"I'm SCARED of getting sober because.." (Episode 204) #sobriety #sobercurious #sober #soberoctober

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[@TheDgordon1990]

Hey family! I’ve been sober from alcohol going on 3 years this July. I never felt like I was afraid of letting go of drinking, while I was contemplating it. I always thought it was just a bad habit I couldn’t break. In hindsight I realize that I was full of fear. Actually the thought of dealing with a life full of trauma, hurt, abandonment and regret, without a coping mechanism, kept me in the cycle of alcohol dependency. It was my friend, my counselor and my confidant. The destructive relationship we develop with alcohol, drugs, foods etc is deceptive and cyclical in nature. It’s an illusion of true pleasure. I believe the thought of letting go of those illusive pleasure scares most of us.. “What will I do when I feel sad, lonely, angry etc?” We are living testaments that once we stop fearing, then and only then, can we begin to live. I hope this resonates with someone! I understand you, I appreciate you, I care for you all, Peace ❤

[@gwillis01]

We all experience frustration, stress, and/or emotional pain. We either use healthy or unhealthy tools to cope. What some people need to do is change to a better set of tools.

[@TheDgordon1990]

@@gwillis01 love that! May peace be apon you ✨✨✨

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Took the words right out of my thumbs!

[@jasoncampbell3318]

The illusion of true pleasure. Perfectly said. Those words are another tool I will put into my staying sober toolkit. Thank you to comment.

[@TheDgordon1990]

@@jasoncampbell3318 thank you for your reply! You guys are like the family I never had. Peace to you ❤️

[@FreezeDriedIceCreamPrepper]

Completely blew it yesterday. Today, I'm working on forgiving myself, doing better, and not throwing up

[@TropicalTaquito]

Same, I was great for 2 days after a two week binge. I was up to 5:30am drinking and embarrassing myself on social media to the point I just deleted my account because I didn’t want to go back and see what I did. Woke up around 2pm feeling like shit and full of anxiety. I’m not religious at all but I prayed to the universe and asked for strength to get through the day. The hardest part is when 7pm comes around and my hangover finally fades away and I think, hmm should I drink today? My biggest challenge is when I pick my wife up from work and wonder, did she have a hard enough day where she says, I want to “relax”. “Relax” is the word that soothes my brain and I get locked into going to the store and buying a bottle of wine. I’d get home, put on call of duty and completely forget my anxiety, and then I wake up the next morning and feel horrible, think terrible thoughts, and feel so much anxiety that I feel like I am outside of my own body sometimes.

[@FreezeDriedIceCreamPrepper]

@TropicalTaquito Yup, I'm with ya on all accounts! The only good thing about a hangover this bad, is that I'm really over it for a while. Hopefully. Lol Luckily, every day is a new beginning and we can try again 💪 Great name, by the way!!

[@TropicalTaquito]

@@FreezeDriedIceCreamPrepper same I’m on that “hopefully” part right now. Have to pick up my wife in 2 hours and I know that’s going to be a test. And thanks!

[@patrickwalker-nolan7617]

Yep you got thrown from the horse of sobriety, no one said it’s an easy ride, but what shows your character is you get right back on and keep on trying. Yippee yay yaaaaa cowboy. 😁😁😁

[@MegaShankie]

Hru?

[@Musiklover66]

I literally just finished crying my eyes out and praying because i am scared of sobriety. Then I found this video. Thank you!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I pray before every one of my videos to "say what I need to say, when I need to say it and how I need to say it, to help guide those who are lost". FOUND YOU 🫂

[@BrittanyMichelle4]

*GOD SAYS "FEAR NOT FOR I AM WITH YOU" THE LORD DOES NOT GIVE US A SPIRIT OF FEAR , BUT OF A SOUND MIND* GOD IS AMAZING AT BEING AMAZING! THANK YOU LORD - WE LOVE YOU 💕🙏🏻

[@Kevizhere]

I was scared too and it took several attempts to get sober. I know it sounds cliche probably, but the "one day at a time" really is a thing. I finally quit when I told myself I would just quit drinking for today so I could feel better and I would stay sober until I felt better. I ended up feeling so good that now I'm over 500 days sober. Hope you took the leap. It's worth it!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@Kevizhere Great advice Kevin!!!

[@whyqu.i.t]

I think I wanna try.... again

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I'll be patiently waiting for great updates!

[@gwillis01]

Go for it!! Strive to improve yourself!!

[@Stace1962-cebu.Province]

I know I want to try again actually I'm three days in and yesterday I had three cocktails just keep going keep working

[@gwillis01]

@@Stace1962-cebu.Province We are all imperfect. The trick is to get back on the sober track again. The restart is more important than the stumble.

[@korth]

I am 8 days alcohol free... again. prayer, working out, meditation, stoicism, breath work, positive thinking has worked for me, treating each day as day 0, Thanks for this Jae! To everyone out there struggling never give up

[@jeffreyjohnmann]

Stick with it my friend, you can do this!

[@FreezeDriedIceCreamPrepper]

I needed this today. Thank you!!

[@gwillis01]

Keep striving to improve yourself.

[@TonyRome402]

Most people never quit drinking because alcohol mimics courage. It takes real courage to quit drinking. If you stay sober, you will eventually feel braver than you ever have in your life. I have been sober 8 1/2 years. Anyone trying to get sober, keep trying, and dont you dare give up on yourself even if you start drinking again, try again. If you can get past the 2 year mark; you will understand what freedom really means. Thank you, my friend, for another awesome video....Truth, justice, love ❤️

[@Vladdicted]

You're doing a great job. I myself quit drinking 88 days ago and that decision changed my life completely. I even made a video, by the way, because I'm really happy. Life without alcohol is hard, but it's beautiful.💪

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Yahoooo 88 days! Good luck fellow content creator 😎

[@Vladdicted]

Thx) Sobriety is the main thing, everything else is not so important. @@GettingSoberAgain

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@Vladdicted Nice mantra 😁

[@FWMCBigFoot]

Day 22. Feeling pretty confident this time. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[@MrHandy-nr5hi]

You won’t regret it!

[@stackenandpackin6716]

I’m approaching 5 months and honestly I didn’t think I could get here. With that said, stay with it, it continues to get easier. Not sure why alcohol gets a free pass in our society but it does and it’s ours to deal with. These videos Jae makes helped be get to where I am today and you will do it too. Stay the road, you deserve it. Just sayin…

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on your sober streak!!! Keep it going!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Day 22 let's goooooo!!! What do you feel is changing to bring you this newfound confidence??

[@jasoncampbell3318]

Fantastic effort. Stick with this channel and with Jae, the man knows the struggle. He has helped me so much, early days for me as well....but no way I would have got this far without this channel. Facts

[@PHATPAT-C17]

Today is day 13 .... again lol. I lost count on how many times I did this., but back at it... thinking back i can't remember if I had any type of Fear going into sobriety. I know if I kept drinking i be having troubles breathing again and I will become someone I dont know. Still trying to figure out who I am and what is my purpose.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

What would you say keeps you restarting the clock on sobriety? Self reflection is a top 10 tool for success in every journey (and to find out who you are and what your purpose is). Sometimes we have to sit in the audience before we can take the stage. Or, be the student before we become the teacher. We have to be a child before a parent, and sometimes we have to be a little wreck less before we can truly appreciate all that we have. Be patient. I asked myself that question for 38 years until I started this channel. Idk if this is truly my entire purpose, but it's my purpose today, and that's all that matters. I can clearly see now all the trials and tribulations that I went through, all the hard lessons that I had to learn, the loss, going to jail, the dead end jobs, the bankruptcy, the health scares, my education by way of going to college on four separate occasions... I've certainly asked more times that I can count "Why is this happening to me?". and I always felt like I could hear a voice telling me to be patient, you'll understand when you get there. been out here I am answering your comment 😎 My life's work is complete. I will be going into seclusion now lol

[@adamd8442]

Damn that's honest! Powerful. What always trips me up is stress, anxiety, and the complete lack of coping skills. I stub my toe=I want a drink... I am that pathetic.

[@gwillis01]

Keep on trying to improve yourself. The best results take work and struggle.

[@FreezeDriedIceCreamPrepper]

​@@adamd8442Me, too, totally! It's sunny, so we should BBQ and drink. It's rainy and we can't go outside so we should drink. I've been good on my diet, I broke my diet, I stayed up too late, I woke up too early, on and on and on 🙄🙄

[@SubaruJeff444]

After being an alcoholic for over 30 years, I'm so Happy to say I have 1 year Sober plus a few weeks. I thought I'd never say that, I thought I'd never eat healthy, or have normal blood work and blood pressure, Never say Never. Dont give up when the little voice says it's ok to have one, occupy your mind , count backwards from 100 by 7 or mix it up with a different number. Have some candy in your pocket or purse, it helps😊. Exercise, Progress over Perfection. Surround yourself with others in our group. And Find a Way to stay Sober that Works For YOU!! Love you all.

[@adamd8442]

Candy. Yes. Candy and chocolate. Every brief period of sobriety I have achieved I have filled the void with an excess of food, sugary drinks and candy. I am not very good at being sober. What I have found, is that community helps, be it this channel, AA, or simply a friend. Getting sober alone is a nearly impossible feat.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

THANK YOU for answering the prompt! Goodness, I was about to lose faith in this entire community for a second there 🤣

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on your long sober streak.

[@mowolf2620]

Just over 6 months sober and these videos really still hit home.. It's so awesome to see how just talking and listening to people who have been through a lot of the same crap can help! I don't watch as regularly as I used to but still come back every now and then to remind myself of these first few days and weeks. Especially now that the weather keeps warming up and temptation creeps up from time to time - Keep at it, people, it's worth it, I promise!

[@SubaruJeff444]

And soon you'll have a year🎉

[@mowolf2620]

@@SubaruJeff444looking forward to that! Good luck on your journey, I hope you are doing well :)

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Thank you for not forgetting about us here in the community. It's difficult enough to answer all these comments by myself, but with you on our side, we can make miracles happen. ✨ We give AND receive ✨

[@Cracktune]

congrats on the 6mos! thats large

[@SUNNYSEHGAL-m8w]

Thanku so much ji

[@craigestory6230]

Appreciation here. My number one fear of getting sober was that I was gonna have to change my life. Truth? What needed to be changed in my life was me! One day at a time living my young friend. And some days it’s one breath at a time, but we all capitals here can do this thing together❤❤❤

[@Cracktune]

this is the truth. And to grow along these lines is so rewarding.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

"What I needed to change in my life was me!" 🏆🏆🏆

[@joko09010]

“I’m scared of getting sober because…” I thought facing life without the option of a quick escape seemed like perpetually being in the dentist’s chair knowing I can’t have any anesthetic. But I finally realized that I didn’t have as much of an “I can’t stop drinking” problem as I had an “I can’t start living” problem. Therapy, AA, education - including this channel - I’m 9 months sober now (which seems like nothing and everything) and my anxiety and fear are at an all time low. 💪🏻💕 It’s different now.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

BAMMMMMMMMMMM!!!!! And just like that... 👉New Life

[@hayleyoesch1313]

I'm right there with you! Congratulations on your sobriety streak and living the life you want 😁

[@jeffreyjohnmann]

Sticking to "the grind" every day is hard sometimes. I don't always feel like getting up early, making coffee, and logging on to my sober FB groups to see what is happening and encourage someone who's struggling... or to watch my sober KZbin videos and get ideas and inspiration. I don't always want to stretch and drink water and exercise, I don't always want to write in my sobriety journal, I don't always want to pray or be grateful... but I have found out over many many MANY failures and struggles that if I don't stick with it I will start to slip back into my old habits. And I never want to go back to that! Waking up in the middle of the night with anxiety and panic attacks, hangovers, wasting my money on booze and junk food, getting into fights with my family, getting in trouble at work...

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Abbbbbbbbbbsolutely!!! 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 This has been another edition of Jeff's Jems 💎

[@patrickwalker-nolan7617]

Congratulations friend, even when you don’t want to you are giving strength comfort and support to your fellow triers. My hope is that you can keep strong and keep on keeping on. 😁😁😁

[@BradParsons-n8s]

Yes I remember feeling afraid of getting sober. Actually at 6 months in, I still get scared of how certain events and experiences will be if I am Sober. Only two weeks ago one I never thought of happened. A very close friend dropped dead and at a young age. We were drinking buddies and more. I watched his widow crying as we threw roses on the coffin. There was a wake. My wife said to me. “It’s ok if you have some drinks at the event. We’ll make certain it doesn’t define your journey”. I made it through without any. I realized that I only need to worry about today. One day at a time.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

What absolute strength and courage and a story that could have easily been a role reversal. You get to be the one above ground, honoring yourself and the friend that you lost. Knowing that if he is out there, looking down on you that he could be proud that you didn't mourn by poisoning yourself. and I'm sure that if you were the one who had passed away, you would feel the same pride and happiness in your friend who decided to make healthier decisions in the same situation 👏👏👏

[@ssenyangemathias314]

One week sober

[@GettingSoberAgain]

1 week LET'S GOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!

[@gwillis01]

Keep up the good work. Keep striving to improve yourself

[@Shelly3g]

I will looking good on you!!

[@mowolf2620]

Yessss! Proud of you :) The first few days/weeks are the hardest, but it‘s so worth it! Keep going :D

[@Kevizhere]

Congrats! Hope you feel better and better

[@kimwright9401]

Hi all! Just about 6 weeks sober after 50 years of drinking. I feel so much better but am still struggling with boredom and cross addiction (gambling, eating sweets). Just trying to take it slow. I don’t want my life to be like before. Work, drink, sleep, repeat. I want to experience life with clarity and face my demons. Good luck to everyone and sending love

[@gwillis01]

Keep striving to improve yourself.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

What other hobbies are you interested in? @kimwrifht9401

[@ajbrown5247]

Daily drinker? Go cold turkey?

[@laurapitcher3304]

Art or games or music will help I hope❤

[@laurapitcher3304]

It used to help me before drinking

[@rodriguezpedro01]

5 months ago was my last drop of ethanol...every day I keep going, one day at time 😊

[@gwillis01]

Keep up the good work. Keep the sober streak going!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

LOOK AT YOU GOOOOOOO!!!! LETS GO 5 MONTHS 🗣️📢WOOOOOOOOOO!!!!

[@m.kristofer]

"The magic that you're looking for is in all the work you continue to avoid" Damn, that is a really good line. Spot on.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I thought you'd like it 😉

[@m.kristofer]

@@GettingSoberAgain Fantastic stuff!

[@BobShay-jf4vf]

38 days clean so far...thank you Jae for the inspiration & support...I think this is one of your most motivating videos so far ❤

[@jeffreyjohnmann]

These videos have really helped me a lot! I watch every day or listen in the car. Stick with it, 38 days alcohol-free is awesome, keep it going!

[@BobShay-jf4vf]

@@jeffreyjohnmann ...thank you 😁

[@Levi_dboys1977]

My journey has just begun. I am 213 days without alcohol versus around 40 years of drinking. I am proud that I have made it this far. Fear? Hell yeah. It was scary to change. I take it like Jae has said, don't drink today. I tell myself that every morning. Thanks to all of you for the support. Good luck and be strong to all of you on your journey. Peace.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

🗣️📢 Don't drink today! 213 days let's GOOOOOOOOOO 🎉🎉🎉

[@ritvikg99]

This channel inspired me to get sober...again. Just completed 100 days of sobriety! Have watched your videos almost every day since I began my journey and they've helped me immensely to stay commited to the path. Thank you, Jae! Sending love from India.

[@designedbythedivine777]

I just discovered you after a long night of blacking out and even tho I have this heavy regret of how my nights have been going. Your videos are giving me a sense of peace. You struck a heart string in me to be sober, and I can’t thank you enough. Just letting your videos play in the background, I’ve already cleaned that filthy storage room that’s been sitting for two months. You are seriously doing amazing work and I can’t wait to keep up with your videos. Seriously thank you. Everyday is my new favorite day

[@MegaShankie]

Day 7!!!!! I just woke up, I’m excited about making it to this morning! 🙌

[@MegaShankie]

Wow!! I’m sitting in a cafe now, 7a, having a coffee feeling so good about 14 days! Good job, you inspire me! Yes, because I remember a week ago what was in my head and you’re there at 7 days! Amazing!!

[@ShadesOClarity]

Anxiety has always been my number 1 trigger, and it's led to a bunch of relapses. Hopefully, this time I plan to hang onto it. I am really tired of all of it. Great suggestions. It was basically a binge, stop, binge, stop pattern for me.

[@adamd8442]

Ditto. Anxiety is my number one trigger as well. Alcohol abuse creates anxiety. I forget the chemical/neurological specifics, but it's like digging one's own grave. And I am Really good at it.

[@Dylboz]

It really just makes it worse tomorrow. Booze will take twice as much happiness from the future as it gives you in that moment of escape. Maybe more. Like running up a credit card, eventually you have to pay it all back, with interest.

[@ShadesOClarity]

@@adamd8442 Yes. If you believe in the "kindling" effect, every time you drink is a dose/withdrawal event. Hangxiety - which later on I suffered from (It wasn't a hangover but extreme anxiety) is because it was minor withdrawal.

[@ShadesOClarity]

@@Dylboz Agreed.

[@adamd8442]

@@ShadesOClarity When a person is as far deep into dependance as I am, withdrawal is not just anxiety, though it still remains. I am not looking for sympathy, quite the opposite... Alcohol can permanently change the limbic system, essentially making quitting alcohol all the more difficult. Seen people with shaky hands? Try not being able to walk...

[@JGsgarage_unboxings]

I'm approaching 3 months now. Sometimes I do miss it. But I'm to the point that it's worthless and pointless to even start again. Not being hungover is awesome.

[@Custardpie174]

Also approaching 3 months....wondering how I would even fit drinking back in my schedule....constantly hungover....

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work

[@GettingSoberAgain]

THIS IS IT!! IT'S HAPPENING! I AM ACTUALLY LIVING THE DREAM!!! SAY IT PROUD! (caps lock sorry 🤪)

[@hawk66100]

Great job!! I’m approaching 3 months as well.

[@_.alex.-]

Yep, resonates with me. I have never framed it as fear, but I think it was. Not hiding behind the sofa fear ha, but the understanding that “drinking me” was a fun person, and how would I occupy my time without it, and it was also a convenient crutch for other issues in my head I needed to address via healthier means. There is a lot to be said about perspective; sometimes it takes looking at your life through a different lens to realise you are missing the better potential you. Great community here Jae, much love ❤❤ EDIT: I’ve noticed a shift in my mental health, I used to live with anxiety everyday. I am the most stress free I’ve been in years. Quitting the booze really has helped!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

If the benefits of sobriety came in a pill form, every doctor and therapist would prescribe it!

[@hayleyoesch1313]

I've been watching the channel since I was just a few days sober, and I just passed 9 months! I'm so proud of myself. At the beginning, it didn't feel like I'd ever get here. There used to be hard days and nights pretty often, but now there are just hard moments every once in a while. I always choose to say no when temptation creeps in because I feel so much better now, and I'm not willing to give that feeling up. I'm completely me now, uninfluenced by any substances. It's okay to be scared; just don't let that fear stop you. You've got this!

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on making good progress in your nine months of sobriety!! That's a huge achievement.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

BE ME FOR FREE! SOBRIETY IS MINE AND IM NOT GIVING IT BACK! Congrats Haley on getting YOU back... again

[@hayleyoesch1313]

@@gwillis01 Thank you! 😊

[@hayleyoesch1313]

@@GettingSoberAgain Exactly! Thank you Jae! You and this community have been a huge help 😁

[@flyeaglesflyyup8295]

33 days now. Thanks allot J, your content really helped me through the the withdrawal symptoms

[@malkalazar1801]

The 4th sober morning. No hangover, no guilt and shame. Yesterday i had really bad cravings in the end of the workday. I work from home and my husband is still drinking every day, so there's always cold beer in the fridge and a drinking buddy available. But. There always will be temptations, the world doesn't care about my needs, if i let it run my life i will be ruled by strangers who don't care. My husband evolved to an addict, but this is not a group evolution, our children don't use, i will not use either. I drink all my life, my father and maternal uncle were alcoholics, my mother drank till here health allowed her. So what? I DO NOT HAVE TO BE LIKE THEM and they are not excuse for me now, when they are dead and i am 56. Well... the 4th day sober. Good job girl❤ Jae, i want to say thank you, you make it easier to open up. I was and still am ashamed of my drinking, here i can be honest. Thank you ❤

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Transparency and vulnerability are part of the process! And you're right: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE LIKE THEM 😎

[@derekhath380]

Day 461 today. Going into detox and residential treatment at New Found life, Long Beach, CA my biggest fear was: Can I do this after binge drinking for 30+ years with fatty liver disease and way overweight. By surrendering my whole life to my savior Jesus Christ I was able and still able to take one step at a time in sobriety one day at a time. The phrase from Mark Twain has been really helpful if wondering about going to/being around iffy people and places: It is easier to stay out of trouble than to get out of it!

[@Cracktune]

461 whooooa! big ups big man! hope to get there myself

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on 461 days of sobriety.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

ooOoOOoH I love that quote! it reminds me of one of my favorites too: it's easier to STAY sober than it is to GET sober 😎 Shout out 👉 JC 🕊️

[@derekhath380]

@@GettingSoberAgain Love that one even better! :)

[@jesselovesyah]

10 days back on the wagon! Had almost 90 days before so i got a big asterisk on that. Definitely had some cravings last night but resisted.💪🏼💪🏼 Ran into a bar buddy at the gym who recently quit as well! Never thought I’d hear him say that 😂 Life is good!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Hallelujah! Great timing gym buddy! You never know who's on or interested in being on the same path. DO NOT STRUGGLE IN SILENCE!

[@brucegold5046]

Don't beat yourself up over the few drinks you had. Same thing happened to me 2 Years ago-----and that slip up totally reinforced why I quit in the first place. It finally drilled into my brain that the 4 hours of fun at the bar on any given night----aren't worth feeling like crap for the following 2 days. Since that slip up----not a drop. In all honesty---I still do get occasional cravings---especially at the weekends. But resisting gets easier as time goes on.

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on resisting temptation

[@gwillis01]

@AcademiaCondorcet Jae has lots of videos on surviving temptations and challenges. Have you watched "The Five Enemies of Your Sobriety". ?

[@jesselovesyah]

@AcademiaCondorcet I was just in a stressful situation. I should have thought it through and resisted or found something else to drink. Kombucha has been my go-to alternative.

[@laxislife143]

9 months sober cold turkey - been 3 weeks off of nicotine patches (zyn) cold turkey. Anyone can do it 🤷‍♂️ you can do it 💪🏻💪🏻

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I bet your insides feel reaaaaally normal these days lol

[@Cracktune]

just a few weeks ...again. Never really afraid of anything except learning or accepting the fact that SO much time has been absolutely wasted being wasted and the possibilities of who I could have been had I accepted this WAY earlier. But: here I am today and thats what counts. Ive lost "friends", Ive lost "the scene".. but I realize I never had them and what I did have wasnt worth anything in reality. I now have ME and the possibility of ME tomorrow. That is SO big. I do get bored, and lonely. Those are chances to grow; to sit with that and meditate. To turn it into something productive be it something as simple as a walk outside, 10 min meditation, or launching into a new chapter in something I'm studying (.PY at the moment). Its all in front of you. Wrote that quote on my whiteboard, and per usual... Thank you for this channel

[@Cracktune]

yea thats right, i liked and commented on my own post. Im insane like that!

[@gwillis01]

The best use of the past is to learn from it. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Alcohol is the rent we pay to occupy the space that we don't belong in. ✅

[@TheDgordon1990]

Hey Jay! Been a while since I tuned in. Still living sober and loving life. Appreciate this video! Your energy has changed as well! Its looking more upbeat and positive! Appreciate you bro! Thank you again!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

hey how's it going bro! thanks for the love! I prompted sober folks in this video to share what they were afraid of before getting sober. do you have any thoughts you'd like to share? ☺️

[@TheDgordon1990]

@@GettingSoberAgain Yes I do. I’ll make another comment so ppl can see it. Hopefully it resonates with someone. Thank u

[@abbytabby08]

I love being a part of this community! It’s a judgement-free zone with hundreds (or more) of people who can identify with what one another is going through. ❤

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You said it!

[@jimbojv75]

Fear of failure is one of those devious feelings that can hinder sobriety. There is no shame in failing, only regret in not ever trying.

[@SamuelGarcia-lf1sm]

I'm 7 months sober, and the fear that I face is the fear of success. The fear of facing my problems is really a fear of success, because I think we all know that you will successfully deal with your problems when you are sober. If we deal with our problems, then life is better, and we have better careers, families, friends and communities. We have responsibilities to uphold that just won't be a problem if we keep drinking. There is comfort in having low expectations, because nobody ever excepts us to get better. It's easy being a loser. It's not easy being a winner, but that is what you will become if you are sober. A winner.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I think you speak for all of us #wisdom

[@gwillis01]

Dre to try new things You may be more successful than you imagine. Success can be fun.

[@chrisking544]

So much truth, thank you bro...

[@gwillis01]

Keep up the good work

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Thank you Lord for helping me to speak these words to bring light into the darkness. May the truth continue to guide us all 🙏🫡😎

[@jeffreyjohnmann]

I have been struggling with drinking for decades. My parents were both heavy drinkers and I have many siblings, nephews & nieces who struggled with addiction too. I started drinking in high school and it was 100% the main focus of my life from that point on, every decision I made was based on alcohol. I made so many terrible decisions and I hurt so many people. I started to see the problem eventually and started trying to "moderate" or get it under control but I think anyone here knows that was a fucking disaster and a total failure. I am 200+ days sober now finally after years and years of trying to stop. This is definitely the longest I have been without a drink in 20 years. I am taking this one day at a time like they say, but I am praying that this time will be the time I stop forever. I will not give up on myself, I want to be the man who breaks this cycle of alcoholism and addiction in my family.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You're doing great and inspiring work! Sometimes We can easily confuse doing what we're supposed to do with not living life to the fullest. We confuse the highs of alcohol and other addictions as being a realistic and sustainable High when the truth is quite the opposite. I always hated hearing people say that they're high on life. And I think that a lot of the things that we hate and other people are just things that we hate about ourselves. it's a sign that we project our own insecurities because we can't face true happiness and become jealous of others. somebody left a great quote on this video saying that it's easier to stay out of trouble than it is to get out of trouble. Just like we always say in the channel it's easier to stay sober than it is to get sober. All these years we thought it was vanilla cookie cutter boring to enjoy your home, To enjoy home cooking, to enjoy nature, to read and expand your knowledge. that we don't like to "wake up early". But We all became experts at lying to ourself to continue making room for alcohol and the lies that came with it.

[@gwillis01]

Keep striving to improve yourself. Onwards and upwards to new achievements!!

[@theduchessofhexham737]

Hi Jae, Hi everyone. My journey started 8 months ago and initially I decided to go alcohol free for one month. When that month was over I thought well I've done that so let's keep going and 8 months later here I am. I was a committed drinker, at least a bottle of strong wine, every night 😬 and was always desperate for 'wine o'clock '. But the benefits of not drinking have massively outweighed the benefits I thought I was getting by drinking. My weight is back under control, I'm fitter than I've been in years, I've got more disposable income, my mind is clearer and I'm actually a nicer version of me. I'm 66 this coming xmas so it's never too late. Take baby steps & before you know it you've run a marathon and won. Keep the faith & good luck to everyone no matter where you are on this amazing journey 🙏

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on your long sober streak. It's not too late to start striving to improve yourself.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

YOU ARE DOING AN AMAZING JOB!!!! What an inspiration!

[@pippaboyd88]

Passing the three months was big step for me. I know im going to struggle in the summer but i intend to keep trying new things and keeping busy and just saving monies and getting fit. Great channel here feels a really good community

[@GettingSoberAgain]

We struggle with 100% of everything we have little to no practice at. Put in the work, and enjoy your blessings!

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on your long sober streak

[@MrHandy-nr5hi]

41/2 months for me and I’m never going back!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

THATS THE SPIRIT!!!

[@gwillis01]

Keep it going!! Congrats on your sober streak

[@heluvsme1st58]

Just went back to drinking I totally hate it .. I was 15 days sober 😢I’m so sad but going back today this hour ❤

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Glad to have you back! what did you learn on your sobriety detour?

[@gwillis01]

We are all imperfect. We all make mistakes. Analyze your current situation to make sure you do not make the same mistake again.

[@garagedogs8041]

Don't feel bad, I've been trying all week. It's that drive home from work where the tough decision gets me every day.

[@gwillis01]

@@garagedogs8041 It may be time to go on a different route home from work. If you do not NOT go past your trigger locations where. you feel drawn in to do the old routine, you will make it easier on yourself. Going a little bit out of your way could bring you big benefits.

[@RobinSpeer]

Hey Jae, thank you for this, I was actually going to ask you to cover something about the fear of getting sober as this is the part that his holding me back from taking the plunge into total sobriety. This has really helped as well as all your other videos and the comments from this group.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I got your brain mail 🧠😁

[@hazeldaniels2540]

Hey hi Jae -' I'm a recovering alcoholic & over 3yrs SOBER -' the fear I have -' is I care for my brother he's a full on alcoholic & it hurts -' as I try my best to help him & he's not takin it in seriously just feel so helpless at times -' fed & dropped him back at home .. he lost his car ^ got caught for drinkin & driving -' Today is his court appearance. Guess All I can do is pray for him -' Thanks Jae for the support-' much appreciated 🙏..

[@gwillis01]

You are one of hundreds of thousands who are agonizing and struggling with a relative with an alcohol abuse disorder. There are whole YT channels that talk about how to deal with drunk relatives. For example: Have you tried looking at "Put The Shovel Down" ? When you stop digging the hole deeper though unhealthy decisions, you have begun the path to recovery.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I'm sure you've asked the heavens many times "why me". The world needs more people like you, and we are all better with you in it 🫂

[@patrickwalker-nolan7617]

Giving unconditional support to a fellow alcoholic may be misinterpreted by the recipient. It may infantilise them by taking away their need to reflect upon their condition. Thus “support” may become “enabling”. As a former hard drinker, not to say recovering alcoholic, I think you need to think about the nature of the relationship with your brother Hazel, are you facilitating his drunken behaviour, and making it ok in his mind? I hear that you took responsibility for your own behaviour successfully, but I don’t know if you can do the same for another person, however close you may be. I wish you both the very best of luck. ❤❤❤

[@hazeldaniels2540]

@patrickwalker-nolan7617 Yes Thank you so much -' I agree -' Can't really do much for him-' we hardly see each other; only when he's in trouble then he'll come back needing our help -its frustrating -'' we both have our own families -' knows I'm busy -' the fact is that - I cannot handle seeing him in pain because I've been there -' it's hard -' can only do so much eg-' on how it first started for me -'the 12 steps etc & it's positive-" hopefully he will listen-" but then you are right I' could be enabling him because hes been told many times -' This disease is so overpowering &; unfortunately so many have died because of this . Again we must continue to stay strong & am grateful for this channel -' it teaches me a lot-"Adayatatime -' Thank you thank you again..

[@CCTH-86]

1,000 days today. YES!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Outlaw653]

WOOHOO!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

YOU ARE A 👉👉👉SUPERSTAR👈👈👈

[@MegaShankie]

Wow!!!

[@sherrischwartz6844]

Not there yet. Your videos are so true. Let me say that I am so blessed with my life and my family. I have the best husband in the world but unfortunately me and him are both alcoholics. We are not drunk drivers, abusive parents, or abusive to each other. We just developed a habit that we share. We keep trying. The good thing is we BOTH want to be sober. We have been happily married for 25 years and have been drinking together that long. We became alcoholics together and I know that we can become sober together if we keep trying.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I've read so many comments from one partner who wants to quit but the other won't. hold yourself accountable, plan a nice weekend of all the activities you want to do. have your favorite foods. take a day trip. sightsee. enjoy your company. stay busy. you got this!

[@meticulousmadeproductions]

Day one for me guys!!! But never want to go back! I'm so done! Thank you for the community and the support! Doing this is a little easier because of people like you!

[@clairespinks2953]

Jae, I’ve not found help like you. Ty. I’m 50, had alcohol issues since age 5. I’m scared, really scared, cos if I stop drinking I will feel emotional pain. I’m not brave enough 🥺

[@kristikiser8762]

❤ I can relate for sure...fear of feeling my feelings after hiding behind the numbness alcohol brings...I think we will be fine!!! One hour, one day at a time and staying positive as much as possible

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Would you advise anyone you love to delay their healing?

[@gwillis01]

Please get professional counseling. I feel so much better now that I have been in therapy for more than a year. The mindset that is best is one that is open to new ideas and honest about your feelings. Remember that "I'm afraid" and I can't". are opinions not facts. Opinions can be changed.

[@thehermitsmoon3117]

This is my second time living sober; in 2019 I made it to a year and three months, right now I’m at 33 days. This time I’m focusing on “one day at a time” and those five words have really helped keep me going. Just focusing on the next 24 hours takes a lot of the fear out of sobriety ✌🏽

[@Tastyshrooms]

Today marks 1 week sober after drinking daily for 5 years. I’m 31 and I already sleep sooo much better and my skins starting to look better too. I’ve dropped 5 pounds and I’m finally not feeling so depressed anymore. I can’t wait to see what happens after a year! Alcohol is the devil! I don’t wish it on anyone

[@Bellan8845]

Started small on 31 march 2023. Started first with 1 day, then 1 week, then 2 weeks, 3 weeks, 1 month! Then 2 months, 3 months then 6 months. And now over 1 year 😃💪🏽 so small steps and day by day. Then when someday after 6-7 months i began to quit conting and life start happen and im back 😍👍🏽👍🏽 bless and love to ya’ll! God will bless you everyone, NOTHING is impossible. And belive me, i have been really in my worst days with anxiety, stress, lack of sleep, depression, DPDR (form of anxiety) and it all went away❤️

[@Bellan8845]

And Oh, btw.. cravings faded away from month 8 or 9. So i dont feel no form of ”addiction/craving” but sure i had pretty much of that first half year🤷🏽‍♂️😑🙄😅

[@gwillis01]

Congrats on your sober streak.

[@Bellan8845]

@@gwillis01 thank youuuu😃🫶🏽🙌🏽

[@GettingSoberAgain]

What an absolute blessing you have been to yourself @Bellan8845

[@Bellan8845]

Thanks guys✌🏽❤️

[@Liam-l2l4u]

20 days sober today,life’s good 😊 these videos are a big help 🫡👌

[@GG7GodsGrace]

I’m faith, been drinking since I was 16, I’m 41 now. It started off just as fun, then as taking edge off, then a trauma response that was triggered. Then just how I got through the day and how i woke up, I ended up in hospital and I quit for 3 months, a old “friend “ came around and I let them pull me back in, I stopped again and they came around again. I then chose to only drink wine, then only on weekends. Just kept trying to get my life together with so much going on in my life, then in 22 my grandfather died and I started up more, then last year my son was called home and I been struggling even more but thinking I have to do better, but without my only son its harder than ever. I pray and talk to God 24/7 trying to be ok. I’m trying so very hard

[@BobShay-jf4vf]

I used to think my best was intoxication...amazing how alcohol is the ultimate deceiver in a bottle...

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Under the spell of the elixir

[@Bettertogether24-7]

In the last 7 years I drinked 10000 beers. Now I am 3 months sober and feeling super good.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Your liver says "thank you" 🤯

[@claremurphy777]

Your good kind being oozes off the phone as I listen ! First time commenting but your comprehensive, wise, encouraging, non judgey content is helping me BIGTIME. ReBraand new to sobriety : many fails & falls after 35 years of substance abuse been a constant in my 54 years on this lovely planet. Bless you. Thankyou. Clare☘️💕

[@iareburgman]

One day away from the first part of the 21-90 goal. These last three weeks have been really long / slower than when I was drinking as a few times a week binge drinker. Did that for 18 years which was longer than I didn't drink. This realization was super irritating to learn about myself but also finally helped me get clear headed and have a plan - which I learned from these videos. Anyone else struggling - it's hard but you build steam each day and begin to realize that the people who truly care about you will be there thru your journey. 90 days I look forward to but have other mini goals of 30 days 2 months etc otw. Using this community and the I am sober app has been huge for me sticking to it personally. Thanks Jae

[@K_ROD-808]

Aloha! I've been sober for 19 days. This is my second time trying to get sober. First attempt was many years ago and that was only for one month. I don't remember it being this difficult. This time around is due to being diagnosed with a severe fatty liver. Of course I have my good & bad days but MAN!..it feels like I lost a very close friend! Feeling very emotional lately.

[@W8320T]

84 days sober today boys! 27 years old and alcohol took me almost to the end. My brother passed away in 2020 and I checked out of life and checked into alcoholism. Pancreatitis about 7 times got me into my first rehab in 2021. Got out of rehab, continued to drink and eventually got my 2nd DUI. Showed up to my 3rd or 4th rehab drunk and got sent to the hospital to detox and there I would pick up my first felony. Lost my brother, almost lost my life, facing prison. It took what it took to finally WANT to stop drinking. I was scared to face life and face my feelings. Putting off life for so long and being scared of being sober, because I had gotten so used to living a drunk life. It's something you see in hindsight once you stay sober just one more day. I had to get busy, get a job, get busy in AA. I had to finally want what was best for me. I've been sticking close to God and I am starting to reap the benefits of sobriety. If I just don't have to drink today, then that's easy enough. I let God work for me today. I quit trying to run the show.

[@helloimjake]

Today marks 7 days sober for me! This is the first time in my life that I have admitted the alcohol has control over me, and I have acquired outside help. Meds the doc prescribed really helped with the withdrawal symptoms and cravings in this first week. I am also now with an addictions counselor and attending daily AA meetings. One day at a time, but I hope this time I can kick this thing for a verrrrrrry long time. Life is so much better sober!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

👏👏👏 let's go 7 days!!! Try this exercise with me. Instead of saying "I hope this time I can kick this thing", what are 3 different ways that you can more positively AFFIRM your success?

[@samyartaraporevala8785]

Hay friends I'm 42 and I have been drinking for almost the last 20 years. Last 5 years I have been drinking every night. It was like a private after-work party for me(that's what I was thinking ) and I was thinking I was recharging myself for tomorrow. Things changed when I finally got a more stable life and started to open my eyes to other opportunities like buying a home, investing my money, and so on And and and I started to see the warnings😮 body pain, dry skin, being selfish, and no energy to do more… Here I started to think even if I became rich through my investment or being super successful in my career there would be no time to enjoy them as I would be dead with this habit. Now I'm two weeks sober and trying hard to stay sober as much as I can. This channel is one of the best motivations I have and I really appreciate this community and all the good content Thank you thank you thank you …

[@GettingSoberAgain]

We will all benefit greatly from hearing more of your updates!

[@jordangraham8610]

I have been an alcoholic/addict for 10 years, I've been to rehab once unfortunately I felt back into old habits, lucky I can say I am only using alcohol today, however, today thanks to watching multiple videos of this channel I made an announcement to my family telling them I am over this life style. However to the point of this video, I am afraid... of dieing. I've been a very heavy user of alcohol for a very long time and have almost died multiple times from alcohol withdrawals. I need support and love from those that understand. The longest sober I've ever reached was 60 day and I had never felt better but here I am again... I want to get sober. However I'm afraid because I'm a very heavy drinker and I'm getting older I may die doing so. Please reach out to me to give me you're thoughts. Please. Signing off Jordan.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Other than announcing to your family, and announcing for free in the KZbin comments, what are you actually doing to seek support? I hear a lot of fear in your words. It sounds like you are unchallenged to actually make a change. Rehab is only as good as your effort to be and remain sober. I've heard people say they've been to rehab 2 times, 3 times, 5 times. But what does THAT really say? It just speaks to a lack of commitment. We can announce our good intentions to the world until we are blue in the face. But words without action is just attention seeking low hanging fruit. I believe you need a challenge. So I will openly challenge you to stay sober for the next 30 days. watch one of our videos every morning that you consecutively wake up sober and leave a comment. I want you to try new things that you haven't before. Try online sobriety zoom meetings. our friends over at Sobertown Podcast host near daily meetings for free www.sobertownpodcast.com/zoom-discussion-groups Consider downloading the IAMSOBER app as well. These are the terms of your encouragement. So the real question is: do you want help, or did you just want attention? The ball is in your court.

[@erinbfly]

You are going to do it! I wish you all the best!! If nobody told you today, you're a star!!

[@PattiCampbell-y4i]

I am finally after a months of not being able to walk in the local park and it feels so great to be able to get out there and exercise again. I also found the best thing, at least for me, to drink. It is a naturally bubbly water, Guitig that has helped me to not miss alcohol .

[@lucyjane9772]

It's funny that my family and friends around me are rushing in to offer "low alcohol " alternatives when I told them I didn't want to drink alcohol anymore. Its like they can't bear the thought of it for me. I on the other hand am so happy I've made this decision. Its been such a long time coming. The fear of being isolated and lonely has held me back but this channel is so helpful. I don't feel lonely anymore ❤

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You got a friend in me 🫂

[@RinoSchiavoCampo]

5 months. My fear was that I would do as I did before. Change my mind. Snuff out the logical sober person I know I am, and decide I wanted to drink. I carry this fear of relapse, and I try to convert this into positive energy. I do not want to eliminate the person I have become from this earth, because that is what a drink will do to me. There comes a time where willpower and desire not to drink become wholehearted disgust at the thought of drinking. It was only then that I started to clear the wreckage of my alcohol use.

[@anjaxtv]

I'm afraid of... realising how much time I've wasted and hating myself

[@GettingSoberAgain]

The ship stops sinking when you plug the leak 😉

[@gwillis01]

First is the grief and then comes the healing. Please forgive yourself. Moving beyond your mistakes and building.a new life that you do not have to escape from is the goal.

[@uphillbill]

10 days without a drink. Going fairly well so far. This is a very good site.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

10 days LETS GOOOOO!!!

[@timhemlin9556]

As hard as a dry Friday night can be, waking up feeling good on Saturday morning is priceless. No one ever regretted waking up clean and sober. On day 87 and still often taking it one day at a time. I was afraid at first because it was part of my identity for so long. But Jae is right. When you start feeling better, you do ask yourself why didn't I do this sooner? Anything worthwhile takes work. This is work that's worth casting aside the fear and taking a chance on. Keep the faith, friends.

[@benmoradi]

This is the first video I watched. This is awesome. The funny thing is the quote you gave about the magic you are looking for was the quote I used at my grad from rehab. I just started a youtube based on sobriety and I hope to one day reach the audience you have. Awesome stuff

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Well, I can't do it forever...OR CAN I?!🤪 Great minds think alike. Feel free to reach out via email if you have any questions about content creation etc

[@schonalkire1677]

First time posting. Jay, you inspired me to give up alcohol for 30 days. It was very hard at first, especially the withdrawals the first week or so, but I began to sleep better, lost a little weight, blood pressure went down, started going to bed and getting up earlier, etc. Then, I thought I would try and see if I could just drink on the weekend. Nope. Drank just about every day for a couple of weeks. Well, I am trying it again, but this time I am shooting for 90 days. We'll see how it goes. Thank you for your encouraging videos!

[@jeffreyjohnmann]

This sounds like my story! Trying to "moderate" or "drink like a normal person" hasn't worked out so well for me either. Just choosing to leave booze out has made a big difference. Life is so much easier with less time & energy spent "managing" my drinking.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Sometimes we have to lose to not take winning for granted🍺🔨👷 😎

[@fortythreenorth2518]

I'm on day 8 now. I am getting much better sleep and feel more of a bounce in my steps. I want this to continue...

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I support this idea 🏃💨

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Don't be SCARED to binge-watch more of our videos 😉 kzbin.info/aero/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt

[@isaacmolefenyokong7776]

By far, I've only ever been afraid of withdrawal consequences. They can be brutal and in fact fatal. So I was truly worried about that, it made me drink more and more to avoid even an hour of being sober! That's how much i drank, every single day of getting drunk for 6 years straight almost unbroken. Through 3 university degrees, career work and a whole family life, and oh, a mental health diagnosis. Once I got over a series of very severe Delerium Tremens episodes in a hospital, my fears of going sober were laid to rest... peace!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

RIP BOOZE!

[@bobsez1234]

Hello All, have found these videos very helpful with an honest genuine approach to everything I’m feeling in my latest sobriety journey. I’m 8 days in with my starts and stops during my 23 year long drinking career. I’m tired, lost , and scared but hopeful. My life is so blessed already but can be so much better if I can stay sober and be the friend, parent, partner, co-worker that I was put on earth to be. Wish me luck…. And I will keep listening and praying.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You have a great attitude, and any successful journey starts with exactly that!

[@tommiller3695]

I give everyone here complete respect for being able beat this addiction. I've been drinking for years, never a binge drinker but someone who would sip my bourbon all day long. I never got sick or hungover. Wasn't a mean drunk or forgot or regretted things I said. That being said, I was spending a small fortune every month and decided to give my liver a break. I cannot believe how hard this has been. I think it was easier to quit smoking. I'm retired and just love sipping bourbon while I work around the house. I'm making it day by day. I think I'm missing it more than craving it but I'm probably in denial because they are most likely the same thing, ha. This channel is helping me stay focused on my goal.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

A healthy body and mind starts with a healthy ATTITUDE! You've certainly nailed the attitude, now let's string together these days of sobriety and start practicing gratitude 🙏

[@chammerchip6059]

Hi Jae, My biggest fear was boredom, it’s still hard sometimes. It’s as though time has slowed down a bit. I’ve started running, which is great but I can’t run 24/7. I need to find something else to occupy my mind, maybe reading? But I’ve got to 21 weeks sober now and positive I can make 6 months and more. Good luck everyone, keep at it, it does get easier as the weeks go by. I keep telling myself not to have that 1st drink, then i don’t have to worry about all the others.

[@gwillis01]

Finishing that first drink changes you into a different person who wants to consume a thousand drinks in a row. The way to avoid the transformation is to not not do the first drink. Yes it is best to have many hobbies and activities to keep yourself busy. There are a million ways to have fun while sober. The main recreational activity a person gives up when they get sober is the chance to be a drunken fool who does something cringe worthy in public and then gets arrested for driving drunk on the way home.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

What are your other hobbies and interests? Have you checked out the "Meetup" app? you can meet other people with the same interest and make friends that way. We all need community in some form, because you're right, there's only so much we can do in solitude. There's only so much you can walk, run, hike or bike alone

[@jodygover8375]

7 days today. Sunday is the hard day because we go to the in-laws. They are big wine drinkers. It’s hard for me to say no even when I don’t want the drink.

[@ct2co2AZ]

I found your channel several months ago ago after I had stopped drinking this past November. I was doing really well, but for some reason I had agreed to having drinks with a friend to celebrate both of us getting new jobs. This new job was something that I accomplished after starting my sobriety journey. I was over 170 days, I lost count but This past weekend I got drunk and of course I felt like shit, and I feel like shit about myself. I should not have let somebody talk me into “celebrating “ with alcohol. Now I’m mad at myself and I am ready to get back on that wagon and move forward, putting this past weekend behind me. Not my proudest moment right now, but I feel like this weekend has made me realize how much I really do Love my sober life, how great I feel without alcohol, and appreciate life with a clear head and remembering everything from the night before.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Sometimes a close call is what we need to solidify our resolve 🧠

[@genearmfield5814]

It finally got to the point in time when I had no other viable option than to cease chemical dependency and substance abuse. Fortunately that was 40+ years ago and I've only had to go through nine (9) sanctioned treatment programs and mor'n a few 12-step group meetings during this time period. Life is not yet easy and breezy but rather much better than I'd allowed it to be for a couple of decades. Addiction is far too much work

[@flux_core_fx]

Yes, you will lose (people who you thought were) friends. They are not your friends, they are your drinking acquaintances. You may get bored too, good you get to contemplate your lifes purpose and your true desires. These are all positives, but there are some discomforts here and there. The benefits are overwhelmingly positive though. Its been one month, bless you for making these videos!

[@charlesallison6108]

Weekend warrior here last week in December 2023 I started this journey First New Year without drinking. Made it thru January. February hit and miss March the same haven't given up. Learning to hug the cactus

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You beat some of the big sobriety bosses already! this is amazing to hear and we love to stay informed on you CRUSHING the next upcoming milestones 💪💪💪

[@whitneywhitney8356]

Almost to 11 months thanks to inspiring videos like yours! To anyone out there feeling these feelings I was in your shoes. Fast forward to now and a few people in my close circle have also ditched the poison. Now I’ve become an inspiration to others. It’s such a great feeling. You can do it! Keep watching this channel. I’m never going back to the poison. It really is freeing!! ❤

[@GettingSoberAgain]

That's For the positive update Whitney 🫶

[@Agygetup]

Jae, your videos have been such a lifesaver for me once again! I was really struggling with a craving, but watching a couple of your videos inspired me and helped me overcome it. Thank you!

[@rickfredrick7969]

You know Jae. I bought one of those quit drinking courses from some British guy last year. I wished I didn’t and gave you the money instead. You’re FAR BETTER and easier to relate too! Thanks for all you do! Luv ya buddy! 😎

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Lol I wish people would stop giving that guy money too when our videos are free! Thank God for the 10 people out of 46,000 subscribers we have who are kind enough to support our Patreon 🥺

[@marcial-kt8oj]

I’m still struggling and. It’s always on Fridays I’m going to try a meeting. The videos help. For some reason I don’t think about anything until it’s Friday :/

[@i-love-an-alcoholic]

After my wake-up call I quit all drugs cold turkey, and spent the next 18 months scared sh*tless and barely functional. The only thing that kept me from contacting my old friends (and by "friends" I mean enablers and dealers) was my biggest fear of what would happen if I continued using. Getting out of that hole was a long and grueling process, but I made it.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

To quote the American Sports entertainment athlete, Steve Austin "HELL YEAH!"

[@snakedogman]

My biggest motivation is sober sleep. I've been struggling with insomnia for most of my adult life. It just so happens to be that I've also been drinking beer every evening for most of my adult life. I'm only now kinda discovering I'm not actually such a bad sleeper after all. I did not have a sleep problem. I have an alcohol problem. Still struggling with staying sober more than few days in a row, but even that is a lot more than I've done for decades. Drinking only 3 days per week instead of 7 is a more than 50% reduction so I try to go easy on myself.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Go easy, but go all the way! And while you're at it...get OUT of your own way. You are the only thing standing in the way of your own blessings ✨

[@villanvar84]

The fear living the stigma "hi my name is and I'm an alcoholic" nah I got this I don't need to do that

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Hi my name is Jae and I'm a complex, multifaceted human being who's capable of doing more, being more and proving to myself and others that I'm constantly growing, changing and evolving ✋👽

[@nyekobrian3325]

I even was avoiding videos around sobriety. In my mind was out of sight out of mind but I really want be sober. 5 days sober now and I know I will pass this weekend because the scars from the last weekend binge drinking is still fresh, problem is usually the second weekend after feeling great, start to think I can manage my drinks, maybe switch to lighter beer, my mind gives me all reasons to drink...Damn. Am sure if I pass one month then am never looking back for now ama try my level best including traveling out of town for the weekend

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I believe that you're capable, and that you're going to message me every morning that you wake up sober by commenting on one of our videos. If you give me your time, I will give you my time back. I answer comments every morning before I leave bed. Challenge accepted?

[@audreyhuggins8822]

Wow, you look amazing from your first videos to today, you look younger, healthier and happier!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Lol cocaine is a hell of a drug

[@timburton9514]

Day 100! 🕺🕺🕺 know what I did to celebrate?? I made a pot of coffee and drank the whole thing! Now I’m like a golf ball in a tile bathroom!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

lol I've never heard that expression before.. DAY 100 LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOO 💯🤯👏😁💪

[@memelurcio]

When you think about your fears, think also about the multiplier happiness effect, which greatly outweighs those fears. Just your mental ability will give you an edge to yourself in the form of confidence that sets you apart from many others. Add your improved looks and the many many other benefits…that should get you excited to be part of an exclusive club of stoic evolved humans.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Can I be in your club? I want a "stoic evolved humans" shirt plz 👕🙏😁

[@ydoicare2000]

Super jay ! Been watching your videos all weekend !! Thank you !!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@ydoicare2000 I recommend this 😁😁😁

[@tamarahammon4227]

I got several non alcoholic drinks from Sprouts for around $3 on sale. Some flavors were blood orange jalapeño, Paloma, water melon lime and Kin euphopics. I’ve also tried Spindrift and Poppi non alcoholic drinks

[@GettingSoberAgain]

THOSE SOUND SO GOOOOOOOD 🤤

[@SMAWA9]

403 days sober.. Im still afraid life could get boring and my socially awkward personality will be noticed. I have I still have to believe it's a good thing to keep going. To stay sober. To push through the awkwardness. To not be suspicious of life just being good.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Embrace the awkward 😜 Nobody else is tied to your central nervous system. what you feel is not what they are experiencing. Everyone is the sun in their own sky and nobody really gives a shit about anyone but themselves, and their own insecurities. try practicing once a week all the things that you thought were awkward or not socially acceptable...it's LIBERATING. try wearing 2 different shoes for a whole day this week..say nothing to anyone. notice how nobody is even paying attention. the next week, try it 3 days out of the week and start gaining confidence. Maybe one day go on a walk and make it a point to wave and say hi to everyone. some people are also " socially awkward", but you will know that you have the strength to overcome that bit of awkwardness and that you are not choosing to be like them anymore. bring a little notepad with you and make two columns. in column A it will say " said hello back". in column B it will say " didn't acknowledge me". but also know that when people don't acknowledge you, it isn't because of you, It's because of themselves, and their own insecurities, and they may have just been really invested in a audiobook or a podcast, maybe they had a bad day at work, or maybe they just hate their lives. but that doesn't have to stop you from living your best life and practicing getting out of your own head. as my therapist once asked me: "where is the evidence that what you think is happening is actually true?" But seriously try the shoe thing lol I bet you'll be shocked. and the best part is, when you go out in public and do something like the two shoes thing, you're likely to track somebody like me who might recognize that you're equally as weird and brave. Your next best friend is just out there. waiting to see you wearing two different shoes lol

[@andresdelcampo6733]

Boredom is always what gets me to drink and I've relapsed too many times already, I wanna be done with it for good.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I always ask people from the community to share with us with their top 10 hobbies are. So I'll ask you the same thing. What are your top 10 hobbies and activities to do besides putting alcohol in your mouth

[@andresdelcampo6733]

@@GettingSoberAgain I don't have 10, but the one I enjoy is hiking in the woods. That's what I enjoy more than anything else. I would like to adopt a cat, but I don't feel financially prepared to take care of it yet, but eventually.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@andresdelcampo6733 Do you have any disc golf courses nearby? If so, I think you would really like it. The courses are typically out in the park, bigger cities tend to have more, especially if they have more greenways and nature at their disposal. And you typically get about you know 5,000 steps in per round for 18 holes. It'll give you something to occupy your mind and learn and get good at and it's a lot of fun. You can go out every day and just shoot by yourself. And inevitably you'll meet friends and maybe you can hop in on their game and swap numbers. And there are always going to be local groups of people that meet up and do leagues and tournaments once you start getting better. Plus there's a whole lot of videos on KZbin about how to throw your discs, how the discs fly, land, the differences between sizes, weights, putters, mid-range, fairway drivers, and distance drivers. And you have to play a lot of hide and seek with your discs because they end up in bushes so you'll definitely be doing a lot of Easter egg hunting for your discs when you're new lol

[@svenjurgenson5442]

10 days in, planning to stay away from the sauce in April, then after will see .. feel pretty good, initially was a bit moody, but nothing else ..

[@Ckitch01140]

not very afraid to get sober, been there before, even long term. much more afraid to keep drinking