"I’m not basic" I’m BETTER

[@zoeunlimited]

Drop the times you thought you were SO nottt basic. 🌝 I’ll go first: listening to *one* ear bud back in the wired headphone days :))

[@kavya12kohli]

Hanging my bag on one shoulder. I thought I was cool😂 It was a mess. My bag would constantly slide down my arm 😩 But I persevered because, "I'm not like other girls".🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@zoeunlimited]

@@kavya12kohli bahahaha I did that too🤣🤝 my poor right shoulder :’)

[@cami6086]

Saying Taylor Swift wasn't that good of an artist and very basic (please forgive me)

[@YazminA.Sanchez]

Not liking 1D cause I was a BTR fan🤪 (still am, and still a not fan of 1D, but I no longer feel different, just like I missed something)

[@ForeverSunsetHighwayToLife.]

Mine was back when I was trying on wrist bands and hair bands back in elementary, I thought that not many would have it, since most kinds of kids were obsessed being friends with someone whose popular and getting their style instead, but I was wrong including the cute decor hand clips that were colorful, when I got out of elementary and I got into 6th grade, outside of school someone wore the same old shit I used to have and some hair clips with a hair band, maybe a student I saw when I was in class back in elementary wore a wrist band to class, So yes call me basic, But basic With fashionable sense 💕

[@0909agnes]

Its weird because you cant be "basic" or "boring" but the second somebody starts to actually dress act and do things out of the norm and truly starts to express their creativity they arent called "quirky" or "interesting" most of the time these people are bullied and made fun of. Its like there is this weird level of "quirkiness" you have to be and you cant be too much or too little, its very suffocating!

[@lowkeyemilia]

Doja cat getting hate because of her expressing her new goth aesthetic is the biggest evidence that backs up your comment.

[@t.o903]

​@@lowkeyemilia She gets crap because she said her last album was a cash grab and she vapes on the red carpet.

[@antipathy.and.antimony]

Well freakin said

[@kali7055]

@@t.o903 No she already got crap before that… People were calling her „satanic“ and „mentally ill“ because she stopped adhering to the male gaze. It‘s all because she cut her hair short and wore less to no makeup more often and less feminine clothes. And because she got some new tattoos and was exploring a more goth/alt style. Girls missed the „old“ girly Doja which was really just her pop persona and men were complaining about how they couldn‘t jerk off to her anymore. It‘s so sick how „fans“ only liked her for how she used to look

[@kali7055]

@@t.o903 Also real fans know that Doja loves trolling and has done so for years. Alot of the stuff she has tweeted in the last months wasn‘t that deep or serious. Her past interviews or tearful reactions to accolades show that she did have some emotional attachment to her music and pride in it. But she‘s tired of it now and feeling suffocated by that old image and sound that she now wants to change. Can we blame her for lashing out at fans and calling her own music a cash grab, when 90% of basic pop music and artists are literally the same?

[@beans222uwu]

I think it's funny that individuality is so obsessed with yet it's so important for many of these same people to stay up to date on fashion trends.

[@sirenwantsbodilyautonomy]

Those are the same people who will see goths like me and call us "freaks" and shot too.

[@zoeunlimited]

SO TRUE

[@amethystdream8251]

What's especially ridiculous is the amount of ostracization one ends up dealing with when they do embody their genuine authenticity and individuality. My goodness the animosity. No regrets tho, I like me lol

[@justina9]

personally i don't think its the persons fault for being 'basic', they are just trying to fit in whether they know it or not.

[@whatishappening2797]

True! And often I think things are also "basic" because they are simply very likable and for example a song is very catchy - that's why a vast amount of people like it.

[@Bunnidove]

I love pumpkin spice, and a few other "basic" things and I feel no shame for it. Nobody should.

[@zoeunlimited]

Agreed!

[@justina9]

@@whatishappening2797 FR like it's ok it to like popular things

[@lotts2941]

personally i don t think it s a „fault“ to be basic to begin with :) i agree with your statement too tho

[@biljam972]

I am 50, I don't give a shit, I never even did. What's wrong with being "basic"? Wear your hair however you want, wear clothes that make you feel good and are comfy... who cares?

[@beamerboy420]

I love you

[@VINESSACR4FTED]

literally what my 50 year old mom says and older sister lol

[@panda22518]

I honestly dont get why its such a big deal

[@phoenixfire29]

Exactly, it shouldn’t matter! Let people do what they want ❤

[@corry9]

Facts!

[@hercreation]

I feel like the new trend of making fun of “pick me” girls is the new excuse yet again to make fun of young girls. Some of these peoples’ accounts are literally ALL ABOUT making fun of other girls (even if they are pick me’s) to the point where it’s obsessive imo.

[@chromberries7329]

Which is ironically, pick me behavior

[@marybean2231]

The only proper use of it is supposed to be calling out women for shaming other women. Now it's just a typical catty insult and used to demean more people it doesn't apply to.

[@aliceluis3272]

I agree and its just rude like maybe they are insecure and have some motive to be that way like you arent cooler if you make fun of someone instead of minding your own business and life

[@kat6038]

Pick me girls are girls who look down on other girls to appear more desirable (to men). As a feminist, as a human being, putting others down for your own benefit is not right. My point is that there is a purpose for the hate that 'pick me girls' are getting

[@hercreation]

@@marybean2231 agreed

[@orange_tea]

I loved this commentary about art and stealing, when copying is done right it's not copying it's inspiration. Also when people are scrutinizing every little thing you wear use or do it's easy to find intersections in what we use and do. (can we talk about how Selena and Hailey are being pitted against each other only for having dated the same man? isn't it a bit ridiculous?)

[@AngDevigne]

"You're basic and you know it, but they're basic and unaware." Is an iconic line. Thank you for sharing this video 🙏

[@xTIYx]

A while ago, when two male Japanese celebrities were spotted wearing the same ring, the internet assumed (and hoped) they were secret lovers lol How about Selena and Haley being secret lovers who share a wardrobe? It is just as possible (and as ridiculous) as all this drama

[@yata8354]

That was a good one 😂

[@vixxexo6855]

They also do with kpop idols when two idols wear the same clothing they think they date. It is even more stupid when people use stage outfits as examples as it is their stylist that choose their outfits then.

[@mercureen]

what on wattpad is this

[@unculturedbastard2892]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@lowkeyemilia]

bro the selena and hailey drama is so sad, people need to leave them alone and let them solve their problems privately, they're both matured adults who can work their issues alone without he need of fans constantly stirring up shit between them

[@persephone_srgns]

I WANT to be basic, they don't know what its like to be bullied because you are what you are, your clothes, passions, gender.....

[@persephone_srgns]

I'm not trying to be unique, like ooh look at me I'm so DiFfrEnT ppl poking fun at you behind your back, false rumours, fake friends...

[@little_rotten_girl222]

I can feel u, it happened to me when I was in primary school.

[@Bakerygo]

Yes, true weirdos will do anything to blend in but always stand out at the end.

[@jebesssBlato]

@@Bakerygo Story of my life.

[@MisukiShu]

Honestly I feel bad the way I treated pink color in my teens years, I'm sorry pink that was an emo phase

[@Mahahemingway]

As a creative director and someone also building a KZbin channel, I live by the motto of Great artist steal. Most of the films we love are heavily inspired or steal from the films that inspired them, songs are sampled to make other amazing songs everyday, in art and fashion styles are influenced and inspired constantly to further the art. That doesn’t make any of them any less valid. We have so many platforms to draw inspiration from and add our own spins accordingly. No one steals the same, that’s THE BEAUTY OF CREATIVITY AND INDIVIDUALITY! I’m constantly inspired by other content creators on KZbin for my channel and In my career as a Creative Director so I think originality and creativity lies in what you do with the idea 😌

[@thelying2594]

Fr creativity isn't about individuality its about taking something old and making something new whether it be with other old ideas or something completely unrelated.

[@heyheyvicky1498]

I agreee with you, I studied art history and when you know where to look you find copies over copies, great artists learn by copying and then changing the amount of what is copied and what's your own ideas or how you mix things. BUT if you're an lazy ass just using someone else's work as your own or copying so closely that it's actually theft I'm not okay with it. A great artist know how to copy well, so nobody can tell it's not their idea.

[@LotusesGalaxyOcean]

It’s all about the remix baby.

[@LovelyLittleLillies]

Naah I don't support that. Often the original creators don't have the same platform to receive recognition of their works. People we coin as creators of something we're never the originals. And as someone in the creative space it could be disheartening. And to have your creative work heavily lifted without any effort... Some people are just trying to be famous for the fame of it they'll steal content and have no qualms about it. Everyone wants to be credited for their works

[@Mahahemingway]

@@LovelyLittleLillies i respect your disagreement. Maybe you took my take in a literal sense. But I feel like we’re all here to inspire one another. I’m not talking about ripping someone off and putting you’re name on it. It’s creating with the inspiration from someone else and using a multitude of inspirations to create ya own. Art is meant to speak to folks and good art coveys action in others so if a photo sparks someone to make a film and they heavily lean on that photo (while giving credit) then i think that’s a beauty thing.

[@kleinerplagegeistplagegeis5057]

"There's a lot of beauty in ordinary things, isn't that kind of the point?" - Pamela Beesly

[@devinthomas5671]

Honestly is it Hailey copies Selena or the fact that Justin has a certain preference in his partners and so chose to date and later marry women who have a lot of similarities?

[@linav6260]

No, Hailey copies very specific details of Selena.

[@KorouNg]

No just get the correct information in scandalous media . Nobody is copying anybody. Lol😂😂

[@karinapertiz7815]

In my humble opinion, I agree that everyone is inspired by others and that is really something I like to do, and I’m pretty sure that, just like you said, everyone does. I’m actually not ashamed of it, as… that’s kind of how society works, BUT TO ME, there is a difference between being inspired by your channel for example, and making videos about topics I’m interested in; opposite to copying someone and suddenly: wearing the same hair colour as you, copying your video editing style, typography, even topics and giving basically the same opinion and thoughts you did, and the way you move your hands when you’re explaining something, the lighting, fill my instagram feed with similar photos, with similar poses and similar outfits that resemble you. Never did I even do that with my older sisters, of course I copied them… only not to the extent that I wanted to actually BE them. Not specifically speaking of Hayley Bieber because like you said, people can definitely be inspired and selena gomez is a very inspirational person but, I get where people think hayley crossed the line, and I think you simplified it a little bit too much. You’re obviously right but at the same time, it’s just too weird, whether it’s a propaganda orchestrated by them both, or just one of them or she really is obsessed, something’s off.

[@user-xh6jk4mi8u]

I wish you looked into the compilation that “proved” Hailey was copying Selena because many of those outfits were worn by Hailey first. You can’t just trust random compilations on the Internet 😭

[@NA22427]

EXACTLY idk why is it sooo hard for people to check out dates!!

[@Ray03595]

Was wondering the same thing. And some of the outfits were just all white or all black clothing. Seemed that flowery dress was the only piece they both 100% wore. And I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s an easy piece to find that other celebs have worn. Idk what’s up with the tattoos though that is a bit sketchy, but could be a coincidence, and could be from dating the same guy? The cooking show stuff… hardly original. We’ve got Brooklyn Beckham cooking for us too now 😂

[@NA22427]

@@Ray03595 this and Hailey have been doing cooking videos even before selena starts her show

[@user-xh6jk4mi8u]

@@Ray03595 if you’re talking about the letter tattoo, it was a thing with her church where their pastors daughter was sick so some of the congregation got her first initial tattooed on them. I also think someone said that they were both spotted with the tattoos in the same week of each other, and I don’t think that you can make arrangements with an artist and get a tattoo that fast (but maybe it’s different for rich people). Editing to add that I just looked it up apparently Hailey got the sparkle/star tattoo about a year before her.

[@reine2212]

It's just that in this drama, most of the people were tilted towards selena and manipulated "facts" according to that. Even influencers are riding the same bandwagon to get validation from 400million selenators

[@kavya12kohli]

I started watching your videos a year ago and now, I never miss a video from you. Your commentary videos are my favourite!!!! Love you Zoe ❤❤

[@blackdressy2872]

I don’t know how to explain this totally right but I’m gonna try. As a person who suspects of oneself to be on the autism spectrum, it’s been all my life to be “basic” to fit, and have tried all my life to do what other people do, failing many times because of being “weird” …”a freak”… and other people have made me feel bad because of not being “normal”. So it’s a bit upsetting to see other people romanticizing the “not like other girls” just to the perfect amount that people find you amusing… because when you are truly too much of a different thing… they hate you and reject you. Just know as an adult I have find a group of people who truly appreciate me, but even then I don’t talk about all my “special interest” because they will think poorly of me. Although it’s totally fine for me to like “basic” things… they are popular for a reason so maybe we can get something useful from those things. I don’t know if I made any sense but those are my two cents… I expect I won’t offend anyone, I’m sorry if I do, this is just my opinion and as an old teacher said “my world it’s not the world”. Thanks for all the informative videooooos!!! They are so fun to watch !! How do you make your research? Could you teach us? Because I would like to be better at research skills)

[@weevilsneevil]

i hope you find friends who appreciate you for who you are and enjoy talking about what you truly enjoy ... 🙏 i also suspect i may be autistic, and i have felt similarly my whole life. its hard connecting with people when they all find you strange, or intense, or quiet. ive now found a group of friends who are loving and supportive, who i can share anything with.. it is wonderful, and i wish you luck

[@viking-astronaut]

100% recommend going to some "nerdy" events and hang with some fellows who also have special interests! My best friend and I are both autistic and there is no bigger joy than sharing our special interests with each other. Don't force yourself to be something you're not, or you're gonna be wearing a mask all your life.

[@fellowhuman7085]

I believe this is an accurate take. The more conventional you are the easier you are to "swallow."

[@dd-kapibara1070]

​@@fellowhuman7085especially in the formative years, when most kids either have no empathy or underdeveloped empathy, and a pack mentality is the norm. Thinking back on it now, everyone else was just naturally able to fall in line without necessarily actively thinking about it, or didn't care/bother to conform. I was also very sensitive, so a look could make me cry, but my concentrated and deliberate but failed efforts to identify the things that bothered the other girls and some boys, when I really started to notice it, were like a toddler drawing a portrait like an adult that is an experienced artist. It probably seemed even weirder because I would go through periods of withdrawal from all my peers, when the constant rejection, subtle or not, became too emotionally painful to endure. The loneliness would set in, and I would begin another sad attempt of working for approval. I still remember my first day transferring into 4th grade and forcing my timid self to walk up to the group of girls from class and asking "can I play with you guys?", my first faux pas due to lack of prior unilateral rejections, the eye rolls, exchange of glances, immediate shift in the previously lively atmosphere, the scoffed "we're not playing", and the next 5 minutes of me not getting the social cues and asking why some of the girls are running off any time I tried to join the conversation until one said "it's because you're here", and sure enough, the satellite groups merged back into one big happy party of innocent 10 year old girls as soon as I left to sit by the schoolyard's door, waiting for the bell. 😅 It doesn't sting anymore when I think back on the memory, but it did for over a decade before I stopped feeling a strong desire to connect with others and the pain of any semblance of rejection, which, to me at the time, was like a stab to the heart and a kick to the stomach, internally I was silently responding to the looks of disgust or laughter behind my back with 'I apologize for needing to adhere to the teacher's requirements, I'm just doing this for my grade, I know we both don't want to be here right now, just tolerate me for two seconds and I'll get out of your face'. Now, I am fulfilled with the family I have and my sprinkle of friends that were socially inclined but were somehow happy to have my company and sought me out. Plus there's more time to indulge in hobbies without stressing about maintaining relationships 😊

[@seagullofficial3057]

we are all unique, which makes us the same

[@ephem-eris]

Uniqueness is the amalgamation of inspiration

[@gemxi8033]

I think the narrative with Hailey is not so much tht shes copying, but ppl are trying to say tht her whole life is based on Justin and/or Selena. Thus implying shes crazy and an actual weirdo and creepy. Honestly, to me, more and more, wanna be the same. I think youre right, ppl needs to be more honest cause EVERYBODY wants to be like somebody else.

[@LovelyLittleLillies]

I wonder if it's her pr tactic to get attention and fame. From the few videos I've seen of her she seemed like such a well spoken sweet girl with a lovely personality so it's sad that her life is headed that way, whether that's her doing or the press she receives from the public. Plus Hailey is a full blown model and she fits beauty standards. She could have been an icon.

[@heheing]

Thank you!! I had to scroll way too far down to find this comment. How do people not understand THIS is what was going on 😂

[@annaselbdritt7916]

The internalised male gaze is stronger than ever girls. There’s no better time than now to really get to know the man watching you in your head - we must know the name to hold power over it!

[@irenekatona7856]

My most unbasic flex is not having social media. But lmao who even cares live your life

[@TaraOzekin]

Unpopular (controversial) opinion: I think the same way about the cultural appropriation topic. I love to use trends from other cultures because I admire them and find them to be so interesting or beautiful. It’s a celebration! Plus as much as you might think something originated with your culture, other cultures may do it as well without your knowledge! 😮

[@pangpanglu4397]

As long as you're not claiming that you did it by yourself it's fine, I lo ve when people use clothes or patterns from my culture it makes me feel appreciated ❤ Plus, most people here hate our own culture so it's really positive to see other people embracing it and keep it alive.

[@lillauser9483]

Everyone wants to be unique until it doesn't benefit them...

[@PharySoul]

I was bullied my whole life for my style. My bullies dated the guys RIGHT after I dated them. Like no cap. And my bullies went so far as to get the same tattoo placements as me. I have blocked them all from my life. I see I was inspiring to them. But what upsets me is them saying they were the ones who did it first…. I just don’t care at this time of my life. I let them bullies live their life and I moved across the country so they couldn’t follow, date, see the same friends (that made all of them hate me…) everything. I am not joking. I want to spill her name so badly but I know that’s not right. Ugh. I think I’ve let this go lmaoooo 😅

[@reine2212]

No one knows them here so no one would care even if you spill their names

[@escobarines]

Totally believe you because I had a friend growing up who's always been stunning, but somehow in her school there'd be bullies doing random mean girl stuff like this... And from an outsiders perspective, I just find it AMAZING that anyone would have such an empty life (met alone a group of people) than they'd pay attention to everything a person does and look for ways to mock it? Joke's on them, that's jealousy in disguise

[@hystie1618]

Being basic and unique isnt to diffrent from eachother.I was bullyied for being diffrent.But I dont think my uniqueness holds up anymore in this days standers.I think Im normal.And honestly its great to be aware of it.

[@Elif-vz8rb]

Same

[@pranyaphookan]

Bro I don't even feel unique I straight up feel like an outcast 💀💀

[@stinajuli2957]

When I was a kid sometimes I was scared of someone thinking I’d copy them. My mom then told me it wouldn’t matter and that the person that I „copied“ should be seeing it as a compliment. And if someone copied me, I should see it as a compliment too🌸 I think that’s just one of the best things I have learned as a child 🌿

[@ludofratta2328]

The way I was low-key offended when you said that citizen kane is just an artistic film took me by surprise. I never watched old artsy movies until last year, because "I watch movies that I like and the old ones are not for me" kind of like you not listening to Taylor Swift because it's basic, I didn’t watch those because I didn’t want to be the quirky different one. Then I had a history and critic of cinema exam at my university and watched that movie. Although not my favourite movie, in the sense it's not a very rewatchable movie for my taste, is such a good movie that expands cinematic techniques like no others. Truly the best movie in the history of cinema, but I find it not the most entertaining

[@user-xh6jk4mi8u]

Lol I feel this cause I wrote a whole paper in college about how it changed cinema.

[@ididitoutofspite986]

Sometimes im sad i dont feel comfortable wearing more daring styles of clothing and stuff but then i remember i dont need flashy trendy pieces to stand out and my personality is all i need to draw people to me. I might not be the sharpest of the shiniest tool, but i think im good enough for those i drew in and those i surronded myself with.

[@IsabelleMukombachoto]

Me tooooo❤❤❤

[@4imee198]

Scandalous media did a deep dive video. 70-80% of the time Gomez is copying Haley. If she weren't famous that woman would be in jail for stalking a MARRIED ex. Playing the victim is not a personality or excuse for lack of talent 😂

[@IDK_Iamasloth]

12:10 THIS!! IDK how to express my thoughts and emotions but that one line made my eyes water. Ever since I was a child I always believed in "Be Unique". Sometimes to be unique I forget what I like and what I dislike. Right now, I am in my mid-teen years and I am struggling with my confidence. Sometimes I also felt like I need to be unique and different in whatever I do, to chase my dreams and ambitions. Like, I love doing art but when I found out most of the people also do a better job in arts in my class I felt bad and sometimes I was even jealous. I am a person who loves doing multiple things. Sometimes I even forced myself to like some activities so I can be different, and unique and also fit in/relate to what others do. But I was never passionate about those things I forced myself to do. Even though RN I enjoy all things, I am still struggling to do something just by enjoying it. I also want to thank Zoe. Her ways of thinking always allow me to expand my ways. It allows me to see things differently than just believing one person's POV.

[@_alternianIdiot]

at the end of the day, we’re just a collection of the things we admire and/or have picked up on. different interpretations you have of those things are up to you, but in itself are made by concocting the morals you’ve heard about in this life. you’re amazing, and no definition of basic or outlandish really exists; we humans made those terms. be good enough for yourself! love this video btw, it inspires me :)

[@seagullofficial3057]

I strive to do and wear what I like regardless of it’s uniqueness or basicness. When something is more unique more people will notice it and gather unwanted attention, when it’s basic you feel this sense of unfulfilment.

[@lunasquib]

I started to realise this which at first made me feel so not special Friend groups are all the same Gossip, fun times, laughs, drama, deep talks And at first I minded, I wanted to have something special with my friends, not something basic Now I’m like, who cares. Good friend groups solved the problem Its like wanting another way to solve 1+1=2 🤷🏻‍♀️ If it works and I like it, it’s fine

[@theddae]

As an artist, creativity is basically borrowing through your own filter. A good artist is someone who uses references to develop their skill set. When using references you tend to see what portions of it you want and what other portions of it you choose to leave behind when making the final illustration. This was probably a bad explanation but I tried

[@yuhobin]

It makes sense thank you

[@jlcustis]

Always love your video, I don’t know why this help my depression a lot. It was simple but true. Something value to watch.

[@ShutterMurgh]

*In a world of Haileys and Selenas,just be you* ❤ Toxic Selenators and Toxic Hailey fans please do some work and stop comparing every inch of their lives, they're too old for this now.

[@reine2212]

I don't think hailey fans even give an f about selena.

[@hey_you.]

​@@reine2212 yeah we know that freak 🤡

[@thebrickthathitjasongrace2902]

I’m so glad that you are talking about this ♥️:)

[@thebrickthathitjasongrace2902]

@@namlamadni5718 😂😂

[@coconutkiss222]

It's ironic because no one is basic, everyone has unique features, likes and dislikes and experiences in life- yet it is the ones who want to be perceived as cool, copy the others to feel included

[@LittleRedTeaCake]

There was an article I read, years ago now that talked about how misogynistic the term "basic" had evolved to be because it targeted girls/women liking the things that are marketed to them! It's kind of wild when you think about it like that. There's also a great College Humor video from years ago they did about how "frappes are amazing and Christmas lights are cozy! of course you want them!" Like I'll throw the insult at my husband, but it's more as a reference to The Good Place than the actual meaning of it. I don't really care about celebrity drama anymore, I spent a large portion of my life engrossed (I was always around alllllll of the gossip magazines) and it just isn't interesting to me anymore because everyone is terrible now lol. But I did think it the similarities was interesting, but it was also under a microscope, so of course it's going to seem more extreme. People probably latch onto the conspiracy of it because of who the ex is.

[@Kai-jw1uj]

your unique style is a mixture of the people around you, the people you up to and fashion you admire

[@absolutelynotellen]

I couldn't careless if someone's basic or quirky, i just want to know how to get my sleeping time not wrecked. 🙃

[@avalonmoonshine5760]

As an artist, I was confused by the H & S tea on my timeline 🤣. Art IS inspiration.

[@soja8044]

one of the thing that gets my blood boiling with people who try so hard to be different, it's when we actually are different, like alternative styles, listening to unknown music or liking a specific weird kind of art, we're just in the "weird" case and nobody wants to talk to us or interact with us, except people who understand us. People want to be the right kind of "different" and that's sad, just be yourselves it's much better. As for "stealing" other people's fashion or manierism or personality traits, it's just life ? Like if several of you're friends talk a certain way you're likely going to talk like that as well.

[@KittySnicker]

I’m 31 so this information on young celebs keeps me hip lol. As someone who still has all the songs I bought on itunes, It blows my mind that people listen to music they don’t enjoy just for their Spotify wrapped or whatever! I listen to everything from Britney Spears to Disturbed and Metallica lol.

[@MsUsagi007]

Everyone wants to be diffrent. And here I am spending money on therapy and meds to be more like everyone else and normal. No wonder it is so hard😂😂😂

[@adhyathakursingh8515]

i really hope you read this i’m in my teens and you’re really helping me through my way to be more honest with myself i always wanted to look different i really don’t know how to explain myself but i think you just helped me entirely reset my brain also i think you’re a really smart person congrats

[@johannaa9325]

It’s an illusion that we are all separate and finite beings, but our ego wants us to believe that because the ego couldn’t identify with a made up story to feel the sense of uniqueness and superiority. Deep down we just know that we’re all one on a level of consciousness which gives true peace, joy, freedom and love for all there is ☺️🫶🏼

[@selma9800]

i agree with a lot of what you say, but i do feel that there are some points you miss. when you are excluded socially because you dress different or because your key interests are considered too unusual or weird, I understand why people try to take back the word and call themselves weird. Its to empower yourself and keep going until you find people that you fit in with. Society does deem people weird, its a thing which i feel like isnt discussed at all in this video. At that point you can accept who you are and change or you can embrace the fact that others dislikw your weirdness and stay true to yourself.

[@Aliasfakename123]

I don't follow either of the two involved in this ~controversy~ and I mainly know Selena from her makeup line, but idk... I find it incredibly hard to believe the copying is because of some subconscious admiration or respect. Everything celebrities do is calculated. I think we're being a little too generous with the takes in this video (although it was still good!)

[@Ray03595]

The fan accounts seem to be more calculated…

[@Aliasfakename123]

@@alyx417 Well of course not literally everything. I don't think they're strategically planning what to eat for breakfast lol. But obviously they have a public image and, yes, people that help them make (what they think will be) the best moves for their career and earn the most clout. I'm sure input varies on a case by case basis. Also pretty sure everyone is aware of this.

[@Aliasfakename123]

@@Ray03595 not really sure what you mean by this? I'm not a fan of either. I'm just pretty cynical when it comes to stuff like this, maybe I'm not being totally fair to them? Don't know

[@eduardaarrais]

I dont think the issue with Hayley and Selena is that Hayley is not "original", the issue is that she's copying her husband's ex. I understand the point you were trying to make, just think this was a bad argument to make lol. Also, I think its important to have the conversation about how much is enough. Copying others is natural and inevitable. We are, at the end of the day, an amalgamation of all the people we've ever met. But copying the same person over and over to the point your entire personality is that one other person is concerning. I think that's why people are so quick to criticize when they see someone blatantly copying someone. Taking inspo is ok, but straight up copying always makes me take a step back and reconsider what I'm seing.

[@parakeet5903]

Yeah, it reminded me about the girl that copies Ariana Grande.

[@greenjuice3]

​@@parakeet5903 a fan cosplaying as their idol is different from copying your husband's ex lol

[@eduardaarrais]

@parakeet5903 yeeees. Have you heard of that one Ariana Grande impersonator that started an OF? Man that's wild.

[@eduardaarrais]

@@greenjuice3 I think they were referring to the second part of my comment no worries.

[@user-xh6jk4mi8u]

But many of the outfits that Hailey “copied” from Selena in the compilation were worn by Hailey first… I wish she didn’t include those photos or at least looked into them more because we all know people love to lie on the Internet.

[@thelying2594]

I never wanted to be different but I've been told I am and its not as great as people think it is. I don’t know famous people, I dont stay close to trends but will take what I like from them, I think dating in high-school stupid, my music taste is odd to a lot of people I know, Im very socially anxious. But then I started to find groups of peoples more I am more comfortable with and the difference is that im not different. People like the same music and styles I do. I think relating to others and inspiration are better then being 100% unique because sometimes that feels really lonely.

[@mynosycats]

I kind of had the opposite problem when I was in my class in school...I tried to fit in but our views were vastly different, so I felt pretty lonely. Now I have different courses, thus I got to know more people and made new friends with similar views. I'm looking forward to go to university since I'll probably meet even more people with similar interests and views on life :)

[@Thewierderthebetter]

Just imagine being under the same roof with a Selena fan and a Hailey fan. That was me during this drama

[@magzabecka8788]

Okay but with this Selena/Hailey drama people tend to forget but they have a whole teams working on their personal brands - so a lot of similarities may come from those individuals taking ideas from the same source. Exactly the same way you see brands copying ideas from others because they see an opportunity. Its all business at the end of the day 😅

[@watermelonsuga970]

Love ur hair zoe!

[@myrtila]

I’ve definitely felt the need to be unique at some point but more than anything, I’ve tried to fit in. Tbh I even feel kinda nervous and anxious when I stand out. And being realistic, I probably don’t even stand out. It’s all in my head. So I don’t get the whole individualism thing. It may be dependent on where you live and how much time you spend on the internet lol

[@lovesplus3879]

I love this video, that came form the “drama” ugh. But honestly the “stealing like an artist” is most of the time just stealing/racism/misogyny, etc. Especially if it’s Pablo Picasso 👀👀

[@1rene101]

In my opinion every one is different in their own ways yet still we somehow are similar to each other Social media has made everything about “coping”like in the shops you have a multiple copy of the same shirt,jacket,t shirt,pants etc for a reason it’s funny when you do something first someone who does it after you is coping you If we continue to do this in a few years the world will be like “wait you breathe air??guys this person is coping me”

[@tammystiletto]

Like Christina vs Britney, both are worth more than gold but people just want something to fight about.

[@Kiy0me]

As an artist who lovesss to write stories and make ocs ,i get called creative but whatever i create /write/draw is just what i found,loved and made mine

[@thecozyconstellation]

we're all the same yet we're all unique. humanity is cool & weird!

[@eszteragnesnagy6508]

Nothing resembels better that trends and fashions are coming back over and over again, than that one pair of Lewis jeans in my closet, that belonged to my mother before me, and someone asked me like two weeks ago where did i got them.

[@husun3107]

This changed my mindset about this topic completely

[@MilaMoe01]

I don't remember where I read it or heard it, but it was that in our modern society we're so worried about being unique to claim our individuality that we ended up being individualized, detached from our fellow humans.brothers and sisters. What I'm saying is sometimes being basic or to copy someone' else is just a sign that we want to be closer to each other and I think that's great.

[@Insomnia19101]

I never understood the problem with “basic” tbh like sorry I’m having a fun chill lifestyle 💀

[@IHaruu_]

Oh god seeing the pick me girls vids annoys me since I keep being called like that The thing is I have social anxiety so when I'm in public I try my best to be perfect. I don't even interact with males nor want their love I act in a certain way bc of me and yet I still get called pick me girl😐 I hope the day when others realise it's none of their business come soon

[@magic_girlll]

im a basic bitch and i love it starbucks, olivia rodrigo,taylor swift, bubble baths, crop tops, adidass shoes and adding a bow to lit everythinggg

[@tabiwright9582]

I used to cool myself "weird" or "different" when I was in my young to mid-teens until I found a bunch of other teenagers doing the same and resolved If I was like them and saying the same things, I could not be "different". I just let other people use that label on me if they feel it's an appropriate description. although I try to no longer hold on to it tightly, my life choices will determine whether I'm swimming upstream, not my day-to-day actions.

[@soumyasriperambuduru8124]

I understand the idea/concept that its fine if we see relatable things or ppl basically copying us interms of style, speech or habits however i read somewhere that hailey went out with selen's friends and hungout with them and they were regular people and were not even friends with justin that kinda felt like beyond just copying and literally wanting to be someone else entirely.. i still have some scenarios where people copy my ideas or my likes and dislikes to fit into a community at office or get hikes is pretty messed up too.. idk where you draw the line.

[@heyheyvicky1498]

To the young people here watching this: copying others is especially in teen years your way to finding your own style und likings and what suits you. I'm 30 now and dang feel I good about my taste, some things are probably considered basic, but >>I

[@liuser]

it's the definition of why many artists get pressed when you compare them to works they are objectively similar to

[@dua_sunshine]

not every time two women fight we should say no we support others women no if someone did something wrong then it should be punish

[@Prior2Popular]

Ok but the reason people don’t like copycats is because it’s annoying and frustrating to be copied by someone.

[@Brusselsprout763]

I think everyone is unique no matter what you like

[@Im_Julissa]

I think the reason behind why being unique seems more appetizing is because it shows confidence Expressing true confidence in places you don’t belong appeals to others It’s bc it shows someone genuine Yet… with applying the most basic standards many people try too hard to stay away from Making efforts to fit in can show fake confidence no matter how unique you make yourself It doesn’t work the same 😂

[@NFX]

I think it's so frustrating and sad, that women always have to compete against each other and that the media will always see any event to do so ("who wore it better"). I hate it, can we just celebrate how we are and what we can do? Copying or not?🙃 I started to pay more attention to Ariana Grande now that I'm almost 30 and I love her style. As someone, who has the same height and petite body as her, I love to see women that have similar aspects as me as my inspirations. I admit it openly, that I try to create something that is me, yet take parts of things my "idols" do. I don't see any shame in that. However, I shame myself for my emo teenage years when I was 17. I used to be soooo "different" and not like the other girls, with my half-chopped black hair, black nails, and black clothes - just like the others 😂😂

[@dreamchaser7603]

Stop blaming the media for everything!!Real life people are doing it!!

[@NFX]

@@dreamchaser7603 Well, that's what I'm saying. And the media is benefitting from it.

[@curiousmoa3998]

There is nothing wrong with getting inspiration, adopting behaviors, personality traits or habits, since we probably don't even notice it sometimes

[@lindaviolet7358]

i love taylor swift and i love basic clothes, and im not trying to hide being basic, i love it

[@alaa3275]

I don't understand the need for pausing , zooming in on hand gestures and the purposefully patchy editing Zoe does. She makes great points and I thoroughly enjoy her discussions but the other stuff are distracting and unnecessary. in my opinion it feels forced like she's trying to play this persona and it wasn't like this in her older videos

[@magdaarsene7819]

This has always been one of my biggest pet peeves. People will go out of their way to make fun of the "classic" pick me while simultaneously shaming others for their music taste, what type of coffee they drink or their style of clothing etc. It's the same thing but no one calls it out

[@nineteenthirteen]

YOUR HAIR!! IT LOOKS AMAZING!!

[@vasilisaikryannikova]

I feel like maybe I misunderstood the point of the video or I felt like it didn't hit the mark? I love your commentaries but I feel like this is a huge topic to cover in roughly 15 minutes. I feel like most young people first strive to fit into social groups and try to find the balance between being able to express themselves and still being accepted (like highschool time). And copying in this aspect is key in 'proving' yourself in certain cultural or social settings. If it is not the mainstream aesthetic that draws you in it could be a subculture, in which among the mainstream you will stand out, but you are still drawing inspo from a certain niche. Even if you dress alternatively, fashion is mostly about referencing, I am not saying that it can't be completely unique, but it is something that is almost always built on preexisting fashions. I think the notion of finding this sense of belonging is really important in this discussion. Where no matter how unique or basic you will want express yourself (this is also on a scale and very much depends on how curious and knowledgeable you are and also very much influenced by ones privileges in life), you will always look for a crowd to belong to or want to be associated with, wether that is high fashion, punk, emo or just dressing differently, these are all their own subgroups. It's all about belonging imo and I just felt like it wasn't covered in the vid? sorry for the rambling oopsie

[@janvimishra1917]

I really feel like being the most basic or kinda boring person by nature like sometimes it hits me so hard....i can't even adjust to people's talks or anything like being really very socially awkward and idk how to be over this....

[@amandapandajayne]

You make me want to have spilt tone hair too it's beautiful

[@dinasilva9263]

It's always a good day when we have a new vídeo in your Channel. Love the new hairstyle.

[@crystalm3th573]

*2/5* This video missed the mark imo. The whole idea false sense individualism, conditioning to try to be as “original” as possible, associating brand names to self worth, subconsciously copy another human are SUCH interesting topics. Using Hailey Selena drama really dumbed it down. Although pitting women against each other is everyone’s and internets favorite hobby, the “coincidences” between these 2 particular women, alongside the stalking allegations proven by many, are no joke. Hence it became as big as it is. Also, multiple occasions of repeated actions are sus not only for celebrities, even for 2 average human beings. There have been instances of a woman literally trying to become another woman by copying everything they do. Imagine passing that off as “it’s okay we’re all not special so go ahead” Which is why I said using that celeb drama for such an amazing topic like this, really did it injustice. Because we know celebs live with a different code when it comes to clothing and representing brands, or having a personal style. Unlike us average people, they have to create a personal brand, hence “copying” becomes an issue, especially when it’s this blatant. This is no secret. Idk why this was even used here, like we don’t know these women are celebrities, they have diff rules compared to regular people and there’s more than such copying, like I mentioned earlier. There could’ve been surveys here, comparison with different countries, causes of this individualism, it’s effect on consumerism etc. This topic has SO MUCH POTENTIAL. But it was disappointing.

[@GuardaGuada]

I think since our clothes, hairdyes and Jewellery come mostly from companies that sell those same products to other people expecting people to never repeat an item of clothing or jewellery that someone else used is a lot. Everyone will repeat looks sometimes

[@savorysnot8604]

fashion and copying everything is different 🤷🏼‍♀️ My friend has similar style to Selena but I've never seen her in the exact same clothes or doing the exact same tattoos

[@lovedabook491]

Even Selena did the same star tattoo Hailey did in the same place and nobody blink an eye. But just ONE tattoo Selena did first before Hailey, people are shouting🤷. But most of this copying thing Hailey did it first that's why you can't find the date in most.

[@savorysnot8604]

@@lovedabook491 I'm not really into the drama, I wanted to say that's it's incorrect to say copying and fashion is the same

[@lovedabook491]

@@savorysnot8604 You mean copying and inspiration are different not copying and fashion.

[@hey_you.]

Exactly 💯💯

[@tovethecat]

The thing about people trying not to be basic is that people are more attracted to an average person as they would be less likely to be diseased in previous times so if your trying to be unique for a mate you don’t really need to

[@muskan3697]

THE BEST COMMENTARY VIDEO . PERIODT. 10/10.

[@Kirschtorte112]

I have been basic all my life and never had problems of people judging me. Since I became an extreme people pleaser (toxic relationship) I had this insecure urge to stand out and changed my style to what was 'in' or i thought was and since that shift happened, people started to feel way more confident to shame or bully me for who I was desperately trying to be and that is somebody else! People sense fakeness. Being basic is being authentic, i guess thats whats going on here most..

[@luperdrgz]

I didn’t know people were this concerned about being the same or different from others😅

[@Lia-i2k]

Ikr!!!

[@Baby_Bibble]

We're all unique, yet we're all the same. It's fascinating.

[@lettinggrace]

Your hair is so cool!

[@ArcaneLuxian]

People also unconsciously and consciously mimic others in an effort to get others to like them or show that they do like them. It's explained through this mimic expirement. It's a sociological need to get people to like us for the sake of safety in numbers.

[@noraa.616]

*The word that should be used is, ‘classic’ or ‘timeless’ (depending on the context), in my opinion, instead of the word, ‘basic’. Being a classic or timeless babe is nothing to be ashamed of. Having said that, I personally loathe psl drinks, but I love some spiced stuff.*

[@norseen1481]

Love watching your videos it just so good and always on point 💞