My Partner Left Me With A Bullet In My head| Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 40| Season 3

A guest shares her experience with an abusive partner that left a bullet in her head.
Studio Guest: Tshidi Nchabeng
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[@blossom6235]

I went through hell with a man who also claimed to be a christian, angel in the church, just to turn around and be an abusive devil in the house, I left him quietly without telling him I was leaving him that day, so that day when he went to work, I took my son and I left, I was a broken woman of all the abuse he put me through, I end up in a shelter with my son, by the way when I left him I was 2 months pregnant at the time, that was 16 years ago, that whole experience put me of ever dating or getting married again, today I'm living a very quiet peaceful life, my life turned out well, and may I say God has blessed me above and beyond my expectations.

[@oh.eulanda]

I'm so sorry you went through that traumatic experience and it tainted your view of love and relationships but I applaud you for leaving. It's courageous. Love and light sis. God bless you 🖤

[@blossom6235]

@@oh.eulanda , Thank you sister, I've learned what does not kill a person, makes one stronger, as for love and relationships, it took me a long time to find myself again and so for that reason I chose to be in a relationship with myself If that make sense, and also I was busy over the years raising my two boys, but like I said life turned out good for me, relationships is hard work and hard to maintain, anyway God bless you take care.

[@pinkysegolabeng3576]

the best decision you took ever .stay blessed

[@blossom6235]

@@pinkysegolabeng3576 , Yes you right, It turned out to be a blessed decision, God bless you.

[@mathapelongwenya864]

Been there. Left everything thing from teaspoon to children. I only left with my life and that’s all I needed and I’m happy to this day

[@natsaimuteyo885]

The fact that a lady can say no man can cheat on me and I will stay is so encouraging for me because society have normalized men's cheating forgetting it's a personal choice to stay or not when you're cheated on thumbs up to you ma'am you're an inspiration

[@neosjournal_]

Bathong teach your sons to accept rejection 😭 it’s okay to be told No. Aus Tshidi is a living testimony 🥺❤️

[@sontomtolo473]

💯

[@masindicindy2281]

And she looks like she healed man, I'm proud of her

[@cbosjourney4733]

This interview feels like 2 sisters who have not seen each other for a long time and the big sis is filling in the younger sis on what's been going on in her life. Relebogile makes people feel comfortable in her space, she's the best #RoadTo 100k

[@ernestinalefebvre5191]

Yah. It's honestly boring. I think Lebo tried or did very well to not fall asleep or loose interest cos it's honestly not interesting. Too ordinary.

[@mikatekomaluleke4099]

@@ernestinalefebvre5191 It’s the way ausi Tshidi is narrating the story. I can’t really put it into words

[@lebogangdlaminilebogangdla1691]

Yes it was a calm peaceful interview because the guest is calm as well

[@doremi131]

@Cbo's Journey Eya Neh

[@thabisoseema1606]

This lady is so strong.....the fact that she says she doesn't hate him nje & she's saying she feels safe

[@khetimthembu8465]

Can we have an episode where we talk about how women are taught to endure & taught to aspire to be wives but men dololo.. Eg if you can't cook they'll ask what will your husband eat?

[@jabubuthelezi4822]

Hheyi they don't even teach boys to wash their own underwear because wife will do it for them

[@thonkhaPatricia]

Hurtful thing about this issue is that women are the one who will be asking this depressing question,as if you only qualify as a wife if you're good in everything to do with household, women will be teaching women to endure, it's tough & I don't see victory here.

[@jabubuthelezi4822]

@@thonkhaPatricia yep,so sad that we are oppressed by other women who know the pain

[@lynnmothibeli325]

We need to talk about this as a society.

[@boitumelo9623]

@@thonkhaPatricia m

[@makwandeizipho950]

I’m proud of the rehabilitation team that treated Tshidi. They did a sterling job. The ‘wheelchair’ therapist you’re referring to is an occupational therapist.

[@minkymashalane280]

I'm an Occupational therapist and I'm 🦦🦦 proud

[@makwandeizipho950]

@@minkymashalane280 same here ❤️

[@ziziphomagula8183]

Your story sisi is a healing ministry. God always turn what the devil meant to kill you but God turns it into something great. Today you are living your purpose. All glory to God. May God continue to bless you sisi

[@langutamacheke2412]

Tshidi is an optimist. She relates her story with an open and smiley face. May God continue to grant her more strength!

[@kanyadishi1346]

How can one survive soo many things? God bless everyone who was involved.

[@malebogomolefhe747]

I can relate after surviving 8 gunshot bullets from a deranged ex boyfriend. God is indeed great. Men do not take kindly to rejection. They expect u to just take it. The moment u want out they just wonna kill. It's a very very sick world we live in. Am now confined to a wheelchair a result of the attack. 😩😩😩🙏

[@Afrosoil11]

Wow I'm sorry Malebogo

[@weveconquered1991]

So sorry🥺❤️

[@nomsebenzi1]

💛💛

[@molizagamatham155]

Wow. Am so sorry. The world can be so cruel.

[@oratilethango8077]

You're loved 🥰🥰

[@jessieschatz9611]

"I'm absolutely nothing without God" -THIS. Thank You Aus Tshidi for sharing. After watching the Netflix series MAID and at the same time dealing with trauma from emotional abuse which left me completely broken after dating a narcissist who preyed on my short comings to fill a void inside him, your story sheds such bright light and gives hope to people who are in similar situations to always choose themselves and also to FORGIVE. To be able to sit there and take us back to everything you went through with such strength and grace - that is only God's doing. Aus Relebogile thank you for this platform! May God bless You both and every soul this has impacted.

[@avuyileapril2861]

I’ve never cried like I did watching Maid. It’s the fact that people really still don’t consider emotional abuse as Abuse!! My ex used to laugh (even though we once got physical it was mostly emotionally abuse) he laughed in my face when I told him he is abusing me. But ohhh the God we pray too🥺🥺. I am glad to say I’m not as easily triggered by things now I’m just taking it as it goes but I am much better now. So for anyone who has been through or is in a similar kuzawulunga uThixo uzawosula amanxeba akho. Love and light ❤️

[@jessieschatz9611]

@@avuyileapril2861 OMG me too! It was so upsetting to see her go through all that I swear. It reminded me of when I'd get blocked or simply ignored by people everytime I'd tell them what my ex would be doing to me. Almost felt like I was losing my mind, felt like people just didn't wanna accept that version of him because he was totally different towards them. I felt so so so hopeless. I also had my own shortcomings, the emotional abuse kinda made them worse. The laughing in your face when confronted!! Girl... It's so surreal when they do that. For the life of me I'll never understand it. I was honestly never the girl he could lie to or manipulate, I'd call him out on his BS everytime and question things and I think that lack of control over me would make him take off his mask and reveal his true self in an effort to subdue me. Even now I get really scared when someone slightly raises their voice at me. 🥺 I'm soooo glad that we are two very strong women who stood up to these guys in the manner that we did. I'm really proud of us and everyone else who overcame emotional abuse and all other forms of abuse. There's just no hate in my heart for him though.. It's mostly just sadness and a hope that he becomes better and that he deals with whatever shaped him to become that person. Honestly there's so much healing I still need to do and really need intensive therapy which I'll make my way to get soon because as appalling as it may sound, I might have subconsciously picked up abusive traits from him which might show up in my next relationship and I don't want that or to be a completely closed up partner. Love and light to you mntase. ❤

[@khanyi1927]

I was so surprised that she paused when asked if she still loves him. I thought that would be an easy “No”. Human emotions are so complex.

[@TM-ys1kc]

I noticed that too Khanyi. Scary form of stolkohlm syndrome.

[@mananammalegae]

I can relate 100% 💔 Saddest part is, this Phenomena has become so common that most of us can share similar stories in South Africa especially God Bless And Save Woman And Bring counsel to Men. ❤️

[@tebohosetebe2233]

Man this channel has taught me to appreciate life more. People are going through the most. We as men really need to do better😭😭 we thank God for her life ❤️

[@leecooper7121]

this story is sad but the way she conveys her story is also funny , wow what a strong woman

[@nathasiamkhabela6908]

True..a gracefull storyteller.

[@pinkysegolabeng3576]

"I HAVE TO BE AFFLICTED TO SEE THE GOODNESS OF THE LORD"....P.O.W.E.R.F.U.L...thank you Tshidi,God will bless you for that heart.

[@mmusinkewu3205]

I cant hold my tears. Ous Tshidi ke a go rata❤️😭

[@ceekayfilms2169]

We need to discuss narcissistic abuse, emotional leading to physical abuse. It is rampant and if we as Africans learnt about this we could save lives. Please explore , brave lady

[@ellahnokane4536]

The pain we go through at hands of men…my God😔😔… Tshidi we thank God for your life, it is grace

[@Mbokodo_]

What's scaring me is that men are bullet you can't really dodge . This can happen to ANYONE literally because even interviewees on GBV never imagined to sit in interviews because of abuse . No one can begin to imagine being abused . The thought of falling in love with someone that has the harnessed ability to kill is so damn scary 😭😭😭 wtf !!!!!

[@misterniki1st]

All the glory be to God for this testimony 🙇🏽‍♂️

[@mikatekomaluleke4099]

Ses Relebogile’s patience to sit and listen attentively is unmatched

[@LumkaJwara]

I love the stories you bring us... this is the only show I can watch with my mom and have real life conversations. Thank you ❤

[@sphesihlemamba9964]

I can relate 😊

[@damilola6]

Ready to unpack ! This was an intense but needed conversation! Say no to toxic situations 🙅🏾‍♀️

[@1k191]

Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.” Mahatma Gandhi This woman is very strong. Forgiveness is not easy at all. But she forgave 🙏🏿

[@malebogokgokong3839]

I will never understand this thing about men, it doesn’t matter how much you submit yourself when they cheat and you decide to leave they become monsters☠️☠️ Heal ngwana batho❤️

[@nonnyvundhla4715]

The only way to be happy and live longer, "leave man alone"

[@MASNATUMELO]

Such as life . Big sigh. Tshiidi is strong woman. Dealing with a person who can't handle rejection is very dangerous

[@hlengiwemasondo2858]

When u want to leave him, leave without telling its easy when there's no kids

[@palesakween8618]

When she said : I had to be afflicted to see the Goodness of God 🥺❤️I didn’t know my pain would turn into purpose 😫I felt that !!

[@philamakitla7355]

Only God can save like this,we thank Him for protecting Tshidi's life, and may those who are living with the pain caused by this man receive healing from God

[@nobuhlemasombuka3167]

The human body is amazing 🤯

[@mbalenhlezulu8075]

Lord ,I'm so devastated. Some men are so evil and selfish. Personally I'm still living in fear because I can't face my ex who used me, abused me emotionally, pretended to be a so called "Christian" ,cheated on me, used me financially and stole from me. He even stole my laptop while I was busy with my college exams. 5 months ago he called to ask if we could meet up in person and I refused. I'm so scared for my life. I can't even move on coz I have so much anger inside of me and it's bugging me every single day. I don't trust men and more than anything I'm scared. I sometimes wish to dissappear into thin air so I can start over. I'm dying slowly.

[@preciousmahlango4544]

Have you tried therapy dear?

[@mbalenhlezulu8075]

@@preciousmahlango4544 I've been thinking about it. I just have no idea where to start coz psychiatrist have time limit and I can't afford them. So I sometimes try to vent out on some strangers coz I'm scared of people I know, they might spread unnecessarily gossip about me. U know how our society it. U open up to someone about yourself and the next thing u wake up in the morning your story is on TV, radio and newspapers and that will shatter u even more coz u feel so naked everywhere u go.

[@onabudgetwithNondu]

@@mbalenhlezulu8075 Hi sisi, please try going for counselling sessions at universities near you. They usually do offer free counselling sessions for the public. Please do not ever get tempted to see that man again he is not worth your time or energy.

[@mbalenhlezulu8075]

@@onabudgetwithNondu Thanks dear, will do.

[@sandramsimango9526]

So sorry for your pain and what you went, however,please seek therapy.

[@VictoriaMLNcube]

Always giving us eye opening episodes 🙌🏽She’s so strong

[@92Kandee]

Unfortunately, men's 'confidence' is actually false ego. Hence many men kill when women reject them; their ego's are hurt.

[@portiaphiri2682]

Why are men like that though. Instead of moving on they turn into anger and resentment and they become evil stalkers 😷 Yes not all, but the stories are out there. As much as nothing has happened to me yet, I am always on the lookout. Paranoia of what they are capable of is saddening.

[@sbonzama7013]

Women also do bad things like making a man raise a child that is not his. So what is your point?

[@Das644]

They get angry when you decline their proposal and get violent when you have. There is no winning really

[@mbalenhlezulu8075]

@Portia Phiri.It's so sad that the majority of men want their bread butterd on both sides which is very selfish. In most cases women are suffering for no reason. It's like getting the double punishment without doing anything wrong. In this case Tshidi was never wrong but see what she had to go through😢. I have a question though. GOD , WHERE ARE YOU? I admire and applaud Tshidi for the courage, strength and selflessness. May she live long and see her kids grow.

[@mbuyelonkwinika4201]

@@sbonzama7013 You're equating getting shot to raising a kid that's not your own?😳

[@mbalenhlezulu8075]

@@sbonzama7013 I personally think it is very important for a couple to have transparent heart to heart conversations from time to time so that they can know each other better and understand each others values, upbringings and experiences. Thus will make it easier for them to see if they have a similar mental capacity and the relationship is more likely to be successful. In most cases as people we simply look at physical appearance, affordability and sex and those things can never be enough. I mean if you are dating someone who values honestly, that person will never cheat on u. If there is a problem we sit down and talk it out peacefully while it's still fresh and sick help if we have to. We don't have to pile things up. In that case we can never get to a point of cheating and making babies outside the relationship and don't have to worry about someone bringing a sicknesses into the relationship. I hope this makes sense guys.

[@chwenemokobodi]

Some men are just psycho. We bless the Lord that you are alive n doing well

[@LeyleS]

We are within. Let’s gather and unpack 🙌🏽

[@Tebo5583]

Yooooh.....31yrs only, after causing so much pain? Our justice system mara! Im defeated

[@oh.eulanda]

What an amazing story. So remarkable. The strength you possess after such a traumatic experience is inspirational. Messiah really carried you through for a purpose sis wam. I'm happy you are alive. 🖤

[@queenchar9120]

The way she continuously gives credit to God is so incredible, she lived to tell this story. She's a living testimony. Glory to God indeed.

[@nnninsideneusaslyf6201]

thank you for unpacking your story. you are resilient mam and extremely intelligent. May God continue to heal you.

[@suzanmuroa7879]

Thanks sister for sharing your story..You are such a powerful woman am sure that's the reason why devil wanted to take your life..am glad despite everything you are still living a purposeful life..

[@thenamakays6871]

Tshidi is such an inspiration to the world. God saved your life for a purpose indeed, just hearing you telling your story without grudge, malice anger or bitterness is life transforming. May God bless you 🙏

[@nokulunga_maloka2320]

Bathi sometimes when you pray the devil also hears your prayers and sends you something you think comes from the heavens 🙌🏽😪

[@palesamatsipa2157]

Yep....but God gives us discernment aka red flags mara ke!!!!

[@nokulunga_maloka2320]

@@palesamatsipa2157 and you talking the truth it's just that sometimes a person can really hide who they are and their true colors by the time things go down you finally realise what the type of person he/she is

[@sontomtolo473]

RIGHT!!!🤞

[@clonapsbethe1261]

She is beautiful soul to forgive easy,may she stay until 80 yrs

[@boledielizabethmaake8369]

Wow what amazing woman Tshidi is . thank God for saving you and deep condolences to the family that lost their family

[@reflioekheswa6314]

What a painful sad story we thank God that you are still alive so sorry to the other family

[@nomvulairene4177]

Ausi Tshidi de faith that u have ho Modimo it's beyond measure 🙏❤️❤️

[@ladykay4023]

Why can’t men take rejection???so many passion killings are because they can’t take rejection WHY THOUGH???is it a not growing up properly??is it concentrating more on the girl child and forgetting the boy child???this thing stresses me

[@sbonzama7013]

Some women use muthi on men hence they go crazy when she wants to leave the man Another flip side is that women love bad boys!

[@mbalenhlezulu8075]

Exactly. @Lady M it makes no sense to bring up a girl child to be a good woman while boychild has absolutely no idea what it means to be a good man. Whether we like it or not, they will eventually be together but they cannot be compatible with each other.

[@ladykay4023]

That’s so true,boy children are left behind yet they don’t live in the world of their own..Again another factor is absent fathers,most kids either boy or girl are raised by women,in schools they are taught mostly by women,they don’t know exactly what a man is suppose to do,how he is suppose to treat a lady,most of them are bottling anger and resentment issues of their negligent fathers,they can’t handle pressure,they don’t know how to love,some copy what their fathers did to their mothers..And this thing is not only in SA even here in Botswana is a serious issue.So many ladies are killed it’s disturbing

[@busisiwekhambula7895]

A man who can't take rejection is a dangerous man tjese, soyiki😭😭😭

[@dollyogle6172]

This story is a trigger for me. I lost a friend who was stepped to death in 2015 by her husband who was in jail for 3 years and now he is out but we havent healed since. We are thankful for your life sis because you are still here to tell your story. And what i love about this is that you did not stay until it was too late to leave, like some other women, not being judgemental there. Some always come back after being beaten up and continue to stay. You stated your case but still its a pitty you were dating a guy ruled by demons. May God keep you safe always.

[@tlameloross9172]

Could you your friend possibly be Carla?

[@leratomamabolo1536]

No we need a part 2 😭😭😭😭😭😭❤️

[@mbalim8858]

This lady spoke her story so well. I felt like I was in her shoes. Women go through so much with men

[@dorahdlamini7532]

I love how, God lives ko ousie Tshidi, she reminds us of God's greatness...

[@witneymqadi7306]

Women are very strong 🤞🤞Lord we thank you for protecting her🙌🙌

[@makisingo8009]

Relebogile you're a good speaker ...keep up the good work

[@sizakelediya4080]

Mmmmmh Thank you to God who gave you second chance in life. This act of abuse is absolutely heartbreaking 💔. May you continue being cover the love God always Tsidi, your story has save someone's life. Thank you sharing 🙏

[@gugutshabalala4616]

This channel! 😭❤

[@swazi4769]

Haibo I know this lady, we worked together. She wrote a book as well. Bathong mama you are so strong maan.

[@nyaradzomusango8122]

She's sweet bathong bless her 🤗

[@mildredmatjie5652]

You are such a humble soul sesi Tshidi.🥰🥰. God is good to have saved you from this. You indeed have been through the most. Strongs sesi❤❤

[@magorata2355]

The hand of God is upon you. Your story it's a great testimony for all.Its even a prayer point for us to pray for God to guide us . I was with my baby daddy and I had prayed to God to guide me .I had a visitation from N angel of God saying "leave this guy and when you do.Dont ever return to him.he is dangerous" I left for a while and returned to him and the angel of God visited again to warn me. I took up the courage to leave and I'm I'm greatful because my baby daddy was a monster and things started unraveling showing me just as I was warned. I'm greatful to God that when I asked for him to show me the way he answered Proverbs 3:6-7 [6]Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. [7]Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the lord and turn away from evil.

[@epheniatau1803]

I'm busy crying while listening her story, I don't hey is so touching, even Relebogile she didn't as too much question as I knows her,I'm really emotional I don't wanna lie,

[@lebogangdlaminilebogangdla1691]

La utlwa ladies? Serial killers and abusers are very sweet and innocent. It hurts to hear her story relebogile is very strong to listen to this traumatic stories

[@nonoechibs2775]

Been afflicted to see the goodness of God, that's powerful

[@Natasha-yv6os]

Such cruelty he was supposed to get life sentence 😡

[@ekakhumalointombi5286]

THANKYOU for having self-worth... I love her lomama shame! She walks away from nonsense... Hopefully younger girls can learn from this!

[@dineogilbert908]

I just subscribed ti this channel, i love this. I AM a soldier and with my experience in going to a war, everyone is a killer and is capable of killing, all we have to do is to encourage people to talk if something bothers them and all males to see our fellow woman as our daughters and sisters.

[@combomalikongwa1407]

Yoh! But the way Tshidi is so calm about this. And she says the guy is not remorseful and yet she wants to check up on the guy!! Yet she lives with the memory, the bullet. And her first husband as well. She been through the most

[@beyondblessed894]

Sis Lebo I thank you for your platform it's very eye opening 💖

[@LethoHali]

She should’ve just gone to see him in jail without telling mum. That’s what her heart wanted to do. That would’ve been her being true to herself. Hopefully she gets closure somehow. 🥺🙏🏾

[@clonapsbethe1261]

No I don't believe that her mom suffered a lot ,time will come to go when her mom is healed too.lets wait for her.

[@ntando6499]

Girl, give yourself credit. You fought for your life tooth and nail. Thank you to the paramedics who were there in time to offer you all the medical help you needed and all the specialists who help. This thing of thanking an imaginary being for a job well done I just don’t get it. Anyway I believe in our strengths and Tsidi tells her story and am inspired.

[@thabangmatlala8506]

This scares me.

[@makeyray7378]

She was dating narcissist I pray for her to find a good man in her life

[@magugayonela8978]

Narcissists are common in nowadays than ever and worse they are everyday including workplace and church mnk .

[@Ngunikaz]

Yep a very sick one ..

[@thuliendlovu719]

Wow. This is a powerful story We thank God for Tshidi’s life.

[@livhuwanithangavhuelo7503]

Joh. You are the most strongest woman. Most of us we are not free today because we don't have that strength to forgive other. I have learnt a lot from you today. Your story showed me that what im going through today is nothing compare to what you been through. Thank you for sharing and God bless you.

[@KatlegoSibiya]

cruel world we live in😒 , so sorry for all those who were hurt by this psychopath, sending prayers and strength 🙏🏾

[@MissLinks99]

Sis Relehogile we thank you for these stories you share

[@mabonya2917]

This is depressing but i have a solution.... Government, churches and all should assist couples in trouble and indeed all parties both men and women should respect each other

[@kepaletswemoagi3455]

Tshidi is such a strong woman of faith. We thank God for His Grace and Mercy. We're really nothing without God. You still have a purpose to live. May God continue to strengthen you. Love your courage sisi

[@pointa2b388]

I know Tshidi from somewhere

[@PMAB8]

South African men have to stop abusing women like it is a fashion. Believe that men who abuse women and children should be in prison for life and a desert 🏜 prison.

[@francinahmodise4487]

Thanks for sharing Ausi Tshidi

[@ladye1253]

God is definitely amazing and incredible, I cannot imagine such pain

[@fezekasipondo8545]

These guys must acquire learning b4 dating. They all need to c a therapist b4 starting relationships. It's all mental issues,and women now suffer. Happy that most women survive and they become stronger.

[@WenzDintaba]

Thank you for sharing

[@f2v179]

Unpacked show is giving me the reason why I should except that I'm not married the man they are destroying us from now I'll live my life as it is and be glad for what I have

[@athandilenodada8906]

Thank you for sharing your story sisi.

[@Glm8]

What a painful story😢 I pray that God perfects her healing I am also glad that she is alive to tell her story Please interview Tracy Singo from Limpopo?

[@sisandapauletta7142]

I see God in this interview

[@tiisetsomoloi675]

God is good❤️

[@nomsantsoane3984]

Mjolo an extreme game.

[@lebohangtaelo9572]

I want an episode where we talk about ba mamazala 😭😭😭😭 they will traumatize you.

[@petantombifuthi2176]

Ousi matshidiso, well spoken with a beautiful voice.. Yo a strong women and u really motivating me with yo story. Thanks for sharing

[@vanillabee2382]

Yet another story of a spoilt African man, whose mother makes excuses for him. Well done Sisi for leaving him.Shame on him and his family!

[@wametlhakus]

This woman has so much confidence on God. She knows for sure that God is always with her. Modimo ha batle sepe ka botshelo jwa gagwe. Ooh mommy❤️

[@phindilemalebye872]

God anointed woman.God loves you sissy

[@leratonedz1370]

This to me is proof that you can never know a person completely. I mean she grew up with her ex husband and he turned out to be someone she didn’t really know and the dated a man who has psychopathic characteristics. It is scary how people can make you fall in love with a facade while they are monstrous deep inside

[@karabomasela5387]

Blessing to this lady. Her story is very touching.

[@sisananxumalo6209]

You are such a Powerhouse Sisi, I see God through people like you. We thank God for your life