Husband Is Cheating on Me (We Just Had a Baby)

Husband Is Cheating on Me (We Just Had a Baby)
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[@olivebranch3427]

I bet her father loves her but has probably done similar things in his own marriage and that’s why he is defending the husband.

[@neverdowifeydutiesatgirlfriend]

Like most the men in my family..i will say from my dad to my uncles and brothers..all have cheated so imagine going to these people with a cheating spouse..they think it normal and u should make it work

[@olivebranch3427]

@@neverdowifeydutiesatgirlfriendyes, exactly

[@caesa1057]

Also a good chance Dad just doesn't want to be inconvenienced or lose money bc of this. He probably doesn't get why she can't just get over it, so no one has to deal with the fallout especially since it's not a physical affair as far as she knows. Dad doesn't care her marriage and life just imploded.

[@thisis.michelletorres444]

Oh for sure!

[@ForensicsOnTheScene]

Her father loves himself more than his daughter.

[@-ilkis-]

If her father thinks it’s ok for someone to do that to his daughter, he also thinks it’s ok to do it to his wife…

[@beckykazeks6827]

Bingo.

[@vtvincent4893]

And as such, does not deserve either.

[@tjturner3916]

@akplmn The Bible says that men are not sinning when they have sex with other women. They only sin if the other woman is married, and the only betrayal is between the man and the husband. Only women are expected to be faithful in marriage.

[@CaraJohnson01]

​@@tjturner3916 um no actually read your Bible marriage is between 1 man and 1 woman and you are only supposed to be intimate within the contract of marriage

[@tjturner3916]

@@CaraJohnson01 Sorry, no. The man does not sin if he is unfaithful to his wife. For men, adultery is when they sleep with another man's wife. A married man who sleeps with single women and prostitutes is not sinning. The only obligation the man has is to care for any children that he sires. Women's bodies belong to their husbands, they are property, and they must submit in all things, including infidelity and abuse. Men are encouraged to try to be patient, but there are no rules against infidelity and abuse and zero consequences. A woman cannot divorce or escape for any reason, ever, but a man can divorce his wife if he suspects her of impure thoughts. Christian marriage is not a good deal for women. It was never intended to be. Biblically, women are talking cattle, livestock, interchangeable and easily replaced. Preachers and priests lie and tell women "he has to love you as long as you behave" but never define what "love" means, and there is no mention of respect.

[@EnfinLibreNM]

I will almost guarantee that Dad is, himself, a cheater.

[@anibaldamiao]

Run away from dad as well

[@mollypoole7243]

People like that just don’t respect women period. They’re sick.

[@FirstLast-zo4qy]

100%

[@sherriflemming3218]

Infidelity runs in families. Compulsion and addiction. Women Are Not Sex Objects - Macken Murphy podcast The Genetic Makeup Of Cheaters - Macken Murphy podcast Never Forgive Infidelity - Sam Vaknin podcast Cheating Triangulation In Sick Relationships ---Sam Vaknin podcast The Mask You Live In Documentary Online is The Paradox Of Choice Ted Talk I've Scanned 250,000 Brains This Is How Men Think - Dr Daniel Amen and Lisa Biyeu podcast Seek Good Character A Reminder To Us All - David Tian PhD podcast Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft Toxic Parents by Susan Forward The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman

[@sherriflemming3218]

Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft The Mask You Live In Documentary Never Forgive Infidelity - Sam Vaknin podcast Cheating Triangulation In Sick Relationships ---Sam Vaknin podcast Women Are Not Sex Objects - Maken Murphy podcast I've Scanned 250,000 Brains This Is Really How Men Think - Dr Daniel Amen and Lisa Biyeu

[@JoanStephens-rn1hu]

Fifty years ago, my husband of 12 years came home one day and said “ I’ve met someone, one month ago, an I love her and I want to Marry her”. There are no words to describe the chaos in my mind! In summary, i picked myself up. Got a job on Monday, a lawyer on Tuesday and a shrink on Wednesday. To cut to the chase I had a wonderful corporate career, met a wonderful man who helped me raise my two boys…..but until I listened to you…..Now feel I did the right thing. I am 81 and I keep the pain in a separate box. And occasionally take it out……it feels. Awful! Thanks for your show!

[@jauntycommander1065]

Mine left me when I had five months to live. He left me for a stripper he knew for three days.

[@lilolmecj]

You are a strong woman! Congratulations on a life well lived in spite of a crushing blow.

[@greent16]

That must have been unbelievably difficult 50 years ago. I can’t imagine what you must have gone through and all what you’ve achieved. Truly inspiring

[@greent16]

@@jauntycommander1065please tell me she fleeced him

[@jauntycommander1065]

@@greent16 She realized that what we had was because of me before I got sick and got pregnant by another man about a month later. He was devastated and she was annoyed he still wanted to date her. lol

[@gabbi2739]

Cheating in general is messed up, but cheating on the mother or your children is absolutely disgusting. Father of three daughters too. Just shameful. What a weak little boy.

[@user-ey7gk7jv2l]

Please don't hold it against the child when they still love their dad

[@ihateallyall]

@@user-ey7gk7jv2ltoo bad their dad is a scumbag and hates his family

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

Agreed

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

@@user-ey7gk7jv2lDon’t hold it against the mother that the dad doesn’t love his own children. He chose random naked women over his own daughters. Those poor girls.

[@gabbi2739]

@@user-ey7gk7jv2l What are you talking about? I’m calling the father a weak little boy for cheating on his daughters’ mother.

[@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559]

She sounds so defeated. I hope the sun shines on her life again when all this passes.

[@maureengobin678]

What a kind thing to say

[@isay207]

Good lawyer child support half of everything

[@dizzlechazzle154]

John’s a good man. Kind but direct. Tells the truth

[@snudder.s.m.l.5026]

Yes she sounds beaten down.

[@whowearereally6494]

Where are two or more gathered? - Lord here, our prayer for this young lady and her three daughters, and frankly, the whole damn family.❤

[@ElleTee-tw7fq]

Her father is a POS. No wonder she ended up picking the wrong guy her father isn’t even loyal to his children over money. Revolting.

[@anibaldamiao]

Amen

[@amberhandschumacher3002]

Yeah I’m not ok with that portion!

[@anetak.9494]

No. Let's stop with that narrative that "she PICKED the wrong guy" the guy is just a guy until he is the wrong guy because he effed up. Nobody has it tattooed on their forehead that they are a bad person.

[@vaska1999]

Exactly!

[@LightIceLightCreamNoSugar]

Doesn’t that put some blame on her though? Wonderful, innocent ppl get cheated on, you don’t know when you’re “picking” how ppl will change.

[@lav7161]

She's so depressed that it hasn't even hit yet. Let it all out girl. It's okay to be pissed.

[@isay207]

Husband has three children farm and he finds time to cheat 😢

[@happygolucky9004]

She might not be angry, she might just be really really sad. I don't think wanting her to be angry is good for her. Not everyone needs to be an angry to get things done. I think she just needs someone to let her be sad, let her cry it's out and I think that will help her move on.

[@traditionalwoman5648]

If the father thinks that this man who betrayed his daughter won’t betray him and the business, he is in ignorance. He didn’t take vows to the business and job.

[@mydiscoverydestination3951]

The father has hurt her as much as the cheating jerk of a husband-- and cheating is cheating!

[@TheAustrianPainter87]

No woman can satisfy her husband sexually by herself. All men will or want to cheat. She better stay in her marriage because new guy won't be any different.

[@user-zy9yg2eu5t]

So you're saying.... the daughter is wrong?

[@traditionalwoman5648]

@@user-zy9yg2eu5t I was saying how can the father trust the man, the son-in-law.

[@tjturner3916]

Men are morally bound by God to treat other men with respect and honesty. But there is no such edict for men with regards to women. It would never occur to any man that a man who betrays his wife is anything other than an alpha player and a man to be admired. Facts are facts.

[@bettersecret1499]

The way she said 'my mother is still married to ..' confirms everything we are all thinking about her father. He IS like her husband

[@sherriflemming3218]

Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix IMAGO Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood Never Forgive Infidelity - Sam Vaknin podcast Cheating Triangulation In Sick Relationships ---Sam Vaknin podcast The Mask You Live In Documentary Women Are Not Sex Objects - Macken Murphy podcast I've Scanned 250,000 Brains This Is Really How Men Think - Dr Daniel Amen and Lisa Biyeu podcast

[@nbabombshell]

I got cheated 4 months post partum and let me tell you it was the hardest thing . I hate that he took that from me . The being a mom the person I was , and that I had to put my energy in healing and not enjoying a baby

[@stillpril8942]

You articulated that perfectly. That is how I feel too. He took what should have been the most joyful experience and turned it into the most painful.

[@Emptytopfloor]

Please tell me you left. Nobody deserves this. When i see people stay in these situations, it makes me even more deterrent to marriage, if that’s possible.

[@truthbetold6942]

I am so sorry. You didn’t deserve this, but you are in charge of writing the ending. Take the power back. Your future is in your hands. It is scary but can be freeing!

[@nt3833]

I am so sorry that happened to you. I agree that you did articulate that so well. I wish you and your baby a beautiful life in the future. ❤

[@legslikewhoa]

This is one of my fears, and why at my big age I still don’t have kids even though in an ideal world, I’d love to be a mom. 😢

[@angelagrace6674]

That woman has been taught that she can’t have expectations of loyalty or care. She has been taught to expect to be let down.

[@ladybluelotus]

Agreed!

[@camillegallagher7828]

😢❤

[@bluliite]

That's all of us women basically. We got "science" out here confirming men are not monogamous.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

She's experiencing a death of a relationship and doesn't know where to go from here. She's numb.

[@happygolucky9004]

I agree. I think it's okay for her to be numb and be logical. The pain will come later. I think it's important for her to plan her escape.

[@Raegoul]

The reason why he cheated doesn't matter. I don't care what she did, he chose to cheat. I'm a firm believer in no 2nd chances when it comes to cheating.

[@bushybear623]

Say it louder

[@paulacastro5128]

Do NOT take a cheater back. They will do it again!

[@ultramarinewaters9325]

You are right!!

[@elizabethbennet1234]

Once a cheater, always a cheater

[@user-ri9tt2ip4m]

Yup. And cheaters typically sorry not because of what they did to their partner, but because they got caught

[@maureendawkins9753]

I am so sorry, I felt your pain, my ex-husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and had a child outside of the marriage, it hurt beyond words, I built up the courage to leave with 2 small kids, no car and no job, I came out on top. Now I love my life, and wish I had left sooner.

[@FourSeasons04]

It's wonderful that you were able to rebound after marriage, yet your story is one of the reasons why I advocate that women build a career and personal emergency fund before marriage. If anything happens (e.g. divorce, death), the financial burden may be lessened.

[@maureendawkins9753]

@@FourSeasons04 Agreed!

[@LuisCorona-tb1mh]

I am currently dating a single mom that went through the same situation as you!

[@EadsB7002]

good for you! so glad you realized you deserve much better than to settle for someone who didn't value you/your marriage.

[@maureendawkins9753]

@EadsB7002 thank you !

[@ginab.4605]

Her husband is disgusting. He has 3 daughters. No respect for his babies. Her dad is no better. His little girl is hurting and he’s worried about his business. The husband has no respect for her dad either. I pray she gets the help she needs 🙏🏽

[@raya74]

Agreed men like this get their karma when their daughters are grown and get involved with men. I hope not but that's how it goes sometimes

[@notmybrother8727]

100% TRUTH, and I wouldn't want his influence on them.

[@ZiggyWhiskerz]

Even without the daughters... He destroyed this poor woman. 😢

[@Ren4U2]

Oh I feel almost more sad for her fathers betrayal than her husbands. Don’t even know what to say.

[@AnnaMazingFusion]

I feel the same way. A good father always thinks of his daughter as his little girl. He should have 100% taken her side and fired him. To respect your cheating son-in-law more than your daughter is just horrendous. This is so sad.

[@user-xx1tm5fe9u]

This is horrible. My family hosted my ex after the divorce, trying to make peace and be magnanimous. He stayed with them. The double betrayal is awful.

[@patriciamurphy954]

I would divorce the husband and have him pay alimony and children support. And never talk your father again.

[@samuelzulu9731]

Wrong advice

[@cartesian_doubt6230]

Unbelievably dumb advice. Somebody grew up without a father.

[@auemmjee]

​@@samuelzulu9731wrong for who?

[@Emptytopfloor]

Best advice

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@samuelzulu9731 if it was reversed, the husband wouldn’t even think twice before divorcing.

[@AR-pp3wx]

Why don't people understand that their cheating effects the kids too!!??? Trying to parent with a broken heart is almost unbearable

[@georginakaye1021]

This.

[@aliciaromero3173]

Absolutely it is. And then from my experience it’s been 2 years and all he’s done is beg and plead I’ve never received so many flower deliveries in my whole life. In a way it feels nice to see him do all this and not get what he wants . But nevertheless flowers and 2 years of begging couldn’t change what he did and all the trauma and hell he cause me and our little girl..

[@lizbrown8576]

Why does the cheater always wanna go to counseling after getting caught. If someone really wants to save a relationship, sleeping with other people has never solved anything but getting to the divorce faster.

[@FC-hj9ub]

Because they think they deserve 2nd chances and they want to show their spouse that they're listening to them and are able to "fix" the mistake

[@mightymouse1005]

Counseling needs to come BEFORE you transgress. When you know that desire is there.

[@mightymouse1005]

​@@FC-hj9ubmost don't change. They want a 2nd, 3rd 4th and 1000th chance. All the while making it YOUR fault

[@OopThereItIs77777]

As a psych nerd myself (MA psych with a focus in child studies) she married someone exactly like her dad. THIS is why it is so important to heal before you have kids AND show them what a good man looks like by being one yourself. She married her dad…& mom may be in her corner but she won’t be for long as she married someone like her dad too. This is all generational. Please pay attention

[@ineedhoez]

Amen. This is also why it is imperative that you leave toxic relationships and do not stay for the sake of the children. Her mother stayed and taught her daughter that this was okay. The daughter is struggling because she really does not want to have to leave her marriage but at least she is smart enough and wise enough to know that she has to.

[@Harsha-D311]

I attracted men like my dad when i was in college

[@joywebster2678]

It can be cross role too depending whose personality you are closet too. I'm one of 4 daughters, but 8m more like my calm, deep thinking, serious Dad. My mother is a hysteric, and social sort without depth. My 3 sisters mirror her, and attract men to take care of them. I attracted men needing care, and decisions made. Yuck. So until as you said you heal trauma you seek what's familiar.

[@JESUSSavesWAKEUP]

You can't heal of something you don't know is a problem. It's her normal.

[@graphitetalk]

Yes it's her normal. She married her dad. I did too. My dad was a bully. My mother never took him on. I married a bully and stayed with him It was my normal.

[@vernabryant2894]

She needs to get out of this mess.If she stays when she gets older she will be angry and bitter and regrettful.

[@erichchan3]

And go where? Be a single mom of 3 kids? Ain't gonna find a man of worth to remarry with an already premade family and have to deal with an ex-husband.

[@dramaticroses94]

​@@erichchan3Who said she wants to remarry. Better to leave with your sanity and pride then stay with gaslighting and unease.

[@Erica-wz8yv]

I agree she needs to leave. He’s not going to change. Not worth it.

[@DotterSvea]

​@@erichchan3You are so clearly "red-pilled damaged"... Of course sge can find new love, perhaps with a gentleman who's a bit older and already had had children. Or do you think she should stay with a cheating husband? Would you say the same if the roles were reversed and SHE cheated? No you wouldn't. Newsflash, a woman can't love a cheating husband just like a man can't love a cheating wife.

[@triplecheesemac]

@@DotterSvea I don't think it is a redpill thing. I agree she needs to leave, however, i think John is giving bad advice. Her father should NOT fire him, he should give him a temparory raise so she can take him to the cleaners. I am assuming she is a SAHM, she needs him to make money so the court will award her alimony and child support. In all honesty, i believe the father is doing the right thing by letting him work. Make him her slave by gaining the system. She needs him to make money right now for the divorce. F'em.

[@debbieacevedo7571]

I bet the Dad has done the same to her Mom! I would write off my father without hesitation! Disgusting.

[@AB-ij3im]

Especially since she has daughters. They don’t need to be around the misogyny.

[@skateata1]

Her dad betrayed her

[@Me-ng9ut]

I’m 45. Husband is 47. I caught him looking at 18-20 year old girls online. He thinks he did nothing wrong and gets mad at me when I ask him why he is looking at them. He says it isn’t for sexual reasons, yet the profiles are of scantily clad teens. He thinks I have as little intelligence as he does, to believe such nonsense. He literally wants me to get over it because he doesn’t know these girls. The utter nerve.

[@Molly_Belle]

That’s so disrespectful! Would he be cool with it if you were doing it?

[@Me-ng9ut]

@@Molly_Belle He says he would be but i doubt it.

[@julieparker8553]

I am sorry Please hear me Don’t ask for explanation Just get out You need to leave He is making bad decisions N choices that can destroy your future. Leave n protect yourself before the heartache comes. Please get a good divorce attorney n ask her about legal issues of this. You ll understand.

[@arfriedman4577]

I feel bad what happened to you. However before the internet and even now, men would look at women they walk by in the street. Some men look at girlie magazines. If this is against your morals and ethics then i say leave.

[@annea6288]

He is gaslighting you. Red flags all over this

[@Kareena1988]

This caller is TRAUMATIZED

[@monicamonica68]

ABSOLUTELY

[@SouthernPeach46]

Every episode of this show I watch make me want to stay single and child free. The fact that her dad chose sides with her cheating husband, I wouldn’t speak to my dad again for a while. 😢

[@shachede6828]

It will be the end!

[@jenniferjaramillo6759]

I was thinking the same thing. Like ugh there’s too many stories like this that makes me not want to start dating.

[@bp6877]

Amen, Southern Peach!

[@ronirony2122]

Don't watch this channel, that's what it tends to do.

[@chocovanille5809]

Boys club. Most men dont believe in one partner. Sadly

[@rescueworld836]

She needs to get an attorney immediately!!

[@smch6416]

My husband had an affair just after our son was born, and I found this out on our wedding night. I was so devastated. It was so traumatic and wasnt an immediate split because the shock and trauma were so bad. Overnight I lost my new husband, my little family and my job because we all worked for the same ambulance service, but 17 years on, i can say that splitting up with him was the best thing ever. My son and I have had the best life. The 1 bit of advice is not to take his behaviour as your responsibility. I spent years thinking that I must have not been good enough and that wrecked my head for years. Now I understand he is just a selfish man and doesn't care about anyone but himself.nothing to do with me..

[@vaska1999]

🎯

[@thisis.michelletorres444]

I know exactly where she is, she's treading lightly and carefully because of her kids. A mother with young children is very vulnerable and she's married to an abusive pathological liar who is getting support from HER family! I applaud her calm, I think with some good coaching, she'll make it out!

[@Emptytopfloor]

Why do women marry or have kids anymore. Aren’t these stories enough to break free of the fairytale delusions?

[@triplecheesemac]

@@Emptytopfloor fairytale delusion? It is not about fairytale, it is about building a Family. Probably THE most important thing in society.

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@triplecheesemac being delusional about building family is how you end up in these situations in the first place.

[@triplecheesemac]

@@Emptytopfloor Ok, you don't have a family and kids, how is the society going to survive? Is the society going to age out? People will get older without the younger generation wokring and upkeeping the society? This kind of things happen. So you think she should have never have kids and be a feminist THOT? Marriage and Family are good things. Yes for some people things like this happen. You don't think she will not run into cheater and dirtbag being single?

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@triplecheesemac not having kids doesn’t make anyone a feminist thot. 1 is a choice other is an ideology. There’re 8 Billion people on this planet. It’s already too crowded here. Not everyone is fit for parenthood. And being single can definitely shield you from this kind of intimate betrayal aka psychological abuse. There are many ways to benefit society without putting yourself through abuse.

[@singerg02]

Why does John keep saying that this man "lost" his family and his marriage? He didn't! He threw it away with BOTH hands.

[@fire12731]

I agree. This caller is disconnected from what happened and not grieving and letting her emotions out.

[@InDirectDiana]

There's a reason for that. She might be keeping it together for the kids. She's likely swamped with them. Or her husband is pressing down on her and not giving her space to think, so she is just in survival mode. I know. I've been there. It'll catch up with her eventually.

[@ladylizp3940]

Exactly. Survival mode, feeling cornered on every side but fighting yourself not to go off. That's why it's so important for a woman to have a source of income and resources to fall back on, so she's not stuck in these situations, when no one is standing up for her.

[@ineedhoez]

She can't let it out.

[@lepetitemorte1635]

My husband did me wrong and I’m so grateful my dad was there to be with me and help me.

[@claireluckensmeyer7489]

Wishing my dad was still around for this exact reason.

[@9liveslisa]

I would be devastated. Women get sold this fairytale and for a lot of them cheating happens and it is so painful. It hurts me to hear these stories. I wish her and the children all the best.

[@user-he6rs8xi7u]

We all get the fairytale.

[@thesb2836]

what is the fairytale and who is selling it?

[@Macheako]

@@thesb2836 the lion king 🦁 👑 By Disney

[@Emptytopfloor]

@@thesb2836 the fairy tale is basically all Disney movies. Find your soulmate. Have 3 kids. Live happily ever after. Super Cringe 😬

[@nt3833]

@@thesb2836I was wondering the exact same thing! Not sure how that is totally relevant here.

[@ConnieThorman]

My sister had an affair with my husband and when I called my parents’ house to tell her I know what they’ve been doing, my mom answered and when I told my mom she said, “Can you believe it’s raining right now?” No care at all.

[@jackieoconnor4926]

Omg! Connie I’m so sorry for you. If you can’t count on your mother to have your back, that’s heartbreaking. I hope you can move on and find a group of people who support and love you. Sometimes we have to make our own family ❤️

[@pa2359]

It is tough, double betrayal

[@marilynnelson3559]

That is a nightmare. Find support. So unfare.

[@vaska1999]

I'm so sorry both your sister and mother failed you so badly. 😢 I hope you're in a better place now.

[@lulumallory8259]

Sounds like your mother is a narcissist.

[@nawal10]

They always cheat or leave right after a baby it's bizarre to me

[@GramCracker77]

Because they're too immature to handle not being number one!

[@nawal10]

@@GramCracker77 that's 💯

[@FC-hj9ub]

"My world is turning upside down" or whatever excuse they say. The chances of a new mother leaving is also very low

[@dianamgallagher]

They cheat because they are jealous of the attention the baby gets. So they can punish their wife for not paying enough attention to them and get the thrill of an affair. Win/win

[@nawal10]

@@dianamgallagher men competing with a baby, THEIR BABY, is disturbing! It's petty. It's embarrassing. Wow.

[@ChaiLatte13]

This poor lady. :( She's losing not only her husband, but apparently her father and brother because of the business? WTF!

[@northofyou33]

John, I left my narcissistic husband when I had two little kids and no money. It was incredibly difficult, but the nightmare was being married to the narcissist. Being a single mom was not a nightmare. It was just a hard life.

[@helgaherbstreit5102]

Thank you. So well said.

[@johnlanier3616]

When someone cheats then its a wrap. The trust can never come back.

[@toniedwards8173]

I know how she feels. When I found out my husband cheated on me, I was 6 months pregnant. When I told my mother, she suggested I lose weight and trim my hair. I left him, took my son and moved on. 40 years later, I have thrived.

[@nester1370]

This woman has been so gaslit… unbelievable.

[@sineaddolan1413]

My heart breaks for this woman, that poor excuse of a "man" will never know the way this is impacting her. She will be grappling with postpartum issues trying to bond and be present with her baby, raise the other two girls all the while this will be occupying her thoughts and emotions and she will have to make all the hard choices for her girls. My blood boils when weak men cant handle not being the centre of attention when their wives are having THEIR children, hes just pathetic she deserves a million times better!

[@suesalisbury6847]

Can 100% relate, my dad upon me telling my parents I was divorcing after 18 years because my husband was cheating-told my mom "did she give him enough sex"? At the next "family" event (our sons 1st communion) my father felt so proud of himself after seeking out my ex-husband to say "No hard feelings"!!! My dad had cheated on my mom for nearly 20 years. Birds of a feather... Kaylin, you are going to be not only a survivor but someone who thrives and sets an example for your children (if you decide to leave your marriage) and how NOT to let someone continually disrespect and gaslight you. That's a legacy to be proud of.

[@traditionalwoman5648]

Okay, so if the husband wants the marriage to work, then he needs to be honest about how long the affair has been going on. It does matter how long because if he is lying then trust can’t rebuilt. I wouldn’t want to be married to a dishonest man either.

[@isay207]

Let him go and face real life with side piece

[@ineedhoez]

Bunk that. Cheating equals automatic termination of marriage!!! Even the Bible says infidelity is a deal breaker

[@vaska1999]

There's no way that marriage can "work" any longer.

[@thenorthface4]

I had a very rocky relationship with my father and when he found out I was cheated on by my now ex husband , he was one of the first people that was there for me and one my biggest supporters. Her father needs to do better…

[@AbiePerez-hq1qr]

I really hope her family hears this 💔 if I was this women’s mother I would have ripped my husband to pieces for his response. The lack of family support is heartbreaking. My husband and I started a family business with a few of our married children, one of the spouses was unfaithful & after counseling we all decided that it would be best to drop everything and help her get through this divorce. The divorce was ugly, we lost the family home that we had gifted them on their wedding day which was the house my children grew up in and we lost our business. We gained so much more, it made us a STRONGER family and created a much stronger bond between us. We have no regrets. My daughter and my grandchildren are so much happier. With the spousal support that my daughter was awarded she started her own business and till this day continues to see a therapist to heal from the abuse and unfaithfulness. Two years later my husband and I started new business’s. Money should never keep you from doing the right thing.

[@joanklaczek4009]

Going through a divorce shows you quickly and clearly which friends and family are in your corner! Flush those others out of your life like the pieces of **** that they are.

[@Astro95Media]

Bingo. A lot of friendships were severed during my divorce because they chose to side with my cheating ex-wife because of lies she sold them (believe all women, right?). I cut them off permanently and never looked back.

[@lindseybk3029]

She is devastated!!! However, she obviously cherishes her children and wants to protect them. She is essentially sacrificing her emotional release for her babies. God bless her.

[@corrieworou4813]

That's what mom's do

[@vaska1999]

She thinks her little ones can't sense that mom's bottling things up, that something's terribly wrong.

[@user-xp2xd5sw7c]

This is why my parents taught me to be self sufficient, have a plan B and a career to support myself just in case something like this happened. Don’t depend on a man to the point you can’t handle situations on your own.

[@EmpressMermaid]

Well, the dad definitely is the one who taught her to have low expectations of men.

[@ronbo30]

I was married for 13 years wife cheated, I forgave her, and we redid our wedding vows, and everything was great. 8 months later she slept with son’s baseball coach and got pregnant from him,( I had Vasectomy 4 years earlier) this was second time that I know of.( maybe more) and 8 months after doing vows again. After that something inside me died. It never returned. 😢

[@corrieworou4813]

I'm so sorry, you deserved better. Hope God brings healing for you like he did for me and one day you find someone who will love you back wholeheartedly and faithfully.

[@bz3548]

I’m so sorry for what happened to you. I don’t know if you believe In God, but He can help you healing and if is His will and you still interested in finding someone, without a doubt He’ll bring someone who will love you, respect you, and have a very happy life with. Best wishes to you.

[@SJ-tb2wq]

It's depression and the false idea she put in there that you aren't worthy of respect/ love. I got news for you. You are good enough and you deserve better. There's nothing wrong with you. Work through it with a therapist and throw that insecurity away. She doesn't get to take a piece of you. Take that shht back!

[@ashleymarie6585]

This made me realize that my father really was ALWAYS on my side. Even if he didn’t agree with me- he was ALWAYS on my side.

[@whitneyw.7919]

"the sun is shining and it's a new day" Wow, this caller is seriously trying to not face reality and minimize the betrayal. I think that's the denial/shock phase of the grief experience. More to come for this caller!!

[@whitneyw.7919]

She's avoiding facing the truth because she knows what that would mean.. he's a scumbag and she'd have to stand on her own 2 feet and probably divorce. That is terrifying to her, so she just puts her head under the blanket

[@JustinCase780]

She sounds super sweet and so "normal" being very aware. She should just file and move on. And, tell her Dad to f off and sadly may need to leave his selfish butt forever.

[@Emptytopfloor]

Yes! Women get too complacent in relationships. It’s ridiculous tbh.

[@Morrocanprincess]

She has settled. Cheating is BETRAYAL and a choice. She can take him back, but cheaters NEVER respect such people. He will now learn how to cheat without getting caught. No wonder this woman sounds sooooo defeated and probably has low self worth. Her own father isn't even protecting her best interest or even on her side!! WTF

[@EadsB7002]

agree. 90% of the time men like this just go cheat again because they know they can "get away with it"...i wish more women realized this and realized life is too short to live miserably with someone who doesn't value you/someone you can't trust.

[@nikkinixon8417]

my entire family turned against me when i came out about abuse from my dad and then my ex cheated on me. and no one took my side. it hurts worse than any physical pain to be this alone. i felt just as defeated as she does. you just can’t face it it’s too much and she probably is trying to be strong for her kids because she knows she’ll collapse if she lets anything get to her.

[@PersianDollTarot]

Same here I know what that feels like. I actually told my father about when an ex punched me in the face, i had black eyes for 2 weeks. He literally laughed in my face and said nothing. I must say though he was born and raised in Iran and Islamic republic where women do not have rights or freedom and it’s very normal and common for this to happen in the household his parents did it it happened between him and my mother.. i’m lucky to say I broke the cycle after educating myself.

[@vaska1999]

I hope you were/are able to get a therapist who could help.

[@SnowFoxParty]

Why do so many men cheat while their wives are pregnant or just had a baby?! I've seen this pattern so much these days.

[@faithofamustardseed8198]

The world teaches that if you as a wife aren’t giving your husband sex on demand, and doing whatever creative things it takes to keep him happy, then he will undoubtedly turn to porn and/or cheating to get his fill. That it’s the woman's fault if he cheats because she isn’t having enough sex with him. I find this so gross, to say that men are such sex addicts that they can’t go without sex while their wife is recovering from birth or having an intensely stressful time. I think spouses should do their best to keep their sex lives healthy, active, and intimate, but if there are life circumstances such as illness or responsibilities, the other spouse should be able to go without and not hold resentment for the person.

[@EadsB7002]

i think it's often an issue with lack of regular sex (for a lot of them) and also the stress of having a baby/more kids that takes a toll...they are looking for an escape from "real life" much of the time. makes me super relieved that we chose to not have kids. it was the best choice for us.

[@joywebster2678]

Often the women choose to have the babies so close together that some husband's feel pushed away from the bond, the activities all baby focused, and othervtiny screaming kids. So important to check out how is the response to the first kid, are we OK in our new configuration? Back to a adult relationship at times, before having baby 2, and 3. Some men don't adjust quickly, some do.

[@red_diaper_doper_baby]

Bc xx stop the bedroom fun and expect their husband to take it. If your not willing to do the work what is your problem if someone else does it for you?

[@SnowFoxParty]

@red_diaper_doper_baby that is an immature and poor way of thinking. If only men could get pregnant so we don't have to do any work

[@hommy1614]

Oh, my gosh...with a father like that...who needs enemies? So sad that he would betray his "little girl" that he surely loved for her farm-laboring husband. What a terrible message to send to the three daughters. I was inspired listening to this woman's "analytical brain." She is calm, poised, gaining confidence and knows her worth!! I wish we could be there to support you in person! Keep going in wise ways!

[@nectarzetlian9251]

No support from her dad is really disturbing to me. 😡

[@JenniferAguiartampa]

My dad would have put him in the hay chopper. I’m wondering if her dad was a cheater.

[@vernabryant2894]

A lot of cheaters continue to cheat.

[@tspencer661]

It really bothers me that this woman’s father wasn’t supportive of her. If sending risqué photos to people you’re not married to is ok, would he feel the same if his own wife (the caller’s mom) was sending photos to men she wasn’t married to? Just curious.

[@user-qj6jb9nk9w]

I broke up with my boyfriend almost 3 months ago when I found out he cheated. I found out 4 months after the fact from the other woman. We were only together for about a year but it turned my world upside down. By far, it’s been one of the hardest things to go through. I’m still so angry and sad 2 1/2 months later. I just started therapy. I wish cheaters knew the devastation they cause when they cheat. Why does it hurt a bad? Part of me wants him back. Why?

[@melissam7067]

i'm sorry that stinks. it does get easier with time, and you actually may find you really learn some lessons from this situation. Therapy is a great idea...it can be amazing! Good for you.

[@viramanus1663]

Because you probably got attached mentally and emotionally. It’s physiological wiring, hormones, brain’s “habit” of having him around. Now that he is out of your life abruptly, it causes senses in your body similar to withdrawal. Because it actually is a form of it. You need time and good stressors in your life - gym, career change/upgrade, moving, new friend group (can find through meetup app). Something that requires a lot of focus and time, ideally also new people in your life. That way you won’t have time to think about him. The more time you have to ruminate, the more you strengthen that neuron pathway in your brain, the harder it is to get over it. You should be angry, it’s healthy, you’re not a doormat. Also, maybe you’re worried deep down that he would change if given the chance. Trust me - he wouldn’t. I’m so proud you’re smarter than me and dumped his cheating arse without giving the 2nd chance. Imagine putting another 2, 3 ,5 years into it and finding out it happened again. You never knew the real him. The side that’s a dealbreaker for you. We usually miss non-existing potential and the fantasy we had of them. Use that anger energy to upgrade your life.

[@capyk5455]

I've been through the same. Betrayal trauma is a very real thing, but with good therapy and growth mindset the pain will subside and you won't feel heavy anymore, I promise. Cheating is unfathomable to people like us, the pain it caused was one of the worst I've felt like you say. But I detached, left the memory behind and put all my energy on positive things, while the guilt consumed him. Let's derive hope precisely from the fact that there are people like us who stand their moral ground, and that's to be proud of no matter how unfairly hurt you were before. See your kindness as something to be nurtured and protected from unhealthy people and don't look back. You can always start again with your head high and values intact, and learn something along the way. Cheaters are deeply messed up emotionally and push away their empathy as they cannot cope with their own shame and emptiness, tell yourself the damage they have inside is way more insidious than the trauma they create. Stay strong, you will get through this sooner than you think ❤

[@user-qj6jb9nk9w]

@@melissam7067 thank you for your reply! Therapy is going to be helpful.

[@user-qj6jb9nk9w]

@@viramanus1663 what a great answer! Fantasy of potential. I am in the gym 3 days a week and actually did switch careers recently as well. Thank goodness I didn’t give him years of my life. Still hurts like hell though.

[@lisabanks7742]

Nothing he says will validate or give him the right to cheat. Once a cheater always a cheater.

[@noone-dv1jo]

False

[@isay207]

Why don't these men stay single instead of destroying their family COWARDS😢

[@Princetonian4eva]

@@noone-dv1joAbsolutely true Unless you lack morals yourself

[@edwardberrocal7266]

F. The dad. I as my daughters father is there for my baby cause she is my baby. To hell with anyone else.

[@elizabethbennet1234]

No self respecting woman can stay in a marriage with a cheater husband. Rationalising away his infidelity won’t solve anything.

[@EadsB7002]

agreed. too many of the women who call on to this show are that way...they want to rationalize staying with someone like that and they usually do...only to find that the man does it again in the future.. because he knows he can! i've seen this exact dynamic many times unfortunately. it almost never ends well. not to even mention innocent kids in the picture.

[@matildalucas2131]

I think that’s a little unfair for us to judge. They have three kids together. The business is involved. If they divorce he will be jobless, how will they afford their children? She’s clearly not working since she just had a baby, so how will she work and take care of three kids? There’s a lot going on here. No Self respect is harsh.

[@EadsB7002]

@@matildalucas2131 people should never stay in toxic relationships just “for the kids” though. Hopefully she has the ability to create a means of her own/return to work. I agree we don’t know the “full story” and it’s not an easy ordeal but keeping things together because of the kids isn’t going to solve the real issue. Situations like these make me super relieved that I have my own career. I see so many women get messed over when they are stay at home moms with multiple children. It puts them in the most vulnerable of positions. Especially when they’re married to a jerk like this guy!

[@elizabethbennet1234]

He will pay child support, by law@@matildalucas2131

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

I agree

[@iamwinningrightnow]

Each time I watch these, I am reminded why I am single, and loving it. Gash!

[@teresaf4251]

Me too! I was depressed being single today (Valentine’s Day) but I just had to watch this and some other videos that make me feel fine being single!!!! Bless this woman and her three daughters’ heart! ❤️

[@analozada9475]

Wowza! Poor lady! She sounds like she’s in a state of shock and terrified, trying to play it cool in order to protect herself. Most likely she’s a stay home mom who depends financially on her husband and dad, so she doesn’t want to ruffle the feathers by minimizing the whole situation. Betrayal from a spouse hurts badly, yet betrayal from a parent is beyond horrific! I know from experience. My father betrayed me my whole life. He always chose anyone else but me. Her dad probably has cheated on her mom so he’s trying to justify and cover for his sil in order to appease his guilty conscience (if he has any.)

[@jessicahitchens6926]

It has nothing to do with the financial aspect. It's the emotional aspect. She could take him to the cleaners. Its complete betrayal and women are so vulnerable compared to men.

[@hiddenhand6973]

Ephesians 5:25-29: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church…

[@ecclesiastesThreeVerseSeven]

Men don’t know how to be husbands

[@marcellacrier7283]

Dang. I’m pretty sure infidelity in marriage is probably the number 1 sin at this point. Maybe next to outright lying.

[@anavelas7087]

I hope she listened to Dr. John. When my husband of 11 years cheated and our family crumbled, I chose to be a "lady", be rational, be delicate. Its been a few years now, and in hindsight, I know I should have screamed when I felt like it! I got so sick afterwards and I think I was just holding everything that I was really feeling inside. It did more damage than actually the relationship ending. Why did I try to save face in front of the world? Who did it help? It certainly wasn't me

[@santinabellydance]

Better late than never.

[@Storm111_]

I was married to my daughter’s father, he was my first love. He wanted marriage and a baby and I gave those things to him only for him to turn around and cheat on me. I was legally separated from him when our daughter was six weeks old. The betrayal was unbearable.its been 20 years since this happened. I have no regrets. I really hate women who knowingly have an affair with a married man, they are the worst among us. The argument that you can’t break up a happy home is weak and dismissive. Relationships have ups n downs you don’t prey on someone during a moment of weakness.

[@Galworld761]

Men do this because we spare them the vitriol and reserve it for the women. Two things can be true. The mistress is awful. However, HE violated his vows to you. He slept next to you and it was a lie. He put your physical health at risk and cheating is emotional abuse. Men do this because they know we are so desperate we will humiliate ourselves by fighting over them instead of making them feel the full brunt of their deserved consequences. My partner cheats? I am out. I am not going to look for her. I don’t care about her. HE broke his commitment to me. I will do my darndest to ensure that I leave such a mark on him - he never does it to the next woman. I have been down this road - I left with my dignity intact. I moved on because I did not delude myself into thinking he would be faithful if he had not crossed paths with her. She represents the opportunity that he chose.

[@rethgual8227]

@@Galworld761Exactly!

[@lovekangth2994]

I'm so happy for you! I hope you have a happy life ahead.

[@xcalstl]

​​@@Galworld761 Agreed. Women are too quick to blame the other woman. The man decided to cheat, it would have been anyone 'up for it'. Most men are dogs, and they think they can have the best of both worlds, until they get found out, it's their dirty little secret, and they don't care about anyone but themselves.

[@FourSeasons04]

@@Galworld761 Bingo! It still amazes me that the brunt of wives' anger is reserved for the other woman rather than the cheating, lying, and deceitful husbands.

[@Astro95Media]

Run, girl. Get an attorney and destroy him in court. Get the people in your corner to support you and cut out the rest, even if includes your dad. I went through it seven years ago and there is life after. But right now, take the gloves off and do what has to be done. There's no other way.

[@myurbangarden7695]

Unfortunately, only 10% get awarded alimony and 2/3 of fathers pay child support consistently.

[@nooneasked32]

@@myurbangarden7695i had no idea the numbers were that low 😖

[@vaska1999]

​​@excellence229 The spouse who was the stay-at-home parent should be assigned alimony until he or she is able and has obtained the necessary qualifications to re-enter the work force. Obviously, when there are small children involved, this will take at least 8-10 years.

[@dante-un8yb]

Destroy? Isn't that the man she claimed to love and choose to be the father of her children? Well, how would that make her no different from him? Financial destroy is ok, but cheating is sin bigger than all of sins? Wow.

[@emg.9246]

She needs to find a way to leave him. Literally if the roles were switched this wouldn’t be a question. He would of been LEFT you in the dust, While calling you all kinds of nasty names.

[@jacublopez]

3 daughters and he cheats??? Great example for his kids.

[@Lala_monzz]

and she just gave birth to his child recently…

[@elainenilsson5472]

She can't stay in that family or marriage. If she does they will NEVER respect her. She has put up with too much already. I'm sure we are only hearing the tip of the iceberg.

[@itme7297]

She sounds so defeated 😔

[@sashamulligan2993]

This woman sounds so calm and centered for just finding out her husband totally upended her/her children’s life.

[@maryt7468]

Oh Kaylin if you are reading this: First, I’m so sorry - you sound like you need a hug. You also sound like you need someone to get really pissed off on your behalf. You deserve the truth, you deserve loyalty. From both of these men. I am praying you find peace and comfort and happiness.

[@marisadf13]

I'm so sorry Kaylin 💔this is such a painful situation.

[@GreenBean3141]

It’s easier to accept bad behaviour than hold that person accountable because it makes it easier to accept than to feel uncomfortable.

[@mwhe3111]

This girl seems completely disconnected from what happened. She needs to take a big step back.

[@vivianivey6663]

She’ll never be able to forgive him for what this will do to her children. And her father is reinforcing a concept that will forever change the way her daughters view themselves.

[@miranda13c]

I could not imagine my own father defending my husband for cheating on me. That’s just heartbreaking. It says A LOT about her father as well.

[@lizab8400]

I have been betrayed by my father and husband before. It's an awful feeling for a young lady. You feel worthless and unprotected. What got me through it was my faith, but it was extremely difficult.

[@Melissa-de7ye]

Thank you Dr Delony for taking the time to VALIDATE each callers feelings! It’s incredible to witness/observe.

[@Crunchycon01]

I’m simply flabbergasted that the father is siding with the “bro”. My dad, when baby girl came home crying over some guy (and it was a cheating husband, eventually)? He was done with the guy. Completely. My dad could be crusty, but I never, ever had to doubt he was on my side. Thank you, Dad. I love you and miss you.

[@JenniferAguiartampa]

My dad broke his hand punching a guy who abused me. He would have put this guy in the hay chopper. And if I had cheated, he would have disowned me.

[@pam7002]

Shame on her father. Shame, shame. I don't care what season it is, the father should have fired the cheater. And, not only did the husband cheat, he lied and received his wife over a period of time. She needs to dump him, he can never be trusted.

[@pa2359]

I wish I talked to him when I was going through mess, but would not talk in public. I cried for 6 months but got myself back slowly. I realized I must do something for my worth, now almost finishing nursing and divorced him few months ago. It was 26 years of relationship and it was very difficult.

[@DNICHOLEP]

In a private business in most states you can fire a person for whatever reason you want. Idk what y'all are on lol

[@shaylaahava6413]

Not if this (cheating) is the actual reason... it may be liable for a wrongful termination. The father should just fire the son-in-law without a listed reason. At-will and nothing more.

[@michaelatheharpist]

I think that you can fire for no reason but not any reason. For example, you can fire a pregnant woman just because but if you fire her because she's pregnant then you have a problem/lawsuit on your hands.

[@AB-ij3im]

Those laws only apply to businesses of a certain size. If it’s just the dad, hubby and a couple of other people, they won’t apply.

[@bdraghici1]

You guys shoud develop a dating app, so difficult to find frugal, reasonable ppl anymore, love your shows!

[@rebeccat7259]

Do it!

[@LoneStarLady-]

Love that you called the father out, too. Double betrayal. Father’s statements are almost worse. Gaslighting to tell you it’s not betrayal. Agree with the good doctor that should question the “it was only emotional.”

[@patriciamurphy954]

I would lay this to my dad I would go off on him. In so many ways that tell him he chose my lying cheating husband and he did fire him he should be protect his daughter so this tell me he would protect his granddaughter either. I would divorce my husband and disowned my father. And none of them would ever see the kids again. None of these in her life manned up for her.

[@John-du2mq]

The man cheated on his spouse, that is separate from his relationship with his daughters. Their daughters need their father.

[@tashajoykin5192]

@@John-du2mqThe daughters could very well hang themselves because they married men like their father later on in life, starting a cycle of death and destruction, all because the man’s fee fee’s are more important than a trusting marriage.

[@Juhani139]

I can feel this lady's pain like a heavy blanket through this call. I hope she is well.

[@whowantstoknow2617]

Both the dad and the husband are awful. This poor lady. I hope she finds peace.

[@hbma.-]

The poor mom and her girls…already betrayed by the men who should’ve always had their back.

[@terricox3559]

John, her friend support group dont just have to be women. It just has to be a real friend.

[@tiffanyh.5788]

Men will just F her, and leave.

[@yvonnejones8286]

He will not change

[@mrskitty7929]

If she has no job skills, it might be better to plan an escape over a year or two with online training. Just ending the marriage might place her in poverty. Biding her time and using her planning skills would be a salvation

[@oc2538]

Divorce divorce divorce. Breaks my heart but tell your father that your peace of mind and your kids future is at risk. How can you raise your daughters and ask them to have self respect. Time to end things. It doesn't matter why. Also cheaters will always the other person "you didn't show me love. You didn't tell me this or that." If you have little kids, you don't have energy for anything else. It is surival mode. The thing is he doesn't sound remorseful.

[@TW-ps2cr]

How you are NOT an international phenomenon, Dr Deloney, bewilders me.