

[@Drumbeat52]

I've been through some messy situations but the choices were clear to me. I hear this and cannot believe that she even stayed one day! This is a carnival show and beyond belief. People amaze me.

[@ugabuga1361]

when woman cheat it comes from evil, they are replacing you. when a guy cheats it comes from happiness. just sex, not making love. girls think sex as making love. actually a good trait so they don't bang other dudes and mess up their sugar walls. while we can bang other girls and nothing happens... unless she got diseases. then that's a different story. should of wore a condom or passed on that one.

[@mpumiontheweb514]

Absolutely bonkers!

[@ST-rj8iu]

Totally agree. It sounds like she walked away but wasn't ready. She gave ultimatums and he called her bluff. Never bluff with a relationship unless you are clear on all possible outcomes. He is not going to change and maybe he shouldn't have to....

[@EadsB7002]

the lack of self respect some people have is astounding to me as well!

[@EadsB7002]

it's the lack of self-respect and "pick-me" mentality for me... He's moved on with his life (clearly) and it's time for you to do the same!

[@AshleyLebedev]

Kay, when a man says he won’t change you don’t play the game back. You just say this isn’t right in my soul and I love myself enough to pack my bag and figure it out. If you did that for a hard 6-10 months you’d see the other side of all of this. Don’t look back, you’re not going that way,

[@duvessa2003]

Good advice 🌺

[@ashleyb1091]

This woman is DELUSIONAL, there is nothing to address, you are not together

[@misse7095]

Tough call to listen to. Very frustrating.

[@ChildOfTheOneTrueAlmightyGod]

Sorry, but you are MARRIED until you are not. He is still her husband, even though he's a cheating numb nuts who should be held accountable for doing this to his family. Get a job, get a place, get your child, get alimony, and child support. Then, get your child and yourself counseling and therapy! Ho to Jesus most of all

[@bisi1980]

It is over and she is doing whatever she can to drag the fake relationship

[@nytheprincess]

Staying in this situation is emotional self harm.

[@FreedominLove711]

Yes

[@brightpage1020]

💯

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

The separation put your relationship to the test. He moved on . You have your answer .In the long run it’s all for the best . Let go , let each other move forward . Our loved ones are our biggest messengers . For better or worse Embrace the pain and use it to help you grow ❤ amen

[@howtopopo7118]

She needs to move out yesterday.

[@ryand7713]

And go back to NA.

[@hkburrows]

There seems to be a huge disconnect here, in what she's actually saying, and the advice given. She never once said that her husband actually wanted her back, in fact she said that he didn't want to try again, and when she went back, the agreement was that she could stay with him until she was on her feet, implying that when she's got a job and money, he wanted her out. It sounds like they separated, she left the country (and her son), then unilaterally decided that she was going back, and forced herself back into the house. She needed to be told the truth, that her marriage is over, and to move on.

[@ph3266]

@carlymartin7041exactly 💯

[@MiamiChica]

How low does one’s self esteem have to be to ask this. I hope she finds a healthier relationship. Best of luck.

[@Sonder0077]

When my ex and I split, and he had his girlfriend move in, after a few weeks he asked me to move in with them. I said hell no!!! So glad I didn't, so so glad!!

[@noreenramsammy8385]

husband wanted a threesome😅😅😅😅😅

[@charlesbell5500]

He just wanted threesomes! 🤣🤣🤣

[@KhassiaK]

@Sonder0077 He didn't want a marriage. He wanted a harem! 🤮

[@ayo_k32]

The relationship been over she’s just attached to him in a toxic way

[@jshepard152]

Yet he must have $omething going for him that these women want. I wonder what it could be!

[@standground7956]

Some women love toxic relationships filled with chaos. That’s why many of them consider decent men who treat them very well as boring.

[@ayo_k32]

@@standground7956 Could never be me. How embarrassing. They need to learn some self respect.

[@angryox3102]

She moved to an entirely different continent and left her son for 18 months. How can she be surprised that her husband found a girlfriend?

[@roboticski]

Women

[@roboticski]

Remember she left because she doesn't feel "cherished".

[@anndeecosita3586]

A girlfriend isn’t surprising but having a live in gf he kept secret when they have a son is disrespectful. She has a right to know about this.

[@angryox3102]

@@anndeecosita3586 she abandoned her husband and her son, that’s disrespectful to both of them. She can’t be offended by anything.

[@DivineDissident]

@@angryox3102a mutual decision to separate is not abandonment

[@DavidWilliams-vc2ms]

This man told this woman he didn't want her anymore. She went back anyways. I blame her. He was honest with her. He had another girl in the house for crying out loud.

[@gooserich3970]

Exactly

[@terriesmith2616]

Yup. She was willing to settle for scraps from him and scraps is what she got.

[@gooserich3970]

I told my girlfriend when we first started dating….if you catch me cheating it’s over we are not going to try and make it work

[@DavidWilliams-vc2ms]

@gooserich3970 I'm a married man and I told my wife the same thing. Once I cheat it's over. I'm not going to try to lie, go to counseling etc. It's over

[@roboticski]

@@gooserich3970 lol hope she told you the same thing!

[@carolflower8015]

I had a date with a man once - I was very interested in him until he told me his wife had moved her much younger boyfriend (she had groomed him as his teacher) into their home and he was relegated to the couch- he'd finally given up trying to win her back and moved out - I couldn't get away fast enough - I thought later I should have advised the poor guy NEVER to repeat that story to another woman - utterly sick-making!!

[@starrjohnson1327]

That's wild! He definitely shouldn't be dating. He needs to call the show lol

[@adnanorochi3761]

If you are interested in him, then you should know about him.. about his back story.. but I'm against it throwing everything on the table he could just say " I've been married to someone and it didn't work out " Then it's up to you if you want to know "why".

[@KhassiaK]

@carolflower8015 Yuck! 🤮 He was trying to use you as a revenge rebound. RUN!!! 🏃‍♀️💨

[@Richie-xr7zb]

She’s afraid of being alone. She knows her husband will find someone. Ego is powerful

[@kodiekulp]

Anytime I've ever seen an actual interview of a polyamorous relationship ( I think that's what it's called) there is always one person getting the crap end of the deal. And that person fluctuates from day to day. But in a 3-person relationship someone is going to feel left out no matter how you cut it. Watch any KZbin video where they interview a couple that's in a three-way relationship. You will be able to spot the person who is not having the good time 😂

[@jshepard152]

That ignores the simple power dynamic. He's earning a lot of money and she's not. She needs him but he doesn't need her. So he can move a girlfriend in and get away with it. What's she going to do, leave? He doesn't care.

[@kodiekulp]

@@jshepard152 I've got to be honest with you. I didn't even finish the call. I meant to. But I forgot 😂😆

[@kodiekulp]

And I meant to put it fluctuates sometimes week-to-week or month-to-month. The point b is that it fluctuates.

[@oncetwice5942]

That is exactly why I don’t do poly relationships.

[@ralegade7710]

I could already tell she was foolish when she said she willingly moved to Australia, one of the worst countries during the pandemic.

[@terriesmith2616]

Australia is literally one step away from being exactly like China. Their government is so oppressive. How they handled the pandemic was proof of how authoritarian their government is.

[@searlepage4655]

Where she moved to Western Australia had complete lockdown from the rest of Australia and next to no cases. The worst was over 3,000 kms away.

[@plousia]

Yup, and she had to have had the you know what to travel there

[@ThePolypam]

Do you not understand math? She'd lived in Australia for years and years before Vivid. That aside, she's a super clingy weirdo .

[@mle011]

Jenn. Of all the men in the entire world, THIS is the one you want to be with? Come on now. Have an ounce of self-respect.

[@roboticski]

They love the bad ones!

[@jshepard152]

He's wealthy. lol

[@Wintersnow889]

U have to pack up ur things love. Yesterday. But im not one to tlk i have to pack up myself

[@marciabernard3820]

Woman must have r own. Work on r self before needing a man

[@Newlaw289]

Separation for that guy was a hallpass for that guy 😂

[@jessicaparker374]

"We were on a break!!!!!"

[@Girlgonewise]

What are you taking about John? He doesn’t want her back. He said he want to help her get a place and get back on her feet.

[@melanieb2132]

That's true. She said it herself.

[@charlesbell5500]

Sometimes John's an idiot because of his personal rule of never telling people to get a divorce, which is a stupid rule. There should be some episodes where he's like, "forget all this, you gotta leave now, end of story."

[@Girlgonewise]

@@charlesbell5500 John has no problem telling women to leave their husbands. When the shoes is on the other foot, he will he’ll tell the man to “man up”

[@charlesbell5500]

@@Girlgonewise He does favor women for sure, but he never really tells anyone explicitly to get a divorce. I've heard him recommend a man to leave without really saying it. But yeah, he's definitely biased toward women.

[@laserbeam-fx9qv]

For all intended purposes they were divorced, she had even moved back to the USA from Australia. Then she is surprised that her husband had a girlfriend? To me her husband has already moved on, why she can't move on herself is mind blowing. Her husband has already expressed that he has no interest in restoring the marriage.

[@jshepard152]

"Intents and purposes" is the phrase you're trying for.

[@anndeecosita3586]

To me it’s not him having a gf but that he moved another woman in with their son without telling her about it. He obviously doesn’t respect her. Ray Charles could see that.

[@franziskani]

Well, he did not move on in the legal sense, he could have filed for divorce and make a clean cut. Then it would not have been necessary to make the SON an accomplice (he moved in his gf and the son was told not to tell the mother, when she called).

[@VeraEcht-pj3pj]

„You are making him hate you by not setting boundaries“. Wow. Exactly what I needed to hear to understand what I am doing myself. 😳 He has started to see me as a nagging wife because I was too much of a coward to stand up for myself and leave him as he is not interested in my boundaries and wont move his not even for an inch

[@lav7161]

She's creating her own truth in order to protect herself from taking responsibility in all the mess she got herself in. Unfortunately, it sounds like she still has hope to make it work. If she stays, it's going to be a sad reality check.

[@catcoffee7958]

Some don't want to see its over

[@terriesmith2616]

Some love to live in delusions. The fact that she continues to stay knowing all of this about her husband says a lot about her. Low self esteem and zero self love.

[@kcourtney6826]

She needs to move on because he definitely has.

[@chilloften]

I’d be so sick I’d leave.

[@mittu1814]

his podcast makes sense! like it really helps my relationship and it’s quite refreshing, Marriage is very important. While growing up i thought marriage was for looks. nope , it’s a journey through becoming one.

[@AC-qo8oq]

Marriage can be beautiful and you help each other become the best of you. You grow up together and help the other one fill the gaps. You are a team. There’s now two of you against all problems. It’s so beautiful if you nurture it. It’s a life long journey.. 12 years now together..

[@Richie-xr7zb]

Move on!!! He’s done! I know it hurts but you’re the only one holding on. You are torching yourself

[@CarnivoreStork]

He said he did NOT want to get back together. Why does John think they should be ‘All in’? He still has a new girlfriend even after the GF moved out. 🙄 Move on with your life Jenn, from that Dead marriage.

[@Jrobidy2]

Just because he’s sleeping with you doesn’t mean he’s invested or connected….

[@araydog]

It’s unbelievable how there are soooo many people who have zero self love or self respect

[@Andrzej451]

5:40 "where you clear on the getting back plan?" No, she wasn't. The man clearly said, he doesn't want her back. From the kindness of his heart, he gave her time and resources to fix her life and prepare to the divorce. But there was no getting back plan, because there was no getting back.

[@charlesbell5500]

It wasn't from the kindness of his heart, he just wanted threesomes.

[@franziskani]

Actually not only his kindness. He could not be bothered to file for divorce all this time, and spouses owe each other support. If she has not a job yet he will have to support her for a while.

[@alexxis2928]

I remember many many times begging my sons father to love me so we can be a family. It’s sooo hard to admit to yourself someone doesn’t love you anymore and to let go

[@LazygirlLA892]

This is why I could never let a man take me away from my home. My last relationship was long distance, I would have loved to go live with him in his country. But my job is here, my family is here. You go live with a man in his country and you give him full control. End up with a kid? Now you’re really stuck.

[@afhyoutube]

Aussies are wild.

[@kathybradt2874]

"I dont want him to be mad at me" ugh that hit my gut so hard, ive been there.

[@SomeOne-yv8jf]

Never get into international relationships if you are not 100% sure of the love. It is not worth it!

[@johnwilliams-ye2uc]

If you disrespect yourself and don't love yourself how do you expect others to respect and love you. RESPECT YOURSELF!!!!

[@racer89gt]

Wait- you leave him alone with your son, run away to another country, then get upset when he moves on and find someone else. Any now you’re mad at him?

[@jcherestal]

Her son is getting a crash course lesson how to make bad desicions

[@Nah-ah]

I haven’t listened to this yet but the answer is yes! 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@charlesbell5500]

If Andrew Tate wanted to marry you, you'd happily move into one of his homes with the rest of his women.

[@sarazink2237]

Bless her heart she definitely doesn’t deserve this.

[@jordanbutters844]

Buckle up because this is a bumpy ride of a story to listen to.

[@StevenLaneyGuitar]

She’ll be right, mate, she’ll be right Just remember you’re not an Aussie and you’re gonna give up the fight When your back’s to the wall, say “To Hell with it all” each morning, noon and night She’ll be right, mate, she’ll be right

[@myyt3824]

Me after reading the title and thumbnail…… YES. TF IS WRONG WITH YOU.

[@terriesmith2616]

LMAO 😂🤣

[@jennyberger6688]

Cup of coffee 😅

[@user-ye9yt2mv2n]

He’s not a serial cheater, they’re separated. He said he doesn’t want to get back with her, he let her move back more than likely for the kid. But he immediately told you he’s not going to change and has a girlfriend.

[@aflawedperfection]

“I don’t want him to be mad at me” * Husband continues to live w/ her and his girlfriend *

[@drfattie]

Wow she needs to dump him and learn how to love herself again. I feel terrible for her.

[@davemustachio2734]

I stayed friends with an ex of mine. Fast forward years later and I went to work on a house that she was renting and she was dating a guy and she got talking to me about her situation and she said that her boyfriend moved another woman in while living there and she had to sleep on the couch. Mind you she was the one on the lease not him. I said wow this guy is a real a$&hole. That is some bad juju there. A month later she called me crying and told me died. Turns out he was electrocuted and killed at work. I felt bad for saying bad juju.

[@charlesbell5500]

How does the story end? You move in with the 2 girls to take his place? 😄

[@gigiwoodlawn2142]

I don't think he'll be mad at her. He's indifferent. Girl, you already left him once and gave him a hall pass.

[@shola7987]

This is what a friend would wanna say but can't because people can't handle honesty. John gave her the business.

[@sparkles999rose2]

I like how he said dishes over flowers ❤

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

John, you did great with this call. Very cool to see you work in live time (or on the spot like this). Heaps thanks!

[@MissteriousMisstress]

I lived with an ex and his gf once... the reason it didnt bother us is cause we were never in love- loved each other as friends- not in love. This is not the same situation.

[@markthompson180]

They broke up and she returned but he never wanted her back. She thinks they resumed their relationship, but he's wondering why she came back because their relationship is over. She needs to accept reality that it's over and she can't force him to come back into the relationship if he doesn't want to be in it.

[@xtinecarter8543]

Desperate people do desperately things! There is a 7 billion people inthe world. You can move on.

[@lacrymosa777]

My lips couldn't even read the sentence of the title......

[@lavyannejones416]

I read the title and internally screamed “Gotta be!”

[@danwilliams6206]

This poor woman. I know it's up to her to move on but I'm sure it's super painful and I suspect she's going to have a hard time in the dating world.

[@dearbrave4183]

Unless she fixes her mindset, she is most likely going to find someone like her husband or worse than him. Selfish men are attracted to insecure women and insecure women are attracted to selfish men, Although painful, with selfish men, insecure women get the opportunity to bend over backward for a little bit of love. A performance free relationship were they are loved and respected without jumping through hoops would not be attractive to them. The man might even be considered weak.

[@funicon3689]

@@dearbrave4183did you listen to the call? she left him for 18 months. how is he selfish? it sounds like she was selfish and is reaping what she sowed

[@maryelizabeth2751]

I wish John had let her talk instead of interrupting and giving advice before getting all the facts. Maybe he already had the facts from before this clip, but it was confusing. His advice may have been rock solid but this was hard to watch. Usually I love this show. It felt like he was victim blaming.

[@Ja50nkAt]

Can't negotiate desire.

[@ErinWilke]

You LEFT YOUR SONS OVERSEAS?! The mental gymnastics it must take to feel okay with that! 🤯

[@devadii24]

They all sound messed up… but a woman who leaves her child (even if he’s a teen) is a walking red flag 🚩

[@Jinger17]

Exactly! Forget the gf…how do You leave Your child in another country?! Unless it’s not really her son? A step son? This woman seems to not be living in reality.

[@Emmalchartrand]

Modern day Jerry Springer daytime talk show 😂

[@ArmOr_of_the_Alpha_and_Omega]

I wished we could have heard more of her story. It sounds like there was more to it.

[@bah-bah29hinks7]

She needs to wake up and smell the coffee. ☕️

[@kellyludford4246]

And taste the coffee ☕

[@Mushroom321-]

So many things i learn !, during the calls & when the "caller" in a situation has nothing to do with my life situation. THANK YOU!!, Your countless self questions! Dr. Delony.. ! 1 one of many high lights from the conversation with the woman ! " you're worth the healing "😼 "I'm worth the healing " / WE ARE !! YES!! 🥰😼🤔 🎉🎉🎉👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@StrangeJedi]

True title… I left my family, I returned to finding out I’d been replaced and my husband began to move on before I left. I want back in, he could not care less as long as I don’t disrupt his peace. I am going along for the ride, but it sucks to be a part of his life on his terms. She never was clear of why he was done with her before she left. Though, if my life asked for a break and went to another country, I’d move on as well.

[@EllaBeyer-x1k]

Your amazingly insightful on an organic level. I learn so much from listening to your show. Thankyou for the awareness you bring to the world. That is your gift.

[@AnaBananaM28]

Me after reading the title: Ummm HELL YES!!!

[@tj-2011]

i moved back home after a 3 month separation, my husband also had a GF moved in, he packed her stuff, dropped it off on her friends yard, we got back together, she lied about being pregnant, trying to hold on, he blocked her out of his life, this was in 2022... marriage is working at it everyday, especially with major errors ... i was the one that left, i was angry because he relapsed, started drinking heavily again, i felt i couldn't handle it again, after him being 6 yrs sober. But i realized he needed help to beat this again!!! this GF didn't help him but initiated it so he would keep her around.. Today he is since 2023, He is Very Sorry for being with another woman. We are getting past that, building our marriage with God leading our steps. ❤🎉 Thank You Jesus!!!!

[@maryannmorgan9846]

They slpit up, she moved away. She asked, do you want to get back together? He said no. End of story. It was nice of him to offer the support when she returned to Aussie. But as soon as there was a wiff of a new girlfriend, have some self respect and get out of there!

[@TheQueenEC]

Girl invest money and time in yourself get gorgeous (I’m not talking about surgeries). Get a new man you only have 1 basically adult child. Divorce get an apartment live near where your kid lives or move into a space that also accommodates your kid. But make yourself the most amazing inside and outside version of you that you can be and get a man that wants and loves you not your need to be ex-husband.

[@carolallison9685]

Did she seriously ask how to let go of things her husband did while she was separated? My question would be, what is the best way to dig a very large, deep hole in the outback? I have the truck, tarp, and shovel, but should i also get a pick ax? And does it have to be 6ft? I know dingos dig, but do you think they can dig that deep? Also, why would anyone marry a guy from Australia? The country is number 6 in the world for rape after 5 West african countries, yet they have the lowest conviction rate. I mean, come on, the country started out as a british prison. Those men are descendants of people who were so horrible, the largest country in the world at the time was like, "These people are so bad we need to strand them on a big island." Theres a reason all of their women love american men.

[@dearbrave4183]

Wow! I never thought of it that way. Does that mean their men generally have narcissistic and sociopathic tendencies? Because you mentioned that their women love American men

[@hjad2625]

If you go there, you will see more middle easterns and Asians than whites.

[@charlesbell5500]

It's because men are starting to search for wives overseas because the women in the US are too modern, feministic, and toxic. But to be honest, this probably wasn't the case with them. They probably met on vacation and it developed into a relationship.

[@calebburghardt3391]

I watched this whole thing and I’m still not sure what she wants. Is she looking for Dr. John to tell her it’s going to work out? Because it certainly is not…

[@chada75]

My Man! Homie's got mad skills!