I quit my six-figure job as a 30-year old latina - life lessons at 30 | unemployed diaries | Iralis

For some reason, everyone expects you to have your life perfectly laid out when you're 30 and that's not the reality for most people now. At 30 years old, I decided to quit my six figure law firm job and abandon the plan that society likes to lay out for your life. And with that decision, I've learned some important life lessons... so let's talk about them, starting with lesson 1: you're on nobody's time but your own.
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[@ConnectWithUganda]

You're not alone, at 30 I went to visit my parents and my dad told me he's so disappointed in me(not married, no stable career, total failure in he's eyes) that he wished he could produce another child to replace me 😄 I made 31 few days ago, I still don't have anything figured out but I'm a believer knowing everyone's timing is different, and all will be well. I will keep following your channel.

[@sophiejimenez7492]

I’m so sorry that your dad said those things to you. I hope you’re doing well (:

[@quarter21]

that's right! --- believer knowing everyone's timing is different. also here's a golden nugget, any success always leaves clues and bread crumbs, this girl here is at it.. learning from others also save you alot of time and efforts.. and everyone always have something to share..

[@CM-yo9jk]

Bless you.x

[@Iralis]

stay rooted in your strength and your belief in yourself! you're right where you need to be ❤ things will click as they are meant to

[@lucasp1185]

thats rough

[@TheLeadAttorney]

Great job on quitting. Life is too short to work at a miserable job.

[@adhdgirlies]

Is being a lawyer that bad 😂

[@saybrittaney]

Facts

[@TheLeadAttorney]

@@adhdgirlies For about 85% of attorneys, yes. :(

[@morganjacoby5873]

I had a "quarter life crisis" at 27. Now I'm 29 and about to start a completely different carrier as a pilot.

[@kraziikiim]

Omg I had one at 25. I thought it was just me😭

[@e_the_real]

What does that Mean ?

[@SEAndies]

That’s awesome 😇❤

[@notabot2928]

Career not carrier*

[@wanderingdoc5075]

Y'all ain't living to age 100 😂 Chance of that is 1/10,000

[@CrisOnTheInternet]

I was born when my dad was 33 and recently I turned 33, jokingly I said to him that I was a failure because I don't have kids, a house or a car like he did at my age, hi told me that I have achieved so much more (I have a degree in CS, a stable job, speak 4 languages and I'm finishing my second year in Anthropology). Also he once told me that I have a nice life, I go out with friends, have hobbies that enrich me intellectually as well as relaxing. Everytime I see this type of videos I appreciate even more how my parents raised me and don't judge me.

[@Brown_supreme]

Wow. I'm 30, quit my job 3 weeks ago and share your exact same story. God brought me to this for a reason and for that i'm grateful. Thank you for sharing!!!

[@hersweetlove9264]

I quit my job 3 weeks ago I was a CNA. Worst job ever I’m 23.

[@SimplySaki]

I’m 25 and I hear sooo many people in their 30’s that just become wiser and are now figuring out their lives. Society pressures us to have this cookie cutter life from the age of 18 and having to know what career you want, if you’ve met your soul mate, etc. I also have immigrated parents and definitely feel the pressure of being “successful “ professionally. But the truth is I’ve changed my mind like 3 time in the past 5 years and I’m just trying to figure out life as I go! Awesome video ❤

[@Iralis]

thank you! congrats on continuing to try to figure out what's meant for you. it's not easy but it'll be worth it in the end

[@louisemarierenfort6950]

Same 25 . I need to stop stressing

[@raulmenjivar6584]

Money is a means to an end, you can replace it. You can't replace your health, or your family or your true friends. Best of luck to you in your future!

[@TheeSecondSon]

You’re not alone. I’m 30 and was making over 100K as an executive assistant in the bay area. I recently lost my job, was behind on bills, stressed the hell out. God recently gave me a job as a security to keep things that float but it’s nowhere near the money I’m used to making. I felt like a failure, especially after watching a lot of my friends successes. That feeling has thankfully surpassed, although I do have moments of doubt or when I’m just hard on myself. Ive decided I’m about to enroll in the Air Force, with the hopes of pursuing a nursing career, and eventually a CRNA career. We have to remember that, although we may be 30 we’re still young …REALLY young. We have our whole lives ahead of us. And everyone’s path to success and happiness is unique and special to them. Let’s all enjoy this crazy journey we call life. Great video enjoyed it!

[@Iralis]

you're not and never were a failure! there's a reason God pulled you from that job and is directing you elsewhere. things will make sense for all of us later on 💛 wishing you safety and success in your new path

[@Shawnmonique7]

❤💯🙏🏾

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

👏👏

[@adriox177]

What security company you work for

[@CrisOnTheInternet]

And that's not even an exaggeration, if we get to live 80 years, we're not even in the middle.

[@_ami95]

Girl I’m 28, first child of immigrant parents and left my 6 figure medical job, might have to move back in with my mom in a few months, and just recently went on the worst date of my entire life so no prospects for marriage or kids anytime soon LOL! We are living the same life, I was more depressed and anxious at that job than ever before. This is a crazy transitional period for me as I explore new career paths and get to know myself and God even deeper, but I know it’ll be a beautiful journey full of lessons. Good luck to you in your journey as well!! 💗

[@Iralis]

that first born child of immigrant parents is DIFFERENT let me tell you lol 😂so glad you decided to make a change in your life & i pray your journey will be full of success and happiness ❤

[@capsulebeats]

Society tells us we need to have so much figured out by 30. But if you look around you, look at the ppl working in the places we all shop & eat daily etc, you realize some people at 37, 40, even 50 do not have this life shit “all figured out”. All in stride. Run your own race Great vid appreciate you sharing ✌🏾

[@SaharaKnows]

Been there. I had to quit because I was having panic attacks. Then I felt like shit for quitting and having no job. Then when I got a new job I felt even more anxious that I made the wrong decision. It wasn’t until I learned how to disconnect from my job and just view it was a paycheck that things changed.

[@memoir02]

OMG you sound like me right now. Been at my full time job for 11 months and am starting to not give af anymore. I hate coming home from work after an 8.5 hour Mon-Fri workday and not having any time/energy for my own goals and projects outside of work. I feel bad though because a couple of my co workers put so much effort into training me and getting me acclimated with how they do things. I feel like I'd be kicking them in the face by quitting now.

[@Iralis]

I know exactly what you mean! I felt so bad when I was considering quitting bc of the same reasons 😫 at the end of the day though I had to decide if it was more important to keep my coworkers happy or myself. It just wasn’t worth it to me to keep sacrificing what was important to me. You’ll know if and when it’s time for you to move on tho 💛

[@ramonedixon]

I recently quit an extremely soul draining job as well, so I fully understand what you were going through. I'm in my last year of my 30s, and if there is anything I've learned thus far regarding life plans, it's things are always good until they're not and vice versa, but no matter what life throws at you, your sanity and mental health above all comes first. Congrats on quitting negativity and taking the leap towards happiness.

[@davefischer2344]

Good.

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

👏

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

You are still young. I got married at 19 and still is. I am 39 years old now and wish I had waited until I was 25 or 30 to do so. Furthermore, I regret getting married young and giving up my life to become a wife to what I learned now to be a Christian narcissist. Likewise, I didn’t know what I was getting into because I was raised sheltered all my life, so wasn’t aware of the dangers. Don’t be bad for not having those things because you accomplished more than many people older than you. Be proud of the blessings you have achieved in your life.

[@user-us3jy2mb5r]

This is such a sweet comment

[@tatysapp]

Thank you for sharing. Also turned 30 this year (September), working in mortgage finance. The business has been ROUGH, and of course I feel unaccomplished... single, no kids, no car, no house, barely enough money to survive, living at home, still facing childhood trauma. We're going to grow through it forsure!

[@bashirauwal5825]

After over 12 years as a registered nurse, I decided to quit two years ago. It was a difficult choice, but life is too short to be dreading coming to work every day. True happiness cannot be purchased with money. But, friends, I'm not telling you to quit your work or close your business; rather, be wise!

[@laurakhalan5648]

I don't really like my job but I like what it provides for me and my family

[@hillaryvasquez9651]

You're right ma'am, were you a bedside nurse and how did you plan yourself before quiting

[@bashirauwal5825]

I prepared for early retirement while still in the service, earning about 2k per week from my investment portfolio while striving to build new side hustles and extra income

[@hillaryvasquez9651]

Wow impressive!! you're making quite a fortune, speaking of investing I've heard about it but I don't really know how to start and make a good investment Share more info please

[@bashirauwal5825]

There's a lot of investing options real estate, stocks, crypto, ETFs but my best advice get a professional lead you into profitable one and make good financial decisions

[@M1ndfulMan]

Also I think forgiving ourselves for any any past mistakes or time we think we’ve wasted. Otherwise we will sabotage ourselves. a lot can change in 6 months/1 year when you focus on being present, meditate, read books, exercise, journal, connect with nature communicate with God. Imagine your passion as the core of an orange and every step in your journey your peeling a new layer of the orange until you reach its core.

[@Neesha242]

I’m about to do this. I need to stay off social media for a good 6 months. I’ll get back on it when I get enough courage to start a online business

[@steezy7460]

You'll be alright, success is in your path.... enjoy life and the fruits of your labor...

[@marthaajoe]

Hi girl, I am 24 years old and in the beginning of october, I moved to Chicago from SD for my 100,00+ job. (same job, but travel work in Chicago). Long story short, I realized I was NOT happy. It was contract work, yes it was good money but the position I had in SD was only 60 hrs a week compared to 84 in Chi. I betrayed my health and hapiness for a job far away from my friends and family, and it took its toll on me. So I just quit. Bought a flight back home, came back to the room in house I was still paying rent for, and have been unemployed. But, there is always the rainbow after the storm. You will figure it out, and I believe we will be okay. I took this time to deep dive into myself, realized I wanted to switch careers, and now attending school full time. I wont make 6 figs for a while out into the future because of school, but thats okay. I am happy and feeling better, sometimes it takes events in life such as losing your current life as you know it to find yourself and grounding again. Sending good vibes and a hug, everything will be okay, and do what makes YOU happy!

[@tfairmanxo]

THANK YOU FOR THIS. I feel so seen. I just turned 26 and resonate with everything you said. I left my last company for the same reasons. I was getting so sick all the time, crazy headaches, anxiety attacks, not wanting to do anything after work, fell off building my community and side hustles because I never had any energy. I was always irritable and mean to loved ones, I just wasn't myself and I hated how much I left this job take over my wellbeing. I decided in July 2022 that I know I couldn't stay and by June 2023 I had given my notice. It wasn't easy and I missed the steady paycheque but no job is ever worth your peace and overall wellbeing! Congrats to you and I hope we both can find better, more aligned opportunities!!!

[@StephenVTran]

Man I can relate so much. My world was dark, but every time I quit a job it’s like the color comes back into my life. Congratulations to you for being brave enough to leave. Keep up the good work, women and men need your message!

[@user-ts7uf7cr8o]

You are not alone. I am 30 and it's been almost one year that I have lost my job 😂 I totally agree with you that our bodies try very hard to communicate us when sth is not right. After quitting the toxic workplace, my gastritis has gone. Now I can eat anything anytime I want to do which makes me feel relaxed and free. I now realize that I didn't listen to my body. I believe that everything will surpass. Let's get through this. I believe we all can do this.

[@luckyluna62]

The pressure is too high!! My parents have been very understanding but I think it’s because they have seen my mental health in the drain still I’m grateful for their support and love

[@Iralis]

it really is 😭 it’s fantastic your family’s been able to understand and support you 🙏🏽

[@thatlovegirl12]

I resigned from my tech job two days ago. I did receive an offer for another job but it’s less stressful. My job really drained me. I traveled and hung with friends but from Monday to Friday I would be soo sad. I haven’t gone to the gym since February. I miss my old self before I started this job.

[@heybaeitsblanca1492]

Hey, can i ask which area of tech did u work in? Do you have a degree? Was it work from home? I want to get into tech but dont know where to start.

[@barneyy6942]

How do you !ike the new job? Was joining the next job immediately difficult? Tell me all the changes you felt in the job. Do you think a break after that previous joib would have been better?

[@thatlovegirl12]

I work in design. Yes I have a bachelors degree. And yes it was remote.@@heybaeitsblanca1492

[@thatlovegirl12]

It would be nice to take a break. But I don't want to put myself in a financial position where I am not earning any income. And I do not think it is very smart to exhaust my savings in this current economy. Joining the new company wasn't difficult. My new role allows me to work on a variety of different projects whereas my previous role was on focused around one task and very mundane. Another thing I will say is that in my previous role my manager was a female and she would always give us extra work and she would suggest that we work from 7am to 7pm even though it was a salaried position... My new manager is a male. He has been very flexible and accommodating. He allows me to work from 9:30/10am to 4:30pm. @@barneyy6942

[@p.o.p.presents]

Love the content. I salute the millennials. You're fearless, bold and revolutionary. You should be proud of yourselves. Us Gen Xers are the middle children between generations. Our only options were college or a dead end job. Our spirits wanted more but we didn't have the tools like present times. We do now. I think 20 and 30 somethings have changed and shifted the worker bee system and it'll be remembered in history. I'm taking notes mi amiga. Peace. P.o.p.

[@Melifter]

College and dead-end jobs are not the only options available to you. You could start your own business, or go into the military and fight for your country, or go into a career requiring certification and not a degree such as HVAC or welding or electrical or carpentry or any of the other many trade industries out there in the world. Jeez, man, it’s not so bad. Get out there and make something of yourself.

[@JustManou]

Lol all the millennials quitting, i just quit my job as well. Glad I did tbh, do you love and make your goals come true!

[@romanaja125]

Hope you have a backup plan and enough $$ saved to Pau your bills

[@NirvanaMemories]

So glad you shared this experience - it is literally so inspiring and relatable as someone who is in their 30’s and is “starting over” from scratch. God really keeps knocking on the door until we finally answer 😂

[@Iralis]

I couldn’t have said it better myself. 😭 so grateful to be in this stage of my life tho and thankful for everyone who’s able to be part of it ❤

[@nicoletiana]

YES GIRL. THIS IS YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!!! YOU HAVE TO LIVE IT!!!!

[@kindredspirit.9941]

That's how I felt when I became a corporate trainer. The role literally fell into my lap and at first I appreciated the challenge - created a curriculum/presentation from scratch, had to adjust to rapid/sudden changes and educate on them, had to be "ON" for the full shift while facilitating training with no assistant. Whenever I got off, I was depleted.. THEN it didn't help that I was going through relationship issues so things got depressive for me and I still had to wear a mask bc Training must go on. I left back in May and working at a job that doesn't pay half as much but so much at peace mentally.

[@diamonddeal837]

Cue michael jackson * you are not alone* lol We are with you sister, 30, left a toxic relationship in one state and moved back to my home state and in with my parents., I am making less money than I was in 2019-2021, no degree and going back to school in January. I have a business I am growing and I get down sometimes, but when I look around at all the things I DO have, it helps me out things into perspective. I have my health, a car, a nice roof over my head, I have talent and I don't need anything. We will figure it out and everything works together for the greater good.

[@Iralis]

congratulations on leaving that relationship & also maintaining that positivity as you go about our path! we'll definitely figure it out and keep it moving until we're good 😤❤️

[@SingleseasonPodcast]

You are totally me and I'm glad you shared your story, and knowing that we're all going to be alright. Together we believe it, and it will lead us to even better things.❤

[@M1ndfulMan]

Some times God delays what’s written for you because it may have caused you to distance from Him but when you come close to Him, he will give you everything you want, if it’s truly good for you. Trust in his timing sister ❤

[@Iralis]

i've actually been seeing this so much in my life recently as i've started to seek Him out more. thank you for sharing this & speaking truth & love 🥹

[@belle4978]

Videos like yours are so important. I have had conversations like this since the beginning of the Covid lockdown, I knew that some people were going to reflect on the type of work they do and the life they lead. For me, as an immigrant, I feel like the work culture in the US is toxic so I managed to find ways early on in my career to have my own healthy balance (I'm a licensed social worker) such as taking my sick days for rest/self-care, always taking my vacation days, taking unpaid days if I feel not in the mood and also quitting any role that may not be good for me. I just gave myself three months of a sabbatical as I needed it so I applaud you for choosing You over a Job. You're young, you'll figure it out. My own advice to anyone reading this: Live within your means, save as much as you and go out there and Live!

[@Iralis]

thank you so much for this! The budget has been very strict since stepping away but I feel very much at peace & a sense of rightness ❤

[@belle4978]

You're welcome@@Iralis you're doing good! keep a strict budget because as you know, inflation right now is crazy! I truly wish you all the best on this new chapter!

[@GermanyCaputo]

Can definitely relate to you! I’m going through my own journey of transitioning out of my 9-5 for similar reasons as you. I have to trust that God’s timing is perfect and that He will finish what He starts in our lives. So happy that you made the decision that was right for you and your overall health ❤

[@CuratingKenya]

Hooray 🎉glad I’m not alone. I felt so secure when I quit like God was like don’t trip I got you. Trusting the process and keeping my faith strong. Listening to my happiness ❤

[@gone.golfing]

Omg you’re still so young! 30 is just the beginning of your journey and really learn about yourself! Getting married and having kids in your 20s is kinda stupid in my opinion.

[@milagroelguerayllescas9091]

This is so nice to see, and knowing that I am not the only one is ok. I just turned 35, single, no kids, no husband. I stop working in a place that gave me a lot of money but I was so tired and exhausted all the time. Now I have another job, living paycheck to paycheck every month. I feel like a failure, but I know I will get something better soon, God’s plans are always the best for the ones who believe 🙏🏾

[@Ohhhshootitsbella]

Wow… it felt like you were directly speaking with me. I withdrew from my graduate program in September and felt this feeling of grief and loss. I spent most of my 20s doing academics and trying to make my mom proud because she gave me the entire world with what little she had. Now here I am working at a job that sucks my soul out of me everyday. I literally feel the exact same way you did, the dread, the devastation, the not looking forward to coming back. But since leaving the program, I’ve learned that life isn’t all about school and trying to make others happy. It’s not about trying to have the best salary or trying to be the best employee when you know you can be replaced in a heartbeat. I am scared of my leap of faith, but deep down in my spirit, something is telling me to leave this job. To go forward and to do the next best thing. My hope right now is to get into a CNA program next year. The end goal is to become a travel RN and go all around the US (and eventually world) and just live the life I’ve been wanting to live. Thank you for this great video. I hope you continue to thrive and glow on this beautiful journey we call life 💕

[@anh-minh]

damn I rarely write the comments but the moment you mentioned "our bodies try so hard to communicate with us", I gotta hit the like button. This is so true for me right now and I feel completely drained by the job even though it gives me a good earning to support myself and my family. I'm not gonna quit now but already have a deadline for it All the best for your upcoming journey!

[@Iralis]

I’m telling you!!! As soon as my friend said it I was like 😨 bc it’s so spot on. Appreciate the well wishes & I hope everything goes beautifully for you when you start on that new path!❤

[@Neesha242]

That’s our inner being/higher self/spirit whatever you call it! It mostly communicates with us through emotion.

[@flipevent]

I'm in front of such a decision as well. At 35, I'm thinking of quitting my job by mid 2024 and going on a 3-month, unadulterated "discovery trip" to find myself. Something that I don't think I've ever been given the chance to since my early 20's. I've been grinding for student loans (which I've paid off recently) and am making 6-figures... but now, for what am I doing this grind for exactly? I don't think I've convinced myself of this plan of attack yet. About 8 months more to figure it out. But if nothing else, I definitely am hearing God's knocking loud and clear.

[@candice446]

Turning 30 in a few months. KZbin is pushing you out in the algorithm. I hope you continue to post

[@Iralis]

30 is definitely a transition! I’m excited for you 🥰

[@balzoemg8415]

Good for you for making that decision. This is probably not the first time you’ll feel this way about a job. Im 40 and have been in the same situation several times. I hope things work out for you.

[@iYummmerz7]

Totally enjoyed this! Needed to hear this

[@yvonneoshevwe2334]

Love this and watching this on a frustrating Monday morning has inspired me today.

[@allthingsjanee]

This video popped up just in time. Needed it

[@Tia.K.C]

Congratulations for breaking free! As someone who is in a very similar situation (I quit my job early this year and I am about to start my dream job) I would like to welcome you to the rest of your life, which now gets to be full of infinite love, healing, and abundance 🎉

[@Iralis]

Congrats on paying off your loans!! I definitely love the idea of taking time off to go explore & experience life! I’m hoping I’ll get to do the same in the future. You’ll know what the right thing to do is ❤

[@dreamabundantblessings2129]

I just ran across your clip and I want to Congratulate you on making the best decision for yourself!!🎉 Everything for you will come together in due time. The peace you experience is more priceless than anything. Just keep yourself surrounded by positivity. You will achieve everything your heart desires.😊

[@bbmadeline]

so glad I found your channel! never related so much. I'm 29 and currently going through this exact situation. KZbin is my passion and can't dedicate as much time to it as I want to because of this toxic job. thanks for sharing your story. it's nice to know that I'm not alone with these feelings.

[@shatyle2288]

Your video gave me a sign. - I think this is my SIGN. I’m not usually on KZbin & lo & behold your video is the first one on my page. I’ve been battling with the thought of quitting my own 6 figure job (not for necessarily for KZbin) bc of the exact reason you said ! Being over worked! Over whelmed ! Depressed! And just dreading every day to get up and keep going. When I know deep down that this isn’t for me and I have so much more to offer & I’m only stopping my growth bc of my immigrant family history, my child, my home & my husband . I have a story to tell! And God has been working through me with that. And he spoke to me through your video! Thank you so much for sharing. This week is my last week:) not going to lie I’m super scared. But I will shout you out when I tell my side of the story on this platform. (Its a crayyyz one) I wish u the best of luck on your path :)

[@Iralis]

im so touched its so HARD to come from an immigrant background to step away from that safety and plan you had for so long - even harder when you have a family. but god put that in your heart for a reason and im so glad my video was able to help you in any way. i look forward to hearing your story whenever you're ready to tell it 🥹❤️

[@chaoticlizsama]

This video randomly popped up on my algorithm and I'm glad it did cause I deff needed to hear this! I can relate so much to everything you said. My job took over my life as well and my channel took a backseat hard. My parents also immigrated from another country so this hits home. I'm rooting for you, life is hard but knowing you aren't alone certainly helps! Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@eyeamsabrina]

Gosh, the way I relate to this video is so intense. I'm 32 and I feel like I'm starting from scratch. I am currently in a job that I hate, I am definitely not going to be working there by like next month because, like you, I overstayed wayyyyy too long. I'm ready for a change and I'm not settling until I get exactly what I want out of life. I'm so happy you decided to take that leap and decided you wanted better for yourself!

[@Shaneka_Kay]

Wow. Great video, especially the part about listening to your body and realizing the job was draining you, even when outside of work. Thanks for sharing.

[@shivon.monique]

I know the feeling. It's like the more they pay you, the more draining the job becomes. I just no longer willing to trade my time and freedom. Blessings to you! Everything is going to work out for you ❤

[@MsWOCReader]

Thank you! I needed this and it's so relatable.

[@KingReyReyes]

Thank you for sharing! I just made the decision of leaving my “good” 6 figure job to give me time to refocus my life. So glad to hear I may not be wrong for doing so

[@NopeNotToday26]

I'm 25 but I enjoyed your video because something really eye-opening stuck out to me. There is something beautiful about when a woman turns 30...maturity kicks in. I hate all these red pill podcasts always shitting on 30-year-old women when I think 30 is probably the best age to even get married and really double down on what it is you want out of life. Growing and maturing is such a beautiful thing...and I'm glad you are feeling more comfortable with yourself despite where you are in life vs whatever the comparison is. God bless you girl and I hope God continues to lift you up and you receive everything good from the one above. Thank you for sharing this video! I personally appreciated it .....even though I'm not 30 lol. This video helps me to breathe a little and continue taking my time in life.

[@shannonciara]

This is how I felt about college and making the decision to drop out and pursue entrepreneurship. It wasn't easy and I'd stress so hard that my head would hurt. I can relate when you said after you left, you felt a sense of relief. I'll def be supporting bc I totally understand how hard that decision must've been for you!

[@Iralis]

thank youuu! wishing you luck & success in your entrepreneurship journey 💝

[@allijoyfly5647]

I don’t usually comment, but I just wanted to say how grateful I am to have just stumbled across your video. I’m a college student turning 20 in two days, and thinking about that has stressed me out so much over the last year. In my head, turning 20 meant that I have to be a “real” adult and have everything figured out. Seeing my cousins getting married young and beginning promising careers doesn’t help. I feel like I’m falling behind because I don’t really know what I want. But hearing you talk about your experiences and reading about the paths of so many others in the comments reminded me that there is no “one size fits all” format for life. We’re all figuring things out as we go, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

[@Iralis]

so glad me & everyone in the comments were able to help ❤ 🥹

[@franchisebeauty]

Ooh hun you're so young... my advice is get to know who you are , your hearts desires, what fulfills you, heal, read books that'll expand your mind and think big. I'll be 31 on December 31st and I feel like I'm on my "4th life". Life is a journey, don't fall for society's cookie cutter life. Live it your way ❤

[@davefischer2344]

Hey it's good that you figured this out now, you're doing what's good for you, I'm glad you are doing what makes you happier =)

[@Iralis]

thank you! 🤗

[@miracleo2461]

I definitely needed this video. I love your perspective and i always thought i was selfish in the past for leaving certain positions. Needed this reassurance.

[@Iralis]

I’ve been there! I started to think about it like it was in both parties best interest for me to leave bc they could get someone who actually wanted to be there and I could go do me soooo ✌🏽

[@lauren2702]

I resonate with you 100%. I was actually so done with the job for almost like 10 months, was about to quit in the beginning of the year bc I was also relocating to be with my bf. They offered to keep me as remote worker without changes in salary (normally for non-remote work), so I kept it. Work wasn't too stressful but I was NOT fulfilled, so decided give 2weeks. I did buy my own house though this year when I turned 30, but thinking about paying the mortgage over 30 years really makes me stressed out when I hit the pillow every night. Anyhow, we are all trying to fake it until making it.

[@SEAndies]

You’re brave beautiful and smart! Girl I feel you I went through this the past yr. And finding happiness and passion again is worth it. Don’t be hard on yourself. No money is worth it.

[@thepricklyonesbyyanawhelan]

Thank you for sharing your story. I am from Puerto Rico as well, professional corporate America senior leader and your story is very relatable. I like to watch other people stories. As a Puerto Rican and USA citizens, the people of Puerto Rico can move throughout the 50 states just as any other Americans can-legally, this is considered internal migration, not immigration. Just a small clarification. I won't love to learn more about your personal journey. Saludos and Bendiciones, Yana.

[@lagomholly]

I’m so grateful for your honesty and sharing your experience. I’m at that point in life where experiences and my health and happiness are paramount. No pay check or work position is worth ruining your health and happiness. Life is so short and I’d rather have a life full of love and enjoyment in the little things than letting time pass me by because I’m too caught up trying to continue an unsustainable pursuit of constantly climbing the proverbial ladder. Wishing you the best for your future and thanks for this video😊

[@AVx00]

This is literally SOO WELL PUT! I truly feel that people just do not get it. If you ‘have it good’ in any way shape or form, its so easy/too easy for family friends etc to assume that “you should be happy you have _____ going for you” it’s so very true how much something like that can literally strip you of all you are and want to be. Love this!❤

[@MrsNewlywedMoney]

I felt this so much!! Thank you for the transparency and also 📣 YELLING AT ME!!

[@MrsNewlywedMoney]

New subbie!

[@Iralis]

not me yelling lmao 😂- im glad it resonated with you 💛

[@eliot5220]

It’s always good to leave a job as long as you plan it out and don’t let it drag out too long. I left mine after a while longer than I should have. Doing something else now that’s much better and allows me to pursue some other business ventures. You seem like an intelligent person. Good luck ❤

[@robyn_southafrica]

"life lessons at 30" needs a playlist!! You've got a new subscriber here 😃🤗🤍

[@Iralis]

thank you for subbing & the suggestion! I’ll definitely add one once the next lesson goes live 🫶🏼

[@Peace.breathe_be]

Thank you for being so open and honest about this queen. So many of us can relate to this 💚

[@Iralis]

thank you girl 🥺 we’re all out here tryna live & speak our truth so thanks for supporting ❤

[@Peace.breathe_be]

@@Iralis of course no problem. I’m 31 and I recently walked away from a job that was draining me earlier this year, but I was able to find my passion once I stepped away, which I’m so thankful for. 🙏🏾

[@baldeagle4710]

@@Iralis you should be a singer. you have such great presence

[@AmayaZelaya]

Trust the process y sigue pa lante! Saludos y bendiciones!

[@JazUpMyStyle]

Kudos to you for taking a stance and knowing what you want out of life. I don’t know you but I’m proud of you.

[@Iralis]

thank you 🥹

[@JazUpMyStyle]

@@Iralis sending you lots of love and light ❤️❤️

[@beve83]

Thanks for sharing this! I'm in the exact same position right now, debating whether to stay or leave!

[@Iralis]

you'll know what the best decision for you is. im sure of it ❤️

[@yuridiana9047]

I thought I was alone for doing the same, it's nice hearing others going through the same

[@jessicasantos2383]

Girl you so real 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 Fact’s on everything you said , I totally can relate.. 👍❤️🌸

[@rubyflores2927]

Me too 😞 I’m 30 turning 31 this Saturday. I’m single living in my parents house. I don’t have a house on my own, no children , no boyfriend . No one wants to hire me in the medical profession after showing resumes and certifications . I might go to the plant to work.

[@LifeWithKayi]

You’re so pretty and down to earth ❤ wishing you the best in life. I feel stuck at the moment too and still trying to figure out which path to take. It’s definitely a process smh

[@Iralis]

thanks girl! It’s ok to be stuck things will open up and you’ll figure things out when you’re meant to ❤️ we’re all trying to figure it out as we go

[@lza3963]

Keep up the good work! You're making great progress, and your dedication and effort are truly admirable. Remember that success often comes to those who persevere, so keep pushing forward, stay positive, and believe in yourself. You've got this, and you will make it! Keep chasing your dreams with passion and determination, and the rewards will follow. Keep up the excellent work, and never stop believing in your abilities!

[@LunahsLibrary]

Omgggg I feel exactly like this it’s so weird to hear. I’ve said these same things. I needed this video.

[@Itzytoast]

34 yo here! The title is what I needed! Here to support your channel and wish you the best ❤ I’ve been in a job like that before. It was even depressing waking up for work

[@Iralis]

Thank you so much!!

[@_abbytobi]

Wow this resonated with me so much. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@Iralis]

im so glad ☺️

[@Tolu.Travels]

Very much relate to this and Im so excited to see what God has planned for you! ✨

[@laurafandino9783]

This is clearly your calling Iralis. Keep showing up, this is it for you!

[@CyAz2019]

Just saw your vlog and it make sense I am hoping for your success on YT, new subscriber here btw

[@Iralis]

thank you! 🥹🫶🏼

[@CyAz2019]

@@Iralis keep it up, I feel what you saying here the difference is that I am now a new mother at age of 30

[@jerickaacevedo372]

OMGG… girl… you so genuine … tf.. i need this

[@portenaennuevayork]

You're not alone, girl! I'm an immigrant and I worked in a place for a year that literally drained all my energy. I hated the job but I was new in the country, new in the society, and I wanted my money and to begin being part of the nyc life. But I got to a point where I was mad and sad all the time. And like you say, you stop even doing the things that you like because of how bad you feel about your job. So I decided to quit. Now I'm struggling to find a new job and thank God that my husband has a good job, but when I think about my decision I still think it was for the better, even if right now I'm unemployed. I know something is gonna come and it's gonna be better!

[@CM-yo9jk]

You did the right thing to quit. Make sure your next job/career doesn't overwhelm you in the future, as in don't keep crashing & burning. I have done the same throughout my career, I am having a break now for 2-3 years, figure out my next move. (I am 50, in UK). I was in my last job 6 years - kept trying & trying until it nearly destroyed me.

[@Iralis]

i'm definitely trying to keep focus on maintaining health & balance. so happy for you taking a break to decompress & take time for you! wishing you the best ❤️

[@lifeisbeautiful9455]

I quit a job in the medical field and I’m looking for something simple.. I don’t want to be ON all the time. I’m tired.

[@_callmeari_]

I needed to see this.

[@patriciag6260]

I can’t not agree with you more!!! I work for corporate America in a Sales position and it comes home with me. Ugh 😩 make good money so I feel so stuck! Thanks for making this!!!

[@Jasmillmelisa]

I went through this more at 24; and its been a rollercoaster ever since. 30 now and i found my path, have a better job now but i now i still have dreams and goals to go after

[@lisashikuku]

I 1000% relate to you,happened to me at 21 while everyone around me was super against me quitting that job ,i had to start therapy as well ...i'm 23 now and I'm still recovering😮‍💨.

[@clflamez6861]

Been seeing a lot of “quitting job” videos on my feed and I haven’t even been searching them so God must be preparing me to exit the horrible job I work at now. God bless you though. Idc what anybody says to quit your job with no plan but have faith God will steer you in the direction you want to be in is so powerful. You’re stronger than most people. We tend to just accept what we have as the end goal. I work with so many people that complain about hating the job and life but don’t want to do anything about it. That energy is so poisonous that I realized that I need to get out of there. Praying that my next step changes my environment and the people in it.

[@Iralis]

it definitely was a tough decision that I went back and forth on for a long time, but I’m happier than ever and god has really continued to show up in my life more & more ever since. It’s amazing you’ve been able to identify something that’s not positive for you & your life given the environment you’re in. You’ll end up exactly where you’re supposed to when it’s time ❤

[@jsmn_mllr]

Thank you for sharing your experience and story! I’m 30 as well and last year I worked in a very similar position as you but as a graphic designer for a legal consulting firm. I too was behaving the same way as you. Mentally exhausted from the long hours, working long weekends and holidays and to top it off with traveling for month long work trips. I have to quit because I as well as emotionally, mentally and physically exhausted. I got sick out of nowhere towards the end of me working there. Eventually I quit and had to take a full year off in order to get myself back into the right mindset. I grateful that my relationship with God and my parents are where they were because I wouldn’t know what I would have done without them. I’m not currently employed and looking for work but I’m not stressing because I know that what’s for me is for me. I hope that you find exactly what you’re looking in your journey. 😊

[@Iralis]

thanks girl! I love that you were able to take a full year to reset bc it’s really necessary when the damage is so deep!

[@quarter21]

I like your choice...You Go Girl.

[@LailaZub]

Literally same. I'm 35 and just quit. We will figure it out. :) just subscribed!

[@Iralis]

yes we will! And thanks for supporting ❤

[@missmarol]

I’m 37 Latina and seriously considering leaving my corporate job in January. I resonate with everything you said.

[@tenghanghaakum5976]

Wishing you the best

[@Iralis]

thank you!

[@jessicaj8083]

5 minutes into the video and i completely understand why you quit 💯 I had jobs like this before

[@saybrittaney]

Do what makes you happy and what brings peace to your life 🙏🏽🥰

[@lounic0216]

I can relate to you as an immigrants daughter. I'm now focused on the F.I.R.E movement.

[@Iralis]

i hadn't heard of this until now (i just had to do a google on it lol) - but i think a lot of people are now focusing on trying to retire early in order to fully live & experience life. i support you & hope it all works out in your favor!

[@lounic0216]

@@Iralis Thank you and same for you.

[@ahnekah5261]

@1:28 haven't watched the full vid yet but I LOVE THIS

[@ahnekah5261]

thank you for sharing your insight, i hear you, you are not alone!!! et God hears you💗💗💗