I overcame social anxiety when I changed this 1 thing

[@naturalebeing]

You have no idea how much of an impact this video is going to make on me. It's exactly what I needed to hear. The validation I needed that I dont have to force myself to go to social events I don't want to because I think it'll make my social anxiety less bad. I'm a naturally monotone, serious kind of person and I have a lot of insecurity about it because my mom always criticized me for it. "You're too serious" "you're so intense" "you need to be more playful". When I go into social events with people I dont know well, I always feel like I have to put on an act, so it's really draining. Until I get to the point (I'm on a very serious and dedicated self growth / self love journey) where I'm comfortable and confident in my natural self, I don't need to force myself into these social environments where I feel like I can't be myself. I make the most friends through work because I feel most confident and at ease in those environments.

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

you are exactly the person you were designed to be, not a single part of you is wrong or flawed, remember that ❤️

[@shanyelaa]

I cried, honestly, when i realize all this time it was just me putting pressure on myself that caused all the pain and the feeling of being a failure because i didn't met the inhumane expectations i have of myself. This time i need to forgive and accept myself as i am. I'm a bit emotional that you're not recognized enough because your words really spoke to my soul. Thank you so much Christina

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

I'm so glad this resonated with you 🥹 I'm also so happy and excited that you're starting to forgive + accept yourself honestly this was transformational for me

[@rachelp.4410]

I love your videos, and I really like how you frame what going out of your comfort zone actually is. I’ve always been told that and put so much pressure on my self over it when in reality that’s not necessary

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

totally!

[@naturalebeing]

This was so on time. I really didn't want to do anything crazy on halloween. My friend who has a child invited me trick or treating with them and my mom said we could make a fire in her front yard and hand out candy. I would've genuinely enjoyed either of those things, but I felt a pressure to go out where there's other people my age and "live it up, im 26!" So I asked my coworker if I could join her and her friends plans and went out to the bars. I hated every second of it. Making boring small talk with people I barely know, drinking. I left early-ish and just realized I went against my heart and for my ego. Won't do that again.. at least will try not to.

[@marys7988]

Every episode you post-what you say resonates with me

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

mission accomplished

[@charnii_pviolin]

wow i so really needed to hear! It's like you were speaking directly to me! For a long time, and still now, I would try to appear like a social butterfly to people, especially at church and social events. I would constantly be in my head all the time and have a plan like you said on "Ok, this is who I'm going to talk to when I get there" or even after church, when everyone would socialise and mingle and I would just sit there feeling awkward and go on my phone, wishing I was more talkative and then I would get pinpointed on being quiet or anti-social (when i'm far from being anti-social, I'm just selectively social and more at peace in silence). I was always told if I want to meet new people, I need to stop sitting on my own waiting for others to come to me (which is true to the extent) but I would go up to people to start conversations to prove a point to others because I felt ashamed of being labelled as "the quiet and reserved one" as I saw it as a bad thing for a long time. But now when I'm at church, even if i talk to one or two people, I'm fine after that just sitting on my own not even feeling awkward anymore and don't even go on my phone to appear nervous, as i've accepted this is who I am. I also never wanted to admit that I had social anxiety but looking back at my life to now, I realised this is what i was going through and you've definitely shown it in a new perspective on how to overcome it so thank you 😊❤ I have one best friend but where taking space so unsure whether the friendship will end or not and i have more acquaintances, with one I'll be hanging with next week and I'm actually ok with that. Yes I don't really have any other close friends and wish I did but I understanding friendships take time and perfectly ok being alone, whilst also now learning to do things on my own

[@afse9431]

That's really great to hear

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

i'm glad this found you

[@charnii_pviolin]

@ can I also ask another question, do you think having one friend is enough? I would love to have a few more friends like maybe just 2-3 more so that I don’t rely on my one best friend too much but at the same time I feel like I’m satisfied with it because we never get bored when we hang out and enjoy each other’s company but when I see other people have more friends than me, it makes me feel like I’m missing out on that. I have more acquaintances that I do talk as well but they’re kind of like surface level conversations

[@grace.1123]

my social anxiety though is always the thought that if i go somewhere because it’s a thing i enjoy but i don’t talk to anyone that i’ll come across as rude and stand-off-ish. i’m not big on small talk and that’s probably what’s hindering me from making actual connections because the moment someone starts talking to me i get uncomfortable and start thinking “ok when is the conversation going to end?”

[@TG-qc4si]

This is the best practical video on how to overcome social anxiety!!! I’d add to the tips mentioned to start gradually exposing yourself to social situations. Don’t do a Meetup or Eventbrite event first if you’re very anxious. Instead, go to a museum or a cafe by yourself, go alone to some concert where you can sit and listen to music, meet up just one new potential friend on Bumble bff or Hej!Vina and have a coffee. Be patient and notice any positive things from you being out and about. Then when you’re more comfortable, do events that seems like more demanding. It’s a journey, nobody became a social butterfly overnight 😊

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

I love this!

[@sioxz8435]

i only have lighter social anxiety but normally i have so much anxiety that having more for social situations would just be absurd. and yes doing your own thing makes people approach you and invite you out to things

[@SakshiChikhalkar-vl1cc]

Thank you so much Christina for all these videos. ❤I am a 19 years old and i am going through this very badly, suffering so much in my mind and couldn't focus on my work. Through you i have found a ray of hope. Thank you thank you so much for being there for us,making these videos and helping us. Lots n lots of love....❤

[@Lillian_V3]

You’re my therapist ❤

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

slay

[@SakshiChikhalkar-vl1cc]

Thank you so much❤You have come as my saviour...lots of love from India🇮🇳

[@dharsaniganapathi4729]

Girl that biceps are biceping💪💪

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

HAHAH thanks

[@riri3i]

Thank you Christina!

[@SimpLeton-j9y]

Just be at EASE! don't try to do "extra" Or don't try to be a wannabe😊

[@Makiya_Martin04]

I most definitely needed this video

[@annoar9776]

Omg yes yes yes! You are so right!

[@marys7988]

CREATE YOUR APP! I’LL DOWNLOAD IT ❤

[@MNCH_S]

I love you so much and thank you❤

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

love you more

I feel you are a very good advice

[@browncoco17]

Relatable.

[@Grim-Jamie]

You win

[@M_liife]

Love your vidéo ❤ pleaseee guys ✨I have been hesitating for a long time to publish a video on my channel but now I have done it and I would like you to leave me your opinions in the comments please.❤❤😅😅

[@worklikehell808]

💜💜💜

[@LeahRebecca]

🙏🏾

[@Angee82111]

Interesting idea for a app but then I thought Oh no then a lot of ppl will trauma bond lol..